Your Best Life Abroad

Join me for an inspiring conversation with Solveiga Jaskunas, who shares her powerful journey from Lithuania to building a thriving career in American HR & public speaking. Solveiga opens up about the real challenges of immigrating—from navigating job searches in a new country to adjusting to cultural differences that aren't always visible on the surface.This episode goes beyond the typical immigrant success story. Solveiga reveals the mindset shifts that transformed her career, the critical role of community support, and why she chose to step into public speaking to amplify immigrant voices in professional spaces. Whether you're an immigrant professional, a career changer, or simply someone seeking fresh perspective on growth, this episode has something for you.Tune in to learn: Mindset Shifts: Changing your internal narrative to unlock new opportunities in your international careerThe Power of Community: Why you can't do it alone and how to find your peoplePublic Speaking as Purpose: Using your story (flaws &ball) has the power to create impactful changeVisibility in Career Growth: Why being seen matters and how to increase your visibility strategicallySelf-Compassion: The importance of being kind to yourself while living abroadConnect with SolveigaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/solveigajaskunas/Website: https://www.immigrantvoiceinhr.com/Connect with Mary Martha:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/Instagram: @coachwithmmBook a free 30-minute consult call: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

Hey YBLA listeners!I'll be taking the next two weeks off to rest & reflect on 2025 (it's been a wild one!), savor the Christmas markets here in Madrid, and enjoy the holiday season with my husband and new friends.YBLA Season 2 will be back on January 7th, 2026!

There's a mistake I see people making all the time in their move abroad plans—and most don't even realize it's a mistake. They start with action as the first step, when action should actually be the last step. In this episode, I'm breaking down the two crucial phases that need to happen before you take action, so you don't end up overwhelmed, anxious, and confused in your move abroad journey.Tune in to learn: The Action Phase Trap – What jumping straight into action looks like (researching countries, applying for jobs abroad, hiring immigration lawyers, starting visa paperwork) and why starting here actually makes you less likely to follow through.Phase 1: Clarity – Getting clear on your move abroad vision, your unique why (beyond just "I want to leave"), and your core values. This is your foundation—without it, you're decorating a house that doesn't exist yet. Clarity helps you make decisions aligned with YOU and shut out outside noise and opinions.Phase 2: Preparation – Addressing the practical parts (budgeting, understanding how to choose a country, identifying skill gaps, creating realistic timelines) AND the emotional/mindset parts (nervous system regulation, managing "what if" spirals, building confidence). Think of this as building a bridge to your life abroad instead of jumping and hoping you land on your feet.Why Action Works When It Comes Last – When you've done the clarity and preparation work first, action feels natural and fluid. You're not forcing yourself—you're ready. You make better decisions about which country to choose, which jobs to apply for, who to network with, and how to use your immigration consultant's advice effectively.Ready to get clarity on your move abroad?Book a free 30-minute consult call with me: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30minConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachwithmm/

A lot of people are worried about if they'll regret moving abroad.But what about if you'll regret not moving abroad? Yeah, I said it.After nearly a decade abroad, and countless conversations with other expats & people who want to move abroad I dive into the three signs that you'll regret moving abroad.Tune in to learn:Why you should start taking your "inexplicable desire" to move abroad seriously even if you can't explain it in a way that convinces the naysayersWhy you should take the feelings of feeling more "you" abroad seriously. For real, not everyone feels this way after travelling.Why your "good on paper" life is impressive but deep down isn't what you want, and why the "good on paper" life is so hard to leave behind for the path less travelled.Previous Episodes You'll Want to Listen to:From the Philippines to New Zealand: A Leap of Faith - With Andera Halalhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/2sLoJ3p8hR2466y41JhEo5?si=xcKQRTG4QYWVPRlz5aizuAReady to get clarity on your move abroad?Book a free 30-minute consult call with me: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30minConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachwithmm/

How to get over the fear & uncertainty of moving abroad ?!I get this question all the time. I see it aalll the time on Social Media. You name it - the question is there, waiting paciently for an answer.Tune in to today's episode as I dive into my top tips to navigate the fear & uncertainty that come with moving abroad!Ready to get clarity on your move abroad?Book a free 30-minute consult call with me: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30minConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachwithmm/

