Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE Relationship Reboot Workshop designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:29) Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language  (04:57) Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive  (07:18) Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships  (07:58) Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE ⁠Relationship Reboot Workshop⁠ designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,  every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:04) Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common  (05:26) Complacency can ruin a relationship  (06:54) Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple  (07:42) 50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Is my partner truly my soulmate or is it something we create together?" "How do I find the upside of my partner's imperfections?" "How do you rebuild trust after betrayal?" On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I'm joined by bestselling author and love alchemist Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret, Wabi Sabi Love, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate, and her debut novel, The Love Thief.  Arielle and I explore the messy, magnificent reality of long-term love, learning to love the perfectly imperfect person in front of you, and dive into why soulmates aren't found, they're made.  In This Episode, You'll Learn: (01:18) About wabi-sabi love and how an ancient Japanese aesthetic can transform the way you see your partner's most irritating habits  (06:11) The physical and emotional toll of running a negative story about your partner (09:14) Why you're going to die with your core wounds and why that's liberating news for your relationship (13:20) Why butterflies are nature's trick and love is a daily behavior and choice (23:09) You probably already have many soulmates in your life right now (31:44) About The Love Thief, Arielle's debut novel based on actual events (38:30) The physical and psychological devastation of intimate betrayal mirrors PTSD (52:13) Today's LoveByte Connect with Arielle: YouTube  The Love Thief by Arielle Ford  @Arielleford_author on Instagram Substack  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖 Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Is surrendering to life a sign of weakness?" "How do I stop resisting the painful things that happen in life?" "What does real gratitude look like?" On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m joined by world-renowned transformational speaker Kute Blackson, author of You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender. Kute and I share a soul-stirring conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: surrender.  We’re exploring why true surrender isn't weakness but radical courage and why it may just be the most powerful thing you can do for your love life and your life as a whole. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (01:29) Being in pain or feeling lost takes tremendous courage  (07:27) The real meaning of surrender isn’t giving up or waving the white flag, it's letting go of the illusion of control and who you "think" you should be (12:00) Kute's personal story of heartbreak: how losing the relationship he thought was "the one" forced him to surrender and led him directly to his wife (20:18) Grief is the portal you must walk through before true surrender is possible. (36:33) What toddlers know about surrender that adults have forgotten and how watching his son helped Kute understand unconditional feeling (39:29) Why the most ecstatic lovemaking happens when you stop controlling and start flowing with the energy (46:31) The 8 levels of gratitude: from feeling grateful for what you have, to gratitude for what hasn't happened yet, to gratitude for the precious human incarnation itself (01:02:26) Today's LoveByte Sign up here for Kute’s free course on gratitude      If you are interested in spending twelve days with Kute in Bali for a transformational workshop, learn more here    Get Kute's books: You Are the One and The Magic of Surrender Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖 Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How do I plan a meaningful birthday for my partner that strengthens our relationship?” “Why does my long-term relationship feel more like a business than romance?” “What is the key to keeping passion alive in a long-term relationship?” On today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m fresh off a romantic birthday getaway to Tofino, British Columbia and I’m using my experience to create a challenge for you. I’m sharing the story of my own birthday celebration, talking about the three keys to lasting passion, and issuing a 12-month birthday challenge to couples everywhere, complete with a prize for those who take me up on it! One simple but powerful question anchors this episode: What did you do for your partner's last birthday? Whatever your answer, I want you to do better—and I’ll show you exactly how. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (04:35) Birthdays matter even if your partner "doesn't care,” the real point is making them feel chosen (06:00) The 12-month birthday challenge: how to plan something meaningful that truly lights your partner up, from a $0 backyard picnic to an African safari (09:18) My own surprise birthday trip for my hubby: grizzly bears, a glacier helicopter tour, hot springs, and horses (11:40) Novelty is an aphrodisiac and even one night away from home can shift your whole dynamic (18:51) The Passion Triangle: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality—and why "Thrill" is exactly what birthdays were made for (22:00) The sobering stat: 30–40% of long-term couples aren't having sex at all and what my free masterclass covers on this topic (24:30) Today's LoveByte: How to fall in love over and over again with the one you're already with Email me at [email protected] with a picture of your birthday date and we’ll send you a prize! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Do my actions match what matters to me?" "Are we stuck running the household instead of nurturing our love?" "Dr. Cheryl, how do I start taking real action for my relationship?" Welcome back! I’m officially back in action with fresh episodes and today, I’m coming in hot with a brand new relationship performance review.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m challenging you to look honestly at how much time and energy you're actually investing in your romantic relationship and how closely your actions match your stated priorities. (Spoiler: for most of us, there's a gap!) The research is clear: the quality of your committed relationship is the single greatest predictor of life satisfaction, health, meaning, and overall happiness. Yet most of us spend more time scrolling our phones, maintaining our careers, and playing chauffeur to the kids than we do nurturing the one relationship that matters most. I’m giving you the tools to change that, starting today. In This Episode, You'll Learn: (02:00) Why the quality of your romantic relationship is the #1 predictor of a life well-lived  (05:30) The difference between "relationship incorporated" and actually being a couple — and why so many of us are stuck in the former  (04:27) How to do an honest relationship performance review on yourself  (13:46) How many hours a week you're really spending on your relationship (and why the answer might shock you)   (23:05) Why "knowledge is power" is balderdash — and what actually creates change (11:30) Practical action steps: dates, morning rituals, getaways, and how to make your sex life a priority without killing the spark  (27:48) Today's LoveByte  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I be kinder to my sweetie?” “Why do we speak to each other so rudely and sarcastically?” “How do I stop myself from being so nasty all the time?” Are you kind to your sweetheart? Or do you sometimes find yourself speaking to them with a nastiness you don’t even recognize? It may be hard to admit, but it’s not uncommon to find yourself speaking to your mate far more unkindly than they deserve… And the truth is, you’re so much better than that.  On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you just a few of the ways you can spend 2026 being kinder and speaking more fairly to your honey.  Today, I want to get really real about something that I’m guilty of—and I suspect it’s something quite a few of you might be guilty of, too. It can be easy to find yourself acting sarcastic and insulting toward your mate, but we always have the choice to choose kindness.