So This Is Love - the podcast

Ever hit "publish" or “post” only to be met with total silence, low engagement, and no sales? In this episode on The Way We Grow, we dive deep into the psychology of content creation in the online business and entrepreneurship space to uncover the real reason why a lack of audience engagement triggers creator self-doubt, and even frustration, anger or bitterness. Hint: It is rarely about the quality of your work, or strategy.You will learn:What secretly drives negative feelings, thoughts, and distress when your work gets no or low engagement, and no or low sales.How to change your relationship with audience silence.How to start creating success right now—especially when your content or work gets “crickets”. Join The Way We Grow Newsletter to get notified of when new original content is published both on the podcast and on The Way We Grow website (articles and new books added to the curated personal growth book shop). We are not on social media.Learn more about Gillian’s Mentorship for online creators, business owners, and entrepreneurs seeking growth and success.

Why does finding a healthy relationship still feel so hard—even when you’re trying? And how can you finally turn it all around with more ease and liberation? This is what today's episode on The Way We Grow is all about. After her last bad relationship, The Way We Grow creator, Gillian Shields, made a few key changes that didn’t just sound good—they actually worked.In this episode, she breaks down exactly what she did, what shifted, how it changed the kind of relationships she experienced, including how it led her to secure, healthy love without more effort on the dating and relationship front.If you’re tired of dating that leads nowhere or keeps repeating itself, this will help you see what needs to change.For more original content, visiting The Way We Grow website.The Way We Grow Newsletter Sign UpGillian's Mentorship for single, caring, accomplished women seeking secure love

Host Gillian Shields announces:Her new personal growth website and space off social media, The Way We Grow.The future of this podcast.Her new book, Dear Haters for sensitive soul influencers, creators, and professionals experiencing online criticism and hate.Gillian also announces her private mentorship space and gives details on who her mentorship is for and how to apply.The Way We Grow WebsiteThe Way We Grow NewsletterGillian's New Book, Dear HatersGillian's NewsletterGillian's Mentorship

Gillian gives an update on the future of this podcast, and does a full reading of the Introduction section of her book coming out on October 25th 2025 called, "When Family Isn't Everything."Stay updated and join Gillian's newsletter community for book bonuses and more.Get Gillian's book When Family Isn't Everything on kindle and paperback.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I doing this healing thing right?” — this podcast is for you.Do you worry that you're 'falling back' or not moving forward if you get triggered or feel emotional about a past experience with family, an ex, or criticism even after you've begun personal growth? Does it feel like you're not healing or "healed" if you still struggle from time to time? Let's talk!Host Gillian Shields shares:what healing really is and how to know if you are healing or healedthe ONE things that sets apart people who are healing and those who are not (even if they have it seemingly good in life)Gillian also shares more details about her new book coming out later this year!Join the newsletter, The Conscious Corner to:Be the first to know Gillian's new book's titleGet pre-released excerptsGet a Behind The Book piece where Gillian candidly shares why she wrote the book and why it was her most challenging book to write yet.Gillian's InstagramGillian's Books

Struggling with a difficult, distant, or estranged relationship with a parent? In this powerful episode, host Gillian Shields explores why many adults still long for their parents to change—and how that desire can keep us stuck in pain. Discover compassionate insights and empowering tools to help you find peace, and build a fulfilling life—regardless of your relationship with your parent.Resources mentioned in this episode:The book: This Is Gratitude Stay updated and get pre-release content on Gillian's next book coming out this Fall by joining her newsletter, The Conscious Corner.

Feeling judged or criticized by your family for being true to yourself? In this episode, host Gillian Shields shares three powerful tools to help you stay authentic and find happiness, no matter what others think. Tune in for practical advice on how to embrace your individuality and make life choices that feel right for you.Join Gillian's news letter: The Conscious Corner for monthly guidance and special content about her new book coming out this yearBuy Happy BoundariesBuy This Is GratitudeGillian's WebsiteGillian's Instagram

Have you ever struggled to decide if you should stay or walk away from a difficult relationship with a family member, friend, or romantic partner? I have! And my decision making process used to be a complete mess. How I make decisions now is totally different. I now do it with confidence and without regret. In this episode, I share: 4 popular factors that I used to highly consider when it comes to staying or walking away from a relationship. These 4 factors although felt big, typically left me more confused and in more pain. 3 factors I use now that lots of people don't fully consider. These 3 factors have led me to a completely different decision making process and made my life so much better. Join my newsletter, The Conscious Corner for monthly guidance on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences.My books that relate to the topic of this episode:The Dating Pattern CureHappy Boundaries

People either sink or they rise when a personal crisis or disaster hits. Today, I talk about becoming the one who rises. Whether your crisis is a breakup, being single, toxic family, a friend who betrayed or let you down, or a career let down, what's the difference between sinking or rising? I share 3 things that helped me become my most resilient self yet, and go on to have a better life than I did before difficult events hit. Join my newsletter community The Conscious Corner for monthly guidance on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences and my favorites. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode's poll. What's your take on the role of your own perception on how you feel about a difficult event?

Going home for the holidays is a great feeling for some. But for others, it’s a feeling of discomfort and even dread. Choosing to not go home for the holidays or visit some people can be a decision that comes with a lot of feelings - doubt, guilt, frustration, and burn out. This used to be my emotional experience. Since then, I’ve done a lot of work to honor my goals, growth, and happiness during the holiday season. You can too. In this episode, I talk about: The reason I don’t always go home for the holidays (or any other event, etc.) The two main factors that contribute to my reason The honest truth about what really creates your happiness during the holidays Shop my holiday book sale to get 20% off any of books, including Happy Boundaries Join my newsletter, The Conscious Corner. The content will help you change your life for the better after difficult relationship experiences just by reading it! Let's go deeper: Visit this episode's webpage and participate in the multi-question poll.

Healing advice - you see it everywhere and from everyone. Whether it’s from friends, family, therapists, mentors, coaches, or a person you don’t know on the internet, people who want to help you feel better will share healing advice. I started my own healing and transformation journey over a decade ago, and I’ve heard it all. Some advice helped, and others really did not. In this episode, I share 4 pieces of healing advice that never worked for me versus what did when it came to turning around my life and healing from toxic relationships and feeling hurt by the actions of others. In this episode, I talk about: How to know if a piece of healing advice is best for you and your situation Acceptance vs. tolerance of other people’s actions and where they are at in life Alternative perspectives to get better after a difficult relationship How to disentangle yourself from dysfunctional people and situatons The most helpful question you can ask yourself to find out if a piece of healing advice fits well for your situation Enjoy! Resourced mentioned in this episode: DEAR HATERS HAPPY BOUNDARIES Join my newsletter, The Conscious Corner for a monthly transformational message on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences plus my monthly favorites.

Welcome to Season 4! Gratitude is often thought of an ‘OG happiness tool’ by therapists, researchers, coaches and mentors, and pretty much anyone else who wants to help you with feeling better about life. Why? Because practicing gratitude works at improving our well being. Despite all the research and books written about the power of gratitude, there’s a lived experience about practicing gratitude that I often don’t see talked about. The truth is that for many people (including myself), practicing gratitude hasn’t always brought on a happier feeling about life. We might go through the steps of gratitude, but not really get there in feeling. If this is your experience, then I know you’ll love this episode. In this episode, I talk about: What is gratitude What blocks you from getting to a true state of feeling grateful 5 things that you may have not considered that can help you get to gratitude now 2 things I believe are most important to helping you feel grateful and happy even if you aren’t truly grateful for ‘everything’ My new guided journal-book hybrid, This Is Gratitude Enjoy! Join my community: I would love to have you be a part of my newsletter community, The Conscious Corner. You'll get a monthly message about finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences as I share more behind-the-scenes of my life and help you with thought-change, and emotional, psychological, and spiritual wellness. I also share my monthly favorites in lifestyle & enjoyment, memories, and personal transformation. Let me know what you think: Go to this episode's webpage and participate in the multi-question poll. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Summer has been different, in a good way. In this episode, I talk about: Summer reading and what I've been up to this summer Releasing pressure and FOMO about "Having the best summer" Surprising ways I've felt this summer that I didn't expect How I unintentionally created more peace and still accomplished goals The one perspective I return to when deciding on boundaries for my life and relationships My surprise for you coming this Fall! Join The Conscious Corner - I'd love to have you be a part of The CC Crew, my newsletter. You'll get a monthly message on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences and my monthly favorites in lifestyle & enjoyment, memories, and personal transformation. Resources mentioned in this episode: My book, Happy Boundaries "What you might not know about boundaries" - podcast episode with Erika Mason Get more details about this episode and tell me what you think by voting on the episode's questionnaire

In today’s episode, I hold an incredible conversation with Erika Mason about boundaries. Erika is a holistic Occupational Therapist, spiritual and energetic coach and healer, Akashic Record consultant, and more. She has been doing energetic and intuitive work for over 20 years, and through her work, she has seen a very clear link between chronic pain and other health issues, and lack of boundaries. Erika and I discuss what you might not know about boundaries and share perspectives that will inspire you to use boundaries for a healthy and fulfilling life. In What you might not know about boundaries, we discuss: My new book, Happy Boundaries, coming out later in June 2024 How boundaries relate to your emotional, psychological, and physical health What your energetic and chakra system can tell you about your boundaries How to effectively navigate feelings or guilt and anger surrounding boundaries and when people don’t respect yours What boundaries (and lack thereof) mean for your soul and your spiritual growth How boundaries come into play as a parent, partner, friend, and individual How to heal from people who criticize, disrespect, and dislike your boundaries (what I call, Boundary Resisters) Erika's website Erika's 50% off link for listeners Erika's Instagram Gillian's Newsletter, The Conscious Corner Gillian's Books Gillian's Instagram To listen on the NEW So This Is Love Podcast website and get more episode details and resources, go HERE.

In today's episode I share with you what I've been up to and: * 3 things you can do to move into self love, specifically when it feels difficult * What is really means when you're struggling with self-love * The connection between the self-concept and your tangible goals like loving relationships and success. Enjoy! For more info and to buy my self-love course, LOVED: https://www.gillianshields.ca/loved My free e-letter community, The Conscious Corner for women becoming better than ever for a better-than-ever life. Gillian's Books Gillian's Instagram

A short, but powerful episode for anyone who feels too afraid to fly and soar in life after adversity, emotional hurt, and difficult relationship experiences. Free Email List Community: The Conscious Corner My book: The Dating Pattern Cure Instagram

In today’s episode of So This Is Love, the podcast, I hold a powerful conversation with life coach Emily Hart, who shares her story of using heartbreak for change after her fiancé broke off their engagement 3 months before their wedding. Emily shares her dating and relationship pattern, how she became aware of it, and what she did to change her love life around. Together, we discuss: ·        How to know if you have a dating and relationship pattern that doesn’t align with your desire and joy ·        The most important factors to create change in your love life, instead of repeating a pattern ·        How to begin developing a healthy self-relationship ·        How to use the post-breakup space for pure magic Emily’s Instagram Emily’s Website Gillian’s Instagram & Website Gillian’s Pre-Release Book Community for The Dating Pattern Cure

In this episode of So This Is Love, the podcast, I have powerful conversation with Patsy Berridge, who shares her journey into sobriety after a childhood full of competition, and losing her brother from suicide. Patsy explains how being a highly sensitive person who had no knowledge or developed skills about emotional regulation, led her to use alcohol beginning at the age of 12 to cope with her feelings. We talk: ·        What is emotional intelligence? ·        How to become an ‘observer’ of your emotions ·        How to calm and regulate your emotions and body ·        Top pieces of wisdom to start and continue on a growth journey into emotional intelligence ·        What really worked for Patsy on her path to sobriety and emotional intelligence Patsy on Facebook and Instagram Gillian on Facebook and Instagram Gillian's free guidance subscription The Conscious Corner