Recently, someone booked a coaching call with me and when I asked what they wanted to get out of it, they wrote one word: clarity. This happens all the time, people reach out wanting to move abroad but feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or confused about their next steps. In this solo episode, I'm breaking down the three biggest things that actually get in the way of you getting that clarity you're craving.What does this actually look like in real life?....Information Overload & the Research Rabbit Hole – Why going down endless YouTube videos, blog posts, and social media spirals leaves you more confused than confident. Here's the truth: research happens after clarity, not before.Choosing a Country Based on "Good on Paper" First – The mistake of picking the trendiest destination (Spain, Italy, Portugal) because it makes logical sense or everyone else is doing it—without first understanding what YOU actually want your life to look like abroad.Trying to Get Clarity Completely on Your Own – Why you can't be both the person experiencing all the feelings AND your own coach at the same time. It's impossible to see the situation clearly when you're in it, and that's exactly why support matters.Ready to get clarity on your move abroad? Book a free 30-minute consult call with me: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30minConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachwithmm/

Join me for my chat with Andrea, who shares her inspiring journey from the Philippines to New Zealand.Andrea Halal is a marketing leader, storyteller, and founder of Big Leap Energy, a platform that empowers women to show up bigger, bolder, and braver in their personal and professional lives. Originally from the Philippines and now based in New Zealand, Andrea took her career to new heights through personal branding and community, embodying her belief that confidence creates opportunity. As Marketing Head at Ideqa and community builder at The Marketing Club and Auckland Expat Girlies, Andrea helps others embody authenticity, courage, and clarity, all of which are the essence of Big Leap Energy.Andrea opens up about what it really takes to trust yourself, take big leaps of faith, and face the emotional ups and downs that come with starting over in a new country. She talks about the power of preparation, networking, and having a supportive family during major transitions abroad.We also dive into the realities of navigating microaggressions, building resilience, and creating a new sense of home and belonging from the ground up.Tune in to learn:The importance of knowing your why when moving abroadHow to build a personal brand and network on LinkedIn (from someone who's done it before!)The role of intuition and community when starting freshThe courage it takes to reinvent yourself abroad✨Connect with Andrea:→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreahalal/→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jheanandrea/⁠→ Substack: https://bigleapenergy.substack.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=online&utm_campaign=ybla✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠→ Book a free 1:1 Chat: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In this episode of Your Best Life Abroad, I sit down with Megan, an international career coach, to talk about what it really takes to build a global career without losing sight of yourself along the way. Megan shares her journey of working across 10 countries (yes—10!), and what she’s learned about the power of networking, staying persistent, and crafting a clear story around your career.We also get into the real stuff—like the myths of remote work, how to handle challenges when the path abroad doesn’t go as planned, and why being present and flexible can make all the difference when you’re creating a life and career you love abroad. ✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠→ Book a free call: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min✨ Connect with Megan:→ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/megancassel→ Free resource "How to move abroad without starting over": https://subscribepage.io/DmKhKn→ Book a free 1:1 chat with Megan: www.calendly.com/megancassel

In this episode, I sit down with Vivian from FTB Home, a professional home organizer, to talk about the deep connection between home organization, personal identity, and life transitions.Vivian shares how creating a living space that truly reflects your desired lifestyle can make all the difference—especially during big life changes like moving abroad. We dive into the emotional side of decluttering, the importance of letting go of belongings, and how to start defining a vision for your next chapter.Vivian also shares some really practical tips—like her “five-second rule” for making quick, confident decisions when organizing or deciding what to keep.Tune in to learn:✨ The emotional and practical sides of moving abroad✨ What it means to let go of the past and create space for the future✨ The challenges of downsizing and the emotional weight our belongings can hold✨ The power of digitizing memories✨ How to make thoughtful furniture decisions that align with your best life abroad✨ Get in touch with Vivian on LinkedIn:→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vivian-najib/✨ Get in touch with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠→ Book a free 1:1 chat: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min⁠

Anyone who's ever felt alone in a sea of people knows:Making friends abroad doesn't always fix loneliness.In this episode, I dive into my take on why making friends doesn't always fix the loneliness you may feel in your life abroad. I share my story of being so busy with what felt like a thriving social life that I didn't make time to connect to myself - and what I did to reconnect with myself and stopped feeling lonely.✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

Tune in to learn 3 of my go-to micro mindset shifts to make the challening parts of expat life a bit lighter.& Stay until the end to hear a special bonus one!✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

In this episode, I explore the emotional and practical challenges of feeling torn between two places, drawing from my personal experiences of living in Chile and Spain. I share insights on how to navigate the 'should I stay or should I go' dilemma, emphasizing the importance of aligning decisions with personal values and life goals.✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

Tune in to learn the one thing you need to move & thrive abroad. That no one is really talking about - but they totally should be!✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠Dealing with friends & family not supporting your move abroad? Then you can't miss Episode #31: The move abroad advice I'd give you if I weren't afraid of hurting your feelings

The move abroad advice I'd give you if I weren't afraid of hurting your feelings.In this epsiode I talk about:Why not everyone can support your dream of moving abroadWhy it's a good idea to not share with people who are unsupportive of you moving abroadWhy the phrase"too good to be true" is actually blocking you from believing that moving abroad is possible for youWhy doing more research isn't going to get you closer to moving abroad & what will✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

Tune in to learn the one step that you can't skip if you want to move abroad!(That's not another move abroad checklist).✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

Today I’m breaking down 8 questions to ask yourself before choosing your new country.This episode is for the person wanting to turn their dream of moving abroad into a reality to current expats planning their next move.These questions will help provide you clarity on what countries are for you, & which ones aren’t. So that by the end of answering these 8 questions you’ll end with a narrowed list of countries that could work for you so you can start taking the steps to make your move a reality! Yay!✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

Have you ever found yourself wondering "Is it me or is it the country?"Everything about the country you’re living in “doesn’t work” You find yourself saying things like “In my country x works better, we do it this way” or thinking “ugh if only the food were different, the people were different, the social culture was different” etc etc etc.This episode is for you if you’ve ever been in a major rut living abroad - and finally want to get out of it!✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

After 9 years overseas and working as a certified life coach for expats, I've learned that good mental health abroad isn't about having it all figured out or forcing gratitude for your "dream life." It's about having simple, reliable habits that keep you grounded when everything else feels uncertain.Tune in to learn my 6 simple mental health habits that I keep going back to:Morning Journaling – Start your day with intention, not your phoneDaily Check-Ins – Ask yourself "How am I doing?" and actually listen to the answerBuilding Honest Community – Finding at least one person you can be completely real with about your expat strugglesSleep Hygiene – Getting good sleep is all about how you set yourself up to have a good nights sleepShort Walks When Stuck – Break the overthinking spiral with 10-minute movement breaksSocial Media Boundaries – Creating healthy limits around scrolling to avoid the expat comparison trap✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠⁠→ LinkedIn:⁠ ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak

Living abroad isn’t always the dreamy highlight reel we see on Social Media (and that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong)!In this episode, I’m sharing 5 simple but powerful mindset shifts that have helped me feel more grounded through the uncertainty, identity shifts, and messy growth living abroad brings. These are the reminders I come back to whenever I’m feeling lost, stuck, or like I should “have it all figured out by now.”Whether you’re in your first year abroad or your ninth (like me!), this episode is your reminder to meet yourself where you are - and to know you’re not alone.✨Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠book a free 1:1 chat here!⁠→ LinkedIn: ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

You have your go-to coffee shop, you know how to navigate the public transportation system & they know you at the grocery store.But something still feels off?...Maybe, you’ve stopped sharing the hard parts with your friends & family back home. Maybe you’re afraid of looking like you’re complaining all the time, failing at living abroad or not thriving abroad. Whatever the reason it is - there are some clear signs that you need more support as an expat to thrive abroad.Tune in to learn the 5 warning signs that you need support as an expat - so you can finally start thriving (instead of surviving) abroad!✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠book a free chat!⁠→ LinkedIn: ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak

If you've ever thought "I'm an experienced expat, this next move should be easy" or you're beating yourself up for struggling when you feel like you "should know better," this one's for you. We're getting real about why experience doesn't always equal easy, and why that's totally okay.I talk about:How I got completely humbled by Spanish Spanish (turns out 9 years of Chilean Spanish didn't prepare me for how fast these people talk!)Why I almost cried over a tiny kitchen and how your physical space affects your mental state way more than you thinkThe homesickness that hit me like a truck - because apparently being an "experienced expat" doesn't make you immune to missing homeHow perfectionism tried to convince me I was failing at something I should be "good at" by nowWhy every expat goes through the same emotional rollercoaster, no matter how many times you've done this dance before⁠🤝 Let’s connect!→ Book a free 1:1 chat: ⁠book a free chat here!⁠→ LinkedIn: ⁠Mary Martha Kipcak⁠

Birthday's can bring up a lot of emotions. Especially when you're navigating the external challenges of living abroad.In today's episode, I dive into the 10 questions I asked myself to turn around age anxiety abroad (hello 34!) & welcome this new year with a fresh perspective.I talk about:Redefining what "enough" feels like to me in this current season of lifeWhere in my life am I avoiding what's uncomfortableReflecting on the people in my life who bring out the best in meGiving myself the kind of support I need right now - without holding backWhat it means to "belong" to myself & creating belonging wherever I go& lots more!🤝 Let’s connect on→ Book a free 1:1 chat: book free call here!→ LinkedIn: Mary Martha Kipcak

Let's get real for a sec. How do you feel about personal branding on LinkedIn?...If growing your network, while creating a personal brand that's all you is something you want (but the idea of actually doing it feels too cringe) - then this episode is for you!In today's episode, I'm joined by Juvi Rivera, B2B Marketer & Expat to dive deeper into what really goes into building a future-proof career abroad.We talk about:The importance of networking on LinkedIn for expatsUnlearning limiting beliefs so you can get over the cringe & actually show up on LinkedInOwning your story as an expat & weaving it into your professional storyEmbracing vulnerability through storytelling while still respecting your limitsBuilding a personal brand as an expat so you can future-proof your international career& lots more!✨ Connect with Juvi:→ Instagram: @juvi.eslie→ LinkedIn: Juviand Rivera→ Substack: Another Broad Abroad Newsletter→ Check out Juvi’s guide to making LinkedIn work for your global career as an expat!✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ Book a free 1:1 call : free 1:1 call→ LinkedIn: Mary Martha Kipcak

As I'm preparing to make another move abroad... I've been thinking about all the things I wish I would’ve known before moving abroad. Tune in to learn the 7 things I wish I would've known before moving abroad, so I would've been not just prepared practically but also emotionally & mentally.✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

Tune in to learn my feelings on reverse culture shock, being the long-distance daughter/sister, going through different phases of life abroad (aka being a “real adult now”), & realizing that I never want to move back to the U.S.✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30minMissed last week's episode? Listen here!: #19 How I’m Embracing the Messy Middle of My Expat Life

I talk about the messy middle, the grey area of expat life a lot. So when I jumped on to record this episode's podcast feeling more blocked than ever — I knew I had to share how I'm navigating my own messy middle in my expat life with you.While I'm in the thick of it — not when I'm "safely on the other side". 💙Tune in to hear my raw & unscripted share of how I'm embracing my own messy middle in my expat life. 👀  ✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In this episode, I sit down with Meg Nicholls, a Business English coach and fellow language lover, to talk about all things language learning—and let me tell you, this convo is for anyone who's ever tried to express themselves in another language and felt... a little awkward. We dive into mindset, confidence, and those cringey moments we all experience when learning (yes, mistakes are part of the magic!). Meg shares her own journey with language learning and how it shaped the way she now helps others show up authentically and confidently—especially in work and expat settings.We also chat about accents (and why they're actually beautiful), overcoming past language learning baggage, and how culture totally influences how we learn and speak. Meg brings such a refreshing perspective to the process—less perfection, more connection. If you’ve ever struggled to feel like “yourself” in another language or doubted whether you’re “good enough,” this one’s for you. It’s all about growth, resilience, and enjoying the ride as you build your best life abroad.Timestamps:06:00 - Cultural Influences on Language Learning09:03 - Mindset and Confidence in Language Learning11:54 - The Importance of Making Mistakes15:03 - Accents and Communication17:48 - Misconceptions About Language Learning27:03 - Reality vs. Expectation in Language Learning36:30 - Understanding Language Learning Challenges45:01 - Overcoming Negative Experiences in Language Learning48:20 - Immersive Language Learning Experiences51:01 - Finding Joy in Language Learning55:25 - The Process of Language Learning01:00:26 - Building a Supportive Language Learning Community01:04:37 - The Reality of Expat LifeYou can find Meg on Instagram & LinkedIn, as well as book a free call with her!Check out Meg’s blog post on accents here! If you enjoyed this episode, come connect with me on LinkedIn or book a free 1:1 chat to learn about coaching together!

