Sisters and Brothers In Crisis

 Dying to live--Suicide is a very sensitive topic.  It is never to be taken lightly. Hear what goes to a person's mind and the effects it has on the friends and families left behind.  

Getting yourself together is the hardest yet best thing you can do for yourself.  People will always think they are entitled in the relationships and that is where conflict arises.  There are people who are willing to work on their shi*t, and then they are people always playing the victim because they don't want to work on their sh*t.  If you are the "needy" insecure one in the relationship, the liar and cheater, the spy, the micromanager, the clam, the controller, the people pleaser.. you need to work on your stuff.  No, it's not criticizing, it's guidance.  It's a means for you to grow and live happily with yourself and with others.  

Moving forward in addressing our issues, we want to learn from the things of our past and not allow them to hinder our future.  We become emotionally unavailable people when we stay connected to a person that doesn't want to heal from their past traumas or childhood. We will continue to carry the burden of those who are unwilling to change and will continue to stay stuck in an unhealthy relationship.  Tune in to find out more as I address some shady shit that people are willing to live by. 

Being in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person is difficult to say the least, because they do not know how to be in a healthy relationship with anyone because they are disconnected from themselves.  NO person is perfect, and normally each person will come into a relationship with unhealed emotional wounds; but in a healthy relationship, both parties are willing to support each other while working on themselves.  Take a dive and listen.  If you can relate, then we have something to work with.  

Going a little into detail as to why we might want to look at ourselves to see what we need to address in our inner child.  Take a listen and see if you can relate to any of these things.  

Are you unhappy in your relationships or in your marriage?   Addressing your inner child is one of the most important things you can do to change your life. Take a listen to see if you can relate to any of these things in any way. 

How can we cope after almost a year into the pandemic?  We want to support everyone in every generation into surviving and thriving during these time!  Listen in to see if you are. 

Teenagers and Social Anxiety.  A lot of teenagers suffer silently with anxiety.  Today we want to address the affects of social media, fear, and depression and how our kids really feel.  We brought in a teenager to discuss the reality kids face in school and out in public.  If you are a teen, you should tune in to this episode, and if you are a parent of a teen, then you should also listen in and plan out how to discuss this topic with your child. 

Happy New Year 2021!!! It's a new day and a new season for all of us.  Jump on board learning what this podcast will be looking into in 2021 and giving you insight as to how we can move forward, be healthy, and live our best year even during a pandemic.  

Our podcast can been invited to be a part of a 10 Week Life Series at the Women’s Correctional Center in KAILUA, Hawaii. We will be posting our Talkshow series as I co-host with the Chaplain of the Hawaii based Women’s Prison. Our messages pertain to both MEN AND WOMEN and cover topics such as loneliness, anxiety , triggers, abandonment, insecurity , adversity and how we can have a great Christmas during Covid lockdown.

As we reflect on identifying our insecurities and where they came from.   Part 2 is allowing you to process them and knowing that it is ok, and that we ALL have insecurities.  Both men and women have them in different areas, and until we heal those parts of us, we will never be fulfilled in the ways that we need be. 

You may use this for segment for anything that you feel you need to process.  This is part of the therapy work that we do to identify, address, process, and heal from painful memories.  

Insecurities can affect our lives in every relationship.  If we continue to be insecure in ourselves, we will inevitably look for someone to fulfill the emotional wounds within us.  Actually, the reality is that an insecure person will normally end up with the same type of person as them, so therefore creates a relationship built on uncertainty, anxiety, anger, disappointment, and instability.  When someone tells you "they understand you because they lived the same kind of life" be careful.  Your unhealed parts of you mirror each other. 

Do you have anxiety? How do I know if I have anxiety?? Today we will take a look at the emotions that are felt when we are experiencing anxiety, stressed or panicky about something.  We will also address how to identify, address, and process it.  Did you know that anxiety takes a toll on your entire body physically when it is not addressed or resolved.  Healing can sometimes be a painful journey at times.  But, in the end healing from these kind of things create a healthier journey for your future. 

What triggers you into an emotional state of uncertainty and fear?  It could be something that makes you feel angry, hurt, anxious, depressed, fearful, insecure and leave you with a pain in your heart.  A trigger is something we want to address, identify and process in this 10 week life series of healing .  I will be working closely with my followers of this podcast as well as with the inmates at the Women's Community Correctional Center here in Hawai'i.  Join me in this journey as we take a look into things that will help us feel more secure in a time that we are all struggling in with a fear of uncertainty in this time of Covid.  

Growing up in a family lifestyle where there was chaos, fear, crying, hiding, scolding, bullying, violence, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and a parent or parent(s) who were emotionally unavailable, we often wondered how in the world did we survive.  We look at ourselves as champions today thinking we endured and are progressing in life with careers and a family.  I want you to ask yourself BEFORE AND AFTER this episode this question:  Who am I ???  Take a listen to see if you are anything mentioned or can relate to in today's episode.  

Realizing our role in the dynamic of a dysfunctional family is an eye opener.  We are exactly the people that we didn't want to be.  Maybe you hated your manipulative parent, but now you ARE the manipulative parent AND spouse.  We didn't want to to be the weak link in the family, but now I am the enabler of a Narcissistic  spouse and allowing them to control my kids and their families.  It bleeds into the next generation unless we make a conscious decision to change things for the future.  Let's take a look to see where we are at and what role to we play.    

We can now see everyone’s part in the dysfunctional family dynamic. We can get a better picture of what happens, how and where we will end up. These are interesting facts and although mind blowing , we want to break this cycle.

Doing self care by working on your own issues , your past hurts will give you full clarity in to how you became to be the person you are today. We want to strive to be a better version of ourselves daily and by doing so, we will need to make a conscious effort in applying whatever it takes. Let’s walk into freedom together supporting one another, forgiving one another and most importantly forgiving ourselves for not being able to find the courage earlier in life. Today is a new day! Today we can make a difference!

Are you in a physically abusive relationship? Are you protecting your abuser ? Does everyone think they are a great person? Are you the one LABELED as dramatic or unstable? Are you living on eggshells waiting for the next bomb to explode. Let’s look into what kind of relationship we have .

We all know that the teenage years are one of the most difficult seasons in life.  It is a turning point where we have become physically, psychologically, and sexually aware of ourselves.  It is time where most of us encounter life changing moments, and set the tone to our future in schooling, careers, and family life.  Because of fear of rejection and insecurity,  we often struggle with choices that will make or break the path that we take.  

Stepping out of your comfort zone is hard, and it's painful.  But as we take steps into healing, you will finally find freedom from the stongholds that were holding you back in life.  

Taking the first step into healing is hard.  We are afraid of releasing the things that held us together our whole life.  In the midst of COVID-19, I feel that God has lead us to an area He wants us.  To be in lock down, in desperate measures, knowing that He really is all that we can rely on.  Join me in a walk where you can find freedom, and you will have support.  We are in this crisis together! 

The church, the body of Christ is there to support us. But, they can’t fix us. Only Jesus can. See why and how it can go off track when you depend only on the church.

Why do we need to follow up on things? Answer: Because we are worthy of living a joyful and happy life! Let’s process the things we’ve learned so far. Let’s make the first step into living victorious!

The stereotypes of counseling or therapy. “Why would I even think I would need that? “ Everyone wants to think that they are perfect, but the truth is No one is perfect! Seeking therapy or counseling can be the best thing you do for yourself and for your family.

PTSD and the difficulty in accepting that we may have it. The process and what it entails in seeking to make the first step.

How we live as codependents, relying on others to fulfill us. God can fulfill us IF we allow Him to change us. Are you constantly forgiving people? Are you miserable under that smile? Are you afraid that you won’t make it in life? Are you afraid that chick is better than you?

Generational curses are patterns that carry from generation to generation . Although we may not be aware of them, we can now look to identify them and pray over our families and all parties who are involved.

The words that we speak into others play a huge role as to how they see themselves. The fear of being rejected causes us to take on unhealthy ways in striving to be perfect! This episode is created for men AND women to hear!

Why and how we get into dysfunctional relationships

Empowering and supporting women in dysfunctional relationships stemming from emotional, sexual and physical abuse. Join us as we walk with them through their path to recovery and overcoming their past life with victory!