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Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW, CST — 219 episodes

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Aging Without a Blueprint: Gay Men, Retirement, and What Comes Next

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The Quiet Ambivalence of Open Relationships in Long-Term Gay Couples

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Five Love Languages Reimagined for Gay Men, Part 2: Gifts, Touch & Attachment

4

Five Love Languages for Gay Men: What They Really Mean (Part 1)

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Why High-Achieving Gay Men Struggle to Feel Loved

6

Why Am I Never Invited? The Hidden Psychology of Social Exclusion Among Gay Men

7

Gay Men and Self-Abandonment: The Quiet Ways We Leave Ourselves Behind

8

Why Trump Feels So Powerful: The Psychology of Authoritarian Certainty

9

Why Can't I Stay Hard Anymore? A Gay Man's Guide to Erectile Dysfunction

10

Why Successful Gay Male Professionals Still Feel Off — And What Actually Changes It

11

Beyond Insight (Part 2): What Gay Men Can Do to Finally Create Real Change

12

Beyond Insight (Part 1): Why Gay Men Stay Stuck Even After Therapy and Self-Help

13

Gay Men and How to Build Real Friendships in Adulthood

14

When a Gay Man's Career Feels at Risk: False Accusations & Workplace Anxiety

15

Gay Couples in Business Together: Power, Competition, and the Hidden Cost to Intimacy

16

Why So Many Gay Men Lose Their Drive in Midlife (No One Talks About This)

17

Why So Many Successful Gay Men Feel Unsettled in Midlife

18

Gay Men and Immediate Coping Tips for a Breakup

19

Why So Many Gay Men Feel On Edge Right Now—and What Actually Helps

20

Gay Men and Practical Tips for Ed

21

Gay Men on the Autism Spectrum: Dating, Intimacy, and Being Understood

22

The Hidden Stages of a Gay Man's Career

23

Heated Rivalry: A Gay Therapist's Take on Romance, Fetishization & Visibility

24

It's OK to Hate the Holidays: Coping Skills for Gay Men

25

Gay Men and Non-Monetary Wealth: Redefining What It Means to Feel Rich

26

Why Gay Men Can't Stop Scrolling: The Real Reasons Behind Compulsive Phone Use

27

Gay Men and Wicked: For Good

28

Gay Men and Psychiatric Medications: Functions, Fears, and Facts

29

Why Mid-Life Gay Men Still Use Hookup Apps — and What That Really Means

30

Are All Marines Gay Bottoms? Military Myths in Gay Culture

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Gay Men and Post-Nut Clarity: What It Really Means

32

Yom Kippur and Gay Men: Finding Meaning in Reflection, Atonement, and Renewal

33

Toxic Gay Currencies: How to Avoid the Attention, Sex, and Status Traps

34

From Obama to Trump: Understanding the Whiplash in American Politics Through the Lens of Minority Stress and Gay Men's Mental Health

35

Gay Men Healing from Trauma: Why Substance Matters More Than Hype

36

When "Non-Affirming" Therapists Keep LGBTQ+ Clients for the Money: An Ethical Failure with Real Consequences

37

Gay Men and The Cinderella Syndrome: From Outcast to Adonis

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Gay Men as Adult Children of Alcoholics - How the Past Talks in the Present

39

Gay Widowers: Navigating Loss, Identity, and Rebirth

40

Radical Erotic Aging: Gay Men, Desire, and the Audacity to Stay Sexy

41

Gilligan's Island & The Seven Deadly Sins: What a 60s Sitcom Can Teach Gay Men

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Gay Men Overcoming Unconscious Barriers to Success

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Gay Men and Understanding Personality Traits: The OCEAN Model

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Flash vs. Substance: Pop Psychology Gurus vs. Real Clinicians

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Gay Men and Coping with the Forms of Betrayal

46

Positive Masculinity for Gay Men in a Changing World

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The Success Principles for Gay Men: What We Can Learn from Jack Canfield

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White Lotus and Gay Men's Fantasies - The Teasing Taboo of Pop Culture

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The Healthcare Hustle: What Gay Men Need to Know

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Legal Essentials for Gay Men: Protecting Your Future

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When You Know You're Ugly: A Guide for Gay Men Coping with Physical Unattractiveness

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Gay Men and Therapy Support for a Legal Case

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Interview of Host Ken Howard, LCSW, CST on the History of Gay Men's Therapy and His Career

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Gay Executive Coaching and The Dark Side of Ambition: Navigating Toxic Competition in the Workplace

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Gay Men and the Lessons Learned from 'Wicked'

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Therapy, Coaching, Psychiatry, and Medicine - Let's Stop the Misinformation, Shall We?

