Joy with Kendall

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a licensed professional. This content is based on personal perspective and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. This message is not meant to dismiss or minimize abuse in any form. If you've been hurt, your experience is real and valid, and the responsibility always lies with the person who caused harm. This content does not deny or minimize abuse or trauma. Being harmed is never your fault. The focus here is on personal healing and growth. Learning how to move forward without being defined solely by painful experiences.  VIDEO DESCRIPTION: This episode explores the stories we tell ourselves after trauma and setbacks, and offers practical insights on how to take responsibility, choose new narratives, and step into joy. In this episode: The importance of recognizing the stories we repeat about ourselves after challenging experiences How victim narratives can serve as protective mechanisms and why they sometimes keep us stuck The distinction between genuine victimhood and victim mentality as a way to avoid responsibility Practical steps to reframe setbacks such as breakups, betrayal, or personal failures The role of self-awareness in noticing when you're embodying a victim role and how to shift that mindset The importance of feeling emotions fully without becoming identified with them How spiritual bypassing can mask the need for authentic processing and emotional work Strategies for setting boundaries and taking action to reclaim your power The nuance of honoring genuine victimhood while avoiding prolonged victim identities XO Infinity, Kendall Joy  https://linktr.ee/joywithkendall

This episode dives into the importance of embracing imperfection, self-compassion, and the human experience. Accept mistakes, learn from them, and live authentically without the burden of perfection! XO infinity, Kendall Joy  linktr.ee/joywithkendall

In this episode, I discuss the often misunderstood concept of validation seeking. Seeking validation is a natural human need and this episode offers a compassionate perspective on navigating it healthily without guilt or shame. Key topics Validation seeking is human and necessary to some extent The societal demonization of validation behaviors The importance of self-awareness and middle ground in validation How community and connection foster feelings of being seen and chosen The significance of open communication about needs and insecurities Recognizing that validation seeking isn't inherently bad or toxic How to ask for validation and reassurance in real-time The impacts of childhood experiences on adult validation behaviors Overcoming hyper-independence by building community and trust Encouragement to reframe validation as a tool for self-growth journal prompt: how do you judge others or yourself for seeking validation?   Friendly reminder that you can not fulfill your need of being fully seen unless you put yourself out there to do so!!    XOXO Infinity,  Kendall Joy     https://linktr.ee/joywithkendall

Are you tired of feeling embarrassed about what you say or do, especially when trying to fit in? This episode shares practical insights on how embracing your true self can lead to more confidence and less shame, encouraging you to own your authenticity unapologetically. Key Topics: The link between embarrassment and seeking validation How to recognize performative behaviors versus genuine self-expression Strategies for radical self-acceptance and self-reparenting The importance of understanding your patterns around shame Overcoming the fear of rejection by aligning with your authentic self The role of repetition in rewiring your mindset How childhood experiences influence adult embarrassment Practical steps to act confidently and laugh at your own jokes The connection between self-awareness and emotional resilience Encouragement to take up space and inspire others to be authentic  

Self-awareness is amazing, yes But it is also a layered topic It can be used to transform your life and your patterns Or maybe you decide all you need is the awareness or acceptance BUT We should not romanticize people that are aware of their toxic patterns, but not taking action This episode is nuanced and created for those that want to be more aware or maybe already are, but are unsure of what to do with that awareness Because awareness is not always the key We can be aware that we self sabotage but still be unsure of how to set ourselves free! Listen for more friends XOXO Infinity, Kendall Joy

You can be in love and still be lonely Loneliness especially can be a hard feeling to digest Loneliness does not need to be fixed, it just needs to be heard This episode is about the duality of feeling, emotions, and how everything can coexist I open up about feeling lonely, despite being happy and loved This episode is messy just as it is to navigate these feelings It is okay to be lonely It is okay for the love and loneliness to hold hands Craving partnership is normal And even in relationships, you can still feel alone Anyways!  trying to keep it real over here Much love friends!!  

This episode is about having the courage to choose yourself instead of approval, even when it feels scary. Be your authentic self so you can actually attract authentic connections. Maybe you don't know what your authentic self is yet. That's okay. That is why I made this epsiode!! Be radically you and the people that reject your most authentic self, are not mean't for you friend. You'll find people that love and embrace you, but you also have to love yourself dawg!  

I go to sleep excited to wake up and you can too  Create a life that you love Have the courage to ask yourself confronting questions about your current reality and most importantly, have the courage to change it. It is the little things in life my friend! Stop reminding yourself of what you lack and remind yourself of what you have. XOXO Infinity, Kendall Joy

2025 was the most healing and transformative year of my life. I felt like I was thrown lesson, after lesson and oppurtunity after oppurtunity to act differently.  In this episode, I reflect on the inner work that changed me. I talk about facing my shadow instead of avoiding it, confronting addictions with honesty, and grieving old versions of myself that no longer fit. I share what it looked like to ask for more, to let go of people-pleasing, and to become more outspoken, clear, and truthful in my relationships and in my life. It's a real conversation about healing, accountability, and choosing growth even when it's uncomfortable. A reminder that transformation doesn't happen when we stay quiet, small, or comfortable, but when we tell the truth and allow ourselves to change. If you're in a season of release, reckoning, or becoming, this episode is for you. I've had years with big external and identity changes, but this one asked the most of me. XOXO Infinity,  Kendall Joy

Sometimes, its the tiniest mindset shifts that end up changing your life. We are always going to have times where we fall short on the goals we set or the consistency we have.  That is im evitable. But if you're like me, sometimes that causes me to abandon goals or routines all together. This short episode is a sweet reminder to be easy on yourself and expect imperfection. Perfect isn't real and a world where we never make mistakes isn't real. Allow yourself to be human!!

People pleasing isn't always obvious. Sometimes it looks like agreeing just to feel safe. Sometimes it looks like borrowing other peoples opinions because it feels easier than asking yourself what you actually believe. In this episode, I talk about what happens when we stop forming our own opinions, take sides we don't believe in, or abandon our values to avoid discomfort, conflict, or rejection. I explore how integrity can quietly slip away when belonging becomes more important than self-trust and how exhausting it is to live from borrowed beliefs. This conversation is about learning to put your values first, responding from truth instead of fear, and choosing integrity even when it means not being liked, not being understood, or not fitting neatly into a community's dynamics or drama. If you've ever felt torn between staying safe and staying true, this episode is an invitation back to yourself. Stop performing for approval and start responding from alignment.

I have been in a season where my rage baiting shadow self has wanted to be behind the wheel. But in this episode, I talk about taming shadows not shaming them... and choosing peace instead of chaos. We can still be rageful and mad... but noticing how we can actually take control without losing ourself is key. In this episode, I share my own stories & outcomes of when my behavior was more destructive than it was constructive.  Regulation over reaction. Peace over proving.  And The art of being misunderstood through it all. XOXO infinity, Kendall Joy

To be weird is to be free! Tap into your childlike wonder & weirdness.  Heal through communities that embrace you & mirror to you that its okay to be yourself. Love your weirdness enough to share it with others! Be authentic. Be you. Stop watering yourself down.  There are people out there that love you!!! Even if you haven't found them yet. Just please do me a favor. Stop shrinking to make others comfortable.  Checkout my youtube channel for the video! https://www.youtube.com/@Joywithkendall Go spread joy & love!!! XOXO∞ Kendall Joy

Rewrite old narratives and beliefs with this episode. Release old insecurities. Create beliefs that feel like home. Create a life that you actually love living. Stop believing your inner critic. It isn't your voice. Stay tuned for bloopers at the end!!! XOXO, Kendall Joy

This episode is the permission you need to rest and stop doing. You don't need to be productive to be worthy. Avoid burnout and embrace a more balanced life.  Enjoy some bloopers at the end. (: XOXO ∞ Kendall Joy

