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What is your time, energy, happiness, and peace actually worth?In this episode, the hosts talk about valuing themselves across work, money, relationships, recovery, and major life transitions. From setting firm boundaries with clients and building businesses to leaving corporate life, choosing fulfilling work, dating with higher standards, and practicing compassionate detachment, they explore the many ways self-worth shows up in everyday decisions.Plus: perimenopausal body odor, bathroom phone habits, goat yoga, and the beginnings of a surprisingly promising business idea.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

In this candid episode, the hosts talk openly about addiction from multiple perspectives: as family members, partners, and people with lived experience of recovery. They explore boundaries, enabling, honesty, emotional labor, and what it means to support someone without losing yourself in the process. Along the way, they also celebrate new opportunities, finding joy during difficult seasons, and one truly unforgettable kitchen-sink disaster.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

This one is Heather's episode, and she comes with a topic. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather get into neurodiversity, what it actually means to live with ADHD, autism, or any combination of the above, and why so many women in midlife are only just now getting the vocabulary to describe what their whole life has felt like. They talk about masking, morning routines, medication decisions, the exhaustion of figuring your shit out with duct tape and paper clips, and what it looks like to finally stop pathologizing the way your brain works. Also: food, body image, the absolute disaster of American food culture, and why what we eat has always been about so much more than nutrition.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather are back, freshly returned from their respective summer adventures and in the mood to get into it. This one covers the quiet shift that happens somewhere after 45, when the scarcity mindset starts to lose its grip, hustle gives way to something that actually looks like wisdom, and you realize that not having all the answers might be the whole point. They talk about parenting with intention when you were raised by chaos and cable TV, the surprisingly good case for just crying it out, and what heart-centered leadership looks like when you're done performing for everyone. Also: the Indigo Girls were right, touching grass is underrated, and Smashing Pumpkins will never not hit.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Episode 20: Is It in the Cards?What starts with a random knock at Rebecca’s door from a young man warning that a fire is starting in her yard somehow turns into a conversation about tarot, intuition, divine nudges, and whether the universe is constantly trying to get our attention (spoiler: we think maybe yes). We talk about why tarot gets such a weird rap, where some of that fear-based religious baggage comes from, and the difference between moving through life feeling like everything is happening to you versus for you.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Episode 19: Catching Up and Getting WooWe’re back together and doing what we do best: catching up on life, big feelings, and mildly unhinged spiritual tangents. Rebecca is fresh off a deeply meaningful retreat in Australia, Heather has closed another chapter in corporate life, and Jessica is in the very real “oh wow, I really did this” phase of startup while still striving toward that steady paycheck. We talk about what it takes to bet on yourself in midlife, quiet the mean girl in your head, and find the people who truly get you. Naturally, we also wander into the woo... soul connections, the possibility that love is the connective force of the universe, and what it means to trust the flow instead of clinging to control.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

In this special extended episode, we sit down with narcissist-proof coach Dorothy Livio Vaughan for an honest, tender, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about what narcissism actually looks like up close, and why it can be so hard to see clearly while you're still inside it.Dorothy walks us through how these patterns show up, why we instinctively know the truth long before our minds catch up, and what it takes to start untangling ourselves from that toxic knot that has rewires our brains and rewrites our reality. We get into the red flags, the gray areas, the self-doubt, and the messy, meaningful work of navigating or eliminating these relationships. We share our own stories too, because of course we do.If you want to dive deeper after this one, check out the book Safe People by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend from Boundaries Books, or visit the website of Dr. Ramani Durvasula for more expert guidance and resources.If you have ever lain awake at 2 a.m. wondering "is it just me, or is something really off here," consider this your permission slip to trust yourself. You are not crazy. You are not too much. And you are not alone.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