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Being rude to our loved ones has become more normalized, but that does not mean you have to take it on (05:36) You have the capacity to stop being nasty at any second (08:10) If you do find yourself being nasty, ask for a do-over and begin again (09:51) Some of us can be unkind and critical without even meaning to (13:55) Today’s LoveByte (14:44) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner.💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I improve my relationship?” “All my partner and I do is fight—will we ever stop?” “How can my sweetheart and I bring back the spark we used to have?” Keeping a long term relationship healthy is hard work—there’s no way of getting around that. But that doesn’t mean that having a strong, compassionate, loving, lasting relationship is impossible… It simply means that you both need the right tools in your toolbelt to build it.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my top three tips for building a healthy relationship with actual staying power. Great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Today, I’m covering a huge part of the foundation of my relationship philosophy: the passion triangle of intimacy, thrill, and sensuality. A triangle is the most stable structure known to man—so why wouldn’t you want to base your relationship on one? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (06:23) Conflict and conflict management are an unavoidable part of all relationships  (11:35) We’re hardwired to find novelty exciting—that’s why new relationships have that honeymoon phase  (15:51) Thrill needs to be cultivated  (21:33) We are often more sexually adventurous early on in a relationship when we have less to lose  (24:29) Today’s LoveByte  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make Valentine’s Day more special?” “Valentine’s Day only brings up bad memories, how can I change that?” “Is there really a way to make a commercialized, overblown holiday romantic?” Show of hands—who here hates Valentine’s Day? It's a heck of a lot of pressure to pull out the greatest romantic experience possible and to do a better job than Hollywood, isn’t it? Well here’s a little secret: While those romcoms and tv shows and romance novels might feel swoon worthy, none of it is real.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m giving you three unusual ideas for Valentine’s Day dates that don’t suck and allow you to make your love intentional.  February 14. Cupid, heart shaped boxes of terrible chocolate, a last minute cheesy card and a stuffed animal from the local pharmacy… We’ve all been there. But today, I’m teaching you a way to celebrate Valentine's Day that's a little out of the box and that honors the true meaning of the day. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:20) Valentine's Day is a great excuse to do something warm and wonderful for your special person  (06:52) Couples put more effort into being romantic when a relationship is just starting  (08:08) First tip - You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your partner a love letter (13:31) Second tip - Paying it forward to another couple - giving THEM the gift of love - can be an incredibly romantic way to celebrate  (15:40) Third Tip - Plan Valentine’s in July - NOW. You don’t have to wait until February 14th to celebrate your love! (19:10) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Is romance dead?”  “How can I be sexier to my partner?” “Why isn’t finding a man as easy as the movies?” It's easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media, romcoms, and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2026 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (00:40) The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship  (03:38) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship  (04:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (11:16) A great relationship is about taking action  (12:09) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response  (16:18) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart  (18:56) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I stop fighting with my spouse?” “Why are my partner and I constantly disagreeing?” “Is it okay if my honey and I never argue?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry? On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:00) Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics  (09:38) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (12:40) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal  (14:28) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions  (19:30) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro  (21:09) Today’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  Where has the passion gone in my marriage? Why don’t my partner and I have sex anymore? How can I get my spouse to show more interest? When you think about failure in terms of your relationship, what does it mean to you? Is it separation? Moving out? The big “D”? All those things can feel like failure… But what about when you and your partner start to move into Marriage Incorporated territory, where your relationship runs much more like a business than a romance? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m asking some very important questions for you and your partner to answer going into the new year. Today, I’m giving you a little assignment to take some time with your honey to sit down and really discuss this past year in earnest. Afterall, without a little introspection, how can we predict our own success or failure?  One year from now… How do you want to feel about your relationship?  What would success feel like? What would it look like?  What are you doing better?  How have you improved? In what ways?  Are you happier? In what ways is your partner happier?  Are you making sure they feel as precious as they are, even when life gets in the way? How do you want to feel?  What do you want to be?  Who do you want to be in your relationship? 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I learn to be a better partner?”  “Am I the Scrooge in my relationship?” “What is the secret to a happy marriage?” What would you do if a trio of spirits showed up at your bedside tonight and asked you to examine your past, your present, and your future? Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave recently exploring the themes of the Charles Dickens' classic A Christmas Carol through a Buddhist lens.  This talk delves into the three root poisons of suffering—greed, hatred, and ignorance—and how they manifest in Ebenezer Scrooge's life. After visits from the three spirits, Scrooge confronts his past, present, and future, ultimately leading to his redemption and a deeper understanding of interconnectedness and compassion.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (01:10) The concept of Dharma can feel foreign to what we learned as children through a Western lens (07:42) We always have a choice to begin again (12:06) Ignorance is poison (28:53) If we can see the bricks that led to the wall in front of our heart, we can demolish it (59:02) We love possibilities of redemption and change 💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make the holidays special with my spouse?” “Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?” “How can I prioritize my husband?” No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweetheart? On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:03) In the December holiday season, couples gets lost  (03:22) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured, money grabbing, cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck  (12:13) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority  (12:52) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart  (13:38) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date  (14:40) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  How can I get my mate to want sex as much as I do?  Help! I feel so guilty when my sweetheart wants sex and I don’t! My partner and I never have spontaneous sex anymore, is this normal?  On this classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I share the answers to some of the most asked sex and love questions I’ve heard in my career. These are the questions I hear over and over again, regardless of the time or place, answered for you and your honey. Today, is all about sex drive. I’m busting myths about the libido differences in men and women, the idea that men are dogs who crave constant sex, and that women have fundamentally different sex drives. Spoiler alert: It’s all bullshit! In This Episode, You Will Learn: (02:39) If you and your partner have sex drive differences, you are normal  (04:31) Despite the prevailing popular belief, gender has no real bearing on one’s sex drive  (07:15) It’s totally normal for spontaneous lust to wane over the course of a long term relationship  (08:10) Cultivating responsive desire involves scheduling sex—even when we don’t feel like it (10:28) There is no quick fix to sexual desire differences, but there are a number of steps that you can utilise to help reignite a fizzling flame  (11:53) Never say “I'm not in the mood” ever again  (17:51) This week’s LoveByte  💖Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship?” “When did my hubby become so boring?” “My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it?” Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go.  On this Sex, Love and Elephants rewind, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart.  Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:57) Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated  (08:33) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good  (10:57) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will  (14:03) Most affairs aren’t planned  (34:09) Today’s LoveByte  💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time)How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “How can I make my relationship happier?”  “Where can I find relationship advice?” “What’s the secret to a great marriage?” When we can train our minds to focus on what matters and to deal with difficulties with a more dispassionate, compassionate, equanimous point of view, we suffer less. We feel happier, we feel calmer, and we’re able to love more deeply.  Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk I gave a few weeks ago that discusses the importance of training the mind for happiness. In Buddhism, setting an aspiration is a way of mentally, emotionally, and karmically tuning our focus to something that is valuable. Think less “I hope I make more money tomorrow” and more  setting your intentions to be free of mental suffering. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:07) How to meditate in open awareness practice (21:57) Concentration is integral to successful meditation  (25:32) A strong inner anchor helps during times when the mind is turbulent  (37:15) By training ourselves in meditation, we can learn to stop buying into the stories that happen in the mind (54:56) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥Re-Ignite Love, Romance, and Passion and Fall in Love With Your Partner All Over Again 🔥 Enroll in my Become Passion course and create love that lasts a lifetime—beginning October 24th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE ONLY BECOME PASSION SESSION OF 2025 “Where can I find an online couples therapy course to improve my marriage?”  “What are the most common relationship issues?” “Where is the best place to find relationship advice?” It doesn’t matter whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or somewhere in between, many of us suffer from the same relationship conflicts. Reluctance to work on things, ugly fighting, loss of thrill…  I’ve seen it all and I’m here to help.  In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I cover the most common issues that couples face, from working with reluctant partners to conflict resolution, improving communication, and navigating sexual challenges.  Today, I’m answering some of the most common questions asked during my live Passion Master classes and over the last 25 years I’ve spent working with couples just like you. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:31) Working with a reluctant partner is frustrating, but common (06:36) Avoiding conflict altogether isn’t the way to achieve resolution (12:54) Only 11% of my Masterclass participants indicated that they were still in love with their partners  (16:02) It takes love and energy for the thrill to last forever (23:27) Don’t wait for a major life changing event to put the effort into your relationship (33:01) Today’s LoveByte 💞Watch the replay of my Passion Masterclass here 💖Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 October 14th-18th ONLY Dr. Cheryl is teaching FREE relationship workshops for the only time this year! 🔥 Sign up NOW for her Passion Masterclass and choose the time that works best for you. 👉Save Your Seat! “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Help! Why is my relationship so boring?” “How can my spouse and I reconnect for good?” Why are long-term relationships so difficult? I'm a tremendous advocate for love, but the hard facts are pretty sobering: Only 11% of couples in long term relationships say that they still feel in love with their partner. In this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m breaking down the complexities of long-term relationships, delving into the challenges that couples face in maintaining love and connection, and tackling the top 3 reasons committed couples split up.  You can be great parents together, have fun on the weekends as a family, and feel totally secure in your relationship… Yet that sense of specialness, connection, and that you and I together against the world feeling still ends up lost in translation—but it doesn’t have to be that way! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:21) We often forget how lucky we are to be with our perfectly imperfect partner  (07:59) Psychological intimacy is integral to successful long term love (11:59) Your partner isn’t wrong, they're just different from you (20:18) Great relationships take hard work (31:02) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

This month only! Dr. Cheryl is teaching some FREE relationship workshops! Sign up NOW for one of her Passion Masterclasses—choose the time that works best for you. You’ll also hear about the 12-week Become Passion program—it kicks off in October. Doors are now open! You can check it out and join the program HERE  “Why does lust fade in long-term relationships?” “How do happy couples keep their sex life alive after years together?” “Is it normal to lose desire for my partner over time?” “What’s the best way to bring back passion after kids or menopause?” Turns out bunny-rabbit lust has an expiration date—but on Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl makes it clear your sex life doesn’t have to expire with it. In this candid and funny re-release, she and her sweetheart dive deep into intimacy, desire, and what really happens when sex shifts over time. From menopause to scheduled sex, from the biology of lust to the reality of long-term love, this conversation is both raw and reassuring. If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner don’t connect the way you used to—or if you’ve worried that something is “wrong” because you’re not in the mood 24/7—this episode is your permission slip to drop the fairy tales and start focusing on what actually builds passion that lasts. Cheryl and her husband share their own story, including struggles, dry spells, and what it really takes to keep desire alive. Spoiler: no couple is “broken” just because spontaneous lust fades. The ones who thrive are the ones who adapt, laugh, and keep choosing each other—in and out of the bedroom. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:57) Why lust is always temporary—and why that’s not a bad thing (15:38) How menopause can shake up your sex life, and what to do about it (21:09) Why long-term couples often experience low desire—and why you’re not “broken” if you do (29:36) The biology behind fading lust and how to work with it, not against it (39:19) Today’s LoveByte: Schedule sex. Don't tell me it's not romantic to schedule sex. I'll tell you what's not romantic: never having sex. Wherever you are, we begin where you are, bring sensuality back. Snuggle your sweetheart today and make your erotic life a priority again.  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do couples stop fighting about the same issues over and over?” “What’s the best way to fix communication problems in a marriage?” “How can I stop arguments with my partner from spiraling out of control?” “What should I do when my partner shuts down during a fight?” What does a love and sex expert do when she gets into an argument with her husband? If you think the answer is “handle it perfectly every time,” think again. In this candid and funny re-release episode of Sex, Love and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl and her sweetheart reveal that even experts stumble. From morning rituals and dog walks to timeouts and three-breath hugs, they share how they reconnect after communication breakdowns—and why intimacy is the foundation of long-term love. This conversation reminds us that no couple is perfect, but with humor, honesty, and the right tools, you can fight fair, repair faster, and come back stronger. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same old arguments, this episode shows that imperfection is normal—and that building intimacy is the key to creating a relationship that lasts. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:20) Why open communication is harder than it looks—even for the experts (07:25) The daily rituals that keep Cheryl and her husband connected (13:26) What happens when you’re “flooded” during an argument—and why logic goes out the window (19:25) How touch and presence can restore connection after a fight (26:37) Why partnership is about more than just coexisting under the same roof (40:35) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the passion triangle—for a very good reason (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (40:45) Today’s LoveByte: Intimacy is the base of the Passion Triangle for a very good reason. If you can’t talk about it, you can’t make it better. Learn to listen, learn to communicate to understand—and please, for the love of all that exists, be willing to be happy instead of being right. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Are you ready to create love and passion that last a lifetime? The doors for my exclusive 12-week immersion program open in October! Join me for one of my FREE WORKSHOPS in October to learn more. Click here to join the Become Passion waitlist today and you’ll be the first to receive an invitation to the FREE masterclass! “How do real couples keep the spark alive after years together?” “Why does passion fade in long-term relationships?” “How can I bring back romance when my relationship feels boring?” Have you ever wondered what it’s really like to be married to a sex, love, and passion expert? In this very special (and hilarious) re-release episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, Dr. Cheryl invites her husband—known here only as “my sweetie”—into the studio for the first time. You’ll hear their unfiltered take on the Passion Triangle, the struggles every couple faces (yes, even them!), and why keeping Thrill alive is not optional if you want long-term love. From Marvel movies and surprise kisses, to spooning rituals and adventure birthdays, this candid conversation shows that love experts are still gloriously human—and that passion requires practice, play, and sometimes a ferry ride to see grizzly bears. Want to know more about my program? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:52) Why this fall is your last chance to join Become Passion until late 2025 (05:19) The danger of “Marriage Incorporated” (aka roommates running a business) (06:57) The calming power of placing your hand over your partner’s heart (11:37) Why Cheryl and her husband waited five weeks before having sex—and how it changed everything (21:02) The truth about keeping Thrill alive (and what happens when you don’t) (27:09) Their “Adventure Birthday Challenge” — and why you should steal it (36:47) Today’s LoveByte: It's never too late to revisit and rebuild your passion triangle. Thrill can last forever, it just needs a little help. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now “Why don’t I feel in love anymore?”  “Where did the thrill go?”  “How to bring back the passion we once had?” “What are the keys to a passionate relationship?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you Lesson Two of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Last time, you learned how to make your love life a hobby. Today, you’ll discover the three keys to lasting passion—intimacy, thrill, and sensuality—and why couples must work on all three sides of the Passion Triangle to keep love alive. Dr. Cheryl not only breaks down what each side means (and why most couples are weak in at least one), she also gives you two powerful tools to rate your relationship right now. Plus, hear the real-life story of Howard and Karen, a couple who went from near-divorce to planning surprise lobster feasts and rediscovering love after 32 years together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you can fall in love again—with the partner you already have—this lesson is your roadmap. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:06) What couples miss most about falling in love (03:30) Introduction to the Passion Triangle: intimacy, thrill & sensuality (04:29) Why each side matters—and how to tell where you’re weak (08:14) How to rate your own relationship today (worksheet + quick quiz) (12:00) Howard & Karen’s story: from “I want a divorce” to falling in love again (16:51) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—they’re created 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "Where did the passion go in my marriage?" "How do I reboot my relationship?" "How can we work on our marriage?" "Which online course helps couples the most?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants brings you something truly special: a front-row seat to Lesson One of Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s brand-new FREE five-part Starter Course—Reboot Your Relationship. Whether you’re stuck in a sexless rut, drowning in bickering, or just craving deeper connection, this free mini course is designed to help you shift from Marriage Incorporated to Love Incorporated—starting now. Inside this first lesson, Dr. Cheryl guides you to assess the current health of your relationship, identify where you want to go, and take the very first step toward rebuilding love, passion, and partnership. You’ll also hear what makes the course unique, how it’s already helping other couples, and how to access the full experience (hint: it’s just a click away). If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is running on autopilot—or worse, barely running at all—this episode is your wake-up call. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:00) Why Cheryl created this free course—and why it might be her last time offering it (04:22) The most common problem couples face: getting stuck in “Marriage Incorporated” (06:00) The difference between running a household and nurturing a romantic partnership (08:12) Two crucial questions to rate your relationship: happiness and commitment (10:46) How to turn love into a hobby (and why it’s one of the most powerful mindset shifts) (14:01) Three questions that reveal where you want your relationship to be in 6 months (17:57) Today’s LoveByte: Great relationships are not an accident—you’ve got to become the passion you seek 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "My partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants tackles one of the most provocative and misunderstood topics in modern love: the tension between masculine and feminine energy—and what happens when those energies fall out of balance. From 1950s gender roles to the feminist backlash of the '70s and the rise of the sensitive new age man, Dr. Cheryl Fraser guides us through the historical, psychological, and sexual shifts that continue to shape our romantic lives today. What happens when women become over-functioning warriors and men lose touch with their strength? Why are so many couples disconnected in bed and at war outside of it? Dr. Cheryl breaks it all down through raw personal stories, decades of experience as a sex therapist, and an empowering four-archetype model—Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, and Lover—that will help you reconnect with your own essence and transform your relationship. Whether you're tired of leading all the time, feel like your partner has gone emotionally limp, or just want to reignite the spark in your relationship, this episode invites you to rethink what it means to be powerful—and passionate—together. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What masculine and feminine energy really mean—and why the labels are misleading (04:48) The surprising truth about sexless relationships—and why so many couples stop making love (06:37) From 1950s stereotypes to feminist revolt: How gender roles evolved (and where they got stuck) (10:32) Cheryl’s personal journey from angry, brilliant “boy-girl” to embracing feminine strength (18:31) Why strong women and sensitive men clash—and how confused roles affect desire (25:06) The Four Archetypes: Sovereign, Warrior, Magician, Lover—and how they shape your relationship (29:39) Erotic polarity: Why feminine women crave masculine energy in the bedroom (and vice versa) (36:24) How to balance your energies for better sex, deeper love, and real partnership (39:14) Today’s LoveByte: The empowered lover learns to dance between all four archetypes 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time) Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

🔥 Reboot Your Relationship in Just 10 Days  — Join Dr. Cheryl’s FREE Starter Course Now! 👉 Claim My Spot Now "My partner won’t go to therapy" "I'm doing all the work in the relationship" "Partner refuses to communicate" "Can you save a relationship alone?" This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants dives deep into one of the most common and painful relationship struggles: what to do when your partner just won’t meet you halfway. Whether your sweetheart refuses to communicate, avoids tough conversations, or simply won’t go to therapy, Dr. Cheryl Fraser is here to help you understand what’s really going on—without blame, shame, or judgment. Can you save a relationship alone? What happens when you’re doing all the work in the relationship? Is it even possible to rebuild connection when your partner thinks nothing is wrong? With raw personal stories, real-life couple transformations, and actionable guidance, Cheryl shows how even one partner—armed with the right tools—can begin to shift the dynamic. It starts with changing how you approach the tough stuff. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:09) What to do when your partner won’t go to therapy—or refuses to talk (04:46) The power of negative thinking: how your mind can make things feel worse than they are (10:40) How your childhood attachment style may be shaping your relationship experience (17:11) Why some partners resist change: fear, avoidance, and feeling blamed (26:14) Real talk: How to bring up hard conversations without pushing them further away (35:24) The key to rebuilding connection, even if you're doing the work alone (38:12) Today’s LoveByte 💖 Reignite the Spark — For Free (Limited Time)Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Website - Receive Weekly Science-based Tips and Techniques from Dr Cheryl  Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “How can I spice things up with my hubby?” “Is it possible to remain monogamous forever?” “How do I make my relationship more adventurous?” When you do something exciting and adventurous with your partner, do you find them more attractive? Research shows that when we do something unusual or out of the box with our sweethearts, it can help us feel more interested in and attracted toward them. This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eleventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I’m teaching you how a little adventure and novelty can go a long way when it comes to spicing things up and reigniting the spark with your sweetheart.  Calling all adventurous lovers! Go on an adventure date and send photo proof to [email protected] for a chance to win a cool prize! Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (03:44) There's clinical observation indicating that when we get out of our rut and do something new with our sweetheart, we tend to feel more connected to them (07:53) The way the brain works when we're falling in love mimics the neurochemistry obsessive-compulsive disorder (11:11) Many of us are terrible at investing the time and energy needed to create novelty with someone who is not new to us  (16:02) Doing something new with our partner, it can enhance and improve our connection, our interest in each other, and even our sexual attraction  (21:56) Today’s LoveByte Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Is my misery all in my head?” “Why can’t I focus on the positives?” “How can I learn to change the story my mind is telling me?” How can we change the stories in our heads? How can we deal with the monkey mind? And how can we begin to accept the truth that everything we experience in life is 100% mind made? This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around how pesky our minds can be and how much misery our wandering thoughts can bring us.  Today, I’m teaching you what we can do to work with the mind to understand its storytelling, to understand the nightmare scenarios it paints in our head, and what we can do to work with that so we'll be happier, calmer, more effective, more compassionate, and have a much better life. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (09:32) Any moment is created in the mind based on a selection of the data that we’re experiencing in that moment (14:45) We're all born into pretty lucky human lives, even if we’ve suffered trauma (26:16) The stories we create all day long are just as equally fictional as a nightmare (33:52) If I don't like the fact that I'm feeling angry or upset or lonely or vulnerable, I can recognize it’s a story and I can work with the mind to change it (48:11) In a mortal body, there's going to be pain and illness and it is going to die suddenly or slowly Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Can meditation make me a better lover?” “Is great sex even possible in a long term relationship?” “Why don’t I get horny for my spouse anymore?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the tenth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Dr. Lori Brotto is an internationally recognized leader in sexual health research and has mentored nearly 180 trainees. She has also spent time evaluating psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact ⅓ of women. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women’s sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:23) On average, we're having far less sex today than we were 20 years ago (05:55) If don’t experience overwhelming lust for your spouse anymore, you’re totally normal  (10:50) Scheduled sex might not feel romantic, but it’s more romantic than no sex at all (22:39) Mindfulness as a practice of being present is extremely useful for sexual satisfaction (36:36) Your relationship is normal if you're only having sex on occasion or even if you’re not making love at all (38:46) Today’s LoveByte  Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto: eSense The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A Brotto Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “HELP! I’ve fallen out of love with my partner, should we break up?” “How do I learn to love my spouse again?” “Why is marriage so much work?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the ninth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When the love song feels like it's over, is it time to quit or is it time to recommit? Today’s subject is a tough one and I'm teaching it from the heart.  And what I’m going to say might just surprise you: we often throw away our romantic relationships too easily, too often. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of a breakup (01:49) We can learn to change our mind instead of our mate (03:54) The elephant part of ourselves is free from fear and selfishness (10:33) Everything changes—some changes we like, some we don't (21:57) Today’s LoveByte (33:14) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Recommended by Dr. Cheryl: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Join the waitlist for Cheryl’s NEW Free Reboot Your relationship course - coming soon! Together with your partner, learn the steps to transform your relationship, reignite love, improve communication, and embrace sensuality. Say goodbye to procrastination and hello to real, lasting change.  Click here to get on the waitlist and you’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open! “Why does my partner purposefully tick me off?” “How can I be more understanding with my spouse?” “What makes long term love so hard?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the eighth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Our mind can tell amazing stories. For example, we’ve all had a nightmare. The second we wake up, we thank goodness it was only a dream,  our heart is pounding, and we may even be soaked in sweat or have tears in our eyes. We may even be gasping for breath—all because of a story that our mind made up to be true.   Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Our human body cannot tell if the story our brain is telling us is true or not true (07:06) Our brains often feed the flames of hate and distrust creating an inaccurate villain story about our sweetheart (09:15) To stop creating stories, we have to focus on strictly the facts (16:01) Today’s LoveByte (24:31) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Why has my sex drive dropped as I’ve aged?” “How do I schedule sex with my partner?” “What are some ways I can set the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the seventh in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. When my hubby and I first got together, we were absolutely insatiable—I’m talking nonstop passion and desire. But a decade or so on? Not so much! Now that we’re both in our early 60’s, our sex life takes some extra TLC to maintain but we’re dedicated to making it happen. And today, I’m going to teach you exactly what our secret is.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: There are biochemical reasons that our desire wanes as we age (03:57) Married sex is scheduled sex (05:47) The key to scheduled sex is creating the right environment for intimacy (10:12) When we're non-sexual, we're missing out on a very profound part of being alive (16:37) Today’s LoveByte (25:11) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Listen to Dr. Cheryl on Jack Canfield’s podcast here. Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “I love my partner, but they don’t turn me on anymore… HELP!” “We never have sex anymore, should we get a divorce?” “Why am I never in the mood for sex?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the sixth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. It might be a familiar feeling: You’re not looking to leave your sweetheart or trying to have an affair, but your sex life is either totally non-existent or downright lousy. Today, I’m giving you some very important tools to help you and your long-term partner reignite the spark you once had and bring back that butterflies-in-the-belly, over-the-moon sexual desire for one another.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Responsive desire starts with a sensual encounter (03:44) Intimacy is the communication base of any romantic relationship (07:42) To start your sexual drive, you’ve got to warm up your erotic engine first (13:44) Don’t wait around for the mood to hit you—make it a date (23:42) Today’s LoveByte (29:16) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Is long term sexual attraction a myth?” “How can I be more attracted to my partner?” “Why does my sex life slow down the older I get?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fifth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I encourage you to think back to you and your honey’s discovery of each other’s bodies, your hearts, your erotic pleasure… Do you still experience those same feelings? Or have those butterflies disappeared over the years?  Today, I’m letting you in on a little secret to reignite the BIG spark with your sweetheart.  Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My own sexual relationship with myself began with… an electric Snoopy toothbrush! (04:49) Menopause can cause radical changes to your sex life (09:11) 30 to 40% of couples are not making love at all (16:43) When we rely on spontaneous desire, our sex life is in trouble (20:36) You need to design a sex life that works for you (29:32) Today’s LoveByte (31:40) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, what’s the secret to a long marriage?” “Why are divorce rates so high?” “How do I overcome conflict with my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the fourth in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Today, I welcome relationship expert Bruce Muzik. Dubbed “The Couples Whisperer,” Bruce is a world-renowned relationship repair specialist and the founder of Love At First Fight, a company dedicated to helping couples transform their conflict-ridden relationships into thriving partnerships. Discover more about Bruce’s work at LoveAtFirstFight.com or watch his powerful TEDx talk HERE. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Bruce and Cheryl admit their best and worst qualities as a partner (03:03) Long-term committed love isn’t dead or alive—it’s a journey (08:51) Different relationships have varying attachment styles (21:21) There are three developmental stages to relationship growth (37:53) Long-term love is a skill that can be learned (51:34) Today’s LoveByte (01:01:49) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join. (You’ll also be notified when the doors to the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, why do our arguments get so nasty?” “We talk, but we never make progress. What’s the key to communication?” “How can we argue without fighting?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the third in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. “I can't stand you.” “I'm out of here.” “What are we even doing together?”  If any of these sound familiar to you, you might just be wondering if long-term love is dead after all.  Today, I'm going to dive into the fact that long-term kind speech, civility, and respect aren’t dead, but they may be on life support. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The three sides of the passion triangle are intimacy, thrill, and sensuality (01:50) Many of our arguments turn ugly because of emotional flooding (10:30) How to rate your conflict resolution skills (17:30) We need to connect before we attempt to communicate (26:34) Today’s LoveByte (27:42) Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.  (You’ll also be notified when door to the the next session of the Become Passion Program open!) “Dr. Cheryl, help! Why don’t I feel as committed to my spouse as I used to?” “Why am I so scared to commit?” “How do I revive my commitment to my partner?” This episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is the second in a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. We believe that if we get married or move in together or make another human that we are committed: “Now we're a family and we're more committed than ever!” But the statistics and our own life experience don’t necessarily prove that to be true… How committed are you to your long term relationship? At some point, you did choose to commit to your partner—whether you’ve said “I do” or not Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank! In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Divorce can spawn so much ugliness—even convincing couples they were never in love at all (04:18) If you choose to seek couples therapy, make sure to do your research on the therapist (07:07) The Passion Triangle is a wonderful guide for long term commitment (11:13) Long-term love isn’t dead—it's in a coma (20:32) Commitment is a choice (24:37) Today’s LoveByte (33:18) Best of Sex, Love & Elephants: Stop Ugly Fighting! 3 Tips to Argue Effectively Be the first to join the waitlist for Cheryl’s FREE couples workshop this May! Click here to join.   Curious about Become Passion? Check out testimonials HERE from real couples just like you who have saved their relationships! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Be the first to know when Cheryl’s next FREE couples workshop is offered! Click here to join the waitlist.   “Dr. Cheryl, how do I know when it’s time for a divorce?” “Do people ever regret the decision to end their marriage?” “Is divorce the right decision for me and my spouse?” Is long-term love dead? Take a look at the number of divorces, the rate of affairs, younger generations talking about the lack of commitment… I’m not sure if it’s dead, but it’s definitely not looking good, is it?  This episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants kicks off a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. I’m not necessarily against divorce, but I do believe there are cases where it’s not the only answer. In one study, people who'd been divorced for two years were asked: “Do you feel you made the right decision to end your marriage?” As it turns out, a whopping 50% of those surveyed said they had post-divorce regret.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: This fall may be the last time I hold my three month Become Passion Program—join the waitlist here (03:23) To save your relationship, kill the soulmate (05:00) Think back to what you miss about a brand new relationship—was it about the person or was it about the honeymoon phase? (14:50) You need to be the change you want to be in your relationship (18:48) Today’s LoveByte (24:57) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “Dr. Cheryl, how can I spice things up in the bedroom with my sweetheart?” “Why has the heat left our sex life?” “How can I get my lover to be adventurous in bed like we used to be?” Think back to the beginning of your relationship… How spicy or adventurous or open or willing or playful or hot or uninhibited were you? And why aren’t you and your lover that way anymore? Often when we make deeper steps towards commitment, the stakes are higher. We're more vulnerable than in those first few months and we become more fearful of rejection. On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to bring the heat to your bedroom and the spice back to your long term relationship in 2025. Are you willing to settle for “nice” as the benchmark for success for your sexual life? I know that’s not true for most of you, but maybe you’ve become a lazy lover. Do you wish you could be more inventive? That you could suggest things? That you could please your lover's body? In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Most of us are more adventurous and playful in bed at the beginning (01:49) Get more acquainted with your own turn-ons (08:09) Share your sexual fantasy with your lover (13:11) Don’t be lazy—do some research! (16:50) Today’s LoveByte (17:36) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, don’t you know that romance is dead?”  “How can I be as sexy as those guys my wife reads about in her steamy books?” “Will I ever stop waiting for my rom com meet-cute whirlwind romance?!” It's pretty easy to be cynical about modern love. We’re so misled by the media and romantic comedies and romance novels about what love should look like that it can be really dangerous to our relationships. We have this illusion that love and romance need to be a certain way, but the truth is that real life relationships are a whole lot different than what we see on the screen or read on the page.  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you my biggest tips to create and sustain romance between you and your partner through 2025 and beyond.  When’s the last time you and your sweetheart really thought out of the box for a date night? What about exploring a whole new-to-you cuisine, stepping out of your typical movie genre box, or even learning to ice skate together (and sharing a laughing fit when you both end up on your bottoms!) It can be hard to get out of your comfortable rut, but branching out can bring some much needed spice and bonding time to a long term relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The most important predictor of happiness, health, and well being in our lives is the health and happiness of our romantic relationship (00:40) Idealized portrayals of love can be damaging to our real life relationship (03:38) Date nights are a no-brainer and a non-negotiable (04:38) A great relationship is about taking action (11:16) Expressing gratitude lowers your heart rate and your stress response (12:09) Get off your butt and celebrate with your sweetheart (16:18) Today’s LoveByte (18:56) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

Want to Rate your Relationship and Learn the Three Keys to Long Term Love?  Take the Passion Quiz Now!  “But Dr. Cheryl, shouldn’t the goal be not to have any arguments with my sweetheart?” If you’re a human being who loves another human being, do you truly think it's healthy to never argue with your sweetheart? To never disagree, never have a tense conversation or one that leads to you feeling anxious or worried or hurt or angry?  On this Sex, Love, and Elephants rewind, I’m teaching you why a long term relationship with no fighting or arguing is one giant red flag. When you’re arguing with your partner, you literally cannot know their side of things. You can’t see their side of the clock, you can’t visualize what they're seeing—they have a different background, a different family upbringing, different hopes and dreams. It’s this simple, powerful idea that often becomes one of the most important teachings for couples in my Become Passion program.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Couples who don’t have conflict are avoiding the tough topics (02:00) One of the best ways to improve your communication is to take a step back from what's happening in the moment (09:38) To argue effectively, you and your honey need to agree on a “time out” signal (12:40) When we're triggered and irrational, we are being hijacked by our emotions (14:28) We make mistakes and our partners make mistakes—learn to apologize like a pro (19:30) Today’s LoveByte (21:09) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Let’s Connect!   Follow @DrCherylFraser on Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube

“Dr. Cheryl, we never have sex anymore!”  “Dr. Cheryl, with the kids, the dog, and the mortgage, there’s no time left for the bedroom!”  “Dr. Cheryl, our sex life has totally lost its spark—how did things become so boring?” These are the types of questions I hear repeatedly from the couples in my Become Passion program, and they’re the sort of issues that nearly every long term relationship goes through. Whether you’ve found yourself running your marriage like a business or your sex life has become as exciting as a 12 hour Netflix binge, there is hope and you and your honey CAN bring the sexy back. On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you all about how to improve your sex life in the new year. I'm very passionate about helping long term couples just like you improve your relationship and I’ve had plenty of practice doing it. Today, you’ll hear three tried and true tips to start out 2024 with your most sensual foot forward.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: My first tip for better sex is to practice more non-erotic touch (01:43) The three breath hug is a great way to start regularly using non-erotic touch (03:15) Tip number 2: Schedule sensual time (05:55) Waiting for spontaneous sexual desire is like waiting for a teenager to spontaneously clean their room (08:51) Whether you're making love these days or not, try bathing together naked (14:37) Tip three: Please, be a little more creative! (20:11) Today’s LoveByte (21:55) Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open April 2024! Click here to join the waitlist.  Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Follow  @drcherylfraser on Instagram  Let’s Connect!   About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

“Dr. Cheryl, how do I bring back the spark?” “How do I spice up my sex life with my spouse?” “Am I in a sexless marriage?” I'm a sex expert— That means my sex life is like a romantic comedy mixed with an erotic novel, right? Well, a lot of that used to be true, but things don’t always stay all sunshine, butterflies, and constant bunny rabbit sex… Today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is a look back at my number one episode of 2024. You’ll hear my hubby and I sit down for a chat about all things sensuality, sex, and what to do when those things stop being easy. In This Episode, You Will Learn: The lust you have for a stranger is a fleeting thing (05:57) Menopause can cause a radical downshift in a couple’s sex life (15:38) Sexuality is neglected in long term couples—but there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re not having constant spontaneous desire (21:09) There are biological reasons for our lust to fade in a long term relationship (29:36)  Top Tip? Schedule Sex! Today’s LoveByte (39:19) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

“Dr. Cheryl, how can I be more present for my sweetheart?” “What’s the number one gift to give my spouse?” “How do I make Christmas more exciting?” This season, remember that gifts don’t have to have a monetary value. Show your partner you care by being intentional and letting them know how much they matter to you. A happy, healthy relationship involves shared rituals—why not give your lover the gift of presence? On today’s classic episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll hear a rerelease of one of my all time favorite episodes where I focus on the sex and love part of Christmas and show you some special ways to make this time together magical.  Remember being a kid on Christmas morning, waking up even before the sun… overwhelmed and giddy at the idea of what Santa Claus might’ve brought? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to recapture that special, magical feeling—even long after we stop believing in old St. Nick? In This Episode, You Will Learn: Yes, you CAN make the holidays more romantic and sexy and avoid becoming totally burnt out by the end of the season (04:33)  It’s not about the presents, it’s about the presence (11:00) If you've got  little inquiring eyes and ears around, put your stocking stuffer in an envelope or add an IOU for an erotic massage (12:34) If you don't celebrate Christmas, you don't have to put your gifts in a stocking (13:52) Why not try out The 12 Days of Christmas for Couples? Instead of a partridge in a pear tree, what about dancing to a romantic song together in the living room? (18:08) Today’s LoveByte (25:52) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

“Dr. Cheryl, can I make the holidays special with my sweetheart?” “Why do I feel so burnt out at Christmastime?” “How can I prioritize my spouse?” No matter what you celebrate, the beginning of December always feels like the unofficial start to the busiest time of year. There are company holiday parties, the kids have their plays and concerts, and the family gatherings can feel endless… And with all that commotion, who has the time to make things feel special with their sweet heart? In today’s throwback episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, it’s all about taking the chaotic, overscheduled energy of December and using some of it to honor and cherish the one who’s by your side through it all.  Tune in and remember that first holiday season you spent with your sweetie. When you were dating and wooing and falling in love, you probably made a heck of a lot more effort during the holidays. You probably shopped more carefully, you probably did some romantic or sexy or fun gifts, and you probably really thought about: “How can I light my sweetheart up?”  In This Episode, You Will Learn: In the December holiday season, couples gets lost (02:03) Valentine’s Day is a manufactured money grabbing cheap chocolate holiday—but if you open your mind, it can be a reminder to be romantic as heck (03:22) Your love affair doesn't take care of itself. You need to make passion a priority (12:13) It takes work and effort and repetition to improve and to be good at what you do—if you rest on your laurels, your laurels tend to fall apart (12:52) Your challenge is to make this holiday season joyful, compassionate, and generous—but also make it about the two of you. Carve out at least one special holiday date (13:38) This week’s LoveByte (14:40) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

Dr. Cheryl, is it time to reconsider my relationship? When did my hubby become so boring?  My partner cheated on me—how do I get over it? Have you ever done a relationship performance review? At work, your supervisor probably calls you in once a quarter or once a year. They give you feedback on where you're doing well, where you need to pick up the slack, and maybe even if you’re being considered for a promotion or in danger of being let go.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m talking all about the idea of a performance review—but this time, it’s not at your job, it’s a check in for you and your sweetheart.  Does your partner know what's lighting you up these days? What makes you feel good? Do they know what you're worried about? Do they know what's on your mind? If you can’t answer all or any of these questions, it might be time for a review of your relationship. In This Episode, You Will Learn: Every relationship is vulnerable to falling into Marriage Incorporated (03:57) We all miss the thrill of the honeymoon phase, but it doesn’t have to be gone for good (08:33) If you don’t find your partner interesting anymore, someone else will (10:57) Most affairs aren’t planned (14:03) Join the wait list for the free workshops I'm teaching in early 2025 (22:00) Today’s LoveByte (34:09) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

Dr. Cheryl, how can I be happier in my circumstances? Why is my anxiety so overpowering?  How can I stop obsessing about the future? What’s the cause of happiness? Could you be happier in a prison than you'd be in a monastery? And if we're accepting where we are, no matter good or bad, doesn't that mean that we're free?  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk centered around suffering and why so much of our mental hardships are a choice that we make. Have you ever felt at times like you can't get out of an emotional state of anxiety or worry? Even when you know that much of it is a story and a lot of it is casting worry about the future? Even when you know that it’s something you'll be able to pivot and cope through? If you’ve answered yes, there’s no reason to be ashamed. There are times when we all fall prey to thinking like this.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: This too shall pass (06:11) Whether your in prison or paradise, your attitude is your choice (28:24) We all have self-imposed labels that stop us from being free (30:54) Beliefs are simply understandings that make sense based on what we currently know (47:37) We often find ourselves in the prison of the past or the prison of the future (51:29] Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

Dr. Cheryl, how can I express my true self? Why do I feel the need to hide from the world?  How can I work through my anger? We all play a hundred different roles and contain multitudes, but what are the masks you wear? And who are the goblins, demons, and vampires that plague you?  Today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants features a Dharma Talk where I teach about ideas that can feel much spookier than the ghosts and ghouls of Halloween.  What is your shadow self? What are the parts of yourself you don't like to look at? What are the parts of you that are your darker self from trauma, fear, and need? The more we can look at the masks we wear, the more we can examine the costumes we wear, the more we can have moments of grace and less suffering.  In This Episode, You Will Learn: We sometimes forget we're a whole conglomeration of shifting roles and personality traits (07:51) Where you put your attention, energy goes (24:13) We all have inner demons but when we repress or ignore them, they find their way out—usually in destructive ways (35:47) Hatred is illusory. Hatred is a state of mind that we can learn to see through and dissolve without taking unwholesome action (46:38) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

Missed registering for the Become Passion program? We can help you out! The first live class is this weekend.  Email [email protected] and we can try to get you in the back door! Dr. Cheryl, how can I learn to sincerely apologize? Should I be worried that my partner and I fight?  How can I make up with my partner after we argue? Imagine I install a camera in your home and record everything you say to your partner for a week—would you be comfortable sharing that footage with your nearest and dearest? The good, the bad, and the ugly? Or would you be ashamed and embarrassed at how you speak and interact with your sweetheart, especially in times of anger or frustration? Human beings in relationships are going to have disagreements—that’s a fact of life. It sounds harsh, but if most people actually recorded themselves for a week and listened back to the way they spoke to their partner, they would be very disappointed in themselves. The trick is to make sure you and your honey both have the tools to have disagreements that aren’t destructive - disagreements that actually help bring you closer together. I know, right? In this throwback episode, I talk about why a sincere vow to do better is one of the most important tools in your relationship arsenal, and why a mindful apology is an art in and of itself. I teach you the value of what I call “do-over. This love hack  is super   beneficial when you’re arguing with your sweetie. In fact, I’ll show you  how you can start practicing the technique today. Speaking kindly and thoughtfully to your partner is an integral part of a successful relationship. We can’t just sit back and wait for our relationships to become fabulous and earth-shattering—we’re responsible for creating that ourselves...  In This Episode, You Will Learn: If you’re just sitting around and waiting for passion—good luck with that! YOU are responsible for creating a great relationship.  (04:26) When you're agitated, your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol, creating temporary aggression and irrationality (06:24) The opposite of kind speech is ugly speech. This includes name-calling, swearing at one another, and using absolute language. (09:50) If you’re in a relationship with a real, live human being who’s not six feet under, you’re going to have disagreements… and that’s totally fine.  (12:45) Don’t make excuses—apologize like a mofo. (14:44) Your weekly LoveByte. (24:29) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

Why is it so important to work on your relationship? Because when you neglect it, it grows stagnant. A love affair is a lot like a garden—if you don't tend to it, it gets overgrown with weeds. Want to revive your communication and your sex life? Are you ready to reignite love, romance, and passion and fall in love with your partner all over again—without years of counseling, silly quick-fix gimmicks, or endless relationship theories that don't give you the tools that actually work? Become Passion kicks off October 11th. Learn more about the program and register HERE. Curious but still want to know more? Check out the Become Passion testimonials for reviews from actual couples that I’ve helped through this profound program. “Dr. Cheryl, why is my marriage so boring?” “How do I make my relationship more fun?” “Is it over for me and my partner?” Join me today for part four of my chat with my hubby where we talk about all things Become Passion, including some of our favorite moments from past sessions and all the ways we work on our love. In This Episode, You Will Learn: My Become Passion program is kicking off THIS Friday—and there are still a few slots left for couples just like YOU (01:04) My hubby and I made our own marriage missteps before we found each other (04:33) The desire to know each other's hopes and dreams is what tends to die in the first couple years of a relationship (09:46) If you’re bored with your partner, it's because your own mind is boring (13:27) If you want to create meaningful change, you need to be able to bring up and gently hold the resentments and the hurts of the years gone by (31:13) Today’s LoveByte (39:47) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram