Psychology Takeaway Podcast

“Maybe you don’t need a better life this week—maybe you just need a better next 10 minutes.” In this episode, we unpack the psychology behind small wins and why they matter more than big overhauls when you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected. We talk about how motivation actually works (hint: it usually follows action), why tiny steps can create powerful momentum, and how a simple 10-minute shift can help you move forward without pressure or perfection. You’ll hear practical ideas, a relatable “stuck in the mud” analogy, and a reminder that sometimes the most important step isn’t productivity—it’s connection. If you’ve been waiting to feel ready, this episode offers a different path: start small, start now.   LEARN MORE Ted Talk on 10 minute mindfulness: https://www.ted.com/talks/andy_puddicombe_all_it_takes_is_10_mindful_minutes?   Six Little Habits: https://youtu.be/C07DdQbnFMs?si=Z_4C1z1FQ4WTr7qp   Jim's new book - Making Peace with your Inner Dragon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GY44SJ8C    

In this episode, Jim and Ralph explore why asking for help can feel so uncomfortable—even when we truly need it. From hyper-independence and perfectionism to fear of vulnerability and low self-worth, they unpack five deeper psychological patterns that quietly keep people stuck in “I’ve got this” mode. Along the way, they share personal insights, a bit of humor, and real-life examples that reveal the hidden cost of never reaching out—burnout, isolation, and missed connection. The conversation then shifts toward a healthier reframe: what if asking for help isn’t weakness, but a skill that builds stronger relationships and personal growth? Listeners will walk away with a simple, practical challenge to try this week—and maybe a new way of understanding the “inner dragon” that’s been holding them back.

  This week on Psychology Takeaway, we dive into the ever-evolving world of slang—those playful, powerful, and sometimes puzzling words that shape how we connect, signal identity, and keep language alive. From expressions that explode across platforms like TikTok to phrases that echo all the way back to William Shakespeare, slang reveals the psychology of belonging, creativity, and cultural change. Jim and Ralph explore where slang comes from, why it spreads so quickly, and what it tells us about generations trying to define themselves—often in ways that leave the rest of us scrambling to keep up. Along the way, they invite listeners into a fun, interactive “Guess the Meaning” challenge that proves one thing: language isn’t just something we use—it’s something we play with. LEARN MORE   Slang brings people together: https://www.ted.com/talks/matilda_lanner_i_am_a_slang_user_slang_is_good_and_here_s_why?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare   A professor looks at slang: https://youtu.be/UwV9RBGFBdg?si=OexsIg6zSgjIJi5v    

​We recently heard a term that seemed strange to us, but your generation may hear that word very differently.   Some of Jim’s students admitted to rawdogging most of their life experiences . This left the dynamic duo to muse, “If we’re ‘rawdogging life’—without reflection, without tools—what does that do to our well-being?” What would Victor Frankel say? Or Shakespeare or George Orwell? We tend to think of slang as something new—or even a decline in language. But Shakespeare was doing the same thing. The difference is, his slang became literature… and ours is still working its way through TikTok.   We laugh at modern slang like ‘rawdogging,’ but Shakespeare’s audiences were enjoying jokes with just as much edge. The difference? Time has sanitized them. What was once a wink… now feels like literature.   LEARN MORE   Ted Talk on how language shapes of thoghts: https://youtu.be/RKK7wGAYP6k?si=toDu888WvqYVF-Xc   The neuroscience of words: https://youtu.be/5-QQDTqLMWA?si=Eq8kmT64DYJcwjXV   How languages evolved: https://youtu.be/iWDKsHm6gTA?si=pAuPvnSlB1Om7e7g

Why sleep is important   In this remote podcast Jim and Ralph discuss:  Importance of sleep  What are the signs of excessive sleepiness?  Amount of sleep needed  What causes sleep problems?  How environment and behavior affect a person’s sleep  Health problems and sleep disorders   LLEARN MORE Here is a short Ted Talk by Arianna  Huffington discussing her sleep challrnges: https://youtu.be/nncY-MA1Iu8?si=QLTA6DtZxZaZz6AA Anxiety keeping you awake? Hrtr is a link to Jim’s new book: https://a.co/d/09uWwLvG  

No, the world will not melt into chaos if we embrace the LET THEM theory!!! Here is what Jim and Ralph think.

Jim and Ralph have moved from the hospital, where they were last week, to Ralph’s living room where he continues to mend. The boys have been reading Mel Robbins book Let Them. In their discussion they acknowledge that trying to control someone else does not work well even if your intentions are good. LEAR MORE Here is the link to Mel’s podcast; it is almost one hour long but well worth listening to: https://youtu.be/d4z5C8G32AY?si=CAwJXzH9sTSoQWYv Jim is joining the Catholic Church in a couple of weeks. Read about his life time experience with Catholicism has taught an old psychologist: https://a.co/d/0gwqfYcC  