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Gay Men and Trump 2.0 - Coping with Anxiety

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Gay Men as Caregivers for Aging Parents

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Special Bonus Episode: In Defense of Hate: Understanding the Modern American Conservative

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Gay Men and the Need for Attention: Healthy vs. Unhealthy Narcissism

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Managing Symptoms in Gay Men's Mental Health: A Path to Empowerment

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Netflix's "Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story" – Gay Psychotherapist on Healing for Gay Male Survivors of Sexual Trauma

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Gay Men Open Relationship Ground Rules: Who What When Where Why

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Support for Gay Men Leaving Religion: Reclaiming Your Identity with Secular Alternatives

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How to Survive Election Season 2024: Coping with Election Anxiety

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Episode 152: Gay Men and Internal Family Systems: The Different Parts of You

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Episode 151: Gay Men's Dating: What Your Dates Aren't Telling You

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Episode 150: Gay Men's Relationships: When You Want Kids and He Doesn't

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Episode 149: Confronting Religious Moralism in Therapy for Gay Men

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Episode 148: How to Get Your Financial Life Together: A Guide for Gay Men

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Episode 147: Gay Men and How to Recover from a Breakup

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Episode 146: Gay Men and Starting Your Own Business

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Episode 145: Gay Men and How to Be a Better Lover

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Episode 144: Gay Men and Wealth: Coping with Rewards and Challenges

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Episode 143: Seven Ways to Enhance a Gay Men's Relationship for Satisfaction and Longevity

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Episode 142: Gay Men and the Emotional Benefits of Kink Play

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Episode 141: Gay Men and Gender Role Enforcement Rage

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Episode 140: Gay Men, the Holiday Season, and the Five Senses

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Episode 139: Gay Men and Santa Daddy

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Episode 138: Gay Men and How To Reach Your Full Potential

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Episode 137: Gay Men and Spirituality: Reclaiming Your Rights

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Episode 136: What Is Daily Mental Health for Gay Men?

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Episode 135: Top 10 Reasons Gay Couples Break Up and How to Prevent Them

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Episode 134: The Gay Male Executive: Coaching for Success

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Episode 133: Gay Men, Dating Challenges, and How to Cope with Them

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Episode 132: Lessons for Gay Men from the 'On the Boulevard' Musical

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Episode 131: The Economics of Gay Male Relationships: Time, Energy, Money

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Episode 130: Gay Men and Knowing Your Sexual Self

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Episode 129: Correction Announcement for Audio File

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Episode 129: Gay Men and Superheroes as Role Models

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Episode 128: Gay Men and Moving On in Life After Trauma

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Episode 127: Balance and Reciprocity in Gay Men's Dating and Relationships

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Episode 126: Gay Men and Coping with Cheating

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Episode 15: How Can I Prevent My Gay Male Partner from Cheating? The Six Main Reasons and Their Fixes

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Episode 125: Gay Men, Activism, and Social Conscience

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Episode 124: Gay Men and Mixing Your Boyfriend with Your Friends

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Episode 123: Gay Men and the Function/Purpose of Casual Hookups

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Episode 122: Gay Men and Life Lessons We Can Learn from Actors

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Episode 121: Gay Men and When Our Mentors Have Flaws

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Episode 120: Gay Men and New Year, New Sex: Mind, Heart, Body

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Episode 119: Gay Men and Kink Sexual Health: Notes from the 2022 CLAW Conference

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Episode 118: Gay Men Who Have Given Up On Finding a Relationship

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Episode 117: Gay Men Overcoming Specific Traumas - PART TWO

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Episode 116: Gay Men Overcoming Specific Traumas - PART ONE

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Episode 115: Gay Men and Pets: Challenges and Rewards

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Episode 114: PART TWO - Gay Men's Dating Situations That Are "No-Go" – And Their Alternatives

