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Anonymous has been in an on and off relationship with her high school sweetheart for about 7 years now and they are currently separated. They’ve broken up for various reasons over the years, mostly because he keeps cheating on her with the same woman.  Anonymous and this guy live quite far from each other now, and every time she’s away from their home town (for school) he seems to be with this other woman.  She just wants to know if he really loves her or just likes having her around. 

Anonymous met her current partner while she was in varsity, while he was already working and had an established career.  When she was younger she was more interested in building her career in her twenties and then maybe building a family in her early thirties. However, her partner was really keen to get married and have children, something she wasn’t really keen for this early in her life but he was taking care of her and was really serious about her which she feels made her more open to the idea of settling down and building a family.  They now have an 8 month-old baby but he’s changed his tune and is no longer supporting her and their baby in the way he used to. 

Anonymous has been with a man she’s “in love” with for about three years now, and they are both in their 50s.  The relationship is going amazing, however, she has never been to his place and he always comes to his place. She has never met his family either and he never wants to go on extended vacations either. She brought this up and he said she must give him time to figure things out in his life. She’s wondering if she’s the only women in his life. 

Anonymous has been with his partner and the mother of his children for about 16 years now.  Things were generally fine between them until they had their first child in 2017, and says there was a rift between them and their families. They were able to get through all of that and even had their second child in 2021.  In 2023 he caught her cheating when he saw her kissing another man. She initially denied this but they ended up breaking up.  He moved out of their home and went back to his family home. Things fell apart in both their lives and he invited her to come stay at this family home with their children. 

Anonymous met a lady back in 2018 and things moved quickly between them, as they even moved in together after only a month of dating.  He cheated on her at some point in the relationship but they were able to get past this. After she moved to another city her attitude towards him changed, even when she moved back she was just not the same person any more and was very distant.  She broke things off with him last year and they went their separate ways. Months later she called him and they are now back together but things are a bit dry between them. 

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years now and they’ve known each other for about 10 years.  She says he’s a great partner and does most things in their relationship right however, the problem they have is social media.  He follows a lot of “baddies” and is always liking pictures of half naked women who are posing provocatively. She notes that it’s also women that look nothing like her, which leaves her wondering if that’s what he actually prefers.  She’s confronted him about this behaviour and while he’s said he would change, he hasn’t. A week ago she tried to make him account for this but he got upset and they haven’t spoken since.

Anonymous and her partner, guy no.1, have been together for about 11 years now.  She says they met at church and when they started dating she didn’t realise that he was dating other women in their church. This complicated things between them and she ended up breaking things off with him and started dating guy no.2, who was dating her guy no.1’s side-girl.  She fell pregnant with guy no.2’s child but things didn’t workout there and guy no.1 wanted her back despite the fact that she was pregnant with another men’s child.  He took her in with her three children, including children from her previous marriage and the child she has with guy no.2.  She says their relationship is now fine but he doesn’t seem to get along with her first born daughter.

Anonymous found out last year that her longterm partner had been having an affair with another woman for many years while they were together.  She broke up with him at that point but after months of separation he came back and persuaded her to get back together with him.  Their relationship has been great since getting back together, however, about a week ago, she found out that he’s still in contact with the lady that led to their breakup…

Anonymous started dating a guy in 2017 and their relationship was ok for the most part in the beginning stages. Years later she fell pregnant and says during this time she lost interest in her partner and didn’t even want him to touch her. She believes this behaviour drove him into the arms of another woman and he also ended up impregnating her.  She found out about this, they worked through it and continued with their relationship, however, he can’t seem to let this other woman go.  Anonymous feels like she’s cast a spell on him as he’s changed a lot since being with her, and is not only neglecting their relationship, but he’s also neglecting his career and life in general.

Anonymous is in her early thirties and has been dating her current partner for about 8 months now. She says this partner fits the description of the person a prophet once told her she would meet one day At some point in their relationship she found evidence that he had someone else, and he confessed to this after she confronted him about it.  She tried to break-up with him after this revelation but she went back to consult the same prophet who told her she can’t leave him as he is the one for her.

Anonymous cheated on his partner two years into their relationship back in 2014. They went through therapy following this incident but the process led to him finding out that she had cheated on him as well.  They moved on with their relationship but he says she continued to bring up his cheating and their relationship broke down, when he took ill, they separated.  Things were fine between them during the separation and they would even get intimate during this time.  They got back together after the completion of his new house, but he says they live separate lives in the same house. To the public it seems they have the perfect relationship but nothing is happening at home, even sexually.

Anonymous says her relationship is generally fine but their sex life is problematic. She says she’s the one who always initiates, but he often rejects her advances towards him. This has been a problem for years in their relationship and she's not sure how to live with his lack of sexual interest. 

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The gents are giving advice of a different kind in this instalment of Ask a Man. They have attended so many METRO FM Music Awards over the years and so between the two of them, they know the dos and don’ts of the MMAs, over the next two days they’ll be sharing their 10 ultimate rules for the MMAs.

Anonymous lost her husband in 2018, she then dated someone new, but they also passed away in 2025.  Following the passing of her second husband, she found out that he had been unfaithful towards her and had a side. These experiences have affected her perspective on love and relationships, as she wonders whether she’s meant to be in a relationship.

Anonymous has been with her partner for a while now and says their relationship is generally great and he’s a good partner to her.  The problem she has with him is his lack of good personal hygiene, as she says he doesn’t take regular baths, everything smells and he doesn’t even take care of his living environment.

Anonymous is pregnant and she recently found the mother of her partner’s child at his house and was left confused by this situation.  She says they were naked when she arrived in the morning but they were in between taking baths. She confronted him about this but he claimed that it’s the mother of his child, she’s in town because their child is sick and she needed a place to sleep…

Anonymous is in his early 50s and has been married to his wife for 20 years now.  He has been diagnosed with a disease that causes acid refluxes that lead to him choking in his sleep. He spoke to his wife about what to do if this happens while their sleeping but he says there was an instance in which it occurred, however, as he choked, she just looked at him and didn’t assist him. He also feels like she’s not interested in being intimate with him, as he’s the one who’s always initiating while she never does.  He recently fell illl….

Anonymous and his partner recently  separated after facing some issues in their relationship. His partner is now back in his life and they are now back together.  The issues that led to the break down of their relationship don’t seem to have been resolved and they keep getting back to into the same conflicts and arguments.  Anonymous says they’ve gone through a lot together and he wants to work on this relationship but he is now wondering if there is a way forward. 

Anonymous was previously married for 6 years despite the fact his wife had cheated on him early on in their marriage. He tried to move on but he eventually retaliated and also cheated on his wife.  Their relationship broke down and after his wife cheated on him the second time, they got divorced.  He has since tried to move on, but has struggled to stay in relationships with the other women he’s been with since getting divorced.  He’s not sure if he’s trying to move on too soon or if he’ll ever be able to build a long lasting healthy relationship. 

Anonymous dated a guy back in 2023 for about four months before their relationship ended. They rekindled things last year but it seems his past is haunting their relationship.  He is insecure and never seems to believe that she has good intentions in their relationship, and this has led to them having several altercations…

Anonymous is/was in a long distance relationship with her partner.  She doesn’t have a huge appetite and eats small portions. While she was recently visiting her partner they got into an argument because of her eating patterns, with him saying that her breath smells bad as result of her not eating enough.  He then said he can’t live with the odour of her breath, she left his place, tried reaching out later to speak to him about this but he doesn’t seem interested in discussing the matter further. 

Anonymous met his partner when he was going through a low moment in his life, he says she was very supportive of him and helping him out financially. He’s going through a lot mentally and as a result, he’s struggling to be a good partner to his girlfriend. He loves her a lot but finds himself spiralling and thinks he needs a break to find his bearings . 

Anonymous and his wife have been together for about 22 years, and have been married for about 13 years now.  He feels like his partner is “self righteous”, doesn’t give him an ear and always thinks she’s right in any conflict they have in their relationship. He also feels like she doesn’t give him space to express his emotions.  They are always arguing and their conflicts have gone out of hand, even happening in front of their kids.  He’s exhausted of this toxic relationship and environment they now find themselves in.

Anonymous and his wife have been married for about 18 years now and they have three children together.  Along the way, he cheated on his partner about three times and he was caught each time. His wife then cheated on him in retaliation. Things got messy and about 5 years ago she left their married home with their children, but after two months away, she returned back to their home and they got back together. Things have been ok for the last five years but they are struggling to rebuild trust in their relationship. 

Anonymous met a lady at her local clinic as a client, they spent a lot of time together and says she now finds her self having strong feelings for this lady.  She wants to share her feelings with the lady, but there are some complications…  

Anonymous started dating his partner a year ago, and says they both came into the relationship carrying a lot of relationship trauma and this led to them being paranoid and even spying on each other.  He loves his partner a lot but says his partner is struggling to trust him. He’s never cheated on her but says when they were going through some challenges in their relationship, she found an Instagram DM in which anonymous was asking for another lady’s number.  They separated after this incident but ended up getting back together. He says things haven’t been the same ever since, as she’s constantly scanning his phone and bringing up things from the past, despite what he describes as a change in his behaviour. 

Anonymous called us in September last year  as he was caught between is main partner and his side, and couldn’t decide which one to forward with.  After he called us last year he decided to continue with his long-term partner and they got married.  Everything was fine until his ex-side girl reached out to him. They met, but now the side says she wants nothing to do with him. He says he was over her but after seeing her last week, all the feelings are now back.

Anonymous met a guy early in 2025 and after a lengthy talking stage, they started dating in March last year. Everything was going well in the relationship, but three months in,  she got a call from a woman who claimed to be this man’s wife and despite his initial denials, this was confirmed.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about four years now and says things have been going relatively well between them.  She recently had a minor car accident and the doctors advised that she might experience some changes in her period as a result of the impact of the accident.  A week after the accident her and her partner had sex but shortly after this he accused her of cheating on him, saying that her sex with her felt different and her vagina had a different smell to what he’s used to.

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 8 years now and they have two children together.  Things got tricky in their relationship and they broke things off. She moved on into a new relationship after she realised that the father of her children had already moved on.  The new partner is amazing and she feels like he ticks all the boxes. However, her long-term partner has now come back into her life, he proposed marriage to her and she has accepted.  She doesn’t know which guy to move forward with. 

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about three years. And says things were fine until he moved to another province because of work.  His partner seems to have developed a drinking problem and she is now drinking on a daily basis. He has confronted her about this, but she’s blamed her drinking on the fact that he’s now in a different province.  He doesn’t know how to deal with this especially because she’s currently breastfeeding their infant child.

Anonymous started dating her partner late last year after having a crush on her for many years.  After they decided to start dating, her partner revealed that she has a child, something anonymous wasn’t really comfortable with.  Despite this, they continued with their relationship but anonymous says her partner’s child is unruly and she doesn’t know how to deal with this as she feels like her partner is not teaching her child the right behaviour.

Anonymous met a guy late last year and they got involved in a casual relationship with each other despite the fact that they were each in relationships with other people.  Things got a bit more serious between her and this guy, while things ended between her and her partner.  She’s now pregnant with his child but says he’s ill treating her and not giving her the attention she deserves. 

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 6 years now and they have a child together.  They broke things off last year after he saw another guy post pictures of their son on Tik Tok, as though he was his own.  They eventually made up, however, he says she’s entertaining “17 guys” from her workplace. He doesn’t know how to deal with her behaviour towards his colleagues.

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 10 years but she says he has been unfaithful from early on in their relationship and has fathered multiple children while they’ve been together.  At some point she did leave him for his behaviour but she was persuaded by her family to take him back and he bought her a car as a symbol of his remorse.  About a year ago she met another man and she has been having an affair with this man, who she says has been lovely to her. She’s wondering if she should leave her marriage for this new guy. 

Anonymous called us last year and told us that he was secretly dating his best friend’s younger brother, and didn’t know whether he should tell his friend.  In any case, the brother found out, broke off their friendship, and the family kicked the little brother out of the house because he wanted to continue dating anonymous.  Months went by and while he was at a party in another city he ran into his ex friend and partner’s brother, they reconciled, ended up partying together, and shared a bed, at which point they had a sexual engagement.

Anonymous is a widow, and after grieving her late husband she met someone else and she’s now in a relationship with. He came into their relationship with two children, she had one child, and they now have two children together.  Her problem is how her husband seems to be going out of his way to give the mother of his children money. She says he claims the money is for the children but she’s struggling to believe him and thinks there might be something untoward happening between him and the mother of his other children. 

Anonymous has been dating a married for about two years and says their side relationship was going well and the man was also taking care of her and her child financially.  Late last year, she met a single man, they hit it off and started dating. She broke up with the married man, he got upset at her and now wants her to pay him back all the money he spent on her. 

Anonymous is a foreign national and says that actually caused issues in his relationship when he wanted to marry his South African partner, as her family were xenophobic towards him.  They eventually got married, and had a child together. After getting a new job, he met a lady at the workplace who he got involved with and even sponsored her life. 

Anonymous has been with his partner for over 6 years now and says their relationship was really great in the beginning despite facing challenges of being a same-sex couple. They also faced financial challenges as his partner was still in school when they started dating, he even ended up moving in with anonymous during the COVID pandemic….

Anonymous has been with his partner for five years. He supported her financially as she was unemployed when they met.  She eventually found a job in another province and moved there. He then lost his job and decided to move in with her but when he got there he realised she was cheating on him.  He forgave her and they moved on but she continued to cheat on him. He wants to leave her, but he’s financially reliant on her and he’s not sure if he can break things off with her. 

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 19 years and married for 17 of those years.  Her husband cheated on her twice with the same woman from work, and he wasn’t very remorseful at the time, but they eventually reconciled due to his change in attitude and behaviour.  He then moved to another company, however, that lady now also works at that same company and this is giving her a lot of anxiety, as she wonders if he’s still in a relationship with that other woman.

Anonymous has been married for 5 years to his current wife, they have one child together and he has one other child he had many years ago. Yesterday he found out that he has a 16-year-old daughter he didn’t know about.  He revealed this to his wife and she’s upset about this development, to a point of wanting to break up. Anonymous is confused by her behaviour and adds that his wife has been unfaithful multiple times in the past. 

Anonymous has been married for about three years now but she’s not happy in this marriage. She’s attempted to leave, but didn’t go through with it.  She’s been feeling this way since she caught him cheating on her. They moved on from this infidelity but she feels like he’s probably going to cheat again based on how terribly he treats her now.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for almost 9 years now.  She says in the early years of their relationship she ended up getting a loan for him to be able to purchase a car, on his request. He had said he’d pay it off, but he had financial struggles and she needed up paying off the loan.  They eventually got married and decided to get a house together but he didn’t qualify for a mortgage so she ended up getting the house under her name. They are married in community of property…