In this episode, I have a beautiful conversation with women's empowerment coach, Maria Cottrell. She shares her story of how she shifted her career as a nurse to becoming a life coach after being diagnosed with bladder cancer at the age of 34. Together, Maria and I share: How to start making a passionate career shift without burnout or going into survival mode Our most important internal shifts to make a career shift happen with more ease and flow. Get in touch with Maria: Maria's Instagram Gillian's spaces: Gillian's Instagram Gillian's Facebook The Conscious Corner Free subscription guidance space Life With Gillian - free e-letter series for real life magic

We’re back with Season 3! In this episode, I share with you 6 beautiful, life-changing messages I got this summer. Whether it was through my own personal experiences, or what I saw my clients experience, these messages of summer shifted how I lead my life. In this episode I share about: ·       How I got the second edition of my book, The Dating Pattern Cure, written by working less and having it be way more enjoyable and fun than the first time around ·        A deeper truth about relationships with people who aren’t willing to love themselves, and what I chose to do about it ·        The secret to moving through change and challenge quicker and more connected to life than ever ·        The unobvious perspective that helps you heal and up-level when it seems like things are falling apart in life or in a relationship ·        The key to coming up from emotional hurt better than f*cking ever …and more! Stay tuned till the end part of this episode for an exciting announcement!! Thank you so much for listening! New and Now On: Phoenix ERA The Conscious Corner free subscription Life with Gillian Instagram Facebook

Welcome back to the podcast! This episode is so so special to me - it's the LAST episode of Season 2 and it's a deeply personal share that has powerful guidance. It's been an incredible season for me and I hope for you too! I am super excited for Season 3, which will begin later in the summer. In today's episode I share with you the grief I've been moving through over the last 2 months and how you can massively thrive in grief, coming out stronger than ever. Topics: * The different circumstances than can create a sense of grief * The two reactions that most people have in grief that don't allow full thriving, and how to change that! * 4 powerful codes that create thriving (not just surviving) through grief How to connect & work with me: Initial Private Mentorship Session (2 spots opening in June) LOVED - the self love foundation course My new Telegram community, The House of Self & Soul Join my cherished email list Instagram Facebook

In this episode I chat with the lovely Tina Marie, an incredible life coach & healer. She shares her story and we have an open conversation about: Her healing after losing a child, having parents with mental illness, and leaving a toxic relationship How to become conscious of your patterns and change them The power of your environment and circles The one important practice Tina taps into to maintain her joy and peace This was such a beautiful and powerful conversation, I hope you enjoy! Connect with Tina: Her website: https://www.loveguidesme.com Tina's Facebook Tina's Instagram Connect with Gillian: Website: https://www.gillianshields.ca Private Coaching Join my free community on Telegram: House of Self & Soul

In this episode, I have a special guest, Aveary Hamilton, a soul freedom coach. We met in a business program mastermind and discovered we had so much in common in our growth journey. In this episode, Aveary and I chat about: Our own journey of releasing unhealthy relationship patterns of codependency and toxicity to receiving a healthy love relationship The number one thing we feel is needed to start receiving healthy love The big things we now value in our love life and relationship, that we once didn't before we began growth work Connect with Aveary: Instagram @thesoulfreedomcoach Facebook Aveary Hamilton The Gold Dust Woman Program Connect with Gillian: Instagram @gillianshieldsxo Facebook @gillianshieldsxo The course to manifest your dream relationship - EPIC The course to build your self love foundation - LOVED Private coaching: email [email protected] Unwavered, my Free Email Community

