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You are exactly where you are supposed to be (and so am I)
You are exactly where you're supposed to be (and so am I). No matter where you are, there is no question that you are right where you're supposed to be. Now... it may not feel that way. It certainly didn't for me for a very loooooong time. Things swirled. I was riddled with fear, worry, panic…
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It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it that really matters.
Have you ever noticed that when you hear about something that worked for someone else, you want to know how to do it yourself? You want the steps, the directions, the to-do list, the tools. The tools are the what... And while it might look like those are what gave that person the result they got,...
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Intention the chicken 🐓 vs Commitment the pig 🐷
Do you ever wonder why your spouse gets so frustrated with you when you say you’re going to do something and then you don’t do it? Most likely it’s because of the difference in the way you each interpreted what you said you were going to do. In your spouses’ mind, you saying you’d do whatever it...
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On having the courage to feel and accept ALL of your thoughts and feelings.
No one WANTS to reveal that they have ugly thoughts and feelings - those of anger, rage, repulsion, judgment, egotistical, arrogance, ungratefulness. And yet you have them. No one wants to reveal feelings of weakness... sadness, hurt, pain, despair, loneliness, apathy. And yet you have them....
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"I'll see you down the road."
Saying goodbye can be tough. For me, i's got such a definitive endpoint to it. Like, this is it. And when I really think about it, it's also saying something to the effect of, "I might not ever see you again." But in watching the movie Nomadland, I was left with another possibility. What if when...
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Want the truth on your side, or would you rather hide behind falsehoods?
This conversation started for me inside of an interview I watched - Tucker Carlson interviewing Jordan Peterson. It made me start thinking about all the layers of the truth. Where does it start, and where does it end? Are you in the habit of telling the truth - about everything? It can be a bit...
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What’s your level of willingness to be wrong?
The universe has a way of telling you when you might be wrong. When it lines things up time and time again that feel like they are punching you in the face... perhaps it's time to consider that the way YOU are being is at cause. You don't have to do that. You can keep on fighting, arguing, being…
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Start first with "Be...", the "How..." comes later.
Most of us look around at our life, see things that are not working, and immediately jump to answer the question, "How do I get that?" We want the checklist, the to-do list to give us the answer to what is missing. When you're asking How? first, it's a sign that you've missed a step. The how...
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To ice or not to ice? That is not the only question.
I've been talking about this for MANY years. Does ice work for injuries? These are the cases where it does: a severed limb, a temporary reduction in pain (from numbing), a reduction in inflammation to reduce pain. Where does it not work? EVERYWHERE ELSE for EVERYTHING ELSE. Yes, you should stop...
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Self-Expectations - if they never turn off, they can f*** you up!
Questions for thought... 👉 Does driving yourself as hard as you do, as consistently that you do it, actually helping you? ✌️ Do you have a bottomless pit of self-expectations? A standard that no matter how hard you try, you'll never live up to? 🤨 Do you let that part of you lead all the time?…
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When is enough, enough?
How long must you endure the suffering before you decide enough is enough? For me in my marriage, it was over 15 years. It didn't NEED to take that long, but I guess I just had an incredibly high tolerance for inner pain and suffering, until I finally had enough... and decided to take full...
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The four phases of mastery... and the long road to “getting there..."
Information isn't the problem. Knowledge isn't either. The answer isn't in reading another book, or learning another system. When it comes to habit formation, ACTION is where it's at. What are you doing each day to move closer to being the person you've always wanted to be? Are you showing up?…
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Are you in RESISTANCE? Here’s how to tell if you are.
Resistance is the thing that we do to avoid being outside of our comfort zone. We don't necessarily do it consciously. Here's what Steven Pressfield says about it... "Resistance is an impartial force of nature, like gravity and the laws of thermodynamics. Resistance is clever. It knows if it...
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The 3 most important questions you can ask yourself every day.
Who are you? Where are you going? Why are you going there? Does it get any simpler than that? Simple, yes. Easy, no. But practicing answering these questions every day will lead you down a path to self-mastery and personal leadership that will elevate your game, inspire those around you, and…
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No Productivity Tool or App Will Help This
You want to be more productive? Here's the truth... the latest and greatest app, system, or program won't help without something else in place. Trust me, I've tried them all. It's not that a new system or app is bad or wrong or doesn't have a good idea for a new, fresh approach. If you're…
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GET INTO THE GAME!
