The Valley of Grace Podcast

It’s easy to say you’re moving on. It’s not so easy to move forward. Moving forward involves processing trauma. Moving on pretends like the trauma and situations never existed. Listen in to learn how Jacob moved forward. #podcast #healing #cycles #emotional #emotionalbaggage

It's so easy to point the finger at everybody else. But what about you? What is the toxic dance cycle that you play both with yourself and others? #breakingcycles #trauma #healing #love #freedom

Self-righteous narcissists are often hidden in plain sight. They look like responsible, intellectual people, except when you are in close proximity with them. Over time, the mask falls off. It had been falling off over the course of your friendship with him or her, but their intellectual, responsible cover blinded you from seeing them for who they really are: individuals who possess the spirit of toxic jealousy, envy, and eventually, malice. #love #relationship #envy #narcissist #trauma #healing #personalitydisorder

Vulnerable narcissists are pouty, sullen, anxious, and deal with bouts of depression. Combine that with thinking you know everything and you’ve got the cerebral vulnerable narcissist. Listen in and be blessed! #podcast #relationship #love #freedom

When you hear the term gaslighting, you associate it with the words that people say that throw you into a spiral because of their delusional reality. Gaslighting is actually involving more than that. People gaslight with hopes that it will ruin self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, and self perception and reality overtime #Gaslighting #Love #Freedom #Narcissist #CovertNarcissist #ChristianNarcissist #Relationship

An infection occurs because the original wound is not attended to. The same thing happens when it comes to projection. Our souls are infected with projection when we refuse to own the fact that we have been wounded and that there is residual pieces of trauma in our operating system. But how do you tackle this problem? Or, do you choose to live a life of slavery to this spirit?Listen and be blessed! #Infection #Projection

It’s easy to wait and make our move when somebody else makes their move. But that’s not how healing works. You will be waiting until Jesus comes for someone else to get their act together in order for you to walk in the freedom and bond us the crisis promised each and everyone of us.#Freedom #Love #Relationships #healing

When you’re vulnerable, you’re also open to the wiles of the devil. These wiles include being love-bombed and reeled back in in by your ex-narcissistic partner. Listen to some of these phrases so you’ll know how to protect yourself. #healing #podcast #narcissism

Woman of God, Minister, Author, Speaker, & Life & Grief Coach, Celeste Houston sits down with me and discusses toxic relationships, healing, communication, duality, and coloring your way through grief. Be blessed and healed by this conversation!For coaching, books, podcasts, blog posts, speaking, & podcast guest interviews, you can contact Katina Horton @ 224-855-1017, [email protected], https://thevalleyofgrace.com.For donations: Paypal: https://thevalleyofgrace.comCashapp: $thevalleyofgraceThe song, "Valley of Grace", is composed, sung, and produced by performing artist, Timothy Horton, and specifically licensed to Katina Horton and The Valley of Grace for their use only. Any use outside of this company and ministry is prohibited.

The Jezebel Spirit is not about the 2-inch splits, makeup , or garments you wear as we were told by older church folk back in the day.  It is a gaslighting spirit of control, using anything and anyone, including spiritual practices and rituals itself to further its agenda.   Listen in to this podcast episode as I discuss its plan, purpose, and behaviors.  Be blessed!!! 

It’s confusing. It’s mind blowing. It’s validating and normal. And yet you can’t figure him or her out. Is it you or is it them? Listen in as we dissect the truth about covert narcissists. Be blessed! #love #relationship #narcissist

Flying monkeys find themselves in a pickle at all times. Whether narcissistic or not, they alternate between trying to balance loyalty to the narcissist and betraying themselves. But how does being an instigator relate to the flying monkey role? Listen in. #love #relationship #loyalty #flyingmonkeys

Flying monkeys are individuals who are tested time and time again for their loyalty to the narcissist. They are usually good candidates because of their inability to maintain decent boundaries, and usually possessing low self-esteem, low self-worth, and low self-confidence. Listen in to see if you've ever had to deal with flying monkeys, and or have unknowingly been a flying monkey yourself. #flyingmonkeys #boundaries #loyalty #narcissism #toxicity #healing #trauma #abuse

What if no one ever told you that you were in emotional, psychological, and spiritual danger? That was the case with therapist Angie Harvey. People saw and thought things, but they never confronted her about them. When we are not challenged, we do not grow. Listen in to therapist Angie Harvey as she dissects how she left codependency for self-care, self-love, and self-worth.Be blessed! #love #freedom #relationship #therapist #angieharvey #truth #codependency #unhealthyrelationships

We know a lot of things. But do we know how to spot the fruit(behavior) of other individuals without judging it? Meaning, do you know how to have grace, compassion, and boundaries set for individuals having different brokenness than yours, but still not allow their brokenness to affect you? Listen in. #love #freedom #relationships Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach Our Mission, Vision, & Why Our mission is to help women in toxic relationships regain clarity on love and freedom, release control, break soul-ties and unhealthy relationship patterns, build resilience and flourish, and reclaim their power, SOUL, and identity, so they will know they are enough. Valley of Grace envisions millions of women owning their stories, provoking them to heal and walk in wholeness, operate in love and freedom, and empower and impact the lives of women in their homes, communities, and around the world. Valley of Grace Ministries provides many services, including coaching for women, without the financial roadblocks. Head to thevalleyofgrace.com to schedule Your Love & Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coaching individually, or form a healing circle with friends, and do group coaching. The choice is yours. MINISTRY DONATIONS: CASHAPP: $THORTON4792 VENMO: @KATINA-HORTON PAYPAL: THEVALLEYOFGRACE.COM

When it comes to judgmental people, there is a whole slew of things mixed in a cocktail that they're often drinking. Be careful, or you'll get wooed in by their spirits. Listen in to see how this behavior affects society in general. #love #freedom #relationship #podcast

It's easy to talk about what you would have, should have, could have done in somebody else's situation. But what about when that person is you, and you are presented with the same scenario? Listen in. #love #freedom #podcast

It's tempting to go to the store, head to the producesection, pick up a fruit, and then start judging it by its appearance. But what's wrong in this situation is that the appearance of the fruit speaks for itself. There's no need to judge it. And so it is with people. We often look at people, judge them, and make ourselves feel and look superior to them. The part we're missing is that knowledge of the fruit(behavior, energy, dysfunctionalpatterns of behavior, attitudes, and disposition does not equal to judging it.Once we see what it is we're working with, we can decide whether or not we want this fruit in our basket of living. Listen in to part one of this message and be blessed.

It seemed like a good idea at the time. You had no idea that going to therapy with a narcissist and or individual with emotional immaturity, arrested development, and compounded unresolved trauma was a bad idea. But nowthat you're there in the therapist's office, you're going to find out. And the end result is not what you'd expect. #love #freedom #relationship

People can be super messy. But what if the super messy is actually headed into the spiritual direction of the toxic narcissism of Satan himself? Listen in. #love #freedom #relationships If you're struggling to recover from narcissistic abuse, head over to thevalleyofgrace.com and book a call for Individual & Group Coaching on Tuesdays.Be blessed!

We often walk around looking like we have it all together. The problem is, we don't. We look the part, but we don't play the part. Instead of working on healing our bodies, we work on unintentionally destroying others through gossip, judgmentalism, criticism, and micromanaging their lives. Listen in. #love #freedom #relationships Head over to thevalleyofgrace.com to book a Love & Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery call for Individual and Group Coaching on Tuesdays.Be blessed.

We often think that we are suffering for the cause of Christ when we keep ourselves so busy that we either don't have time to understand our needs, and or we're so caught up micromanaging and judging other people's lives that we miss the mark in our own. Listen in to this bible talk. Blessings!#love #freedom #relationship

Everything that glitters isn't gold. When people say that they love you so deep, but their fruit is not one that you'll keep, you have to be careful. There are some brown spots worth inspecting. #love #freedom #relationship

We've all been to the produce department. There lies fruit of every color, shape, and size. Those fruit represent the behaviors that manifest themselves in our relationships. Will the core be rotten? Will the outside look appealing? Will you have to keep cutting away to get to the good part? Only you can answer those questions and more. Listen in. #love #freedom #relationship

At first, you thought it was just you. Maybe you were overthinking what was said and done. Then, you realized you were betrayed by an alleged friend who turned out to be a narcissist. Listen in. #love #freedom #relationship

It's hard to enforce the concept of boundaries when you face losing the people, places, things, and ideas you love. It's even harder to remain without them. Boundaries teach us a lot. The lesson starts with ourselves. Listen in. #freedom #love #relationship The Valley of Grace Song is licensed for permission to be used by Katina Horton-Valley of Grace Ministries by the composer and performing artist Timothy Horton THGR8.

We hear the term control freak all the time. What we don't hear about is the bondage that this spirit/addiction brings you. It interrupts the natural order of how you relate to yourself, others, and God by keeping you in a constant state of rules, bondage, reinforcement, and micromanagement. #control #controlfreak #addiction

We all have issues with power management. However, intense lack of power management leads to intense lack of control management. When we lust for control, insecurity sets in, and then we're headed for the spirit of individual, collective, and or cultural narcissism. #love #freedom #relationships

When we look at certain individuals, they seem like they have it all together. Even more so, when we look at ourselves, we think the same. What if that's not the case? What if you are walking around with so many coping mechanisms, dysfunctional patterns of behavior, and addictions that you're covering up the key to your needs, self-discovery, self-concept, and self-awareness?The end result of this will shock you. You become the toxic one. Listen in to this podcast episode and be blessed! Love you family!!!

When people have information on us, they use that information as bait to trap us. Listen in. #love #freedom #relationship

When power is regulated well, we work as a team. When power is dysregulated, we work as enemies, fighting for power and control at all costs. But what happens when position, role, and authority is used as a weapon for power and control? Which side will you sit on? Let's talk about it. #love #freedom #relationship

When power is regulated well, we work as a team. When power is dysregulated, we work as enemies, fighting for power and control at all costs. But what happens when food is used as a weapon for power and control? Which side will you sit on? Let's talk about it. #love #freedom #relationship

It's easy to spot abuse from an overt person. But how do you recognize the more covert, subtle forms of abuse that we often experience. You often shrug it off as a trigger. Nine times out of ten, it's not. Don't ignore your intuition. #love #freedom #relationships

You wouldn't want to overdose on medication. But for some reason, you think it's okay to overdose on people who are not good for your mind, body, soul, and spirit. #freedom #love #relationship Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach

When someone else doubts you, it's one thing. When they can get you to doubt yourself, abilities, and every other person, place, thing, or idea tied to you, that's another. Listen in. #love #freedom #relationship Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach Our Mission, Vision, & Why Our mission is to help women in toxic relationships regain clarity on love and freedom, release control, break soul-ties and unhealthy relationship patterns, build resilience and flourish, and reclaim their power, SOUL, and identity, so they will know they are enough.

It’s amazing what happens once the seed of deception sets in. What’s even more mind-blowing is when we are vulnerable, we end up disobeying God, calling it sacrifice, and opening ourselves up to other spirits running 🏃🏿‍♀️ amok. Listen 🎧 in !!! #katinahorton #propheticword #toxicrelationships

Devaluation is a corrupter. Real fast and in a hurry. They devalue you. You devalue yourself. It's a toxic dance cycle that never wants to end. #love #freedom #relationship Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach

Some relationships we're in are just toxic. There's no other way to look at them. But we stay in them. Why? Let's dissect this.

Transitions are a part of life. Transitions are also major parts of a transitionally-supplied soul-tied toxic relationship with a narcissist. #love #relationships #freedom #transitions

When physical bombs are dropped, there are no warnings. The same thing exists when the narcissist drops the bomb on you. #bomb #lovebomb #narcissism #narcissist #relationships #love #freedom

We armor up for arguments and everything else. Why don't we armor up for battle when it comes to dealing with narcissistic people? #love #freedom #relationships

Love has been translated all kinds of ways-lust, love bombing, soul cravings, infatuation, flattery, etc. The way we define love is the way that we give and receive love. And the way that we give and receive love is the way that we live love. #story #narcissist #healing

When you're walking around in a heart-sicken state, feeling needy, and languishing, you will do anything, including agreeing to open relationships with the #narcissist . But how do you get out of the vicious cycle? Listen in. #healing

IT'S ALWAYS EASIER TO OWN SOMEBODY ELSE'S STORY. ESPECIALLY WHEN IT APPEARS MORE BROKEN OR GLAMOROUS TO US. BUT IS THAT MORE OF WANTING COMFORT OR TRUTH.

Good character takes a while to develop. Yet, if not careful, it can be lost almost overnight when it comes to hanging out with certain people. #love #freedom #relationship Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach

When you think of the word detox, an immediate physical cleansing comes to mind. And this is partially true of our discussion today. There is a cleansing taking place. However, This one deals with the cleansing of the soul after being in a toxic relationship. Thinking 🤔 that you can just move on after having a soul tie is so far from the reality of the situation. But then again, if our brains 🧠 had to pick between pain or pleasure, it would pick pleasure, Comfort, and complacency every time. #toxicrelationships #Katinahorton #soulties

Decisions that we make, the thoughts 💭 that we think 🤔, and the manner in which we live our lives are based on biases, privilege, our understanding of the concept of love, and toxic thinking. Listen 🎧 in. #Toxicrelationships #Katinahorton #toxicthinking #openyoureyes

What do you do with something you value? Everything that we value we must first identify. Whether it is a person, place, thing, or idea, it must be identified first. Once you know the identity, then you get to decide how much value needs to be placed on it. Listen 🎧 in to find out how your identity and worth plays a role in your likelihood to end up in a relationship with someone with narcissistic brokenness. #Toxicrelationships #Katinahorton #youareenough

Absalom’s story is one that any one of us could fall into if we’re not careful. His story is not far fetched. It demonstrates what happens when sin, pride, power, and avoiding conflict goes unchecked. It also reveals how people of power rarely do the dirty work on their own. Why not? Their flying monkeys do it for them. Listen in as we deep dive into a story that will change how you see your inner circle and relationships in general. Be blessed. #katinahorton #toxicrelationships #absalomspirit

When people know what we like, when we like it, how we like it, and why we like it, we'd better be careful. What that means is that all they have to do is to say the right thing, and we become silly putty in their hands. #love #freedom #relationship #love #freedom #relationship Love ❤️ and Freedom Toxic Relationship Recovery Coach