This one started as a bad day. Mars entered Aries, a business partner was being a lot, and somebody was eating Easter candy at a genuinely alarming rate. So Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather did what you do when you need to recover: they got together and talked about everything.Which TV characters they secretly are (Beth Dutton, Hermione Granger, Samantha Jones on testosterone pellets, among others). What it felt like to grow up in the 90s when being out meant being completely, blissfully unreachable. Why that kind of freedom shaped a generation in ways that are only becoming clear now that we are watching our own kids live the opposite of it. And what it means, at this particular stage of life, to finally be primarily responsible for just yourself.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Friendship changes as we do, and this episode gets into all of it. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about the friendships that deepen, the ones that drift, and what connection, loyalty, and mutual effort look like in midlife. It’s warm, thoughtful, and for anyone who has ever treasured a soul-friend, grieved a friendship, or realized they no longer have energy for one-sided relationships.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

In this episode, we talk about the work nobody sees but that somehow always gets done. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather unpack the mental load, emotional load, and constant behind-the-scenes labor so many women carry at home, at work, and in relationships. It’s honest, validating, and for anyone who has ever felt exhausted by everything they’re holding that no one else seems to notice.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

At what point does something stop being a luxury and start becoming a necessity? In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about all the things they do to hold themselves together in midlife: workouts, supplements, hormones, skincare, beauty treatments, better bedding, nervous system support, and the creature comforts that make life feel more livable. We get into what is vanity, what is vitality, what is actually worth the money, and why comfort starts to feel a lot more like wisdom as we get older. Funny, validating, and delightfully practical, this episode is for anyone who has ever wondered if expensive sheets, collagen, or canceling plans might actually count as self-preservation.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

What would you say to the young woman you used to be if she would actually listen? In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather look back at their younger selves with honesty, tenderness, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from living a little more life. They talk about what they wish they had known about self-trust, shame, boundaries, rest, relationships, and the fact that your brain is not always telling the truth. Funny, heartfelt, and deeply compassionate, this conversation is for anyone who has ever wanted to send some love back in time to the woman they once were.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Peace sounds simple until you try to keep it. In this episode, we talk about what it really means to find and protect our peace in midlife when life is full, loud, and constantly asking something of us. From family dynamics and relationships to work stress, overthinking, and expectations, we unpack the ways our peace gets disrupted and why it can feel so hard to hold onto it. We get honest about boundaries, the difference between avoidance and real peace, and the habits that pull us out of alignment, with plenty of humor and relatable moments along the way. At the core, this is about learning to choose ourselves in a grounded and intentional way so we can build a life that actually feels good to live.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Spring is here, the astrology is astrology-ing, and we are talking about renewal, fresh starts, and what wants to bloom in this season of life. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather explore the energy of spring, the pull to begin again, and the difference between reinventing yourself and returning to yourself. We talk about what we are releasing, what we are calling in, and how midlife gives us a more honest, soulful kind of renewal. Part seasonal reset, part cosmic pep talk, part group exhale.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

In this episode, we talk about crying at work, almost crying at work, crying in the bathroom at work, and the very blurry line between being professional and being an actual human being. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather unpack the moments that push us over the edge in midlife: overwhelm, criticism, hormones, burnout, being asked for one more thing when we are already hanging on by a thread. Funny, honest, and deeply relatable, this conversation is for anyone who has ever blinked at the ceiling and prayed their dignity would hold.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Have you ever walked into a room with purpose and then immediately forgotten why? Same. In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about brain fog, missing words, lost phones, misplaced glasses, and the very specific midlife experience of feeling like your brain has 47 tabs open at all times. We get into stress, sleep, hormones, perimenopause, and the strange mix of humor and fear that can come with forgetfulness. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re losing it or just overloaded, this one is for you.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Hosted by Rebecca, Jessica & HeatherWhy do our brains jump straight to the worst possible outcome… even when nothing bad has actually happened?In this episode of PerimenoPAUSED, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather dive into the fine art of catastrophizing: that familiar midlife mental spiral where a neutral situation somehow turns into a full-blown disaster movie in your head.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Hosted by Rebecca, Jessica & HeatherSomething happens in midlife where your tolerance for nonsense drops dramatically, especially when it comes to bad customer service.In this episode of PerimenoPAUSED, we talk about the small moments that can instantly ruin your day: endless hold music, being transferred five times, chatbots pretending to be human, subscription services you can’t cancel, and the mysterious manager who never appears.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Why does my body feel like it’s completing a security update without my permission? In “What Is This Body Part?” we get into the very real, very absurd physical changes of midlife, including new pains, new textures, new “wait, has that always been there?” discoveries, and the constant mental math of “Is this hormones, stress, aging, or just Tuesday?” It’s equal parts validation and comedy, with a side of practical self-trust: when to shrug it off, when to check in with a professional, and how to stay kind to yourself while your body rewrites the rules.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Perimenopause is ready to throw hands 😅 In this episode, we unpack the random rage, tears, and emotional whiplash that shows up out of nowhere—and what to do when you can’t tell if you’re “fine” or five seconds from a meltdown.In “Why Am I So Upset?” we talk about the emotional side of midlife and perimenopause from the hair-trigger sensitivity, to the irritability, the grief-y feelings, and the classic “I don’t even recognize myself right now” moments. We share what it feels like in real time, what helps (and what doesn’t), and why you’re not broken...you're just offline for repairs.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Hosted by Rebecca, Jessica & HeatherImposter syndrome: that voice that shows up right when you’re stretching into something new.In this episode, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather share our own stories of reinvention: leaving jobs, moving states, launching new work, stepping into leadership, and saying yes before we feel completely ready. We talk about what it means to feel like an imposter even when you have the experience, the proof, and the receipts. We unpack the fear, the self-doubt, and the strange truth that growth often feels exactly like uncertainty.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

For Lunar New Year, we wanted an episode that feels like a reset without the pressure to “new year, new you” our way into burnout. In this conversation, Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about fresh starts and beginning again in midlife by releasing what no longer fits, and choosing our next chapter on purpose. We get into the small, practical ways to turn intention into real movement and momentum. Expect laughter, truth-telling, and the kind of reflection you would have around a kitchen table with women who get it. If you are in a season of reinvention, career shifts, relationship shifts, identity shifts, or body shifts, this one is for you, and a reminder to start where you are, honor how far you have come, and step into what is next with more clarity and self-trust.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Hosted by Rebecca & JessicaValentine’s Day: hallmark holiday, sacred ritual, or just another thing to add to the calendar you’re already managing for everyone else?In this episode, Rebecca and Jessica unpack the many “-tines” of midlife love: Valentine’s, Galentine’s, and the everyday kind that looks like staying connected when you’re running a household. We talk about how intimacy changes over time, and how Gen Z’s refusal to live in boxes is giving the rest of us permission to rethink love, partnership, and where our needs get met. Along the way, we get into no-candy school Valentines, mom-group dynamics, relationship anarchy, reality TV side quests, frozen car locks, and the real point of all of it: love is bigger than romance, and connection can come from partners, friends, sisters, and the people who help you survive your week.If you’re celebrating Valentine’s, Galentine’s, or “please don’t speak to me until I’ve had coffee,” you’re in the right place. Come hang out with us.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Hosted by Rebecca & JessicaWhat happens when life hits pause, and you realize it might actually be an invitation?In our very first episode of PerimenoPAUSED, Rebecca and Jessica introduce the show and the midlife shifts that brought us here. As staunch Gen Xers, we reflect on MacGyvering our way through a phase that feels disruptive, disorienting, and strangely liberating all at once, from layoffs and identity shifts to career pivots, motherhood, partnership, hormonal chaos, and the cultural invisibility no one warned us about. We laugh, get honest, and do our best not to trigger the explicit content warning while naming the complicated mix of grief and freedom that shows up when the old version of your life starts dissolving.If you’ve found yourself in an unexpected midlife pause, wondering “What now?” you’re in the right place. Come figure it out with us.About the hosts:Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy.Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it. Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.