Remember what it was like to be a kid? Everything was new... life was an adventure... and you were in it to explore, learn, be curious, all while having fun in the process. Do have anything in your life today that feels that way? Because if you don't, the I would suggest that you're not "in the...
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Detach from the outcome to get more of what you want.
This is my story about how I wound up getting the COVID vaccine on Sunday. I was totally detached from the outcome. Perhaps this way of thinking can help you in those areas of your life where you're stuck, feeling trapped, and not experiencing true freedom. 💫💫 Where might you experience more...
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If you aren’t staying in the moment, you are leaving it.
Had a revelation this morning. During my morning meditation in my Vitalize group(link in bio), I read "the thought of the day", upon which I pontificate during the guided part of the meditation. The thought today was "if you aren't staying in the moment, you are leaving it." And, well... leaving...
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Courage To Be Your Best Self
I've been on a FB Live roll lately... and it's because I've been pushing myself outside of my comfort zone... to play it small, hide, be victimized by imposter syndrome, cave in to my fears of not being good enough. And each time I do it, I remove one little brick from the wall that is my ego…
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On Overthinking
Ever have the experience that the answer you're looking for is right in front of your face, but you just can't see it? For me, it's usually best to figure out how to lighten the fuck up... let my inner light shine rather than smothering it with a shit-ton of thoughts and complications. KISS…
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Sometimes it takes attention, time, and a willingness to slow down
Seek to understand and S-L-O-W D-O-W-N
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vi·tal·ize /ˈvīdlˌīz/ (v.) give strength and energy to
Just started a new private group in Facebook. Actually it's not an entirely "new" group. It's my meditation group with a new "skin". And for me, VITALIZE really speaks volumes. From it's definition "to give strength and energy to", to the way it sounds, and the feeling it creates inside when I…
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The future can't blame the present, just like the present can't blame the past.
"The future cannot blame the present, just as the present cannot blame the past." Get out of your past... when you get stuck there, it's depressing. AND... get out of your future... when you're stuck there, it's worrying! Guess what... NEITHER of these two places actually exist anywhere but in…
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Don't let your fear get the best of you.
I’ve been seeing the pattern i have... of holding back, being stingy, afraid of the self-judgment I’d have for screwing it up or getting it wrong. So I’m live today talking about it and outing myself... and I encourage you to do the same in your own way.
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I don't know.
What if you were 5% less concerned about how you’re being perceived by others? What would you do?
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What's your ONE THING?
Will you give yourself permission to experiment… and perhaps get it wrong? Will you give yourself the chance to get outside your comfort zone? What area of self-care do you WANT to… are you WILLING to experiment on/with? Might just be ONE thing… and THAT is okay! 🐢 🐇 What’s YOUR one thing? Post...
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What you can measure, you can manage.
What are you willing to measure today? What area of your life would you like to make progress in? Pick something in that area… and measure it. TODAY. I know it takes courage and boldness. But just do it… find out where you are… today. Thank me later! ✨🌟Let us know in comments what YOU are going…
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Life. Death. And getting to choose how you're going to be alive.
Do you let life dictate the rules? Do you let your fear of dying rob you of your aliveness, joy, love? Life is a mystery... you don’t know how it’s going to play out or end... and to think you do is crazy. The mystery of it IS the special sauce! ✨🌟 Has Covid robbed you of your life? If you’re...
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Does work really have to be hard for it to "count"?
Up until now, I’ve operated with the belief that work is the only thing that really counts. By work, I mean work itself, but I also mean the difficulty of what I’m doing in something like reading, working out, a sport (mtb, ski, climb, run, kayak, etc). If it’s not work in the traditional sense -...
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Slowing down to the speed of thanks and love
Be thankful on Thanksgiving! But when it REALLY counts is when you get triggered. How quickly can you pull yourself back into your beautiful place? Can you slow yourself down to the speed of thanks, of love, of gratitude for all the blessings in your life. Truly. For the sake of your family...…
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Disconnected? Then connect!
Are you someone that says, “I really need to connect more deeply with my family, my kids, my friends.” Or are you someones that knows the above to be true, though you don’t say it? In either case, every Friday afternoon you have a great opportunity to create some space in your weekend to do it. *...
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On quieting your mind
Want to start to declutter your mind? Meditate… even if it’s just for 5 breaths. The impact on your mind and your mental / emotional state over time will be immeasurable. Sometimes starting a practice like this is hard on your own… it was for me, anyway. The only reason I succeeded about 20 years...
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On doing what REALLY matters to you
Are you stuck on the treadmill of life? You CAN get off. But it won’t happen by itself, on its own. You’ve got to ask yourself questions. 👉What truly matters to me? 👉What do I REALLY want? 👉What am I doing that 👉DOESN’T make me happy? 👉What’s distracting me from my life’s mission? And then...
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Fit and Healthy people are harder to kill
Fit and healthy people are harder to kill. Do you agree? When in modern history has that statement been more relevant than today? In what ways could you make yourself harder to kill? Nothing comes without a cost… what will you have to be willing to give up to make yourself more kill-proof?...
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Don't look to fix. Look FIRST to see and feel.
If you’ve got a problem in your life - a REAL problem - with a relationship, job, family member, your bank account, or even with your body… … And you’re asking yourself, “How do I fix this? What are the steps? What is the solution?” You’re starting out by asking the WRONG QUESTIONS. Have you ever...
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Oughta Coulda Woulda Shoulda
“I oughta have, do, or be…” Really? If you oughta, you woulda. But you don’ta, so whatcha talkin’ about? Ha! I had a good time writing that... We all have a part of us that thinks we deserve more than what we have. We don’t. We have exactly what we’re committed to. And the sooner you stop living…
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Want to really make a difference? Make it PERSONAL.
All the talk about how shitty the world is - how we’re disconnected, divided, polarized, angry, impatient, unforgiving, etc - is NOT making the world a better place. Sure, it’s raising awareness. But ask yourself a question… ARE YOU ALREADY AWARE?If the answer is YES… then you don’t need to get...
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A short and simple mobility sequence to get unstuck in your body
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On & Off Switch vs. a Dimmer Switch
Have you failed in your attempts to start a new habit or quit one that no longer serves you? Perhaps it’s because you took the dimmer switch approach, rather than using an on/off switch. Here’s what I mean. When rules for your new habit are simple, clear, easy to follow, and black and white, in...
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What you appreciate, appreciates!
Do you minimize your wins? Do you swallow them up right after they occur, saying something like, “well, yeah, it might have been a win, but it wasn’t as big as ______, and it could have been better, bigger”?That’s what I do. I’ll have the inner knowing in the moment that whatever it was I did...
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Acceptance is not an invitation to settle!
Do you find yourself in a constant state of "mediocre-ness"? Not that it's bad to have a mediocre life... but it's definitely not great, nor is it extraordinary. Are you okay that it's mediocre? Or have you just accepted it... settled for it? Has your mediocre morass just become a habit? Because…
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TGIM!
Do you wake up saying, Thank God It's Monday? If not... why not? -- You don't have to actually change anything in the physical world to gain this mindset. It's a MINDSET... that means it's how you THINK. And how long does it take you to change your thinking? A split second. -- That doesn't mean...
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TGIF? How about TGIM?
You spend 80% of your day working doing something that pays the bills... but brings you no joy, no satisfaction, no aliveness. Why? Because it's the way you've always done it, you're good at it, it's easy. But happiness? I don't think so. -- What if you could spend 80% of your days doing…
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You go in the direction of what you focus on - so choose what you focus on wisely
Are you a leader? If you said no to that question, I'd call you a liar... why? Because EVERYONE is a leader... at the very least, you are leading yourself. And that's rthe problem now that the debate is over. We are spending all sorts of energy in upset, triggered, angry, criticizing…
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Change It UP! Getting unstuck and having fun doing it.
Getting unstuck, especially in the moment, isn't hard... it simply takes a willingness to try something different, to experiment, to shake things up, take a contrary action.
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It takes courage and strength to get yourself unstuck
“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one." ~ Bruce Lee The only word I might add to this quote is COURAGE... because it takes courage AND strength to walk down the path less traveled. If you're feeling stuck... it's time to muster up the courage and strength…
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