Real Life Shyt Pod

Shay and Fe bring in the legendary equalizer herself — Jazzy — to help break down a universal struggle: when your friends are beefing, do you jump in, or do you keep your nose in your own damn business? We cover: Why mixing friend groups is basically a science experiment gone wrong Jazzy’s undercover friendship Why Felicia is “selfish with her friends” (allegedly) The wedding-gate incident that still has Fe ready to fight How grown-woman beef is different when you’re in your Perry Ellis era of life

‘Tis the season… for chaos. In this episode, we break down holiday stress, men we deploy links to, white friends and their beloved tchotchkes, and why one of us is a full Grinch while the other wants to grab strangers’ hands and sing carols in the street. We talk gifts we hate, gifts we pretend to love, CVS clearance presents for people who surprise-gift us (don’t judge), and why Christmas in Europe hits different than Christmas in America.

We test the theory that roasting your friends actually makes you closer and even call a friend live on air to see who’s really the biggest shit talker. 🥴 When “just kidding” jokes are really low-key digs 🙃 The difference between roasting out of love vs. mean-girl energy 👀 How cultural differences play into humor (ahem, our white friends…) 💅 Why being called “petty” might actually be Fe's love language.

Shayla tells a wild birthday dinner story where a friend refused to eat at a restaurant because it was Israeli-owned, sparking a real convo about boycotts, beliefs, and when activism crosses into bias. Felicia dives deep into her years in the fashion industry and shares painful (and jaw-dropping) examples of being dismissed the second her Black face walked in the room — and what it taught her about professionalism and pride. The ladies talk about whether we all have a little bias baked in, the exhaustion of bad customer service, and what happens when you realize maybe you have your own stereotypes too.

This week on Real Life Shyt, we put friendships under corporate review. Are your friends getting a promotion to your C-Suite, or are they quietly being demoted to the mop closet?

This week, we’re breaking up with group dinners once and for all. Because why should a spinach puff and a side salad cost $250 just because everybody else wanted to cosplay as Salt Bae? Shay pulled her neck in yoga (apparently a fat neck is not the safety device she thought it was), Felicia dragged the Cowboys, and we both dragged restaurants that can’t do separate checks.

What kind of friend are you? The Head of HR who snatches wigs with the truth, or the Director of Strategy who shows up with screenshots, timestamps, and a full PowerPoint? In this episode, we’re building out the Friendship C-Suite and figuring out everyone’s role: Shay’s over here handing out pink slips and bereavement benefits as Head of HR. Fe is running strategy like Olivia Pope with Wi-Fi receipts. Somebody has to be Chief of Wardrobe & Optics (yes, the Ralph’s cashier compliment counts). And apparently we also need a department called “Fuck Around and Find Out.” We’re telling stories of when being the “truth teller” actually cost us friendships, why new friends can’t bring old drama, and why your friend group really is just a messy little corporate board meeting with cocktails. So… what’s your role? CFO of Mess? VP of Emotional Wellness?

Happy Birthday to Fe and Happy 1-Year Anniversary to our pod! We’re talking about the one decision that changed the entire course of our lives — like Shayla ghosting her entire bloodline to escape the Jerry Springer episode that became her life, and Fe saying nah to full-ride sports scholarships at Ivy league schools because she wanted the freedom to explore and find her true passion.

Shay's first white friend and our very first guest! From the first trust circle in college to culture shock, and growth, Megan was dropped into the black girl group chat, with no safety net... and lives to tell the tales!

We meant to start the episode light and breezy, but then came the breaking news about our forever crush Malcolm-Jamal Warner (aka Theo Huxtable). So what starts as a tribute quickly spirals into an unhinged but heartfelt convo about growing up Black in the 90s, square vs. street life, sweaty menopause titties, fighting while pregnant (yes, that happened), the new-age misuse of the word “bully,” and what our final wishes are when we kick the bucket—spoiler alert: one of us wants to be turned into diamonds.

In this episode, Fe lace's up for a half-marathon disaster where Nike fumbled the bag. We’re sprinting through hot flashes, bloated bellies, and the harsh reality that it costs a whole paycheck just to TRY to be healthy. We get real about the endless supplements, the price tag on self-care, and why it’s so hard to find good doctors.

Pack your bags, your supplements, and your secrets because this episode is messier than TSA with an attitude. Fe and Shay are in full travel mode and spilling every detail—like which friends are not allowed on their trips, what seat they'll fight your grandma for on a plane, and who’s twisting titties under the Tuscan sun. From bidets and bonnet etiquette to yoga retreats and group chat politics, they break down the rules of the road for grown-ass women who travel with taste... and receipts. We also unpack: Why traveling with more than 4 people is a trap When it's okay to lie to your best friend at her daddy’s funeral What it really means to be a bougie minimalist The toilet paper rose that started a revolution And why monkeypox is a solid reason to keep it PG on vacation This one has plane drama, hotel trauma, and friendship flair, all tied up in a zip bag with a silk bonnet on top. #TravelShyt #PassportAndPetty #SPFAndSecrets #DoNotDisturbMeSis #NotSwitchingSeatsEver #BidetsAndBonVoyages #AmexPlatinumPettiness #BonnetOverBae #TravelWithReceipts #FourFriendsMax

Fe hit LA for Kendrick Lamar and somehow ended up in VIP at SoFi watching SZA float around in what looked like a bedazzled adult diaper. Shayla was impressed by the sparkling floors, offended by Fe’s Crip Walk, and deeply unamused by the garlic shrimp. Then it got real: 🔹 An OnlyFans star claims she slept with 583 men in 6 hours—which is less “sex positive” and more “vaginal demolition derby.” We’ve got thoughts. And questions. Mostly questions. 🔹 Diddy’s trial is turning into Law & Order: Freak Unit. RICO charges, secret footage, NDAs, drugs, and allegations so messy even Zeus Network said “that’s too much.” 🔹 Shannon Sharpe’s prostate enters the chat. Apparently he still slangs it post-surgery—but is it love, lust, or radiation burns? 🔹 Passport Bros are out here importing more than memories. If “I love to travel” is in his bio, ask where, sis. If the answer is Medellín, DR, or Miami… wrap it up and run. 🔹 And yes—we’re at the point where Zoom sex feels like the safer option. At least you know your Wi-Fi status, even if his STI status is “don’t ask, don’t tell.” Also, Jelly the Cavapoo remains the most emotionally stable being on this show!!! #KendrickLamar #SZA #DiddyCase #OnlyFansMadness #SexPositiveProblems #ShannonSharpe #RealLifeShytPod #PassportBros #BlackGirlPodcastMagic #HotTakesAndHIVTests

What do Cinco de Mayo, flaky bad actors from the park, debt-ridden lovers, and Shannon Sharpe’s alleged thirst trap texts have in common? Absolutely nothing—but we’re talking about all of it. #RealLifeShyt #HeSaidHeDied #IMDBAndIck #DebtAndDesperation #IssaSaidIt #UglyManSyndrome #YOLOFriendDrama #ShannonSharpeMess #WeSaidWhatWeSaid

You know how sometimes you lose your keys...or your dignity? Well, we lost an entire episode. 😩 For MONTHS, this gem sat gathering dust in the digital abyss until Shay finally put on her tech cape, rescued it, and now — drumroll please — we’re dropping it as a bonus episode! Recorded on the final day of our Lisbon trip, we’re recapping it all: flamenco shows, beachside feasts, and why Felicia thinks graffiti is basically fine art. We talk lobster tacos, Porto adventures, and how Europe bullied Shay into becoming an acai bowl enthusiast. We also spill the real tea: how the hotel almost scammed us on a tour, how Felicia’s refusal to wear her glasses led to some "adventures," and how traveling together revealed exactly how we get on each other’s nerves . 😅 #BonusEpisode #LostAndFound #PodcastLife #SeasonFinaleVibes #TravelFails #SisterSquabbles #EuropeAdventures #LisbonLove #RealLifeShyt

Who's zooming who? Fe's roasting Shay for her zoom background.. from a Bumble date gone wrong to a deeper convo on the mental health crisis among men, shifting gender roles, and why dating apps might just be the real enemy. Plus: Michelle Obama, fake designer bags, and $100 million for fake space travel.

We're baaaack from our hiatus, and whew—2025 has been a mess ALREADY! Shay returned home to literal wildfires and blackout struggles, while Fe’s been dodging low iron, lost laptops, and shady scammers like a full-time sport. We get into America 2025 (it’s giving: confusing as hell), why watching the news on YouTube might make more sense than CNN, and whether the IRS is actually running a Ponzi scheme. Oh, and they both said they'd go to the Trump White House—strictly for research and toupee confirmation purposes. #RealLifeShyt #Season2WeBack #AmericaStillConfusing #PortugalPeacedOut #FriendsDontMixLikeDrinks

Join Shay and Fe as they ring in 2025 from the vibrant rooftops of Lisbon, Portugal! With glasses of tawny port in hand, they toast to a future filled with glow-ups, financial blessings, and global love stories. From epic meals in Porto to a hilariously disappointing African Lisbon tour (it involved an old school photo album and a tight rooftop), the duo explores the highs and lows of traveling while Black. They debate the comforts of finding community abroad, tackle the fashion game in Europe, and compare Christmas spirit across continents. #BlackTravelers #LisbonVibes #TravelWhileBlack #ExpatLife #NYE2025 #BlackGirlMagic #LuxuryTravelGoals #PodcastLovers #GlobalAdventures #CheersTo2025

Fe’s battling allergies so bad she’s got people side-eyeing her like she’s Patient Zero, and the ladies are trying to pack for their big trip without losing their minds. Did we mention there’s a Bridgerton-themed New Year’s Eve party on the table? Yep, that’s happening—ruffles optional. From Delta lounge snack hoarding to side-eyeing Jay-Z allegations, this episode is a mix of laughs, hot takes, and travel chaos. Plus, Fe reveals her secret weapon for surviving the airport and Shay has thoughts about Beyoncé’s life choices (hint: where’s the fun, sis?). Tune in for a rollercoaster ride of real talk, airline drama, and figuring out how to live your best Black girl life abroad. #RealLifeShytPod #PackingPanic #AppleChokehold #BridgertonVibes #BlackExpatsUnite #TravelFails #DeltaLoungeDiaries #BlackGirlMagic #LaughTillYouCry

This week on Real Life Sht*, Fe confesses to screening family calls to protect her peace. They both agree: this year, Thanksgiving was giving “leave me alone,” and they loved every second of it. Fe indulged in lobster mac and cheese, while Shayla said no to holiday invites and yes to a giant sub—proving that Thanksgiving doesn’t always require a full house and a turkey. The duo dives into Wicked, laughing at green babies and dissecting the drama between witches like it’s a family reunion fight. Shay sets up her first Christmas tree in years, sparking a hilarious debate over whether Christmas music is essential or overrated (spoiler: Shay thinks skipping Mariah makes you a terrorist). Things get real when they discuss whether you should weigh yourself every day—or ever. Shayla goes full Scorpio with her all-or-nothing approach, while Fe drops gems about why she stays scale-obsessed (and still fitting into her high school jeans). Sprinkle in some fitness accountability, a Black Friday scale debate, and a toxicologist’s warning about why we’re all basically 50% plastic, and you’ve got an episode that’s equal parts hilarious and eye-opening. They wrap up with plans for their big Christmas trip to Madrid and talk packing strategies—carry-on vs. full suitcase showdown. https://humehealth.com/pages/hume-body-pod?tw_source=google&tw_adid=721408094784&tw_campaign=21132161272&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAgoq7BhBxEiwAVcW0LH6p2kZcztMFGozHR1kIaKCr5ngF7ieAKrTGu15Fd0Wd08O4eTmvWxoCqeEQAvD_BwE #BlackGirlMagic #ThanksgivingTea #WickedAndWild #ScaleOrNah #TeamMariahCarey #ChristmasTreeChronicles #FitnessAndFunnies #PlasticFreeGoals #CarryOnDebates #TravelBlackGirls

Grab your plate and pull up a chair because this week, Felicia and Shayla are serving up laughs hotter than a fresh pan of mac and cheese. Felicia spills the tea on her Every Woman's Marathon experience, complete with pampered porta-potties, glittery runners, and—wait for it—sweaty men crashing the women-only event like uninvited guests at a cookout. (Y’all can’t even let us have this?!) Meanwhile, Shayla gears up for her first-ever hip-hop concert, and the two debate everything from Kendrick Lamar’s album to Thanksgiving food hierarchy (spoiler: casseroles didn’t make the cut). Throw in tips for sneaking leftovers, a side of unsolicited period memories, and their plan to dodge family drama this Thanksgiving, and you’ve got the perfect recipe for a good time. Your butt will thank you!!! - https://www.costco.com/toto-washlet-elongated-bidet-seat.product.100973005.html #SweatyMenRuinedIt #PamperedPortaPotties #ThanksgivingDrama101 #TeamSweetPotatoPie #ElasticPantsApproved #KendrickDebatesAndCasseroleHate #LeftoversLikeABoss #SasquatchAtTheStartLine #RealLifeShitTalk #TupperwareTactics

This episode is that convo you’ve been waiting to have with your HONEST homegirls who keep it real, but on a podcast. Trump’s back (yes, again), Kamala’s campaign fell apart, and we’re here give our versions of what happened. If you’re tired of cable news mess and need the real, unfiltered lowdown from two Black women who actually live this stuff, this episode is for you. We dive into the Dems’ biggest fumbles, why we think they lost the plot (and the voters), and why your pocketbook cares more about the economy than “woke” politics. It’s raw, it’s honest, and we’re calling out everyone—from Joe Biden’s fumbling to Kamala’s disappearing act. You’ll laugh, you might cringe, but you’ll definitely be nodding along like, “Yup, they’re saying what I’ve been thinking.” #ElectionRecap #RealTalk #PostElection2024 #TrumpWinsAgain #PoliticsUnfiltered #KamalaHarris #BlackWomenPodcasters #WokeVsBroke #TheRealLifeShit

Things get real on Episode 9. We're diving deep into election season—ballots, candidates, and the wild chaos that is American democracy. Both of us voted early and one of us dropped a political bombshell: we didn’t BOTH vote for Kamala. 😳 Yup! That's not a typo. Pssst... Black people police - A Black woman broke ranks, and we’re talking about it. What happens when the heart says one thing, but the ballot says another? From personal experiences with law enforcement to the battle between law and order vs. reform, we’re keeping it honest and unfiltered. Voting resources we use for non partisan info on ballot measures and candidates. Shay uses - https://laist.com/news/politics/voter-game-plan Fe uses - https://ballotpedia.org/Main_Page; and https://san.com/ #ElectionShock #BallotConfessions #KamalaOrNah #PoliticalDrama #RealTalkPolitics #SundayPodLife #BallotBreakdown #LawAndOrderDebate #VotingWhileBlack #DemocracyUnplugged

These days, it seems like every conversation eventually turns into a race debate. From who’s getting the promotion to who’s just a DEI hire. Suddenly everything’s a social justice issue. In this episode, Shay and Fe dive into the hilarious (and sometimes ridiculous) reality of when race is a real factor and when, honestly, it’s just an excuse. Ever felt like you're the only Black girl in a room full of white people and they still won’t say “Black”? Yep, we’ve been there. Is PC culture making things better or just making everyone too scared to talk? We’re breaking it all down! When it comes to race why being handled with kid gloves isn’t doing anybody any favors. Plus, we dig into why your Black business needs to be more than just “Black-owned”—it needs to be well run, and YOU need to be ready to actually DO business.

Happy Monday, fam! We’re here to kick off a brand new week with some real-life shyt, and this time, we're recording on a Monday—because life be lifing, and Sundays just weren't enough. Fe ran her first Black AF marathon in ATL, complete with black bands, majorettes, and a whole lot of community love. But guess what? Her foot didn’t survive as smoothly as she did—so we're sending it to therapy! Meanwhile, Shay talks about big work transitions and how much emotional energy goes into saying goodbye to a job—even when you’re the one who chose to leave. Ever feel like leaving a job is like a breakup? Yeah, that’s where we’re at. Oh, and did we mention how expensive kids are? Spoiler: they’re coming in at a cool $300K. Listen in as we talk about the art of keeping in touch with friends, navigating goodbyes, and why sometimes, it’s okay to just go on that 24-hour road trip to hug the people you love. #RealLifeShyt #RunBlack #GoodbyeVibes #LifeBalance #HealthJourney #SingleAndStrong #SayingGoodbye #SelfCareGoals #CostOfKids #EmotionalMarathon

Surprise! We blinked, and suddenly it's episode 6. This week, Shay and Fe are up early (way too early) for some real-life reflection. We kick off with a little fitness talk, but the heart of this episode is all about navigating the complex, often toxic world of the entertainment industry as women. From the latest catalyst—Diddy's fallout—to the deeper issues of power dynamics, exploitation, and the uphill battles women face in this male-dominated space. We’re unpacking how the system keeps so many stuck. Whether it's leveraging beauty for success or the pressure to stay silent in a room full of "industry giants," we’re keeping it real about what it takes to survive and thrive in a culture that was never built for us. #RealLifeShyt #SurvivingTheIndustry #EntertainmentExposed #BreakingTheSystem #WomenInEntertainment #PowerDynamics #ToxicCulture #IndustryLowlifes #NavigatingTheIndustry #PodcastWithPurpose

"Y’all, it’s been a hot minute, but we're back like we never left! 🌟 After a little hiatus (blame Shay, she was globe-trotting or whatever), they’re catching up on everything. From cussing out the HOA (Fe don’t play!) to breaking down why the Feds are out here messing with the interest rates. Plus, Shay's back from living her best life in Italy, but her stomach? Not so much. 😂 She’s got pro tips, travel mishaps (hint: Ryanair ain’t it), and why global entry is the real MVP. If you need the deets on how to travel like a boss (or what NOT to do), this one’s for you. #RealLifeShyt #TeaTime #TravelDrama #BlackGirlMagic #GlobalEntryIsBae #MoneyMoves #ProTipAlert #CatchFlightsNotFeelings #HOADrama #SisPayYourBills

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On this week's episode of "Real Life Shyt," Fe and Shay hilariously debate whether it's better to live a wild life and die happy or #liveforever in a dull, AI-controlled bubble thanks to Bryan Johnson's Blueprint. https://blueprint.bryanjohnson.com/?srsltid=AfmBOortSEXyrPYtp9t1P5ofkrO2uOAmY62ftXPtnOW7ns3V0vOSn0Qd Fe takes aim at Queen Bey, questioning if anyone really needs her whiskey. Spoiler: We definitely don’t. And Shay keeps it real, admitting her middle-class vagina just can’t justify pricey sex toys!

In this thought-provoking episode, Shay and Fe get real about one of the biggest life decisions: having kids—or not. They explore the doubts, the what-ifs, and the social pressures that come with choosing a child-free life. Did they make the right choice? Or are they just one steps away from becoming those “childless cat ladies” people are talking about (looking at you, JD Vance)? But don’t worry—they’re excellent plant moms and dog moms, so their babies just happen to have fur and leaves. With candid conversations, plenty of laughs, and some deep introspection, Shay and Fe dive into the pros and cons of living life without little ones, offering listeners a fresh perspective on a question many grapple with. Get ready for a raw and honest discussion that’s as relatable as it is enlightening. #ChildFreeLife #LifeChoices #DogMomLife #PlantMom #ChildlessByChoice #RealTalkAboutKids #LivingChildFree #CandidConversations #ProsAndCons #LifeWithoutKids

In this lively debut episode, Shay and Fe dive into the age-old saying "Black don't crack" and what it really means to embrace your age with pride. They discuss the pressures of lying about your age, why it’s time to stop, and share some hilarious stories of times when they got away with (or didn’t!) fudging the truth. With their signature mix of humor and real talk, Shay and Fe remind us all that aging is a privilege, and looking fabulous at any age is just the icing on the cake!