Rae of Realness

Once upon a time, my self-worth lived on a fridge magnet that said ‘Slimmer of the Month.’ In this episode, I’m unpacking my long, complicated relationship with diet culture and the cult that was Slimming World. From crying over half a pound to surviving on hi-fi bars and tears, it’s funny, raw, and a little bit rage-inducing. But mostly? It’s about learning that I don’t owe anyone thinness, guilt, or apology. Because freedom tastes a hell of a lot better than an alpen light 'cheesecake'.

No one talks about how becoming who you are means mourning who you were. In this episode, I reflect on the bittersweet grief of outgrowing old versions of myself, the insecurities I carried for years, and the freedom that comes from finally honouring every past and present self. Growth hurts, but staying still hurts even more.

People love to act like they invented subtlety... spoiler alert: they didn’t. Sometimes the things we hear about ourselves as kids or teens stick in ways we don’t even realise. In this episode, I unpack how certain comments shaped how I saw myself, my confidence, and my relationships. Funny, raw, and surprisingly tender, it’s about learning to reclaim your narrative, protect your inner peace, and decide your own worth, without waiting for anyone else to hand it to you.

In this episode, I get real about the messy, complicated mix of being lonely and hopeful at the same time. I share the sneaky, brutal loneliness of single life, how having amazing parents sets the bar impossibly high, and the ways being a fat woman sometimes makes me feel undeserving of love. But I also dive into the little sparks of hope that keep life moving, and why it’s okay to carry both feelings at once. Funny, tender, and a little shameless, this one’s for anyone who’s ever felt lonely, dared to hope anyway, and wondered if being both is… well, normal.

In this episode, I unpack the chaotic, hilarious, and sometimes heartbreaking relationship I have with… well, space. From airplanes and buses to dance floors and concert seats, I explore the little voice that’s spent a lifetime whispering, “Take up less room. Don’t be noticed.” We’ll talk about where that voice actually comes from and why it sneaks into our everyday life, making us contort, fold, and apologize for simply existing. Funny, sassy, and heartfelt, this episode is for anyone who’s ever felt “too big” and needs a reminder that you deserve every inch of the space you take up. Every. Single. Inch.

Some days I look in the mirror and think, “You look fab!” Other days? “Who let Sloth from Goonies in here?” In this episode, I unpack the chaotic relationship I have with my reflection. From feeling like a goddess one day to feeling like a greasy troll the next, I’m digging into why the mirror feels like the most toxic frenemy I own. We’ll talk about where those voices actually come from—family, media, past relationships—and why they sneak into the mirror with us. Funny, honest, and a little tender—this one’s for anyone who’s ever side-eyed their own reflection and thought, “Who are we going to be today?”

I am back with another slice of realness! 💅 This week we’re talking about that moment on a date when you realize you’re not being seen as a person… you’re being fetishized like a walking, talking incognito tab. From boys in bandss, to pudding-feeding disasters at Wagamama, I share the red flags, the whiplash between flattery and ick, and the harsh truth about being desired vs. being dehumanized. This one’s for anyone who’s ever thought: “Am I your date, or am I your search history with a pulse?” Spoiler: you deserve better, babe. You’re the whole cake, not just a crumb. 🍰

From doodles and diet clubs to one childhood comment shaped decades of self-image. This week, I’m getting real about eight-year-old me, body shame, and why she—and all of us—deserve better.

Fat, loud, and unfiltered...just like my life. Ever spiral in the supermarket, overshare to your mirror, and still think love might exist? Yep—this is your podcast. Messy, honest, tragic & hilarious—your new favourite group chat is here.