Unhinged & Unapologetic

I know this is gonna be controversial, but I need you to be a man! Ghosting is no longer appropriate and women are really fed up with it! Because I don’t think people realize that there was a time in our society where men would literally go to battle and instead now they’re too afraid to even text a girl to say that they Cannot be in a relationship with her or they’re afraid of commitment or whatever the case may be! So I’m gonna share some of my hot takes about masculine and feminine energy and some of my more recent dating diatribes that have gone so horribly awry because men can’t seem to figure it out! And we’re gonna go ahead and discuss this whole Maneater culture that has been 100% shaped by the way our dating society has allowed it to be shaped Because if we wanna talk about maneaters and why they exist, we need to get to the root of the problem because the reason why man eating women exist are because men stopped learning how to use fkn power tools!

Welcome back to another thrilling episode! I have missed you all so let’s catch up! Let’s catch up on why it looks like I’ve been in the witness protection program for the last six months! Let’s talk about a new concept that we’re taking into 2025 and just overall air out some dirty laundry! As always, you can find the podcast on my personal Instagram because after all, I am the original Unhinged & Unapologetic baddie! There are a lot of people out there who claim to be “unhinged“ and they use that word so freely, but I would like you to know that I will always be the original. So you can find that content at stuffhollydoes and on TikTok under Unhinged & Unapologetic or just my first and last name! Welcome back y’all the circus is alive and well!

On this wonderful episode, we are going to bring a bit of pop culture and media influence into our mental health gambit today. We are going to discuss why I feel so strongly about the Erik and Lyle Menendez case and how I can personally understand some of their points of view. We’re going to dive into the mental health aspect of why they did what they did and go over the facts of the case and then do a comparative analysis on whether or not the outcome would’ve been different if they were females. I think we are at a bit of a turning point in our society, where people are starting to look back on cases from the past and analyze them through different lenses and understand perspectives that they didn’t understand prior. I wanna dive into the psychological aspect what happens to a person when they are abused and then they become free from their abuser and discuss a little bit more about what that looks like moving forward and just general thoughts and feelings about thiscase And what that looks like for everyone. We’re gonna take the case and we’re gonna talk about it from a mental health perspective and also just from a social justice perspective and just shift our narrative a little bit while the podcast gets back on track with different types of content.

Let’s talk about why Demeure is trending. Let’s talk about how if you need an Internet trend to tell you who you are. You never actually knew who you were in the first place! At some point, we have to stop letting social media. Tell us who we are. At some point social media has to stop calling the shots! I understand that it’s very if all your friends jump would you jump but that’s what this trend is giving. I wanted to discuss why I think it’s a little unhealthy for people to morph their entire identities into something different because of one word that was said, by one creator on one video. Will go through a couple of updates. Will catch up discuss dating and disgusting bald white men and we will be back soon even better!

The biggest way to disappoint yourself is to expect you from other people. Do not ever expect anybody to do you the way that you would do you. You need to understand that not everybody has the best intentions not everybody cares the way that you care and not, everybody is going to show up the way that you show up. I apply a lot of this this week into dating and what dating culture is like and what it is like to love so hard with everyone and care so deeply with everyone to be let down by what society has normalized within its toxic culture. I cannot expect somebody to do the same as I would and neither can you, so let’s talk about it

Why are we so worried about fitting into boxes that we were never meant to fit into? In this episode we break down what it is like for me to go through a mini identity crisis after finishing school and trying to understand who I am now and how society really does try to mold us in shape us into the boxes that were supposed to fit in and we’re supposed to be jealous of other peoples lives and other peoples boxes that they check off and all of the accomplishments that they have when everybody’s journey is not the same. We discuss what it is may or may not be a serial killer on a dating app. This episode is just as unhinged as you would imagine but this is why I do not fit societies meet little boxes with a bow and neither should you and you should always go your own way!!!