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Episode 113: Gay Men's Dating Situations That Are "No-Go" – And Their Alternatives – PART ONE

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Episode 112: Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Monkey Pox

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Episode 111: Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life

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Episode 110: PART TWO: Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex

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Episode 109: Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex - An Overview (Part One)

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Episode 108: Gay Men, Pride Season, and Summer Lovin'

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Episode 107: Gay Men and Reconciling Your Religious Beliefs with Your Sexuality

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Episode 106: Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference

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Episode 105: Gay Men's Sexuality: Focus on the Five Senses for Better Functionality

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Episode 104: Gay Men and How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Dating

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Episode 103: Mental Health Aspects of Sexual Health for Gay Men

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Episode 102: Gay Male Relationships: What are the Boundaries Between Partners?

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Episode 101: Gay Men and Coping with 'Bad Luck'

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Episode 100: Gay Male Relationships and the ADD/OCD Syndrome

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Episode 99: Gay Men and Food: A Dynamic Relationship at Any Age

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Episode 98: The Greeks' Eight Types of Love as Applied to Gay Men

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Episode 97: A Secular Appreciation of Christmas for Gay Men

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Episode 96: Gay Men and When It's Time to Break Up a Relationship

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Episode 95: Coping with Sudden Crisis: A Personal Story

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Episode 94: Gay Men Who Live Together Too Early

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Episode 93: Gay Men and Consensual Non-Monogamy Early in Relationships

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Episode 92: Gay Men and How to Ruin a Friendship: Ten Tips

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Episode 91: Gay Men Coping with ED: The Emotional, Physical, and Interpersonal

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Episode 90: For a Job, For a Guy, For a Change: Gay Men and the Decision to Relocate

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Episode 89: Gay Men Using Apps: The Dilemma of Dating Versus Hookups

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Episode 88: The Needs of Gay Men in the Volatile "LGBT" Era

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Episode 87: Gay Men and Gym Crushes: Cherish Your Romantic Notions

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Episode 86: COVID's End as Trauma Recovery in Gay Men

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Episode 85: Healthy Relationships Don't Do That: A Guide for Gay Men's Dating and More

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Episode 84: Improving Gay Men's Relationships: Meeting Three Needs

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Episode 83: Three Ways to Improve Your Sex Life for Gay Men

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Episode 82: The Six Principles of Sexual Health As Applied to Gay Men

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Episode 81: How to Avoid a Gay Relationship Breakup - The Four Risks

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Episode 80: Revisiting Sex Addiction and Porn Addiction with Guest David Ley, Ph.D.

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Episode 79: Gay Men and Money Management: How to Empower Yourself

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Episode 78: Gay Men's Relationships: How to Deal with Your Ex

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Episode 77: Gay Therapist on Sexual Mental Health: The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, Others

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Episode 76: Gay Men's Goals: How Do You Define Success in the New Year?

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Episode 75: Gay Men's Relationship Vocabulary: Partner? Husband? Hookup?

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Episode 74: Gay Men's Dilemmas: Falling in Love with Straight or Unavailable Men

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Episode 73: Gay Relationships and the 'Sexual Thaw': Restoring Sex After a Long Stalemate

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Episode 72: Gay Men, COVID-19, and Avoiding the Pitfalls: Substances, Lethargy, and Despair

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Episode 71: Gay Male Couples and the Decision to Have Kids

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Episode 70: Gay Men and Sex During COVID-19

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Episode 69: Gay Men's Relationship Advice: How to Succeed in an Age-Difference Relationship

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Episode 68: Gay Men's Relationship Advice: How to Have a Successful Gay Long Distance Relationship

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Episode 67: Gay Men and the Need for Safe Spaces of Our Own

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Episode 66: The Mental Health Chapter from "Self-Empowerment: Have the Life You Want!" Book

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Episode 65: Two Tops, Two Bottoms: A Gay Men's Relationship Dilemma - Now What?

