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Intimate Covenant Podcast — 184 episodes
Song Of Songs (part 1) -- the Bible's semi-erotic playlist [183]
What Science Reveals About Lifelong Intimacy [182]
The Conflicts of Pursuit, Response & Rejection [181]
Marriage Retreat Live Q&A - keeping secrets; defining virginity; aging; and more... [180]
Q&A - creating a community for porn recovery; unity despite differing passions; and more...[179]
Darwin, Freud, & Holy Sex -- Unmasking the Roots of Sexual Taboo in Christianity, part 3 [178]
Medieval Sex -- Unmasking the Roots of Sexual Taboo in Christianity, part 2 [177]
It's Greek to Me! -- Unmasking the Roots of Sexual Taboo in Christianity, part 1 [176]
Spicing Up Your Sex Life [175]
Difficult Conversations [174]
Organic Sex [173]
Encore: What Do I Want From My Marriage? [172]
“Should I sacrifice my desire for sex?” ...and other live Q&A (171)
Your Questions, Our Answers (talking about sex, prioritizing beauty, sleeping naked, asking for touch) [170]
More PDA? -- Retreat Q&A pt 2 [169]
How does sex glorify God? Retreat Q&A [168]
Who Initiates? [167]
Have a Category-5 Sex Life: lessons from a hurricane [166]
When a Pursuer Stops Pursuing [165]
7 Shocking Results From Viral Relationship Tests [164]
Separate Bedrooms & Separate Bedtimes [163]
Lessons from China [162]
Q&A (low sexual desire; body shame; reluctant spouse…) [161]
Laughter & Tears [160]
Q&A Tampa -- Sex During Conflict [159]
Keeping Secrets from a Spouse [158]
Pursuer-Responder Shifting Roles [157]
Recovering from a Sexless Marriage [156]
New Year's Resolutions [155]
Daily Check-In [154]
Reigniting Passionless Sex [153]
Coping with Rejection [152]
Thanksgiving Q&A Leftovers (sex when upset, infertility, filming ourselves, and more...) [151]
Questions About Female Orgasm [150]
The Hymen & Other Misconceptions About Virginity [148]
Retreat Q&A (sexual frequency, embarrassed to try new things, and dealing with a distracted spouse) [148]
The Hard Work of Great Sex [147]
St. Louis Q&A: kingdom purpose; healing from betrayal; resetting your relationship [146]
Will It Fit? - concerns about sexual pain, especially with first-time intercourse
Q&A Seattle: spontaneous sex, increasing daily romance, afterglow, and more... [144]
Premarital Pornography Use [143]
Grieving Together [142]
Better Pursuit & Initiation [141]
My Wife Has No Sex Drive [140]
Leftovers [139]
How Does Sexual Shame Impact My Relationship? [138]
Asking for Orgasm [137]
Sex Toys - Do they belong in the marriage bed? [136]
Q&A Nashville - How to continue pursuing when I'm constantly rejected [135]
Interview with Justin Gerhardt [134]
Q&A Tampa: What if I married the wrong person? [133]
Am I taking too long to orgasm? Why does my husband need me to orgasm? [132]
Big Announcements & Listener Feedback [131]
Q&A: ideal sexual frequency, kids, rejection and pouting, wives' insecurities... [130]
Higher Drive Wives with guest, J. Parker [129]
Birth Control - specific methods [128]
Birth Control - What Does The Bible Say? [127]
State of the Covenant [126] -- encore
What Do I Want For My Marriage? [125] -- encore
Great Wedding Gifts [124]
Tips for a Great Honeymoon [123]
Premarital Advice
Sexy Gifts [121] -- encore
Keep Scrooge Out of Your Bedroom [120] -- encore
Better Sex Despite Conflicts [119]
Sexual Warning Signs [118]
The Fallacy of Foreplay [117]
Oral Sex, part 2 -- tips and techniques [116]
Oral Sex [115]
How do I get my spouse to ...? [114]
Live Q&A with J. Parker, part 2 (overcoming trauma, porn and sex toys) [113]
Q&A from the 2022 Annual Retreat [112]
Spontaneous vs. Responsive Sexual Desire -- ENCORE [111]
Accentuate the Five Senses [110]
What We Learned From Christian Singles [109]
Live Q&A (#trashnight; aging & hormones; afterglow; lost attraction; and more) [108]
Back to School Special - Growth vs. Fixed Mindset [107]
Essentials for a Great Quickie [106]
Say What You Mean [105]
Dressing Provocatively [104]
Reflections on our 25th Wedding Anniversary [103]
Teaching our Girls About "Modesty" [102]
Bounce Your Eyes - teaching men about dealing with lust [101]
Aging & Sex [100]
Praying During Sex [99]
Genital Hygiene & Grooming [98]
When Your Spouse Is OK With Settling [97]
Responders Learning To Initiate [96]
Talking to kids about masturbation [95]
Performance Anxiety [94]
Non-Sexual Touch [93]
Live Q&A: Dealing with mental distraction during sex... and much more [92]
Q&A - Sex and Spirituality [91]
Questions about the Sexual Pursuer/Responder dynamic [90]
Harnessing Fantasy [89]
Helping Her Orgasm [88]
All About Orgasm [87]
The Orgasm Gap [86]
Live Q&A (fantasy, talking to kids, love languages, wife's body insecurity...) [85]
Anal Sex [84]
More Purity Myths [83]
Sexual Purity Myths [82]
Another Mailbag Episode (handling rejection, finding a therapist, bible study, sensitive topics) [81]
Mailbag Q&A (scheduling sex, special needs child, church resistance, get-aways) [80]
Postpartum Sex & Intimacy [79]
Challenges of Sex During Pregnancy [78]
Is It OK To Have Sex During Her Period? [77]
Does My Spouse Owe Me Sex? (1 Corinthians 7:1-5) [76]
Choreplay [75]
State of the Covenant [74]
73: Live Q&A -- including overcoming physical limitations, lack of attraction, and strong opinions...
72: Live Q&A, part 1 -- including birth control, feeling undesired, and more...
71: Fighting Fair
70: Sexy Gift Giving
69: Sex Positions
68: Keep Scrooge Out of the Bedroom
67: New Moves
66: Encouraging Spiritual Leadership
65: How Do I Encourage My Husband To Be A Leader?
64: Eye Contact
63: Retreat Q&A, part 2 (hygiene, sex aversion, sexual trauma, striving w/o pressuring)
62: Retreat Q&A, part 1 (sex toys, Skype sex, pornography)
61: Common Barriers To Sex, part 3 (work, travel, separate bedtimes)
60: Common Barriers To Sex, part 2 (health, screens, humor)
59: Common Barriers To Sex, part 1 (kids)
58: Marriage Bed Mind-Reading
57: Flirting With Your Spouse
56: Your Bedroom Is Your Sex Room
55: Am I A Biblically Submissive Wife?
54: Am I The Head Of My Marriage?
53: Finding "Lover Girl"
52: Bring Your Whole Self To The Marriage Bed
51: A Betrayer's Role in Healing
50: Are We Normal?
49: Betrayal & Forgiveness
48: Great Sex Is Not Easy
47: Talking To Your Friends About Sex
46: Resource Recommendations
45: Using Masturbation To Deal With Sexual Desire Differences
44: Talking to Your Kids About Your Sexual Past
43: Our Story
42: Rewrite Your Sexual Script
41: Date Night: transitioning to the bedroom
40: Date Night: promoting conversation and connection
39: Date Night!
38: Why Am I Saying No? (shame, insecurity)
37: Why Am I Saying No? (disconnection, manipulation)
36: Why Doesn't My Wife Want To Have Sex With Me?
35: Sexual Desire Differences -- spontaneous vs. responsive desire
34: Discussing Your Sexual History With Your Spouse
33: Am I Being Punished For Having Premarital Sex?
32: That's Just Gross!
31: When Sex is Painful
30: Male Sexual Dysfunction
29: Mercy Sex vs. The Quickie
28: Exploring Fantasy, Arousal, Sex Furniture, and More!
27: What is the Intimate Covenant Annual Retreat?
26: Am I Expecting Too Little For My Marriage?
25: Am I Expecting Too Much For My Marriage?
24: What do I want from my marriage?
23: When your child gets married...
22: Self-criticism, a common barrier to sexual desire and pleasure
21: Honoring the Romance of Redemption
20: Merry Sexy Christmas
19: Got Lube?!?
18: Making Babies
17: Initiating Sex -- Who goes first?
16: Keep Scrooge Out of the Bedroom!
15: Develop Your Language of Lovemaking
14: When the Wife Has Higher Sexual Desire
13: Female Sexual Desire & Arousal
12: Why do I want sex? or not?
11: Dealing With Pornography in Your Marriage
10: What is Intimacy?
9: Question & Answer - excerpt from 2020 Marriage Retreat
8: How to talk about sex with your spouse.
7: What Does God Allow In the Bedroom?
6: Sexual Pursuers & Responders, part 2
5: Sexual Pursuers & Responders
4: Talking To Your Kids About Sex, part 2
3: Talking To Your Kids About Sex
2: Sexual Anatomy
1: What is Sex?
Episode 1a: Our Story