TMTTM: The Podcast

Cara Dugans is a mother of two, an honor student and graduate of Florida A&M University, and owner of Braids by Blasiian. In this episode, join us as we discuss how she embraces a challenge, why she refuses to lose herself in motherhood, her leap of faith into entrepreneurship, why she'll never settle for love, and more. You can follow Cara here: www.instagram.com/blasiian_beauty www.instagram.com/braidsbyblasiian_

Jackie Johnson is a mother of one, a grandmother, (affectionately known as Gma) of three, a graduate of Florida State University with a major in Information Technology, and last but not least, my mother-in-law. In this episode, join us as we discuss her first impression of me, new aged parenting styles that she doesn't agree with, the blending of our families, being a black girl in tech, and more.

Tavien Vicks is a mother of one, a licensed nail technician, owner of Tipped by Tae, and my fellow Godby High School class of 2008 graduate. In this episode, join us as we discuss how she embraced motherhood after initially not wanting children, what inspired her to become a nail technician in an Asian-dominated industry, how her parents reacted to her coming out as a lesbian, and more. You can follow Tae here: www.tippedbytae.as.me www.instagram.com/tippedtae

Baby that mercury retrograde was sent to kill, steal, and destroy! I've been laying low, but in this episode, I'm back to discuss the recent chaos involving Diddy, Drake and Kendrick, the rap girlies fighting, and I have an announcement! If you missed my last blog Dear Depression, you can read it here: www.theresmommythentheresme.com

Motherhood is the best hood, but let's be real. Some of those self-help baby books are outdated. There are some things about motherhood that you will only learn when it's your turn. This episode addresses some of the most common myths about motherhood. www.theresmommythentheresme.com www.instagram.com/theresmommythentheresme www.facebook.com/theresmommythentheresme

Last week's episode Quiet on Set was a little heavy, so we're changing gears this week. In this episode, I discuss my journey to forgiveness, why it's a struggle for me, and how I finally accepted that it was for me, and not them. They know not what they do. If you missed my last blog It's Not Them, It's You, it's available on my website: www.theresmommythentheresme.com

*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains details that may be triggering to sexual assault victims. This episode is a recap of the recently released Nickelodeon documentary, and your discretion is advised.

This one is off the record. Charge it to my head, and not my heart. In this episode, I take a step back from my typical niche, and speak from the heart. No outline, no notes, just my thoughts as of lately. If you missed my last blog, I Give Up, you can read it here: www.theresmommythentheresme.com

In this episode, I elaborate on my Facebook post that sent the men in a tizzy. Join me as I discuss the many misconceptions about marriage, the truth about marriage, and my experience as a wife of twelve years. If you missed my last blog post It Takes Two, you can read it here on my website: www.theresmommythentheresme.com

A wise man once said "this is a man's world, but it would be nothing without a woman or a girl." In a male dominated society, there have been so many women that have been holding it down in leadership, entrepreneurship, and the rap game. In this episode, I give flowers to a few women of our past, present, and future.

In this episode, I share my first storytime on how my husband and I got arrested on New Years Eve, in Georgia. Something that I was once ashamed of, I can laugh at now! In almost 14 years, my husband and I have been through a lot, so this is one of the many things that we've made it through, together. In this episode, I'm giving you all permission to laugh at my pain.

In this episode, the roles are reversed as I'm interviewed by my oldest child, Destinee. Destinee has expressed to me her love for public speaking, so this episode belongs to her! Join us as we discuss my dreams prior to motherhood, if I would ever consider doing radio, the greatest lesson that I've taught her, in what ways we're alike, in what ways we differ, how I can be a better mother, and more.

Happy New Year! In this episode, I reflect on 2023, the preparation for Moments in Motherhood and Manhood, pushing through scheduling conflicts and cancellations, why I stopped smoking weed, the decision to go no contact with my mother, the title of my next blog post, and a very special announcement for my loyal supporters. My next blog will be published this Saturday, January 10th. Make sure that you're subscribed to receive the alert: www.theresmommythentheresme www.facebook.com/theresmommythentheresme www.instagram.com/theresmommythentheresme

Bert Brinson is a father of three, a program coordinator for Success Through Academic & Recreational Support, owner of Cousin Bert's Soul Food & BBQ, and Co-Founder of Chocolate City. In my final Moments in Manhood episode, we discuss mama's boys, black men and therapy, the hardest thing to understand about women, what is unforgiveable in a relationship, how he wants his history to define him, and more. You can follow Bert here: www.instagram.com/cousinberts www.instagram.com/brotherbertramx www.facebook.com/bertram.brinson

Dee Lamar is kid free, and business owner of Jumpin Joy. In this episode we discuss some of his controversial Facebook opinions about women, why he thinks that monogamy in marriage is stressful for men, how women killed chivalry, why he thinks women no longer value men, Kevin Samuels, and more. We had to agree to disagree on some things, but to be fair, some of his points are valid. If you are interested in booking him for a party, you can reach him here: www.jumpinjoytally.com www.facebook.com/jumpinjoytally

Bryan Stringer is a father of six, a grandfather of three, General Manager at Campus Greek & Embroidery, a partner at Let's Talk Counseling & Consulting, and a deacon. In this episode we discuss receiving confirmation from God, why trust is a choice, how people complicate things in life, the importance of meeting men where they're at, getting out of your own way, changing traditions, and more.

Peter Darker is kid free, my Sagittarius brother, and a self-proclaimed Facebook comedian. In this episode we discuss using jokes as a coping mechanism, how his father taught him emotional intelligence, what he thinks women don't understand about men, his disdain for Libra women, his gentleman era, his co-parenting rules, and more. You can follow Peter here: ⁠www.facebook.com/peterdarker⁠ www.instagram.com/peterdarker www.snapchat.com/peterdarker

Garrett Proctor is a father of four, a former hospital corpsman, and a Navy veteran. In this episode, we discuss why he considers himself tender, how men want to be wanted too, why he makes sure to empower his daughters, what lesson he wants to teach his only son, the difficulties with dating him as a Virgo, and more.

Jimmy Doughpe is kid free, a graduate of Florida State University, a musician, and CEO of his record label Forever More Flava. In this episode we discuss his definition of a ride or die, how women can emotionally support men, the importance of rebuilding yourself, how he mentally prepares for his shows, the greatest lesson his mother taught him, and more. His music is available on all platforms. You can follow Jimmy here: www.twitter.com/jimmydoughpe www.instagram.com/jimmydoughpe www.facebook.com/jimmydoughpe

King Redd is a father of two, a fiancé, business owner, and a musician. In this episode, we discuss balancing fatherhood with a newborn, what submission means to him, grieving the loss of his loved ones, meditation, why quality time with his children is important, being better than yesterday, and more. His music is available on all platforms. You can follow Redd here: www.instagram.com/kingredd850

Welcome to my new segment, Moments in Manhood! Ladies, the men want to vent too, so here it is! Tony is a father of two, a barber, and podcast host for Raw Table Talk. In this episode, join us as Tony shares how he forgave his father, the benefit of two-parent households, the rise of gun violence, what the upcoming generation needs, rebranding himself after his viral mugshot, and more. You can follow Tony here: www.instagram.com/rawtabletalk www.facebook.com/rawtabletalk

Dr. YaQuanda McCall is a Mom of four, an intercessor, and CEO of Shift Therapy. In this final Moments in Motherhood episode, join us as we discuss self-sabotage, speaking life, leaving your mark across the world, picking up the pieces after a divorce, and more. You can follow Dr. YaQuanda here: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/dryayaya⁠⁠ ⁠www.facebook.com/yaquanda.mccall

Key Collins is a Mom of two, a homeowner, CEO of Frames & Fashion, and my birthday twin! Sagittarius gang, stand up! In this episode, join us as we discuss teaching your children to earn things as opposed to giving it to them, why it's hard asking for help, the soft girl era, why giving up is never an option, the most important accessory to an outfit, and more. You can follow Key here: www.facebook.com/framesandfashion www.instagram.com/frames_and_fashion

Thus far, I have interviewed seven different local mama's, so it's only right that I share my Moments in Motherhood journey with you. In this episode, I discuss embracing my children in their own identities, the sacrifices that stay-at-home mother's make, the difference in raising boys and girls, natural birth, my lack of family support, and more. To my readers, I've had a lot on my mind lately. I still love you, and I haven't forgotten about you! I'm going to make a surprise drop SOON, so make sure that you're subscribed to my website: www.theresmommythentheresme.com www.instagram.com/theresmommythentheresme

Dr. Ghia Kelly is a Mom of 3, a faith leader, clinical social worker, certified life and mental health coach, and CEO of The Gift of Truth, Inc. Dr. Kelly makes it very clear that she is not from Florida, she's from Miami! In this episode, join us as we discuss the freedom in transparency, her life prior to finding Christ, co-sleeping, quality time in marriage, what happens when you suppress dimensions of yourself, and more. You can follow Dr. Kelly here: www.drghiakelly.com www.facebook.com/drghiakelly www.instagram.com/dr_ghia_kelly

Mama Yata is a Mom of two, Founder of Melanin Mothers Meet (M3), a scalp nutritionist, an educator on The Principles of Problem Solving, and a camp instructor. In this episode, Mama Yata let's it be known that "she don't play." Join us as we discuss gut health, post-partum, home births, being consistent with your children, dancing in the rain, being resiliently brilliant, and more. You can follow Mama Yata here: www.melaninmothersmeet.com www.instagram.com/melaninmothersmeet_m3 [email protected]

Lexie Grissom is a Mom of two, a self-love coach, loctitian, and CEO of Majah Expressions. In this episode, Lexie and I candidly discuss her fears of raising little black boys, doing the mirror work, the importance of black fathers, journaling, how she overcame her insecurities through self-love, why she lives everyday like it's Friday, and more. You can follow Lexie here: www.instagram.com/majahexpressions www.instagram.com/majahlocsandthings

Moments in Motherhood is back, and I had the pleasure of speaking with a local Mom, best-selling author, and publisher. In this episode, Johnazia Gray and I candidly discuss verbal abuse, breaking generational curses, the highs and lows of co-parenting, and how Johnazia has successfully written and published, over 40 books to date. You can follow Johnazia here: www.instagram.com/authorjohnazia_ www.johnaziagraypresents.com www.twitter.com/authorjohnazia_

In this final episode of my first season, I give a recap of some of the biggest looks and moments, from the 2023 MTV Video Music Awards. Though I try to stay away from current events, I wanted to go out with a bang. Join me to hear my opinions on the best performance of the night, what's missing with Ice Spice, and what moments shocked me the most. Thank you all so much for listening and supporting me thus far. Get ready for season two! It's only up from here....

If it were up to me, I would live in a world of oblivion. I would see only my antics and foolishness. Unfortunately, we are exposed to the annoyance of others. Often, when we don't ask to be. As adults, we are forced to deal with other not-so-like-minded adults. I'm usually positive Patty, but I'm human. This is a fun episode for me, because I just let it all out. Better out than in, right? Talking on speakerphone in public settings, people who call in the middle of a text exchange, and recording private moments, are just a few of the things that grind my gears. Listen to the full episode to here more. This week's blog is titled "Action Required" and it will be published this Saturday - 09/09, on my website: www.theresmommythentheresme.com.

If you're a Beyoncé hater, then this episode is not for you. In this episode, I share my experience at the Renaissance World Tour in Tampa, Florida. For this to be my very first concert, the bar has been set! The budget? There was none. To witness that greatness with my own two eyes? It is truly something that I will never forget. Our show definitely failed the infamous "mute challenge," but baby a time was had. Give Beyoncé the credit that she deserves! The credit that she has earned! There aren't many that are 20+ years into their career, and still packing out stadiums. While looking damn good? I'm just saying! This week's blog "The Door is Closed," will post this Saturday on my website: www.theresmommythentheresme.com.

It's official, people have lost their minds. Is it just me, or has everybody been on one lately? There's rarely any good news these days, and some of these headlines will make you do a double take. In the words of LaWanda Page from the classic movie, Friday, "Are you prepared for Jehovah's return? Because if you're not..." He's coming back, ya'll! In this episode, I give my opinions on the latest problems in America. Men and their fragile little egos, new gun laws, Florida and its Governor trying to erase the woke "agenda," and we finally have an update on little Ms. Liar Liar, Carlee Russell. If you missed my last blog, Delayed, Not Denied, you can read it here: www.theresmommythentheresme.com

After a month-long hiatus, I got in my Wendy William's bag, and gave my take on some of social media's hot topics. What is going on?! In this episode, I discuss Keke Palmer, Usher and her boyfriend, the submersible that hauled tail to see the Titanic, the limited details on Carlee Russell and her wig, and Kylie and Jordyn Woods spinning the block on their friendship. This week's blog will be titled "Delayed, Not Denied," and it will be available this Saturday, July 22nd, on my website: www.theresmommythentheresme.com. Make sure you FOLLOW, RATE, AND SHARE!

This episode features a brief recap of my most recent blog, The Strong One. Being considered the strong one is not a compliment, or badge of honor. Life is hard for everyone, but even harder for the strong ones. The strong ones are often the most neglected. You may have everybody's back, but who really has yours? If you're the strong one, you are not alone. Instead of reposting how you should check on your strong friends, do it, and really mean it. You never know when somebody may need it the most. Here's the link to the full article: http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/06/08/the-strong-one/

This episode is a candid one, where I answer previously submitted questions from some of my supporters. In this episode, I give my humble opinions on things ranging from keeping the marriage spicy, how I came up with the name of my brand, why I changed my mind on YouTube, and vlogging. In this episode I also reveal the title of this week's blog, that is set to release on Saturday, May 27th. SPOILER ALERT: TMTTM: The Merch is on it's way! Take a listen.

In honor of Mental Health Awareness month, this episode covers the importance of rest. "I'll sleep when I die?" That's how you end up in the hospital. Don't overwork yourself. In order to better serve our mind, body, and soul, it is essential to rest, and allow yourself to center your thoughts. We're so used to chaos that we avoid rest. Also, I discuss the importance of a reset. Like that game that's glitching, sometimes you have to unplug and reprogram. Get off social media and focus. Rest and reset, but we ain't giving up! Don't forget to rate, follow, and share. Sharing is caring.

This episode features a brief recap of my most recent blog, Routine Reassurance. Listen, if you love me, tell me! If you care about me, show me! We know that reassurance makes us feel good, but it's a verbal expression to let those around you know, that you cherish them. A lot of you love to repost "give people their flowers," but do you really? Why do we wait until we lose something, to realize its value? If you do not have people around you that can give you routine reassurance, please, reassure yourself. It starts with you. Here's the link to the full article: http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/04/29/routine-reassurance/

This episode introduces you to my new segment, Moments in Motherhood. A panel for mothers to vent, and share their similar, yet different, perspectives of Motherhood. This episode features three local entrepreneurs; that just so happen to be Mothers: Bootz, (Shuttle Fly) is a Mom of four, and she shares her perspective of a mother who suddenly lost the father of her child. Jazalyn, (Decor J) is a Mom of one, and she shares her perspective as a married mother. Shadya, (Shadya's Custom Creations) is a Mom of one, and she shares her perspective as a single mother. To catch up on all of my blogs, you can read them on my website: www.theresmommythentheresme.com

This episode features a brief recap of my most recent blog, Unrealistic Expectations. No expectations, no disappointments? Catchy, but not realistic. Sometimes we let ourselves down with the unrealistic expectations that we have for others. You can't expect honesty from a liar. You can't expect comfort in the presence of a thief. The issue isn't expecting things from the ones that care about you, the issue comes with what you expect. Think big but think realistically. Here's the link to the full article: http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/04/15/unrealistic-expectations/

This episode features a brief recap of my most recent blog, Gaslighting 101. For an abuser, their favorite types of games, are mind games. They will use gaslighting as a tactic to maintain power and control over you. Without boundaries, self-awareness, and a spirit of discernment, it is easy to be weaved into their web of lies. Abusers never change themselves; they only change victims. The best way to deal with a gaslighter is, you don't. The power is in your hands. Here's the link to the full article: http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/04/08/gaslighting-101/

This episode features a brief recap of my most recent blog, Behind the Mask. Social media has a way of making everything seem so filtered and polished, when in reality, most of us are struggling on the inside. Whether we know it or not, we hide behind the mask, and appear to be perfectly normal, even when we aren't. You don't have to hide behind the mask. You are loved. You are worthy. You are not alone. Just as important as your physical health is, so is your mental health. Here's the link to the full article: http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/04/01/behind-the-mask/

This episode features a brief recap of my most recent blog, Deadbeat Dreams. Do you have that nagging feeling about something that you've always wanted to accomplish? Life is hectic, things get placed on the back burner, and all these years have passed you by. It's time that you get back to those dreams. Your dream NEEDS you. So, ask yourself, what are you waiting for? All it takes, is the first step. Here's the link to the article: http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/03/25/deadbeat-dreams/

This episode features a brief recap of my two most recent blogs, Millennial Manhood & Millennial Womanhood. Have you noticed that men have been a bit more sassy lately? You know, the painted nails, hoochie daddy shorts, and the man bags? Have you noticed that women are giving more masculine energy? It's almost as if we're competing against each other for superiority. Can't we all just get along? Here is the link to both articles: http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/03/12/millennial-manhood/ http://theresmommythentheresme.com/2023/03/18/millennial-womanhood/