Catholics Fight Porn Podcast

Send us Fan MailIn 2025, the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops released Create in Me a Pure Heart- a landmark document addressing p*rnography, its devastation, and the Church's responsibility to respond. In this follow-up conversation with Joshua Urrutia, we go beyond the document itself and into the realities it names: the loneliness driving individuals to p*rnography in the first place, the p*rnography industry's deliberate targeting of children, the betrayal trauma impact on marriages, and what it actually looks like to walk toward healing in all of it.00:58 Episode Welcome and Guest01:39 Saints and Recovery Themes04:09 Bishops Document Overview05:11 Key Takeaways Loneliness Trauma06:37 P*rn and Loneliness Stats11:09 Isolation and Inner Child15:23 Grooming and Tech Access18:37 Phone Safeguards and Tools22:30 Neuroscience of Addiction25:15 Dopamine And Denial25:50 Neurobiology Visual Tools26:58 Betrayal Trauma Explained28:12 D-Day Discovery Shock30:41 Patience And Living Amends33:47 Support Groups And Disclosure36:23 Helping Others Stay Free38:45 Practical Recovery Strategies41:08 Church And Family Action45:05 Resources And Farewell Referenced in this episode: Create in Me a Pure Heart document— United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, 2025 Available at usccb.orgAbout Joshua Urrutia: Joshua Urrutia is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Associate and ASAT Candidate with Intuitus Group in Texas. He holds a Master's in Counseling from Divine Mercy University, is EMDR trained, and is a verified member of the Catholic Psychotherapy Association. Joshua works with individuals and couples navigating compulsive sexual behavior, betrayal trauma, and the intersection of faith and mental health.Website: intuitus-group.com Phone: (512) 650-8018 Email: [email protected] LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.-Donate to CFP 

Send us Fan MailSteve O’Connor hosts special guest Casey Allison, founder of Come Awake Coaching and Consulting.  Casey is a Master Certified Coach through ICF, an APSATS-certified Partner Coach, a Certified Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, a PSAP through IITAP, and a Brainspotting practitioner. She also has training in the perinatal period with betrayed women, and additional training to support partners of sex addicts who have criminally sexually offended, whether they’ve been charged or not. She holds many other trainings and certifications as well.Casey shares how discovering her husband’s secret sexual life led her, after years of ineffective help and multiple practitioners, to find betrayal-trauma-informed support and eventually serve women navigating betrayal, pregnancy/new motherhood, and cases involving sexual offending. They discuss how uninformed resources can harm partners by blaming them, and share indicators of good support: prioritizing safety and stabilization, validating grief and anger, and aiming for post-traumatic growth rather than “going back.” They emphasize the importance of truth and a collaborative Full Disclosure, including the Partner Impact Statement and Emotional Restitution letter, to restore mutuality, reduce shame, and foster empathy. Casey shares about her Catholic women’s Facebook group and her coaching groups, and offers hope that healing is possible. Tune in and share!Time Stamps:Show Intro 01:13 Saint of the Day Reflection - St. John Baptist de LaSalle as a model of radical surrender03:25 Meet Casey Allison04:56 Casey's Story and Calling08:13 Finding Trauma Informed Help11:51 Safety, Stabilization, Grief, Anger and Growth14:24 Why Full Disclosure Matters17:21 Team Based Disclosure Support22:04 Power, Control and Mutuality25:06 Impact and Restitution Letters29:47 Catholic Women Facebook Community33:41 Casey Groups and Programs38:29 Closing Hope and Next StepsLinks for Casey:Free initial consultation: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/packages_4.htmlSupport groups: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/community.htmlWorkshops and Events: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/promotions.htmlDigital Resources: https://comeawakeresources.company.site/Released to Heal Group (starting April 15th): https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/released-to-heal-support-group.htmlHELPFUL CFP LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a safe, locked-down phone - a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 - https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the Email Newsletter at the website-Donate to CFP 

Send us Fan MailSteve sits down with Michael McBee for an inspirational conversation on hitting rock bottom, getting into recovery, finding God and helping his wife heal from betrayal trauma.Raised in Ohio, Michael was an accomplished student and athlete, while struggling for years to find freedom from his sexual addiction. This led to a life marked by unhealthy sexual behaviors, overindulgence, and selfishness. After hitting rock bottom, Michael entered recovery through a national 12-Step program. He earned his certification as a Life Coach and Sex Addiction Life Coach through the Addictions Academy. Michael is an experienced leader of TSH Freedom Groups, leads men through the 90-Day Recovery Program, and leads our online 12-Step groups. He has been married to his wife, Sarah, since 2019.Find a Men's Group at https://www.theresstillhope.org and ask for Michael!Books Michael mentioned:Fulfilling the Ultimate Quest - linkThe Love Dare - linkHELPFUL LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a safe, locked-down phone - a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 - https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the website-Donate to CFP 

