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The Self-Confidence Project
by The Self-Confidence Project with Kimberly Hill
The Self-Confidence Project is a weekly podcast featuring conversations on life, dating, relationships, confidence and motivation. In each episode, your host Kimberly Hill talks candidly about the stuff we all face in life and love. She shares an honest perspective to bring you the truth you need to hear - even if it's not pretty. If you're looking for relatable content and inspiring advice on how to transform your relationship and dating experience, tune into The SC Project.
Episodes
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Ep#293 - How to Flirt Naturally (Even If You Haven't in 20 Years)
You're in line at a coffee shop. The woman in front of you glances at your order and says, with a little smile, "Bold choice." Your mind goes blank, you say something polite, and the moment is gone. Then, on the drive home, the perfect reply finally shows up. If flirting feels rusty after a long...
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Ep#292 - She Went Cold After a Few Great Dates. Here's Your Move.
Three great dates. Real chemistry. You suggest date number four, and she writes back: "haha sounds fun!" No day, no question back. It doesn't feel like a yes, and it doesn't feel like a no. It just feels like she went cold, and suddenly you're rereading her texts at eleven at night trying to…
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Ep#291 - If Dating After Divorce Feels Awful, Watch This
There's the version of you everyone sees: capable, handling things, telling people you're "good, busy." And then there's the version of you on a quiet Sunday night, wondering how you got here and whether you'll ever feel that kind of closeness again. If dating after your marriage or a long...
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Ep#290 - The Red Flags Good Men Talk Themselves Out Of
If you're a good man who keeps ending up with the wrong women, even though it feels so good in the beginning, I want you to hear this: it's not because you're foolish, or weak, or bad at this. It happens to genuinely great men, especially after a divorce or a painful split. And here's the part…
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Ep#289- How to Touch a Woman So She Never Forgets It (Like, Ever)
There's a reason millions of women are hooked on the new show Off Campus, even swooning over men half their age. And it isn't the age, and it isn't that the characters are hockey players. It's the way those men tap into the real psychological elements of female desire and every woman watching…
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Ep#288 - Online Dating Is Destroying Your Confidence (Use It Without Losing Yourself)
You match with someone lovely, you start to imagine what could be…and then she goes quiet. And somehow, the silence becomes a verdict on you. If online dating has been quietly wearing down your confidence, this one's for you. In this episode, I break down why the apps are so hard on good men, and...
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Ep#287 - You Haven't Dated in 10-20 Years? Good. Listen to This.
If it's been a long time since you last dated, let's say ten years, twenty, maybe more, you're probably standing at the edge of a dating world that looks nothing like the one you left, hearing over and over how brutal it is out there. So here's something that might surprise you: those years away...
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Ep#286 - Do This Before You Date After Divorce
After a divorce, a lot of men find themselves standing in a quiet house on a Tuesday night with nobody to call and no idea how that happened. This episode is about why your social life shrank after the split, why it wasn't your fault, and why the thing most men reach for to fix it actually makes…
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Ep#285 - The Truth About Attracting a High Quality Woman
You're in good shape. You've got your life together. You're kind, you're steady, you're the man your friends call when something goes wrong, and you still haven't met a woman you were genuinely interested in for years. So you've started to assume the problem is you. In this episode, I want to…
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Ep#284 - 5 Signs She Wants to Date You (and Keep Dating You)
You've read her last text nine times and you still can't tell: interested, or just polite? After a divorce or a long-term relationship, most men's signal-reading is off in both directions. Some men miss genuine interest that's right in front of them. Others spend months pursuing a woman who was...
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Ep#283 - What to Do If You've Hit a Rut in Dating
Here's what most men get wrong about a dating rut: they treat it as a motivation problem. Push harder, or quit entirely. But a rut isn't a motivation problem. It's information — and if you learn to read it, it will tell you exactly what needs to change.In this video, I break down the three…
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Ep#282 - 4 Tips to Get a Date (Yes, This Is the Video You've Been Waiting For)
Getting a date doesn't have to be complicated — but it does require a few things most men aren't doing. If you've been listening to this channel and quietly thinking "this advice is great, but I don't actually have anyone to use it on" this video is for you. Whether you're re-entering dating…
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Ep#281 - 5 Unseen Habits That Make You Irresistible to Women (Part 2)
Most men trying to become more attractive are working on the wrong thing. They're perfecting the performance — the posture, the tone, the carefully unbothered expression — without realizing that the women worth keeping can see straight through it. In this video I'm walking you through five habits...
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Ep#280 - 4 Dating Mistakes Keeping You Stuck
Most men think they know the difference between a woman being kind and a woman being interested. They don't — and it's costing them more than they realize. In this episode, I'm breaking down four patterns I see constantly in men dating after divorce or a long-term relationship — patterns that…
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Ep#279 - Signs She's Not Ready For a Real Relationship (Her Dating Profile Will Tell You!)
In today's episode, I'm sharing what most men never learn to do on dating apps, and it's costing them months, sometimes years, of their time and emotional energy. If you're dating after divorce or a long-term relationship, knowing how to read a woman's Hinge profile is one of the most valuable...
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Ep#278 - Signs You Have An Attractive Personality to Women
What makes a man genuinely attractive isn't his looks, his status, or what he says on a first date. It's his personality, and more specifically, the qualities that signal safety, depth, and emotional maturity to a woman before a single word about relationships is ever spoken. In this episode,...
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Ep#277 - What It Means When She Takes Hours To Reply
In this episode, Kimberly Hill explains why a woman taking hours to reply to a text doesn’t have a single “meaning,” and why trying to decode response times creates false certainty in an inherently ambiguous early dating phase. She outlines realistic reasons for delayed replies, while emphasizing...
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Ep#276 - Signs She Likes You But Doesn't Trust You Yet
Most men assume that if the attraction is there, the rest should follow naturally. But attraction and trust are completely different experiences — and they develop on completely different timelines. In this podcast, I'm talking about what it actually means when a woman is warm, engaged, and…
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Ep#275 - 5 Reasons Dating Is Harder Than It's Ever Been
If you're a smart, capable man who has navigated real challenges in your life — and dating after divorce is somehow the hardest thing you've faced — this podcast is for you. It's not a personal failing. It's the terrain. And once you understand what's actually making this hard, you start moving...
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Ep#274 - She Seems Amazing — Until You See This
In this epsiode, Kimberly explains that many confusing dating experiences in midlife reflect specific mental health patterns that can impact how relationships form and function. She emphasizes this is not about blaming women, but understanding what you’re navigating and focusing on self-awareness...
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Ep#273 - Why High-Achieving Men Miss Red Flags in Relationships (And How It Affects Dating After Divorce)
In this episode, I use a powerful example from classic literature to explore something I see often in my coaching practice — why intelligent, high-achieving men can be the last to recognize when a relationship is emotionally failing them. This isn't about weakness. It's about how a certain kind…
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Ep#272 - She Was Interested — Then You Did This and Killed It
In this episode, Kimberly Hill, a dating and relationship coach for men, breaks down why a woman may become quieter or less responsive after initially showing strong interest, and why it’s often not about disinterest, but about subtle shifts in the dynamic. Throughout the episode, Kimberly draws…
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Ep#271 - What Women Actually Want from Men
In this episode, Kimberly Hill breaks down why women over 40, particularly those who have experienced long-term relationships, divorce, and personal growth, approach dating from a completely different lens than most men expect. P.S. If you're a man navigating dating after divorce, don't go it...
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Ep#270 - How to Vet a Woman You're Dating (And Do It Right)
In this episode, Kimberly Hill explains why men returning to dating after divorce often rely on a mental checklist that turns dates into audits, causing them to miss the most important signal: how they feel around a woman. She argues that compatibility isn’t found in perfect answers but in the...
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Ep#269 - 5 Ways Women Unconsciously Test Men (And What Your Reactions Reveal)
In this episode, Kimberly Hill explains that what many men interpret as “tests” in dating are often unconscious ways women evaluate a man’s emotional stability, confidence, identity, and ability to handle uncertainty. More often than not, women are not assessing a man’s words as much as they are...
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Ep#268 - Six Dating Mistakes for Widowed Men (Who Want Love)
Kimberly Hill, a men’s dating and relationship coach, addresses widowed men who feel stuck about dating again and explains that loss is not the same as divorce. She outlines six patterns that sabotage new relationships. She emphasizes that being present isn’t betrayal, new love won’t replicate…
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Ep#267 - This Is What's Making You So Anxious (And How To Stop)
In this episode, Kimberly explains how learning about anxious attachment can backfire when it becomes an identity rather than a framework for understanding patterns. She describes common dating scenarios—especially around texting, seeking reassurance, escalating intensity, and pushing for early...
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Ep#266 - Why Men Over-Invest Too Early (And Fall in Love With Potential)
In this episode, men’s dating and relationship coach Kimberly Hill explains a common pattern where men become emotionally invested in a woman after only a brief interaction, imagining a future before there’s real information or compatibility. She describes how the brain “fills in the blanks”...
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Ep#265 - What Actually Makes Women Feel Sexual Desire (It’s Not What You Think)
In this episode, I'll be sharing a new perspective on attraction and dating. Most men approach dating with the idea that they need to perform or say the right things to attract women. However, this can create stress and disconnection. Instead, it's about understanding how sexual desire truly…
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Ep#264 - You’re Not Chasing Love — You’re Chasing Validation
In this episode, I'll be sharing the critical moment many men face when they realize they miss the way a woman made them feel about themselves, rather than missing the woman herself. This deeper dive explores the difference between seeking validation and forming genuine connections. I discuss how...
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Ep#263 - You're Not in Love — You're Just Anxious
In this episode, I'll be sharing a powerful case study to explain why men not only prefer confident women but also have better and healthier relationships with them. Follow the journey of Mark as he dates two different women and experiences two vastly different dynamics. Discover how confidence…
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Ep#262 - 4 Ways Men Age Themselves Out of the Dating Pool
In this episode, I discuss why dating feels more challenging for men in their mid-50s and older, and provide actionable insights to make it easier. Discover the subtle patterns that might be holding you back, and learn how to shift your energy to attract meaningful connections.Today I'll be…
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Ep#261 - Why Smart Engineer-Minded Men Struggle With Women (& How to Fix It)
In this episode, I address men who are intelligent, successful, and analytical, specifically those finding dating confusing. I explore why analytical strengths don't translate well into dating and show real-life examples of how this mismatch manifests. I'll guide you on what approaches work in...
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Ep#260 - Why Your Dating App Conversations Go Nowhere — And How to Fix It
Welcome back! In this episode, we'll explore the common struggles men face with dating app conversations that feel dry and lifeless. I'll share why these interactions often fizzle out and provide key insights on how to foster meaningful connections. Learn about the biggest mistakes to avoid, how…
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Ep#259 - Stop Confusing Intensity With Intimacy (How to Stop Making Painful Dating Decisions)
In this episode, I'll be sharing essential insights on why the intense feelings you might experience when dating after a divorce, separation, or the end of a long-term relationship are often misinterpreted as love. You'll learn the signs of nervous system activation versus genuine intimacy, how…
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Ep#258 - Signs She Wants You To Ask Her Out
In this episode, I'll be sharing the subtle signs and signals that indicate a woman is interested in you. Many men wish dating were more straightforward, but understanding female interest requires recognizing patterns in body language, verbal cues, and situational signs over time. I'll walk you...
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Ep#257 - Divorced Men: This Is Why You Feel So Alone (And How To Regain Yourself)
In this episode, I'll be sharing an important discussion about the intense feelings of loneliness that men often experience after a divorce. You'll learn that these feelings are natural reactions to the disruption of your attachment system. I'll explain why this loneliness feels so powerful for…
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Ep#256 - How To Create That "Spark!" (Must Listen For Men)
In this episode, I'll be sharing insights into a common problem faced by divorced men in their 40s, 50s, and 60s: feeling disconnected from their inner spark and erotic identity. We'll discuss how routine, stress, and emotional disconnection during long-term marriages can shut down one's erotic...
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Ep#255 - Good Men Are Making This Dating Mistake — And It’s Costing You Everything
In this episode, Kimberly discusses the detrimental mindset of prioritizing connection over compatibility in dating, especially for men who have been married before. She explains why many good-hearted men fall into this pattern and how it affects their confidence and relationships. Kimberly...
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Ep#254 - This One Trait is Harming Your Romantic Relationships (A Must-Listen For Men Dating)
Most men have been told that empathy is the key to being a better partner — to listen more, feel more, and understand more. But when empathy goes too far, it can quietly destroy attraction, drain your confidence, and lead to relationships that feel one-sided or exhausting. In this video, Kimberly...
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Ep#253- Why ‘Nice Guys’ Don’t Create Chemistry — The Truth About Leadership and Attraction
Are you a good man who keeps hearing, “You’re such a nice guy… but there’s no spark”? In this video, dating and relationship coach Kimberly Hill breaks down why emotionally intelligent, respectful men are often overlooked in dating — and how reclaiming your masculine leadership (with compassion)...
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Ep#252 - Why Peaceful Men Attract Chaotic Women (and How to Break the Cycle)
In this video, I’m breaking down what it really means when a woman thrives on chaos — and how to stop confusing emotional volatility for chemistry. I’ll share the 5 signs of emotional immaturity to look for early on in dating, plus real examples from my own past of what this looks like and why so...
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Ep#251 - Modern Women Are Failing Men — And Here’s How to Fix It
Modern dating has turned into a gender war. But if we want real love again, we have to talk about what both men and women can do better. In this video, I share 5 things modern women need to do better, and it's not out of blame, but from compassion and truth (and personal lessons) P.S. If you're a...
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Ep#250 - 5 Tips to Have Better First Dates (That Actually Lead to Connection)
If you’ve ever gone on a date that felt nice, but not electric, this video is for you. In today’s dating world, chemistry doesn’t happen by luck. It happens through intention, presence, and the way you connect. In this video, I’m breaking down five simple yet powerful shifts that will make your...
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Ep#249 - The Biggest Turn-Offs Women Notice Instantly
I’m sharing the biggest turn-offs women notice instantly that most men don’t even realize they’re doing. And no, I’m not just talking about bad breath or poor hygiene. I’m talking about the deeper psychological and emotional dynamics that instantly shut women down in dating and relationships.…
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Ep#248 - 3 Reasons Women Don't Seem Impressed By You
Dating after divorce feels completely different than it did 10, 20, or even 30 years ago — in this video I share why it feels impossible to please women today, the 3 big shifts you need to understand, and how divorced men can stop performing, start connecting, and finally build real chemistry and...
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Ep#247 - The Silent Fear That Keeps Divorced Men Single
Dating after divorce can feel like climbing a mountain. Not because apps are broken or women are impossible to please, but because of something deeper most men don’t even realize. In this video, I reveal the silent fear that keeps good-hearted men single, even when they desperately want to find...
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Ep#246 - Why Good Men Struggle in Dating (And How to Fix It)
In today’s video, I’m unpacking The Boy Crisis by Dr. Warren Farrell — and more importantly, how it’s impacting modern dating and relationships for good-hearted men like you. So many men are quietly struggling with fatherlessness, lack of healthy role models, confusion about masculinity, and a…
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Ep#245 - 5 Unseen Habits That Make Men Irresistible to Women
Most guys assume women are only motivated by attraction or money. Sure, that matters to some. But if you ask good-hearted women who are looking for real, long-term love… the truth is, what makes a man irresistible are his habits. It’s how you live your life. It’s how you treat yourself. It’s the...
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Ep#244 - How to Talk to Women With Confidence, Charm & Charisma
When you see a man walk into a room and effortlessly talk to anyone, especially women who lean in and gravitate toward him, it can seem like magic. But here’s the truth: that magnetic pull isn’t luck, and it’s not something you’re born with. It’s called conversational charisma, and it’s a skill...
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The Self-Confidence Project is a weekly podcast featuring conversations on life, dating, relationships, confidence and motivation. In each episode, your host Kimberly Hill talks candidly about the stuff we all face in life and love. She shares an honest perspective to bring you the truth you need to hear - even if it's not pretty. If you're looking for relatable content and inspiring advice on how to transform your relationship and dating experience, tune into The SC Project.
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