Strong Men Strong Marriages
by Mike Frazier, MD
Traditional marriage counseling and marriage coaching will tell you to work on communication. A pastor might tell you to sacrifice more and forget about yourself. But, what actually works when it comes to creating a strong, passionate marriage? One that's full of love, connection and intimacy? Find out with us on our podcast, Strong Men Strong Marriages. Hosted by psychiatrist and marriage coach Mike Frazier, MD
Episodes
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Perfection Or Rejection And Unfair Generosity
In doing my inner child work, I realized that from about age 8 I took this message: Be perfect or be rejected. By God, by family, by church, by friends. Sure, you could repent and make things right… But you were always one sin or misstep away from being rejected. It’s not a fun way to live. As…
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Did Your Wife Marry A 3 Year Old?
Are you jealous of how your wife treats your kids? If so, there’s probably a younger you that needs some love and attention. Most of us don’t know how to take care of the younger us. Here’s a simple tool: Lay on the ground Picture the younger you Talk to him and see what he needs That’s it! Do…
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Thank You!
Today is a bittersweet email and podcast. I’ve decided to take a break from podcasting as well. Inside of myself, I just feel like my body, mind, heart and spirit are calling me to a rest period. I just want to say a huge THANK YOU to all of you email subscribers, podcast listeners, YouTube...
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What To Do After You Fight With Your Wife
Conflicts are going to happen in a marriage. It’s what you do after that will either make your marriage stronger… Or weaker. Try these steps: -Share the pain. What happened that hurt you? -Listen to her pain. What hurt her? -Help each other -Ask for a “we’re OK” signal. This lets you know that…
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Emotional Pain For Relationship Gain
Are you often angry at your wife, kids or others? Do the things they do just make you so upset, you find yourself stewing on how they should change? Well, it may be that you, like me, are running from pain by turning to anger. And, pushing away the people you want close to you. Instead, build up...
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Grounded Leadership Program Opens This Week!
The Grounded Leadership program opens this week! If you’re looking to… -Strengthen your relationship with God -Become more grounded in your thoughts and emotions -Improve your relationship with your wife and kids -Set and achieve big goals -Create a legacy for your children and generations to...
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How To Maintain Your Focus And Reach Your Goals
It can be easy to lose your New Year’s resolutions. In fact, up to 45% of people give up by the end of January, and 94% give up at some point through the year. Why is that and how do we maintain focus? Step 1 - Choose just one goal Step 2 - Choose a plan to meet it Step 3 - Visualize daily to…
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How To Build A Strong Relationship With Yourself
Do you feel the need to achieve? What happens if you fail? How will others feel about you? How will you feel about yourself? How do you talk to yourself when you do fail? How well can you identify your own needs? How well can you meet those needs? How well can you ask other people to help you…
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Why Most Men Fail Their New Year's Resolutions
Get healthier. Get wealthier. Have better relationships. These are the most common New Year’s resolutions. Most people think they just need the right plan to reach these goals. The right diet. The right budget. The right communication tools. But here’s the thing. Right plans fail when you can’t...
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Strong Men In God - Live Longer, Stronger and Happier
2026 is right around the corner and there are BIG updates to my business! For 2026, we’ll be changing our name to Strong Men In God. Tag line: Live Longer, Stronger and Happier. We’ll be talking about: -Body - How to increase energy, vitality, and wealth -Mind - Continued talk about managing our...
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How To Be The Strong Support Your Family Needs
You provide financially for your family. But do you provide emotionally? Are you an emotionally safe place for your wife? Does she feel like you are on her team? Can she feel your devotion to her? Are you a model of emotional strength and safety to your kids? Can you soothe yourself through...
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Getting Through Crappy Family Times
Maybe your marriage isn’t where you want it. Your wife isn’t connecting with you physically or emotionally… Or maybe you’re facing separation or divorce. Maybe your kids are driving you crazy with their disrespect, ignoring or other issues. Or, maybe there are other things that are just crap…
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Consistency
Sometimes the best you can do is just show up. And that's part of being a grounded leader. That's what today is about. Showing up and putting the podcast up because I committed to myself and to my listeners to do it. So, if you're feeling like the most you can do is just show up... Know that at…
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How To Make Your Changes Stick
Do you have a hard time staying consistent in your relationship goals? Do you keep losing your temper? Do you keep shutting down when your wife has a complaint against you? Do you try to fix those things, and make some progress for a while… Only to slip back into the same old patterns? Well,...
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How Is Your Relationship With God?
What is God like? How does He respond when you do what’s “right?” How does He respond when you do what’s “wrong?” How does God feel about achievement? The answers to these questions shape a large amount of your relationship with God. They will also shape how you feel towards God, how you feel…
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How To Create Emotional Safety
Is your wife saying she doesn’t feel safe with you? Are your kids staying away from you in certain situations? Do your wife and kids shy away from sharing their emotions with you? If so, there’s a lack of emotional safety in your family relationships. And, if you want loving relationships with…
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How To Tend To Emotions (And How Not To)
What do you do when your kid is scared? Tell him not to be scared? What do you do when you’re mad? Yell at the person? Tell yourself you shouldn’t feel that way? The problem with this kind of response is that it doesn’t let the emotion move through and out of you. Emotion means to move out. Step…
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Is It Worth The Cost?
