Suddenly 30 (something*)

Default parenting is real — and exhausting. In this episode of Suddenly 30 Something, we unpack the mental load, invisible labour, and how to rebalance parenting without losing your mind (or your relationship).Default parenting — you know... where you somehow became the CEO of literally everything child-related without a formal job offer.From remembering library day and packing snacks to knowing everyone’s shoe size and when the next birthday party RSVP is due… if this sounds familiar, you might be the default parent.We unpack:Why mums so often fall into this role (hi, societal conditioning 👋)The mental load no one sees but you feel 24/7How “just tell me what to do” somehow becomes another taskIt’s not just about doing more — it’s about thinking about everything, all the time.Signs You’re the Default Parent. If you know, you know… but just in case:You’re the keeper of all schedules, forms, and random school theme daysYou carry the emotional load (who needs new shoes, who’s struggling, who has a cough brewing)You feel like the household project manager… without the salary or lunch breakYou’re delegating tasks instead of sharing responsibilityThis episode is your reminder that you don’t have to carry it all alone. Please follow along on instagram and reach out via DM. It would mean the world to us if you comment, like or subscribe to our podcast. It doesn't cost anything but helps us SOOO much :)

If Part 1 was the “omg same”… this is the “okay but what do we do about it?”There was sooo much to unpack in our sex chat, this is part 2 (go back and listen to part 1!!) In Part 2 of this very real, slightly unhinged, and way too relatable conversation, Alysse and Lucy go even deeper into what’s actually going on when your sex life changes after kids.Because spoiler:👉 it’s not just about libido… it’s about everything underneath it.From resentment and mental load to feeling touched out and completely disconnected — we’re unpacking the real reasons intimacy can feel so hard in this season of life… and what actually starts to shift it.Let’s be honest… sex after kids hits different 😅 In this very real, slightly chaotic, and wildly relatable episode of Suddenly 30 Something, Alysse and Lucy are talking about the thing everyone is thinking about but not actually saying out loud: What the hell happens to your sex life after kids? From spontaneous, carefree intimacy… to scheduling it between Bluey episodes and bedtime battles — we’re unpacking the before vs after kids reality of sex, connection, and keeping your relationship alive when you’re running on zero sleep and snacks.This episode is your reminder that: You’re not broken if your sex drive has changedYou’re not alone if intimacy feels harderAnd no, you’re definitely not the only one choosing sleep over sex Why you need to listen:If you’ve ever thought✔️ “Why don’t I want sex anymore?” ✔️ “Why does it feel like another chore?” ✔️ “Is this normal after kids?” …this episode will make you feel seen, validated, and slightly attacked (in a good way). If this episode made you feel less alone, send it to a friend who definitely needs to hear it 👀 And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review Suddenly 30 Something*— it helps more mums find us (and feel a little less like they’re losing it).Links: https://www.instagram.com/tarao_sexxcoach/https://www.instagram.com/rosie.rees/https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7767422/ tv show- sex education  

Let’s be honest… sex after kids hits different 😅In this very real, slightly chaotic, and wildly relatable episode of Suddenly 30 Something, Alysse and Lucy are talking about the thing everyone is thinking about but not actually saying out loud: What the hell happens to your sex life after kids?From spontaneous, carefree intimacy… to scheduling it between Bluey episodes and bedtime battles — we’re unpacking the before vs after kids reality of sex, connection, and keeping your relationship alive when you’re running on zero sleep and snacks.There was sooo much to unpack this is Part 1 of our sex epsiode. Tune in next week for Part 2. In this episode, we cover:✨ The mental load of motherhood and why it’s the ultimate libido killer✨ The honest truth about sex before kids vs sex after kids✨ Why intimacy doesn’t just “happen” anymore — and what actually helps✨ Resentment, exhaustion, communication… and why they all show up in the bedroom✨ You don’t “lose the spark” after kids… You just have to fight a little harder to find it again 🔥This episode is your reminder that:You’re not broken if your sex drive has changedYou’re not alone if intimacy feels harderAnd no, you’re definitely not the only one choosing sleep over sexWhy you need to listen:If you’ve ever thought:✔️ “Why don’t I want sex anymore?”✔️ “Why does it feel like another chore?”✔️ “Is this normal after kids?”…this episode will make you feel seen, validated, and slightly attacked (in a good way).If this episode made you feel less alone, send it to a friend who definitely needs to hear it 👀And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review Suddenly 30 Something*— it helps more mums find us (and feel a little less like they’re losing it).

In this episode, we’re turning the spotlight onto Alysse — because after last week’s deep dive into Lucy, it’s only fair we get the full story on the other half of the mic.This is Alysse, beyond the quick chats and surface-level moments.We unpack who she is at her core, how she became the woman, mum and partner she is today, and the experiences that have shaped her — the good, the messy, and everything in between.Because if you’ve ever felt like you’re still figuring yourself out in your 30s… same.

In this episode, we’re doing a proper deep dive into Lucy — beyond the quick intros and surface-level chats.This is the real story.We talk about who Lucy is at her core, how she became the woman, mum and partner she is today, and the parts of her life that have shaped her the most (the good, the messy, and everything in between).Because if you’ve ever felt like you’re still figuring yourself out in your 30s… you’re not alone.

In this deeply personal episode of Suddenly 30 Something, Alysse and Lucy open up about their IVF journeys — the reality, the heartbreak, the hope and everything in between. Just a head up there are lots of tears in this episode. Not as light hearted as our regular chats. This is a long, raw and honest conversation unpacking both of their fertility experiences. From the moment you realise conceiving might not be straightforward, to navigating fertility clinics, lifestyle changes, the infamous two-week wait, early pregnancy anxiety and the emotional weight that IVF carries.IVF isn’t just a medical process — it’s an emotional journey that can bring grief, uncertainty, hope and resilience all at once. In this episode we talk openly about the parts people don’t always see: the mental load, the pressure, the decisions, and the unexpected moments of beauty and growth along the way.Whether you’ve experienced IVF yourself, know someone going through it, or you’re simply curious about what the journey can look like, this conversation aims to make people feel less alone in the fertility space.

Yuuup....When Motherhood gets too muchMotherhood can be beautiful, fulfilling… and sometimes completely f *#king overwhelming.In this episode of Suddenly 30 Something, Alysse and Lucy have a raw and honest conversation about the moments when the pressure of motherhood, finances, mental load and daily responsibilities all collide.After experiencing an anxiety attack the night before recording, Alysse opens up about what happens when your nervous system hits capacity — and how easily the stress and anxiety we thought we had under control can creep back in.If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding everything together for your family while quietly falling apart inside, this episode will feel incredibly relatable.We talk about the real pressures modern mothers face, the financial stress many families carry, and the importance of acknowledging when you're simply at your limit.Because sometimes motherhood doesn’t feel like thriving… it feels like surviving.• Motherhood overwhelm and the mental load mums carry• Experiencing anxiety and panic attacks as a parent• Financial stress and the pressure of providing for a family• What happens when you reach your emotional capacity• Tools for managing anxiety (including therapy techniques and breathing)• Why acknowledging your feelings is an important step toward coping• Wanting the “pressure valve” of life to release for a momentWe also talk about the reality that many mums feel guilty admitting: sometimes we just need a break — space to breathe, reset and come up for air.If you're navigating motherhood in your 30s, juggling family life, marriage, finances and identity shifts, you are not alone.At the end of every episode we share our SOS — Suggestion, Obsession and Self-Care of the week, where we talk about the small things helping us get through the chaos.Suddenly 30 Something is a podcast for women navigating their 30s — motherhood, marriage, identity shifts and the “what the hell are we doing?” moments of adult life.New episodes weekly.Keywords:motherhood overwhelm, mum anxiety, parenting stress, motherhood mental health, mental load of motherhood, anxiety in mothers, parenting podcast, motherhood podcast, women in their 30s, modern motherhood

Hang onto your hats… the number of tangents we go on, it’s like a roller coaster.In late 2025 we hit record and officially launched Suddenly 30 Something — a podcast for women navigating their 30s, motherhood, marriage, identity shifts and “what the hell are we doing?” moments.Episode 1 is your full origin story of who we are and how the poddy came to be. Enjoy the ride! We cover:• who we are + how we metparenting in your 30s• marriage after kidsmoving to new towns• career pivots + work life• self care that isn’t just bubble baths• current obsessions and random life updates• Lucy weaponising blowj0bs Links:https://www.instagram.com/suddenly30_something/Silver strands glitter - going grey inspo https://www.instagram.com/silverstrandsofglitter/?hl=en