Let’s catch up guys! I love you all so much for being so patient with me and just allowing me the time to heal and get through the things that I’ve been needing to get through! I’ve missed you guys so much so let’s get into what’s been going on lately! One of the biggest things that I wanna talk to you guys about is an experience that I just had recently but is a hot topic up for debate and up for discussion lately and the reason why I say it is up for discussion and debate lately is because it is becoming so much more normalized in our society and I think it’s deplorable! So let’s talk about what it’s like to either be the Casper or date the Casper! Let’s talk about what it is like for the person on the receiving end to understand and overcome that it has nothing to do with you and it has everything to do with the other person. But let’s also not forget that the other person is also at fault but the reasons why they did it are none of your business!

Let’s discuss the elephant in the room! The piping hot tea! The story everyone has been waiting for! I’m actually just kidding! Due to some unforeseen unhingedness, we will not be spilling as much tea as anybody might think but we are gonna talk about is what it is like when someone has too much time on their hands and they’ve built you an entire plot of land in their head to live rent free! When someone decides to build you a plot of land in their head, it is because they are delusional enough to think that you care enough about it! When insecurity meets security, it scrambles peoples brains and we need to have a larger conversation about it so let’s get into it.

Let’s break down the stereotype of alpha females! Let’s discuss how Alpha females were a man-made created thing and that weak men created strong females! This episode is not just for The Girlies but I cannot stress enough. If You are not ready to hear this as a man quit listening Let’s discuss what it is like to be one of the boys and when it goes too far and what it is like to navigate through male friendships while being a female who is strong willed and does have a good sense of boundaries and healthy, communication and healthy attachment styles! We also discussed a little bit about upcoming guest spots, so be on the lookout for that and also DM me if you are interested in coming on the podcast as a guest and sharing your story or your healing and mental health journey!

Can you guys believe that this is already season two!? Let’s recap the last year talk about some of the highs, the lows, the guests, the jokes, the unhinged us! Let’s talk about all the things we learned and everything that we embraced over the year and then we’re going to cover a new topic! This is a little bit chaotic because I was coming off of a two week hiatus and my dog was absolutely going nuts in the background so it’s a bit chaotic, but I want to get the point across about when you were sure of yourself hanging around people who aren’t sure of themselves is going to piss you off. Their low vibration is going to try to mess with the higher vibration that you operate on. So let’s talk about what that looks like.

It’s men’s mental health awareness month! Now I know you guys are sitting here saying it’s also pride month, but I don’t believe that they should share a month. I believe that every man should be allowed to feel his feelings and he should be allowed to express them! So let’s talk about why it is so normalized for them not to be talked about and why men’s mental health awareness needs to be a bigger priority in our lives! We need to be listening to men’s feelings and taking them just as seriously as we would, a women’s and men also need to be showing up for the men that they care about. So let’s get into why it is so normalized for men to dismiss their feelings, not address, mental illness, and suffering in silence! We as a society have done men a disservice by not allowing them to feel their feelings and that’s what I’m here to talk to you guys about!!!

I had a whole other topic in mind but recent events change that. So let’s discuss what it is like to be emotionally available and date someone who is not. Let’s talk about what we learn from relationships rather than the things that hurt us in relationships. I learned more in two months than I did in 10 years about myselfand let’s get into what it’s like to be set free from the chains of not being able to communicate your emotions adequately! Also, let’s air out some dirty laundry 😈

Originality isn’t yours own! We need to start being flattered for inspiring people to make bold gestures and choices not offended by their choice in how to style what you showed them! Making things your own is a culmination of all the interactions you’ve ever had in your life . All with things and people you’ve loved. Let’s talk about it!!

Why do we always wait until funerals to tell people how we feel? There is this large culture that says that we are not supposed to express our feelings because it may or may not be too much. I think that that culture is BS. Everyone deserves to be told that someone is proud of them or someone is thinking of them, and we should not be waiting until a funeral to truly express how we feel about a person. While it is wonderful during that time, but that person is gone, and we should’ve been saying all of these things all along. I recorded this on my best friend’s birthday who passed away in 2016 and I think that he would really appreciate this message and it would ring for a lot of people who have experienced the loss in their life.

This has nothing to do with Mother’s Day!!! This is not bend it like Beckham! Your boundaries are meant to stay in place for a reason! You set them in place for a reason! You uphold them for a reason in this episode we are going to dive into what it looks like for me to understand why I chose to be so flexible with my boundaries And ultimately get hurt by it. I always told you guys that we would grow together and that’s the truth. I’m navigating this weird world just as much as you guys are and I never expected that I was going to have to be flexible with the boundary or that I was going to need to figure out what it looked like to be flexible with said boundary. So let’s talk about it.

