The So Emotional Podcast

On today’s cast, we have South African attorney turned professional American mediator, John Ford. We’re lucky to have him share the deep wisdom and insights he’s learned through his time working with people in conflict. John has discovered important tools for understanding the emotions and needs that drive division as well as how to use strategy and empathy to find the most effective win-wins for everyone involved. He began his career as a human rights attorney in Namibia, before moving to the Bay Area and pivoting to specialize in workplace mediation and training, which he’s now done for over 35 years. John teaches negotiation and mediation at UC Law SF (formerly UC Hastings) and has authored "Peace at Work: The HR Manager’s Guide to Workplace Mediation. He is the founder of John Ford and Associates, a firm dedicated to helping organizations manage workplace conflict through mediation, training, and coaching services. He is also the creator of The Empathy Set, a tool comprising cards designed to identify feelings and needs, promoting emotional intelligence and relational harmony. This tool has been adapted into The Empathy Set App, extending its accessibility and impact. Links: https://www.theempathset.com https://www.johnford.com https://www.empathyset.com/blog/2025/1/9/harnessing-emotional-energy-to-transform-conflict-in-mediation

On today’s cast, we have special guest, trauma-informed relationship coach, Dr. Jenny Rain with us as we discuss all the different ways humans self-protect, hide and defend against feeling. Dr. Jenny, founder of Jenny Rain Coaching, has a brilliant mind. She received a PhD in psychology and a Masters in Divinity, and is currently enrolled in a dual masters in Marriage & Family Therapy and Professional Clinical Counseling so she can serve those with deep relational trauma and help them thrive. Join us as we dive into the nuances of healing and gently working with our very human and very natural resistance to feeling fully. Find Dr. Jenny Rain: Core Love Wounds quiz: http://jennyrain.com/quiz Web: https://jennyrain.com/ IG: www.instagram.com/jennyrain

Join us as we make the case for the intellectual, practical mind as to why feeling the feelings is really the key to everything we actually want. Clint Baggett, CEO of Evolving Mindsets has lived many lives from being homeless, to being in the military and in the tech and development world but his major epiphany came from a breakdown that ended up becoming his break through — this is what he teaches his leaders now. Website: https://www.evolving-mindsets.com/ Crack Da' Code to INDIVISION: https://heyzine.com/flip-book/c6900e7f9f.html#page/1 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmwpavtxKTP5bKAEBT3jBgg Schedule a call: https://calendly.com/coach-clint/crack-da-code?month=2024-05

Why do Angela and Nick hate each other? Well, they don’t entirely but parts of them certainly do where they’re still a living work in progress. On this cast Angela and Nick hash out the projective sticky and subtle challenges of knowing each other well….and then traveling together and then doing plant medicine together. They tried to be friends but in the bargain lots of little demons entered the chat. Join us to air the dirty laundry in this is 39th version of the So Emo PodCast.

Today on the cast we explore the powerful worlds of psychedelic and psychological insight with Xochitl Ashe, a 5th generation Peruvian medicine woman and indigenous, trauma-informed plant medicine guide. Xochitl (So-Chill), and she is very chill, shares stories of her beginnings, her family and how she was introduced into the connecting power of these medicinal plants and her emotions. Xochitl teaches at the Esalen Institute and is the host of the podcast, Sacred Psychedelics. Come along, the water is nice:) Check Out Xochitl: https://www.xochitlashe.com/ http://www.magicalmedicinejourneys.com https://spotify.link/1Cwjxb72MDb @Xochitlashe on IG

Today on the show we have the exquisite Nurse Emily Knife, creator of the “Somatic Nursing” certification course. Our crack team of podcasters will go deep into the jungles of what makes a nurse seek a deeper understanding of how the lived experiences with her own mental & spiritual health opened her up to the fascinating world of the felt body. Somatic Nursing Certification: https://somaticnursing.com/ Emily’g IG https://www.instagram.com/nurseemilyknife Emily’s Book : Peace, Self-Love & Nursing https://a.co/d/0s0vFVJ

Today on the show we have the wholly inimitable Claire Spencer. Claire spends her days herding the amazing souls coming together in Fit for Service @fitforservice, harnessing and honing all of her many personal gifts of consciousness and perception in order to create a functioning spiritual community. Besides her spiritual Sherpa duties Claire has learned a thing or two along the way of her own holy mountain treks, she brings us tales from lands a far. Through space and time with Claire we go! Come follow! https://fitforservice.com/pages/arkadia https://instagram.com/claireespencer/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/claireespencer/

Today on the cast we have licensed associate counselor and trauma therapist, former pastor and coach John Eli Garay. John’s passion for finding the deeper need, holding healing space and a genuine heartfelt curiosity for the human spirit have led him along his own healing and helping journey. We discuss with John his origins and where his learnings and inspirations took him along his way. Join us for a wonderful talk. Find John @ https://www.instagram.com/the.john.eli

On the cast today we have the pleasure of speaking with Jane Ysadora, a trauma-informed Business Coach. Jane focuses on what parts of you need alignment and care in order for you to take big actions to achieve your goals and have a thriving business. We had a great time rapping with J, check in and see for yourself! Find Jane == @jane_ysadora www.janeysadora.com/freeguide

Karla McLaren is an award-winning author, educator, workplace consultant, and social science researcher who’s work with emotions really peaked our interests after reading her wonderful book “The Language of Emotions”. On this cast Karla answer our curious questions and commiserates about our human condition. Find more of Karla’s work @ https://karlamclaren.com/ & https://empathyacademy.org/

On this session of the cast we dive into disorganized attachment: the delicious push-pull torture of emotional insecurity that’s all too common to the human experience. Come along for a listen as we explore the dynamics of “come closer” and “go away” in relationships.

On this cast we had the pleasure of connecting with Ken Page, author of the book Deeper Dating. Ken has over 30 years experience as a therapy clinician and dating coach. We talked with Ken about looking into our own emotions and vulnerability, treating them as allies on the dating journey versus allowing them to be reasons to run. Ways to connect with Ken: https://twitter.com/KenPageLCSW https://www.facebook.com/kenpagelcsw https://www.instagram.com/deeper.dating/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenpagedeeperdating/ https://deeperdatingpodcast.com/ https://www.deeperdating.com/

On this episode of the cast we are joined by the powerful Vanessa Grace, a former therapist turned coach. We touch on topics like codependency, why feeling emotions is important, hormones and epigenetics. Join us for this fun dive into the details. Find Vanessa @ www.soulamplified.org @soulamplified or www.instagram.com/soulamplified [email protected] The Soul Amplified Podcast www.crushyourcodependence.com Text messages 3X's week text 'Peace' to 877-338-0875 to sign up! Angela @ https://www.instagram.com/epicinitiator/ Nick @ https://www.instagram.com/thesafeanchor/ #codependency #spiritualjourney #emotional #complextrauma #emotionalhealing #emotionaltrauma #feeltoheal #emotionalregulation #selfregulation

On this episode of the So Emotional Podcast, we do a deep dive into the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) system with Jungian Analytical Consultant Carmela Napoli. Here we uncover how we can remain hidden to ourselves until we understand the framework and perspectives through which we are operating. In this fascinating cast, we get into how to apply and thrive with the MBTI. Carmella’s fb : https://www.facebook.com/CarmelaNaps Suggested Books: - Personality Hacker: Harness the Power of Your Personality Type to Transform Your Work, Relationships, and Life - Joel Mark Witt, Antonia Dodge - Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, 2004. by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. #mbti #myersbriggs #unconscious #carljung #subconscious #16personalities #healingtrauma #avoidantattachment #avoidance #complextrauma #emotionalhealing #emotionaljourney

On this cast we had the great pleasure of speaking with Lynne Forrest author of Guiding Principles for Life Beyond Victim Consciousness. Understanding the foundational principles of victim consciousness, the primary energetic trap that exists in humanity today, can help each person truly take their power back. Lynne has been an emotional coach & practitioner for over 40 years utilizing her deep knowledge of how low vibrational victim energy works in and affects our lives. Explore Lynne’s work at: https://www.lynneforrest.com/ Lynne has twice monthly meetups @: https://realityformula.vhx.tv/ Use SOEMOTIONAL and get 25% off a monthly membership fee for 6 months!

On the cast today we have been gifted with the presence of the powerful Kim Schaper. Kim helps women reign-in their strained metabolic & hormonal systems utilizing her wealth of knowledge gained through her own lifelong struggles in finding emotional and physical balance. Kim is a humble, valiant and hilarious person, with a true wealth of deep experience and an all around great gal. We had a great talk, hope you enjoy! Kim Schaper https://www.instagram.com/kim.schaper/

Did you though? On this cast we question the loyalties of “Honor thy Father and Mother” but for a good reason…because, what if we are actually spiritually and emotionally bypassing our own authentic selves at the cost of parental love?

Woo Alert! In this cast we’re going up the energetic perspective ladder all the way to the top — The Higher Self: what is it, how it works and all the deets. Climb out of the spirit ditch and peer over the horizons of possibilities with us.

Why is she “crazy”? Why is he such an “asshole”? There are reasons! There are laws of the universe they didn’t teach us in school. Welcome to Energy Dynamics 101. In this cast we get into some of the energy dynamics of human emotion, sexuality and masculine and feminine archetypes; how the polarity between these energetic poles create different feelings depending on which perspective you choose. Megabytes of Metaphysical analysis! Nerd alert! Let’s Ride!

In this cast we talk about the what happens when children become the caretakers of their parents. Enmeshment and parentification are hallmarks of trauma filled homes. Here we dive into what enmeshment and parentification looks like, how it happens and some of our own lived experience. Listening to this is blow your mind and bake your bagels!

In this cast we talk about the fundamentals of boundaries. We dive into the intersection of self and other, complex trauma, attachment styles, and boundaries. Here we explore the sweet spot of healthy interdependence, that space in between rigid, lack of attuned detachment and boundary-less codependent relationships. Whew, that’s a mouthful! Come on, let’s boundary dance!

On this episode of the SEP people are gross, unpredictable and they can’t be trusted. That’s why we develop strategies to keep our distance. Avoidant attachment here we come!

On this cast we talk about understanding our personal responsibility around giving consent and sexual boundaries. If you can’t feel your deep emotions you won’t be able to express your personal limits or values with another person. Our unconscious societal influences and personal traumas hinder our ability to connect and respond in the moment, which can cause a lot of chaos and confusion around consent and boundaries.

This week on the cast we talk with Father Greg Carl about the priesthood and the beginning of his own emotional journey. We talk about IFS, religious codependence, the efficacy of therapy and of course, exorcism! Join us for a cool conversation. Try 1.5X speed!

Are marriage and monogamy the end all be all that we think they are? How do we find safety in and out of commitment? What is healthy commitment? In this cast we explore our innate drives for connection and what happens when we decide to take that relationship across a long timeline in a marriage or committed relationship. Try 1.5X speed, it's a nice flow...

Today on the cast we get into a tricky one: victimization. Personal power and creation can sound ridiculous when you’re surrounded by visions of powerlessness, “The world fucking sucks, can’t you see?!” "I can't see the forest for the trees!" "And where did I put my glasses?" There's a decision point that easily evades our senses if we are in the gravitational pull of powerlessness. We gone talk about that very thang here! Watch until the very end for a special Easter Egg, lol. Try 1.5X speed, its a nice pace for our slow thoughts :)

In this cast we talk about vibration and emotional alignment, learning how to move up the ladder from lower level emotions to higher ones; we can't rush from shame to gratitude in one jump. The perspectives of trauma can take us into victim energy and convince us that the world is a hostile place. Universal Truth can anchor our hearts into an alternate world of possibilities. Surfing the big emo waves of life can be quite tricky, let's talk about it! Listen at 1.5X speed, it's recommended :)

Do you think polyamory is a human drive or spirit-inspired? In this cast we discuss polyamory from an attachment theory and trauma-informed perspective, covering the intersection of insecure attachment and polyamorous relationships. Is polyamory a power play that keeps us from avoiding intimacy or does it bring us closer to the kind of love we really want? Let's talk about! We recommend 1.5X speed :) #avoidant #polyamorous #noncommittal #nonmonogamous

In this cast we talk about the timeline trajectories, where we end up when we follow our impulses to find safety unconsciously. Patterns of protection are tricky, we get glimpses of happiness just to collapse back down, how do we move the big wheel of the ship we call our lives? Let's talk about it! Try 1.5X speed, its nice #attachmenttrauma #anxiousattachment #emotions #ifs #complextrauma

Everything you ever wanted is behind this door: FEAR! In this cast we dive in to see what all the fuss around fear is all about. Fear comes in so many forms and affects almost all parts of our lives, we could never cover the topic completely but fear not! We give it our shot! Try 1.5X speed, a nice little boost :)

Do you hate everything and everyone? In this cast we dive into Projections! What are they, where do they come form, how do they play out and interaction and much more! Notes from listening Try 1.5 speed, its nice!

In this cast we talk with Kim Massale about her journey as a therapist turned coach, about who and what she looks for in clients, about how coaching fits into the journey of healing and much more. Kim is a cool and smart lady and it was a blast to have her on! Check Kim out here https://www.instagram.com/thefeminine... https://www.kimmassale.com/ Try Listening @ 1.5 speed :)

In this cast we discuss the function of coaching and therapy, where they fit in our developmental path and some of the ways it can help us adapt and grow. Try 1.5 speed :)

Suffering much? Being triggered by your own emotions… In this cast we cover how emotions can become triggers and some helpful tips and tools to learn to reengage your emotions, so you can let in more love, especially if you were shamed for feeling or had to shut down your emotions to take care of others. The Big 6 (WHAT EVERY CHILD NEEDS FROM THEIR PARENTS) by Adam Young - https://adamyoungcounseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/The-Big-Six.pdf PolyVagal Chart - https://www.rasada.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/PVchart6HD.pdf

In this cast we talk about the nitty gritty of dealing with the emotional parts/waves that come up, feeling the energy in your body shift and some of the ways we can nurture ourselves though the changes.

What do you do when emotions become triggers? Today's cast is all about emotional triggers, what they are, how they work and what we can do to deal with them.

Do you feel anxious in relationships? Do you fear being abandoned? Are you waiting for the other shoe to drop? You might have some anxious attachment! How to learn to love and validate this anxious part of you.

On this episode of the cast we discuss how people can be formed into empaths through parentification in childhood, how the emotional environment and generational trauma can bleed into adult life. We also get into the emotional intricacies and the shortcomings of striving with our intellect with the goal of filling our emotional hearts.

Is sex a cheap substitute for real love and authentic connection? In this cast we cover the epidemic beneath love and sex addiction and how the sexual revolution may have missed the most important aspect of what we really need as human beings.

On this cast Angela and Nick discuss the dynamics of attachment style and addictions. What people do when they don’t feel safe and what types of strategies they employ to cope?

In this episode we dive into the purpose for our endeavors into the podcast world through our personal stories about being emotional human beings, the beginnings of breaking through and what it means to be on the emotional journey. Intro 01:33 Why talk about emotions? Why have a podcast? 08:00 How do i feel my feelings? 09:30 Nick tells a story about his journey into feeling 19:45 Angela remembers her personal feelings story 50:00 Angela beings to feel the intensity 55:00 At what age does the adaptive emotional strategies from childhood breakdown? 57:00 Angela talks about some of the first steps into deep emotion 01:08:00 The Journey of the healing process

This podcast was a lot about fantasy relationships, future-tripping and navigating those awkward, cringe-worthy moments where you know you just don’t feel the same way about someone as they do you. Also, is it healthy or unhealthy to feel entitled to love?