All Episodes
The Secure Husband — 164 episodes
You CAN Change Your Marriage (By Changing Yourself): Perception of Powerlessness Series
“I Have to Stay for the Kids” : Perception of Powerlessness Series
It Feels Like She Has All the Power (The Perception of Powerlessness)
P*rn, Masturbation, and the Dead Bedroom / Sexless Marriage — The Hidden Cycle That Keeps You Stuck
The Bold Move In My Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom
How Becoming Secure Transforms a Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom
“I Just Gave Up”… Why Accepting a Sexless Marriage (When You Don’t Truly Want It) Isn’t the Answer
Duty Sex / Pity Sex : Self Abandonment in a Dead Bedroom / Sexless Marriage
“Fine, I’ll Get It Somewhere Else” - In A Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom
You’re Not Powerless in a Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom
Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom: The Stories You Tell Yourself
Boundaries Around Your Self-Worth
When You Feel Taken for Granted — Boundaries That Restore Value in Your Marriage
Boundaries Around Emotional Withdrawal
When the Lines Get Crossed — Boundaries Around Sexual Integrity in Marriage
Respect Is Not Optional — Boundaries That Protect Dignity in Marriage
Holding Boundaries Around Criticism
Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom? Boundaries Are the Missing Piece
Why Boundaries Are Non-Negotiable (Podcast Series)
Rewire Your Nervous System: Passing It Through
Awareness Isn’t Enough: Why Insight Alone Won’t Change Your Nervous System
Boundaries Collapsing Under Pressure: Your Nervous System
When Despair Takes Over: The Nervous System, Hopelessness, and Giving Up
Your Nervous System Reacts to Moments — Not Patterns
Why Your Nervous System Stops You From Communicating Your Needs
How Your Nervous System Leads To Self-Abandonment
The Body Remembers — How Your Nervous System Learned Love
Does This Mean I Have to Divorce My Dismissive-Avoidant Wife?
Boundaries With A Dismissive-Avoidant Wife
Your Dismissive-Avoidant Wife Chooses Everything Over You
Why Your Dismissive-Avoidant Wife Is So Critical
Understanding The Dismissive Avoidant Wife
Unassisted: When You Stop Propping Up the Marriage and Finally See the Truth
Why You Pick An Emotionally Unavailable Partner: Imago Theory
So… Is This Hopeless? (Married To A Dismissive Avoidant Wife)
Getting Clarity: What Happens When You Step Back and Let the Relationship Speak
Responsive Desire vs. Dismissive Avoidant Reality
When You Stop Bridging the Gap and Realize Nothing Is Coming Toward You
My Anxiety or Her Avoidance?
It Looked Like a Failure… But It Was the First Time He Didn’t Abandon Himself.
You Think You’re Sharing Strength — But You’re Actually Leaking Neediness
Iron Sharpens Iron - Why Men Need Other Men In Their Life
Avoidant Wives Don’t Change Until This Happens… (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
Repetition Compulsion: Why Wounded Partners Choose Each Other (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
Oversharing to Prove Your Growth? (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
10 Traits of Avoidant Attachment Wives (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
Anxious Attachment & Self-Worth (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
Be Emotionally Safe For Her Without Becoming Smaller For Her (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
Sex: The Battle of Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
10 Ways You Accidentally Push an Avoidant Wife Further Away (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
Anxious Attachment - 10 Truths (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)
When Neediness Destroys Attraction
When Sex Becomes About Control, Not Connection
When You Feel Retaliated Against After Couples Counseling
My Needs Feel Like a Burden to My Wife
How Do I Break Generational Patterns?
How Can I Stop Overthinking Every Little Thing?
How Do I Stop Worrying About What Everyone Else Thinks?
How Do I Know If I'm Abandoning Myself in Marriage?
Why Does My Wife Shut Down When I Share My Feelings?
Can I Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage?
Why Do I Self-Sabotage Right Before Success?
What Does It Really Mean If My Wife Never Wants Intimacy?
How Do I Stop Resenting My Wife For No Sex?
Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck
Am I In A Toxic Relationship?
Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk
Am I Sacrificing Authenticity for Attachment?
Financial Stress Is Affecting My Marriage
How Do I Stop Questioning if I Am Man Enough?
Why Do I Always Second-Guess Myself?
I Feel Broken In My Marriage
My Wife Doesn't Understand Me - What Now?
I Had No idea I Struggled With Self-Worth
Don't Make Your Wife Your Therapist
Real Change Requires Action, Not Just Information
Stop Doing Things In Secret (Practicing Integrity)
Stop Beating Yourself Up
Practice Gratitude as A Pathway To Strength and Healing
Letting People Help You (A Response to the Previous Podcast About Asking for Help)
Reaching Out For Help Is Not Weakness
It's OK To Say No
Speak Up For Your Needs
Action Leads To Courage
Being Present In Your Marriage
Healing in A Sexless Marriage
Understanding False Core Beliefs and Where They Come From
Men Need Connection Too
When She Has Time for Her Phone, But Not for You
Not Every Healing Journey Has A Fairy Tale Ending
Do You Struggle With Male Friendships?
Healing For The Right Reasons
How Do I Know When I’m Healed?
Wounded Men Are Extremely Loyal — To a Fault
You Are Worthy of Affection
When Your Wife Withholds Sex As Punishment
Healing While In The Midst of Rejection In Your Marriage
You Always Have Two Wounded People In A Dysfunctional Marriage
No Marriage Is Perfect (It's A System)
She Won't Have Sex With Her Husband She Can't Emotionally Trust
You Must Heal the Relationship With Yourself Before You Can Heal the Marriage
The Need For Connection Versus Neediness
You Can't Avoid Your Feelings - Lead Through Them
I Had A Good Childhood, So Why Am I Struggling?
The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic
Why It's Hard To Communicate Your Needs
More About Hidden Resistance That’s Blocking Your Healing
Is Hidden Resistance Keeping You Stuck?
Are You Frustrated With The Progress?
No One Is Coming to Save You — And That’s a Good Thing
Healing Takes Courage: Feel The Fear And Lead Anyway
Settling Isn’t Love — It’s Low Self-Worth
Step Six: Did It Change Anything? — Evaluating Your Loving Action
Step Five: Taking Loving Action — The Courage to Live What You’ve Learned
Step Four: Truth — Connecting with Divine Guidance to Heal False Core Beliefs
Step Three: Healing the Wounded Inner Child
Step Two: Choosing To Act – From Awareness To Intention
The First Step to Becoming Secure — Step One: Choosing Curiosity Over Control
How Secure Husbands Handle Disrespect
Self-Sacrifice Is Not Love: Why People-Pleasing Destroys Your Marriage
Stop Trying to Control the Uncontrollable in Your Marriage
I Married the First Woman Who Gave Me Attention
Preoccupied-Avoidant Attraction: Why You Were Drawn to Her and She To You
Do Secure Husbands Stay With Avoidant Attachment Wives?
What If I Do All This Work...And Nothing Changes?
Expectations and Her Responsive Desire
Never Threaten Open Marriage To Guilt Her Into Sex
Handling Starfish Sex in The Moment
Stop Escaping Into Fantasy and Start Healing Your Reality
Jealousy: Is This Real or Just Insecurity?
Why She Isn't Into Sex As Much As You Are.
The Problem With Giving To Get: Unspoken Deals That Are Ruining Your Marriage
Stop Guilt-Tripping Her About Sex — It’s Not Bringing Her Closer
Self Love is Not Selfish Nor Narcissistic
Different Woman, Same Wounds: Why the Next Relationship Will Hurt Too (Unless You Heal)
You May Be Able to Live Without Affection, But I Can't
Yes, You're Each 100% Responsible for Your Own Happiness — But You Still Influence Hers
Understanding Your Wife's Desire: Why It Changed
If I Stop Chasing Her, Am I Giving Up on Sex and Affection?
It’s Not Love — It’s Neediness
Why You Feel Lonely in Your Marriage (And What It’s Really About)
How Do I Reconnect With My Wife Without Chasing?
Your Wife Cannot Be Your God: Why You Need a Higher Power to Heal and Lead
Stop Having 'The Talk': Why Begging for Sex Is Backfiring — and What to Do Instead
Your Wife Says She's Done With The Marriage - What Do You Do?
She Hasn’t Initiated Sex in 10 Years — Now What?
Build a Life, Not a Pedestal: Why Your Wife Should Be a Bonus, Not the Foundation
Why Your Marriage Feels So Hard — Even When You’re Doing Everything Right
When You're Stuck In Your Marriage: Do I Stay? Do I Leave?
You're Not Weak, You're Wounded | Why Some Men Don't Understand
Boundaries: Stop Accepting The Unacceptable
You Can't Fix Your Wife | Real Change Starts With You
Are You Stuck In Victim Thinking?
Sex Is Not A Measure Of Your Worth In A Marriage
The Spiritual Foundation of The Secure Husband: How to Heal Rejection & Find Unshakable Self-Worth
What Is The Secure Husband Process? | How To Heal Yourself & Lead Your Marriage
Thriving In A Marriage With An Avoidant Attachment Wife
How To Stop Fearing Your Wife
Is This Why My Wife Doesn't Want To Have Sex With Me? | Preoccupied Attachment
What You Think Will Save Your Marriage is The Same Thing Pushing Her Away | Preoccupied Attachment.
Are You Abandoning Your Inner Child in Marriage?
She Says She Doesn't Want To Go To Couples Counseling. Now What?
How Do I Overcome Past Emotional Reactions?
What If Saving Your Marriage Has Nothing To Do With Your Wife?