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when the very thing you're most ashamed of is also the thing keeping you from the love you most desperately need? In this episode, we sit down with Joshua Urrutia, MS, LPC-Associate and ASAT Candidate, to talk about one of the most painful paradoxes at the heart of sexual addiction: the war between deep shame and the longing to be truly known, seen and loved. At the root of that war, more often than not, is an attachment wound that has never been named, never been healed, and has been quietly running the show for years.Joshua brings both clinical expertise and personal experience to this conversation. He shares what he witnessed during his time in ministry and mission work, and how those experiences led him to specialize in compulsive sexual behavior. This is an honest, grounded, and hope-filled conversation for anyone in recovery, anyone loving someone in recovery, or anyone who has ever felt too broken to be seen.In this episode we cover:Joshua's personal journey and why he became a Certified Sex Addiction TherapistWhat intimacy disorder actually means and what it looks like in real lifeHow early attachment wounds and attachment injuries lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior later in lifeThe painful cycle of shame, hiding, and compulsive behavior and why it is really a distorted scream for connectionWhy healing requires the opposite and what you can do to start healingA note on attachment: You may hear the terms attachment theory and attachment injury in this conversation. Attachment theory, developed by psychiatrist John Bowlby, describes the deep human need for safe, reliable emotional bonds. First with caregivers, and later in adult relationships. When those bonds are broken, neglected, or never formed, an attachment injury occurs a: wound in the person's ability to trust, connect, and feel safe being truly known by another. For many men and women struggling with sexual addiction, compulsive behavior is not primarily about sex. It is about an unmet, often unconscious need for closeness and comfort that was rarely safely available. And for the betrayed spouse, the discovery of her partner's secret life is one of the most devastating attachment injuries an adult can experience: a rupture at the deepest level of relational trust.About Joshua: Joshua Urrutia is a Licensed Professional Associate Counselor and ASAT Candidate (on his way to a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) with Intuitus Group in the Austin area in Texas. He holds a Master's in Counseling from Divine Mercy University, is EMDR trained. 🌐 Website: intuitus-group.com 📞 Phone: (512) 650-8018 📧 Email: [email protected] LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a safe, locked-down phone - a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 - https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the website-Donate to CFP 

Send us Fan MailIn This Episode: Steve breaks down what process addiction actually is, why understanding it matters so much, 7 common mistakes that keep people stuck, and the tools that actually work including one most people completely underestimate.What's covered:What process addiction is and how it's different from what most people think addiction meansThe neuroscience behind why behaviors can be just as addictive as substancesWhy "just stop" has never worked and the leaky roof and bucket that explains it perfectly7 common mistakes people make in recoveryThe tools that create real, lasting changeWhy processing your emotions isn't optional and what happens when you don'tThe 7 Mistakes We CoverWhite-knuckling it aloneRemoving the behavior without replacing the functionNot addressing the underlying issuesAll-or-nothing thinking after a slipFocusing only on stopping, not building a life worth livingNot getting professional help when you need itNot building your support network before you need itThe Tools We CoverPhone calls — daily, multiple times a day, before crisis hitsJournaling — finding patterns, slowing the urge cycle, writing through triggers in real timePhysical movement — releasing what the body is holdingMindfulness/Present Moment/Awareness — learning to float through a wave without being destroyed by itTherapy/Coaching — translating what's underground into something you can actually work withCreative outlets — the healing power of creation vs. consumptionRoutine and structure — and the BLAST principleOpposite action — doing the counterintuitive thing that actually pulls you outKey TakeawaysProcess addiction is real. It is not a character flaw or a willpower problem. It follows the same neural pathways as substance addiction.The behavior is a signal. Finding the fracture beneath the pain is where real recovery begins.You cannot willpower your way out of a process addiction. But you can connect your way through it.Every phone call, every journal entry, every honest conversation is building a new path through the forest. The more you take it, the clearer it gets.Recovery isn't just about what you're stopping. It's about what you're building.HELPFUL LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.-Donate to CFP to support this work

Send us Fan MailWelcome back Dr. Eddie Capparucci as we dive deep into his first book "Removing Your Shame Label: Learning to Embrace God's Love When You Don't Like Yourself." This episode explores why shame, not just the behavior itself, is the primary barrier keeping men trapped in problematic sexual behavior and addiction.We dive into the first several chapters of the book and Steve asks Dr. Capparucci questions to dive into each chapter.  Tune in as we talk about understanding how God sees us and removing your shame label.  I highly recommend reading this book if you struggle with shame.We open with the saint of the day, St. Scholastica (feast day February 10th), whose life embodies a powerful truth for recovery: "She was able to do more because she loved more." Real change doesn't come from trying harder, it comes from learning to love and be loved and channeling that appropriately.About Dr. Eddie Capparucci: Dr. Eddie is a licensed therapist specializing in sexual addiction and problematic sexual behavior, author of multiple books including "Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction," and founder of the Inner Child Model for treatment.Resources: "Removing Your Shame Label" available on Amazon here.Email:  [email protected] HELPFUL LINKS: -Join the new Inner Child / Emotional Regulation / Relational Blind Spots group mentioned in this episode starting 2/19/26 here.-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.-Donate to CFP to support this work here.

Send us Fan MailWhen outpatient therapy isn't enough, what comes next? In this essential episode, Gina Kaye joins us to discuss residential treatment for men facing extreme sexual addiction and intimacy disorders and why intensive, in-person care can be the turning point toward lasting recovery.Gina brings a unique perspective as both a trained health educator and former pastor's wife, offering insights into how Begin Again Institute bridges clinical excellence with faith-based support. In a powerful and personal moment, Gina shares part of her own story and why she's dedicated her career to this often-stigmatized field. Whether you're struggling yourself, supporting a loved one, or simply wondering when "rock bottom" means it's time for more intensive help, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and a practical roadmap forward.In This Episode, We Discuss:Gina's personal journey and what led her to dedicate her life to helping men and families affected by sexual addictionWhat residential treatment actually looks likeSigns that outpatient therapy may not be sufficient and when to consider intensive careWho benefits most from in-person, immersive treatment programsHow residential programs address betrayal trauma and support partners through their own healing journeyThe role of faith in clinical treatment settingsFirst steps to take if you're considering residential treatment for yourself or a loved oneIf you or someone you love is struggling with sexual addiction or betrayal trauma, help is available. Don't wait, reach out today. LEARN MORE AND CONNECT WITH BEGIN AGAIN INSTITUTE:Website: https://beginagaininstitute.comPhone: (720) 702-4608Gina's email: [email protected] LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful episode, Steve speaks with Maribel Laguna, founder of Cor Sacrum Counseling and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), for an honest conversation about pornography addiction, shame, and recovery from a Catholic perspective. Whether you're personally struggling with problematic sexual behavior or supporting someone who is, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a path forward rooted in faith and clinical expertise.We explore three critical areas: shame reduction and why shame keeps people trapped in destructive cycles, cultural pain points that make men vulnerable to pornography in today's world, and why pornography use continues to rise despite its devastating impacts. Maribel shares insights from her clinical practice.This conversation is compassionate, direct, and grounded in the reality that freedom is possible. If you've ever wondered why this struggle feels so impossible to overcome, or if you're searching for real answers beyond "just stop," this episode will meet you where you are and point you toward lasting healing. You're not alone, and there is hope.Learn More & Connect with Maribel Laguna-Maribel's Cor Sacrum Counseling Practice in Texas: https://www.corsacrumcounseling.com-Email: [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/corsacrumcounselingHELPFUL LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful conversation, Jack Rigert joins the podcast to unpack St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and its real-world impact on the battle with lust, shame, and sexual brokenness. Together, we explore not only what the Church teaches about the human person and how it can be lived by men and women struggling today.Jack returned to the Catholic faith after twenty years away, sparked by profound encounters with Christ at his brother’s bedside and in the Eucharist. His journey reveals how shame isolates, how lust distorts desire, and how authentic love restores identity.This episode goes beyond theory, addressing prevention, formation, and healing through the lens of Theology of the Body, discipleship, and lived conversion. Whether you’re fighting habitual sin, walking with someone who is, or seeking a deeper vision of love and the body, this conversation offers both truth and hope.  Learn More & Connect with Jack Rigert-Claymore (Milites Christi Battle Plan) – formation for the spiritual battlehttps://jp2renew.org/claymore/-Become Who You Are Podcast https://jp2renew.org/podcast/-LoveEd – Catholic formation for parents, parishes, and educators https://jp2renew.org/loveed/Stolen Innocence – addressing the spiritual war on children and the family https://jp2renew.org/stolen-innocence-Book Jack Rigert for parish missions, retreats, and talkshttps://jp2renew.org/jack-rigertHELPFUL LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we reflect on Pope Leo XIV’s comments on addiction.  The Holy Father urges a commitment to prevention, addressing not only drugs and alcohol but modern addictions like pornography, gambling, and excessive screen use. We explore how addiction often grows from inner distress, isolation, and a loss of purpose.Addiction isn’t just about behavior — it’s about a deeper hunger.LINK TO ARTICLE here.This conversation invites men in recovery to move from withdrawal to connection, from secrecy to truth, and from relapse avoidance to building a life rooted in faith, community, and responsibility.HELPFUL LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailHey, ever just act on impulse and instantly regret it? Ugh, we know that feeling! This week, we're diving into the absolute best tool for getting emotionally sober: Slowing Down! Dr. Eddie Capparucci calls it his number one rule: “Slow Everything Down.” This episode shows you how to interrupt that destructive speed and actually make a conscious choice.We’re blending modern recovery tools with the faith. You’ll see how moments of distress—when your Inner Child is throwing a fit—can make you shoot right out of your Window of Tolerance and straight into destructive hyper-arousal. Not good!Get ready to learn the awesome spiritual and practical disciplines of Slowing Down and implementing a Sacred Pause. We’re talking 12-Step wisdom, the virtue of Prudence, how to heal from betrayal trauma, and how to finally show up as the safe, solid partner you want to be!HELPFUL LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free! Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a FREE Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I sit down with Dan Drake—literally the man who wrote the book on Full Therapeutic Disclosure—to talk about one of the most important (and misunderstood) parts of the recovery journey.What happens when the truth finally comes into the light?We unpack:What Full Therapeutic Disclosure is (and what it isn’t)Why honesty is the foundation of rebuilding trustHow empathy and truth-telling go hand in handThe role of polygraphs in the processWhether or not disclosure lines up with Biblical teachingThis conversation is raw, practical, and filled with hope. If you’re a man battling secret struggles—or a spouse who has been betrayed—you’ll walk away with clarity on why disclosure matters, how it brings healing, and why God always calls us into the light.Ultimately, disclosure isn’t just about naming failures—it’s about creating a pathway toward healing, safety, and deeper intimacy. When couples have the courage to face the truth together, they discover that God’s grace is bigger than any secret, and that honesty really can set them free.HELPFUL LINKS:Dan Drake at Kintsugi Recovery Partners here.-Instagram @kintsugirecoverypartners-Disclosure Workbook for Men here.-Disclosure Workbook Volume 1 of 3 here.-His Website here.-Banyan Instagram @banyantherapygroupCATHOLICS FIGHT PORN:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free! Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a FREE Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I sit down with Tom Weaver from Come to the Table Ministry to talk about the real struggles of sex addiction, betrayal trauma, and the hope of lasting transformation. Tom shares his powerful story of being exposed to pornography as a young boy at the “Paper Shack” in his church, how that struggle carried into marriage, and how God brought him and his wife through deep betrayal to healing and restoration.We also talk about the ministry’s Men’s and Women’s retreats and their Couples Conference, where hurting hearts find community, truth, and tools for recovery.  Check out the 'Men Make Men' retreat and the 'Princess Warrior' retreat as well as the 'Maintaining the Bridge: Hope and Healing After Betrayal' Couples Conference! Whether you’re battling addiction, walking through betrayal, or longing for deeper intimacy in your marriage, Tom offers encouragement that freedom is possible and healing is real.To close, Tom takes on some rapid-fire questions about recovery and relationships—practical insights you won’t want to miss.If you’ve ever wondered if there’s hope after betrayal, or if freedom is possible after years of struggle, this episode will speak directly to you.HELPFUL LINKS:Tom + Michele Weaver at Come to the Table Ministries:-Website here.-Retreats + Conferences here.-Their Podcast here.-Email: [email protected] CATHOLICS FIGHT PORN:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a FREE Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailWhen you’re sick with a cold, flu, or illness, recovery can feel extra vulnerable. Weakness, isolation, and self-pity can open the door to relapse. In this episode, I share why being under the weather is spiritually dangerous for a Catholic man in recovery—and what practical steps help guard against acting out. I also reflect on the Feast of the Passion of St. John the Baptist, who stood firm against disordered desire, and I open up about my own struggles with relapse while sick. HELPFUL LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a FREE Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailMy guest is Christopher Carter, the founder of Men Living for Greatness.  He is a  speaker, life coach and author of Uncommon Habits of Great Catholic Fathers and Grandfathers:  8 Uncommon Habits For Growing In Holiness & Leading at The Highest Level of Excellence In The Areas That Matter Most.  We recorded on the feast of St. Maximilian Kolbe — the Polish Franciscan who gave his life for a family man in Auschwitz — and discussed what it means for Catholic men to fight for both purity and Our Lord through prayer, habits and intentionality. We dive into:-Christopher's favorite habit that has helped him-Practical habits that protect a man’s heart — even when life throws you off schedule-What to do when your routine is off-The link between fatherhood, spiritual warfare, and freedom from lust-How legacy, not just willpower, can drive a man’s recoveryChristopher dropped many great quotes from the saints and scripture-enjoy!Whether you’re a father, grandfather, or a man in the trenches battling temptation, you’ll find clarity, encouragement, and concrete steps to move forward in faith.HELPFUL LINKS:CHRISTOPHER CARTER - find his site and FREE Book here: https://www.menlivingforgreatness.comFind his Facebook Group of 11,000+ striving for Greatness!CFP:JOIN NEW GROUP! This group looks at the WHY behind the behavior as well as 14 ways to Overcome Relational Blind Spots. Registration closes August 28, 2025:https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/innerchildblindspotsgroup-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a FREE Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com-Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailI just quit my job of 17 years - a comfortable lifestyle - a secure paycheck— not for a better salary, but for a calling. In this episode, I share the real story behind leaving corporate life to coach men in recovery full-time. We explore what it means to trust God, face fear, and follow the whisper.   CFP HELPFUL LINKS:-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of "Breaking Through Denial for a Better Life of Freedom and Integrity," we dive deep into the insidious nature of denial, that powerful internal whisper that keeps us from facing uncomfortable truths about ourselves and our lives. We explore how denial acts as an "illness of escape," shielding us from pain while simultaneously trapping us in a cycle of unmanageability.We uncover 8 common forms of denial with the rational, internal dialogue and consequences, from minimization ("It's not that bad") and rationalization ("I have a good reason for this") to comparison ("I'm not as bad as...") and the deceptive "one more time" syndrome. Understanding these voices is the first step to silencing them.Most importantly, we illuminate 20 ways on how denial profoundly violates our Catholic morals and values. It stands in stark opposition to the core tenets of truth, honesty, charity, prudence, and humility, severing our genuine connection with God and others. We look at the ways denial affects ourselves and those closest to us.  We draw upon powerful Bible verses (including Psalm 51, Proverbs 28:13, 1 John 1:8-10, James 1: 22-24, Luke 8:17 and more) and wisdom from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and the Saints to underscore the spiritual imperative of embracing truth.We also find profound inspiration in the life of Saint Benedict of Nursia. His radical commitment to confronting temptation—famously throwing himself into a thorny bush to overcome lust—and his establishment of monastic life rooted in humility, obedience, and community, offer a powerful blueprint for breaking through denial and living a life of authentic holiness. His life beautifully illustrates the first step of recovery: admitting powerlessness, not as weakness, but as the gateway to God's all-sufficient grace.Join us as we begin this journey of uncovering the truth, embracing vulnerability, and stepping into the profound freedom and wholeness that God desires for us.Reflection Question: Related to lustful behavior, where might you be resisting a difficult truth?Action Step: Pray Psalm 139:23-24: "Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." Journal your reflections.CFP HELPFUL LINKS:-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIf you've ever felt frustrated by a struggle to love at a deep level, this episode is for you. We welcome back Dr. Eddie Capparucci, author of "Why Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots," for an important discussion. Dr. Capparucci introduces us to the crucial concept of "relational blind spots," explaining how a man's emotional development can be stunted, leading to difficulties in empathy, vulnerability, and genuine intimacy. We dissect the specific ways these blind spots manifest, from early childhood experiences to the potential link with addictive behaviors. But it's not all about the problem: Dr. Capparucci provides compassionate, Scriptural, actionable advice for men to overcome these challenges, offering a clear path towards emotional maturity and the capacity for truly profound love. Tune in to understand the 'why' and discover the 'how' of loving at a deep level. HELPFUL LINKS:Dr. Eddie's email:  [email protected]. Eddie's Website herePurchase "Why Men Struggle to Love" Book hereCFP HELPFUL LINKS:-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailThis episode tackles the profound question: "Why?  Why do I keep doing this?  Why can't I stop?" We dive deep into the roots of problematic sexual behavior, moving beyond shame to understand the complex interplay of factors that drive us.   There are 7 "Why's" outlined to help you learn that these struggles often stem from misdirected natural instincts, emotional dysregulation and unmet human needs, rather than just a simple "lack of willpower."We explore the brain's reward system and how behaviors can "hijack" the brain, creating powerful cravings that make breaking free incredibly difficult. Discover how early wounds and traumas, along with the pervasive influence of modern culture, contribute to these patterns. Drawing from Catholic wisdom, we frame this battle within the context of concupiscence—our wounded human nature inclined to do evil —and the constant call to spiritual battle.Ultimately, this episode is an invitation to humble, prayerful introspection, guiding you to identify your own "whys" with the help of God's grace. It's the essential first step towards reclaiming your freedom and pursuing a life of authentic purity and joy in Christ.  Enjoy and please consider sharing with someone you know that can benefit.  Reviews help too!HELPFUL LINKS--Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailWhether you're on the path of recovery from lust and pornography, or walking the painful road of betrayal as a spouse, the Triduum holds sacred ground for your healing. In this episode, we’ll walk through Holy Thursday, Good Friday, Holy Saturday, and Easter Sunday, seeing how Jesus meets us in every stage of the journey.  HELPFUL LINKS--Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan Mail"My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?"  – Psalm 22:1-2.  Have you ever felt abandoned by God?  "How long, O Lord? Will You forget me forever?"  – Psalm 13:1-2.  Have you ever wondered when God would heal you?   "If God loves me, why am I still struggling?"  Does it feel like the problematic behavior is forgotten by Our Lord?  In this episode, Steve covers those feelings as well as the shame that comes along with it.  He covers the double life we live, the discouragement we feel, the danger of numbing the pain, betrayal of wife and marriage and the call to action for healing.  Plenty of hope is offered along with helpful tips and suggestions.Blended in is Scripture, the Catechism, the Saints and suggestions to address the feeling that God isn’t there for me, the shame that comes with this problem. HELPFUL LINKS--Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful episode, I'm honored to have Vinny Flynn, Catholic author, speaker and Divine Mercy expert, to explore how Christ’s Divine Mercy heals the wounds of shame and brings peace, and even renewal to the heart of a betrayed spouse.  Tune in for insights into how St. Faustina found purity, the painting of the Image, the Chaplet and JPII making the Sunday after Easter 'Divine Mercy Sunday.'  And don't miss Vinny's wisdom on God the Father's love for us and how seeking deeper union with Him transforms our hearts.HELPFUL LINKS:VINNY FLYNN-Vinny Flynn's '7 Secrets of Divine Mercy' book and shop here. -Learn more about Vinny here.-EWTN Divine Mercy Chaplet in Song by the Flynn Family here.-The Diary of St. Faustina book here.-The Pause App by John Eldridge here.CATHOLICS FIGHT P0RN-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we tackle the concept of negative sobriety—when someone merely avoids acting out but doesn’t pursue real transformation. White-knuckling through temptation is unsustainable.  Sober is not well.  Jesus calls us to have life and have it abundantly.  We have to get past not acting out and grow in virtue so that doing the right thing becomes second nature.  Helpful links:-Get daily, uplifting texts for the journey by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailDr. Mark Denison joins the show to discuss Advanced Recovery.  He wrote a book on the topic including 12 Keys to Long-Term Sobriety and the neat thing is, he includes 40 stories of men with long-term sobriety.  The 200+ years of long-term sobriety in the stories are inspirational as they lay out what works, what doesn't and how to achieve long-term sobriety.  This book is truly one-of-a-kind!  Enjoy the conversation and grab a free book with the link below.Helpful links:Mark's ministry:  theresstillhope.orgFree copy of Advanced Recovery with a donation:  HERESign up for Mark's Daily Email Devotional at the Bottom Left of his websiteEmail Mark to receive his daily Recovery Rules text message- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - --For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve is joined by his wife, Cristin, to take a look back at their highlights from 2024 and to discuss their word and focus for 2025.  Please share CFP with anyone you know could benefit.  May God richly bless you!  Steve & Cristin.Helpful Links:-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship.  Email Steve for more info.

Send us Fan MailChristmas is the most wonderful time of the year.  Thanksgiving kicks off the holiday season and there's so much to get excited about.  At the same time, the holidays present many different challenges.  Steve dives into 11 struggles that surface around Christmastime and how to overcome each one using the wisdom of Scripture and the saints.  If you like the episode, please give a 5 star review and share it with someone you know that could benefit.  God bless and may St. Nicholas pray for us!Helpful Links:-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP -Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailSteve interviews Chris Kaspar - founder of the Techless Wisephone, which is the world's safest and healthiest minimalist phone.  This is the perfect option for the one struggling with lust on their phone.  Chris shares his story and what led to creating the Wisephone, what the Wisephone is and how it will help you. He also touches on additional, secondary benefits which lead to overall health and freedom.  Enjoy the show and please share with a friend!Helpful Links:-Get a sweet, safe phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP -- Special sale for $40 off until November 22, 2024-Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode Steve shares how the metaphor of the farmer and the concept of delayed gratification can provide powerful lessons in recovery.  He explores themes like hard work, discipline and patience and how they lead to long-term rewards from addiction.  Share with a friend and thanks for tuning in!Helpful Links:-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode Steve covers 25 reasons a Catholic should strive for custody of the eyes and a tip for each reason.  He caps off the episode with a powerful example from Scripture.  Don't miss out and please help the show by sharing with a friend!Helpful Links:-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a sweet, safe phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP-Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help-Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact-Email: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve interviews Theo McManigal, the Catholic Outreach Specialist at Covenant Eyes.  Theo shares his personal story on his battle with lust and how he was able to break free and stay free.  Learn more about Covenant Eyes and how it can help you navigate the pitfalls that technology presents.  Share this with a friend!Helpful Links:For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFPJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve talks about the dangers of looks and glances and what to do about it to achieve custody of the eyes.  Take a listen for strategies to maintain custody of the eyes and reflect on the five Bible verses to motivate us in purity.  Finally, don't miss the amazing story at the end!  Helpful links:Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpConnect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery Email: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve breaks down how it's healthy to feel shame to improve relationships with self and others.  He recaps the difference between guilt and shame as well as offers 4 ways to use remorse for healing.  He covers two scripture passages and a saint that exemplified this in their life.  Check it out and share with a friend!Helpful links:Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpConnect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan MailEllen Drews is back to discuss a crucial part of the Full Disclosure process which is the use of a Polygraph.  Steve & Ellen break down the reasons for doing a polygraph, the pros and cons of it, 10 common concerns for taking a polygraph, different methods of polygraphs, where to find a polygrapher and what happens after the polygraph.  Tune in and reach out to us for help on your journey. Helpful links:Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Ellen:https://ellendrews.com/consultation/Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpConnect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery Email: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailDr. Heidi Hastings joins the show to share what her research showed for men with problematic p0rn usage and the impact that had on religious women in marriage.  We also cover her 5 Stages of Betrayal & Self Development model.  I pray you find this helpful and will share it with one who could use it.Recommended Books from Dr. Heidi:  -In Tandem: Recovering Me, Recovering Us by Dr. Mark Bird-When Panic Attacks: The New, Drug-Free Anxiety Therapy That Can Change Your Life by Dr. David Burns-Boundaries:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John TownsendHelpful links:Check out her new podcast: Marriage IQ - https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/marriageiq Email Dr. Heidi at:  [email protected] a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpConnect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery Email: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailSpecial Guest, Brya Hanan, joins the show to breakdown her new book:  Befriending Your Inner Child: A Catholic Approach to Healing and Wholeness.  We dive into discovering our inner child and drawing near to our inner child.  We discuss how Brya has taken these theories and made them Catholic.  This important concept helps those struggling with unwanted lustful behaviors to become aware and learn how to work through the woundedness to freedom.  I hope you enjoy this show and I urge you to go grab Brya's book at: https://www.avemariapress.com/products/befriending-your-inner-childHelpful links:Visit Brya's Website & Subscribe to her newsletter for updates including her new product launch coming later this summer:https://www.bryahananlmft.com/Connect with Brya on Instagram @bryahananlmftBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpConnect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery Email: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailEllen Drews is back to talk with Steve about the Full Disclosure process.  A Full Disclosure is a Rite of Truth.  They explain what it is, the risks and benefits of a FD as well as diving into the process.  Take a listen and if you feel this may be of benefit for your marriage, pray about it and reach out if you would like to work with us.Helpful links:Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Ellen:https://ellendrews.com/consultation/Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpConnect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery Email: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve covers how crucial it is to do the homework in recovery for both the addict and the spouse.  He also covers the negative effects when the homework does not get done.  He closes with 7 amazing scripture verses related to doing the work.  Take a listen and share with someone you know can benefit.  St. Zita, pray for us!Helpful links:Book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery  Email: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailFr. Rich Conlin is a great priest from Vancouver, Canada.  He shares his journey from NCAA D1 golfer to a Catholic priest.  He shares with Steve about how his book: 9 Days to Corpus Christi can help an addict in recovery.  His book highlights six saints to help us grow in our love for the Lord in the Blessed Sacrament.  On the show, we focus on one of the six great saints and how this saint can help us seek the Lord at all times.   Tune in to hear all of this as well as his favorite golf course!3 FREE copies of the book to the first three people to email: [email protected] -- thank you Fr. Rich for your generosity!Helpful links:Check out Fr. Rich's great website: https://prodigalcatholic.com/If you're interested in learning more about joining recovery, book a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactConnect with Steve on Instagram @catholicrecoveryConnect with Fr. Rich on Instagram @frrichconlinTo purchase a copy of 9 Days to Corpus Christi:https://www.amazon.com/Days-Corpus-Christi-Consecration-Sacrament-ebook/dp/B0CCMTTG6C/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2D7U3G8Y791PS&keywords=9+days+to+corpus+christi&qid=1700304030&sprefix=9+days+to+corpus+chris%2Caps%2C333&sr=8-1

Send us Fan MailMy dear friend, Mark Denison, has this great quote that "If you're 90% in then you're 100% out."  That's the topic for this podcast.  We cover how crucial it is to be "All-In" and cover 7 reasons that 100% commitment is needed for successful sobriety and recovery.  Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailChristie Walker, the Catholic Sobriety Coach, is back again for a great conversation about faith, addiction recovery and the power of community.  We take a look at how our Catholic upbringing intersects with the personal struggles we faced.  Through our discussion, we bring forth the idea that recovery is not just an individual success but a collective victory that transcends backgrounds and units us in vulnerability and strength.  Enjoy and God bless!Helpful links for Christie:Connect with Christie on Instagram: @catholicsobrietycoachVisit her website: catholicrecoverycoach.comJoin her Sacred Sobriety Lab:  sacredsobrietylab.comFor Steve:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactConnect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailThis saint was addicted to alcohol and underwent a profound conversion.  Steve lists 5 ways this saint can help those in recovery find freedom.  Tune in to find out which saint this is!Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve covers the secret weapon in recovery.  This special weapon has the ability to keep us on track each and every day.  It helps us process our emotions -- which is difficult for many guys .  It connects us with others and keeps us out of trouble and helps us learn what to do next time if we got in trouble.  Tune in to find out what it is!Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve covers many reasons group coaching is a helpful remedy in this fight.  Listen to the end to find out Steve's favorite reason for group coaching...Hope you enjoy and if you struggle with lust, please reach out!Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Ellen Drews joins the show to discuss what betrayal trauma looks like and different ways of healing:  what the betrayed spouse can do to heal, what the addict, betraying spouse, can do to heal and how couples can heal together.  Don't miss it and please share with someone you think would benefit from hearing this!For a free, complimentary consultation, reach out to Ellen at:https://ellendrews.com or email her at:  [email protected] check-in example:https://hopehousehealing.com/learn/fanosSee below for the SAFER check-in.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery-------------------------------------------------------------------------------SAFER check-in [by Dr. Jake Porter, Daring Ventures]Addict goes through:S - sobriety, "my sobriety date is..."A - accountability, "I apologize for when I did..."F - feelings, "this week, the emotions I felt most were..."E - express, "I've been learning ..... about myself"R - recovery, "For my recovery, I have a plan to do ...."Betrayed Partner goes through:S - safety, "my safety level today is (# 1-10)"A - acknowledge, F - feelings, "this week, the emotions I felt most were..."E - express, "I had the hardest time this week when..."R - requests, "You can help me feel safer by..."Check-In instructions:   Modified SAFER check-in From Jake Porter and Daring Ventures 2016                                1. Set a designated daily time and place for the check in. Try to choose a time when you will be uninterrupted and not too tired, be consistent.2. It is ALWAYS the recovering addict’s responsibility to initiate this check-in. Plan ahead by giving yourself a few minutes to think about what you will share, as preparation can greatly enhance the experience by making it more thoughtful and meaningful.3. Decide whether the addict or partner will share first. The first person will share his or her complete check in. Then the second person will share his or her complete check-in.4. While each shares his or her check in, the other should try to use talking and listening boundaries if they respond. 5. Remember this process involves two traumatized (newly healing) people being vulnerable. Be gentle with yourselves and take a break before you come back to discuss any triggering content in greater detail.SAFER check-in From Jake Porter NCC,CSAT,CMAT,CPC and Daring Ventures 2016                                

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve covers whether or not we should make New Year's Resolutions and if so, a bunch of thought joggers for what you can start or boost to your personal recovery journey.  He also goes over how to make resolutions last throughout the year.This is a link to the workbook referenced to help your wife heal after betrayal:https://www.amazon.com/Help-Her-Heal-Workbook-Partners/dp/1733922202Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailDr. Eddie Capparucci joins the show to discuss the Inner Child and how it impacts sexual addiction.  He recently revised his book, Going Deeper, and added 3 new kids to the other 9 children discussed.  He goes through core emotional triggers and his six-step healing model.  His website:  https://innerchild-sexaddiction.com/His email address:  [email protected] new book:  https://www.amazon.com/Going-Deeper-Impacts-Sexual-Addiction-ebook/dp/B0CN5VSYXY/ref=sr_1_4?crid=28XTZJDULPF9J&keywords=going+deeper+eddie+capparucci&qid=1701350127&sprefix=going+deep%2Caps%2C123&sr=8-4Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail:  [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve discusses the difference between guilt and shame -- they are not the same.  Learn how to use guilt to improve and leave shame behind.Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve discusses the impact of shame in our lives and helpful ways to overcome the negative emotions associated with shame.  Shame is an extremely powerful emotion and getting help for shame is life-changing.Helpful links:Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve covers 7 tech tools to quit porn and 9 Bible verses on accountability.  For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP Canopy: https://canopy.usAccountable2You:  https://accountable2you.comLead Me Not:  https://www.leadmenot.org/Wisephone:  https://techless.comJoin Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steve has Dan Donaldson on the show.  Dan is the VP of Catholic Men's Leadership Alliance where he leads men by doing three things: (1) putting on inspiring events, (2) providing engaging resources and (3) providing leadership coaching through conferences and men's groups. The approach at CMLA:  Strengthen the man, strengthen the family.  Strengthen the family, strengthen the Church.Strengthen the Church, transform the culture. Join their next free quarterly Heroic Men Summit at: https://heroicmen.comCheck out Dan's ministry at:  https://www.catholicmenleaders.org----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Join Finally Free: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-helpBook a Complimentary, Confidential Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contactEmail: [email protected] with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery