Cancer, Chemo & Currywurst

The episode delves into the emotional and psychological impact of the question 'why me?' in the context of cancer diagnosis and treatment. It explores the guilt, shame, and search for control associated with this question, as well as the grief, loss, and lack of satisfying answers that accompany it. The episode emphasizes the naturalness of asking 'why me?' and the importance of allowing oneself to process the trauma without feeling weak or ungrateful.TakeawaysProcessing the question 'why me?' is a natural response to traumaThe question 'why me?' does not make you weak, ungrateful, or a victimChapters00:00 The Lack of Satisfying Answer

Alicia Rush's conversation with Fleur is a powerful exploration of hope, trauma, resilience, and forgiveness. The conversation delves into Alicia's cancer journey, the impact of medical mistreatment, and the weight of dark moments, highlighting the power of forgiveness and the resilience of the human spirit. Alicia Baca Rush shares her journey of resilience and hope, finding strength in the face of trauma and adversity. Her story is a testament to the power of community, support, and the transformational journey of healing. Through her experiences, she has embraced a new purpose and a message of hope for others facing similar challenges.https://tinyurl.com/hhhjy5yv The Good Kind of Cancer: Turning Pain into Purpose One Day at at a Time https://www.instagram.com/aliciarush77/ TakeawaysHope and InspirationTrauma and Resilience HopeResilienceChapters00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage08:58 The Impact of Medical Mistreatment and Resilience19:09 The Weight of Dark Moments and the Power of Forgiveness30:27 Finding Hope Amidst Darkness36:30 Facing Trust and Trauma42:15 The Journey of Healing and Transformation50:23 Support and Community Building57:03 Embracing Purpose and Resilience

The conversation delves into the identity of the 'strong one' and the impact of cancer on this role. It explores the internal conflict of strength and the consequences of holding onto this role, providing insights into redefining strength and seeking support.TakeawaysIdentity and the Role of the Strong OneThe Impact of Cancer on Identity and StrengthChapters00:00 The Role of the Strong One15:12 The Internal Conflict of Strength23:10 The Consequences of Holding On

The episode discusses the challenge of cancer becoming one's whole identity and the struggle to find balance between honoring the experience and not letting it define every aspect of life. It explores the cognitive dissonance, fear of losing community, and the process of expanding one's identity beyond cancer.TakeawaysCancer can become a person's whole identity, affecting every decision and thought process.Expanding one's identity after cancer involves embracing the 'ands' and adding more layers to one's life.Chapters00:00 Process of Expanding Identity

The episode explores the identity shift that occurs after cancer, addressing the disorientating feeling of being yourself and not yourself at the same time. It delves into the impact on values, priorities, and the body, as well as the struggle to fit back into the old identity. The reframe emphasizes the process of reconnecting to oneself and rebuilding a new identity.TakeawaysIdentity shift after cancer is disorientatingReconnecting to oneself is a process of rebuilding a new identityChapters00:00 Reframing the Identity Shift and Embracing the In-Between

The episode delves into the stress of life after cancer, the persistent fear of reoccurrence, and the neurobiological basis of this fear. It explores the impact on the nervous system, triggers and responses, and strategies for nervous system regulation and coping.TakeawaysLife after cancer is marked by financial stress and adult admin burdens.The fear of reoccurrence is neurobiological and affects the nervous system, leading to hypervigilance and anxiety.Chapters00:00 The Stress of Life After Cancer07:03 The Neurobiological Basis of Fear13:31 The Impact on the Nervous System22:00 Nervous System Regulation29:47 Support and Coping Strategies

The conversation covers my experience of feeling misrepresented in the cancer community and the impact of cancer on identity and life after treatment. It also delves into the process of writing a book for the cancer community and the challenges faced in pitching the book for publication. I emphasise the importance of expanding support and understanding the impact of cancer on individuals, as well as the need to educate others about life after cancer.TakeawaysFeeling misrepresented in the cancer communityThe impact of cancer on identity and life after treatmentChapters00:00 Introduction and Book Writing07:18 Navigating Life After Cancer13:29 Creating Archetypes and Framework22:13 Empowerment and Encouragement

The conversation with Laurel Van Der Toorn covers a wide range of topics, including trauma, EMDR therapy, the impact of cancer on trauma, recognizing trauma responses, complex trauma, post-traumatic growth, rituals and support after trauma, the interplay between trauma and OCD, understanding PTSD, the EMDR therapy process, the intense nature of EMDR therapy, the mind-body connection and healing, and the duration and process of EMDR therapy. Laurel provides valuable insights into trauma, therapy, and the impact of cancer on trauma responses. The conversation covers the use of EMDR therapy for trauma and its effectiveness during and after cancer treatment. It explores bodily responses to trauma, self-resourcing with positive memories, and the power of EMDR in reclaiming a sense of self. The discussion also addresses living with the fear of reoccurrence and the passion for EMDR therapy. Seeking EMDR therapy is highlighted as a crucial step for those in need.TakeawaysTrauma responses can be complex and may manifest in various ways, impacting both the mind and body.EMDR therapy is a comprehensive process that involves preparation, targeting trauma themes, and reliving traumatic experiences in a supportive environment.The mind-body connection is crucial in trauma recovery, and the impact of trauma can be long-lasting, requiring personalized and compassionate therapeutic approaches. EMDR therapy can be effective during and after cancer treatment.Positive memories can be used for self-resourcing in EMDR therapy.https://www.laureltherapy.net/If you would like to support the podast, all goes to making this podcast bigger and better, thank you so much. buymeacoffee.com/moremoxie_Chapters00:00 Welcoming Laurel Van Der Toorn06:02 The Science Behind EMDR Therapy11:02 Recognizing Trauma Responses16:09 The Impact of Uncertainty and Fear21:24 Targeting Trauma Themes in EMDR27:30 Preparation and Phases of EMDR Therapy36:13 EMDR During and Post Cancer Treatment46:11 Bodily Responses to Trauma51:23 The Power of EMDR

The episode delves into the trauma of cancer, highlighting the complex and ongoing nature of medical trauma. It explores the emotional, physical, and relational aspects of trauma during and after treatment, as well as the impact on the nervous system. The episode emphasizes the importance of trauma-informed support and healing at one's own pace.TakeawaysCancer is a complex medical trauma that affects individuals emotionally, physically, and relationally.Trauma-informed support and healing at one's own pace are crucial for individuals dealing with the aftermath of cancer treatment.Chapters00:00 Trauma-Informed Support and Healing

The podcast episode explores the psychological afterlife of cancer, focusing on the loneliness and challenges faced after active treatment finishes. It delves into the process of rebuilding life, the fear of recurrence, and the experience of loneliness and isolation. The episode emphasizes the importance of naming this phase and seeking support to navigate the post-treatment journey.TakeawaysLoneliness after cancer treatmentRebuilding life after cancerChapters00:00 The Psychological Afterlife of Cancer09:17 Return to Normality and Rebuilding16:24 Loneliness and Isolation

The conversation explores the challenges of life after cancer treatment, the impact on the body, and the struggle to rebuild and find safety through connection. It delves into the emotional and physical aspects of the post-cancer experience, highlighting the need for compassion and understanding.TakeawaysRebuilding after cancer is not a linear processCompassion and understanding are crucial for those who have gone through cancer treatmentChapters00:00 The Need for Understanding and Validation

Fleur, a breast cancer survivor, shares her mission to support life after cancer and create a community for survivors. The conversation covers her journey, the challenges of moving to a new country, coping with loss, and the ongoing process of healing and coping with the aftermath of cancer treatment.TakeawaysLife after cancer supportIdentity shifts and psychological aftermathChapters00:00 Coping and Healing

Meg Hall shares her journey of healing and self-discovery, reflecting on her challenging upbringing and the impact it had on her self-perception. The conversation explores her transition to psychiatric nursing, the discovery of personal gifts, and the importance of self-trust and authenticity. The conversation delves into the journey of self-discovery, coping mechanisms, and finding joy amidst chaos. It explores the themes of authenticity, self-acceptance, and the impact of authenticity in the workplace. The discussion also touches on life and death perspectives, navigating life's storms, and uncovering inner value. The journey culminates in the realisation of self-love and the courage to step into a new life.TakeawaysHealing from a challenging upbringingThe power of self-discovery and self-trust Authenticity and self-discoveryCoping mechanisms and finding joy in chaosChapters00:00 Introduction to Meg Hall11:04 Impact of Childhood on Self-Perception19:15 Leaving the Family Home26:04 Transition to Psychiatric Nursing35:39 Understanding Grandma's Delusions40:40 Journey to Authenticity46:10 Becoming Meg 2.052:04 Arriving at Self-Love58:07 Authenticity in the Workplace

Dahlia shares her journey of self-discovery, embracing the black sheep energy, and the transformative impact of solo travel. Her transition to Thailand and the challenges of balancing alone time and loneliness are explored, highlighting the power of community and the courage to live without regrets. The conversation delves into the meaning of home and identity, the concept of Thailand as home, freedom and flexibility in decision-making, understanding alignment, living unconventionally, empowering others to live authentically, life in Thailand and embracing experiences, challenges and sacrifices of living abroad, and questioning societal norms. The key takeaways include the importance of connection to self and identity, as well as the freedom and flexibility in decision-making.TakeawaysCourage to live without regretsDiscovering oneself through solo travel Connection to self and identityFreedom and flexibility in decision-makingChapters00:00 Introduction to Dahlia10:32 Embracing the Black Sheep Energy22:36 Transition to Thailand28:35 Alone vs. Loneliness01:02:41 Questioning Societal Norms

In this episode of the Moxie Musings podcast, Fleur engages in a deep conversation with Cassandra Rosa, a certified coach and intuitive healer. They explore themes of courage, transformation, and the journey of self-discovery. Cassandra shares her experiences of overcoming bullying, navigating education and career choices, and the pivotal moments that led her to embrace entrepreneurship. The discussion highlights the importance of intuition, resilience, and the impact of personal development on one's journey. Cassandra also reflects on her journey of writing her first book and her aspirations for the future, emphasising the power of empowering others to create a ripple effect of change.00:00 Introduction to Courage and Transformation06:04 Navigating Education and Career Choices08:59 Experiences Abroad: Finding Clarity12:00 Overcoming Bullying and Self-Doubt15:00 Transitioning from Corporate to Entrepreneurship18:03 Facing Financial Fears and Scarcity21:01 Imposter Syndrome and Personal Growth23:47 Defining Courage and Living Authentically28:28 Navigating Male-Dominated Spaces32:15 The Role of Intuition in Decision Making36:39 Tapping into Intuition38:34 Facilitating Light Bulb Moments40:09 Holistic Coaching Approaches40:56 Personal Milestones and Business Growth42:24 The Book Writing Journey44:42 Remembering Your Power45:47 Resilience and Courage47:05 Creating a Ripple Effect48:04 The Power Within Us49:00 Daily Rituals for Empowerment51:47 New Chapter

In this episode of Moxie Musings, Fleur discusses the importance of embracing authenticity and living life on your own terms, regardless of age. She emphasises the significance of happiness as a state of being, the role of courage in making bold decisions, and the impact of ego on our lives. Fleur encourages listeners to reflect on their emotional states and to shift towards a more fulfilling existence by welcoming all emotions while maintaining a core of joy and authenticity.00:00 Embracing Authenticity at Any Age02:27 The Importance of Happiness and Emotional Awareness05:10 Courage as a Catalyst for Change10:31 Understanding the Ego and Its Influence13:48 Shifting Your State for a Vibrant Life

In this episode of Moxie Musings, Fleur explores the profound concept of courage, moving beyond the cliché of stepping outside comfort zones. She emphasises that courage is not just about grand gestures but also about everyday acts of bravery that compound over time. Fleur discusses the importance of vulnerability, authenticity, and embracing uncertainty, highlighting how these elements contribute to personal growth and connection with others. She encourages listeners to celebrate their everyday acts of courage and to build a community that supports and acknowledges these efforts. 00:00 Understanding Courage Beyond Comfort Zones06:40 The Courage of Vulnerability and Authenticity10:02 Embracing Uncertainty and Conviction11:26 The Courage of Connection and Community15:29 Celebrating Everyday Acts of Courage

In this episode of the Moxie Musings podcast, Fleur discusses the significance of deep connections and the impact of peer pressure on our lives. She emphasises the importance of self-awareness in evaluating our relationships and the subtle ways peer pressure can influence our behaviour. Fleur encourages listeners to reflect on their associations, identify energy drainers versus energy fillers, and take actionable steps to nurture positive relationships while setting boundaries with those that do not serve them. Ultimately, she highlights the power of awareness in creating a fulfilling life.00:00 The Importance of Deep Connections03:06 Peer Pressure and Its Subtlety06:01 Evaluating Relationships and Boundaries11:55 Energy Drainers vs. Energy Fillers14:03 Taking Action for Positive Change

TW: This episode has conversation of sensitive topics including SA. In this episode of the Moxie Musings podcast, Chelsea Edwardson shares her remarkable journey from a high school dropout to a master's degree holder in ethnomusicology. She discusses her childhood experiences with music, the impact of trauma on her identity, and the importance of creating safe spaces for self-expression. Chelsea emphasises the role of grief in healing and the courage it takes to listen to one's inner voice. Her current work involves helping others find their voice and creativity through community groups and workshops, all while navigating her own healing journey as a mother.website: www.chelseaedwardson.comIG: instagram.com/chelseaedwardson Chelsea's hype song - "Jupiter's Storm"... I think you'll like it!! https://open.spotify.com/track/1Em74jIfaoV2RFCB3R6dUl?si=2cf4f9b06c604ab3Chapters00:00 Introduction to Chelsea Edwardson's Journey04:28 The Early Years: Music and Childhood Trauma10:24 Navigating Fame and Personal Trauma14:23 The Impact of Abuse on Creative Expression19:02 Rebellion and Identity in Adolescence24:14 A Turning Point: Leaving an Abusive Relationship31:11 Rediscovering Music and Healing Through Voice34:05 The Body's Response to Trauma39:50 Courage and Self-Discovery43:44 Navigating Grief48:57 Finding Home in Music56:35 Understanding Ethnomusicology59:54 Creative Entrepreneurship and Community Building01:05:47 Healing Through Music and Parenting01:09:47 Legacy of Listening and Bravery01:11:56 New Chapter

In this episode of the Moxie Musings podcast, Fleur discusses the invisible weight many carry in their daily lives, emphasising the importance of recognising and addressing feelings of overwhelm. She explores the emotional and cognitive labour involved in managing responsibilities and the societal pressures that lead to self-gaslighting. Fleur offers practical strategies for managing overwhelm, including the importance of rest, self-check-ins, and breaking tasks into manageable steps. The conversation concludes with a reminder to embrace our humanity and seek support from others.00:00 Introduction to Overwhelm02:31 Understanding Invisible Weight05:04 The Nature of Overwhelm06:39 Breaking the Cycle of Overwhelm09:06 Practical Strategies for Managing Overwhelm11:17 Releasing Responsibilities and Expectations12:31 Conclusion and Community Support13:10 New Chapter

In this episode of Moxie Musings, Fleur discusses the small irritations that can lead to overwhelming emotional responses, exploring the impact of stress on the brain and body. She emphasises the importance of recognising when we are in a state of survival mode and how this affects our relationships and self-perception. Fleur introduces the concept of 'Tamagotchi mode' as a way to reconnect with ourselves through basic self-care practices, encouraging listeners to prioritise their well-being without the pressure of complex routines.00:00 Introduction to Spiky Vibes and Low Battery Mode02:37 Understanding Low Battery Power Mode04:12 The Impact of Stress on the Brain07:36 Emotional Flatness and Disconnection10:17 The Cycle of Exhaustion and Self-Blame12:42 Introducing Tamagotchi Mode for Self-Care17:03 Conclusion and Community Support17:34 New Chapter

In this episode of the Moxie Musings podcast, Fleur interviews Jenny Milton, an Australian women's kite surfing champion, who shares her incredible journey of resilience and courage. Jenny discusses her childhood experiences, the impact of her brother's illness, and how these shaped her mindset. She emphasises the importance of overcoming fear, building courage, and the role of mental health in personal growth. Jenny also shares insights on decision-making in extreme sports and her desire to leave a legacy through knowledge sharing. In this conversation, Jennie "Adrenajen" Milton shares her inspiring journey of overcoming fear and adversity through coaching, competition, and resilience.She discusses her experience with writing a children's book, her journey back to kitesurfing after spinal surgery, and her recent health challenges, including brain surgery. Jennie's story emphasises the importance of finding courage, setting realistic goals, and being a beacon of hope for others facing similar struggles.00:00 Introduction to Courage and Resilience04:52 Childhood Influences and Early Challenges12:02 The Role of Fear and Courage in Life18:00 Overcoming Deep Fears and Mental Health24:00 Mindset and Decision-Making in Extreme Sports30:04 Sharing Knowledge and Leaving a Legacy32:40 Finding Courage Through Coaching36:21 The Drive to Compete39:14 Overcoming Adversity: The Journey of Recovery46:06 Facing the Unknown: A Life-Changing Diagnosis54:01 Resilience and Hope: The Road to Recovery57:03 Embracing New Goals and Sharing Stories

In this episode of the Moxie Musings podcast, Fleur discusses the journey of high-functioning women who may feel unfulfilled despite outward success. She emphasises the importance of reconnecting with one's authenticity, exploring curiosity, and prioritising internal fulfillment over external validation. Fleur encourages listeners to embrace their desires for change and to recognise that joy and love are abundant and accessible. The episode serves as a motivational call to action for women to put themselves first and seek deeper emotional connections in their lives.Chapters00:00 Welcome Back and Podcast Relaunch01:37 Feeling Flat: The High Functioning Woman's Dilemma04:57 Authenticity and Self-Connection09:12 Creating a Life You Love12:17 The Endless Supply of Joy and Love13:40 New Chapter

In this episode of Moxie Musings, host Fleur interviews Kenny Barnwell, a keynote speaker and survivor who shares his incredible journey from a challenging childhood to a successful career in the music industry. Kenny discusses his early life, struggles with addiction, and the pivotal moments that led him to personal development. He emphasises the importance of raising standards, building relationships, and maintaining balance while touring. Kenny's story is a testament to resilience and the power of pursuing one's calling. In this conversation, Kenny Barnwell shares his journey through the music industry, detailing the challenges and transformations he faced while touring with various artists. He discusses the importance of intentionality in maintaining health on the road, his transition from country music to pop, and the pivotal moment that led him to leave touring behind for a career in motivational speaking. Kenny recounts a harrowing experience in Mexico that tested his survival instincts and ultimately led to profound personal growth. In this powerful conversation, Kenny Barnwell shares his harrowing experience of survival after a brutal attack, detailing his physical and emotional struggles, moments of divine intervention, and the transformative journey that followed. He emphasises the importance of faith, resilience, and the support of loved ones in overcoming adversity, ultimately leading to a renewed sense of purpose and a commitment to sharing his story with the world.