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SOLITA: Notes on Tears & Chaos
by KT
An archive of the world around me.
Episodes
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52. Cheaters, Cheating, & Being Cheated On (Story Time)
Grab a snack for this tea. Chaos seems to favor Miss Solita -- the other day, something happened to me that was so mind-boggling and absurd, it reminded me of the most difficult time in my life. Spoiler alert: men ain't shit! Or are they...? Intro Music: Think About You - Ryan Little...
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51. The Paradox of Time, Choice, & Possibilities
Fun fact: I wrote this episode a whole ass year ago only to end up never recording it, falling victim to the very topic I wanted to discuss. Having an abundance of something can feel comfortable -- but it can also mean appreciating less of what we have. I came to the realization that having an...
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50. Therapy is Actually Really Hard
If you told little me 50 episodes ago that I would finally be in long-term therapy, she would start levitating. Perhaps she would even start to double dutch like Corbin Bleu in Jump In! (2007). But half a year into therapy, I've realized that the road to healing trauma is way harder than I...
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49. Media in Foreign Languages: Kdramas & Korean Men
After watching the second season of Squid Game, Miss Solita fell in love with Korean men and fell down the rabbit hole into the world of kdramas. Let's talk about exploring a world outside of our comfort zones: consuming media and content in foreign languages. While subtitles aren't always going…
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48. Xmas Haul & a Healing New Year!
Happy belated holiday szn!! This year, I was fortunate enough to receive some really thoughtful and amazing presents for Christmas, so let's talk about them! We'll also have a tiny discussion about the new year and what we hope is to come in 2025. For the visual learners, here are the pictures…
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47. Surprise! I'm Not Dead (Yet...)
...But somebody else is ): (RIP Liam Payne) POV: It's the end of the year and your favorite podcaster (behind all of your other favorite and active podcasters) has mostly been MIA! Let's catch up on the surprises we've had since our last chat!
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46. Emotions vs. Intelligence & a Little Bit of Politics
How do we define intelligence? As quoted by Spencer Shay (Jerry Trainor) in the original iCarly series, "I may be an idiot, but I'm not stupid." Gauging my own intelligence has always been an insecurity of mine, especially as of late. This week, let's talk about debates and arguments, emotions…
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45. Making Adult Friendships & Social Anxiety
Friendships are single-handedly some of the most important relationships we will ever have in our lives, but as we get older, the harder they are to make. This week, let's talk about various types of friendships, how these connections come and go in different points of our lives, and how social...
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44. Growing Up, Growing Older, & the Passing of Time
Hello, I'm back and I am now 24! Yikes! Let's talk about how entering my mid-20's has made me so much more aware of how quickly time passes, how much older I am getting, and how uncomfortable and scary all of that feels. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_kathietorres/ Twitter:...
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43. Feeling Like a Piece of S***: Rejection, Perfectionism, & Failure
It's time to BeReal. Unemployment is not treating me well. Seeing other people's successes on LinkedIn deeply discourages me. My need of perfectionism causes me to give up before I even try. But at least I still have a podcast! Subscribe to my blog! https://malcreada.substack.com/ Follow my...
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42. The Grief of Letting Go
I never thought that I would be in a place where I was willing to let go. And now that I am, I understand how grieving is a natural part of the process. No matter how terrible the situation was, or what other people think about it, it's normal to grieve something that meant so much. And it's...
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41. Returning to Yourself: Do What You Love & Remember That Feeling
After being lost for so long, I feel that I am not only finally finding myself, but returning to myself once again. This week, I talk about my recent trip that shifted my perspective on my place in this world and what is meant for me. By being honest with myself and confronting my fears, I am…
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40. How to Build Trust in Yourself: The Life You've Always Wanted
As someone who has constantly disappointed herself in the past -- NO MORE!! For this week, let's discuss what it means to have trust in yourself. Through tiny tidbits, trust can be built in any relationship, and your relationship with yourself is the most important to tend to. Having trust in...
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39. Healing a Broken Heart & Loving Deeply
Let's be real, love f**king hurts. With Valentine's Day approaching, we'll be discussing the painful (and sometimes unavoidable) side to experiencing love. Between feeling heartbroken and emotionless, I reflect on what I've observed from this so called "heartless" generation to figure out what it...
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38. What is True Self-Awareness?: Holding on to the Past & Addiction to Shame
Are you self-aware, or are you actually just ruminating on your negative thoughts? For this episode, we're discussing introspection vs. insight, self-intellectualization vs. self-understanding. How true self-awareness is actually mistaken for an obsession with figuring out exactly who we are and...
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37. I Think I Want to Disappear
Sometimes, we get to a place where the world around us becomes a little too much and we want nothing more than to disappear. In this episode, I discuss how my recent mental state has been in the process of figuring myself out and what brings fulfillment to my life. From career goals to personal...