Learn the  3 keys to creating actual connection (and why most advice totally skips these steps). If you’ve ever felt lonely in a crowded room or wondered why your friendships abroad feel a bit surface-level—this one’s for you.I’m sharing the real secret to making deeper connections abroad…and spoiler alert: it’s not just “meet more people.”🙃. Plus, a bonus 4th key that no one talks about but makes all the difference.Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to Deeper Connections Abroad03:05 - The Importance of Inner Connection06:00 - Energy, Intention, and Presence09:09 - The Role of Presence in Connection11:59 - Patience and the Process of Building ConnectionsBook a Free 1:1 Chat: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30minConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/Friendships Study:  How many hours does it take to make a friend? - Jeffrey A. Hall, 2019

Living abroad can be both exciting and overwhelming—I’ve felt the highs and the lonely, “what am I even doing here?” moments.A lot of people back home don’t quite get the behind-the-scenes of expat life (I’m looking at you Instagram), which is why support that actually understands this duality is so important.Having someone in your corner—like a coach—can make all the difference in navigating the emotional ups and downs without feeling like you have to do it all alone.✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

Ever thought you'd move abroad for love and end up reinventing your entire career? That’s exactly what happened to Kate from Career Denmark. In this episode, we chat about her expat story - from landing in Denmark without a clear plan to building a meaningful career that helps other internationals do the same. We talk job hunting, cultural curveballs, the power of networking (the real kind, not the awkward kind), and what it really takes to stay hopeful when things don’t go as planned.If you’ve ever felt lost or unsure in your work life abroad - this one’s for you.Tune in to learn the following takeaways:Kate’s expat story, from moving to Denmark for love to creating a career that helps other internationals thrive (spoiler: it wasn’t linear, but that’s the beauty of it!).Why building a career abroad isn’t just about work - it’s also about who you want to be in this chapter of your life.The networking advice we wish someone had given us earlier (hint: it’s more about real relationships than handing out résumés).How understanding local culture, job market quirks, and unspoken norms can totally change your job search game.And a reminder we all need: unemployment or career twists don’t define your worth, kindness toward yourself is key while figuring things out abroad.Timestamps:06:11 - Navigating Career Transitions Abroad12:11 - Deciding Between Opportunities: Heart vs. Logic15:01 - Overcoming Challenges in the Danish Job Market18:03 - The Importance of Networking and Community20:48 - Understanding Danish Work Culture27:01 - The Role of Mindset in Career Success29:49 - Common Networking Challenges for Expats33:07 - Strategies for Effective Networking36:06 - The Value of Continuous Networking - Understanding Danish Work Culture42:05 - Building Community Through Networking46:12 - Cultural Differences in Job Markets52:20 - Navigating Job Applications and Networking58:54 - The Importance of Personal Branding01:07:20 - Researching and Adapting to New CulturesGet in touch with Kate!Kate’s Website: https://careerdenmark.dk/Kate’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/careerconsultant4internationals/Get in touch with Mary Martha!Book a free 1:1 chat: https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30minMary Martha’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/Mary Martha’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachwithmm/

