The Flynn Skidmore Podcast

There is probably a spectrum of traumatizability. Some people, for reasons that span psychology, biology, spirituality, and beyond, just don't deeply internalize damage the way the world expects them to.I share something I have carried for nearly 20 years: a vague sense that a sexual violation happened to me when I was young, which became as close to confirmation as I will probably ever get during a meditation retreat in India on my honeymoon. And my most honest report is that it didn't hurt that much.I share the concept of traumatizability, which I have held in my pocket for five years, the geometry of the soul and what I mean by symmetry and structural integrity, how the experience did affect me in ways I didn't expect, and why I no longer want to wear "I'm not traumatizable" as armor.We close on what this might mean for you: where do you find yourself on the spectrum of traumatizability, what factors might contribute to that, and is there something you have been wearing as armor that is actually asking to be held with a little more humility and reverence.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

If you’d like to continue this conversation with me live, join us this Friday in The Membership.The central question: is violent self-murder ever necessary, or is it actually the part of us refusing to consent to a death that's already trying to happen?I share what came up for me sitting with that question, starting with a week of post-dental agony that led me to something I want you to feel more than understand: all you are is space, and what we are looking for in every choice we make is the non-refusal of space.That space is filled with what I call the three-blade ceiling fan: creation, maintenance, and destruction, spinning so fast you cannot distinguish them. When creation slows and maintenance takes over, destruction comes in. The question is whether we consent to it or fight it.My hope is that you walk away with a felt sense of the intelligence that's already at work in you, and the understanding that you probably don't have to learn how to destroy the versions of yourself that need to go. You just have to learn how to stop refusing the destruction that's already underway.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

If you’d like to continue this conversation with me live, join us this Friday in The Membership.In the first seven months of my relationship with Julia, I was jealous. Not hyper controlling, but a silent suffering that verged on obsessive compulsiveness. I was beginning and ending my days with anguish, rage, despair, blame, and frustration.I share the full arc of that experience, what triggered it, what it revealed in me, why none of the tools I tried worked, and how Julia's extraordinary capacity for dignified connection, what I call the Roger Federer of relationship form, was so foreign to my pattern of closing off that it destabilized me.I also share how the transformation happened, not through a specific practice, but through living in alignment and letting the distortion, like a wonky wheel, smooth itself out in the container of a committed relationship.We close on what this journey has made possible: a genuine desire to connect with her ex, and a relationship that is a multiplier of her liberation and mine.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

Welcome to The Flynn Skidmore Podcast.I'm Flynn, and this podcast is for learning to light your soul on fire and become exactly who you want to be. Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

Flynn shares the deeply personal motivations behind launching a subscription-based podcast. He explores the transformative power of consciousness, the importance of making profound ideas accessible, and his commitment to creating an intimate space for raw, vulnerable storytelling. This episode is an invitation to co-create a new model of personal growth that transcends conventional business approaches and empowers individuals to become conscious creators of their reality.Connect with Flynn:WebsiteInstagramTikTokYoutube

In today's episode, I speak with holistic psychologist, educator and author, Dr. Scott Lyons. Scott is a world-class body-based trauma expert, helping people break free from cycles of pain, limiting beliefs, and trauma. In this conversation, we explore cyclical thoughts, shame and its effects, positive and toxic shame, self-actualization, social isolation and loneliness, and what it means to have an internal experience.We also discuss detecting repressed shame and manipulation, resonance and emotional contagion, supporting each other in the journey toward self-actualization, and creating a world that supports everyone's access to love and joy.Connect with Dr. Scott Lyons:WebsiteInstagramFacebookTikTokBuy Dr. Scott' book - Addicted to DramaWays to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I explore the often-overlooked fear of joy and the profound impact it has on our lives. Through a powerful client story and reflections on my personal journey, I uncover the ways early life experiences teach us to repress joy as a survival strategy. Together, we examine how these patterns shape our personality, relationships, and creative potential, often keeping us disconnected from our truest selves.Through the lens of amplifying joy as a bonding energy, we delve into the transformative power of embracing your full self-expression. This conversation is an invitation to reflect on the ways you’ve been conditioned to dim your joy and to rediscover it as a source of connection, nourishment, and creation. Whether you’re yearning for deeper relationships, creative freedom, or a life guided by authenticity, this episode offers a compassionate and practical roadmap to reclaim the joy you were always meant to embody.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I delve into the journey of navigating darkness and discovering the beauty that emerges when we embrace our contradictions. I share my personal experience of living out of alignment with my true self, the pain of hiding behind masks, and the profound transformation that comes from aligning your external reality with your internal truth.Through the lens of congruence—where your inner essence and outer life harmonize—we explore the creative potential unlocked by authenticity and transparency. This conversation is an invitation to tenderly hold all parts of yourself, reflect on your own relationship with darkness and beauty, and create from a space of deep truth.Whether you’re yearning for deeper connection, fuller self-expression, or a sense of relief from the weight of pretense, this episode offers a gentle guide to living a more honest, expansive, and fulfilling life.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I guide you through a powerful meditation designed to help your desires feel safe to grow and flourish. I’ll help you create a space where you can explore what you truly want, hold space for the fears that may arise, and transform them with warmth and tenderness. This practice allows you to connect with your desires, understand their potential, and create an environment where they can thrive.This meditation is an invitation to expand your capacity to hold both your dreams and the fears that accompany them. By cultivating “smiling energy” throughout your body and extending it to your desires and fears, you’ll learn how to create safety within yourself, unlocking greater potential for growth and fulfillment in your life.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I share my thoughts on why material wealth alone doesn’t create a truly fulfilling life. I talk about the epidemic of isolation in our culture and how many of us, myself included, have sacrificed genuine connection in the pursuit of success. I explore what’s at the core of this need for “life force” and how nurturing friendships with shared aspirations can shift our experience, bringing us closer to true abundance.I also open up about my own journey through loneliness, my struggle to find fulfilling friendships, and the shifts I made to build intentional, meaningful connections. My hope is to inspire you to look at your own relationships and consider how building a life full of nourishing, reciprocal friendships could lead to a richer, more vibrant existence.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, we explore the journey of becoming someone who genuinely inspires yourself. I share my personal transformation from relying on fear-based motivation to cultivating a life of true self-inspiration, highlighting both the struggles and revelations along the way.We dive into:Owning Your Desires: Why aligning with what you genuinely want can shift everything.Self-Actualization and Collective Growth: How your personal growth impacts the world around you.From Manipulation to Inspiration: Moving from needing approval to becoming a source of inspiration for yourself.Through practical insights and reflective musings, we navigate the balance between ego-driven goals and actions motivated by love. I challenge hierarchical thinking in personal development, introducing a horizontal approach where love and fear coexist without judgment. This episode encourages you to move from seeking external validation to finding internal alignment. By viewing mistakes as growth opportunities and detaching from specific outcomes, you can build a life that not only fulfills and inspires you but also contributes to the collective awakening of our shared world.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I’m diving into the heart of self-love, breaking down some of the biggest misconceptions that can actually hold us back and deepen self-criticism. I’ll share how looking at self-love as an energetic process can help us move beyond judgment and obligation, opening up space for real acceptance and powerful transformation.I’ll guide you through exercises to help you reconnect with your inner self and build a nurturing presence that reaches beyond your own boundaries. Together, we’ll explore the fascinating relationship between our biology and our energy, discovering how self-love can not only transform our lives but also ripple out to impact the world around us. If you’re ready for a new, expansive take on self-love, join me in this episode to explore self-love as a powerful path for personal and collective evolution.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I explore the profound impact of completion on personal growth and success. I share my journey in recognizing the importance of signing off on both tangible projects and intangible parts of myself, including past versions of who I’ve been. By acknowledging what’s complete, I’ve found that it reduces overwhelm and frees up energy for new creations.Using the metaphor of water flowing from a mountain to the ocean, I illustrate the process of creation and the obstacles that can block our progress. I discuss "problem oscillation"—the way our unconscious mind resists change—and invite you to reflect on the “paintings” in your life. Whether they’re completed projects, former selves, or unfinished endeavors, practicing acknowledgment and closure can unlock your creative potential and bring greater fulfillment.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, we explore the intricate dance between energy and the material world, uncovering how these two layers of reality shape our experiences. Through the lens of my personal journey, we examine how our energetic states—whether rooted in shame or love—ripple out to influence the physical world. Understanding the cycles of creation, assimilation, and completion, we gain the power to cultivate life-giving energy, transforming not only ourselves but also the environments we touch. By processing the inherited energies of our lineage and the collective, we’re guided toward a life steeped in love and curiosity.This episode also invites you to shift from reactive consciousness to creator consciousness, where clarity of vision and intentional action become the driving forces in your life. Together, we explore how identifying what we truly want and balancing the tension between our present reality and our desired future can fuel real, meaningful progress. My hope is to inspire you to see yourself as an active creator, crafting a life of joy and satisfaction through conscious, resonant choices.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of creating our desires in life. I explore how our general orientation, like my goal of becoming 100% love, guides our actions and shapes our journey. I emphasize the importance of embracing the tension between our current state and our aspirations, viewing it as a space for creation and growth. We discuss the rhythm of creation - birth, maintenance, and death - and how honoring each stage is crucial for sustainable progress and energy management.I also share personal insights on overcoming the need for instant validation and "beginner's luck." Instead, I advocate for identifying as an evolutionary being, focusing on long-term growth and the compounding effects of consistent action. I reflect on my own journey, moving away from seeking external validation of my "specialness" to valuing the slow, beautiful process of evolution. Ultimately, I encourage you to evaluate you actions based on whether they provide energy for producing results or deplete it, making this approach a fundamental aspect of how I live my life.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I dive into the concept of creation and share my personal journey of identifying as an artist. I explore how this decision has transformed my perspective on life and creativity. I discuss the importance of embracing all dimensions of ourselves, dissolving perceived contradictions, and how identifying as an artist has allowed me to love mistakes and take myself less seriously. I also touch on the idea that we are all artists, constantly creating in every moment, whether we're conscious of it or not.I introduce the five steps of creation that we'll be exploring in more detail in the next episode: vision, reality, action, rhythm, and momentum. These steps are crucial in understanding how to consciously create the life we desire. I'm excited to delve into each of these concepts, discussing the challenges of knowing what we want, being honest with ourselves, taking aligned action, understanding the rhythms of creation, and building momentum over time. Stay tuned for the next episode where we'll break down these steps and answer some insightful questions from our audience about the creative process.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

I share how I've transformed potentially tense situations into opportunities for connection and growth. By approaching these encounters with an intention of giving of giving - offering presence, friendliness, and genuine interaction - I've not only often avoided traffic tickets but more importantly, created moments of real human connection. This approach, I believe, is about transcending societal programming and contributing to a collective evolution in how we interact with one another.I also explore the importance of understanding the energetic results we desire from our interactions. Rather than focusing solely on material outcomes, I emphasize the value of cultivating awareness of the internal experiences we seek - joy, wonder, curiosity, and groundedness. By practicing these energies in our interactions, we not only increase the likelihood of favorable outcomes but also enrich our own experience and potentially transform the experience of those we interact with. This episode sets the stage for next week's Q&A session, where I'll be addressing thought-provoking questions about healthy giving, spiritual capacity in relationships, overcoming the cycle of withdrawal, and more.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I ask the question, “Why does growth take time?”I explore the mechanisms underlying the materialization of desires and intentions, and consider why sustainable change takes time, using my own experience with eyesight as an example. I discuss why quick fixes or "winning the lottery" or “chiropractor” scenarios might not lead to lasting transformation, and how God (or the universe/love/nature/light/oneness) might actually be loving by allowing us to go through the process of change. I emphasize the importance of becoming the person for whom our desires are a natural feature, rather than just achieving surface-level changes. Finally, I encourage listeners to reflect on the seeds they've planted in their lives, both those that have come to fruition and those that haven't, and to cultivate appreciation for the growth they've experienced. Remember, what you appreciate grows, and your transformations contribute to the collective consciousness of humanity.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I dive into the complexities of personal growth within relationships and share my 4-part framework for co-creation. We explore the challenging dynamics that arise when partners have different visions for their lives and the importance of understanding each other's ideals.We discuss the three options you face when your partner's growth doesn't align with your expectations: accept them as they are, change your expectations, or choose to leave the relationship. I emphasize the importance of personal responsibility in evolution and the need to invest energy into relationships that align with your growth.The 'Co-Creation Framework,' is a powerful model that encourages honest communication and helps you understand whether a partner's patterns align with their desired growth. This framework is about fostering intimacy by healing unconscious wounds and transforming them into love.Tune in to learn how to apply these concepts to enrich your relationships and personal journey, ultimately amplifying your fulfillment and engagement with life.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I follow up on last week’s topics of superiority and inferiority and share my growth since. I speak about into the concept of empowerment and the journey from perceiving relationships vertically to embracing horizontal connections. I explore the realization that safety and genuine connection come from allowing ourselves to be seen horizontally by others. This shift in perspective has transformed my creative process, enabling me to operate with a more nourishing worldview.I also discuss my decision to no longer identify as a therapist and what that opens up for me in terms of artistry. Inspired by a documentary on Rick Rubin, I reflect on the idea that true art creates change and examine the potency of value and impact in the world.Throughout the episode, I share my thoughts on honesty, transparency, and the transformative power of art. I touch on the role of alter egos in artistic expression and the importance of sharing one's psyche openly to foster change and evolution.Join me as I navigate these complex themes and express my appreciation for the supportive community that allows me to explore these ideas freely.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I dive deep into the personal journey of understanding and transforming my internal concept of worth and value. I explore the idea of being seen as the "best option" and how it has influenced my actions and relationships. Through a reflective process, I discuss the importance of shifting from a vertical, hierarchical mindset to a more horizontal, interconnected view of relationships and self-worth.I share insights from conversations with friends and personal reflections that led me to question my need for superiority and how it can be transformed into lightness and mutual respect. By examining my fears and aspirations, I aim to cultivate a new self-concept rooted in compassion, creativity, and joy.Join me as I navigate the complexities of personal growth and self-acceptance, and explore how we can all contribute to a more evolved and harmonious world by embracing our imperfections and striving for genuine connection. This episode is a raw and honest look at the ongoing journey of self-discovery and transformation.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I dive into one of the most challenging and transformative aspects of personal growth: conflict. I share my perspective on how to navigate, embrace, and engage with conflict in the most next-level way possible.Conflict is golden because it accelerates the process of bringing unconscious material to the surface of your conscious awareness. This gives you the opportunity to make conscious choices about how you relate to that material and, ultimately, transform it.I discuss how our narratives and stories act as scaffolding around the energy we experience, and how changing the energy can change our patterns. I also explore the concept of solipsism—the idea that the entire universe might be a projection of your mind—and how considering this perspective can lead to a deeper level of personal responsibility.Using a recent conflict with a close friend and client as an example, I illustrate how we can use conflict to practice being more of who we want to be. By taking 100% responsibility for our conflicts, we can extract the most material for our evolution, rupture and repair deeper issues, and ultimately cultivate more joy, curiosity, awe, wonder, and empowerment in our lives.Thank you for joining me. I hope this episode offers you valuable insights and perspectives to consider.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I dive deep into my transformative journey with Connor Milstein's movement system. This isn't just about getting in shape; it's about aligning your body, mind, and spirit to the highest degrees of love and transformation.We kick off by exploring my initial resistance to adopting Connor's system and how committing to it has led to unprecedented levels of personal growth. I'm talking about physical changes like increased neck size and foot growth, as well as deeper shifts in confidence, creativity, and decision-making.I share how the combination of internal world safety and expansiveness with physical practices has been mind-blowing. We touch on sacred geometry and how love and efficient energy distribution manifest as beautiful, symmetrical shapes. Carl Rogers' idea of perpetual adaptation also makes an appearance, shedding light on the importance of being in a constant state of change and evolution.The episode is a love letter to Connor's movement system and its profound impact on my life. If you're committed to becoming love in a world-class way, this is the episode for you.Thank you for tuning in. Your support and love mean the world to me. Let's continue this journey of transformation together.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

This episode is a re-airing of the episode published on December 13, 2023. In today’s episode, I teach you about the The 6 Principles of Your Unconscious. These principles, informed by Neuro-Linguistic Programming, are the key to understanding your unconscious to transform your internal and external realities.The 6 Principles:Your unconscious stores and organizes memoryYour unconscious takes everything personallyYour unconscious works on the principle of least effortYour unconscious does not process the negativesGoal setter vs. go-getterWhat is safe to your unconscious is what you will be, do, or haveEach principle offers practical insight into recognizing how your conscious and unconscious mind work together, and how this awareness can inspire new action and ultimately change the workings of your unconscious to align with who you want to be, the life you want to live, and bring your potential to life.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, we dive deep into the themes of purpose and our contributions to the collective well-being. We explore how aligning our internal and external environments can empower us to trust our instincts and fully engage in our lives, unlocking a state of fulfillment and creative power.Here’s what we cover:Purpose and Contribution: Understanding how to live in service to the greater good and the profound impact of aligning our actions with our deepest values.Trust and Instinct: Discussing the importance of getting out of overthinking patterns and trusting our instincts to make bold decisions.Electrical Communication in Cells: An intriguing look at how our cells communicate through electricity, reflecting on how this affects our sense of self and our interaction with the world.Creating Supportive Environments: Tips on how to cultivate an internal state conducive to clarity and purpose, emphasizing clean eating, proper hydration, and meaningful social connections.Expanding the Sense of Self: A fascinating exploration of how expanding our sense of self to include a larger ecosystem can enhance our ability to contribute positively to the world.Join us as we uncover how to harness your inner power and step into a life of active contribution and satisfaction, energized by a profound connection to the universe.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, we delve into the relationship between our internal states and the external environments we navigate. I challenge the idea that joy can be cultivated internally regardless of external circumstances by emphasizing the interconnectedness of the internal and external worlds.Here’s what we cover:Interplay Between Internal and External Environments: How surroundings influence our inner experiences and the importance of creating supportive external systems for desired internal states.Impact of Prefabricated Systems: Critiquing reliance on ready-made systems like educational institutions or corporate structures that may not align with our personal values, underscoring the need for personal agency in creating environments that foster preferred states.Building Personal Ecosystems for Fulfillment: Exploring the importance of creating personal systems that reflect and support qualities we wish to embody, such as joy and empowerment, with personal anecdotes on designing life's framework for profound satisfaction.Navigating Environmental Changes: Illustrating how changes in our environments can affect our mood and outlook, with stories like a community member’s transition from bliss in Austria to routine in New York.Join us to understand how crafting our external circumstances can enhance our inner well-being, highlighting the transformative power of creating ecosystems that emphasize the internal and external.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, we delve into the depths of the unconscious mind. We begin by unpacking the concept of the unconscious, drawing on insights from Carl Jung to appreciate its complexities and potential. This episode is dedicated to helping you explore and embrace the hidden treasures of your unconscious, moving beyond fear and into a profound engagement with your deeper self.Here's what we cover:Understanding the Unconscious Mind: This segment explores the unconscious mind and how it influences 95% of our behavior, choices, and patterns. It illuminates how our external lives reflect our deepest internal mechanisms.The Role of Safety in the Unconscious: A key focus of the discussion is how the unconscious mind determines what is 'safe,' shaping our lives around these perceptions. We discuss the importance of recognizing and updating these safety paradigms to create lives we truly desire.Transforming Unconscious Patterns: We dive into practical steps for identifying and altering deeply ingrained unconscious patterns. This involves recognizing what we perceive as 'safe' and exposing ourselves to new, healthy experiences to reshape our understanding of safety.Hydrating Your Internal World: We emphasize the importance of approaching our internal landscapes with kindness and curiosity. This approach hydrates and softens our internal world, making it receptive to transformation and growth.Join us on this journey into the unconscious mind, where we strive not just to confront but to transform and revitalize our hidden selves for a more fulfilled and conscious life.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today’s episode, we explore the journey of "Becoming Love." This isn't just about romance or affection; it's about transforming every interaction and everyday moment into an opportunity for growth and kindness. Today, we delve deep into what it means and what it takes to embody love in all aspects of life.What you'll discover in this episode:We begin by challenging the traditional hierarchies of emotions, such as those that rank love over shame or enlightenment over fear. I discuss how these rankings can inadvertently reinforce feelings of separation and rejection—the very opposites of love.I share insights on how seeing love not as a superior state but as a choice can liberate us from the confines of emotional hierarchies, allowing for a more genuine and compassionate approach to all feelings, including those like shame and fear.The conversation shifts to practical strategies for nurturing love in the mundane—the everyday acts and objects around us that we often overlook. From how we interact with the dishes to how we engage with a stranger, I explore how every moment holds the potential for love and transformation.We also touch on the science of quantum entanglement as a metaphor for our interconnectedness, suggesting that by fostering love within ourselves, we might be influencing a larger cosmic pattern.Finally, the episode culminates in a powerful call to action: to live as a "devotee of love," actively choosing to transform our relationships with ourselves, others, and the world around us into expressions of love and understanding.Join me for a transformative journey through the landscapes of emotion and relationship, where we learn not just to experience love but to become it, in every breath and every interaction.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today’s episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, I delve into what we often hide from the world and ourselves—our fears, shames, and those dark corners of our psyche we seldom dare to illuminate. We’re discussing the energy it takes to keep these secrets buried and the transformative power of bringing them to light.Here’s what you can expect in this episode:I’ll share personal stories, starting with a seemingly small but significant memory from fifth grade involving a rotting apple in my backpack—a metaphor for the things we hide that slowly decay within us.I'll explore deeper patterns of hiding, such as financial disorganization and emotional withdrawal, which have significantly impacted my life and relationships.The conversation will pivot to the broader implications of these hidden issues, examining how they drain our energy and create barriers to our growth and happiness.I’ll propose a shift towards openness and honesty, not just as a practice but as a healing mechanism, discussing how acknowledging our deepest fears and flaws can catalyze change and increase our vitality.Finally, we'll consider the communal impact of personal honesty—how creating a culture that embraces rather than shuns vulnerability could fundamentally alter our collective wellbeing.Join me as we uncover the hidden, confront the uncomfortable, and learn to harness the liberating power of truth for a fuller, more authentic life.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today’s episode of the Flynn Skidmore podcast, I discuss a personal pattern that has challenged and defined a part of who I am in relationships. I discuss the times I've walked away from relationships, leaving others feeling hurt due to my lack of communication. However, it’s not a simple story of complete avoidance; it's a pattern that doesn’t define all my relationships, as many have grown stronger and deeper over the years. However, the pattern of withdrawal absolutely exists for me, and I want to share my insights with you.Here’s what we’ll unpack today:I've been on a journey of introspection over the last few months, during which I've confronted this pattern directly, striving to understand the dynamics at play.The balance of conditional and unconditional love in relationships, and how I've historically used love perhaps more as a tool for change rather than as pure affection.How this reflection led to a broader understanding of my interactions and how I've begun reaching out to repair past relationships, transforming feelings of guilt and avoidance into opportunities for growth and honesty.The discussion will then expand into a broader philosophical exploration of love, growth, and personal responsibility in relationships.Join me as I reveal my struggles with closeness, value, and the desire to not just be, but to be better—and how this quest shapes the way I connect with others. This is about transforming personal insights into actionable wisdom that fosters deeper, more real, and honest relationships.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, Steve Hoskinson, founder of Organic Intelligence, joins me to discuss a range of topics, from mindfulness and meditation to how we understand change and compassion through systems theory.Steve shares his insights from decades of studying what it means to be inherently whole. We dive into the paradox of change, exploring how accepting ourselves as we are can lead to transformation.We also discuss the role of compassion in our lives, looking at it through the lens of systems theory to gain a deeper understanding. Steve introduces his theory that focusing our attention outward rather than inward can foster positivity and help us organize our lives better.As we wrap up, we stress the importance of appreciating the world's beauty while being aware of the environmental challenges we face.Join us for this engaging episode as we delve into these topics, offering insights that encourage us to embrace and navigate life’s complexities with clarity and purpose. Tune in and discover practical ways to integrate these concepts into your daily life.Connect with Steve:WebsiteWays to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

Today, I'm thrilled to share a conversation with Derek Sivers, a former musician, programmer, TED speaker, circus clown, and author. From selling his first company for $22 million and donating all the proceeds to charity to moving from Singapore to New Zealand, his vibrant presence shines through every story he shares.In this episode, Derek and I explore his unique life experiences, from his early days in Fort Greene, navigating the gritty reality of New York City in the late '80s and '90s, to his dynamic career transitions that have led him to writing and podcasting. We discuss the impacts of gentrification, the pivotal decisions that shaped his path, and the vibrant energy of cities that shaped the creative landscape of his time.Derek's reflections on personal growth, transformation, and the pursuit of authenticity through all phases of life are as enlightening as they are inspiring. His move toward a more balanced approach in his career, reducing sponsored content to maintain authenticity, signals his ongoing evolution as a creator and thinker.Join us as we dive deep into the mechanics of creativity, the essence of personal change, and the enduring pursuit of living a life true to one's values. Derek's story is a testament to the power of resilience and the beauty of reinventing oneself amidst life's unpredictable waves. So tune in, get inspired, and discover how you can harness your experiences to craft a life filled with purpose and passion.Connect with Derek:WebsiteYouTubeTwitterWays to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, we explore the concept of human tribes and the pervasive sense of disconnection many feel today. We look at how our shift from tribal living to agricultural societies marked the beginning of what I call the 'great disintegration'—a move away from a unified, integrated experience of life. This shift, driven by fear and the pursuit of resource accumulation, has left many feeling tribeless and isolated in a fragmented world.Despite these challenges, I encourage you to create your own tribes based on shared values and standards, holding yourself to the standard of becoming those values and standards. While the potential for loneliness persists, this proactive approach offers a path to reintegration and the possibility of building a harmonious society on a scale previously unimaginable.Join me as we contemplate the historical shifts that have shaped our social landscape and discuss how we might forge new connections that transcend traditional boundaries, fostering a sense of belonging and community in our modern world.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I sit down with Jeff Guenther (TherapyJeff), a therapist who's made a huge splash with his engaging mostly-relationship content. We dive into Jeff’s personal backstory, including his challenging relationship with his mother, his battles with anger, identity formation, music and culture, and the impact of his mom's drug addiction during his formative years.Jeff also opens up about his content journey, from the excitement of his initial viral success to the challenges of monetizing his platform. He shares his struggles with maintaining authenticity while navigating the world of sponsored content. Now, he's shifting toward a more balanced approach, focusing on writing and podcasting and cutting back on sponsored posts.He's also excited about his upcoming book, "Big Dating Energy," which he hopes will offer fresh insights into modern relationships. We wrap up our conversation by discussing his love for organic, long-form conversations and his enthusiasm for the next chapter of his career.Join us as TherapyJeff shares his journey and insights, offering a behind-the-scenes look at the life of a viral content creator turning towards more meaningful media endeavors.Connect with Jeff:WebsiteInstagramTikTokYoutubeWays to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I explore dealing with those who aren’t invested in their own growth and what I call 'magnetism'—essentially, how to best set ourselves up to influence others. I share insights from my own journey to boost my magnetism, shedding light on the crucial role of sincerity and truth in self-discovery and our interactions with others.We'll talk about the significant impact our environments and relationships have on our personal growth and the strength of our magnetism. I emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for creating our own ecosystems that support our growth, boost our magnetism, and help us love and accept others as they are.Another key point we tackle is the challenges of effectively communicating our truth, especially when it means facing our fears and dealing with shame. Throughout the episode, I encourage you to take an active role in your personal growth by creating spaces that enhance your magnetism and allow you to love and accept others. Plus, we'll explore why honesty and facing tough emotions are essential steps on the path to personal growth.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, we explore the concept of self-sabotage, analyzing how our internal experiences, like shame and fear, often reflect our unconscious desires. We’ll look at how these patterns can be traced back to our early years, especially from infancy to about seven years old—a critical period when we were learning to navigate our surroundings. I emphasize that self-sabotage isn't inherently bad; it’s a survival mechanism we’ve developed.I explain that transforming these patterns is entirely possible by approaching self-sabotage with warmth, love, and curiosity. By understanding and accepting these patterns, we can begin to change them, but it requires engaging in deep emotional work and taking decisive actions in our daily lives.To wrap up, I encourage you to think about how you might consciously cultivate a new environment for yourself where positive internal experiences are more frequent. Join me as we delve into these complex issues, providing insights and actionable advice on using self-sabotage as a tool for personal growth and self-discovery.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode join me as I speak with Andy McCune, founder of Cosmos, a Pinterest alternative designed for creatives with great taste. Together, we delve into the depths of creativity, unleashing ourselves to be unreasonably passionate and in love with life, the artistic process, and the relationship between heartbreak and creation.We kick off the discussion by exploring our shared belief in the power of relentless passion and the essential role of authenticity in our work. We also reflect on the notion of 'perfection' found in organic materials and nature, and how this influences our creative endeavors.Andy shares insightful stories from his experiences selling his companies and the intricate process of relinquishing control. We discuss how money can indeed be part of the creative process and how making money can be considered an art form.As we wrap up our conversation, we touch on the power of choosing to be a certain kind of person, emphasizing the importance of reflection in our journey to make better mistakes. Join us as we navigate these complex themes, offering our insights and experiences to inspire you in your own creative and entrepreneurial ventures.Connect with Andy:WebsiteInstagramCosmosWays to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I dive into the essential elements of personal evolution, focusing on the transformative power of self-confidence, transparency, and owning your truth. I kick things off with a discussion on how self-development and improvement fuel our energy and confidence. I share personal anecdotes from my experiences with surfing and tennis to illustrate the journey of understanding one's current state and desired goals.We then delve into the desire for improvement, exploring how crucial it is to recognize how much you want to improve and the willingness to put in the hard work. Following this, I discuss the role of the ego in differentiation and individuality, unpacking the human ego's tendency towards comparison and the pursuit of status or belonging.The conversation shifts to valuing internal experiences like joy, confidence, and peace, emphasizing the importance of cultivating these qualities within ourselves. I introduce the concept of a 'flex hierarchy', where the things you value most become your biggest 'flexes'.As we near the end, I encourage you to embrace the process of becoming who you want to be, highlighting the importance of recognizing the gap between where you are and where you aspire to be as a space for growth rather than shame. I reflect on my journey and the lessons learned along the way.We conclude with a reiteration of the importance of transparency, truth, and commitment. I invite you to fully commit to your own development and growth, embracing each step of the journey with hard work and repetition to achieve greatness. Join me as we navigate the complex yet rewarding path of self-discovery and improvement.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I delve into two compelling themes: the pursuit of perfection and the commitment to never being defensive or offended. I discuss how we can view perfection not as a final destination but as a continual journey that strives for balance and coherence. I talk about the importance of not setting unrealistic expectations and embracing imperfections as they present growth opportunities.    I introduce the concept of the "Four Horsemen of the Personal Apocalypse" — assumption, expectation, obligation, and judgment — which often lead us to feelings of shame and self-criticism. Through personal reflection and understanding our triggers with curiosity, we can cultivate a richer inner world.    We also explore how opinions function as tools that shape our internal experiences and external results. I emphasize the importance of earning our opinions, underscoring that the credibility of our views is reflected in the outcomes of our lives. I highlight the "empty chair technique," a method that reveals our reliance on external validation and its inherent fragility.    Moreover, I discuss the transformative potential of never being defensive or offended again, treating such moments as opportunities to confront challenging information and grow. By welcoming feedback and using discomfort as a catalyst for self-awareness, we foster a mindset of humility and continual personal evolution.    Join me to reshape your approach to personal growth and how you interact with the world inside of and around you.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today’s episode, I'm joined by Frank Bach, a designer at Instagram and a member of the band Monk. We delve into the intriguing crossroads of art and commerce, the significance of parental support in cultivating self-confidence, and the pivotal role of intuition in decision-making.Our conversation begins with Frank's role at Instagram, where he's dedicated to enhancing the experience for creators on the platform. We then explore his insights on branding, its transition from corporate identities to personal ventures, and the importance of consistent application over time.Frank also shares his background in hardcore punk music and its influence on his approach to design and branding, teaching him to challenge norms and embrace authenticity.We discuss our takes on cultural trends. Frank dives into his unique design aesthetic, shaped by his musical influences and the merging of cultures and influences in the current creative landscape.Join me for this thought-provoking, sociology-esque discussion with Frank Bach!Connect with Frank:TwitterInstagramTikTokSunshine ShopBandDesign PortfolioWays to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, I delve into my experience with self-hate and outline 3 of the most important factors in my experience of transcending it.We will dive into concept of resonance and its profound impact on our actions and perspectives. I share my personal journey of self-realization, beginning at the age of 18, where I encountered fear, insecurity, and the struggle of self-perception. I explore the pursuit of perfection as a response to self-hatred and the realization that perfection isn't the antidote.I discuss the experience of self-hate, existential crisis, and depersonalization, and what it’s like to forget who you are.I then describe the transformative shift from self-hate to self-love, emphasizing the three essential elements that facilitated this change: the understanding that there's no such thing as good and bad, using systems theory for forgiveness and acceptance, and understanding what you actually want.I further elaborate on the influence of systems theory on self-perception and the role it plays in acceptance and forgiveness, emphasizing that all systems move towards coherence, organization, and energetic efficiency.Then we end with a piece on creating both internal and external environments that match your unique resonance and using your resonance to serve others and create beautiful evolution in the world.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this thought-provoking episode, I delve into the mystical concept of the 'dark night of the soul,' a term coined by the Spanish mystic St. John of the Cross, and what it might take to become “un-dark-night-of-the-soulable”. I share my personal journey of self-discovery that began in my late teens, marked by a struggle with self-hatred and a deep yearning for transformation. Over a decade, my journey unfolded as a quest for understanding and tapping into the divine love that lies at the heart of this spiritual concept.I explore the importance of personal interpretation in navigating the dark night of the soul, suggesting that true safety and freedom emerge from being open to all possibilities without the need for any to be true. This openness fosters a playful and creative approach to interpreting the world and our experiences within it.You are encouraged to tune into your inner selves and fight for truth, beauty, and full expression, using your experiences as fuel for deeper connection and understanding. I emphasize the challenges of the transformation process, highlighting the tension between the desire for immediate change and the reality of slow, continuous evolution.Throughout the episode, poetry is celebrated as a powerful medium for expressing deep spiritual experiences, and the struggle to find an 'instruction manual' for transformation is acknowledged. Despite the frustrations and challenges, my message is one of persistence and hope in the journey towards understanding and accessing divine love.Tune in to this episode for a deep dive into the spiritual journey of the dark night of the soul and the transformative power of embracing all possibilities in the quest for personal growth and connection.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today's episode, I speak about the one major thing that gets in the way of people's capacity to engage in conflict skillfully, efficiently, and effectively. I'm also going to give you one framework to be able to understand yourself on a deeper level so that you can go into conflict understanding what it is that you actually want.I discuss how 70 percent of couples supposedly have the same conflict over and over, how to find a fulfilling solution to the conflict, understand your frustration, and transform it into figuring out what you want, being fully honest with yourself, and provide you with the free-to-judge process.My hope is that you walk away from this episode with a deep understanding of how to resolve conflict in a more satisfying and fulfilling way, and in the process deepen your relationship with yourself.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today's episode, I'm joined by speaker and writer Cameron Rosin. Cam is a registered nurse with a deep knowledge of plant medicine, endocannabinoids, and the nervous system.Cam discusses his creative process, what freedom means to him, how he creates more of it in his life, and what he's learned about focus and instinct. He also explores the differentiation between instinct and intuition, and trusting his intuition in the process of becoming a father.We also dive into the relationship between resonance and viral content, our relationship with the big existential questions, and finding the parameters in your process of pursuing freedom.This conversation offers a beautiful take on internal freedom, fulfillment, and the discovery that the most impactful and potent work often comes from the things that are effortless to you.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today's episode, I'm joined by the global authority on clinical hypnonis, Dr. David Spiegel. Dr. Spiegel is the Director of the Center for Integrative Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, and co-founder of Reverie, an app that teaches personalized hypnotherapy and self hypnosis.Dr. Spiegel discusses the stigma of hypnonsis, the resistance faced from the medical community towards hypnosis, creating a paradigm shift in medicine, how hypnosis works on a neurological level, taking hypnosis direct to consumers and making it widely available for pain mananagement, sleep, stress, anxiety and more.This conversation offers a unique perspective on the the direction of medicine, and we dive deep into how healing and transformation happen in the brain.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today's episode, I demystify the process of trauma healing, and simplify the process unconscious and personal transformation.I discuss how you can own the truth of what you want to create in your life, how healing trauma for the sake of healing trauma is less likely to fulfill you, and how to go deeper inward and understand yourself, find wounds and transform them.My hope is that you walk away from this episode with a deep understanding of the emotional brain, the ability to identify and evolve your internal states, and a sense of confidence in creating the future version of yourself while evolving your nervous system and transforming your external world.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

If you're a person who wants fulfillment, if you want satisfaction, if you want a sense of completion, yet never complete fulfillment in your life, if you want to create, if you want empowerment, if you want to empower others, if you want to inspire the people around you and breathe life into the spaces that you walk into, then this episode is for you. In today's episode, I explore how to be yourself.We explore how fragmentation happens, my story of fragmentation, and how to create wholeness. I offer a perspective on being yourself that is likely different than what you’ve heard before, and it is one of the most important things that has propelled me into a life of internal freedom, full expression, and fulfillment.Toward the end, I explore and address some of the common struggles people have with being themselves. My hope is that you walk away from this episode with clarity on how to begin creating this for yourself.Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In this episode, my guest is my business partner and girlfriend, Emily Sudlow and this might be the most important relationship podcast you’ve ever heard.Emily and I explore how to know if you are settling in a relationship, see others’ traits as scarce resources, the honeymoon phase, and finding validation from relationships.We also discuss how to know if you really love someone, how to know if you love your life, becoming exactly who you want to be, how a relationship can accelerate finding your unconscious wounds, pushing yourself to be the best version of yourself, navigating conflict in a relationship, how often couples fight in a relationship, and how conflict can turn into a container for growth.This conversation offers a deep dive in discovering if you are settling in a relationship, how to become the highest version of yourself, using conflict for growth and understanding what it means to know if you are actually in love or if you are just comfortable.Connect with Emily:InstagramTikTokWays to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today's episode, I explore what loving self-awareness is and offer you a framework for implementing it in your life.I also discuss the unconscious mind, neuroplasticity, the conditions that change needs, how to cultivate deeper self-understanding, the energetic frequency associated with actions and thoughts, and transforming your dislikes into likes.This conversation is the second part of a two-part series and offers an in-depth perspective on how to go from shameful self-awareness and stuckness to loving self-awareness and internal fulfilment.Get the FREE Loving Self-Awareness Guide & Mediation →Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me

In today's episode, I explore what shameful self-awareness is and where it comes from, and more importantly how you can begin turn it into loving self-awareness.We dive into shameful self-awareness and how it shows up as immense self-criticism, self-hatred, what happens to your nervous system with shame, loneliness, and being rejected.This conversation is the first part of a two-part series. In Part 2, we explore loving self-awareness and how make a different choice about who you want to be, the thoughts you want to think, and the way you want to interpret yourself in the world.Get the FREE Loving Self-Awareness Guide & Mediation →Ways to Work with MeJoin the membership here for weekly live discussionsApply to join a future The Way of Mastery small group cohort1:1 with me