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Episode 64: Gay Men's Strengths: Making the Most of Your Culture

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Episode 63: Gay Men and Discipline: The Secret Weapon to Achieving Your Goals

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Episode 62: Gay Male Creative Professionals: Celebrating Success, Managing Challenges

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Episode 61: Must-Have Money Conversations for Every Gay Relationship

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Episode 60: Gay Men and Alcohol: The Relationship with the Bottle

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Episode 59: Why Nerds Make the Best Boyfriends for Gay Men

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Episode 58: Gay Men and the Big Five Personality Traits

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Episode 57: Gay Men Coping with Stress: Start at the Source

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Episode 56: Problem-Solving in Gay Men's Open Relationships

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Episode 55: Gay Men Making the Most of Your Past, Present, & Future

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Episode 54: Coping with COVID-19 for Gay Men: What Type Are You?

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Episode 53: Gay Men in Common Crisis Situations & Steps to Handle Them

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Episode 52: Why White Gay Men Should Support Black Lives Matter

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Episode 51: Gay Men Coping with Single Life: Tips and Tricks

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Episode 50: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and their Interventions

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Episode 49: The New COVID-19 Coping: Balancing "Toxic Positivity" with "Adaptive Coping"

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Episode 48: Gay Men's Mental Health During COVID-19: Next to Normal

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Episode 47: Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Working from Home

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Episode 46: Gay Men Conquering Anxiety with Probability

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Episode 45: How Gay Men Can Develop Resilience - Part 2 - Techniques

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Episode 44: How Gay Men Can Develop Resilience - Part 1 - Traits

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Episode 43: Gay Men and Coronavirus/COVID-19: A Special Kind of Coping

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Episode 42: Ten Ways Gay Men Can Handle Hard Conflict

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Episode 41: Gay Men's Dating Skills -Avoiding the Pitfalls of Cash, Connections, C--k

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Episode 40: Positive Thoughts for Fabulous Living at Every Age for Gay Men

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Episode 39: Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men

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Episode 38: Valentines Day for Single Gay Men: Coping with Hope

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Episode 37: Gay Men and the Serenity of Acceptance, Courage, Wisdom

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Episode 36: Avoiding Four Big Risks of Gay Relationship Breakup

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Episode 35: Gay Men's Birthdays, Self-Esteem, and The Meaning of Life

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Episode 34: Hotter Monogamy for Gay Men

187

Episode 33: The Golden Boys - Gay Men at Midlife

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Episode 32: Breaking the Ice - Gay Men Overcoming Shyness

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Episode 31: Beyond New Year's Resolutions: Making Real Life Changes

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Episode 30: A Secular Appreciation of Christmas for Gay Men

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Episode 29: The Gym/Fitness Connection in Gay Men's Mental Health

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Episode 28: Gay Men at Thanksgiving - Living in Gratitude

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Episode 27: Gay Men and Appearance Privilege

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Episode 26: Gay Men's Relationships - Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

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Episode 25: Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery - Meth Prevention for Gay Men

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Episode 24: Confronting Our Fears at Halloween

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Episode 23: How to Reach Your Goals: Approach/Avoidance

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Episode 22: Managing Jealousy in a Gay Male Relationship

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Episode 22: Managing Jealousy in a Gay Male Relationship

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Episode 21: Coping with the Breakup of a Friendship

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Episode 20: Best Predictors of Men's Well-Being

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Episode 19: Finding Mr. Right in Gay Men's Dating: The Six Lights Theory

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Episode 18: Gay Male Sexual Abuse, Incest, and Rape Survivors: Coping and Thriving

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Episode 17: Toxic Busy: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

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Episode 16: How Gay and Straight Relationships Differ in 10 Ways

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Episode 14: Advice for Young Gay Men - 12 Tips to Improve Your Life Now and Later

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Episode 13: The Role and Value of a F--- Buddy for Gay Men

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Episode 12: Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction: Cognitive Causes and Cures

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Episode 11: Conflict in Gay Relationships: My Partner Isn't Contributing Equally

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Episode 10: Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Topping

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Episode 9: Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Bottoming

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Episode 8: Gay Men and Ghosting: Why We Do It, How We Cope

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Episode 7 - Gay Men and Social Media with Matthew Allen APCC

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Episode 6 - Religious Abuse of Gay Men and Its Healing - Brandon Malde-Zoradi

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Episode 5: Why Gay Men Cheat and How to Prevent It

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Episode 4: Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help

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Episode 3 - Problem-Solving in Gay Men's Open Relationships

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Episode 2 - Gay Men and Gay Relationships 2.0 - Should I Go Back to My Ex?

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