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This Isn’t Therapy
by Jake Ernst & Simon Paluck
This Isn’t Therapy... it's a podcast about it! Therapy themes are everywhere you look— they’re in your relationships, in the culture, and yes, inside of you, Mary! Each week, Jake Ernst and Simon Paluck peel back the therapy curtain to discuss the very things people are talking to their therapists about. No topic is off limits!New episodes drop every Thursday.The hosts:Jake: https://www.instagram.com/mswjakeSimon: https://www.instagram.com/directedbysimonThe pod: https://www.instagram.com/thisisnttherapypod
Episodes
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Co-Regulation & Passive Aggressive Texts
This Isn't Therapy... it's the final episode of the season where we cover co-regulation and passive aggressive texts. Through a deep dive into the concept of co-regulation and a submission from a lovely listener about passive aggressive texts, Jake and Simon do their best to weave these two…
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Friendship Crushes & Social Milestones
This Isn't Therapy... it's a convo about friendship crushes and the social milestones. Simon discusses a reddit post about a friendship crush and Jake teaches the lovely listeners about the social milestones: latch, leap, and launch! Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow...
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Nostalgia Core & Corporate Speak
This Isn't Therapy... it's a sneaky convo about what happens when we use (and overuse!) corporate jargon in the workplace and real life AND a deeper dive into why we feel nostalgic when we watch media from years yonder. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram…
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Projection & Aspect Ratios
This Isn't Therapy... it's a convo about projection (the psychological defense that makes us transfer our stuff onto others) and aspect ratios (and the hidden reasons why filmmakers choose certain widths and heights in movies and tv). Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7…
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Company Retreat & Texting Your Ex
This Isn't Therapy... it's a fun, flirty, fab convo about the Amazon Prime show "Company Retreat" and a reddit user's query about whether or not they should text their ex. Juicy! Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake |...
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Sycophantic AI & Why We Love Documentaries
This Isn't Therapy... it's a fun, flirty, fab convo about sycophantic AI and the psychology behind why we love documentaries. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to This Isn’t...
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Compilation: Family Dynamics
This Isn't Therapy...it's a flirty, fun, fab *compilation* episode of our greatest hits - featuring convos about family dynamics! Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to This...
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"What Should I Do?" & Cognitive Bias
This Isn't Therapy... it's a cheeky convo about solving problems and dealing with change and the mental biases that hold us back. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to This...
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✨ Astrology ✨ & Coaching vs. Therapy
This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about astrology and the coaching vs. therapy debate. In this episode, Jake and Simon tackle the relationship between astrology and mental health and the long-time-coming debate about therapy vs. coaching. Asking for a Friend:...
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Digital Isolation & Main Character Energy
This Isn't Therapy... its a fun flirty fab conversation about a lovely listener's experience with loneliness, despite having online friends and the impact of main character energy. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Sources: Main Character Syndrome" is Making Gen-Z the...
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The Business of Calm & How to Make a Major Life Decision
This Isn't Therapy... its a fun flirty fab conversation about the (ironic) mental health struggles occurring at Calm and a reddit user's question about learning how to trust your gut. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Sources: “Calm’s CEO on the mental health struggle at…
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Hilary Duff & Sports Betting
This Isn't Therapy... its a fun flirty fab conversation about sibling relationships, inspired by Hilary Duff's "We Don't Talk" (off her latest album), and the growing risk of sports betting. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok |…
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Sexistential (Robyn) & Trad Wives
This Isn't Therapy... its a fun flirty fab conversation about Robyn's latest album "Sexistential" (out now!) and the growing "soft-girl" & Trad Wife trend. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Articles: The Falsehood of Soft Girls and Trad Wives, Time Magazine Follow us!...
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Gift-Giving Pressure & Goodness Anxiety
This Isn't Therapy... its a conversation about that feeling you get when you give and receive gifts and the pressure we put on ourselves to be a good person. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon |...
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Oversharing Online & Gen Z Going Sober
This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about all things Gen Z: from oversharing online to going sober and drinking less. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to This Isn’t...
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Irrational Anger & Productivity Guilt
This Isn't Therapy... its an episode about anger in all its forms and the pressure we put on ourselves to be productive (sometimes to the point of guilt!) Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon |...
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Being High Maintenance & Being Low Maintenance
This Isn't Therapy... it's a convo about the tricky and delicate balance between being high maintenance and being low maintenance. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to This...
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Survivor & Hot Girl Walks
This Isn't Therapy... it's the long-time-coming episode about the social ins-and-outs of Survivor and the TikTok trend "Hot Girl Walks." Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to...
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The Chore of Self-Care & The Mindset Quiz
This Isn’t Therapy… it’s an episode about how self-care is now being seen as equivalent to chores for certain groups of people. Next, Jake and Simon take the lovely listeners through The Mindset Quiz to help you reflect on your general mindset on certain topics; from love and belonging to…
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Finding Love & Sexy AI Companions
This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about finding love and the phenomenon of Sexy AI companions. In this episode, Jake and Simon tackle a question from a lovely listener and dive into the emerging world of AI-generated romantic relationships. Asking for a Friend:...
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The Default Mode Network & Feeling “Muted”
This Isn’t Therapy… it’s the episode about The Default Mode Network, responsible for helping us be bored, self reflect, and go into real rest. From there, Simon and Jake talk about what it might mean if you’re feeling muted emotions or blunted emotional reactions all too often. Asking for a…
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Extinction of Experience & Friendship Breakups
This Isn't Therapy... it's an episode about the extinction of essential human experiences and what to do when you and your friends are on shaky ground. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon |...
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Decision Fatigue & Being Attracted To Your Therapist
This Isn't Therapy... it's an episode about decision overwhelm and being attracted to your therapist. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to This Isn’t Therapy: Spotify: ...
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The Drama Triangle & Bedrotting
This Isn't Therapy... it's an episode about The Drama Triangle by Stephen Karpman and chronically online terminology, from brainrot to bedrot. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon…
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Setting Good Goals & Disaster Capitalism
This Isn't Therapy... it's an episode about goal setting and the careless need to create carnage in the name of profit. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to This Isn’t…
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🦌🎁 Rizzdolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer 🎁🦌
Tune in to the NOW HOLIDAY CLASSIC, Rizzdolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer and hang around for the past two years of holiday remixes: 'Twas The Night Before Therapy and How The Grinch Stole Therapy.
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30-Day Digital Detox & The Roles of Social Change
This Isn't Therapy... it's an essential guide for detoxing from our digital devices and a discussion about the roles of social change. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon | @directedbysimon Listen to…
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Wayward & "The Performative Male"
This Isn't Therapy... it's a discussion about this Fall's most popular Netflix show, Wayward, and therapeutic treatment programs. Then we discuss the controversial identity of "the performative male" and what that means for modern masculinity. Asking for a Friend:...
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Labubus & FOMO-JOMO
This Isn't Therapy... it's a convo about fans and fandoms, trends and crazes, and the recent fanaticism about Labubus. Next up, we'll cover JOMO: The Joy of Missing Out and how that differs from FOMO: The Fear of Missing Out. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us!...
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Touch Deprivation & Wicked: For Good
This Isn't Therapy... it's a long-awaited discussion of Wicked: For Good! But first, we discuss the emerging phenomenon of touch deprivation and how skin hunger keeps us locked into cycles of disconnection. Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok |...
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K-Pop Demon Hunters & Mushroom Mommies
We're back!! This Isn't Therapy...this is a fun, flirty, fab convo about K-Pop Demon Hunters and Mushroom Mommies. Both have more therapy themes than you think… Asking for a Friend: https://forms.gle/LofZNaNzGe22W7XG7 Follow us! Instagram & TikTok | @thisisnttherapypod Jake | @mswjake Simon |...
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ENCORE: Giving feedback to your therapist
This Isn't Therapy...this is an episode about some hard truths learned in therapy. Ever wonder how to give your therapist some feedback?! Or even how would my therapist react if I gave them some feedback?! Through a story posted by an anonymous reddit user, Jake and Simon examine a therapists'...
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ENCORE: The pursuit of endless bliss
This Isn't Therapy... it's an *encore* episode about the pursuit of endless bliss. Many people arrive to therapy with a "fantasy goal" thinking they want to be calm, happy, and relaxed all the time. Through two #lovelylistener stories, Jake and Simon talk about how to find a realistic sense of…
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ENCORE: Is therapy harming kids?
This Isn't Therapy...this is an *encore* critical look at the argument that children need less therapy, not more, and how this "mental heath culture" is stripping parents of autonomy, ultimately causing more harm than good. In this episode, Jake and Simon dive into a review (written by Anna...
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ENCORE: The pressure to be happy
This Isn't Therapy... it's the *encore* episode about the pressure to be happy. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how to feel authentically happy when there's a lot of pressure to perform positivity or force happy feelings. Jake and Simon hear from two Lovely Listeners who wonder about…
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ENCORE: How social media is re-wiring our brain
This Isn't Therapy... it's the *encore* surprise solo session with Jake! In this episode, Jake shares two snippets from his weekly newsletter Just Trying To Help. Jake walks us through his theories for how social media is re-wiring our brains, reshaping our moods, and changing how we connect.…
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ENCORE: Doom-slang is making us numb
This Isn't Therapy... it's an *encore* doomy episode about the ever-evolving landscape of doomslang. Doomslang, coined by author and linguist Amanda Montell, is a term used to describe dystopian jargon like “dumpster fire” and “doomscroll” and “bed rot”. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about...
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ENCORE: We talk to an AI therapist!
FROM THE VAULT: This Isn't Therapy... it's the *encore* episode about AI therapists and if they can ever replace the real thing. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss a recent BBC article about why teens are seeking out AI therapist bots and what that means for the future of mental health....
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ENCORE: What to do when therapy isn't working
This isn't therapy... and it's not working out, either! In this *encore* episode, Jake and Simon discuss what to do when therapy isn't working. Importantly, they talk about how to know if therapy is actually working and what to do when you feel like it's not. This episode is based on a Lovely...
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ENCORE: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn
This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about the four F's: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss the four threat responses and how to move through tough situations and face what's in front of us. This episode is for anyone who feels trapped by their reactions or...
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ENCORE: The two most essential skills for relationships
This Isn't Therapy... it's a long overdue convo about the two most essential skills in relationships. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss a statistic about emotional availability: on average, we are only emotionally available for our partners about 9% of the time. With that in mind, they...
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ENCORE: The invisible toll of parentification
This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about one of the things that robs kids of a care-free childhood: being parentified. When kids are forced to grow up too soon and become adults in childhood, kids can take on adult-like responsibilities and burdens. In this episode, we talk about the…
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ENCORE: Parasocial Relationships
This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about parasocial relationships; the one-sided emotional connections we have with casual acquaintances, people we "know" online, characters we watch in television and movies, and people we admire from afar. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about some...
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ENCORE: The Empathy Wars
This isn’t therapy… it’s part three in our series about the war on human connection. In this episode, we talk about how overwhelming people with tragic and distressing information about the world leads to a decline in empathy. Jake and Simon discuss how a decline in rates of empathy affect our...
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ENCORE: The Opinion Wars
This Isn't Therapy... it's a follow up to last week's episode about the attention wars. In this episode, we explore the concept of "agree to disagree" and how there seems to be a war of opinions playing out in our culture. Is it really possible to find common ground when opinions clash? We…
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ENCORE: The Attention Wars
This Isn't Therapy... it's a frank discussion about the "attention economy"—where companies compete to capture our focus to sell us products. We break down the difference between attention, focus, and concentration, and examine how the constant battle for our attention impacts our mental health,...
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ENCORE: Feeling Hopeless
This Isn't Therapy... it's our *encore* eppy from our first episode BACKKKK (from last year!!) This week, we're talking about why finding hope can often feel so hopeless in hopeless in times. We peel back the curtain on an article from The New Yorker called "Do you have hope?" which looks at the...
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ENCORE: Can AI replace human relationships?
This Isn't Therapy... it's a thought-provoking *encore* episode about the growing influence of artificial intelligence in our personal lives. We ask the big question: Can AI truly replace human relationships? From AI companions and virtual therapists to chatbots that promise emotional support,...
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ENCORE: Learning to be alone
This Isn't Therapy...this is a flirty fab *encore* conversation about loneliness versus being alone. Through two #lovelylistener stories, Jake and Simon explore feelings around how we can feel lonely even though we're surrounded by people we love. Also, how being alone does not always mean you…
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ENCORE: Is it possible to be "too emotional"?
This Isn't Therapy...it’s the ENCORE to our episode about emotions and emotionality. Am I overacting? Under-reacting? In this conversation, Jake and Simon chat about the normal, human, everyday emotions that show up in our lives. How do we know if our reactions are within a healthy range? They…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
This Isn’t Therapy... it's a podcast about it! Therapy themes are everywhere you look— they’re in your relationships, in the culture, and yes, inside of you, Mary! Each week, Jake Ernst and Simon Paluck peel back the therapy curtain to discuss the very things people are talking to their therapists about. No topic is off limits!New episodes drop every Thursday.The hosts:Jake: https://www.instagram.com/mswjakeSimon: https://www.instagram.com/directedbysimonThe pod: https://www.instagram.com/thisisnttherapypod
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This Isn’t Therapy... it's a podcast about it! Therapy themes are everywhere you look— they’re in your relationships, in the culture, and yes, inside of you, Mary! Each week, Jake Ernst and Simon Paluck peel back the therapy curtain to discuss the very things people are talking to their therapists...
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