This epsiode dives into the theme of self-worth and the importance of owning one's value without relying on external validation. I share my personal journey of recognizing my worth, the challenges of asking for more in various aspects of life, and the significance of self-acceptance. The discussion emphasizes the need to break free from the cycle of seeking validation from others to own our worth. Speak up for yourself lovey!!! People will only respect you as much as you respect yourself.  Do not undervalue yourself. XOXO ∞ Kendall Joy    

Real>Perfect. Let's talk about letting go of the pressure to have it all together and finally giving yourself permission to be human.  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Joywithkendall

Tell yourself you are worthy and beautiful, and actually believe it. Confidence is way easier to embody than we think, it just takes time and presence with ourselves. In this episode, we stop self abandoning and give ourselves the energy, power, and reassurance that is actually needed for steady confidence. Not something that is fleeting depending on others treatment or perception of us.

Alright guys... todays episode is messy, honest, and insightful. I share my own experiences with jealousy and the realizations within it that make it less scary to feel.  Jealousy can actually be a tool we use as a mirror, showing us what we actually need or desire underneath it. Toward the end I share a few steps that help me move through jealousy instead of letting it take over. If you want to skip straight to the steps, jump to 10:00.

In this episode, we're talking about cycles and why it's completely okay to repeat them sometimes. It doesn't mean you've failed; it means there's something deeper waiting to be understood.  Relapse and repetition are part of growth, not the end of it. This episode is your reminder to meet yourself with compassion, keep showing up, and remember- you're not alone in this work. Beating yourself up for being human is unnecessary. Lets love ourselves instead. :)   

In this episode, we're talking friendship filters. How to tell if your connections are rooted in authenticity or obligation. Are you spending time with people who genuinely nourish you, or are you saying yes out of guilt, habit, or fear of rejection? This episode dives into what it means to live and love from integrity- being honest about how certain relationships make you feel, communicating your truth, and setting boundaries that protect your energy and your time. You'll explore the difference between friendships that fill your cup and those that quietly drain you, how to recognize when you're people-pleasing instead of connecting, and how to release relationships with grace, without resentment or guilt.

In this episode, I talk about what it means to create from a place of joy instead of suffering- to stop trying to control the outcome or perfect the process and just own who you are right now. I'm in a season of transition, where old doors are closing and new versions of myself are still finding their shape. Rather than rushing to have it all figured out, I'm learning to meet myself in the messy middle... to create, express, and share from honesty instead of from a need to fix or prove anything. This one's not about advice; it's about realness, presence, and allowing yourself to just own yourself

In this episode of Joy with Kendall, I'm unpacking the burnout that comes from trying to be everything for everyone... and the uncomfortable truth I had to face: it wasn't what I was doing that drained me… it was how I was showing up. I talk about the savior complex, the pressure to fix and over-function, and the belief that love has to be earned through constant tending, giving, and guilt. Spoiler: it doesn't. I explore how I've linked being "needed" with being "worthy," and how that led to energetic imbalance, resentment, and emotional exhaustion. This episode is a call to reclaim your energy, recognize your limits, and remember that care doesn't have to cost your well-being. You're allowed to stop performing your worth. You're allowed to rest. 

In this no-holds-barred episode of "Joy With Kendall," we tear down the facade of positivity and dive headfirst into the gritty reality of feeling our emotions. I get real about the bullshit of bypassing feelings and the societal crap that tells us to hide our true selves. It's time to face the parts of ourselves we hate, understand why, and embrace the messiness. This episode is a wake-up call to stop running from our emotions and start owning them. Get ready for some uncomfortable truths and a journey towards real, raw healing. If you're tired of the fake positivity and ready to get real, this one's for you.

In this kickoff to the Joy with Kendall rebrand, we're ditching the performance and getting real. This episode is an invitation to be exactly who you are- not just vibrant and weird, but fiery, soft, sad, messy… whatever's true for you in the moment. No more dimming, no more faking. It's not about being liked- it's about being honest, and living with grace, not suppression. Let's howl our truth and love every part of it.

Lets turn our inner demons into our dance partners. But how? In epsiode 3 of season 4: Running home to yourself, facing your demons plays a huge role in fully coming home to the self. We all have demons—parts of ourselves we hide, suppress, or fear. But what if those shadows weren't meant to be fought, but embraced? In this episode, I share one of my own demons and dive into the raw, unfiltered conversations most people avoid. We talk about the uncomfortable, the messy, and the parts of ourselves we'd rather not face—because true freedom comes from dancing with our darkness, not running from it.

We've been taught to fear anger—to suppress it, ignore it, or label it as "bad." But what if rage isn't something to get rid of? What if it's a doorway to power, clarity, and creativity? In this episode, I explore the true purpose of anger and why it's not a destructive force but an essential part of healing and self-expression. I read an excerpt from Letting Go by David Hawkins, share tools for fully feeling and processing anger, and break down how to channel it into creativity instead of suppression. Your rage has something to teach you. Are you ready to listen?

Welcome to SEASON 4: Running Home to Yourself In this episode, we dive into the journey of coming home to yourself—acknowledging past hurts, being emotionally available for your own needs, and breaking the cycle of seeking love and validation externally. True healing begins when we stop running from ourselves and start holding space for our own emotions, growth, and self-love. Join me as we explore what it means to give yourself the love you've always searched for, to sit with your feelings instead of escaping them, and to find peace in your own presence. This is your reminder that you are the home you've been looking for. Tune in and take the first step toward truly belonging to yourself.

In this episode, I explore the subconscious ways we engage in people-pleasing behaviors. We dive into the deeply ingrained patterns that drive these actions, bringing awareness to how they show up in our lives. With this awareness, we can make empowered, conscious decisions to break these habits and start acting in alignment with our true selves.   Other episodes of mine to help with people pleasing: How to stop people pleasing Let them down. Choose yourself. The importance of self-expression: speaking your truth with boundaries and confrontation

Forgivenss is hard. But it can be made a bit easier when you have steps and tools to help you. In this episode, I ask questions to invite a more intropecive outlook on forgiveness and the emotions that come with it. There is no right or wrong. Trust yourself to navigate your emotions and forgiveness.  4:13 How to forgive 10:16 Why you should forgive (or not) 12:08 Words of wisdom and a daily mantra From the book: Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations For Women Author: Karen Casey IG: JoywithKendall Podcast IG: TheLevitatingPodcast Please feel free to reach out with any questions or shares! Check out my previous podcast episode: Betrayal: Why it keeps happening to you  

I think as a society, it is hard to not be criritcal. Especially when a lot of us may have grown up with people that were very critical of us. This episode brings light to acceptance, self awareness, and holidng ourselves accountable.    Prompts for criticalness: In what ways do you judge yourself? Are there parts of yourself that you ignore or run away from? When was the last time you felt you were hyper critical of someone? Do you see this trait in yourself? What parts of yourself do find unfavorable?  Do you find it easier to focus on others rather than yourself? If so, why? Where would you like to implement more acceptance? Are there traits that trigger you or annoy you that you see in others?  Do you feel like you were critisized a lot as a child? If so, do you feel like this impacts you now?

This episode is for my recovering people pleasers. I dive into the art of choosing oneself and awakening to subconsious ways we seek validation. We do not have to give or do things for others to prove or worth. Our worth is not a reflection of what we are able to do or accomplish for others. Just be, my friend. I hope to motivate and inspire you to bring your awareness to the inner power you have without the cloud of limiting beliefs.

Listen to this episode and find out why betrayal keeps showing up in your life. Not only am I going to share my experiences, I am going to share how you can reshape and take charge of yours.  We actually have more power when it comes to this betrayal than we think...

In this episode we go over three things: What are limiting beleifs? How to identify limiting beliefs? How to reprogram these beliefs? Even if they are rooted deep into the subconsious mind.  Through this, I go over 6 tools to get rid of limiting beliefs so you can truly attarct the life you desire without limiting thoughts or patterns holding you back!

Chronic apologizing was once my speciality. With that, I have learned how incredibly uncomfortable and anxiety driven it can be. This episode is a reflection of why we always feel the need to say sorry, and what we can say instead. 

Healing and growing in any capacity, inevitably can cause changes to our internal state which eventually manifests externally. This could mean losing friends, not enjoyng things you used to, or not resonating with people/events like you once did. This episode is about how you can normalize and accept those changes. 

This podcast is catered to help you feel confident and secure in each decision you make. How to Gain Access to Your Inner Voice & Intuition Episode BELOW: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1LqISk21V4kmwUREFGib9x?si=4fcc5200cd48470d Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-gain-access-to-your-inner-voice-intuition-help/id1722886381?i=1000651032971   

Are you feeling stuck? Are you not sure how to get out of a rut? In this episode, I uncover how energy gets trapped into the body and how it impacts the physical reality that we experience. I then go into how we can allow energy to run freely and how it can allow our day to day life to run in harmony as well. 

The fear of abandonment can really take control of our lives and our ability to feel secure and safe in relationships. I know this feeling all too well! In this episode, I uncover several truths on how to overcome this wound and see it in a completley different light.    Past episodes to help you become more rooted within yourself: How to Know if You Love Yourself Cultivating and Integrating Self-Trust The Importance of Self-Expression: Speaking Your Truth with Boudaries and Confrontation Fully Embodying Confidence: Unlocking the Secrets to Transforming Insecurity Stepping into Authenticity: Stop Playing Small and Embrace Your Vibrancy The KEY to Self-Love and The Power of Shadow Work

I am SO stoked for todays episode. Do you want to feel in control of your life? Do you want to truly be in love with the life you live? Same!!!!! Thats why I made this very epsiode. I use motivational language to help you apply two ideas into your life to forever change the way you view your actions and how you live.

Self-love is something I see coaches and creators constantly talk about. But, in this episode I go over ONE point that no one ever mentions. There is truly one thing that will skyrocket your journey to self-love that the internet seems to be missing. Although shadow work is not the point I go over, it ties into integrating the point I share and how powerful shadow work can be and the transformative aspects it brings.

Do you have a hard time trusting your intuition? Do you have a hard time feeling connected to your inner voice? Or maybe you do not even know how to identify intution vs. anxiety. This short episode tells you all you need to know to build that intuitive muscle and slowly gain more access and trust to that intuitive voice inside of you. Doing so will help you feel more confident in your decisions and inutituve nudges. 

Authenticity is the highest vibrational frequency of love that we can step into. This episode goes over 3 reasons why we have a hard time being our most authentic self. Following, I then give 3 actionable ways to step into the our loudest, most vibrant self without guilt or shame.

In this transformative episode, I go over 6 actionable steps to apply into your life to truly step into the most confident version of yourself. 

In this episode, we break away from outdated conditioning that makes us fearful of standing up for ourselves and being honest with others. Using our voice is a vital way we express ourselves and by listening to this episode, you will hold all the power you need to use it.

Overcoming fear can feel paralyzing at times. It is an emotion that keeps us safe, but sometimes that fear is really just holding us back from limitless possibilites. In this episode, we go into actionable steps and ways to overcome this fear and move through it rather than to be stopped in our tracks.

Trusting oneself can be deteriorated over time when we are constantly looking to others in making decisions. This can even lead to mistrust in our nearby relationships. So, it is important to maintain a high level of self-trust for a higher quality of life and relationships. Which is exactly why I made this episode. (:

As humans, it is natural for us to have thoughts and even feel overcome by them. But what person is it that is believing those thoughts? Or letting those thoughts overcome them? Mhm... Listen to learn how to take your control back!

I struggled with social anxiety my entire life... this is an episode I wish my younger self could hear. Which is why I am sharing it with you Below are some self soothing techniques to use when feeling social anxiety. - Chewing a piece of gum and noticing the sensations, tastes, textures to help bring attention to something rather than your anxiety. -You can also notice the sounds, tastes, or temperature of everything in your surrounding area.  

No matter how much you love yourself, there is always more room for love. In this episode, I go over 8 different ways to know if you truly love yourself.