The trend has been going around! I wanted to give my thoughts! I want to share with you some hot takes and some facts! The truth is women are choosing bear and there’s a larger conversation to be had as to why these women are choosing bear. But guess what? I will go into the woods with Winnie the Pooh all day before I ever go into the woods with the unsuspecting man. So I wanna unpack the idea of we don’t get to choose what type of bear and we don’t get to choose what type of man you were just asking us to choose between a man or a bear. So let’s bring some levity to the conversation. Let’s bring some knowledge to the conversation and let’s have a conversation about why the answer is bear

Audacity is just on sale apparently! Y’all are wild. If you think that you need to be breaking your back for somebody who wouldn’t even lift a finger for you. The way people just go around, trying to gain access to people without ever reciprocating the same things is nuts to me. I fully and wholeheartedly believe that you deserve the entire world and if people around you don’t also believe that those are not your people so let’s talk about it.

⚠️SA awareness month⚠️ #saam the saddest part about months like this that exist is that they exist! In the hopes of sharing my story, I want to be able to shed some light on the real life statistics of why this month exists, and how many people it really does affect, including myself. I want to give you guys the resources and the outlets to be able to tell your story, and to reach out whoever you need to because your story deserves to be told. we need to be able to shed light on these topics that are so swept under the rug and so normalized in Hollywood and in society and that’s just not OK. I would not be a survivor and an advocate for these things if I did not make an episode strictly for this for the purpose of helping my community and the safe space that I built, I love you all and as I always say, my DM’s are open and you can DM me anything that you would like about the episode or if you just want to talk about your experience I am here for you always💕

For my flight or flight people if you know you know! I want to talk to you guys about my journey this past week of accepting what it is like to not live in survival mode anymore! It’s a bit of a shameless plug, but we’re gonna go through this together because this is what I’ve been experiencing and realizing that living a peaceful life doesn’t have to be forced and it doesn’t have to be something that you strive for but it does need to be something that you accept. You do not need to be at war with yourself to be able to live a full life! So let’s grow through this together

Your comments are not a reflection of who you are. This week we’re diving into what it is like to be so brave to live your life online and have your bravery threatened other people. The idea that somebody can come into your comments and comment on your appearance, because they do not know you, and how to understand that those comments mean more about who that person is than who you are. Cancel culture applies to every single human being out there but guess what when you’re self-aware enough that stuff will not bother you. You have to be willing to accept the criticism that comes along with being brave enough to share your story online. It translates to real life but people usually aren’t brave enough to say the things that they would say online to a persons face. Social media gives people a glimpse into your life, but it does not give them a glimpse into who you are hold true to who you are and understand that you are, you for a reason!

Let’s have a hard conversation! Let’s have a conversation about how when it comes to intentions no one is honest about anything that they mean! We need to be able to be self-aware enough to know that we are lying to ourselves to other people, and if we cannot live a life with pure intentions Taking the religious nature out of that statement and understanding that if your intentions are what you intend to do, why are you speaking them out loud?! We live in such a deceitful society, how are we supposed to discern real from fake? You can’t face your intentions, so why are you even trying?

Also, this is the 40th episode!!!!! In this episode, we are going to talk about what it is like for the peaks and valleys of getting what we wish for! It does not matter what you worship what you work for what you pray for what you have asked the universe for; what matters is that? It is not going to come to you in traditional fashion, and be handed to you on a silver platter, even though it’s what you wished for hoped for prayed for and asked for. I want everyone to understand that getting what you want is not going to look the way that it is supposed to or the way that you have cooked it up in your mind so you need to be prepared for that and here’s how we prepared for it…

Thank you guys for being so patient! I want to talk to you guys today about what happens when you stay in environments that are not conducive to your growth! We’re going to go over mansplaning and how it is not limited to just MEN. We’ve talked a lot about growth on this podcast and being on our healing journeys and everything that we have gone through and dealt with and I want to talk to you guys about how we navigate being in a growth mindset in an environment that will not allow us to grow, and where we have overstayed our welcome!

