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The Secure Husband — 188 episodes

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1

Ending The Marriage Must Be An Option On The Table (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series)

2

Roommates With Wedding Rings (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series)

3

Secure Communication vs. Fake Confidence and Begging (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series)

4

Stop Becoming Small In Your Marriage (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series)

5

The Slow Fade (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series)

6

Married...But Emotionally Alone (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series)

7

"I Never Want Sex Again. Deal With It" (Sex and The Dismissive Avoidant Wife Podcast Series)

8

Can a Dismissive Avoidant Wife Become More Sexual Toward Me? (Sex and the Dismissive Wife Podcast Series)

9

She's Still Sexual...Just Not With Me. (Sex and the Dismissive Wife Podcast Series)

10

Low Libido or Dismissive Avoidant Attachment? (Sex and the Dismissive Wife Podcast Series)

11

"All You Think About Is Sex" (Sex and The Dismissive Avoidant Wife Podcast Series)

12

Healthy Initiation vs. Hidden Games (Sex and the Dismissive Wife Podcast Series)

13

Why She Can Love You and Still Rarely Initiate Sex (Sex and the Dismissive Avoidant Podcast Series)

14

Why Sex Feels Different to the Dismissive Avoidant Wife (Podcast Series)

15

Codependency and Boundaries: Why Boundaries Feel So Wrong (Codependency Podcast Series)

16

The Hidden Resentment of Codependency (Codependency Podcast Series)

17

Why Dismissive-Avoidants Get So Triggered by Codependent Behavior (Codependency Podcast Series)

18

The Two-Headed Monster: Anxiety and Codependency in Marriage (Codependency Podcast Series)

19

Codependency and the Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom (Codependency Podcast Series)

20

Why Codependency Hurts So Much (Codependency Podcast Series)

21

I’m Only Okay If You’re Okay (Codependency Podcast Series)

22

Stop Going to Dead Bedroom Forums — They Are Keeping You Stuck (Perception of Powerlessness Series)

23

You WERE Powerless Once — Why It Got Stuck in Your Body (Perception of Powerlessness Series)

24

Why We Stay In Toxic Relationship (Perception of Powerlessness Series)

25

You CAN Change Your Marriage By Changing Yourself (Perception of Powerlessness Series)

26

“I Have to Stay for the Kids” (Perception of Powerlessness Series)

27

It Feels Like She Has All the Power (The Perception of Powerlessness)

28

P*rn, Masturbation, and the Dead Bedroom / Sexless Marriage — The Hidden Cycle That Keeps You Stuck

29

The Bold Move In My Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom

30

How Becoming Secure Transforms a Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom

31

“I Just Gave Up”… Why Accepting a Sexless Marriage (When You Don’t Truly Want It) Isn’t the Answer

32

Duty Sex / Pity Sex : Self Abandonment in a Dead Bedroom / Sexless Marriage

33

“Fine, I’ll Get It Somewhere Else” - In A Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom

34

You’re Not Powerless in a Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom

35

Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom: The Stories You Tell Yourself

36

Boundaries Around Your Self-Worth

37

When You Feel Taken for Granted — Boundaries That Restore Value in Your Marriage

38

Boundaries Around Emotional Withdrawal

39

When the Lines Get Crossed — Boundaries Around Sexual Integrity in Marriage

40

Respect Is Not Optional — Boundaries That Protect Dignity in Marriage

41

Holding Boundaries Around Criticism

42

Sexless Marriage / Dead Bedroom? Boundaries Are the Missing Piece

43

Why Boundaries Are Non-Negotiable (Podcast Series)

44

Rewire Your Nervous System: Passing It Through

45

Awareness Isn’t Enough: Why Insight Alone Won’t Change Your Nervous System

46

Boundaries Collapsing Under Pressure: Your Nervous System

47

When Despair Takes Over: The Nervous System, Hopelessness, and Giving Up

48

Your Nervous System Reacts to Moments — Not Patterns

49

Why Your Nervous System Stops You From Communicating Your Needs

50

How Your Nervous System Leads To Self-Abandonment

51

The Body Remembers — How Your Nervous System Learned Love

52

Does This Mean I Have to Divorce My Dismissive-Avoidant Wife?

53

Boundaries With A Dismissive-Avoidant Wife

54

Your Dismissive-Avoidant Wife Chooses Everything Over You

55

Why Your Dismissive-Avoidant Wife Is So Critical

56

Understanding The Dismissive Avoidant Wife

57

Unassisted: When You Stop Propping Up the Marriage and Finally See the Truth

58

Why You Pick An Emotionally Unavailable Partner: Imago Theory

59

So… Is This Hopeless? (Married To A Dismissive Avoidant Wife)

60

Getting Clarity: What Happens When You Step Back and Let the Relationship Speak

61

Responsive Desire vs. Dismissive Avoidant Reality

62

When You Stop Bridging the Gap and Realize Nothing Is Coming Toward You

63

My Anxiety or Her Avoidance?

64

It Looked Like a Failure… But It Was the First Time He Didn’t Abandon Himself.

65

You Think You’re Sharing Strength — But You’re Actually Leaking Neediness

66

Iron Sharpens Iron - Why Men Need Other Men In Their Life

67

Avoidant Wives Don’t Change Until This Happens… (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

68

Repetition Compulsion: Why Wounded Partners Choose Each Other (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

69

Oversharing to Prove Your Growth? (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

70

10 Traits of Avoidant Attachment Wives (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

71

Anxious Attachment & Self-Worth (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

72

Be Emotionally Safe For Her Without Becoming Smaller For Her (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

73

Sex: The Battle of Anxious vs Avoidant Attachment (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

74

10 Ways You Accidentally Push an Avoidant Wife Further Away (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

75

Anxious Attachment - 10 Truths (Attachment Styles Podcast Series)

76

When Neediness Destroys Attraction

77

When Sex Becomes About Control, Not Connection

78

When You Feel Retaliated Against After Couples Counseling

79

My Needs Feel Like a Burden to My Wife

80

How Do I Break Generational Patterns?

81

How Can I Stop Overthinking Every Little Thing?

82

How Do I Stop Worrying About What Everyone Else Thinks?

83

How Do I Know If I'm Abandoning Myself in Marriage?

84

Why Does My Wife Shut Down When I Share My Feelings?

85

Can I Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage?

86

Why Do I Self-Sabotage Right Before Success?

87

What Does It Really Mean If My Wife Never Wants Intimacy?

88

How Do I Stop Resenting My Wife For No Sex?

89

Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck

90

Am I In A Toxic Relationship?

91

Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk

92

Am I Sacrificing Authenticity for Attachment?

93

Financial Stress Is Affecting My Marriage

94

How Do I Stop Questioning if I Am Man Enough?

95

Why Do I Always Second-Guess Myself?

96

I Feel Broken In My Marriage

97

My Wife Doesn't Understand Me - What Now?

98

I Had No idea I Struggled With Self-Worth

99

Don't Make Your Wife Your Therapist

100

Real Change Requires Action, Not Just Information

101

Stop Doing Things In Secret (Practicing Integrity)

102

Stop Beating Yourself Up

103

Practice Gratitude as A Pathway To Strength and Healing

104

Letting People Help You (A Response to the Previous Podcast About Asking for Help)

105

Reaching Out For Help Is Not Weakness

106

It's OK To Say No

107

Speak Up For Your Needs

108

Action Leads To Courage

109

Being Present In Your Marriage

110

Healing in A Sexless Marriage

111

Understanding False Core Beliefs and Where They Come From

112

Men Need Connection Too

113

When She Has Time for Her Phone, But Not for You

114

Not Every Healing Journey Has A Fairy Tale Ending

115

Do You Struggle With Male Friendships?

116

Healing For The Right Reasons

117

How Do I Know When I’m Healed?

118

Wounded Men Are Extremely Loyal — To a Fault

119

You Are Worthy of Affection

120

When Your Wife Withholds Sex As Punishment

121

Healing While In The Midst of Rejection In Your Marriage

122

You Always Have Two Wounded People In A Dysfunctional Marriage

123

No Marriage Is Perfect (It's A System)

124

She Won't Have Sex With Her Husband She Can't Emotionally Trust

125

You Must Heal the Relationship With Yourself Before You Can Heal the Marriage

126

The Need For Connection Versus Neediness

127

You Can't Avoid Your Feelings - Lead Through Them

128

I Had A Good Childhood, So Why Am I Struggling?

129

The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic

130

Why It's Hard To Communicate Your Needs

131

More About Hidden Resistance That’s Blocking Your Healing

132

Is Hidden Resistance Keeping You Stuck?

133

Are You Frustrated With The Progress?

134

No One Is Coming to Save You — And That’s a Good Thing

135

Healing Takes Courage: Feel The Fear And Lead Anyway

136

Settling Isn’t Love — It’s Low Self-Worth

137

Step Six: Did It Change Anything? — Evaluating Your Loving Action

138

Step Five: Taking Loving Action — The Courage to Live What You’ve Learned

139

Step Four: Truth — Connecting with Divine Guidance to Heal False Core Beliefs

140

Step Three: Healing the Wounded Inner Child

141

Step Two: Choosing To Act – From Awareness To Intention

142

The First Step to Becoming Secure — Step One: Choosing Curiosity Over Control

143

How Secure Husbands Handle Disrespect

144

Self-Sacrifice Is Not Love: Why People-Pleasing Destroys Your Marriage

145

Stop Trying to Control the Uncontrollable in Your Marriage

146

I Married the First Woman Who Gave Me Attention

147

Preoccupied-Avoidant Attraction: Why You Were Drawn to Her and She To You

148

Do Secure Husbands Stay With Avoidant Attachment Wives?

149

What If I Do All This Work...And Nothing Changes?

150

Expectations and Her Responsive Desire

151

Never Threaten Open Marriage To Guilt Her Into Sex

152

Handling Starfish Sex in The Moment

153

Stop Escaping Into Fantasy and Start Healing Your Reality

154

Jealousy: Is This Real or Just Insecurity?

155

Why She Isn't Into Sex As Much As You Are.

156

The Problem With Giving To Get: Unspoken Deals That Are Ruining Your Marriage

157

Stop Guilt-Tripping Her About Sex — It’s Not Bringing Her Closer

158

Self Love is Not Selfish Nor Narcissistic

159

Different Woman, Same Wounds: Why the Next Relationship Will Hurt Too (Unless You Heal)

160

You May Be Able to Live Without Affection, But I Can't

161

Yes, You're Each 100% Responsible for Your Own Happiness — But You Still Influence Hers

162

Understanding Your Wife's Desire: Why It Changed

163

If I Stop Chasing Her, Am I Giving Up on Sex and Affection?

164

It’s Not Love — It’s Neediness

165

Why You Feel Lonely in Your Marriage (And What It’s Really About)

166

How Do I Reconnect With My Wife Without Chasing?

167

Your Wife Cannot Be Your God: Why You Need a Higher Power to Heal and Lead

168

Stop Having 'The Talk': Why Begging for Sex Is Backfiring — and What to Do Instead

169

Your Wife Says She's Done With The Marriage - What Do You Do?

170

She Hasn’t Initiated Sex in 10 Years — Now What?

171

Build a Life, Not a Pedestal: Why Your Wife Should Be a Bonus, Not the Foundation

172

Why Your Marriage Feels So Hard — Even When You’re Doing Everything Right

173

When You're Stuck In Your Marriage: Do I Stay? Do I Leave?

174

You're Not Weak, You're Wounded | Why Some Men Don't Understand

175

Boundaries: Stop Accepting The Unacceptable

176

You Can't Fix Your Wife | Real Change Starts With You

177

Are You Stuck In Victim Thinking?

178

Sex Is Not A Measure Of Your Worth In A Marriage

179

The Spiritual Foundation of The Secure Husband: How to Heal Rejection & Find Unshakable Self-Worth

180

What Is The Secure Husband Process? | How To Heal Yourself & Lead Your Marriage

181

Thriving In A Marriage With An Avoidant Attachment Wife

182

How To Stop Fearing Your Wife

183

Is This Why My Wife Doesn't Want To Have Sex With Me? | Preoccupied Attachment

184

What You Think Will Save Your Marriage is The Same Thing Pushing Her Away | Preoccupied Attachment.

185

Are You Abandoning Your Inner Child in Marriage?

186

She Says She Doesn't Want To Go To Couples Counseling. Now What?

187

How Do I Overcome Past Emotional Reactions?

188

What If Saving Your Marriage Has Nothing To Do With Your Wife?