RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

Today Patrick discusses the importance of connection through recovery. It's not just going to group, it's being proactive in reaching out. Your recovery is your responsibility which means that in order to build these relationships, you also need to initiate, be consistent, and utilize the connection and friendships before an emergency arises.   Patrick shares some of his personal experiences and the benefits of getting perspective from others who can encourage you through this process.   Patricks recommendations: Set a regular schedule Connect weekly (if not more) Be proactive and take initiative Reach out when you feel good (don't skip it) Reach out when you need support Take ownership of your behaviors and accept the natural consequences Encourage your betrayed partner to get the support and connection they need    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

In this week's episode Kylene is discussing why a betrayed partner may not want to be touched after discovery. There are many reasons a betrayed partner may struggle with touch or physical intimacy after discovering infidelity in their relationship - Kylene walks through several reasons and highlights the importance of safety as the foundation of moving forward.   Check out these previous episodes about sexand intinmacy: Episode 53- Rebuilding trust After betrayal: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000648185653   Episode 54: Sex Through Recovery - Year 1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000649141817   Episode 55: Establishing True Intimacy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000649843594   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

Today's episode is about modesty - should we focus on it? Should we even have "modesty standards?"    We discuss how focusing on this is focusing on the wrong thing and actually keeps people stuck. When we focus on a micro point instead of a macro value and then try to project it onto others as their responsibility to follow it in order for me to be healthy, we are missing the mark.   Alternatively - what does healing and freedom really look like? What if we raise a new generation of children who are taught how to value themselves and others? This shift can prevent and resolve many issues just by learning how to love ourselves and love others.   Previous episodes that are similar: Episode 127: noticing vs Arousal: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000720874791   Episode 128: Is attraction the same as lusting?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000721175129   Episode 138:  Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000731965520   ***   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources 

In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss the strategy of crowding out the "bad" with the good. Whenever you want to change habits or patterns they recommend using 3 steps:   1) Identify the change that needs to be made (what are you temping, adding in or changing?)   2) Take some time to identify what that current thing or pattern offers you (Is it stability? Comfort? Distraction?)   3) Replace the old habit with a new habit that offers the same thing or better.   Whether it's hanging our diet, recovering from addiction or healing from trauma, the patterning is the same. One of the things we often miss when changing our habits is step 2- identifying what the habit offers us. This is key to understanding why we keep going back to it.   Episode 67 where talk about the Faster Scale: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000658758308   Episode 69 where we discuss the 3 circles tool: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000660296518   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

In today's episode, Kylene has guest Tyler Patrick on as he discusses what the recovery process for sex and pornography addicts looks like. He takes a principle based approach that moves individuals beyond focusing on sobriety and into a deeper focus on transforming their lives into people of integrity and authenticity so they can live lives of true freedom.   We hope you will check out his great work with the links below: https://risingson.us/ https://www.therapybrothers.org     If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In this week's episode Kylene and Patrick walk through 4 things important for a betrayed partner to focus on shortly after discovering their partner has been unfaithful. Then they walk through 4 things that we often *want* to focus on or feel obligated to focus on, but may not be beneficial to your healing early on.   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

In this week's episode Kylene is discussing several areas where the end of a spectrum can be unhealthy when we sit there too long in our recovery journey. She explores the opposite sides of unhealth and shares how truth, healing and freedom is usually in the nuanced middle.   See visual summary notes from todays episode: https://canva.link/ntp2ynqpk2dkuir   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

In this week's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss how important having a vision, plan and goal is. When you hit relational roadblocks along the way, how do you know when it's time to push through vs when to change plans?   The recovery journey will be hard. There will be roadblocks, hurdles, emotional triggers along the way... how do you know when it's healthy to push to through? When do you know it's worth the effort? And when do you know that after the time already given, it's time to move on?   We hope this episode helps you think through these things on your own journey...   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In this weeks episode Kylene and Patrick are talking about 7 phrases used through healing and recovery that are beneficial and true, AND can be misapplied or misinterpreted to hinder healing.   See how these statements... You can’t control your partners recovery  Healing isn't linear turns into  Boundaries are about how you respond-  Addiction is a trauma response  Forgiveness is good for the person who forgives  I’m trusting God  The enemy is attacking me  can be true.... or can be slowing you down in your recovery journey. As always, take what works for you and delete the rest. We hope this podcast offers some food for thought as you continue your healing journey!    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick are answering a listener's question regarding male brains. Are they really that different from female brains? Can they really not help themselves? Can they CHANGE?    They share how no, male female brains are not really different, however, societal shaping HAS treated men differently than women. When we are taught that this is just "normal" and "boys will be boys" they are not taught self control but instead are taught an activated way of viewing women that is unhealthy. Can they change? Absolutely. Listen to this episode to hear Kylene and Patrick break this down.   You may also enjoy our previous episodes: 127 Noticing vs Arousal: When is attraction too much?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000720874791   Episode 128 BONUS: Is Attraction the same as Lusting?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000721175129   Article that Kylene mentioned in this episode regarding the meta-analysis:  https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/men-not-more-visual-or-easily-aroused-than-women-research-shows   f  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

Marcy Middleton is currently working on her undergraduate degree in Applied Psychology with a minor in Biblical Studies. She serves as the Sexual Formation Deacon along with her husband at her home church in Bend, Oregon. She has led in-person groups at her home church for 3 years and also loves helping lead worship as a volunteer.   In today's episode Marcy shares talks about mid recovery. That place after discovery, after safety where couples begin to reintegrate their lives and relationship - where communication and rebuilding trust is crucial and.....where many people get...stuck.     She shares how and why people can hit points of stagnation in their recovery and healing journeys and some important things to keep in mind to keep your health, life and relationship moving forward (like having a clear vision and goal, and learning healthy conflict!)   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

In today's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss the idea of choosing the life you live. So much of our choices are made subconsciously by programs running in the background that have been created in our life through family systems, painful moments, and our brains trying to make sense out of life...   Healing means identifying the patterns and consciously choosing the patterns we want to keep or release and making decisions about who we want to be and what we want to consciously bring into your lives moving forward.    In today's episode they offer examples as well as offering 3 questions to help you think through your goals moving forward:   What are the things I want to bring into my life  Are there any steps I can take not to move toward some of those things - sometimes that means starting to say no to relationships that are more draining than energizing - changing a job- adding a hobby, taking a lesson - trying a new workout - setting up friend dates  What is my values list that I can use to when I feel conflicted to help me make decisions 

This week Patrick takes some time to reflect on recovery, parenting, and Keegan's graduation. There are so many gifts that deep recovery work gives you including better relationships with yourself, with your children and with others. Kylene and Patrick are so appreciative of the work they have done that has increased emotional maturity, communication, and safety within relationships. We wish that same gift for you though this process.   Book - Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: https://a.co/d/08JhLXTO    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In todays episode Kylene answers listener submitted questions and discusses things like:   What's the role of the betrayed partner? What level of guardrails should we set up- should the betrayed partner have access to all the passwords? What are the empathy and restitution letters?  What if the addict is doing the "right things" but feels resentful?  If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Sheila Gregoire is the author of 11 books including the Great Sex Rescue and The Marriage You Want. She hosts the Bare Marriage podcast and you can connect with her and her resources at https://baremarriage.com   A few things we discuss in todays episode:   Sheilas statement in her book "The Marriage you want" - 'The problem with sex in Christian relationships isn't so much the absence of good teaching; it's the presence of bad teaching" What should sex in marriage be The messages women receive that even when their husband is doing something wrong, the wife can solve it herself by praying harder or being a better wife Women shocked by betrayal from porn or infidelity being labeled codependent versus traumatized victims The role of pastors versus professionals and how can we get better messaging into the church What should a Christian marriage really be/feel like?      Find her books here: https://baremarriage.com/books-2/   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In this episode Kylene shares her history of body image issues, how she has chosen to work towards radically accepting herself at everyone, and what that looks like in terms of her thinking and mindsets around aging.    Image and comparison is a common trigger for many betrayed partners. We hope this episode is encouraging and reminds you that you are valuable, worthy and beautiful exactly as you are!    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

ADHD may impact you, your partner or your coupleship in the recovery journey. In today's episode Kylene talks about ADHD in general, how ADHD may impact the addict in recovery, how ADHD may impact the betrayed partner through recovery and of course, what are some things to consider that may be supportive for the recovery journey if you have ADHD.    Free ADHD in Recovery PDF based on this episode here: https://canva.link/3t797b9fsrdkg79   If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Recovery resources can range from free to being comparable to the down payment of a home. In today's episode we highlight the recommended steps towards healing and how each can be utilized with various budgets - even FREE!    FREE DOWNLOAD with todays episode: https://canva.link/dfsa8m7g7w0ni3g   What's MORE important than the money you spend, is where your heart and priorities lie in relation to the recovery journey.   Your situation is unique to you - we are hoping to province some food for thought on how to make recovery work for you!    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In today's episode, Patrick discusses why betrayed partners feel so hurt by the betrayal.    If  would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Marriage is a (hopefully) lifelong commitment to partnering with another human, sharing space with their nervous system and navigating life's challenges together. In today's episode we share some questions we think are really important to consider when deciding if you are ready to make that commitment.   If you would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In today’s episode Patrick shares how life feels different since he’s been in recovery. He appreciates the little things, enjoys life, and feels so much more calm navigating the day to day.    We believe that everyone is capable of achieving recovery and we share episodes like this as encouragement for what a fulfilled life can look like when we put in the work.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Shame is often discussed in a way that may be easy to label it as "bad". But just like every other emotion, shame isn't inherently wrong and it exists for a purpose. In today's episode, we share some thoughts around the emotion of shame, when it serves a beneficial purpose, and when it can become unhelpful. We also explore what deeper levels of healing may be available beyond simply trying to resist feeling shame.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

In this week's episode Kylene talks about the difference between a desire to control vs setting healthy boundaries. She often sees betrayed partners struggle to set boundaries from a fear of being too controlling.    Today she breaks down the difference, offers some examples, and encourages youtube use your voice and reach out for support when you need it!    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

In today’s Episode Patrick shares the healing advice that he finds himself sharing most often with men who want deeper recovery in their lives. Including: The greatest gifts you can give to your loved ones is the most healed version of yourself Take Responsibility  Your betrayed spouse is not required to hold your emotions This process is a long one Read the book Unwanted by Jay Stringer Use the tools provided You can’t microwave yourself to success   Unwanted by Jay Stringer: https://a.co/d/018CcrPJ   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Trigger Warning: This episode mentions child on child sexual abuse, child sexual absue material, and the duggar family scandals. Please listen with awareness. We live in a sexually broken world. It seems like we are hearing new scandals breaking weekly where an adult has harmed children or a child has been hurt by another child.  Today we are exploring how negative beliefs, often within extremely rigid faith culture, can contribute to negative patterns. We then discuss alternatives that we suggest may be a healthier alternative for how to prep and support our children to having healthier relationships to sexuality within themselves and others. Some previous episodes we have recorded that may be supportive in relation to this topic:   Ep 142: Protecting Your Child's Innocence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000736403150 Ep 138: Where Modesty Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000731965520 Ep 79: How to talk to your kids about sex: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000668310201 “As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.” God Made All of Me book: https://a.co/d/0aYqxTBg   Body Boundaries Make Me Stronger: https://a.co/d/06PHRa5b      If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  

Raquell Barton helps moms move through the divorce process with power, peace, and preparedness, so they can maximize what they get and minimize stress, while they rebuild a future that’s better than before. Sometimes divorce IS the healthy choice. Just like all things in life, we need support. Raquel is here to support you as you navigate the process. Learn more at www.herdivorceacademy.com  Follow her on threads: @Herdivorceacademy      If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:  https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course     Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources    

We all see people who transform their lives over time. What are the mindsets that help them accomplish these big changes? In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss 5 healing mindsets that set you up for success and growth.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com   Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources  --   To your health, Kylene Terhune Betrayal Recovery Coach Host of RecoverU podcast FDN-P, Master NLP life coach, Master QTT practitioner   Are you a betrayed partner? Join my free FB group RecoverU here

We all use coping mechanisms sometimes. To escape, to offer some distraction or to feel more calm. Coping mechanisms aren't always inherently bad - but they CAN be when they cause distress, don't solve the problem or avoid providing us with the real solution to a problem.   In todays episode, Kylene discusses how coping mechanisms show up, how to identify what they offer, and think through replacements that are more beneficial.    Free Habit transformation template PDF: https://www.canva.com/design/DAHC5rgrKvg/9MDqDOmajKEtC9ZWpHPuuw/view?utm_content=DAHC5rgrKvg&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h7da8f0b86b   Supplements for Addict: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-kylene-terhune-1531288982-addiction-recovery-support   Supplements for Betrayed Partner: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-kylene-terhune-1531288982-addiction-recovery-support   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene go to www.RecoverUcoaching.com for more information!    Sign up for the What’s NEXT online course for betrayed partners HERE: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

Betrayed partners are left spinning after discovering their life isn't what they thought it was. The What's NEXT online, self-led, course is designed to walk you through the foundational steps to help you create safety and stability after discovering your partner is a sex/porn addict or has had an affair.   This course provides you with real life tangible tools that help you: Connect to safe providers Support your body through the stress and emotions Prepare for things like disclosure  Set healthy boundaries  and so much more...   What's NEXT?! is available to purchase here: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course   Don't hesitate to reach out to Kylene with any questions!    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene go to www.RecoverUcoaching.com for more information!    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Whether you are navigating a divorce, or know someone who might be, Olivia offers support before during and after.  On today’s episode she shares how navigating her divorce kickstarted an idea for a divorce registry and how since then it has turned into a full service divorce business offering FREE resources to those who need support.   Even if YOU are not navigating divorce, we hope you’ll give this episode a listen in case there is anyone in your life that could use this resource!   Olivia Howell is a nationally recognized divorce educator, visionary founder, clinical hypnotherapist, and the CEO and co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry, the premier expert-led divorce support network. Through Fresh Starts, she provides access to vetted experts, divorce registries, educational resources, and a robust media ecosystem designed to guide people through the emotional, financial, and logistical realities of starting over — all with trauma-informed care at the center.     Website: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ Instagram: @oliviahowell and @freshstartsregistry TikTok: @oliviahowell   ***   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene go to www.RecoverUcoaching.com for more information!    Sign up for the What’s NEXT online course for betrayed partners HERE: https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick answer a listener's question about what they can expect when it comes to their partner treating them more kindly as they navigate recovery. If the selfish behavior is related to their trauma, can we expect that behavior to change?    Check out the brand new website: www.recoverucoaching.com    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this episode Kylene and Patrick are celebrating 5 years in recovery! They are sharing their thoughts about surprises in recovery, grief through recovery, and advice they would retroactively give themselves.    We hope this episode brings hope and encouragement to you on your healing journey!    If you would like to see Patrick's Moments of Grace: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1CvhNCr4T2/   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this final part of the "now what?" series, Kylene and Patrick discuss what steps a coupleship can take when moving towards recovery or reconciliation after betrayal.   This includes, establishing safety, increasing and improving communication, engaging in the tools we have covered in the past 3 episodes, and giving it the time needed. Healing takes time, and the brain and nervous system need time to pass to believe that safety is real.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today's episode is a continuation of last week's episode supporting a betrayed partner immediately after discovery. Last week we focused on tangible action steps like connecting to a specialized coach or therapist and setting early boundaries.    This week, we are discussing mental, emotional and relational things to think through early on after discovery including having compassion on your emotional parts in grieving this traumatic experience and giving yourself time to gather the information you need.   Sobriety vs Recovery episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode we discuss the initial steps a betrayed partner can take to create stability and begin the first steps of recovery.    We discuss why locking everything down can be helpful, and why it's important to connect with others whether it's friends or professionals to support you through your healing journey.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today’s episode kicks off our 3-part “Now What?!” series, starting with the addict: You’ve been discovered. You’ve been found out. Now what do you do? In this episode, we walk through tangible first steps—who to connect with, how to begin your sobriety journey, and why facing the hard things head-on is essential for long-term healing and health. We also explore early relational dynamics. If you’re entering recovery while hoping to repair a relationship, there are key mindsets and behaviors that can either build trust—or further damage it. We break down what truly supports healing in these early stages. Recovery is possible. And in this episode, we share the steps that those who find lasting recovery consistently take. Sobriety vs Recovery ep: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277   Getting Started Resources:  https://www.canva.com/design/DAGdxcXQ7ao/o5u9mYKFqkrZHBW1DIQTyQ/view?utm_content=DAGdxcXQ7ao&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h0c8eacefa3   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode, Patrick and Kylene share why creating a vision is so important, offering some examples of how that helped them in their recovery journey as well as offering you reflections and questions to ask yourself as you begin creating your own life vision.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Merry Christmas all! We are so thankful for each and everyone one of you and wish you a joyous holiday season filled with love, laughter and peace.   In today's episode, we kept it brief, sharing some unexpected and positive outcomes of recovery that we never expected. We hope this offers some encouragement as you continue on your own journeys.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Creating new, positive habits is a key piece of successful recovery. In today's episode, Patrick shares thoughts on the importance of consistency as well as sharing tools,resources and tips on how to stay consistent through the inevitable ups and downs of life.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Daily Tools for Sobriety Series - RecoverU episodes 67-71 Customizable Productivity Planner ( what Kylene uses): https://www.papier.com/us/stationery/daily-productivity-planners/ Better Every Day Journal: https://www.insidethenout.com/products/better-every-day-journal 5 Year Journal: https://www.levenger.com/products/5-year-journal Full Focus Planner: https://fullfocusstore.com If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In this week's episode, Kylene is discussing what are some signs that you are in a safe and healthy relationship? She shares conversations that exemplify safety, as well as offering examples from her relationship with Patrick.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

A podcast listener asked Kylene to share more on the challenge of feeling compared to other women and the feeling of not being chosen after betrayal.    Kylene shares her personal story and methods she used to move towards a place of feeling chosen both by herself and by Patrick.   She shares: She first had to choose herself  How she utilized tools like therapy, EMDR and subconscious reprogramming to help her healing process and address specific triggers How Patricks choices were supportive to her recovery   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today's episode, Kylene speaks with Ron Rhea about his book, "The Grounded Liberation Method". They walk through his 10 root method, discussing why mindfulness and connection are important and the gifts that facing your emotions and shadows can offer in life.   Grounded Liberation Book: https://books.by/ron-rhea-ii   Work with Ron: https://stan.store/TempleBuildingCoaching   Follow Ron on IG: @temple.building.coaching   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today’s episode, Patrick interviews me (Kylene) and asks me questions about my experience as a betrayed partner.    Some things we discuss are:   What was discovery like for me How was I able to express my emotions What were things that Patrick did that were helpful or hurtful What do I wish all addicts knew Why vulnerable conversations are so important   And more…     We hope that this episode both resonates. My story isn’t your story, but I know there are many aspects that may feel similar.   One thing I share in this episode is how intensely long, difficult and painful this journey was for me. We can’t sugar coat that reality. But what we also hope to communicate, is that  through the healing process there can be something better on the other side. Whether a couple stays together or goes separate ways, healing offers us an opportunity to create a life we enjoy.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

We live in a sex saturated world. It's an unfortunate reality that children are getting exposed to inappropriate materials earlier and earlier. As parents, it's our job to guide our children and protect them to the best of our ability.   One of the best ways we can do this is by having open and honest conversations with them around sex, sexuality and pornography early, and often. But how can we do this in age appropriate ways?   In this episode we are sharing specific concepts and ideas to communicate to your children as well as navigating which types of topics and conversations to have at which ages..   We also mentioned several podcast episodes and resources and those are listed below!   "Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000731965520   "How to talk to your Kids about sex" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000668310201     Books: *As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.*   God made all of me: https://amzn.to/4p2msHN    Good pictures bad pictures Jr: https://amzn.to/4p5Mdac   Good pictures bad pictures: https://amzn.to/4qSSQhw   How to talk to your kids about sex: https://amzn.to/3XiNkHx   The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: https://amzn.to/47PjQ90   Education:   The parent training course from pure desire: https://puredesire.org/shop/parent-training-course-equipping-parents-to-have-conversations-with-their-kids-about-sex/     Kristen Miele’s Sed Ed Reclaimed: https://www.sexedreclaimed  

This week we are discussing 4 myths (that we think keep people stuck) in the recovery community.  Patrick and I deeply believe in our mission to bring education and awareness around recovery because we know the freedom in your life that it can bring.    That being said, there are several beliefs in the recovery and faith communities that we see keeping people from reaching their full potential in life.    4 myths we discuss today: 1. Your suffering is holy 2. Anyone who wants to lead a recovery group should (even if they aren't in recovery) 3. Addiction is permanent  4. Women can't have autonomy in marriage   In contrast to the above, we believe in: 1. Personal responsibility and boundaries 2. Lead by example 3. Addiction is reversible and you can achieve full freedom from it 4. Men and women are equal in marriage some we both lead each other in different areas   Additional episodes you may like based on todays’ content:   Sobriety vs Recovery:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277     Forgiveness: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000629370575   We hope this episode is encouraging and shines a light on the possibilities of true health.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

In today’s episode, Kylene opens up about her personal healing journey—sharing some of her painful experiences with the church, moments of struggle in her faith, and how finding a safe and supportive community became a crucial part of her recovery. She also explores the importance of connection—connection to self, to others, and to God—and why cultivating these three areas is essential for betrayed partners on the path to healing.   Episodes/Topics mentioned in today's episode: Self worth vs Self confidence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000708437532   Intrusive Thoughts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011   Kylene's story of divorce: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000643643605     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

What is it that makes some people successful in sex or porn addiction recovery? There are several key commitments/mindsets/beliefs that all individuals who get into recovery share and we are breaking them down in today's episode.    1. They want recovery (intrinsic motivation) 2. They commit to honesty no matter the cost 3. They are willing to get uncomfortable to the point of sacrifice 4. They Understand it's a long term commitment  5. If married, they own it and take responsibility for the impact    We notice that everyone who recovers shares these ways of thinking and behaving. If you are a betrayed partner, these are good landmarks to look out for when you are wondering if recovery is real.   You may also want to listen to previous episodes:   Sobriety vs Recovery (ep 96): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277   Choosing your Identity in Recovery (ep 7): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000606456712   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Modesty is a good thing right? But what if the messaging around modesty keeps individuals stuck and instead of protecting people, actually causes harm?   In today’s episode Kylene and Patrick discuss why they think that the pornography culture and modesty culture have the same end impact —> that is,  communicating that humans are objects.   We know this is a sticky topic and one that involves deeply rooted faith culture, personal conviction and more. We encourage you to listen to this episode with open hearts.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

Today's guest is Kaija Dawn, a relationship coach specializing in sacred intimacy, nervous system regulation, and relationship energetics.    She shares her personal story and together she and Kylene discuss making difficult choices, learning to trust yourself through the process, and feeling vs intellectualizing decisions.    You can find Kaia on Instagram @iamkaijadawn and her podcast: The Woman Behind it All Listen to the episode where she interviewed Kylene here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/041-repair-boundaries-and-healing-after-betrayal-in/id1770275741?i=1000726891473   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

After discovery, a betrayed partner is left trying to make sense of a reality that suddenly feels upside down. Moments and symbols once filled with joy -like wedding photos, anniversaries, rings - can now feel heavy and confusing. In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal approach to some of these difficult moments. They explore the emotions these events bring up from both perspectives, and reflect on the different choices other couples may make as they move through their own recovery journeys.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune