Ruwando Podcast

How she feels around you is a reflection of how you feel inside.Many men dissociate from their unconscious in order to meet the needs of the relationship and family. And then get confused as to why the wife is less happy the more he sacrifices.She's picking up on the state of your unconscious. Your Anima.Ep 219 covered her side of Jung's Quaternity. This episode covers yours--the Anima.Article version: https://ruwando.substack.com/p/women-are-soul-detectorsNeed help with your relationship? Fill this out and I'll get back to you: https://ruwando.com/relationship-fix Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Most fatherhood advice sucks. It's often coded for political stock characters.A few years ago, expecting my daughter, I made a running doc of fatherhood lessons I was picking up while researching for my History Of Man podcast.A family is a micronation. Therefore, a father is a nationbuilder.This is Part 1 of a new series.Article version: https://ruwando.substack.com/p/how-to-patriarch-your-family-a-micronation(To catch Parts 2-5 make sure you're subscribed)Are you a married father who could use help thriving in your marriage? Fill out this form and I'll give you my personal feedback:https://ruwando.com/relationship-fixMy Masculine Archetype Challenge comes with a free 1hr coaching session with me:https://ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

If you often oscillate between opposites:You’re too hard or too soft.Overconfident one day. Self-doubting the next.It may come down to your Father Wound…In Campbell’s Monomyth, the hero’s journey begins in leaving the Status Quo—the metaphorical home of your father.The hero (your ego) seeks out a mentor, or Secondary Father, to fill in the gaps of your masculinity left by your upbringing.This can be seen in the types of men you’re drawn to…Most men’s personal development stops there.But that’s not the end of the journey.Psychologically, it just marks the end of adolescence.Hence a generation of self-improvement junkies who are still bogged down by internal conflict.There’s a later stage on the Hero’s Journey that marks the end of this conflict: Atonement to the Father.Evolutionarily this pegs to adulthood. Becoming father yourself.I happened to record this episode a year into fatherhood. (2023.)I’ve learned things since then. I’ll be sharing them next week.This episode still holds up. It covers:* The synthesis of your primary vs. secondary fathers in your masculinity* The Prodigal Son parable deeper meaning* Making peace with past and dad (if only internally)New series on fatherhood lessons from history coming next week!Make sure you’re on the list: https://ruwando.substack.com/Are you a father who wants to succeed in relationship and business? Message me. I have a new program for married dads.The 21 Day Masculine Archetype Challenge comes with a free 1hr coaching session with me:https://ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Each of us have a Master and Slave archetype within us. They represent two opposite ways of evaluating reality, and therefore making decisions. The more you operate from Master Morality, the more true you are being to your nature as a man.I break down Nietzsche's concept of Nobility here and how it relates to male biology, modern society, and expressing yourself as a man. This was originally recorded 5 years ago while I was awaiting the birth of my daughter. (I edited out the time-references though.)Archetype Challenge (comes with a free coaching session with me): ruwando.com/archetypeText of this post (and my newsletter) ruwando.substack.com(History of Man podcast which I mention in this episode is there too.) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

You've been here before: She's upset and talking nonsense.Every male instinct in you wants to correct her contradictions (and prove YOU are right). It's a trap.Uncle Carl offers us a better mental model that makes all the nonsense make sense.Understanding it will help you 1) neutralizing her arguments, 2) handling her unconscious so that future arguments are less necessary.And be the Happy Genius of Your Household.Text version: ruwando.substack.comBtw, if you could some help in your relationship, fill out this form and I'll personally respond with my take:ruwando.com/relationship-fix Other stuff:Anabolic Psyche (hack brain chemistry)Masculine Archetype Challenge Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Your social brain "thinks" that if you are extra hard on yourself it will motivate you to do better.But the opposite is true: The more you make yourself feel bad, the more you unconsciously do things to justify bad feelings.Shame kills your mojo more than anything else. Kills performance. Disconnects you from your instincts and "soul."This episode is on freeing yourself from shame considering:* Evolutionary basis of this social emotion.* Why self-shaming backfires. (Transactional Analysis)* A simple but profound solution from the “Father of modern therapy,” Dr. Carl Rogers.ruwando.substack.comAnabolic Psyche course: go.anabolicpsyche.com (see Dopamine Detox add-on)If you're a married father who needs help in relationship, fill out this form and I'll help you out:https://ruwando.com/relationship-fix Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

"Men's Personal Development" wasn't a thing even one generation ago. It became so due to shifts in culture and technology. It also is a lens on the changes in male collective consciousness.This episode analyzes the 4 recent iterations of men's work--culturally, psychologically, and technologically-- and what it says about where male psychology is headed.Article version: https://ruwando.substack.com/p/evolution-of-mens-personal-developmentMasculine Archetype Challenge: ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

After a weird COVID relationship, a friend lent me a copy of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.While dated in terms of style, I was shocked at how useful it was 20 years later.I was also surprised that John had a lot to say about semen retention when I interviewed him.Little did I know, he has a deeply spiritual (and sexual) past.On that note, you can get Arousal Control Mastery (normally $497) for free if you take and complete the Anabolic Psyche mini-course within a timeframe. https://go.anabolicpsyche.com/Reposting this one, as I'm preparing a new episode on the Evolution of Men's Personal Development: Transformation of the Male Unconscious, where I reference 90's self-help.Stay tuned! Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Is there a formula for getting your way (with people or circumstances)?In my experience, there are certain qualities that make someone particularly magnetic in this sense.I draw an actionable metaphor from the physics formula for literal magnetism,Get the text version with breakdown and summary at ruwando.substack.comAnabolic Psyche 2.0: go.anabolicpsyche.com + Get my Arousal Control program for free (if you complete Anabolic Psyche.) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Patrick was in a dark place when met—ultra Nice Guy submissive tendencies, deep feelings of undeservingness, enmeshing Mother Complex, and acting out with p*rn and prostitutes.Six months later, his life reflected massive transformation—epic dating life, greater respect at work, and feelings of deservedness.We recorded this about a year after when he chose to settle down with his now wife. (I had also just had my first child.) We discuss male transformation and stepping into the “King” archetype.He also shares about what led to his rapid transformation:“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up”Here’s another favorite from some years ago. New stuff coming in 2026, including the new improved Anabolic Psyche course 2.0. (If you already purchased it, you’ve automatically got the upgrades + a secret bonus.)10:00 How to choose to settle down in the most empowering way.13:50 Effort vs. Flow in masculinity16:21 False persona vs. real Self30:05 We’re drawn to people who have what (think) we lack.40:00 Rising into the King archetypePatrick started his journey with the Masculine Archetype Challenge. Still comes with a complementary 1:1 coaching session with me, though I will discontinuing that soon because…This January, I’m opening a group coaching container for men get in touch with their instincts to get massive results with women and purpose.It will also be much more affordable than my 1:1 coaching.But for now it will ONLY be available to guys who’ve already taken Anabolic Psyche (pre-req).So join the new improved Anabolic Psyche to be notified: go.anabolicpsyche.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Dropping an old favorite in honor of my anniversary today.How to Help Her Into Her Feminine covers what a man can do to help a woman move from her competitive (“masculine”) self to her interdependent (“feminine”) self.It draws on some fringe lessons from BDSM, evolutionary biology, and case studies from many guys I’ve helped.I recorded it shortly after our daughter was born. I wonder if you can hear the drop in testosterone in my voice.(00:00:00): Irony of Attraction Shifts(00:04:53): If Mama Ain’t Happy…(00:10:54): Asymmetry + Connection Yin-Yang(00:18:03): Concentric Circles Hierarchy(00:27:47): Women’s Dual Stress(00:39:03): Demonstrate, Don’t Demand(00:43:40): Vision as LeaderLots of new stuff coming in 2026! Subscribe to catch it free at: Ruwando.substack.comHack your brain chemistry: go.anabolicpsyche.comArchetype Challenge: ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The literal need to "protect and provide" is mostly obsolete in modern day. But women still desire to be contained when it comes to emotions, and to large degree, perceptions.One of the huge differences between committed and not-so-committed relationships is the man's role in directing reality. Only then can a woman really feel her feelings, be present, be in her feminine.It’s about a man’s role in containing a woman’s reality—All the heady, but sometimes necessary, parts of life that prevent her from being in the now, feeling her feelings, femininity…I call this the Spiritual Perimeter. (As opposed the the basic Material Perimeter.)Women want a man who is sure of what he’s doing more than whether or not he’s actually right... A woman will forgive you if you’re wrong.* 00:00: Intro to truth in relationships* 01:33: Symmetrical vs. asymmetrical dynamics* 05:16: Defining the spiritual perimeter* 12:58: Unifying reality through respect* 26:40: Passing shit and comfort tests* 35:31: Vision to prevent stagnation* 46:42: Leading as one unitGet the next post in your inbox. Free chapters of my next book ANIMA for subs only. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

When I was 23, I fell in love with a drug addict. She was sexy and interesting. But more than that, she was WILD. If my life was a movie, she was cast as the Manic Pixie Dream Girl—the adolescent male fantasy of an the open-hearted nymph who saves the non-hero from mediocrity.The MPDG highlights  a common male psychological wound. She also shows us how such a man can heal this wound, if he can avoid the emotional trap she represents.An abbreviated text version of this episode can be found at ruwando.substack.comIt includes an excerpt of my book, ORGSM, A Memoir.Get my book + redeem bonuses at https://orgsmbook.com/If you’re struggling with this kind of pattern, shoot me a message or fill out the form below. I’d love to help. Everything 100% confidential.https://ruwando.com/coaching00:00 The Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope explained01:50 How this relates to real life03:24 New book: Taming the Anima04:25 The history of Manic Pixie Dream Girl11:50 The psychological lens of Manic Pixie Dream Girl13:30 Manic Pixie in my life19:45 The Savior Complex20:39 Translating the trope into real life22:54 The dark side of Manic Pixie Dream Girl23:29 The health of relationship dynamic26:25 How to stop dating Manic Pixie Dream Girls29:39 Who is controlling the reality of your relationship?34:15 John Wayne doesn’t need a Manic Pixie Dream Girl36:00 Many guys work on themselves to get women37:43 What type of guys avoid MPDG?40:20 How did Odysseus avoid the sirens?41:22 How to test a girl to see if she’s Manic Pixie?43:02 What do secure women actually want?44:11 The summary of Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Disney princesses are different today. So is our culture's Feminine Ideal.Mrs. Meepagala and I debate on how these different female role models are imprinting the next generation of women, including our daughter.Tomorrow I'm posting a concise article on the 3 different types female role models and their message to women on substack.Subscribe to get it delivered to your inbox: ruwando.substack.comIf you're a woman looking to find the one in 2026, check out my wife's new book: idaretolove.com#psychology #relationships #marriage #femininity #women #feminism Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

What makes one psychologically ready for a committed relationship?Jung’s essay, “The Love Problem of a Student”, discusses the early stages social dynamics that have become common to us 100 years later— “free love” vs monogamy, infidelity, a woman’s dilemma of career vs. family.00:37 The Love Problem of a Student03:41 Love and Instincts 06:23 Homosexuality and Human Nature 29:24 Psychological Maturity and Relationships 33:00 Psychological Impact of Early Sexual Experiences 44:50 Older Women and Younger Men Dynamics56:05 The Concept of Free Love Get the next post delivered to your inbox: Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

A recent epiphany has made me decide to move off visual media consolidate my podcast with substack.It shouldn't change anything for you, though there's a *possibility* you won't see my new episodes pop up. (If there's an RSS feed issue.)You can prevent this by subscribing at ruwando.substack.comThere you can stay updated on future podcast episodes, accompanying writing, livestreams, and book excerpts. (You can customize notifications to receive only one or the other.)Get my book + bonuses: ORGSMbook.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Here I read an essay by Carl Jung, "Woman As Soul", + give my commentary on what it means and how we can use it.This is part of the source material for my next book, ANIMA: The Five Aspects of the Feminine-- A Guide For Men on Female Psychology.Get free excerpts by subcribing at ruwando.substack.comOr get an advance copy of ANIMA by purchasing my other book, ORGSM, A Memoir at orgsmbook.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Reality is a set of agreements.This is a reading + commentary on a new post on substack on the nature of subjective reality: The process of brainwashing used by ideologies as seen in politics, communities, and of course, cults. It includes from excerpts from my book, ORGSM, A Memoir.I'll be posting more analyses + excerpts from my next book, ANIMA: The 5 Aspects of the Feminine Unconscious on substack:Ruwando.substack.comGet my new book + $100 of bonuses at orgsmbook.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

My book publishes Oct 31. You can get it at a discount + free bonuses:1. How To Brainwash Yourself course that pulls mind control principles from my cult experience for positive identity transformation.2. An advance copy of Anima: 5 Aspects of the Feminine Unconscious. My next book (to publish 2026) on female psychology.3. My entire premium meditation library from MindValley/Insight Timer.To redeem visit: orgsmbook.com.ORGSM, A Memoir is my true story of being in a female-led cult where I learned deep truths about f***ing and mindf***ing.It's already the #1 New Release in the Psych/Human Sxuality, Memoirs/Deceptions, and Cults categories; & already top 5 bestseller. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