What do you want out of life? Six pack abs? Millions of dollars? A life full of loving relationships? Anything worthwhile also has a cost. Are you willing to pay the price to have those things? Learn how to evaluate that cost… And how to create a community of people to help you keep going when…
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Have To Vs Want To
Do you have to do things? Work? Be a good dad? Be a good husband? Do your kids have to do things? Get their jobs done? Go to school? Does your wife have to do things? Give you attention, appreciation, affection and sex? Here’s the thing. When we think we and others HAVE TO do things… It creates...
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How To Get Attention, Appreciation, Affection And Sex From Your Wife
I know. We talk about how you shouldn’t really need these things from your wife. But, we all want them. And, there’re nothing wrong with wanting them. After a tough therapy session this week, God helped me understand how taking care of a wife actually works. So that she freely gives attention,...
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What Are You Optimizing For?
What is your main goal as a husband? What is your main goal as a father? Not what are your many goals, but what is your MAIN goal? If you haven’t really defined this, you’re probably optimizing for something unconscious. And, that’s probably based on your own upbringing. So, if you’re not quite...
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Who Is In Charge Of Your Happiness?
I had a tougher day today. Wishing that my wife would give me more attention, appreciation, affection and sex. Feeling like I couldn’t be happy until she did. Then, God reminded me: Who is in charge of your happiness? If I can only be happy if the people around me are acting certain ways… I’m...
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How To Ask For What You Want In Marriage
When it comes to asking for what you want in marriage, men make some common mistakes: -Not asking at all -Asking in a passive aggressive way -Pouting -Asking in a demanding way All of these are unattractive and unlikely to get what you want. There is, however, a “goldilocks zone” that will give…
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How To Feel Free In Relationships - My Breakthrough
THANK YOU for your prayers to help me find freedom in relationships. I had some MAJOR breakthroughs this week that have me feeling better than I EVER have in my marriage and as a father. This one I think you should listen to vs giving you the highlights here. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S....
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The Importance Of Rest
This week I need a break. So, the podcast is just reminding me and you to rest when we need to. Dr. Mike P.S. Get the 7 Day Email Series: How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife at StrongMen.io
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Are Your Rules For Life Taking You Where You Want To Go?
We all have rules for life. The things that tell us how we’re supposed to act… and how other people are supposed to act. Are you supposed to be in shape? What kind of shape? Are you supposed to make money? How much money? Are your kids supposed to listen to you? What if they don’t? How is your…
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Using Prayer For Your Next Step As A Husband And Father
I’m not sure what the next step is for you. What needs to change to take you to new levels of joy and intimacy in your marriage. But, God does. So, instead of worrying about things never getting better… Or setting a plan on your own… Take some time alone and open yourself to receive the ideas,...
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The Top 3 Ways To Take Care Of Yourself To Be A Better Husband And Father
We all have needs in relationships. The trick in a marriage is figuring out… Which needs are coming from a CHILDISH place… And which needs are coming from an ADULT place. If it’s coming from a CHILDISH place, it’s up to YOU to take care of that need. If it’s coming from an ADULT place, it’s time…
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Developing Patience As A Husband And Father
Do you want your marriage to change RIGHT NOW? Do you want your kids to act better RIGHT NOW? Most of us do. But, when we try to force people to be something they’re not… It usually backfires. Like trying to force open a flower. You end up just destroying the flower. Or cutting open the goose to...
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How To Access Powerful Masculine Energy
Do you feel like your wife doesn’t appreciate you? That she cares about the kids more than you? That she can be nice to everyone except you, but is still willing to use the money you bring in? I’ve certainly felt this way. And this energy is not the powerful masculine energy that feels good and...
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What To Do When You Feel Down In Marriage
There are going to be days when you feel down in your marriage. Sad. Overwhelmed. Tired. And, that’s OK. That’s normal and human. Instead of trying to “buck up,” take care of yourself first. Acknowledge you are feeling down, see what you need, and meet that need. Then, think about other ways you...
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How To Be A Truly Powerful Husband And Father
There are two main forces of power available to you as a husband and father. One is a destructive force. This force is a “my way or the highway” energy. It intimidates to get its way. And, it is more powerful than doing nothing. And, it ends in people wanting to create distance from you, making…
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The Beauty Of Boundaries In Marriage And Parenting
In our marriage and parenting, we’re often too hard or too soft. When we’re too hard, we are angry, frustrated, or overly controlling of what people do. This comes from our own discomfort of letting others do things differently. And, it leads to people distancing from us. When we feel that...
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How To Stop Stressing Out As A Husband And Father - Inner Child Journey Part 4
You want to be the best husband. You want to be the best father. You want to be the best at your job. That pressure can help you perform… But it also leads to a feeling of pressure, stress… And even rejection and not feeling good enough. Unfortunately, those aren’t the best feelings to build a...
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How Your Past Affects Your Present - Inner Child Journey Part 3
I used to think that the way to heal was three simple steps. Step 1 –Identify your old, negative, unattractive patterns. Step 2 – Create new positive attractive patterns. Step 3 - Practice the new patterns until you can’t get them wrong And, that sequence does work. However, it misses some...
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What To Do When Your Wife Or Kids Make You Mad
If you’re like me, your wife and kids make you mad. Maybe it happens a lot. If your anger seems extreme for the situation… (like when I got upset this week when my oldest son said goodbye to other people in the family or not me)... There’s probably a younger you that needs caring for. And the…
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How To Break Impossible Patterns In Marriage
I’ve had a pattern in my marriage. I feel hurt by something. The kids or Elizabeth ignoring me. The kids being rude. Elizabeth turning away from a hug or kiss. Then, I get mad. I pull away. I think to myself “Fine, if they don’t want me then they can pay for everything themselves!” I picture...
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Confrontation - A Manly Trait
This past week I had the chance to stand up for someone else. A large man was being threatening and eventually physically aggressive to his wife or girlfriend (not sure which it was).. Thanks to the MMA training I’ve been receiving from Ethyn Ewing (here’s a recent knockout of his)... I felt...
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Panicking When Your Wife Wants Space
When you wife says she wants space… It’s SCARY! Our brains usually go to thinking she wants to leave, whether that’s true or not. Usually we either go to pleading for her not to leave… Or we go to anger. Both of these are unattractive and push our wives away. Instead, we can share what we’re...
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Wife Doesn't Want To Pray With You? What To Do
It can be scary and frustrating if your wife doesn’t want to pray with you. Or maybe it’s that she doesn’t want to go to church or read scriptures with you. You can worry that your marriage won’t make it. That your kids won’t grow up with God. That your wife and kids are on the fast track to...
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Your Wife As A Plant
What’s your goal for your marriage? A wife who is excited to see you? A wife who hugs, kisses and has sex with you? A wife who appreciates you? And that should happen all the time, right? And if not, something is wrong. Right? Well, this mindset of having an “endpoint” to marriage usually leads…
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The Grateful Flow - Tools For A Better Marriage #4
It can be easy to get into a downward spiral about our wife and marriage. The sex isn’t there. The connection isn’t there. We’re dealing with infidelity, separation or divorce. It can all seem pretty hopeless. And, when we feel hopeless, we don’t feel good, we’re not attractive, and we don’t…
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What To Do When Your Wife Seems Distant
Does your wife feel distant? Does she seem to not really care about you? Does she seem to care more about the kids than you? Do you tell her that she should be paying more attention to you, hoping to get more from her? Well, maybe it’s not actually about you at all! And maybe asking her to do…
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The Gap And The Gain In Marriage
Do you wish you had more in your marriage? More sex? More conversation? More connection? More fun? It’s not a problem to want more. However, your emotional state when you desire and ask for more can be a BIG problem. Most of us ask for more from a place of whininess and “not enough.” This usually...
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How To Be Fearless In Marriage - Tools For A Better Marriage Part 3 - Self-Expression
Are you hiding in your marriage? Do you avoid speaking your mind? About money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or free time? Do you get defensive with your wife? All of these symptoms are due to a fear… A fear of part of you being exposed or rejected. Learn how to overcome that fear…...
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Tools For A Better Marriage Part 2 - Active Love
Does your wife make you mad? When she criticizes you? When she seems to care about the kids more than you? Do you feel like just a paycheck? When we get into this negative spiral… It doesn’t do us or anyone else much good. Thankfully, there IS a way out of it… A way we can feel FREE instead of...
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Tools For A Better Marriage Part 1 - The Reversal Of Desire
Are you feeling “stuck” in your marriage? Do you avoid having difficult conversations? Do you avoid asking for what you want? Are you stuck in “roommate mode?” There’s one big reason for the “stuck” feeling in your marriage. It’s avoiding pain. It’s normal to avoid the pain of a hard conversation...
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How Learning To Fight Is Helping My Marriage
I’ve recently started to take MMA lessons and I am LOVING it. Here are some of my big takeaways: -Having a strong base keeps you prepared and stable -Having a strong base in God does the same -You won’t die if you take a punch -You won’t die if you take an emotional punch from your wife or kids...
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The Science Of Life After Death
I read a few books in the last few weeks that have really impacted the way I view life and life after death. After by Bruce Greyson, MD and Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander, MD The main takeaways I got are: -Life DOES continue after this life -We are LOVED by our creator, God -He has a great…
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How To Be A Safe And Secure Husband And Father
Does your wife feel safe with you? Do your kids feel safe with you? What if they did something wrong? Would they come to you for help? What if your wife is struggling emotionally? Would she come to you for comfort? If not, you haven’t been a secure attachment figure to your wife and kids. And...
About this show
Traditional marriage counseling and marriage coaching will tell you to work on communication. A pastor might tell you to sacrifice more and forget about yourself.
But, what actually works when it comes to creating a strong, passionate marriage? One that's full of love, connection and intimacy?
Find out with us on our podcast, Strong Men Strong Marriages.
Hosted by psychiatrist and marriage coach Mike Frazier, MD
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Mike Frazier, MD
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