In this episode I share: The fine balance between feeling your emotions & reality vs. recognizing when you are holding on to a disempowering story that now requires releasing My experience with being honest with myself The truth about using information/content to grow Why we get stuck in a story we no longer desire to be in and how to shift Current ways to work with me: Private Coaching & Mentorship - email [email protected] to inquire Transformational online courses My free email community for exclusive voice note guidance Free guide to quickly shift into self-love anytime, anyplace Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo

In this episode, my brother and I have an intimate chat about some of our family system conditioning that called us to shift and create our own sense of authenticity and life fulfillment. Even though we are part of the same family, how our conditioning manifested, was different for each of us, and we talk all about that in this episode. We cover 3 main aspects of our own conditioning - career and abundance, self and worth, and love and relationships - and share how we release them from our own state of being, and elevate to living a life that feels true to the self even if it 'goes against' the family system. LOVED - the self love foundation course EVOLVED - the course to evolve and know your truth from being a part of a family community that feels like a disadvantage, struggle, or imbalanced exchange. My free email community for exclusive voice notes and guidance Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo Nathan's Instagram for his art: @ntwarmachine

In this episode, I have my first ever guest here on the podcast - my soul-sister and friend of 15 years, Sevan. We have a beautiful conversation about our friendship and share about our self-love journey. We touch on so many important topics that so many of us can relate to: Body love & acceptance Overcoming burn out & not feeling good enough Connecting to soul and a powerful tool we lean on for growth & evolution Boundaries and crafting a supportive environment Busting through fears of being alone Accessing intuition  Busting through old patterns to step into the highest-fulfilled self Check out Sevan's candles HERE Work with me: LOVED, EMOTION PLAY, PRIVATE COACHING Join my free email community for exclusive guidance for your evolution of self, soul, and love, via email and voice notes Download the free self-love guide Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo

If you've ever felt tired of working on yourself and on receiving your life desires, then I invite you to tune into this episode where I share with you 4 powerful, honest AF questions I ask myself to move through resistance. Ways to work with me: LOVED - the self love foundational course EMOTION PLAY - new upcoming live mini-program for emotional beings For 1:1 Private Coaching & Mentorship, you may contact me directly at [email protected] Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo Free Email-list Community

In this episode, I talk all about 3 super-powerful things that directly impact your ability to receive the relationship you want with more ease, flow, and fun. If finding the relationship you want feels like a struggle right now, I got you in this episode! EPIC LOVED Subscribe to my free cherished email community  Download my free guide: How to quickly shift into self love anytime, anyplace Instagram & Facebook: @gillianshieldsxo

Today is Valentines Day and I am back to talk about my unconventional ways on Valentines Day. And it might surprise you given that helping people find love is one of the goals I help people achieve.LOVEDEPICJoin my cherished email community for all the goods.Instagram & Facebook: @gillianshieldsxo

Your magnetism is so much bigger and more powerful than you might think. In this episode, I break it all down, including how to start activating aligned magnetism to receive a life filled with love, peace, joy and whatever it is you desire!  LOVED EPIC Instagram & Facebook: @gillianshieldsxo Free Email Community for all the goods HERE

In this episode I share with you the ONE most powerful thing I do when someone has crossed my boundary...and it creates magic for me every single time.  LOVED - the self love embodiment course, open now on early bird special until Feb 6th 2023. EPIC - the course to manifest the best relationship of your life! (for singles). Now on crazy special until Feb 15th 2023. Join my cherished email community for lots of goods HERE Instagram @gillianshieldsxo

Wishing so much love right now and in 2023.  Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo Join the INSIDE Membership HERE Join my cherished email community HERE Happy New Year, loves!

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The dream life of beautiful self-love, peace, abundance, and love on multiple fronts is available to you, to all of us. It requires us to tap into and return to the mindset, energy and emotional frequency of that dream. In this episode, I come to you from a bench in my favorite park as I chat about the dream life frequency and how to access it in simple ways. The meditation & dream life embodiment membership and community - INSIDE Instagram & Facebook: @gillianshieldsxo Subscribe to my cherished email list for exclusive goodies and a voice note page that only subscribers get access to.

Hi Friends! I'm so happy to back on the podcast for season 2. In this first episode, I am sharing my deeply personal story (parts of which, I have never before shared publicly). I share how I changed my story from one of trauma, pain, and struggle, to hope and dreams realized. In sharing my story, I help you to know how you can use your story to change your life in this way too!  PLEASE NOTE: Trigger warning! In this episode I talk about some childhood traumas and relationship traumas that could be triggering for some.  If you desire to work with me or come into my spaces for big-time evolution in self-love and relationships, here are the ways: Apply for Private coaching (I have only 2 spots open at the moment): https://www.gillianshields.ca/privatecoaching Self-study courses:  LOVED: https://www.gillianshields.ca/loved EPIC: https://www.gillianshields.ca/epic EVOLVED: https://gillianshields.mykajabi.com/epic To be the first to know about my new upcoming spaces, and for many other goodies, subscribe to my email list: https://gillianshields.mykajabi.com/subscribe Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo Thank you so much for listening!

I can't believe we are at the final episode of Season 1 of the podcast! This first season has been a dream for me! Thank you so much for being here with me and I cannot wait to come back for Season 2. In this episode, I get into how to evolve & empower yourself when people in your family community don't get you, when they get a bit judgy or even if they are not present in the way you desire them to be. This is such a common experience for so many people, including me, and I felt called to share.  Join the self-led program, EVOLVED. Subscribe to my cherished email community Follow me on Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo Ta-ta for now!

In this episode, I go deep into what self-love really is, and what it looks like. I share a vulnerable time where I had to harness deep self-love work, how I did it, and what happened afterwards. Enjoy! August 30th 2022 is the last day my private coaching space will be at the current investment. Beginning August 31st 2022, the investment of my private coaching is increasing. If you feel called to work with me in close proximity, to up-level your self-love & relationships, creating the dream life, you can apply by sending me an email: [email protected] Instagram & Facebeook: @gillianshieldsxo Sending you love! Gillian

In this episode, I share some stories from my weekend camping to help you shift into owning your authentic self, loving yourself, and how we all get to grow, connect, and inspire simply from the place of self-love embodiment. Want to work together in private coaching? Check out what private coaching is with me HERE. Join EPIC Follow me on Instagram & Facebook, @gillianshieldsxo Join my cherished email list community HERE for free email guidance, my free magazine, Unwavered, and to access the community page where I drop guidance using voice notes!

I'm so excited to share with you a life update, which gave me an experience that highlighted one of the biggest blocks so many of us have when it comes to receiving the life & love we want: the potential for disappointment. In this episode I chat all about what happened, and the magic key to elevating through and past potential disappointment so it doesn't lower your standards, expectations, or your point of receiving. The EPIC course for singles looking to receive their epic love story is open now until July 20th 2022. Register HERE and get immediate access to Module #1 (how to create & up-level your love life standard). Follow me on Instagram (@gillianshieldsxo) Follow me on Facebook (@gillianshieldsxo) Subscribe to my cherished email list for exclusive guidance, gifts, and so much more!

In this episode of So This Is Love, the podcast, we talk all about how to receive your epic relationship even when it seems that it's nowhere to be found! If you're single with an awesome goal for your love story, but feel stuck in some way or another, this episode is for you! I go through what is actually up in your world when it seems like the relationship you want isn't coming in, and how to change it all around.  Follow me on Instagram Follow me on Facebook EPIC is open NOW for enrolment for a limited time. Register HERE Subscribe to my lovely email list here

In the every first episode of So This Is Love, the podcast, I welcome you and get into the whole vibe of doing self-love & relationships differently, in ways that transcend our past and open us to a life we absolutely love.   Follow me on Instagram  The EPIC course for singles is now open! Register HERE Thank you so much for being here!!