The Momset Podcast
by Tessa Romero
Welcome to the Momset Podcast where you can learn how to Raise Your Words and become the mom you want to be in todays motherhood. We love to talk all things mindset and share good stories that apply the tools and skills being discussed on the show.
Episodes
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186. Our Story of a 100 Mile Race
I've been married for 12 years and have had many incredible experiences with my husband. I told him on the trail that "this is my favorite thing we have ever done just the two of us" outside of him and I experiencing the births of our children! Join Marcus and I as we share the whole story and…
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185. The Courage to Break Your Own Rules | All or Nothing Mindset
It has been an exhaustive season for me and I'd go through it again to learn what I have from it. This episode is a little different giving you a more real and raw look into where the "all or nothing" mindset was showing up for me, and what I personally did about it. What I mentioned in the show:...
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183. Do You Validate Thoughts or Feelings?
First, get a drink to sip and a basket of laundry to fold because the first half of this one is pure goodness. Then get your pen and journal to do the WORK with me. We will make sure you are validating feelings, scrutinizing thoughts and sharpening your focus on facts! Sign up for the 3 day "I…
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183. Validate Feelings, Scrutinize Thoughts | Writing Exercise
Keeping authority over YOURSELF is the most freeing way to live that I have experienced and now I am taking your hand and coaching you through it. This episode explores the five pillars of your inner world to keep authority over and a writing exercise you can do (caution: it's binge worthy)...
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182. You Don't Need More Patience
It's 7:30 pm on a Sunday. Everyone's past their limit. The words are loaded on the tip of your tongue — and you're one breath away from saying the thing you'll regret. Here's the truth I learned on my knees cleaning up baseball cards: you don't need more patience in that moment. You need a skill....
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181. Free or Right | Which One Matters More to You?
Do you care more about being free or being right? We are about to find out in this episode! First, please leave a review of the podcast if it's been helpful for you. I'd love to hear how you're living the work with me over the years. This episode walks through three doors that tend to be defended...
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180. "I've tried that" | Getting What You Want | Self-Worth and Self-Trust Opened Up
"I've tried" is where dreams quietly go to die. Underneath the excuses is a self-worth and self-trust issue — and today I'm giving you two simple steps to rebuild both. A friend-to-friend, warm, honest episode about facing why you don't have what you want yet and making sure this pattern ends for...
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179. The Family Walk That Became a 100-Mile Race
Do you have a vision for your family and right now it seems like you're the only one interested? I've been there. This episode will ask you crucial questions to hold tightly to what you want and loosely to how you get it. Email me "coaching" to [email protected] if you are ready to create…
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178. Your Kids Don't Decide the Mom You Want to Be | When Fun is Met With Disappointment
The fully-clothed pool jump that didn't go as planned — and the mindset shift that set me free. In this episode: The two traps that hijack a good intention The 3-beat framework Your quick win for TODAY Email me your sentence [email protected] — "I'm the mom who ___" — I want to cheer you on. If...
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177. Regret, Sadness and Motherhood | Feeling on Purpose
Your thoughts create your feelings and there is tremendous opportunity to bring gentle thoughts into your vulnerable feelings as a mother. It's likely we will all feel sad in the fleeting time of motherhood when we observe the growing faces and personalities of our children. What we choose to do...
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176. Tessa + Marcus Romero | Getting Your Spouse on Board
Unscripted and casual discussion with Tessa's husband, Marcus, asking him "what gets a spouse on board?!" I hope this episode inspires you to be open-minded, encouraging and soft with your spouse. It's amazing that you know who you want to be and the way you want to do things and it's important…
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175. Tough Love | Keeping Yourself ON The Hook
It's your responsibility to be who you want to be and keep the belief in yourself that you can do it. What you talk about, where you place yourself and who you turn to when the going gets tough, will make all of the difference. This episode shares 3 key questions every woman willing to take...
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174. When "That" Approach "Doesn't Work"
"I tried that and it didn't work." Why does it seem like when we use an approach we felt excited to try and more aligned with who we want to be, they "don't work" like we thought they would? Because you're focused on the outcome as the goal, rather than who you're becoming in the process. Tune in...
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173. Why Do You Believe Them? | Ownership
You'll never be able to control what other people think and say about you and to you, and that's okay. Because when you have an empowered mindset and an intentionally crafted identity, you're free. This episode takes you one meaningful step closer to taking back the ownership and empowerment in...
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172. Get Excellent At Doing What You Want | Mindset
I am excellent at doing what I want and you can be, too. You'll feel better, rest deeper and stay out of the "I don't feel like it" trap that dilutes the ideas of what you want in the first place. Truthfully, you don't want to do a lot of things that you tell yourself you "want" because you're...
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171. Calmly Establish Authority Through Vulnerability | A Mother That Speaks Life
I'm sharing five practical examples of where you can calmly establish authority in your home and over the expectations taking place, by modeling accountability and ownership. Accountability and ownership are the weight that keep you grounded in the moment, without them you feel empty. Give some…
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170. Guard Your Mind and Be Reminded
If you want to be right about motherhood being hard, you will be. If you want to be right about motherhood being sacred, you will be. Your mind is willing to fight for whatever you want to be right about and so guarding your mind and allowing aligned reminders into your life will have a powerful...
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169. Creating a Fresh Start With Your Kids
I just got home from my Mastermind Retreat and stepped right into new beginnings with greater understanding of my family. This episode will share the light and hope of creating a new beginning with your children- at any age or season. Email me [email protected] for coaching and retreat details....
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168. Good Behavior, Any Means Necessary?
During a weekend of stacked circumstances where it would have been far more reasonable to lose my cool, than keep it, my darling son gave me the defining moment. This episode will challenge and inspire you to answer the higher calling you've been given in motherhood and in life. Follow along on…
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167. How You Feel and Who You Are
I'm calling you UP today. It's time to show up as who you are instead of how you feel. I teach you the skills to do this with your kids in the new Yes Family Flipbook- get yours today and create a positive & empowered family culture. It includes 29 mindset and communication skills that take you...
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166. "Makes Me" Mindset, Be Gone
I was raised on the "makes me" mindset. "This makes me mad. She makes me ignore her. They make me yell." Then at the good age of 23, about to have my first baby, I realized that this "makes me" concept would ruin my motherhood and surely destroy my family. So, I changed. Now it's 8 years and four...
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165. Is it Too Late For You? Spoiler Alert, NO. Let's Speak Truth and Life.mp3
If your home has been yelling, arguing, threatening and criticizing for years and even decades- is it too late to change? I've launched my core positive communication tools in the YES FAMILY FLIPBOOK and have been sharing more of it on social media. The more I've shared speak life, magnify the...
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164. Will Self-Awareness Calm You or Justify You?
It's great to have self-awareness if you use it to respond rather than react. Not sure what the difference is? This is for you! Get your ticket to Yes Mom Live to spend a full day coaching with me in a room full of positive moms with empowered minds that want more for themselves and their family....
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163. "Let Things Be" Less Control, More Blessings
Motherhood is jam packed with everything you need to be exactly who you want to be, it just may look completely different that you'd expect. This episode will inspire you to see the additional blessings you receive when you let harmless things be and play out without your control. Join me at Yes...
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162. Reduce Hurtful Words Being Said | Parenting When You Feel Hurt by What Your Kids Say
How you respond makes a remarkable difference in what they learn. My 3 year old and I went from a repeatedly tense interaction when he'd say something hurtful, to a beautiful softening and shared emotional HURT, resulting in a drastic reduction in hurtful words said! It came down to this... How...
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161. Write with me journaling | "and" mindset
It's been some time since we had a full write with me journaling episode, so I'm bringing it back. Comment on this episode if you'd like so see more of these and what the next topic should be about. EXCITING NEWS!! I am hosting a positive event for moms on May 16th in St. George, UT! Our first…
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160. Is Your Child an Instigator? | Mindset for Thriving
Motherhood has a way of humbling us and then quietly inviting us to see things, including ourselves, differently. I was labeling my 3 year old as an “instigating,” and my brain dutifully went searching to "be right" while filtering out all the moments that contradicted it. If you know this...
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159. Turn 'They Make Me' Into 'I Choose To' | Ask Tessa Q&A
We are turning to the IG community for questions to see where mindset can be improved in our homes. This episode will create a strong understanding of what IS in your control, even when it would be tempting to say your kids "make you" do something. The mind can be a tricky-topsy-tippy place so...
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158. Do All That You Can, While You Can.
If you notice a mess and you can clean it up, you should. Not because you "have to" or because "it's a moms job." Simply because doing all that you can, while you can, is the practice of being who YOU most want to be. Tune in to this episode to shift your mind to an understanding of deeper...
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157. Who You Become, Over the Outcome
If why you do what you do is too strongly focused on the ideal outcome, weight loss, obedient children, a new home ... then you're missing the best part and will likely feel like a failure in the process. This episode teaches you to put your attention on who you're becoming in the process of...
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156. What My Morning Looked Like- Dreams and Joy in the Mess
In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my actual morning. There's mess, noise, interruptions and all. I'm sharing how I protect the dreams in my heart while meeting the very real needs of my family. Enjoy this raw and honest conversation about the choices I make to anchor my day in joy...
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155. Parent Like He's In The Room
This episode is taking you through the foundation of your identity in these moments and to be mindful of the "IF" that limits you in the hard moments. Your entire internal atmosphere changes when you move like God is watching you. Suddenly there's peace and surrender in the places you wrestled…
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154. What God-Fearing Means
I used to see "God-fearing" often referenced, especially in 2020 during heightened fear and stress in the world, and I'd wonder "why would you want to believe in a God you feel afraid of?" Little did I know, that's a beautiful thing. Years later I'm here to share why "God-fearing" is a power word...
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153. Regulation Without Punishment, Here's What My Family Does
Teaching regulation to my children feels incredibly difficult at times. It challenges me, stretches my patience and requires more attention than I knew I had to give. AND, seeing them take deep breaths when they feel upset, guide their brother to breathe and start doing 20 burpees without me even...
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152. Hope for Positivity in the Home
There are times in life we hear one little line that changes the trajectory for us. I was attending a funeral while six months pregnant with my first son when one little line did that for me. I hope this episode gives you hope and encouragement to bring more positive communication into your home...
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151. The Damage and Deceit of "Delayed Obedience is Disobedience."
I've been told "delayed obedience is disobedience" like it's a favorite line from a popular song since posting this reel. It got me thinking about the rush and urgency parents put themselves and their children in. It's certainly a catchy line and I can confidently say it is not biblical. Come...
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150. Discipline Through Discipleship- Raising Children Who Reflect Christ
This is a topic I have strong personal conviction and passion on and I'm sure you will feel that in this episode. After receiving criticism about a reel I made on IG that involved me waiting 90 seconds for my son to make the right choice and sharing that it takes 90 seconds to properly feel an...
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149. Scripture Supports Yes Language
Well, wouldn't you know it that the Bible is in full support of Yes Language?! Let's go through some scripture together and see where the meaning connects to our home life. Here are the links to Bibles I mentioned for any other beginners out there that want to start reading truth! Jesus Story…
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148. A Yes Mom Is MORE Authentic
I am steadfast here, friends. I've seen the truth in my own home and beyond play out time and time again. We need more positive minds, hearts and WORDS filling our homes if we want a better world. Being a Yes Mom is a standard of excellence and while it can feel difficult to fulfill and meet- it…
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147. Tessa and Marcus | Using Yes Language in Parenting
I've been sharing a lot of the Yes Language I use with my kids and a top question I receive regularly is "does your husband do this too?!" Well- let's ask my sweet hubs if he uses it and what his take is on this communication style with our kids. We are two parents doing the best we can- just…
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146. 5 Reasons to Stop Saying "NO" to Your Kids
Okay, guards are down. I've been watering down my passion and mission to try and keep myself out of the "heat"- all while seeing moms drowning in the consequences of negativity. All done- welcome to my new ERA! Starting with 5 reasons to stop saying no to your kids. I'm talking about NO, CAN'T,...
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145. Marriage Journal with Marcus & Tessa | Behind the Scenes Edits
Exciting News: I am making a 100 day marriage journal! Yes, husband AND wife journals that build a positive and appreciative mindset in marriage- leaving behind resentment, negativity and victim mentality. Today as I worked on another round of edits (committed to the strength of each prompt and...
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144. Let Your Children Sand You Down
There are times that being kind, sincere, patient and truthful feel PHYSICALLY painful. As if a bone in your body may break if you say something kind when you feel angry. What if yelling, perfectionism, people pleasing, lying, criticizing, shaming... could all be sanding off of you? This...
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143. Stop Writing Negative Thoughts, Do This Instead.
Oh wowza, we need to have a heart to heart. Writing negative thoughts just to "get them out" does NOT validate an emotion. Thoughts are not feelings and feelings are not thoughts. THIS is the writing exercise you want to do to process through negative thoughts without getting stuck in them, so…
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142. Sit and Write With Me | Proverbs 31 Wife Mindset
I have butterflies posting this episode, it was SO fun to make! If you'd like to submit a "write with me" request for a future episode, simply send it to [email protected] Grab your journal and turn to a blank page so we can fill it up together. This episode is perfect for building your…
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141. Hands Like Martha, Heart Like Mary | Life Mantra
Are you rushing through the day just trying to get the "to-do" list checked off and get to bed "on time"? You're probably feeling disconnected, unavailable and resentful in the process. I understand this to my core. Which is how and why I came up with my new life mantra "Hands like Martha, Heart...
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140. Know What You Want | My Fitness Journey
My workouts continue to look different and feel better over the years. I believe that is because I stay focused on what I want and OPEN to all the ways that can happen. Do you know what you want? Here's my fitness journey from running to weight lifting then to living room workouts and now family...
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139. Excellence over Perfection, 5 Truths That Set You Free
Giving less than your best is a betrayal to yourself. Yet, with perfectionism and the bags of tendencies that come with it, there seems to be an unspoken fear of striving for excellence and doing all that you can every single day. You'll be told "that's too much." "you shouldn't expect so much…
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138. Positive Parenting Tools With Ralphie Jacobs
Today Ralphie Jacobs is joining the MOMSET Community to empower us to be a safe parent that sees the good in her children. You can look forward to learning about positive parenting, "junk behavior," inconsequential behavior (this blew my mind) and remarkable perspective that keeps you going even...
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137. Quiet Observations, Quick Corrections. Parenting Mindset You'll Love
Choose quiet observations and follow it with quick, intentional corrections. A few years ago, I realized that explaining every decision to my kids—why they couldn’t have something, what I didn’t like about their behavior—only made things worse. It fueled conflict, invited pushback, and exhausted…
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About this show
Welcome to the Momset Podcast where you can learn how to Raise Your Words and become the mom you want to be in todays motherhood. We love to talk all things mindset and share good stories that apply the tools and skills being discussed on the show.
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Tessa Romero
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