Rise Again From The Struggle

When you know you are doing it, and continue to do it, then it's no longer a habit. It's now an active choice you are making.

Your ego will hold you back way more than anything else when you need to be the best to be satisfied. I have a desire to do well and to win. But my joy in a thing isn't tied to that result. Did I do my best with what I have? Did I improve? And can I still keep growing? That's what I need to know.

The point of training is to be uncomfortable. So why do we like to complain when that's where we get to? I do it to at times. So I get it. But I can flip the switch quickly to keep going because I practice these skills. Can you?

We want to be offended. We want to give excuses. We want to be right. Accept that, talk back to yourself, and move on so you can get better.

It's not the event that created the emotion, it was your mind. You can choose to bring yourself down a negative path or you can choose to solve problems.

You're free to make all the choices you want. I'm also free to ask you to take your unaligned values somewhere else.

Being able to move past what you desired to happen and continue trying to solve the problems in front of you is a great skill. That will take you far in life.

By the very nature of a limit, when you find it, you should fail. That's the point. Learn from the failure, adapt, and go again. The point of training is to continously hit those limits and move them further and further.

It takes courage to feel so ridiculous long enough to not. Most people don't have the courage to stick with things when they feel uncomfortable. To keep going for months when you're not sure if you're progressing like you thought you should. It takes courage to keep pushing those thoughts aside and talking back to them. And when you do, eventually it starts to click. Then you can see the effort coming through. Keep going!

Your emotions are your responsibility. You are the only one that can decide to change them.

Just because it starts a little rocky doesn't mean it'll end that way. Even if it does, you'll be better from the lesson it gives.

Nobody else can create safety for you. It's a decision you make on your own. Be willing to hear the truth, accept your reality, and learn a skill. Otherwise, you'll stay stuck where you are.

Building trust with yourself doesn't mean always being right. It means you learn how to be wrong and know how to get back on track.

You can learn at any age. The question is, are you willing to look like you don't know anything long enough to get better? Most people use weak sayings like this as an excuse to stay the same. But you'll be better than that 🤷‍♂️😂

We need to accept that we aren't perfect. We get emotions wrong, too. It happens. That's why we don't act through emotion.

When you're not at your best, do the most with what you have. Getting frustrated and stuck only slows you down. Find a way to maximize the time you have with the version of you that shows up that day.

What you focus on you become. Looks like this is old wisdom. Yet, it still applies.

Static holds definitely work the physical aspect, but they are great tools to work your mind as well. They do a lot of work on your nervous system and really get the whole chain fired up. But the mental process you go through to stick with it when you start getting tired and shaking is next level. Your thoughts go all over the place and give you lots of practice getting m catching that flip.

When water goes through a point of struggle, we see the beauty of the water. Ever wonder why we love an underdog story? They struggle a LOT. So why do you keep avoiding it?

Your excuses will eventually take you down, if you let them. There's good news, though. You can stop making them at any point and start taking control of your life.

I felt the panic creep in along with the whiney voice at first, then I caught it and turned it around. I didn't have it today. I could not get my partner off me, and at first it got to me. But then, I switched tactics and used that time to get better at counters, defense, and technique over strength. I learned a lot tonight, all because I took back control over my thoughts. And my effort was all I had tonight. It wasn't 100% of Kevin, but it was 100% of what I had today.

I don't believe in luck anymore, but this quote still has merit in the message. Spend less time feeling sorry for yourself. It could be worse. Just because it didn't work out how you wanted it in the moment, doesn't mean it wasn't how it was supposed to work out for your future.

It's easy to feel sorry for yourself or tell yourself you don't have the energy for something. But what if that thing were the thing you needed to gain the energy? Don't let your current emotion dictate your future opportunity.

We don't control outcomes. The only thing we control is our own effort and attitude. So what if it doesn't work out? You'll still learn and grow if you choose to.

You're supposed to cycle through your emotions thoughts and feelings. They aren't meant to be permanent.

Little by little, a little becomes a lot. As I said yesterday, small progress compounds. That eventually turns into something you one believed to be impossible. Keep going. You got this!

Not all progress needs to be huge. Some skills are just more complicated. Maybe you have a bigger learning curve. Start paying attention to the small things. As those build, they become massive.

When you spend more time understanding the problems and solutions, and less time trying to figure out how to get out of it quickly, you actually learn the skills that allow you to live through faster. Learn the trade and leave the tricks for the amateurs.

You don't just live once. A version of you dies of each time you want to grow and develop. Learn from the past, but let it die so you can live again.

If you're never challenged, you won't grow. That means you need to be willing to lose, and not lose your mind because of it. To compete is for both parties to bring the best out of each other. Be the one that can do that for yourself and others.

None is us are finished products. See the vision for the future version, work on the present version.

Sometimes your body forgets it's alright to move a certain way. Maybe it hurt once, but your body didn't forget. Now you accept the limitation without knowing why. That's where you need to be able to retrain your nervous system. Introduce the smallest segment possible and grow it bit by bit. Before you know it, you'll be moving better!

With all the training and travel, my body likes to fight back at times. So yeah, I know what is like to fight those internal battles. Yet somehow I'm still calm and don't make others deal with my obstacles. Instead, I analyzed my bodies reactive patterns and learned skills that help me move through these moments to get to a better position. And yes, there are days like today where that skill gets tested every couple minutes. When I stopped wishing it would go away and started accepting it just gives me practice on my skills, my life dramatically changed.

Give a researcher long enough and they will give you plenty of reasons to explain why breathing is bad and why your parents are the reason your lungs now have to live with the trauma of air coming into them. Sounds ridiculous, right? So does blaming your parents for you wanting your house to be clean. Your parents weren't perfect. That doesn't mean everything they did was wrong. The way you do things is not always a response to a negative event. Take responsibility for your life. If you have the ability to blame your parents, you also have the ability to make a change. Do that.

I had to put this stuff into practice today. I didn't need to be obnoxious, rude, or try to be anything more than subtle. That wasn't the time nor the place. I also knew I didn't want to be part of their negative spiral, so I simply introduced myself as soon as there was a lull in their conversation. That put an end to the discussion. It wasn't my role to try and change them, but that didn't mean I needed to be complicit in their negativity by not speaking up in a sense. I found a way to do that subtly while not burning any bridges with my actions.

Think about this during your next conversation. Are you simply talking about people? Events? Ideas? You'll have your answer soon enough.

If you just chase success, you're likely to lose yourself. Chase being the one that adds value to those around you. That's the real win. And success will find you anyway.

When you push through and find a way through a challenging moment, something inside you changes forever. Did deep and push through. You'll know it in the end.

Well, I actually did better in one area I wasn't sure was up to par. It was another area I wasn't expecting that created more problems for me today. Those fails, at the end of the obstacle, cost me energy and time for both the attempt at the obstacle and the penalty loop I had to do to pay for the failure. Again, I'm only looking to identify the things I have control over changing. That's the only thing I can address.

This goes back to my distinction of excuses and reasons. I'm looking at things I did or didn't do to prepare myself for this challenge. All the things I'm looking at are things in my control. Choices I made prior to the event and choices I'll need to make going forward. A review of training methods and how these goals of mine fit together, if you will. There's a big difference there.

The longer you ignore the emotion, the longer it delays your growth. I don't need to continue laying blame on this lady for anything. Her actions created real danger. My nervous system responded with action while experiencing fear. She didn't cause my bodies response, she only laid out the conditions for me to perceive and respond to. By acknowledging this and accepting that reality, I'm able to learn from the experience and not let it control me from here on out.

True character is revealed when shit hits the fan. You can't know your true nature until then. You only know what you want yourself to be.

Excuses are easy. Solutions take time and energy. You can seek pity and sympathy, or you can find a way to overcome. It's still a choice, either way.

Lock in and get it done. It'll change your life.

Oh boy. And we wonder why you see so many people constantly breaking down? Maybe we need to stop teaching everyone their feelings are always accurate. They aren't. Sure, they are real. That doesn't make them true. We have poor reactions to a lot of things. We need to learn to understand our feelings and when to allow the wrong ones to cycle through to get to a more accurate stance. That's how we become better as a person.

You could argue that I need to plan better, and you'd be right. But I'm also very confident in my ability to work through problems calmly and find a way forward. Today was 4x4x8 lumber in a Camry 🤷‍♂️😂. But the same method can be used for all your life's situations.

Know what you know and don't bend just to keep the peace. It's not incumbent on you to make others comfortable with the truth. That doesn't mean you are always right and they are always wrong. Just be sure that you know what you are agreeing to or with and know it's for the right reasons if you do.

Spreading truth and living in reality will hurt the feelings of those that want to live in a dream world. They aren't the ones you're going to change. There's plenty of people looking to find truth and grow. Speak to them and inspire them to learn, grow, and develop.

It's funny how quickly something can become second nature. It just takes reps. Find a way to be interested in whatever that thing is you want to get good at. Watch some instructions or find someone to teach you. Then do reps, get feedback to improve, so more reps, get more feedback, rinse, and repeat.

Don't get your feelings hurt in this one. Just because you don't like being pushed, doesn't make that person the mean one that doesn't care. It's usually the opposite. They care way more than you and believe in you more than you believe in yourself.