How do you determine yourself worth? Do you think that other people determine your value? Or are you self-aware enough to know that your value comes from within? I want to talk to you guys a little bit about what it’s like to set the price and know that you do not need to beg to be understood or beg to be seen or beg to be valued. We’ve been at this for 38 weeks. It’s time that we start acting like we’ve been at it for 38 weeks growing changing evolving, and valuing ourselves!

Let’s discuss how keeping the peace saves. There is no reason why you need to spare the reputation of anyone to protect what’s happening behind closed doors. Let’s dive into all the things that we’ve allowed and all of the things that we’ve kept secrets on. We need to be able to be open and honest about how we’re worthy of telling our own stories. Our story deserves to be heard so does theirs but that’s why there’s three parts to every story, yours mine and the truth!!!

In this episode, we talk about how people who have been in your life that you’ve been vulnerable with, and they’ve decided to weapon past pain. We talk about their insecurities and how them weapon past pain has made it, so they feel like they are on some sort of mighty claim that they can make you feel bad about yourself. The difference is they cannot take ownership over your pain nor can they take ownership over inflicting the pain, so where does that leave them? If they have nothing to gain from insulting you who you are today, they have to go off of past pain that you’ve experience at the end of someone else. It’s giving desperate it’s giving insecure and it’s giving we don’t have time for people like that. Let’s dive into my own personal experiences with this, but also talk about how insecure those people must be and how stupid they must sound.

This weird week we are going to talk a rational fears! We are talking everything is on the table, and nothing is off-limits. We are going to go off script off the menu and fully dive into the fact that we all know that these fears are irrational, but we’re coming together, because we are not the only ones who experience these!everyone has been talking about the last few weeks. I’ve been kind of heavy and I’ve been kind of hard so let’s open it up with some laughs some jokes and just some real life shit that we know is weird and wild, but we embrace it.

Valentine’s Day!!! The dreaded bad word! The thing that shall remain nameless! Why is it only for couples? Or has society just shamed you into thinking that!? You are worthy of love partner or not! You should love on YOU all damn day! You need to give love and receive love in all its forms! Change the narrative that vday is just for couples! ITS FOR LOVE NO MATTER WHAT OR WHERE IT COMES FROM❤️

This week I want to talk to you about the concept of a 24 hour pity party. Do not invite anyone to this party because absolutely nobody wants to be there. You can process your emotions however, you need to process within that 24 hours and then after that 24 hours is up, you need to be able to move through it. You cannot walk through life, complaining and being miserable because you are in charge of your own happiness. You are in the driver seat of your life, and you are the one that has the power to change the narrative, rewrite the story or quite literally rip out the pages and start fresh. Stop complaining about things that are in your control and start taking a hold of your life and stop feeling. Sorry for yourself.

In this episode, I wanna talk to you about the people who have either been in your life or are currently in your life that choose to try to damage your reputation. How do you navigate the people who always doubt you? How do you go about focusing on a growth mindset when there are people so hell-bent on tearing you down, the easiest answer is that you simply stop caring. We’re gonna talk about considering the source of the information and understanding that if the information came from somebody who look like they came out of a sewer then it’s probably not important to us and everything that goes along with that.

We’ve talked about this already, but I wanted to give you guys a deeper larger understanding of what it looks like to put yourself first. I wanted to help you guys understand why you need to prioritize yourself and stop hanging around people who don’t respect your time. People who don’t respect your energy most likely don’t respect themselves. You cannot expect respect From someone who doesn’t respect themselves either. Stop standing in rooms where you’re not valued, loved, understood, seen, and you have to beg to just be noticed. You do not deserve crumbs. You deserve the world.

How often do you find yourself thinking delusionally? I think that our society has normalized delusional, thinking in such a way that everybody believes that it’s just easier to be delusional. We do not have to do any of the hard work or any of the heavy lifting when it comes to pulling ourselves out of those situations to really recognize who we are. in this episode, I’m gonna be a little bit vulnerable with my story of stepping out of a delusional situation, and choosing to do the hard work and choosing to work at it every single day so that I don’t end up comforted by a lie. I hope that this helps in someway to help you understand that delusion is not set up for longevity.

I’m gonna be real upfront and honest with you. Nobody cares about you more than you. No one is going to give you more than you give yourself. You are not going to find any single person on this planet, who gives a sh*t about you more than you give a sh*t about you! Why are you out here letting everyone come first? Why are you not coming first start treating yourself like a man and start coming first. Start prioritizing your life yourself your habits and stop worrying about what other people think. We’ve gone over this before but here’s your quick brief refresher course.

This is gonna be hard for some of you to hear. Your New Year’s resolutions are BS. You and I both know that you’re not going to follow through because you wrote them on Christmas Day you did not plan you did not prepare and you dang sure did not lay the foundation to set yourself up to follow through with the resolutions that you think you’re gonna have. writing them on your whiteboard or on your mirror in your bathroom and telling yourself that this is going to be your year is not enough. You need to be willing to do the hard work and if you’re not willing to do the hard work those New Year’s resolutions mean nothing. but let’s also talk about why we’re waiting for one specific day out of the year to change our entire lifetime when we’ve had the entire lifetime to change the things that we want to change. I’m sorry if this offends you but offense is a choice, but I love y’all enough to tell you the truth.

Merry Christmas Eve! Today we’re going to talk about love, languages, and how they expand beyond romantic relationships. Love, languages are some thing that we should be using with ourselves, with our friends, and with our families. So today we’re going to talk about love, languages, and what it means to apply all of those principles to ourselves and our boundaries and what we’re comfortable with. We are also going to talk about what it is like to understand your own love, languages as well as someone else’s and how to love someone else in a love language, that is not familiar to you. Especially around the holidays. I think that we stray away from the love language of quality time and we go straight to gifts because that’s what society tells us to do but today we are going to talk about how quality time means so much more than anything that’s sitting under that tree.

This weeks episode comes with a spicy special guest and we are going to dive deep into the world of two girls who navigated their way through life WITHOUT FATHERS! How they did the work and came out of their fatherless lives on top ! See ya daddio. The girls got it from here . @therollerskatingesthetician @unhinged.and.unapologetic

⚠️ - This episode will discuss the sensitive subject of suicide. If you or someone you love ever has feelings such as these please dial 988 or you also can DM me directly! I love you! Last week’s episode stirred up a lot of feelings for me personally. So I wanted to talk to you guys about the codependency part of what it is like when you leave a narcissist and you basically have to go cold turkey on your codependency it’s as if you’re going through withdrawals from the thing that you were addicted to because they forced you to become an addict. This is my raw, real and emotional story. I hope that it finds its way into your guys hearts, and it helps in someway. My only hope with this podcast is to help even one person and so I hope that this finds its way to you and it makes sense. I love you all so much.

⚠️ This episode will contain discussions of racial slurs for back story purposes, suicide and domestic violence….I’m going to be honest with you this episode is full of raw emotion! This episode talks about some things that I feel, as though people find trending, or have an opinion on! but nobody ever wants to get to the root of the problem and the root of the problem is narcissism You cannot fully understand a narcissist! If you have never seen one in their truest form. I love you enough to tell you what it’s like to meet and be with an actual narcissist on today’s episode what we do as we meet with our guest and we discuss what it is like as life after narcissism. Life after being made to feel like you were fu**ing worthless. Life after realizing that you can be somebody without depending on anyone else. We dive deep into the raw and visceral emotions that are triggered by narcissism being a trending topic in mental health these days and most of it is social media-based. We have had enough and we want you to know we’ve had enough Make sure you’re following and subscribing to unhinged and unapologetic’s Instagram and TikTok but also for guest please follow @officialbadandboujeellc we love to hear from you guys and DM me with all your questions, Comments queries and theories. Love you guys so much and I’m so happy that I’m finishing out 2023 with you guys

In this episode, we dive deep into trying to understand why holidays are so stressful and why they are so filled with pressure but also why is that the new normal. Why do we normalize having stress for holidays and holiday season. We we also have a fun guest with us who is going to chat with us a little bit about some of the more uncomfortable and taboo things about holidays and we spice it up with a little razzle-dazzle fun stories.

In this episode, we talk a little bit about grief. We dive deep into what it’s like when people ask if you’re scared to start over. And how starting over and starting fresh are two completely different things. We need to be able to normalize that starting fresh means that we have a wealth of knowledge built up to be able to start fresh. Life is not a video game and we did not lose a life and we have to start from scratch. We can save our progress as we go and start fresh each time, but not over. This episode is also very special to me because it comes out on a day that matters very much to me so I hope you guys enjoy this episode and enjoy the reasons why I spoke about this topic.

In this episode, we talk about what it is like to be the “strong friend“. Whether you are the strong person listening to this or you know someone who is the strong person this episode is for you. It’s also a bit of event session for me in my safe space with you guys to talk about what it’s like on my strong person journey. The strong tired the strong have feelings, and the strong are human. We need to stop brushing off the strong people just because they’re really good at balancing.

The reason why I say that I am not your everything and you are not mine is because I am my everything. You need to be your everything because it is unrealistic to make somebody your everything. You need to be an individual always before you can had someone add intrinsic value to your life. Someone cannot be the source of value in your life. They can only add to it, and they can certainly take away from it if you allow them. You are the easiest thing in your life that you can lose and I want to talk about that with you guys because I love you enough to tell you don’t lose yourself trying to make somebody else you’re everything

In this episode, we kind of take a deep dive into my own personal demons and why I fight them every day. Unpack a little bit of what it’s like to love yourself enough to fight every day and also understanding why running from your demons versus facing the things that you fear is something that needs to be talked about more often. You cannot run from what scares you, but you can face it because it’s not afraid to face you.

In this episode, we are going to talk about how cancel culture has gone too far. I’ll being offended by everything that you come in contact with sets you up to be a victim all the time and to live in a victim mindset. We’re gonna talk about some personal stories of how I have definitely made myself a victim before and how not to do that and understand that there are two sides to every story and you can’t write both parts.

In this episode, we’re gonna talk about a concept that I think a lot of people need to hear. Unfortunately, it may sound like a personal attack. We as human beings need to learn that people who have hurt us in the past do not owe us an apology. We need to be able to accept an apology that isn’t coming so that we can move on. We need to be able to hand out forgiveness like Halloween candy not because people are deserving of it always but because we deserve peace. It’s a simple as that.

In today’s episode, we are going to talk about the thing that people don’t like to talk about when it comes to going after the things that you want. Without sacrifice, we will never be able to achieve who we really are and what we really want. You need to be able to understand the concept of sacrifice, being an act of love, and not giving up on the temporary because it seems like the better idea. You need to be willing to let go of the temporary to achieve the long-term.

In this episode, we are going to discuss what it is like to live your life online and be subjected to hateful comments. We are also going to take a look at what it’s like to just be an average person, living life posting things that you wanna post and people somehow still find a way to say negative crap about what you’re posting! We’re gonna dive into what it’s like for them and their mental health and how you can combat it with your healthy stable, mental health because we’ve been on this journey long enough and it’s time that we start knuckin back.

In this episode, we take a deep dive into what it’s like to let go of relationships that we didn’t know we’re holding us back and what it’s like to be single in 2023. We are joined by our fabulous, favorite cohost, and we poke fun at terrible DM‘s we’ve received from men and everything in between that comes with choosing to be strategically single. @erin_charb

This Sunday, we are going to explore how defending who you are, can only hinder who you want to be! Constantly standing on guard and ready to defend your position on your own values, morals, or purpose is detrimental to your success and the advancement of you as a human being. Let’s spend some time chatting about what it is like to stop defending yourself against people whose opinions you don’t actually care about! You know who you are and that’s that! It needs no justification nor explanation so let’s get into it!

In this episode, we talk about what it is like to discover who you are. In this life you were going to meet many versions of yourself, but eventually you’re going to come across a version of yourself that is going to stay. We are going to talk about what it was like for me to meet this version of myself and to love this version of myself but understanding what it is like to meet yourself for the first time and it be the version of yourself that you truly love. Meeting yourself is a tough and very emotional journey, but we are going to do it together. It’s time for you to start looking in the mirror and recognizing the person that looks back at you.