Jim and Ralph are back together podcasting after Ralph’s accident. They analyze the latest published Happiness Index and learn (no surprise here) that Social Media is negatively correlated with happiness. LEARN MORE Happy song by Pharrell Williams: https://youtu.be/ZbZSe6N_BXs?si=y2bOFm6kRAFMYWnZ The Peanuts Gang: Happiness Is: https://youtu.be/d13_LoHQkRM?si=md1lmVGB1Mq7Q76J Jim’s book Overcoming Anxiety on Amazon: https://a.co/d/06U0HNtn    

Jim is joined by his wife Sheila Carroll to look at how the natural world helps us to notice, focus, and heal. We look at the lives of famous people (and some not so famous – like Ralph) and see the impact nature had on them and the impact they had on nature. Sheila makes the case for preserving what we have and restoring what was lost.   LEARN MORE TED Talk: The Story That Shapes Your Relationship with Nature | Damon Gameau   https://youtu.be/nYZSPUi-lgE?si=R_ymVKCoGsNykXYf TED Talk: Contact with Nature: Three Transcendental Experiences in the Natural World: John Beatty - https://youtu.be/4uE6uBH1Smc?si=5YyfFe7HZKPRAUGI How regenerative farming can help heal the planet and human health | Charles Massy | TEDxCanberra - https://youtu.be/Et8YKBivhaE?si=cAJbdqc7tolbKqX7 Join Nature Study Notes In a world where wonder and awe are in short supply. I offer families a way to find it again in their own backyard. Most of us yearn for deeper connections—with our children, with the natural world, and with the Creator. Nature Study Notes was born from this longing. Please consider subscribing for free or paid - https://sheilac.substack.com/ Aslan’s Breath and the First Thaw https://open.substack.com/pub/sheilac/p/aslans-breath-and-the-first-thaw?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web Mouse City Beneath the Snow https://open.substack.com/pub/sheilac/p/mouse-city-beneath-the-snow?utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web

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Consider these recent news breakers: Y2K and the end of the world as we know it. UFO’s , we are not alone. Vaccines cause Autism. While there is no objective evidence for these concerns, they have motivated human behavior during this and the past century. Jim and Ralph attribute this false belief to several factors: A Convergence Model Imagine a person encountering an ambiguous event: An unexplained aerial video circulates online. A government statement acknowledges uncertainty. Commentators disagree publicly. Now consider the psychological environment: A person already feels social change accelerating. (Uncertainty) Their peer group prizes skepticism toward institutions. (Identity) Headlines emphasize geopolitical threat. (Fear) Institutional trust is low. (Distrust) Each factor alone might not produce firm conviction. Together, they create momentum.   LEARN MORE Short video about weird thought: https://youtu.be/5vOECJ6uu2E?si=5_n42G6_iT0tgArg Conspiracy: https://youtu.be/3VEkzweBJPM?si=w0-RVZwGMRlh9jtC You can get Jim’s book Oak Island Obsession on Amazon at: https://a.co/d/00GZb8lz

Is dating dead in 21st-century America? With guest Alex Graziano It can certainly feel that way. Swiping has replaced chance encounters, “situationships” have replaced steady courtship, and apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are now the front door to modern romance. Young adults are marrying later, moving more cautiously, and often sitting in the ambiguity of the “talking stage.” Add in economic pressure, social media comparison, and an endless sense that someone better might be one swipe away, and it’s no wonder many people feel confused about where dating stands today. But beneath the uncertainty, the longing for love and lasting connection hasn’t disappeared. What may be fading is the old script — not the desire for partnership. In this episode, Jim, Ralph, and guest Alex wrestle honestly with these shifts, exploring what’s changed, what hasn’t, and what a healthy connection looks like in a culture of endless choice. Their goal isn’t to lament the past or romanticize the present, but to offer context, clarity, and a little hope for navigating relationships in a complicated age.   LEARN MORE The low down on dating apps: https://youtu.be/gvOfCnwpcqo?si=1l8_gC3x5siihki8 The history of dating: https://youtu.be/Ob14PcHtazQ?si=rMQ6G2Z5gqdoayet

  In 1665, Isaac Newton was sent home from school because of the plague. For most people, that would’ve been a time of survival, of just getting through. But Newton? He started wondering about why apples fall. He became curious about light, gravity, and time. And that curiosity—not certainty, not confidence—led to some of the most groundbreaking discoveries in science. Here’s the thing we often miss: he didn’t get there because he was a genius. He got there because he stayed open. Curiosity is what allowed him to see possibilities where most of us would only see disruption. Join Ralph and Jim as they explore the curios world of curiosity and the people and things that inhabit it. Learn More Here is a Ted Talk about Curiosity as a Superpower: https://youtu.be/ZJVw306-qM0?si=5TZ7dzXWyt6CxPlO Do you think today’s kids are all screwed up? Think again: https://youtu.be/5EPxwJwUPs4?si=8MlApXCzqMekmw7T You can get ralph and Jim’s book, Raise Curios Kids at Amazon https://a.co/d/0eDgYYwo Raise Curious Kids is a warm, practical guide for parents, educators, and caregivers who want to do more than just help children succeed—they want to help them thrive. Written by longtime educators Jim Carroll, Ed.D., and Ralph Baber, M.A., this book explores curiosity not just as a trait, but as a mindset that fuels empathy, resilience, creativity, and lifelong learning.

In an era marked by chronic workload pressure, social fragmentation, and rising rates of burnout, play and laughter are not optional extras. They are essential processes that support psychological and physical health. At the neurochemical level, laughter is associated with increased dopamine and serotonin—neurotransmitters involved in mood regulation, motivation, and learning. At the same time, laughter reduces cortisol levels, dampening the physiological stress response. The story of Norman Cousins attests to the value of humor in his book Laughter is the Best Medicine.   LEARN MORE: For burn victims: https://youtu.be/SLHi6H5lOwE?si=F0nHune7trneoVDr What science shows: https://youtu.be/yqvMIoGXJQE?si=tMIPAeAQR2bQvOR1 A long (hour and a half) video with Cousins as he describes his illness and recovery: https://youtu.be/oYKpmnCS5lQ?si=rJaiaoAEwUoGumFx  

There is a new Tiger out there   Jim and Ralph revisit CRISPR to see if it has become the tool that will eliminate illness forever. They answer that question and point to new developments using TIGR   Learn More   CRISP and TIGR: https://youtu.be/_UimlaolxiA?si=jXLYJM5528GKn71z

Jim and Ralph are joined by international jet-setter Andrea Assaf. They continue to look at the downside of making New Years Resolutions while Andrea comes up with her own brilliant solution. They also investigate the Psychology of Travel. Finally, Ralph unpacks a host of things we Americans should be thankful for in 2026! This is a fast paced and podcast that you will want to share with friends, family and random strangers

Jim and Ralph take the emotional pulse of the campus outward and find a high level of negative affect. People express personal and global concerns freely. We talk about Jim’s new book, OVERCOMING ANXIETY, and make a free offer if you contact [email protected]

Yes, by now you have made and broken your resolutions. It happens every year! If you want a reset Ralph and Jim suggest the SMART approach. The guys look at the psychology of some numbers – not 67 but 39,000 and 650,600. Learn More Make good decisions get some rest :    • How to make smart decisions more easily   Check out the book: Make Good Decisions Everyday at Amazon: https://a.co/d/5r8IX4l

After the decorations come down and the gatherings end, many people experience a surprising emotional drop. In this episode, Jim and Ralph explain why post-Christmas sadness is so common—and how to respond to it with psychological wisdom rather than self-criticism.

Why does Christmas feel so emotionally powerful—for better and worse? In this episode, Jim and Ralph explore the psychology behind Christmas: why it amplifies joy, stress, nostalgia, generosity, and longing all at once. From family dynamics to ritual and meaning-making, they unpack what’s really happening beneath the tinsel.

Why do we name ours and that our pets think lofty thoughts? In this episode, Jim and Ralph look at this strange behavior. Don't forget to give that certain one on your gift list a copy of Overcoming Perfectionism, by Jim- https://a.co/d/bJCp6vh (you know who that person is, right.)

Ralph and Jim talk about preparing for final exams.

Jim and Ralph break down the real psychology of gratitude and how to practice it without slipping into toxic positivity. As Thanksgiving approaches, the hosts explore why genuine thankfulness boosts mental health — and why pretending to “just be positive” can actually make things worse. What You’ll Learn The psychological and neurological benefits of gratitude Why gratitude isn’t about ignoring negative feelings How toxic positivity invalidates real emotion Simple ways to practice grounded, honest gratitude over the holidays Key Insights Gratitude makes room for hard feelings; toxic positivity shuts them down. Thankfulness activates the brain’s reward system and reduces stress. “This is hard and I’m grateful for…” is healthier than “Just be grateful.” Small, specific moments of appreciation are more powerful than forced cheer. Practical Tips Try a “Real + Grateful” statement before Thanksgiving dinner. Validate emotions — yours and others’ — before offering encouragement. Notice one small thing today that brings comfort or meaning. Quote of the Episode “Gratitude isn’t pretending things are good — it’s noticing what’s good within reality.”  

Jim and Ralph continue their conversation with wildlife media producer Ryan Pearce. They contrast wildlife viewing in Michigan with that of Ryan’s native Australia.   LEARN MORE Here are the links to a playlist of all the Crocodile Hunter episodes and the Outdoor Boys channel on YouTube : https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMilupvERrnBCeJ_tXMIWuZSAGSxpHk_A&si=Q6RzLCF7BJd3uy2W   https://youtube.com/@outdoorboys?si=20TIc2euguPyw6Ti  

Ralph is a strong advocate of using the natural world for tension reduction and stress release, but what is difficult or impossible? Jim and Ralph talk with guest Ryan Pearce a wild life photographer about what some neuroscientists see as the next best thing using video. It can’t replace the entire experience but research says there are some positive benefits. LEARN MORE Healing power of natural world: https://youtu.be/FEb0J2--nF0?si=xVQC7sRtLHdNu1ct Cancer survivor’s story about nature: https://youtu.be/xL6V142FmQo?si=MNJKz6Uk5i93sudY You can contact Ryan at: Ryan [email protected]​ To see our updated author page and acess our books go to: Amazon.com/author/jimcarroll Have a look at Sheila Carroll's Nature Study Notes—short, fascinating studies of the wild world right outside your door. Here is her latest, just in time for Thanksgiving: The Wonderful Wild Turkey

Understanding Personality Disorders — Clearing Up the Myths Around “Sociopaths,” “Psychopaths,” and “Narcissists” In this week’s episode, Jim and Ralph take on one of the most misunderstood corners of modern psychology: personality disorders. Popular culture and the internet are full of talk about “sociopaths,” “psychopaths,” and “narcissists,” but how much of that is actually grounded in clinical reality? The hosts unpack where these terms come from, what they really mean, and why only narcissistic personality disorder remains a recognized diagnosis in the DSM-5. Through a thoughtful and down-to-earth discussion, Jim and Ralph explore what defines a personality disorder—persistent patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving that cause significant distress or impairment—and how these differ from temporary traits or pop-psychology labels. Along the way, they correct some of the biggest misconceptions fueled by movies, media, and social media, and they help listeners understand the importance of compassion and nuance when talking about mental health. Whether you’re a student of psychology or just curious about the truth behind the buzzwords, this episode offers a grounded and insightful takeaway.

  ​From Samhain to Candy Corn: The Psychology Behind Halloween’s Evolution In this Halloween special, Jim and Ralph uncover how an ancient Celtic festival honoring the dead transformed into today’s playful, candy-filled celebration. From Samhain’s bonfires to trick-or-treating traditions, they explore how fear, faith, and community shaped the holiday — and what our fascination with costumes and scares reveals about human psychology. LEARN MORE Go to our You Tube channel and Halloween 2025 – it is our treat to you. Try this The Witch’s Brew" — A Spooky Halloween Punch Serves: 6–8 | Prep time: 10 minutes  Ingredients: 2 cups cranberry juice 1 cup orange juice 1 cup pineapple juice 1 cup ginger ale or lemon-lime soda (for fizz) 1/2 cup vodka or dark rum (optional – skip for mocktail) Juice of 1 lime 1/2 cup blackberries or raspberries (for garnish) A few slices of orange or lime Ice cubes (or frozen “eyeballs” — peeled grapes!) Directions: In a large punch bowl or pitcher, combine cranberry, orange, and pineapple juices. Add vodka or rum if using, then stir in the lime juice. Just before serving, pour in the ginger ale for that bubbly, witchy fizz. Add fruit and ice — or drop in peeled grapes as creepy “eyeballs.” Serve in clear glasses or cauldrons with a gummy worm or black sugar rim for extra Halloween flair. Optional Twist: Add a few drops of blue curaçao for an eerie purple hue, or use dry ice (handled safely!) for a misty, cauldron effect.   For an extra treat read a sample of Jim’s Oak Island Obsession and then buy the book: https://a.co/d/aBllLDr    

Jim and Ralph continue the exploration of toxic online content - AND come up with some answers!!!

In this first episode of our two-part series, retired psychology professors Jim Carroll and Ralph Baber dive into a troubling trend: the rise of toxic, emotionally charged content on platforms like YouTube. From personal attacks to polarizing rants, the digital space seems louder and more hostile than ever. But why? We explore the psychology behind call-out culture, emotional contagion, and how algorithms reward outrage—drawing on research and decades of psychological theory to understand how we got here. In This Episode: Why “call-out culture” is more about status than resolution How YouTube’s algorithm may be reinforcing negative content The role of emotional contagion in hostile comment threads Psychological consequences for viewers and content creators How normalization of toxicity shapes online behavior Takeaway: Toxicity online isn’t just about bad behavior—it’s a system of reinforcement, psychology, and design. And we’re all participating in it, whether we realize it or not. 👉 Stay tuned for next week’s follow-up episode: “De-Toxing Digital Spaces” — where we explore solutions and strategies for reclaiming healthier online discourse.

Psychology is the study of actions, emotions, and thoughts—the very elements that art engages with and expresses. In this episode, Jim and Ralph dive into the fascinating intersection between psychology and art, exploring how creative expression influences the way we think, feel, and behave. From Edvard Munch’s The Scream to the curious effects of pink prison cells, discover how art shapes our emotional worlds, impacts behavior, and even alters perception. Whether you're an art lover, a psych enthusiast, or just curious about how the two connect, this episode will give you fresh insights into the powerful psychological impact of art. LEARN MORE Ted Talk : Air is Oxygen - https://youtu.be/PdSz7Oav-0k?si=kAV0Ty513RZLJkOo How art shapes Gen Z - https://youtu.be/Ud4YDV7wPtg?si=3X_y4j5I8P9gmplW The unexpected math behind Van Gogh's "Starry Night"- https://www.ted.com/talks/natalya_st_clair_the_unexpected_math_behind_van_gogh_s_starry_night?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Watch for this spooky episode, if you dare!!!

Ralph and Jim continue their discussion of recent developments in Autism with Ms. Bridget Eagleson. Topics include diagnosis, neurodiversity and treatment.   LEARN MORE New genetic discoveries and autism: https://youtu.be/JUc5YchucpU?si=MfH_HL_n8SmlFz0A Get the monograph Understanding Autism by contacting Jim at: [email protected] Read a sample and purchase Curious Kids at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FMS2L4L3

Jim and Ralph are joined by autism expert, Bridget Eagleson, to discuss the rise in the rate of autism in America. If the rise is real, what is the cause? More pathogens? Better diagnosis? Some other factors? Does Tylenol and vaccines cause autism? What was the historical background? Let’s take a look. We can go back to Eugen Bleuler in 1911 and later used by Kanner in the ‘40’s in connection with “early childhood autism and then in the 1990’s Wakedfield’s study published in The Lancet which was later refuted. LEARN MORE Autism Diagnosis Among US Children and Adults, 2011-2022: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2825472 This is a good article from the APA with many clickable links: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2025/e09/advocate-autism-wave-misinformation Here is a very recent you tube video (about 7 minutes long): https://youtu.be/f0lWoYz8ETE?si=G-_SryVIWy76JK4y The President announces his Autism initiative: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJF0H6tlhqg&list=WL&index=5   Don’t forget that you can read a sample and buy a copy oy Raise Curious Kids at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FMS2L4L3

In this episode of Psychology Takeaway, Jim and Ralph are joined by Dr. Reid Skeel, Program Director for Clinical Psychology at Central Michigan University, to explore a timely and important question: Is psychology still a worthwhile major? The short answer: yes—and maybe more than ever. Psychology remains one of the most popular undergraduate degrees in the U.S., with steady growth over the past two decades. But what does that popularity actually mean for students in terms of career paths, job prospects, and graduate study? Together, our hosts and guest unpack the reasons behind psychology’s enduring appeal: its flexibility, its relevance to real-world issues, and its unique ability to bridge science, behavior, and human relationships. Dr. Skeel also offers valuable insight into the different directions psychology majors can take—from clinical and counseling roles to research, education, healthcare, business, and even user experience design. Whether you’re considering a bachelor’s, a master’s, or a doctorate, this episode breaks down what to expect and how to think strategically about your path. If you're a student, parent, or educator wondering how to make the most of a psychology degree—or if you're just curious about what makes this field so compelling—this conversation is for you. Expect practical advice, honest reflections, and a dose of encouragement for anyone navigating the journey from curiosity to career. LEARN MORE Here’s a short but fun look at the possibilities of using your Psychology major: https://youtu.be/9GcRZFh0ZTE?si=CpKbkHpO6ikWZDJO Here is a long but through article that appeared in Psi Chi: https://www.psichi.org/page/052EYEWin01eAubrecht DON’T Forget , you can read a sample of Ralph and Jim’s latest book at: https://a.co/d/3PGd8Bm AND  you can request a free copy of Protecting Your Family by contacting Jim at: [email protected]

In this chilling but eye-opening episode, Ralph and Jim explore one of psychology’s most disturbing questions: What makes ordinary people do evil things? From war crimes and systemic abuse to everyday cruelty and moral disengagement, they unpack the psychological processes and social conditions that allow evil to emerge—not just in history books, but in our own workplaces, communities, and personal lives. Are monsters born—or made?  Key Topics Covered What is “evil” from a psychological standpoint? A look at how psychology defines and reframes "evil" behavior in scientific terms. The Banality of Evil – Hannah Arendt’s controversial insight into how bureaucratic obedience enables atrocity. Stanley Milgram’s Obedience Experiments Why ordinary people followed orders to deliver (seemingly) lethal shocks. The Stanford Prison Experiment – Philip Zimbardo How social roles and situational power corrupted participants in just days. The Lucifer Effect Zimbardo's deep dive into how systems and environments can turn good people evil. Dehumanization & Moral Disengagement – Albert Bandura How we silence our moral alarms through rationalization and groupthink. The Role of Systems: Bad Apples vs. Bad Barrels Understanding how toxic environments and authority structures shape behavior. Why Some People Resist A hopeful discussion about empathy, moral courage, and the psychology of standing up to evil. Notable Quotes "Evil is not always loud and monstrous—it can be quiet, bureaucratic, and disturbingly ordinary." — Ralph "One of the most dangerous phrases in history might be: ‘I was just following orders.’" — Jim LEARNEMORE The Lucifer Effect – Philip Zimbardo Obedience to Authority – Stanley Milgram Eichmann in Jerusalem: A Report on the Banality of Evil – Hannah Arendt Moral Disengagement – Albert Bandura Ordinary Men – Christopher Browning Two reports came out today. One from the UN and the other from HHS (Make America Healthy Again). https://www.npr.org/2025/09/10/nx-s1-5535535/nutrition-professor-discusses-administrations-strategy-to-improve-childrens-health THINK ABOUT THIS Have you ever gone along with something you felt was wrong, just to conform? What systems in your environment reward silence or punish moral courage? How can we strengthen empathy and individual responsibility in the face of group pressure?

Why do we sometimes derail our own progress just as things are going well? In this week’s episode, Ralph takes the lead in unpacking the psychology of self-sabotage, while Jim—licensed psychologist and professor emeritus—joins with insight, experience, and his signature dry wit. From procrastination and perfectionism to fear of success and deep-rooted impostor syndrome, the duo explores how self-sabotage shows up in everyday life—and why it’s more about protection than failure. Drawing on clinical experience, lived stories, and some honest reflections, Ralph and Jim walk through the unconscious mechanisms that lead people to hold themselves back. They explore how childhood conditioning, low self-worth, and even past trauma can shape behaviors that seem illogical but are actually very human. If you've ever said, “Why do I keep doing this to myself?”—this one’s for you. You’ll come away with tools for recognizing sabotage patterns, reframing your inner dialogue, and gently steering your life back on course. No shame, no fluff—just grounded psychology and thoughtful conversation. LEARN MORE Ted talk How to Limit Self-sabotage: https://www.ted.com/talks/azreail_essick_how_to_limit_self_sabotage?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare If Perfectionism is your problem, check out this book from the Overcoming series: Overcoming Perfectionism. Read a sample at: https://a.co/d/2gmVbuL

In this follow-up episode, we welcome back Fr. Matt Gembroski, the young and insightful Catholic priest serving students at St. Mary’s Parish on the campus of Central Michigan University. After a strong listener response to our conversation on spiritual health, Fr. Matt returns to unpack a topic that resonates deeply with both young adults and those navigating relationships of all kinds: fear of intimacy. Together, we explore how fear of emotional closeness often masks deeper struggles with vulnerability, shame, past wounds, or spiritual disconnection—and how intimacy is ultimately a path not just to others, but to God, healing, and one’s true self. We also explore how attachment styles, trauma, and even spiritual beliefs shape our willingness (or resistance) to let others see the real us. Fr. Matt brings a compassionate pastoral lens to the conversation, helping listeners understand how healing often involves allowing ourselves to be seen—flaws and all. Whether you're someone who pulls away when things get deep, or who clings out of fear of being abandoned, this episode offers practical wisdom, honest reflection, and spiritual encouragement to begin reclaiming intimacy in a healthy and holy way. THOUGHTS TO PONDER We are never so vulnerable as when we love.” — Sigmund Freud “Spiritual awakening is not about escaping from life but about learning to meet it wholeheartedly.” — Pema Chödrön “People who are afraid of intimacy often long for it the most.” — Unknown “You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.” — Eckhart Tolle “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” — Rumi You can read a sample of Ralph’s bookon raising curious kids: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FMG1GVYL

We talk about mental health or emotional health all the time. But what about Spiritual Health? Today Ralph, Jim and Father Matt Gembrowski tackle this important question. When someone’s spiritual health is poor, it can affect many aspects of their life — emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Although spiritual health is less visible than a physical injury or illness, its impact can be just as deep and disruptive. One of the most common signs of poor spiritual health is a lack of meaning or purpose. A person may feel lost, aimless, or directionless. Questions like “What’s the point?” or “Why am I here?” can feel overwhelming and unanswerable. Even when life appears successful on the outside, there may be an inner sense of emptiness. Increased anxiety, stress, or depression often follow. Without a spiritual anchor — such as personal beliefs, grounding values, or reflective practices — stress can feel chaotic and harder to manage. Existential worries or fear of death may intensify, and some individuals may experience hopelessness or emotional numbness. So, what can be done about this? Watch or listen for solid concrete suggestions! LEARN MORE  YouTube :” What Is Spiritual Health”: https://youtu.be/IWqtXaWzvM?si=luaznGMAip6WeMKZ An upbeat video on spirituality and mental health: https://youtu.be/jHQywnIHTjI?si=ZjoH3tiy6adla_6r Our new book Raise Curious Kids is out on Amazon. Check out a sample: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FMS2L4L3

So… you’ve hit that point. You’ve had enough. The “I’m fine” mask is slipping, and suddenly the idea of talking to someone who isn’t your dog or your group chat sounds kind of appealing. But where do you even start? In this follow-up to last week’s episode (“Why Don’t People Just Go Into Therapy?”), Jim and Ralph get real—and a little ridiculous—about what actually happens when you do decide to get help. They break down the basics of finding a therapist, what kinds of support exist (hint: it’s not just lying on a couch), how to deal with roadblocks like cost or fear, and what to do if the first therapist isn’t a good fit. Plus: therapy myths busted, what to say in that awkward first message, and why your mental health deserves more than duct tape and denial. In this episode: The moment you realize it’s time for help How to find a therapist (without losing your mind) What if you don’t “click” with them? Free and low-cost options for therapy and support Why therapy isn’t the only path—and what else might help Whether you’re ready to book a session or still hovering over the “contact” button, this one’s for you. Resources Mentioned: PsychologyToday.com TherapyDen.com 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Local community mental health centers University counseling programs and clinics 💬 Got a question, a topic suggestion, or a therapy horror story? Email us at [email protected] LEARN MORE:   This Ted Talk by Martin Seligman might calm your anxiety about therapy: https://youtu.be/9FBxfd7DL3E?si=R8F3eRYZvUfSG7A4   How to find a good therapist: https://youtu.be/j-GinhKL1-k?si=daUdnzbD6ewP0ogU   The book Reality Therapy might help you help a child or adolescent overcome social or emotional problems: https://a.co/d/024sCDh

  In this episode of Psychologytakeaway, Jim and Ralph—two actual psychologists, not just guys with microphones—dig into the surprising and often frustrating reasons why so many people avoid or delay getting therapy. From the weight of stigma to the myth that “it’s not that bad,” they explore the internal and social barriers that keep people from seeking help—even when they need it most. Expect real talk, a few laughs, and zero judgment as they unpack the psychology behind not going to a psychologist. Part one of a two-part series LEARN MORE The Enigma of Stigma: Redefining The Way We Talk About Mental Health: https://www.ted.com/talks/sophie_riegel_the_enigma_of_stigma_redefining_the_way_we_talk_about_mental_health?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare Mental illness can be tough to talk about, and yet, if we are going to reduce the stigma, we need to encourage honest, open dialogue. This talk shares the ways in which we may unconsciously perpetuate stigma and offers language that inspires safe and supportive conversation. There's no shame in taking care of your mental health: https://www.ted.com/talks/sangu_delle_there_s_no_shame_in_taking_care_of_your_mental_health?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare When stress got to be too much for TED Fellow Sangu Delle, he had to confront his own deep prejudice: that men shouldn't take care of their mental health. In a personal talk, Delle shares how he learned to handle anxiety in a society that's uncomfortable with emotions. As he says: "Being honest about how we feel doesn't make us weak -- it makes us human." You might find the book by Jerry Fuller and Jim on Reality Therapy helpful: you can read a sample at : https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F3LB14VH        

This episode follows up on something we sort of stumbled on last week – helicopter parenting. Jim and Ralph discuss what it is and some of the long term negative consequences. They continue with tips on parenting a curious kid. If you want an ecopy of their soon-to-be-released book on the subject, take a look below at LEARN MORE. LEARN MORE If you're looking for active, well-regarded educational YouTube channels for curious kids, here are some widely recommended options: SciShow Kids: Fun science videos made for elementary schoolers. Aim to spark curiosity and understanding. educationnext.in+1reddit.com+1 Crash Course Kids: Explains topics like ecosystems, engineering, and space in short, engaging episodes. tempo.txgifted.org+1 TED‑Ed: Stylishly animated, bite‑sized lessons on questions like “How do jellyfish glow?” tailored for wide age ranges. trendsalife.comtempo.txgifted.org PBS Kids / National Geographic Kids: Age‑appropriate videos about animals, places https://pbskids.org/videos Contact Jim for a free pre-publication copy of Raise Curious Kids: [email protected]

Curiosity isn’t just adorable—it’s a powerful force in a child’s growth. Today Jim and Ralph move from Capable Kids to Curious Kids.  When children are encouraged to explore, ask questions, and follow their interests, it stimulates more than just their imaginations.  Research indicates that curious children tend to do better in school, with stronger skills in reading, math, and memory—even when factors like attention span or socioeconomic background are considered. But the benefits extend far beyond academics. Curiosity enhances the brain’s ability to solve problems creatively, think critically, and remember information more effectively. It prepares children to be adaptable thinkers who aren’t afraid to experiment, make mistakes, and try again. So let’s help our kids stay curious! LEARN MORE Here is a link to You Tubes Curious Kids: https://youtu.be/U4QbjPygpt0?si=BXq9w01SVTXk8iQ3 Jim’s book Oak Island Obsession is now out on Amazon. You can read a sample at: https://a.co/d/a5tduAm

Last week Jim and Ralph looked at how parents can help their children to be focused, able to take another’s perspective and communicate effectively. In this episode they look at problem-solving, critical thinking and self-directed learning. Ralph, as always, has a slightly off beat perspective!   LEARN MORE Inside Out 2 Trailer: https://youtu.be/LEjhY15eCx0?si=AYAXf9JGBlt1VOIS Here is an article on the effects of social media on teens and children: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/social-media-and-mental-health-in-children-and-teens How to talk to your kids so they will listen: https://www.aswegrowcounseling.com/20-ways-to-talk-so-your-children-will-listen Sample Jim’s book “Raise Capable Kids”: https://a.co/d/eZ9IyD9

This week on Psychology Takeaway, Jim and Ralph respond to audience concerns about raising children in today’s world. Ralph shares his growing unease about the direction of modern childhood and education, comparing today’s youth to what Gertrude Stein famously described as “The Lost Generation” a century ago. This sparks a thought-provoking discussion about what young people truly need to thrive in the 21st century. It's not just the traditional "three Rs"—reading, writing, and arithmetic—nor is it merely digital skills like gaming or content creation. They explore the realities facing Generation Z (born mid-1990s to early 2010s), who grew up with the internet, and Generation Alpha (born from the early 2010s onward), the first generation entirely born in the 21st century. Gen Alpha has been uniquely shaped by advanced technology, rapid change, and formative experiences like the COVID-19 pandemic. Jim and Ralph dive into these generational shifts, voicing concerns and offering practical advice for raising capable, resilient kids in a digital age. Tune in! LEARN MORE The destruction of Generation Alpha: https://youtu.be/wKmj5p2XmBo?si=aTan9fvkr_J_GSps The Hobart Shakespeareans (as mentioned in the episode): https://youtu.be/n1EGzKtR9DE?si=yevTd5g_SRB2VfMc Sample Jim’s book “Raise Capable Kids”: https://a.co/d/eZ9IyD9

More on the effects of marijuana use with a special guest Kristin Cooper Ralph and Jim are joined by neuroscience researcher Kristin Cooper to discuss cognitive decline associated with marijuana use. Like many researchers, she uses animal models (mice) to study long-term effects. But the data gathered applies to humans who have been using stronger and stronger pot over the last 50 years, when the use rate climbed from about 5% to around 50% according to a recent Gallup poll. They discuss the medical use of marijuana for relaxation and anxiety reduction but point out that the long-term consequences are not well understood. This is where Ms. Cooper’s research sheds some much-needed light. LEARN MORE Kristin Cooper has been on Psychology Takeaway before. You can hear her at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfffJAeI3Jc  An ER doctor shares his thoughts about the dark side of marijuana use that he sees with his patients: https://youtu.be/d9e_0_YCxUs?feature=shared If you want to follow Ms. Cooper’s research, you can reach her at: [email protected] The eBook version of Jim’s book on the mystery of the Oak Island Treasure is on Amazon NOW at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FGWTZQXF

We did a great video podcast with neuroscientist Kristin Cooper. We talked to her work exploring the long-term effects of marijuana use. You are going to want to listen to or view the Podcast. Unfortunately that will have to be later. We are having some technical problems publishing the Episode – but we think that we should have the it published by Monday afternoon. Check back then. Next Friday’s Podcast is on raising capable kids – you won’t want to miss it even if you do not have kids of your own!

This week on Psychology Takeaway, Jim and Ralph go deep into a trend that’s reshaping health behavior in the U.S.: marijuana use has now surpassed tobacco use. What’s driving the shift? Is weed really safer? And what long-term consequences might we be ignoring? In this special early episode—released ahead of the July 4th holiday—they break down the science, debunk common myths, and explore what psychology tells us about addiction, motivation, and cultural perception. From chronic lung damage to cannabis use disorder, from pain relief to policy gaps, this conversation pulls back the haze to get at what’s fact, what’s fiction, and what might still be forming. Whether you're a curious listener, healthcare professional, or policymaker, this episode will help you see the cannabis conversation in a new, evidence-based light.    We did this as a video as well as an audio. Check it out: [LINK] https://youtu.be/xt1jLEwyBHY   LEARN MORE  Breaking news on adverse effects: https://youtu.be/yMRJlhdahjc?feature=shared Why athletes use weed: https://youtu.be/iWCcuu3T0Go?feature=shared Youth and the Domino Effect: https://www.ted.com/talks/the_domino_effect_youth_and_substance_abuse?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

In this thought-provoking episode, Jim and Ralph explore a deceptively simple question: Why do people—often smart, educated, well-meaning people—make irrational, harmful, or downright dumb choices? We begin with the haunting insights of theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who warned that the greatest threat to humanity may not be evil—but unthinking obedience. From there, we travel through some of psychology’s most famous experiments: Milgram’s obedience study, where participants delivered what they believed were deadly shocks Asch’s conformity experiment, showing how people abandon truth to fit in Zimbardo’s Stanford Prison Experiment, revealing how roles and environments can distort behavior We then shift to real-world consequences, unpacking how groupthink helped cause the Challenger shuttle disaster—a moment where silence and pressure led to tragedy. Finally, we look at a different kind of “dumb”: the decades-long search for treasure on Oak Island. Why do people cling to hope, even when reason says let go? With insights from Dunning-Kruger, pluralistic ignorance, and motivated reasoning, this episode is a crash course in how psychology explains the irrational—and how we might guard against it. LEARN MORE How Stupid People Become a Threat to Everyone – Cipolla Was Right https://youtu.be/eql0wxgwFXU?feature=shared A good short intro to intelligence.https://www.verywellmind.com/theories-of-intelligence-2795035?utm_source=1440-st&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=view-content-pr&user_id=66c4c743600ae15075a4f2b5 Stoics on the topic of stupidity https://youtu.be/d9TaVsF6YUw?feature=shared The Terrifying Theory of Stupidity You Were Never Meant to Hear – Dietrich Bonhoefferhttps://youtu.be/Sfekgjfh1Rk?feature=shared   Watch for- The Treasure Trap: What fuels the Oak Island obsession Into the pit, uncovering a 230 year old mystery and the minds behind the search Coming Soon