I connected with Sascha over a post he made of “why women in their 40’s are the unhappiest ever.” Whether that’s true or not, it’s food for important conversation about modern dating and relationships.Sascha Haert is a coach for women. Tbh, I used to have a lot of judgement of men who coach women (and of women who only coach men). But he has a lot of great insight on: Why successful women hardly find love, what’s important in the bedroom, why women resent men so much these days, how woman makes space for a man in life, what kind of woman do men want in a relationships, and exploring: do women understand the power they hold? We’re two men commenting on the plight of women, so take it with some salt. However, Sascha has a lot of knowledge from the many women he’s helped.00:00 Women in their 40s are the unhappiest ever02:13 Getting lost trying to become a masculine woman06:51 How to be a good father to a daughter07:59 Woman making space for a man in life12:07 Why women resent men so much15:03 Be yourself in order to be liked19:02 How Sascha became a coach for women29:00 Fathers shape daughters’ relation to relationship31:00 Sexual liberation of women33:35 Open relationships yes or no46:26 Sascha’s work48:50 There’s too much competition between sexesHack your brain chemistry for unshakable confidence: Anabolic Psyche mini-course only $12AnabolicPsyche.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Working with horses is the most profound thing I've done in many years. Most recently I've been training with Sergio Faerman.Sergio is a former semi-pro MMA fighter, horse therapy trainer, and “gaucho” (Latin American tradition of cowboy). He and I first met training MMA, and I’ve been training in horse riding with him.We discuss why men need to learn horseriding, how horses teach you to be a healthy leader (horses teach you how to be balanced in dominance and empathy), what therapy with horses looks like, how horses can show you your trauma, and more.Connect with Sergio on IG (English or Spanish) https://www.instagram.com/sergiofaerman/We MAY run a retreat together next year with horses. If you’re interested, shoot me a message.00:00 Intro05:15 Horses can talk09:27 The story about natives11:45 Horses teach you how to be a healthy leader24:40 The connection between horses and girls36:00 Horses show you your traumas42:08 Electromagnetic field carries information45:40 Finding your life purpose is everything48:52 Truly connecting with creation52:00 Do horses have alpha males in herd?56:00 Testosterone can be dangerous01:01:01 Sergio’s work with horses Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Justin Nault is a nutrition therapist. We have a fascinating discussion on metabolic health, hormones, nutrition, and the mind.Justin on IG: @justinnaultofficialHis supplement company: iamclovis.com00:00 Guest Introduction: Who Is Justin?00:56 Justin's Music Career and Body Dysmorphia01:33 Journey Into Health and Wellness04:10 Plant Medicine and Life Changes04:46 Nutrition and the Paleo Diet05:42 Savannah's Story and the Birth of a New Mission08:55 The Problem with Seed Oils12:32 Understanding Human Metabolism19:28 Training Methodologies and Health24:48 Cultural and Psychological Aspects of Health27:45 The Harmful Goggins Mentality28:49 Small Wins and Building Momentum29:48 Critique of Plant Medicine and Avoidance Pattern31:22 Personal Journey and Recovery Insights32:43 Nutrition and Recovery Tips35:04 Balancing Self-Love and Ambition37:38 The Importance of Individualized Advice41:48 Good vs. Evil and Integrating the Shadow49:08 The Complexity of Critical Thinking50:24 Connecting and Offering Guidance Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Netflix’s Adolescence has sparked much debate around masculinity. Is it feminist propaganda? Or an important awakening around the “manosphere”?I analyze the series from the perspective of the male collective unconscious: What the show got right, what it got wrong, and how it fits in with modern culture, including Andrew Tate, redpill, the manosphere, Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, and more.Video version: https://youtu.be/N3PQ_K84kk4?si=OLqIzdmq0YOwOCE_00:00 Introduction to Adolescence on Netflix00:45 Personal Reactions and Empathy01:29 Two Major Psychological Themes04:01 Incel Psychology08:35 Personal Reflections on Adolescence19:46 The Red Pill and Manosphere23:14 Propaganda and Cultural Implications28:22 Self Esteem vs. Respect28:54 The Secondary Father (Joseph Camp)29:12 The Hero's Journey and Male Psychology30:51 The Role of the Secondary Father in Development32:23 Personal Experience with Secondary Fathers34:52 The Impact of Parental Approval39:33 The Struggle with Male Anger and Pain42:00 The Influence of Modern Masculine Role Models52:58 The Need for Striving for Excellence56:28 Final Thoughts and Conclusion Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Why do women like possessive men? Miiska returns to the podcast to discuss dating and relationships. Plus, his major life changes: his new found fame and recent death of his father. Miiska Van Renterghem is Finland’s #1 men’s coach and personal development podcaster. He’s also a good buddy and former client of mine.Hack your brain chemistry for unshakable confidence: Anabolic Psyche mini-course only $12AnabolicPsyche.com00:00 Miiska’s story of becoming masculine03:45 Shifting from liberal to more conservative07:10 The importance of relaxation09:20 Why are women sexually more vulnerable than men14:24 Guys are more insecure when having little sexual experience18:20 Women with relationship trauma21:26 Being responsible with one night stands26:58 Open relationships30:42 How to deal with losing a father51:55 Are all your affairs in order? Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Lucilla was once Denmark's top female pickup artist. Now she's a worldwide midwife (and the wife of Andreas from last episode). We discuss her unusual Journey as a woman in the early pickup community, her approach to developing confidence, social skills, and authenticity.00:00 - Pickup, coaching02:00 - Social skills, dating in teens05:20 - Is dating easier for guys or girls?06:30 - Who needs love when you have the game07:40 - The game or manipulations17:30 - Authenticity is next level of the game24:25 - What you look for in dating?32:30 - Does pickup change your perspective of men39:05 - What you want, need and get44:00 - From pickup to relationship53:00 - Children and social skills57:40 - Practice what you're bad at Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