Have you ever made a big move for love - and then had to figure out everything else after? In this episode, I sit down with Megan, an American expat who’s been living in Germany for over a decade. We chat about what it’s really like to start over abroad: navigating career changes, learning a new language, and building friendships that actually feel meaningful.Megan shares the highs and lows of parenting in a new culture, especially during isolating times like COVID, and how she’s raising her son to embrace both his American and German roots. From cultural differences at work to finding joy in the small things, we talk about how your perspective on success, identity, and community shifts when you live abroad - and how resourcefulness and connection make all the difference.If you’ve ever struggled with staying true to yourself while adapting to life abroad, this one’s for you.Tune in to learn the following takeaways:Living and parenting abroad require intentionality—from building community and maintaining cultural identity to navigating career shifts and raising bilingual children.Expat life offers perspective shifts on success, friendships, and parenting, especially when facing cultural differences and isolation.Support systems matter—language skills, professional networks, and meaningful connections are essential for thriving abroad.01:54 - Love and Relocation Decisions06:00 - Navigating Career and Education in Germany09:55 - Cultural Adjustments and Work Environment14:01 - Building Connections and Community17:49 - Transitioning from Munich to Hamburg22:14 - Embracing Parental Leave and Community Building26:00 - Balancing Work and Family Life30:00 - Perspective on Career and Life Choices32:23 - Navigating Cultural Comparisons and Personal Choices34:00 - The Challenges of Parenthood Abroad36:20 - Building Community as an Expat Parent39:16 - Resourcefulness in Overcoming Isolation42:45 - Raising a Bilingual Child in a Multicultural Environment46:47 - Traveling with a Multicultural Perspective51:12 - Finding Community and Connection Abroad55:24 - Maintaining Cultural Identity While Adapting✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever felt pressured to “fit in” while adapting to a new culture?The way you dress, eat, talk, and just are as a person feels like it makes you stick out like a sore thumb?Been there. For way too long if we’re being honest!Dive into a question a follower sent in of “Staying yourself while adapting to a new culture” - because you didn’t move abroad to lose your sparkle, to lose what makes you - YOU.Tune in to learn the following takeaways:Stay True to Yourself While Adapting – Balance who you are with the culture around you by defining your non-negotiables and embracing what resonates with you.Let Go of Pressure to Fit In – You don’t have to adopt every cultural norm. Choosing what aligns with you leads to growth and authenticity.Find Connection and Belonging – Surround yourself with people who accept you and support your journey of cultural adaptation.Timestamps:01:58 - Staying True to Yourself03:54 - Defining Your What Makes You, You08:41 - Identifying Cultural Attachments12:57 - Letting Go of Unhelpful Norms17:04 - Embracing Change and Acceptance✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min⁠

In this episode of Your Best Life Abroad Podcast, join me as I chat with Emily Carroll, an American expat in London, about the real ups and downs of life abroad. From studying overseas to navigating post-grad uncertainty, Emily shares how she built a social network, tackled loneliness, and redefined belonging in a new city.We dive into the contrast between the dreamy expat life and the everyday realities—like perfectionism, culture shock, and language struggles. If you’re living abroad, you don’t want to miss this one as Emily provides so many valuable nuggets of wisdom into how to build a truly fulfilling life abroad. Tune in to learn the following takeaways:Expat life isn’t all glam—it's everyday life. The honeymoon phase fades, and adjusting to reality takes time, patience, and a strong support system.Building a social network is key. Finding your people helps combat loneliness and create a sense of belonging in a new city.Mindset shifts make all the difference. Perspective, realistic expectations, and self-acceptance help expats navigate challenges like culture shock and perfectionism.Social media vs. reality. Expats often feel pressure to live a picture-perfect life, but embracing the ups and downs is essential for long-term happiness.Balance is everything. From managing friendships back home to adapting to new cultures, expat life is about finding joy in both the adventure and the mundane.Timestamps:00:47 - Emily's Journey from the U.S. to London03:09 - Studying Abroad: A Different Perspective07:05 - Navigating Life After Graduate School11:08 - Building a Social Network in a New City15:39 - Mindset Shifts and Overcoming Loneliness18:51 - The Reality of Expat Life vs. Expectations23:34 - Managing Doubts and Finding Belonging30:02 - The Importance of Perspective in Expat Life37:56 - Navigating the Honeymoon Phase40:24 - Transitioning to Everyday Life43:57 - The Pressure of Perfectionism49:53 - Finding Balance in Expat Life55:43 - Individual Experiences of Expat Life01:01:10 - Overcoming Challenges and Building Confidence01:07:55 - Living Your Best Life Abroad✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

Today in the IG Live (& on the podcast today!) I answer a question from a follower:How to navigate the flood of extra thoughts that come by being by yourself a lot.This is something that we all go through. The increase of alone time. The extra flood of thoughts. And let's be real, the uncomfortable, unkind, & unwanted thoughts.Today I dive into how to navigate these thoughts, and to use this alone time for your own personal self growth.Tune in to learn this episode's takeaways:Why the flood of extra thoughts comes up when you’re alone a lot abroadWhy distracting and “staying busy” just makes it worse in the long-runA simple process to start navigating being flooded by thoughts when you’re by yourself a lot✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In the final episode of the friendship series, we explore female friendships abroad. Including decoding girl code in female friendships abroad with the locals, the importance of shared vulnerability in female friendships (& how to start doing this if it scares you!), & more.Tune in to learn the following takeaways:Takeaways:Female friendships abroad can be challenging but rewarding.Cultural dynamics play a significant role in friendship formation.Vulnerability is essential for deepening friendships.Not all expats will connect just because of nationality.Friendships take time to develop and require effort.Observing local friendship dynamics can aid in making connections.Shared experiences can foster deeper bonds among women.It's okay to have mostly expat friends.Cultural differences should be viewed with curiosity, not judgment.Building friendships is a gradual process that varies for everyone.Timestamps:00:00- Introduction to Female Friendships Abroad02:07- Decoding Cultural Dynamics in Friendships09:01 - The Role of Vulnerability in Friendships13:41 - Navigating Connections: Beyond Nationality16:00 - The Timeline of Building Friendships18:07 - Understanding Intercultural Friendships✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In today’s part two of the three-part series on friendship we dive into maintaining friendships while living abroad. Discussing why intentional communication, the acceptance of evolving friendship dynamics, and the necessity of grieving changes in relationships are so important to maintaining friendships and navigating friendships amongst shifts in the dynamic. The conversation is structured around two main themes: maintaining long-distance friendships and navigating the shifts in friendships as life progresses. Mary Martha shares personal experiences and practical advice for expats to foster meaningful connections despite geographical distances and life changes.Tune in to learn this episode's takeaways: MM’s top tips for maintaining long-distance friendships with friends back home. MM’s three-phase process for navigating friendships successfully when the dynamic shifts. How acceptance & opening up to friendships looking different is the key to friendship satisfaction abroad.✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In today's episode I share why it feels harder than ever to make friends as an adult abroad. Today's episode is the first part of a three-part series of friendships abroad. We know that our friends abroad can make or break our experience living abroad - but getting there can take time, effort, and consistency - as well as navigating the bumps in those friendships that will eventually happen.  ✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

Another baby, house, marriage, etc. announcement pops up on your Instagram feed and you find yourself doubting if you’re in the right place. Comparing your unique timeline to others. Wondering if you’re behind?This is what happens when we fall down the rabbit hole of comparison. As expats, we live an unconventional life - on our own timelines. Let’s own this, and get back in the driver's seat of our own lives instead of letting the voice of comparison run the show.Tune in to learn:How your aligning your expat life with your values is the antidote to comparison The questions to ask yourself when you’re comparing yourself to othersHow to use jealousy and envy to work for you, instead of against you✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

2024 was a big year for me, it was the year I launched my coaching business Coach With MM. From the outside looking in, you probably couldn't tell that 2024 was also the year I struggled with self-doubt. But it sure was. Improving my self-confidence despite dealing with self-doubt was a major lesson I learned in 2024 - and one that applies to all phases of expat life. Making new friends. Growing a career in another culture & language. Not sure where to move to next. Dating & relationships. You name it. Doubt will be there.Tune in to learn this episode's takeaways: How I moved from an attitude of self-doubt to self-confidence after a tough year Why self-doubt is normal in your life abroad✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

If you’re living abroad, feeling lost or stuck because you’ve been questioning everything from if you made the right choice to move in the first place, to your relationship, and job. I feel you – I’ve been there before, and many expats silently struggle with this endless thought loop of “questioning everything”.It’s overwhelming, it’s frustrating, and it can take a toll on your confidence and well-being.Tune in to learn: Why this happens How I can help A couple of practical tips to implement right away Why doubt isn’t the problem✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

If you're an expat living abroad who is wondering if they're in the dreaded 'expat bubble' but not sure how to get out of it, this is for you.I'm sharing some of my thoughts on the expat bubble, my personal experience, my hot take on why it's so hard to get out of, and some mindset shifts to help you move away from the expat bubble (without ditching your expat friends)!Tune in to learn: Defining what what the ‘expat bubble’ is exactly My personal experience with the ‘expat bubble’ My theory on why 'expat bubble’ occurs in the first place How left unchecked the 'expat bubble' can negatively impact your life satisfaction as an expat Mindset shifts to breaking out of the 'expat bubble' Your Homework for putting it in action✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In this episode, Mary Martha discusses the unique challenges and emotional complexities faced by expats during significant elections in their home countries. She emphasizes the importance of voting, understanding different perspectives, and the personal growth that comes from living abroad. The conversation highlights the need for empathy in discussions with friends and family back home, as well as the emotional turmoil that can arise from navigating these experiences. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to take care of themselves and recognize the value of their voices and experiences.Takeaways Your voice and input absolutely matter, even from abroad. Living abroad gives you a unique perspective on your home country. It's important to validate your own experiences as an expat. Cultural identity can shift significantly when living in another country. Empathy and grace are crucial when discussing differing opinions with loved ones. Avoiding difficult conversations can harm relationships with friends and family. Living abroad can help you unlearn and reassess cultural beliefs. Appreciate aspects of your home country that resonate with you. Big elections can evoke mixed feelings about your home country. Self-care is essential during emotionally charged times.Timestamps:00:00 Navigating Elections as Expats07:10 Understanding Different Perspectives14:50 Emotional Complexity of Living Abroad✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In this episode, Mary Martha discusses the journey of living abroad, focusing on the transition from the honeymoon phase to the frustration phase. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these phases as normal and explores how to find purpose and thrive during challenging times. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, she encourages listeners to embrace their experiences, serve others, and set intentions for personal growth.Takeaways: The honeymoon phase is an exciting time but is temporary. The frustration phase can bring feelings of anxiety and homesickness. It's normal to feel a loss of purpose after the honeymoon phase. Surviving means just getting through the day, while thriving means enjoying life. Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and self-discovery. Serving others can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Finding community is essential for emotional support abroad. Reflecting on what you want from your experience can guide your journey. It's okay to feel uncomfortable; allow yourself to process those feelings. Setting intentions can help regain personal power in your life abroad.Timestamps:00:00 Navigating the Honeymoon Phase 03:06 Understanding the Frustration Phase06:10 Surviving vs. Thriving Abroad09:08 Finding Purpose Through Challenges12:02 Serving Others for Fulfillment14:48 Setting Intentions for GrowthKeywords: living abroad, purpose, frustration phase, thriving, emotional roller coaster, life coaching, personal growth, community, serving others, expat life✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min

In the inaugural episode of 'Your Best Life Abroad,' Mary Martha Kipcak introduces her journey as a life coach for expats, sharing her personal experiences of living abroad, the challenges faced, and the insights gained. The podcast aims to provide support, inspiration, and guidance for those navigating life far from home, focusing on emotional resilience and personal growth. This podcast is all about things living abroad. Mary Martha felt a calling to live abroad after a backpacking trip. Struggles with homesickness are common among expats. Working with a life coach changed everything for Mary Martha. Mary Martha got certified as a life coach to help others. The podcast is for expats or immigrants seeking support. Listeners can expect clarity and practical tools. Emotional resilience is crucial for expats. Mary Martha's journey includes overcoming self-doubt and fear. The podcast aims to explore the nitty-gritty of expat life.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Your Best Life Abroad01:26 Mary Martha's Journey to Living Abroad04:10 Struggles and Growth as an Expat06:21 The Purpose of the Podcast✨ Connect with Mary Martha:→ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/marymarthakipcak/⁠⁠→ Book a free call: ⁠https://calendly.com/coachwithmm/30min