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36. Fear of Adulting: Stuck in a Subjective Age
Do you feel like an adult? Or do you feel like a child trapped in an adult body? For this week, we're discussing subjective aging, how the age that we feel doesn't exactly match the age we physically are. Feeling younger than we are could make us feel incapable of doing regular adult things, on…
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35. Overconsumption: You Have to Start Thinking for Yourself
In the age of influencers, it seems as though we're sinking into the quicksand of overconsumption and maximalism. No, you don't need 30 different shades of foundation from TikTok shop. Let's discuss why you should start to question everything around you, be open to different perspectives, & think...
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34. One Year of the SOLITA Podcast: Passion Projects and The "Right Time" to Start
Happy 2024! And happy one year to the SOLITA podcast!! A year later, I'm reflecting on who I was when I first started this passion project of mine and what it's like to have kept up with it for one whole year. We'll also discuss some of my advice for starting new projects and the "right time" to...
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33. End of the Year Exhaustion: The Need to Reset
Merry xmas! 2023 was a rough year, and as it comes to a close, I reflect on the other version of myself that existed 12 months ago. Amid so many emotions and events, I've grown incredibly exhausted with the world. Fortunately, the new year is a chance to reset. How do we become the most…
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32. Growing Up Ugly: The Long-Term Effects of Developmental Years
The term "growing up ugly" has been tossed around here and there. For this week, I'm diving into my own experience with what I believed was "growing up ugly" and how that shaped my friendships and relationships, as well as my character and my perception of myself today. If you prefer to watch…
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31. Turning Negativity into Growth: Decision-Making & Moving Forward
Have you ever been so incredibly heartbroken that you lose the motivation to do absolutely anything? I've spent the past year rotting in my room, slowly deteriorating, and it makes me sad to think of who I once was. For this week, we'll discuss how to use these negative emotions to our advantage,...
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30. Speaking Out in Times of Crisis
Amid historical divides, silence is a dangerous option. For this week, we're diving into how influence, of any stature, is significant for speaking out in times when it's needed the most. And remember, free Palestine. If you prefer to watch only: https://www.youtube.com/@y2kathie SOCIALS: IG:...
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29. Unscripted: A Little Talk About Depression & ED's
This week, we've having our second ever unscripted episode! Tune in to a really honest and vulnerable conversation about the lack of motivation I've often been having, a potential ED that's been creeping up, and little life problems in between. If you prefer to watch only:...
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28. Not Wanting to Be Perceived
Welcome back to the SOLITA podcast! For our first week back after 3 months, we're discussing some feelings I've had about essentially not wanting to exist. We're always perceiving / being perceived by others and it's virtually impossible to get a break from the chaos of the world. But life goes…
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27. Goodbye 22: Confronting My Toxic Traits & Leaving the Past Behind
Happy birthday to me! I recently turned 23, which means I had to commemorate the new age with a new era in my life. For this episode, I'm shedding my skin and speaking out about all of the challenges I faced being 22. Breaking all of these toxic habits won't be an overnight fix, but the first…
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26. Fear of Being Alone: Abandonment Issues & Facing Discomfort
Being alone is something I'm very familiar with, but that doesn't mean I'm not afraid of it. In this episode, we're discussing how to grow comfortable with our own company and alleviate ourselves from the fear of being alone. Time alone can not only help us heal from our past traumas, but also…
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25. Closure Doesn't Exist: Cutting Ties & Staying Friends With Your Ex
Saying goodbye is one of the hardest human experiences we all have to go through, but how will we really know when it's our last time with someone? Most people seek closure for a sense of finality, but in this episode I discuss why closure doesn't actually exist. How do we cope with the end of...
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24. Quitting Too Soon: Discipline & the Freedom to Explore
When is it time to quit? In this episode, we'll discuss the complicated realm of careers and the job market. What role do our jobs play in our contentedness? Why is there a guilt and shame that surrounds quitting? Should we settle for an environment we don't enjoy and focus our fulfillment…
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23. Invest in Yourself: Taking Risks & Becoming Obsessed With What You Want
What if you could have everything you've ever wanted? In this week's episode, we're going to discuss why we show up for our 9 to 5 without showing up for ourselves. Our passion projects often seem like unachievable dreams, but we'll never know unless we invest -- not only with our time, money…
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22. How to Be Selfish: Rebranding & Self Love
It's happened. I've reached my breaking point. I'm finally fed up with everything in my life and have decided it's time for a rebrand. In this episode, I go into how I am stepping into the new self that I want to be, one that is full of self-love, authentic, and unapologetically selfish. SOCIALS:...
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21. Why Sh**ty Things Happen to Us: Existentialism & The Butterfly Effect
Let's get ready to reframe our thoughts in the midst of an existential crisis. After spilling soda on my laptop, I went down a rabbit hole of questions, primarily asking out loud: why me? Why do certain things happen to me? Perhaps I'll never know the answers I'm looking for, but it's fun to…
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20. Unscripted: People-Pleasing, Identity Crisis, & Other Heartbroken Rants
For this week, I have my first unscripted episode. This means that I will be 100 percent unfiltered and will ramble and rant about whatever is on my mind. Let's have an open and honest conversation about having pure intentions for people who don't reciprocate the same energy, completely losing...
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19. I Didn't Deserve What They Put Me Through
Knowing your self worth is so Girlboss. SOCIALS: IG: https://www.instagram.com/solitapod/ Personal IG: https://www.instagram.com/_kathietorres/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@solitapod Personal TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@y2kathie Twitter: https://twitter.com/y2kathie
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18. Nothing Is Forever: Living Recklessly & Without Guilt
A new hair style means a new and improved woman. For this week, I discuss new changes in my life that have me wondering about how temporary and permanent things truly are. By accepting that things may not always be forever, I give myself the freedom to do whatever I want to do. SOCIALS: IG:...
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17. Recognizing My Safe Spaces
After a one week break, we're back with the SOLITA podcast and discussing a very important question: where do you feel safe? Sleeping in someone else's home? Staying in your comfort zones? Needing a certain level of trust in someone? I want to recognize these safe spaces for when I need comfort…
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16. Expressing Gratitude in the Face of Chaos
Two days after recording this episode, I went back to my ol' pessimistic ways. Regardless, I discuss how expressing gratitude for different aspects of my life has welcomed me with an open heart and new opportunities. SOCIALS: IG: https://www.instagram.com/solitapod/ Personal IG:...
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15. Oh Brother, I'm Depressed: Self-Esteem & Hopelessness
This is going to be a rather depressing episode, so if you're in a worse mental state than I am, proceed with caution. These past few weeks have been eating me up, so I'm coming clean about the negative feelings that, while flaring up from time to time, have always had a lingering presence in my...
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14. Unhealthy Attachments: Why You Keep Going Back to Your Ex
Spoiler alert: it wasn't the last time. As I struggle to let go of an unhealthy attachment, I come clean about this addicting back-and-forth with a specific person and redefine my idea of love. SOCIALS: IG: https://www.instagram.com/solitapod/ Personal IG: https://www.instagram.com/_kathietorres/...
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13. Change: Fear, Loss, & Unfamiliarity
Recently, I had a mix-up that made me believe I was about to undergo a huge change that I was not at all prepared for... and it TERRIFIED me. So naturally, I over-analyzed the heck out of it and made it into an episode. IG: https://www.instagram.com/solitapod/ Personal IG:...
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12. I Don't Know Who I am: Reminiscing the Person I Used to Be
A lot of people can call me a lot of things...and I wish they'd tell me what those are because home girl has no idea. SOCIALS: IG: https://www.instagram.com/solitapod/ Personal IG: https://www.instagram.com/_kathietorres/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@solitapod Personal TikTok:...
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Being a Hater to My Core: Jealousy & Resentment
First and foremost, I am a hater. With that being said, in this episode, I discuss my complicated relationship with this hater energy I have lingering inside me. Where does this hate build from? Will I ever stop being a hater? Your guess is as good as mine. SOCIALS: IG:...
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The Feminine Experience: How I Love Being a Woman!
Happy Women's History Month! In honor of this month, I wanted to discuss my personal experience with being a woman, from childhood to adulthood and everything in between. The trials and tribulations that come with being a woman are important to recognize and should not be taken lightly, though...
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I Feel Like I'm Running Out of Time
In many aspects of my life, I often feel behind. Time is an illusion, yet I still don't have enough of it or even waste the time that I do have. Instead of trying to rush through my life to get to where I want to be, I am starting to learn how to take it one day at a time. SOCIALS: IG:...
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Overthinking: toxic habits & intrusive thoughts
I am a natural over-thinker. I think I even came out of the womb overthinking. As I begin the process of "moving on", I have started to question why I negatively ruminate on situations that are out of my control and the toxic ways in which I enforce these thoughts. IG:...
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Sense & Sensuality, or Romanticizing Your Life
Valentine's Day is here and I don't have a luvr to celebrate with. As someone who has been single every Valentine's Day, I wanted to touch on the topic of sensuality. In this episode, I cover the many ways I experience and explore sensuality, which is a great way to give love and fulfillment to...
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Not Fitting In: imposter syndrome & the pressure to belong
Throughout my life, I have often felt like an imposter. I have felt as if I don’t have a place where I truly belong. In this episode, I open up about my personal experience with not fitting in, whether it’d be school, work, or friends, and how I can begin to figure out who I am and where I am…
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Lurking Too Close to the Sun: internet stalking & the digital footprint
As I was editing this episode, I unfortunately broke my no-lurking streak that I was talking about. I broke it REAL bad. Before doing that though, I discuss my problem with being a skilled FBI girlie and the tolls it has taken on me mentally. SOCIALS: IG: https://www.instagram.com/solitapod/...
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Loving After Heartbreak
Love is a tricky subject, which is why I’ve decided to open up about my experience with being a certified lover girl in a cold, emotionless generation. I have often been left heartbroken because of loving others too much and have been sucked into the endless cycle of pretending, getting hurt, and...
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I Am Allowed to Make Mistakes
In this episode, I open up about some real life insecurities and experiences that have made me feel as if I am not allowed to mess up or make mistakes. I also discuss the ways in which I can start to develop a healthier relationship with making mistakes, learn from them, and understand that these...
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