Defining You ~ Inside and Out

In this heartfelt episode, Kathy and Mike discuss thetransformative journey of recovery and sobriety, celebrating three years of Mike's sobriety. They delve into the challenges and lessons learned throughout this journey, including the parallels between recovery and the 75 Hard Challenge, emphasizing the importance of mental toughness, accountability, and support systems. They highlight personal growth, the impact of relationships, and the ongoing process of healing and transformation. If you would like more information on the coaching Kathyoffers please message or email Kathy directly [email protected]    Follow Defining You on the socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠   

Last episode we discussed the concept of micro moments, In this week's episode, Kathy picks back up with the ripple effects of micro moments on our lives and the lives of others. Dive into the importance of intentional choices in daily interactions, especially how both positive and negative moments can influence those around us. Kathy shares personal anecdotes and practical takeaways for creating positive ripples through small acts of kindness and mindfulness in communication. As listeners you are invited to engage in micro moments that involve others, reinforcing the idea that our actions can significantly impact the world around us.Thanks for listening! If you would like more information on the coaching Kathy offers please message or email Kathy directly at [email protected] Defining You on the socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

It's easy to feel overwhelmed by the need for big changes. In this episode, Kathy shares her experiences and the transformative power of micro moments and how small, intentional choices can lead to significant changes in our lives and relationships. Kathy encourages listeners to embrace these micro moments and be mindful of their impact on personal growth and well-being.If you would like more information on the coaching Kathy offers please message or email Kathy directly at [email protected] Defining You on the socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

Busy is not better and Kathy knows this very well. In this conversation, Kathy discusses the societal pressure to be constantly busy and how it often leads to burnout and a lack of fulfillment. She emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care, saying no to obligations that do not align with personal goals, and being present in the moment. Kathy encourages listeners to reflect on their time management and to focus on what truly matters in their lives, especially as they approach busy seasons like the holidays.If you are interested in the coaching Kathy offers please message or email Kathy directly [email protected] you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected]  Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment &follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

This special episode of Defining You, is close to Kathy’s heart.  In this heartfelt conversation with Kathy’s brother Sean, a fire chief and EMT, and her son Anthony, a firefighter and police officer. They discuss the often-overlooked mental health challenges faced by first responders, including PTSD and theemotional toll of their work. The hope of having this conversation is to help break the stigma surrounding mental health, the need for support systems, and the personal journeys many face.  A great conversation on coping mechanisms, the impact of trauma on personal lives, and the generational differences in addressing mental health issues within the first respondercommunity.    📌Some Helpful Resources If you or someone you love is a first responder strugglingwith PTSD, please know You’re not alone. Help is out there. Healing ispossible. Below are hotlines, peer programs, and practical tools—to help youfind the support you need.  🚨 Immediate Support988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Dial 988 (24/7,confidential support for anyone in distress).Crisis Text Line – Text HOME to 741741 to connect with atrained counselor.👮‍♂️ FirstResponder–Specific SupportFirst Responder Support Network (FRSN) – www.frsn.org | Peersupport, retreats, and programs for first responders and their families. Code Green Campaign – www.codegreencampaign.org | Mentalhealth advocacy and resources specifically for EMS, firefighters, dispatchers,and law enforcement. National Fallen Firefighters Foundation (NFFF) – EveryoneGoes Home® Program – www.everyonegoeshome.com | Emotional support andresilience resources for firefighters. Blue H.E.L.P. – www.bluehelp.org | Honoring officers lost tosuicide and providing resources for law enforcement families.🧠 Mental Health &PTSD Resources National Center for PTSD (VA) – www.ptsd.va.gov | Education,self-help tools, and treatment options. SAMHSA Treatment Locator – findtreatment.gov | Search forlocal mental health and substance use treatment providers. ResponderStrong – www.responderstrong.org | Resources forresilience and mental health for first responders.📚 Recommended Reads &Tools “Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement” by Dr. KevinGilmartin “The Body Keeps the Score” by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk First Responder Wellness App (free in app stores, offersmindfulness, peer support, and self-care tools).  If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes,please send an email to: [email protected]  Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment &follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

In this episode, Kathy and Nikki discuss the significance ofperspective in personal growth and relationships. Kathy and Nikki share personal experiences and lessons, they discuss the importance of empathy, and emphasize the need for open-mindedness in understanding others. They highlight that changing one's perspective can lead to growth and a deeper understanding of oneself and others. Plus , hear about what Kathy’s building and Nikki’s love hate for the dentist!  If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for futureepisodes, please send an email to: [email protected]  Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment& Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠  

In this episode of Defining You, Kathy and Nikki have another amazing guest, Cornelius (Con) Sheehan. Con is here to talk about Attachment Theory and how our different attachment styles affect our relationships. You’ll find out what those attachment styles are, how they show up and what you can do to change these tendencies and move into a more secure attachment style. Con also explains the differences between an insecure attachment style and personality disorders such as narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder. Listen for a deep dive into attachment theory and how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help improve your relationships. You can find Con at his practice: Individual and Relationship Counseling Associates.https://csheehanjr.com/Find EFT therapists here:www.iceeft.comIf you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for futureepisodes, please send an email to: [email protected]  Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment& Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

Are you ready to start living a life defined by you – not by stress, expectations, or old patterns? Defining You: Inside and Out – Wellness Coaching is more than just advice — it’s support on a journey to reconnect with your mind, body, and purpose. Through mindset shifts, personal development, and real self-care (with a side effect of confidence + weight loss!), we’ll find your balance — from the inside out. In this video, I’m sharing my passion for helping others. Understanding your situation and meeting you where you're at. What it really means to find balanceHow working together helps you feel in control, clear, and calm again If you’ve been feeling stuck, stressed, or just know there’s more to life — this is your invitation to take the first step. This is your time. Let’s define it. Watch now + send an email to [email protected] to talk about your journey and work towards a life defined by you. #DefiningYou #insideandout #WellnessCoach #support #MindBodyBalance #PersonalDevelopment #ConfidenceFromWithin 

This week Kathy and Nikki have a very special guest! Mary Ellen Loranger joins the pod to share her health & wellness story. These ladies energy, vulnerability and authenticity in this episode is admirable! Mary Ellen is an amazing motivational health coach, a hustling entrepreneur, a mother, a wife, a leader in her community and the author of an amazon bestselling book "Win Today A Jersey Girls Guide to Living Your Best Life!" Click the link here to get your copy! https://a.co/d/87IOFrB If you are looking for motivation, support and empowerment you will not want to miss this episode! Listen as these ladies discuss how everyone’s journeys may be different but the importance of health and wellness is the same for us all.Thanks for listening!Links to this week’s favorites:MaryEllen’s favorite:Essential Amino Acid Blend Orange Mangohttps://optaviamedia.com/pdf/product/OPTAVIA_ACTIVE-EAA_Brochure.pdfKathy’s Favorite:25 Minute Speed Train | Weightlifting workouts that don't take all day ⁠https://share.google/MZwebnEQxegC4wVB9 Nikki's Favorite:Puff Pastry Fruit Tarts-1 sheet frozen puff pastry thawed -Fruit such as plums, peaches, pears or nectarines thinly sliced-Granulated sugar-Honey-Course salt Preheat oven to 350’ F. Lay parchment paper out on baking sheet. Roll out pastry and cut into 9 even pieces and place on parchment paper evenly spaced. Lay 3-4 slices of fruit on each piece, sprinkle with about a teaspoon of sugar. Bake until puffy and golden, about 15-20 minutes. Let cool then drizzle with honey and sprinkle salt on top. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected]  Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment & Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠ 

Did you know accountability manifests in various ways, bothinternally and externally?In this episode, Kathy and Nikki discuss the importance ofvulnerability and humility in taking responsibility for one's actions, thedifferent types of accountabilities (internal vs. external), and the dynamicsof team accountability. They talk about the role effective communication playsand the necessity of genuine apologies. Listen to hear moreabout the personal growth that comes from acknowledging one's shortcomings.  Thanks for listening! Links to this week’s favorites:Kathy’s Favorite:https://www.rarebeauty.com/products/find-comfort-bouncy-body-creamy’sFavorite: Nikki’s favorite:https://a.co/d/cI6cfO4  If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for futureepisodes, please send an email to: [email protected]  Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment& Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠ 

Happy 4th of July!! In this week’s episode of Defining You, Kathy and Nikki discuss the concept of love languages. They also discuss their favorites of the week, and the love languages they think should be considered for the list and…you might even hear something about writing a book!?! They also have a favor to ask… as you listen to them expand on the traditional five love languages and explore additional aspects such as vulnerability, accountability, communication and personal growth, Kathy and Nikki encourage you to reflect on your own love languages and let them know your thoughts on the importance of open communication in fostering healthy relationships and any others you think should be included. Thanks for listening! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected]'s Favorite this week:https://a.co/d/f5sCllQKathy's Favorite this week:https://www.facebook.com/groups/1517112209258583/?ref=share&mibextid=NSMWBT Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment& Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1

Welcome back for part 2 of Effective Communication! In this episode, Kathy and Nikki pick back up from last weekand delve into the nuances of effective communication, exploring various styles including passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive communication.They share personal anecdotes, discuss the importance of body language and facial expressions, and even recommend an engaging book. They really emphasize how much they have learned about the significance of kindness and understanding in fostering healthy communication in relationships.Thanks for listening! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] to this week’s favorites:Kathy’s Favorite:“The Housemaid” https://a.co/d/4ERRbpO Nikki will report back next week with a new favorite! ;)  Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment& Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

The frustration of not feeling understood is something we all face and effective communication is the answer to avoiding most misunderstandings and arguments. In this part 1 of 2 episode, Kathy and Nikki discuss what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like. Listen as they share what they have learned works and doesn’t work when communicating in their daily relationships.Be sure to tune in next week for part 2 as they discuss how the types of communication and body language also play a key part in effectively communicating.Thanks for listening! Links to this week’s favorites:Kathy’s Favorite:COLOR WOW Dream Coat Supernatural... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073CWSQ51?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_shareNikki’s Favorite :https://www.sephora.com/product/P463959 If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] Let us know you are listening! Leave us a comment & Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

We lighten it up this week with a FUN episode taking a walk down memory lane. In this episode Kathy and Nikki reminisce about growing up Gen X and despite being from opposite coasts , surprisingly very similar! We hope you enjoy this episode !Links to this week's favorite items: Nikki’s favorite this week:https://a.co/d/ef9CUdfThis extra-large towel warmer fits oversized towels,bathrobes, and more, with safety features and ETL certification. Check it out on Amazon - you won't regret it!  Kathy’s favorite this week: Muchpow Women's V Neck Sleeveless... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CPCHHHZY?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share   If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠ 

It can be overwhelming trying to find the right therapymodality and/or the right therapist for you. We are here to help! In this episode of Defining You, we guide you through the process of selecting the type of mental health professional, the therapy model and the therapist that will bea good match for you. Kathy and Nikki also dispel common myths associated with therapy and tell you why it’s good for everyone. Plus you will get a sneak peek into Nikki’s therapy sessions and see what she’s been working on with her therapist! Thanks for listening!! Links to our favorites mentioned in this episode below.  Kathy’s favorite this week:https://a.co/d/d0ugK0u   The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For?  by Rick Warren Nikki’s favorites this week:           https://a.co/d/dQepx2aThis electronic foot file gently buffs away thick, hard skinto reveal soft, smooth feet in minutes. Check it out on Amazon - you won'tregret it!   If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please sendan email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

Have you ever been annoyed by something someone does? The little things that drive you crazy are commonly called “pet peeves”. In this week’s episode Kathy and Nikki talk about Nikki’s travel adventure, her creative vacation pod set up, which all leads into some pet peeves that listeners sent in as well as some of their very own! Thanks for listening and we appreciate all of you who sent in your pet peeves!!  Nikki’s favorites this week:https://www.thenorthface.com/en-us/p/shop-all/footwear-747784/base-camp-mules-NF0A7W4D?color=6S4 https://g.co/kgs/TZFMf4T  If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please sendan email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠ 

We all know someone who frequently complains about their problems but actively rejects any offered solutions or support we try to give. These types of people are "help rejecting complainers"... or as we like to refer to them .. askholes. In this episode Kathy and Nikki talk about how they handle these exact types of people and well ... they might just call you out if you are one of those people too! Stay tuned for an all new episode next week! Thanks for listening!! 💙Links to our fav's this week:Nikki's Favorite : ELF Setting Misthttps://a.co/d/gASZQWphttps://a.co/d/c1O3NAlLet us know your listening! Follow us on our socials, Ask us questions and Send us a message If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please sendan email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

May is Lyme Disease & Mental Health Awareness Month.Did you know every year an estimated 500,000 people are diagnosed and treated for Lyme disease ? Thousands of so many others go undiagnosed and suffer for years. In this episode Kathy shares a glimpse into her 15+ year journey with Nikki of what it is like having Lyme disease to help spread awareness and let others know they are not alone. Thanks for listening!Links to our favorites this week and some references mentioned in this episode are listed below.Nikki’s Favorite this weekTimeless Skin Care Coenzyme Q10https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00WFFH6GY?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share Kathy’s Favorite this weekhttps://www.lipton.com/us/en/our-teas/iced-tea/ https://www.lymedisease.org/Spoon Theoryhttps://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/Under Our Skin Documentaryhttps://youtu.be/2JgR_Jfbhv8?si=7p5F7mPtcgrUW1kG  If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions for us or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1

You may have noticed we look a little different this week! We thought we would have a little fun while talking about a topic that hits close to home for so many. If you have ever experienced hair loss then this episode is for you! We have our special guest this week, our friend Nickie, and she is sharing her journey through hair loss and regaining confidence in wearing wigs. Links to this week's favorites:http://www.samsclub.com/sams/a/P990391155.ipNikki's Tiki Torches: https://www.wayfair.com/lighting/pdp/wbm-smart-solar-lights-waterproof-flickering-flame-led-solar-night-light-xbqh1117.htmlKathy's Hair Oil:https://amazinghairsaviour.com/products/amazing-hair-saviour?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19894886136&gclid=Cj0KCQjw8vvABhCcARIsAOCfwwqIOzfSJelyImSkRZgBSAVwYIwlampBIb5mEXp0pcYur6BV1IkORfgaAiI8EALw_Follow Nickie here:https://www.tiktok.com/@blessedhomeschoolmess?_t=ZP-8wFDlzFTFDL&_r=1If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠  

Sometimes it is hard to decide what path to go when we are faced with big life decisions. In this episode Kathy and Nikki discuss what it means to "choose the bigger life" and hope that their experiences and what they have learned, help when you have trouble making a big decision in the future! We would love to connect with you, drop a comment below or send us a message to let us know your thoughts! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠ 

Who has battled with forgiveness? We sure have! In this episode we discuss our perspective on what forgiveness looks like and the different kinds of forgiveness we experience. We would love to connect with you, drop a comment below or send us a message to let us know your thoughts! We have also linked our favorite things this week below! Our Fav's this week!The Measure: A Novel https://a.co/d/i6wWlIHWeighted vest https://a.co/d/3b6qCCcPeanut butter cookies https://togetherasfamily.com/4-ingredient-peanut-butter-cookies-easy-cookie-recipe/#wprm-recipe-container-45632Hatch Restorehttps://www.hatch.co/restore?utm_source=google_search&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_campaign=19582800893&utm_adgroup=158824990304&utm_content=727350051751&utm_term=hatch%20restore&utm_device=m&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw5azABhD1ARIsAA0WFUHuNT9VHAJo3oDRc2YFFmNw03HopbLwdGf78BZa-wwDPiBooPUGwkMaArNQEALw_wcBMel Robbins podcast episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ke1XvXyRISaDOmmn0edjn?si=ALO-Bf21TcCMXC0RKlpwYAIf you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questionsyou want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please sendan email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠ 

When parental roles are reversed it can become a challenging season. In this episode Nikki and Kathy discuss their experiences being the caretaker while juggling the demands of life. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

Society often has an influence on everything we do and say and everything we don't. In this episode Kathy and Nikki get into why things we don't talk about enough should be normalized! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

In this episode Kathy and Nikki discuss from experience, how sometimes it is necessary to go no contact with a loved one. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] Follow us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741 ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

In this episode Kathy and Nikki share advice they would give to younger versions of themselves . They even had listener's of the pod chime in! Make sure you stick around to listen to why Nikki advises against camping in the desert!! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

If you have ever dealt with anxiety, please know you are not alone. Listen as Kathy and Nikki discuss their experiences with anxiety and how they have learned coping skills to manage it daily. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

On this episode Kathy and Nikki discuss their thoughts on the Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and how they have implemented this into their daily lives. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] Follow us on our socials! https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741 ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠⁠

Kathy is joined by Nikki on this episode and this is a good one!! We often discuss how self care is so important and Nikki is sharing her self improvement journey and why it is so important to focus on yourself. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] us on our socials!https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠

Have you heard about people picking a "word" for the year? In this episode Kathy is talking about what got her to do just that and how it aligns with the self care plan in place for continuing on the healing and recovery path. If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] Follow us on our socials! https://www.instagram.com/defining__you/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741 ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1⁠

In this episode Kathy is talking all the things, self accountability, building more connections and starting fresh in 2025 with this motto...."Prioritizing yourself is not selfish , it's necessary!" If you want to join us in shifting focus to kick this year off in a good direction then you are in the right place! If you would like to be a guest on the pod, have questions you want to hear answered or have topic ideas for future episodes, please send an email to: [email protected] Follow us on Facebook and Tiktok! https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741 ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1

In this episode, Mike and Kathy discuss what 2 years of recovery has been like and how practicing gratitude has helped both of them. Have a question or topic discussion idea? Email [email protected] Find us on Facebook and Tiktok https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741 https://www.tiktok.com/@defining.you?_t=8rtN78iGSTe&_r=1

Sharing two years of filling the emotional first aid kit and a glimmer of hope. Defining You is a support community. If you or someone you know are in need of support and would like more resources or coaching we are here for you, please send us a message. Have questions, or topic discussion ideas for future episodes or maybe you would like to share your story as a guest on an episode of Defining You? Send all messages to: [email protected] Be sure to rate, review and follow us on our socials! Tiktok: @defining.you Defining You Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741&mibextid=ZbWKwL As always, thank you for your support!

After a little break this summer , we are back! Send thoughts, questions and topic discussions to: [email protected] Follow us on our socials! Tiktok: @defining.you Defining You Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741&mibextid=ZbWKwL

It's been a busy summer! Mike & Kathy check in and talk about actions vs reactions. Have a question or topic discussion idea? Email [email protected] Find us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

In this episode Kathy's long time friend Krystina discuss how health and wellness are a major part of navigating life balance. You can follow Krystina at: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hair_fit_mom?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Patreon podcast: https://patreon.com/ServeandSpill?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_fan&utm_content=join_link As always you can follow, message & share us at https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

It has been almost a year since creating Defining You so l wanted re-introduce why this space was created. If you just found us, we welcome you and are so glad you are here. For those who have been supporting us all along we are so grateful and we truly appreciate and love you all. We Thank you for continuing to Follow, Like & Sharing this podcast and our facebook community 💙 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741&mibextid=ZbWKwL

Mike and Kathy discuss what the decision of leaving vs staying looked like for them from both sides.

Kathy & Mike discuss what it was like attending a wedding and what the last 18 months of recovery has been like. Send all questions and topic ideas to [email protected] Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

Mike & Kathy answer listener questions & catch-up on a few things! Send all questions and topic ideas to [email protected] Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

Kathy & Mike discuss the many different ways grief has been experienced. This is a topic discussion that is very relatable and share worthy! Send all questions and topic ideas to [email protected] Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

In this episode Kathy & Mike discuss what it was like keeping the secret of addiction from the addict side and the loved ones side. Send all questions and topic ideas to [email protected] Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

Mike & Kathy discuss their thoughts on the difference between recovery and sobriety and how it plays a part in their journey. Also answering listener questions for them together or individually. Send all questions and topic ideas to [email protected] Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

Mike & Kathy discuss what each others expectations have looked like in the past and through their recovery journey so far. They also answer listener questions. Send all questions and topic ideas to [email protected] Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

Kathy & Mike talk about how the concept of separating the addict from the true individual was a turning point for both of their recoveries and helped in healing and repairing the relationship.

This episode we talk about B.S. its not what you think! Send thoughts, questions and topic discussions to: [email protected] Send a voice message to my podcast, Defining You🪷: https://anchor.fm/definingyou/message Private chat: https://signal.group/#CjQKIJRADJTdvU-lhUO-M8IbIJ5hPC_wnwJbLEKi1eAUlpU9EhD-6Sutvq7VHlkNtUOJ-Wqq https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741&mibextid=ZbWKwL

This episode is from another Facebook LIVE discussion on our experience with boundaries and the feeling of control from both sides in addiction & in recovery. You can watch this LIVE and follow our journey on Defining You's facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741

Recorded from Defining You Facebook LIVE discussion on expectations and answering live follower questions.

In this 2 part episode we talk about support in recovery and Kathy's sister Veronica joins to discuss her perspective and how she has showed support in the recovery journey since finding out. Send thoughts, questions and topic discussions to:[email protected] a voice message to my podcast, Defining You🪷: https://anchor.fm/definingyou/messagehttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741&mibextid=ZbWKwL

What rebuilding trust looks like for us when trust was broken. Send thoughts, questions and topic discussions to: [email protected] Private chat: https://signal.group/#CjQKIJRADJTdvU-lhUO-M8IbIJ5hPC_wnwJbLEKi1eAUlpU9EhD-6Sutvq7VHlkNtUOJ-Wq https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741&mibextid=ZbWKwL

We aren’t perfect , we aren't professionals but We are Mike and Kathy,  a husband and wife sharing how we are recovering together, individually and our marriage from alcohol addiction ,codependency, and past taumas  ✨️In this episode we discuss the guilt and shame in active addiction vs sobriety ️ Let us know how we can help support you🩵 Send thoughts, questions and topic discussions to: [email protected] Send a voice message to the podcast, Defining You: https://anchor.fm/definingyou/message Find us : Defining You Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094557259741&mibextid=ZbWKwL Private chat: https://signal.group/#CjQKIJRADJTdvU-lhUO-M8IbIJ5hPC_wnwJbLEKi1eAUlpU9EhD-6Sutvq7VHlkNtUOJ-Wqq