My Life Not Yours

Send us Fan MailIt's time to dash away the butterfly net, step away from the garden, and stop tripping over your own ambitions. In this episode, I talk about how you can fix your focus without sprinting after those beautiful butterflies. Lean in & listen.Enjoy x If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailMemory isn't just a cabinet for storing the pas, it’s the engine that drives your decisions, shapes your identity, and constructs some kind of future. In this episode, I delveinto the fascinating science of memory and how our brains hold onto what counts. Discover why sharpening your memory might just be the most underrated key to unlocking a richer, more connected life. Lean in & listen.Enjoy x If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailA recent trip away got me thinking about the diminishing art of communication.  Have mobile phones, social media and modern life changed the way we connect? Have we ever been more connected yet felt so disconnected? So I'll be debating whether communication has indeed flatlined or are we simply speaking a different   language.Lean in & listen & try to enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailRejection hurts but we all go through it, some more than others. In this episode, I break down what it is, the different types of rejection, why it hurts so much and how to deal with it in a way that actually helps you grow.Lean in & listen! Enjoy xIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailThe whole truth and nothing but the truth.... how many of us have heard this phrase a zillion times, especially when cited in a court of law in the UK.I explore the consequences of telling the truth (or not) and how it impacts every day life. Enjoy x If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailMost of us experience or have experienced 'this invisible weight' that is hard to lift. There are triggers and solutions! Lean in & listen to understand what this weight is and what you can do about it. EnjoyIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailA recent trip away made me realise how much we don't reset, relax and recharge however, the beautiful country they call The Gambia, changed all that. Relax, listen & enjoy xIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailWow, can't believe we're in 2026 & also near the end of January already. I'm a little late to the table but had to get a quick 15min one in to kick me into action. Enjoy my few words of wisdom for 2026. If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI explore in this festive episode how the cost of Christmas sometimes comes at more than the cost of a present. Lean in & listen. Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI always love to interview people and in this week's episode, I get to speak to A list photographer, Phil Fisk. Lean in & listen as I discover the man behind the lens....Enjoy x If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailWe don't pause enough & in this week's episode, I explore how we should take a moment to stop, reflect & rejeuvenate. Enjoy....If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I explore the idea that learning doesn’t end with school, it’s a lifelong journey. From everyday experiences to career shifts and personal growth, I dive into how continuous learning shapes who we are. Featuring some real-life anecdotes I chat about how to stay curious, embrace change, and make learning a habit, no matter your age or stage in life. Whether you’re picking up a new skill or just trying to understand the world a little better, I hope this episode inspires you to keep growing. Enjoy xIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Connections, I explore the power of building authentic networks and fostering meaningful relationships. I dive into the importance of connecting not just for career growth, but for personal development, collaboration, and long-term success.Lean in & listen for for actionable insights and real life examples that highlight how the right connections can shape  and enrich your lifes' journey.If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailThis episode is where I dive into The Power of Intention. Learn how intention isn’t just a passive wish, but a dynamic force in the universe that you can align with to manifest your best life. Whether you're seeking more purpose, peace, or progress, I hope this episode offers you practical insights to help you co-create your reality with the power of conscious intention.If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailYou know you love hearing about my comings and goings on an adhoc basis. Well, this is quite a juicy one. From Whtsapp calls to knowing what gets you out of bed in the morning. Lean in & listen. Enjoy x If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailWhen someone takes the decision to adopt a baby as a single person, there are many things to be consider. I love this episode as so many relatable elements. Lean in & listen & let me know what you think.EnjoyIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailIn this week's episode, I look at real life, real growth, and everything in between. Something we often overlook as we get older is our interests and passions.When life gets busy with work, family, and responsibilities, it’s easy to put the things we love on the back burner—or forget them entirely. Staying curious, creative, and connected to what excites us is not just a luxury—it’s essential to our well-being.So whether you’ve lost touch with something you were passionate about or you’re wondering if it’s too late to try something new, this one’s for you. Let’s talk about why passion matters, how to rediscover it, and the power of staying engaged with what truly lights you up.Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan Mail Buckle up (and maybe unbutton) as we dive headfirst into the hormonal rollercoaster that is menopause! In this episode, I joined by some special guests where we talk night sweats, mood swings, and the mysterious disappearance of our metabolism. One of our guests, is a certified menopause whisperer aka pelvic floor physio along with 2 nutritional therapists. They help decode the science while we attempt to remember where we left our sanity (and our keys). Expect some brutally honest stories from me and tips for surviving your body’s surprise rebrand. It’s menopause like you’ve never heard it before—because honestly, we were too busy sweating to hear it the first time. Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailHealth is Wealth is what I explore in this weeks' episode because nothing is more valuable than your well-being. Joinme as I explore practical tips, insights and a few stories that may empower you to take charge of your physical, mental, and emotional health. Tune in and invest in your greatest asset: You! Enjoy If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailInspiration is the spark that fuels creativity, resilience, and growth—and that’s exactly what I explore in this weeks' episode. Be it found in everyday moments, extra-ordinary people, or the quiet persistence of personal dreams, inspiration has the power to transform lives. Join me as I look at insights and ideas that ignite motivation and help us all move forward with purpose. If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailToday I'll be talking and exploring the intricate web of relationshipsthat shape our world. I diving into the power of connections—the threads that bind us together, from the people we meet, to the ideas we share. Whether it’s the personal connections that enrich our lives or the professional ones that propel us forward, we’ll be exploring how these relationships impact who we are and where we’re going. Lean and listen and allow me to start weaving the story of how connections make all the difference. If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI've often wondered about Motivation and what it really means. Why are some people highly motivated & others aren't? These are some of the questions I address in this week's episode.Lean in & listen and enjoy xIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI'm so excited about this episode where I get to interview Mayra Bernardes on marriage & monogamy. In many societies, monogamy is a norm in marriage but is it stated when exchanging vows?  Married couples are often expected to remain exclusive to one another emotionally, sexually, and sometimes socially. However, not all marriages are monogamous. Times are changes as marriage and monogamy have evolved. There are now various interpretations, such as open marriages (where couples agree to have romantic or sexual relationships with others) or non-monogamous arrangements, challenging traditional views on marriage and monogamy.Lean in & listen as I'm sure you're going to love this one! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI thought I would address the 'curse of expectation' and how to manage expectations.  These expectations happen when our hopes, standards, or assumptions about life, people, or outcomes lead to disappointment, stress, or frustration.I talk about how common they are in relationships, careers, school and life in general. Lean in and listen and enjoy!  If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailFirstly, thanks for listening to my 100th episode...I can't believe I've reached this milestone and feel extremely grateful & blessed to all those who have stuck with me, listening and commenting about My life and not your own!This episode is all about feeling 'mentally' lost in life, which is where I'm at right now.  Try to enjoy as you lean in & listen....If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI've recently just come back from an amazing trip to Thailand over Christmas & NY, visiting Bangkok, seeing the iconic landmarks such as the Grand Palace & Wat Arun), Pai which is a laid-back mountain town in northern Thailand known for its hippie vibe, hot springs, and Pai Canyon. Chiang Mai in the North where the vibe was relaxed and finally, to the beaches in Khao Lak were chilling was the order of the day. Lean in & listen to some worthy travel tips and my OCD travel encounters!EnjoyIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI love it when listeners drop me a note asking a whole heap of questions which of course, I just have to answer. This is my last episode for 2024 - thanking each and everyone of you who have tuned in and here's to my pod episodes in 2025. Lean in & listen. Enjoy xIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailHere it is again, another episode where I lay bare emotions, comings & goings over the course of a week.Hopefully, there are some handy tips that you can digest. EnjoyIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailIt's that time of year that people are particuarly lonely and I felt I needed to address it. Loneliness is an emotion that's complex and a deeply human experience characterized by a subjective feeling of being disconnected or isolated from others. I think we've all been through it at some stage in our life and I wanted to explore what it really feels like, coping mechanisms & how to support those that may be lonely.EnjoyIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailValues, beliefs, and interests are key elements of what shapes an individual’s worldview, motivations, and behaviors  and I wanted to have a look at each, given a few conversations I've been having. Together, these three aspects contribute to a person's unique identity and life path, affecting everything from daily choices to long-term ambitions. They also influence how people relate to others and their communities, creating diversity in how individuals think, feel, and act. Lean in and listen and let me know what you think. If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI dedicate this episode to a dear friend who recently lost a family member to mental health. They had been failed by the 'system' which is an absolute traversty in this day and age but comes as no surprise. Let's remember that mental health refers to someone's emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Mental health influences how individuals think, feel, and behave, and it impacts their ability to handle stress, relate to others, and make decisions. Good mental health is essential for leading a rewarding life, but it can be affected by factors including stress and trauma.Look out for one another, it's important! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailWe all deserve happiness & to be happy so why do so many of us struggle with it? Happiness is a complex and deeply personal emotion that can be influenced by various factors & is often described as a sense of well-being, joy, or contentment that arises when things in life are going well or when you feel fulfilled.Happiness comes from many different place e.g. relationships or from deep within. Delve deep to discover more about your happiness through listening to this episode because it isn't a one trip pony - it  evolves over time as your life circumstances, values, and priorities change.Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI was so chuffed to interview Chef Dom Taylor, the winner of the reality chef show: 5 star kitchen; Britain's next great chef that appeared on UK screens in 2023 courtesty of CH4. We discuss the low lights, high lights and everything else in between. Lean in & listen to this informative episode and get a real insight to a Chef's world beyond the food you see on your plate. Watch it on CH4 called 5 star kitchen: Britain's next great ChefOR Catch it on Netflix called 5 star Chef If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailDon't keep promises you can't keep! Promises are commitments or assurances given by one party to another that certain actions will be taken or certain outcomes will be achieved. They play a significant role in various aspects of life, including personal relationships, business dealings, legal agreements, and social interactions. I delve into promises and as human beings, why we often can't keep them which in turn, may affect other parts of our life. Lean in and listen & let me know what you think? If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailSelf-confidence is a belief in one's own abilities and judgment. It’s an essential aspect of personal and professional development. There are strategies to build and maintain self-confidence which is a continuous process. Strategies gradually increase self-assurance and help achieve personal and professional goals.Lean in & listen!If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan Mail Mind over matter is a phrase often used to express the idea that the power of the mind can overcome physical challenges or obstacles. This concept is rooted in both philosophical and psychological traditions, suggesting that mental strength, willpower, and determination can influence or control physical states and conditions. I believe this was the case with Dean Hodgkin's hip replacement recovery.Lean and listen. If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailMy relationship hasn't been easy with my mother and am sure there are countless others that experience challenges. My mum was the tender age of 16 yo as a black woman in the 60s and the shame & overwhelming responsibility led to me being handed over to the authourities. In this episode, I talk honestly how I believe my relationship with my mother is about to turn a corner.Enjoy x If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailJeff Grout is a renown keynote business speaker, author , interviewer and conference Chair person. I wanted to get down & dirty and understand what makes Jeff's speeches impactful,  his route to writing 8 books, growing a recruitment business to becoming a father at 47 years old. With extensive experience and expertise in the business world, Jeff is is sought after to inspire, educate, and motivate audiences at conferences, business events and work with leaders. Lean & listen to some of Jeff's insightful tips. https://www.jeffgrout.com/If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailWhen opportunity knocks, it's like the universe sending you a personal invitation to step into a new adventure. It might be a chance to pursue a dream, try something new, or overcome a challenge. The key is to be ready to seize it when it comes. That might mean being prepared, staying open-minded, and having the courage to take a leap of faith. Because sometimes, the doors that opportunity opens can lead to incredible journeys and unexpected blessings.Lean in & listen to see how you don't miss an opportunity when it comes knocking! EnjoyIf you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailBeing in the moment is a wonderful practice. It allows us to fully experience and appreciate the present without getting lost in worries about the future or dwelling on the past. Take a deep breath, notice your surroundings, and embrace this moment fully.We all need to 'Just Be' and try not to lead a life that's dictated by society!If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailThere are days when you need to just exhale, chat and express. I did that across 7 days over the Easter period and here's what I had to say....Enjoy x If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I get to chat about friends. My friends, your friends, just friends because the majority of us have them. Just in case you didn't know, friends are individuals with whom we share mutual affection, trust, and companionship. They play a significant role in our lives, offering support, understanding, and companionship through various life experiences.We need to treasure our friendships  which shouldn't be taken lightly as they enrich our lives, providing companionship, support, and a sense of belonging. Cultivating and nurturing these relationships is essential for our well-being and happiness.Enjoy and remember to rate, review and subscribe if you loved this episode. If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailWhilst I can't claim to be an intrepid traveler,  I know a girl who is and in this interview, we get to understand what it's like to crave adventure like Phileas Fogg! Michelle Turner gets a buzz  from exploring new places, cultures and experiences, whether it be climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or cycling through Vietnam and Cambodia. There aint much this woman has not done including a trip to Antartica this year. Michelle's wanderlust has led her to embark on solo adventures, allowing her to follow her own path and discover new perspectives. I intend to do the same.Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailWe often coin the phrase, 'you have one life' but what does that  actually mean from a personal perspective. One life is used to emphasize the significance and preciousness of an individual's existence. You only have  one chance to live your life to the fullest and make the most of that time whilst you're living on this planet. Inspired by a recent film, I had to discuss 'One Life' and a few other random things thrown in for good measure. Enjoy. If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailReal Women Real Talk is me being joined by some guests to talk about topics that we all need to consider. In this week's episode, Donna, Rita and I discuss Wellbeing. Wellbeing encompasses various aspects of an individual's life, including physical, mental, emotional, and social dimensions. It refers to a state of being comfortable, healthy, and happy, both personally and in relation to one's environment. We discuss how wellbeing is holistic and encompasses various dimensions of life. It involves striving for balance and harmony in all aspects of one's existence as well as requiring ongoing effort and attention to maintain and improve one's wellbeing over time.Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI’m so excited for this episode as I get to speak to former Metropolitan Police Officer, Paul Wilson about life on the beat & the challenges he faced being black in what some of us may deem, an institutionally racist organisation in London.  Paul released his personal memoir ‘Rocking the Boat’ which you can purchase here Lean in & listen intently as it’s an interview that’s not to be missed. Enjoy!If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailIt's that tme of year that we should think about working on ourselves. To do that, we need to engage in personal or self development. Personal development is a holistic process that involves continuous self-reflection, learning from experiences, and taking intentional actions to improve oneself. It's important to note that personal development is a unique journey for each individual, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. It's about finding what works best for you and making consistent efforts to become the best version of yourself.If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailIt’s funny some of us get so anxious about hospital visit especially when it involves staying overnigh (or two). I had been waiting over 15 months for a procedure courtesy of the NHS and Dec 12th, the deed was done and I’m now in recovery. Have a wee listen to this episode to hear about my coping mechanism because the panic really is over.  If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailEmbracing uncertainty can be quite liberating! It's acknowledging that life doesn't always fit into neat boxes or follow predictable paths. Instead of feeling anxious about what's unknown, it can be an opportunity for growth and learning. Uncertainty invites us to be adaptable, resilient, and open-minded. It's like navigating an adventure where each twist and turn brings new experiences and chances to discover something exciting or unexpected. How do you usually approach uncertainty? I reveal all in this week's episode. Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram

Send us Fan MailHolidaying in Cape Verde was a blast but it was so much more than sun, sea and eating. Lean in and listen about my adventures over 7 days from fraternising with the deck crew to witnessing poverty at it’s lowest.  Enjoy! If you like this episode, please rate, review, subscribe and share with others! Check out more of me at on my websiteFollow me  on Instagram