For many men, their introduction to personal development was the infamous “pickup community”. My friend “Worldwide Psychologist” Andreas and I speak on our experiences, good and bad, and how it led to deeper understandings in self-discovery. We also cover why we replay childhood relations, installing values into your kids, and why staying connected to yourself is important.00:00 Discovering who you are 04:00 Discovering yourself through forums06:45 Pick up community08:00 Benefits of tinder11:50 Healthy pickup coaching13:00 Childhood trauma and healing17:15 You have to abandon the game21:15 Consistency and intensity pay off25:55 Why is staying connected to yourself important28:55 Installing values into your kids34:50 What you emphasize is what your kids will aim to40:45 Have more trust in yourself45:55 You thrive during a process46:40 Persistency in intensity Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Higher consciousness through sex?If you've ever felt in an altered state from falling in love, taking MDMA, or really great sex, then you may have experienced what Timothy Leary called the “Neurosomatic Circuit”—the state of consciousness that comes with a deep connection between mind and body, typically through sustaining sexual arousal.This episode covers how sexual arousal can be used to enhance your emotional state, via lessons I learned intensively studying sexuality in my early 20s. Such as, why men need control of their urges, sexual dysfunctions and healing, how chronic tension effects on body, and tips on sustaining sexual arousal.00:00 - Intro02:00 - Arousal and consciousness09:35 - Announcements11:30 - 8 circuit model of consciousness29:30 - Connection between mind and body50:00 - Truth carries the most sensation56:20 - Sustaining sexual arousal01:03:15 - Anxiety and arousal01:04:30 - Chronic tension effects on body01:08:30 - Higher consciousness through sex Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

My friends Kris and Lily came back from a breakup to coming back together and now happily married with two kids. In order to do so, they both had to drastically change themselves and their reality.We discuss major turning points in a romantic relationship, balancing ideologies in a relationship, and some key (and possibly taboo) principles about how men and women can find deep harmony together.If you’re having relationship issues and you want to fix it, apply to Lead Your Family— small group program for men in committed relationships: https://www.ruwando.com/LYFKris and Lily run a business together helping expats relocate to Thailand. https://cnxlocal.com/00:00 - From Modern to Traditional Relationship06:50 - Turning points in a romantic relationship15:00 - Why are rituals important for a relationship?27:00 - Leaving your principles for a greater goal37:00 - Learning how to surrender to your partner43:00 - Balancing Ideologies in Relationships49:00 - Shift in relationship dynamics01:03:00 - Christian values of family and community01:14:00 - Passing on your values to your kids Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus)Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) shows up in out nonverbal communication— facial expressions and posture. We can read one's emotions through their resting faces and micro-expressions. Here's how to read, and modify yours from trauma to ease and confidence.00:00 - Intro01:40 - Body language - first impressions06:05 - A man's looks demonstrate what he can do11:05 - How to understand trauma18:40 - Your face mirrors your feelings22:37 - Left side of face vs right32:15 - The four circuits of consciousness44:30 - Why you should have good physical awareness49:25 - Tips on how to not contract52:10 - The Inner Smile exercise56:50 - Welcoming all the sensations58:50 - How to control your tension Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition?How to “conquer your inner weakness” really comes down to how to change your stress response.The episode breaks down how to change your stress response. We’ll start with the biologically process of acute stress, and how to “practice right emotions” so the next time you’re faced with an important moment— in business, love, or life— you’ll have a winning response, rather than a self-sabotaging one.00:00 - Intro01:46 - Announcements10:50 - Why do you get nervous?15:55 - Steroid hormone stress22:40 - Understanding your physiology36:00 - Emotional distress vs. chronic stress39:45 - The winner vs. the loser effect45:45 - Practice right emotional response1:05:00 - Why breathing calms your brain1:08:50 - Recap Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Mrs. Meepagala rejoins the pod after 100 episodes. (She was on ep100 before we had kids).We speak on power dynamics and imbalance in relationships, mother and father figure differences, the beauty of surrendered woman, and our personal experiences with “trad” gender roles.If you’re a man in a committed relationship that’s not going the way you want, you may want to join my small group program:https://www.ruwando.com/LYF00:00 - Intro00:43 - Motherhood and work during baby years05:27 - Challenging part of becoming a parent07:10 - Why is family support important during pregnancy?10:55 - Beauty of surrendered woman13:20 - Do young women understand hormonal cycle?15:41 - Nuclear family and masculine values20:45 - Power of surrendered state33:48 - Intrinsic motivation vs proving yourself38:14 - Choosing motherhood or entrepreneurship44:10 - Male vs female competition and confidence52:11 - Mother and father figure differences59:28 - Finding ways to relax when parenting1:03:28 - Power dynamics and imbalance in relationships Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

A few months ago the Economist wrote an article on the political gender gap— how men are becoming more conservative, and women more liberal. While this seems like a recipe for conflict, in many ways this is a return to human nature.This episode covers the evolutionary roots behind political leanings, the reasons for recent cultural shifts, and some fascinating studies about how your political leading may reveal itself in a brain scan.https://www.ruwando.com/LYFhttps://www.ruwando.com/archetype00:00 - Intro: Cultural shift to left3:20 - New Course: Lead Your Family5:50 - Biological difference between liberal and conservative14:40 - Biology behind liberal brain18:15 - Karl Marx and Nietzsche30:22 - Why is there a political gender gap?37:17 - Why are young men more conservative?01:02:59 - How to balance the polarities01:14:57 - Are you truly worthy of respect?01:26:12 - Are you making the right decisions?01:30:24 - Recap Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Marine heals PTSD with brain mapping and plant medicine.Brain-mapping is a relatively new technology that trains a person to recreate neural patterns. Veteran marine Luke Jensen speaks on how he healed his PTSD through brain-mapping and plant medicine and how these modalities can help people with unwanted emotional patterns like anxiety and depression.We discuss the Marine Corps, PTSD psychological vs spiritual side, post-war rituals, war and the concept of nationality, Germanic paganism and more.Check out Luke's work: https://www.tiwazawakening.com/00:00 - Intro00:03 - Recalling marine journey08:05 - Marine corps and legal issues15:40 - (Afghanistan) war and corruption19:37 - War and the concept of nationality25:38 - War zone and politics32:53 - After war psychological crisis34:20 - PTSD as modern phenomenon44:39 - What is brain mapping?53:50 - Brain mapping and plant medicine58:05 - Stress response and brain mapping Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Almost all internal conflict can be described as the Heart vs. Mind Dilemma— Your thoughts want one thing and your feelings want another. The episode covers how to solve this dilemma: When to listen to your head over your heart? When to listen to your heart over your mind? How do you calibrate your intuition?00:00 - Heart vs. Mind Dilemma01:35 - Announcements04:13 - Distortions of the head and heart06:05 - Why logic kills creativity08:50 - Should we follow our heart or mind?14:00 - When to listen to your heart over your mind16:08 - When you shouldn't listen to your feelings24:41 - Do you empower your heart?30:59 - Is your intuition calibrated?36:38 - Synergy of heart and mind46:05 - Recap Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The desire for dominance is within all men. A man has to be connected to his dominance in order to be a useful lover, father, leader, teammate. But how does a dominant man act? What does it mean to be dominant in relationships, without being a jerk?This episode covers the psychology behind informal power dynamics, how to be a more dominant male, the real importance of dominance in relationships, how a dominant man takes responsibility, why a dominant man makes woman feel safe, why a dominant male takes risks, how handling tension is a sign of dominance, signs of a dominant man (in relationships), and deep down why dominance is within all men.00:00 Importance of Dominance in Relationships04:31 Dominance and Approval08:14 What does it mean to be dominant in relationships?13:57 How to be the dominant person in relationships?15:15 Dominant man takes responsibility16:40 Handling tension is a sign of dominance19:08 How does a dominant man act? Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

There is power in the masculine dark side— The thoughts, feelings, and instincts that don't fit in society's morality. But what is your dark side? How do you integrate the dark side in a healthy constructive way?Jung's “shadow” is the part of your psyche that you dissociated from, and therefore put it in the “dark”. Uncovering the dark masculine and shadow work requires looking at deep impulses and shame, to bring that part of your power back into the light.00:00 - The power of masculine dark side00:39 - What is your dark side?4:53 - Understanding the male psyche5:55 - Masculine personality archetypes8:39 - Results of early childhood experience10:00 - Morals and personality13:25 - Why are women attracted to men's dark side?14:55 - How to integrate your dark side?17:14 - Dealing with shame and embarrassment18:58 - Validating and expressing emotions19:50 - Integrating aggressive side of men Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

How powerful is language manipulation? I originally invited Joshua Lisec on to discuss writing, but we ended up speaking about his most recent book, Unhumans: The Secret History of Communist Revolutions.We discuss how philosophy shapes a society, the evolution of Marxism in society, soft vs hard power, dangers of far right and far left, and some interesting history nuggets of communist propaganda in the Americas.Joshua authored over 90 books, mostly ghostwriting famous titles you’ve definitely heard of.Joshua is a conservative who speaks straight and some of what he says may not jive with your beliefs. But in the current political climate, I feel it’s especially important to 1) recognize the workings of ANY ideology on a population, 2) listen to intelligent people that you do not agree with.00:00 - Intro: self-publishing vs. traditional01:34 - Evolution of Marxism in society16:12 - How powerful is language manipulation?22:51 - Does end justify the means?31:08 - Soft vs. hard power40:30 - Moral values, Christianity and society47:18 - How to battle an ideology?48:47 - Far right and far left57:10 - What is the future of publishing? Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Is there a difference between Western vs. Eastern dating culture?Last time Hans Comyn was on the podcast he shared a controversial opinion that ruffled some listeners’ feathers— that Western men are better off dating non-Western women.We discuss this point of view and some key questions such as:Why is dating different in East vs West?Are men attracted to traditional women?Is choice of women related to standards? Or culturization? Or some other unconscious factor?Dating in a a small town vs city?Is success more important than failure?Hans’ “Gentlemen’s Guide”: https://t.ly/YMpBDHans on meeting foreign women: https://t.ly/HnX0x00:00 - Why you should date non western women3:53 - Is choice of women related to standards?7:48 - Harder is always better - or not?11:22 - Balancing masculine and feminine in relationships19:06 - Why is west and east dating culture different?25:52 - Women want to surrender to men29:58 - Are men attracted to traditional women?34:18 - Importance of female and male spaces37:59 - Western vs eastern dating culture44:45 - Beauty of slow seduction51:36 - Is success more important than failure?01:01:19 - Responsibility before entitlement Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Why do we have resistance to certain goals? Especially the ones that are really important to us? This episode covers how to be passionate about your goals, especially if you have a pattern of putting them off. There is a relationship between emotional patterns and behavior, and we can reprogram these emotional patterns.00:00 - Why do we have resistance to certain goals?2:44 - What is passion actually?4:08 - Fear of failure brings self sabotage6:27- Different kinds of thinking7:37 - How to reprogram emotional patterns?13:36 - The connection of big goals and resistance16:48 - Attachment to identity vs action17:59 - The reward of hard work20:05 - Dealing with emotional discomfort30:29 - How to be Passionate about your goals? Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Guru Pashupati speaks on the philosophy behind hanuman, how to train on gada, and other life wisdom.00:00 - Intro01:12 - Spiritualism and Martial Arts12:25 - Different Forms of Guru13:46 - Life and Playfulness16:00 - The role of money in our life19:43 - Symbolism of Hindu Deity Hanuman25:28 - Violence, Power and Domination28:16 - Connection of Justice and Power30:51 - The power of conserving your energy34:23 - How to train with gada?38:07 - The Four Stages of Consciousness41:10 - The Imagination and False Perception44:05 - Supplement Reality with Dreams46:35 - Guru’s Lifestyle49:18 - Energy Cultivation Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The Magician Archetype is the part of your psyche that makes meaning, abstracts reality, and creates your life-- whether you take that literally or figuratively depends on your Magician.This episode covers "magic" in the creative process, the shadow aspects of the magician, the five stages of belief, the importance of the Fool archetype, hacking self-fulfilling prophecy, and how to become the magician.00:00 Intro4:20 Magical thinking throughout history5:35 Subjective mind of magical thinking10:55 What is the magician archetype?13:57 Belief and meaning as magicians tools18:21 Magic in the creative process29:40 The importance of the Fool34:55 Shadow aspect of magician37:30 Removing blocks to becoming the magician45:19 Five stages of belief1:03:23 The role of the magician1:19:30 How to become the magician?Uncover your inner world:https://www.ruwando.com/archetype(includes a free coaching session with Ruwan) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The Warrior Archetype is the part of the psyche for overcoming obstacles and winning zero-sum competition. It's become the most suppressed aspect of masculinity in the modern era. Activate this archetype within you with the Masculine Archetype Challenge. Comes with a complementary coaching call with Ruwan:https://www.ruwando.com/archetype(Republish from 2020) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

This book totally changed how I view human behavior, and perception of reality. I focus on the first 4 "non-spiritual" circuits of Timothy Leary & Robert Anton Wilson's circuit model. Republished from 2020. This is the episode that got my wife to like me. I'm still on paternity leave. New episodes coming in June. https://www.ruwando.com/archetypePsychophilosophy, quantumpsychology, thelema, general semantics, Alfred Korzybski Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Men go through five distinct stages, each with their own drives, pitfalls, and keys to fulfillment. This episode covers each stage through the lenses of biology, psychology, mythology (Slave to King myth), and Nietzsche's Metamorphosis.Republishing this one as I wait for my next kid to pop. https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

The Road of Trials (Hero’s Journey) is a stage of life where the hero (you) are forced to engage in conflicts to gain power.In the movies, it’s the training montage between “All is lost” and “Apotheosis” (god mode).In real life, it signifies how you transform yourself during hard times.Road of Trials: Transform Yourself During Hard Times speaks about needing hard times in life, what to do when reinventing yourself, suffering in a direction, and why you must engage in conflicts.This is a republish from 2021. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Modern society is amidst warfare of morals: Family vs. Globalism. Nature vs. Culture.Noah Revoy speaks on the war of perception and information, how part of taking responsibility as a man is in creating/building sovereignty for family, how to build a strong family culture, maintaining parent’s influence on your child, and protecting yourself via self-discipline as internal manipulation.noahrevoy.comruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

What does it mean to “be the rock” in a relationship? Having a man you can depend on is something every woman wants. But what does that actually mean in practice?It’s a mistake if you think relationships are symmetrical. This episode starts with changing your perspective on relationship, why you shouldn’t depend on your woman, how to stay grounded in a relationship, and what it means to be the rock in a relationship, really. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Can you prepare for fatherhood? Dan Doty from Fatherhood Unlocked speaks on how fatherhood is changing, how fatherhood shifts your focus in life, the importance of being a father, generational differences in upbringing, and other man stuff. I’m going to be having more dads on the podcast soon to discuss the importance of being a father. It is the King Archetype after all. Make sure you’re subscribed. And if your want to better access your archetypal masculinity, check out the Masculine Archetype Challenge:https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

NPR recently wrote a piece criticizing p*rn abstinence as somehow misogynistic. I break down the positives and negatives of NoFap, and also how this piece of propaganda is a cultural attack on the male agency. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe

Tom Billinge and I speak on WarYoga, yoga's violent origins, the Rig Veda, Indian wrestling, martial arts and culture, masculine philosophy vs modernity, and different perspectives on "the gods"Tom is the author of WarYoga, WarYoga: Zurxane, Undying Glory, Age of Heroes. He's also a Muay Thai instructor and knows a lot about history and martial arts. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe