Simply Scrupulosity

One of my viewers recently asked me, "Where do you draw the line between Scrupulosity OCD and church culture? Your account has opened my eyes to a lot of harmful thought patterns, but I feel like these are taught to us as children."My viewer has a point! Especially when it comes to high-demand religions, it can be hard to differentiate between what can be classified as Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and what is simply part of the religion. In this episode, we discuss:- What aspects of church culture can be confused with Scrupulosity OCD- How to differentiate between Scrupulosity OCD and church culture- How we can do betterConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

One of the most common messages I get in my inbox is Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) sufferers wondering how they can stop realizing on avoidance as a compulsion. Avoidance comes up for a multitude of different reasons. But no matter the reason, it can be just as distressing to try and overcome. That's why I made today's episode!When you tune in, you'll discover:How common avoidance as a compulsion is + why it often comes upCommon pitfalls Religious OCD sufferers face when trying to overcome avoidanceMy favorite way to avoid avoidance with Scrupulosity OCDConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Many people know that Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is commonly referred to as the doubting disorder. However, what most people don't know is that the doubts that are part of OCD know almost no boundaries.In fact, many Scrupulosity OCD sufferers eventually deal with chronic doubt about whether God thinks they're just pretending to have Religious OCD so that they have an excuse to sin and be disobedient.If this sounds familiar, this episode is for you! Tune in to discover:How to respond when this doubt comes upHow common it is for Religious OCD sufferers to experience this worryAnd more!For more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/does-god-think-you-re-using-scrupulosity-ocd-as-an-excuseConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

If you've ever asked yourself, "Is this faith or OCD?", then this episode is for you!In this viewer-requested discussion, we'll cover how to identify when your religious behaviors cross the line over into magical thinking territory - a tell-tale sign that your Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is getting involved. In addition, we'll talk about:What exactly magical thinking is within the context of OCDThree specific examples of how magical thinking shows up in Religious OCDHow to identify magical thinking in your own experiences with OCDFor more information, check out my blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/when-does-faith-become-magical-thinking-in-scrupulosity-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

In this episode, I discuss everything about my journey with Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - from when my first symptoms appeared to when I was finally diagnosed nearly 20 years later!Tune in to: Learn about early warning signs of Scrupulosity OCDGet examples of common Scrupulosity OCD thought loops and compulsionsA sneak peek into where I am in my OCD recoveryConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

When you're struggling with Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), the last thing you need is to feel lonely and/or isolated when you are attending church. However, knowing how to open up and make friends who may relate to you can sometimes be difficult.In this viewer-requested episode, we discuss:Overcoming feeling like it's taboo to discuss Religious OCD at churchSimple ways to try to reach out and make friends at church when you have OCDMy own experiences making connections with others through my Scrupulosity OCDFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/making-friends-at-church-when-you-have-scrupulosity-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

After you are diagnosed with Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), it's very common to question the validity of your past religious experiences. You may wonder how many of the times you felt "the Spirit" were simply the reduction in anxiety that occurs after a compulsion is completed.This often leads to individuals with Religious OCD going through a type of "faith crisis" in which they may struggle to determine what they do and do not believe, mourning who they thought they were/used to be and more.In this episode, we discuss all things related to mourning your past religious experiences (or your past self) during Scrupulosity OCD recovery, including:When you feel like you're starting from scratch when it comes to religionBeing afraid to tell others how complicated religion currently is for youHow to navigate this season with grace and self-compassionFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/for-when-you-mourn-who-you-were-before-scrupulosity-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Back when I was living with undiagnosed Scrupulosity OCD, one of my most destructive OCD cycle loops had to do with developing Christlike attributes - especially humility. The Religious OCD distorted humility to mean that it was sinful to be proud of yourself, feel hurt by other people, etc. And this is not a common occurrence among the Scrupulosity OCD community. That's why in this episode, I'm sharing my do's and don'ts when it comes to humility as a Scrupulosity OCD sufferer. For more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/articlesConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

At first glance, it may appear that Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) has nothing to do with how Thanksgiving goes for you. However, that may not be the case! In this episode, learn all about how exactly OCD may ramp up during the holidays AND how you can best cope with it. For more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/how-scrupulosity-ocd-affects-your-thanksgiving-experience Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

When your self-love is rooted in your religious beliefs, that means it is conditional upon things like:Whether or not you’re following the “rules”If you’re spending your time wiselyIf you’re serving people enoughIf enough people love you (because that means you are righteous)Sound familiar? This podcast episode is for you. Listen to the episode to learn:How to untie your self-esteem from your religious beliefsHow religious discourse can affect your self-esteemHow to overcome the hurdles that come with developing a healthy self-esteemFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/why-your-self-love-shouldn-t-be-tied-to-your-religionConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

You don't have to have Scrupulosity OCD to wonder if God has truly forgiven you for your sins. However, people with Religious OCD need to approach the question much  differently.In this episode, we discuss how to respond when you find yourself wondering if you're truly forgiven. We also talk about:What feeling guilt means when you have Scrupulosity OCDHow to respond to intrusive thoughts about God's forgivenessWhat religious discourse surrounding God's forgiveness to avoid applying into your own live when you have OCDFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/how-do-you-know-you-ve-been-forgiven-by-god-if-you-have-scrupulosity-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Exposure and Response Prevention therapy (ERP) involves a person with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) completing tasks that are targeted to help them face the fears that are driving the OCD cycle.For those with Scrupulosity OCD, those exposures involve things like changing the way they pray, skipping church or doing other behaviors that they believe might offend God. It's no wonder that many individuals with Scrupulosity OCD feel like ERP is basically just purposefully committing sins. If you're in that same boat, this podcast episode is for you. We'll discuss:How to navigate ERP when it feels like a sinHelpful tips for successfully completing Scrupulosity OCD ERPThe results of exposure therapy for Religious OCDFor more information on this topic, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/erp-for-scrupulosity-ocd-can-feel-like-a-sinConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) certainly isn't a disorder that only affects the sufferer. And if your loved one has Scrupulosity OCD, it can be very difficult to know how you can best support them.In this episode, we talk about 5 ways OCD can affect relationships and 5 ways you can effectively support your loved one with Scrupulosity OCD. We also discuss:How to navigate when taboo topics come upHow you can ensure you don't encourage compulsionsThe best ways you can take care of yourself in the processFor more information on this topic, check out abbietabbilos.comConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

It's common to think that if you don't feel happiness or peace, it means you have done something wrong and need to repent. Scrupulosity OCD can find tons of evidence for you to feel this way, and even though you can tell it's harmful for you to think this way, it feels so real!In this episode, we talk about how to address when emotions feel like evidence, and feelings feel like facts. In addition, you'll hear about: Pema Chodron's quote, "Pain is not a punishment, pleasure is not a reward" and how it applies to Scrupulosity OCDStrategies for how to address OCD stories like the one mentioned aboveA healthier way to respond to your emotionsFor more information on this topic (and Pema Chodron's quote), check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/feelings-are-not-facts-especially-when-you-have-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

If you've been diagnosed with Scrupulosity (Religious) Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), chances are you have been confused about whether you received revelation from God or if it was just your OCD talking.I understand that answering this question can be incredibly complicated, especially since many people eventually realize that some of their most treasured spiritual experiences were simply the reduction in anxiety that comes from completing the OCD cycle.In this episode, we cover everything you need to know about how to discern God's voice when you have OCD, including:Key adjectives that describe both the Spirit and OCDHow to avoid getting trapped in the OCD cycle when you're trying to figure out what is OCD and what isn'tReal-life examples that illustrate how to do soFor more information on this topic, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/is-it-the-spirit-or-ocdOr this article: https://iocdf.org/faith-ocd/living-with-ocd-religious-traditions/church-of-jesus-christ-of-latter-day-saints/Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Have you ever wondered if worry was a sin? If you have, it's probably because a lot of people genuinely think it is. In fact, they often cite increased faith and/or prayer as the perfect antidotes to worry. However, for people with Scrupulosity/Religious Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), believing that worry is sinful can be incredibly harmful, not only because OCD sufferers don't have control over which worries come into their minds, but also because it encourages believers to monitor their thoughts for sinful content.In this podcast episode, we talk about the importance of moving away from believing that worry is a sin and why that it is important. We also discuss:Why many people believe worrying is sinfulThe healthiest way folks with Scrupulosity OCD can view worrying The importance of nuance in religious relationshipsFor more information on this topic, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/is-worry-a-sin-how-people-with-scrupulosity-ocd-should-view-itConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

If you have Scrupulosity/Religious Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) there's a big chance you may have had difficulty deciphering whether or not the religious behaviors you participate in are because of your faith, or because your OCD is talking.For example, you may feel an overwhelming need to repent for a sin you committed, but you are unsure whether that is because you actually made a mistake, or your OCD wants you to find certainty that you are in good standing with God.Or, you may be excessively concerned about missing a day of prayer or scripture study, but you can't tell if that's because you have so much faith or because you are afraid to do anything wrong.In this episode, I share what I've learned about how to avoid doing compulsions and develop a healthy relationship with religion in Scrupulosity OCD recovery. In addition, we discuss:The relationship OCD sufferers can have with obedienceHow fear drives all OCD compulsionsThe importance of avoiding fear-based obedience in Scrupulosity OCD recoveryFor more information on this topic, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/avoiding-fear-based-obedience-in-scrupulosity-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

When I asked my followers what they wanted to hear me speak about on a podcast episode, they said "How to manage the everyday exhaustion of intrusive thoughts." And if you have OCD, you know that if you had to pick one adjective to describe living with the disorder, "exhausting" would be near the top of the list!In this episode, we talk about what everyday life dealing with OCD intrusive thoughts can look like and how you can cope with exhaustion while expressing self-compassion. In addition, we'll talk about:- What showing up everyday actually looks like- The best tool for combatting a difficult day with intrusive thoughts- How to approach thinking about your intrusive thoughtsFor more information on this topic, and to see the image mentioned in this episode, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/managing-intrusive-thoughtsConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is already complicated enough before you consider that it isn't much of a stretch for the OCD sufferer to develop complicated feelings towards their faith.In my journey with Scrupulosity OCD, I've asked myself questions like:- If I wasn't raised in a religious household, would I still have developed OCD?- Is it worth it to remain an active member of my religion?- Is my religion making my OCD worse?It's painful to consider the idea that maybe I wouldn't have suffered so much if I was not a religious person. Plus, these questions have led me to compulsively avoid religion, and then fall into a hole of doubt and questioning everything about my faith. How do you go about processing this? In this episode, we'll talk about: - People who were raised in Athiest households have still developed Scrupulosity OCD- Even though religion isn't to blame for the existence of Scrupulosity OCD, that doesn't mean it isn't okay to develop complicated feelings about your faith- The mourning involved in healing from Scrupulosity OCD- Three ways I am working through these feelingsFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/i-blame-my-church-for-my-scrupulosity-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is really good at making a person question everything about who they are.For example, Scrupulosity OCD may heavily impact a person's religious identity by making them unsure of what they believe or what mistakes they may have made. Relationship OCD can blur the lines of what a person's thoughts and actions mean and how others might perceive them – and that's only scratching the surface.If you've asked yourself, "Who am I without OCD?" then this podcast episode is for you. We'll discuss: How to come back home to yourself when you have OCDStrategies for deciphering your valuesCreating an anchor you can turn to when you OCD tries to pull you away from realityHow you can do all of this without letting OCD over-complicate the processFor more information on I-CBT, click here: https://icbt.online/For more information on this topic, click here: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/who-am-i-without-ocdConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Living with OCD is incredibly exhausting. So how do you find the energy to apply the skills and tools to recover from the very mental illness that is creating mental and emotional exhaustion?In this episode, we discuss the small steps you can take towards recovery, even when you are mentally and emotionally exhausted. In addition, we'll cover: - How OCD recovery doesn't always have to be hard work- How to cope when you are struggling and overwhelmed with OCD- Strategies for starting small- How it's as exhausting to get beaten down by OCD as it is to stand up to itFor more information on this topic, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/how-to-recover-from-ocd-when-you-re-mentally-and-emotionally-exhaustedCheck out the YouTube video I mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifCkgl6E98Y Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

I don't know anyone who struggles with their mental health that doesn't suffer a mental health relapse from time to time. And perhaps one of the most difficult parts of those relapses is the fact that it can be extremely difficult to have self compassion. In this episode, we'll discuss 5 ways you can show yourself some compassion, even when it feels impossible. In addition, you'll learn:What a mental health relapse can look likeWhat to do when you start to winder if you even deserve to feel betterHow to take the first step to recovering from a mental health relapseThe value of mindfulness and values-based living For more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/how-to-have-self-compassion-when-it-feels-impossibleConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Mental illness can take so much from you – relationships, self-esteem, experiences – even simply the ability to feel joy, or feel anything at all. That's why it's no wonder that people who suffer from OCD (or anxiety, or depression, or anything in between) may sometimes think to themselves, "If I just didn't have anxiety, I could be happy." Or, "If I just didn't have OCD, my life would be incredibly different."These feelings are VALID and INCREDIBLY real, but what do you do with them once you've felt them? How do you move forward?In this episode, we'll dive into a different perspective that can help those who struggle with mental health difficulties find hope and fall in love with being who they are again. We'll also discuss:How mental health changes your lifeHow to stop yourself from getting into the "what ifs" The freedom that comes from believing things couldn't have, or should have, been any differentAllowing yourself to mourn and grieve Moving towards acceptanceFor more information on the information discussed in this episode, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/your-life-might-not-be-better-without-mental-illnessConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

When you get anxious, you have two options: resist it, or lean into vulnerability. In this episode, we'll discuss how rather than letting anxiety harden you into resistance, you can let it soften you. You can stop fearing anxiety. In addition, we'll discuss:Resisting anxiety is natural because you are trying to protect yourselfAlthough anxiety is extremely uncomfortable, it cannot hurt youYou can learn how to embrace all human emotion through mindfulnessFor more information on how you can apply mindfulness for anxiety, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/overcoming-the-fear-of-feeling-anxious Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Do you ever feel like your emotions take over, clouding your judgement and making it hard for you make decisions?If so, this week's episode is for you! We're going to be discussing the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) concept of Wise Mind, which details how you can find the right balance between rational mind and emotional mind to healthily regulate your emotions. Plus, we'll discuss:How hormone fluctuations can affect mental health The difference between rational and emotional reasoningHow you can live a more emotionally balanced life, even when emotions are highFor more information on Wise Mind, see this blog: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/utilizing-wise-mind-for-emotional-regulationConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

After an individual is diagnosed with Scrupulosity OCD, they may question EVERYTHING about their past religious beliefs because they realize many of the times they thought they were experiencing God's love was just the reduction in anxiety that comes from participating in the OCD cycle. That's why I said in Episode 2 of The Enough Effect that as a Scrupulosity OCD sufferer, it felt like my entire religious past was a phony and I didn't know where to go from there. I've been thinking a lot about that, and I realized that was just another way OCD was trapping me: I either had all the faith, or I had none. In this episode, we'll discuss how to overcome black and white thinking when it comes to Scrupulosity OCD, including:Honoring and validating your past positive experiences with religionGiving yourself permission to live in a grey areaNot getting sucked into trying to figure out what was real and what was not (yes, that's another one of OCD's tricks)Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

I'm not sure I've met someone who struggles with mental health who doesn't feel shame about it from time to time. But why is that the case?Whether you're worried about being a burden on people you love or struggle giving yourself permission to slow down and feel your emotions, you're not alone. In today's episode, we're discussing how you can overcome the shame that often surrounds mental health difficulties and learn to give yourself compassion in any scenario - because you are worthy of love and acceptance, no matter your past or present struggles.Tune in to discover:- How shame shows up in many different mental health difficulties- A story that could change your perspective on unconditional love and acceptance through mental health struggles- How to live with greater compassion for yourself and othersFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/articlesConnect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

If you are a person with anxiety, then you've definitely heard someone say something like, "Resisting anxiety only strengthens it. You just have to accept your anxiety and then things will get better." But so often, those people don't explain what accepting anxiety actually means!In this episode, we'll dive into everything you need to know about how to accept anxiety's presence in your life WITHOUT submitting yourself to a bleak, anxiety-filled future. In addition, we'll cover:What it really means to accept anxietyHow to be more open and flexible with your emotionsHow to change your relationship with anxiety (and all of your emotions)How to let go of fear and resistance to anxietyFor more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/what-it-means-to-accept-anxietyThe book mentioned in this episode is "Everyday Mindfulness for OCD" by Jon Hershfield and Shala Nicely.Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Today we're discussing a bit of a harsh truth for those of us who have mental heath difficulties: eventually, we have to take responsibility for what goes on in our minds.This is especially true for those of us who deal with intrusive thoughts. Although we can't control what thoughts we get, we can control what we do with those thoughts and how those thoughts affect us. In this episode, I share an analogy to help you feel empowered to take on your intrusive thoughts in a way that makes you feel empowered, rather than victimized. Other talking points include: How I went from struggling deeply with intrusive thoughts to feeling like life was light againHow the idea of taking responsibility for my own mental health empowered meHow sitting with the discomfort of change can lead to your thoughts not having power over you anymoreHow you have a greater choice than you think you do when it comes to interacting with your intrusive thoughtsFor more information about what was discussed in this episode, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/managing-ocd-thought-loops-with-responsibility Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a condition where the individual suffers from persistent, unwanted thoughts, intense anxiety and drives to do compulsive behaviors centered around matters or religion or morality. Like many subtypes of OCD, it is also characterized by excessive doubt and fear of uncertainty.I have suffered from this condition nearly all my life, but was only accurately diagnosed in late 2023. In my healing journey, one question has been at the forefront of my mind: how do you have faith when you have Scrupulosity OCD?Although it is difficult, it is not impossible to sort out how to interact with God, religion and morality in a healthy way when you have Scrupulosity OCD. In this podcast, I will discuss what I have learned in the past year to help me do so, including:- Processing the intense emotions that come up after your diagnosis/when you realize how much OCD was impacting your relationship with God and religion- Learning to think of faith as a choice, rather than as an absence of uncertainty or doubt- Aligning your life with your values, rather than what your OCD tells you to do or fear- How to be comfortable in grey areasFor more information, consider checking out my blog post on this topic: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/how-to-have-faith-when-you-have-scrupulosity-ocd Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2

Whether you have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), think you might have OCD, or love someone with OCD, this episode is for you. OCD is an incredibly misunderstood disorder, often used as the punch line of jokes or as a way to define "quirks" or personality traits. But it's important to understand OCD for what it is, both so that we can understand what may be going on in our own brains and so that we can extend understanding to those we love who may be suffering from this disorder. That's why I'm breaking the OCD cycle down to the very basics.Today we'll be covering:How I got my OCD diagnosisWhat the four steps to the OCD cycle are and how they operate within different themes, including intrusive thoughts, anxiety, compulsions and a temporary reduction in anxietyHow you don't have to have OCD to relate to what an OCD sufferer goes throughThe two key differentiators of OCD: doubt and an intolerance of uncertaintyHow to recover from OCDHope for those with OCDFor more information, consider checking out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/what-is-ocd Connect with me:Website: https://www.abbietabbilos.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/abstabbs/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abstabbsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tothemoonandbacknomatterwhatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AbbieTabbilosLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/abbie-tabbilos-55ab9422aDownload my free 3-step guide, "Recovering from Scrupulosity OCD: A Crash Course":  https://www.abbietabbilos.com/newsletter-free-resource-landing-pageHeadshot photo credit: Mark Daeson Tabbilos from Your Filipino Photographer. Can be found at: https://yourfilipinophotographer.square.site/Theme music: Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/zoo/our-storyLicense code: AQFEUYRLNTZVNBD2