The Session with Tom Russell

The Session: Forgiveness versus Unforgiveness, from Dr. Paul Tripp(Ephesians 4:31-5:2)   Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.  Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.First, an introduction.  Dr. Paul David Tripp was born in Toledo.  He is a pastor, international event speaker, and author of more than 30 books and video series.  He defines forgiveness in a single, simple sentence: Forgiveness is a vertical commitment followed by a horizontal transaction.  What we are going to share is a summary of several articles and videos Dr. Tripp has done on forgiveness.  His website is Paul Tripp dot com.The Beautiful Power of Relational DebtHolding on to someone else’s wrongs gives us the upper handHolding a record of a person’s wrongs gives us the upper hand in that relationshipThe Dark Unhealthy Benefits of UnforgivenessDebt is power. It protects us in an unhealthy way.Debt is identity. It helps us feel more righteous and mature than the person we’re angry at.Debt is entitlement holding another person. Send against them makes us feel entitled.We can weaponize unforgiveness and use it for our advantageUnforgiveness makes us equal with GodIt is not our job to dispense consequences to those who have hurt usThe Ugly Selfishness of Relational Unforgiveness It has nothing to do with God and loving othersThe Beauty of ForgivenessThe beauty of leading a life of forgiveness shows us how much we have embraced our forgiveness of our sins.The Parable of the Unforgiving ServantAfter pleading with his his master for forgiveness and being granted forgiveness, he goes out and demands repayment from people who owed him. Matthew 18:21-35 A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Children of DivorcePsalm 27:10, "Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me"Key Statistics and Findings Relational Wisdom 360Religious Impact: Children of divorced parents are more likely to become nonreligious; 35% of children from divorced families are nonreligious compared to their peers.Adult Faith: Divorce can cause children to feel isolated from their religious communityRelationship Challenges: Children from divorced homes often struggle with fear of failure, abandonment, and conflict.Social & Academic Effects: Children of divorce are more likely to experience lower academic performance, and increased instances of delinquency and substance use.Long-Term Consequences: A 2025 study found that children of divorce had a higher likelihood of teen pregnancy and increased mortality rates compared to children from continuously married parents.Dr. Judith Wallerstein StudyIn a landmark study, psychologist Judith Wallerstein followed a group of children of divorce from the 1970s into the 1990s. She interviewed them at eighteen months, five, ten, fifteen, and twenty-five years after the divorce. The results were:Continued experiencing fear of failure,Fear of losschangeFear of conflictStudy DataThe Center for Economic Studies released the findings of a research project, where they surveyed 5 million children of divorce. Data shows that children of divorced parents have an elevated risk of jail time (40% increase), elevated risk of mortality (45% increase), increased risk of teen birth (60% increase) 9-13% less income Other Important ImplicationsWithout two parents and one of the parents working, children are often times left alone. Their answer to that is to go on social media and other screens for attention and relationshipChildren of divorce are often unable to participate in after school activities What do you want your children to learn about marriage and family? A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session – What is Schizophrenia?1 John 4:1Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.Livingwithschizophreniauk.orgSchizophrenia is an illness affecting the brain and rooted within the biological functions of the brain cells.At some time during their life about 1 in 100 people will suffer an episode of schizophrenia. Schizophrenia occurs in all countries and societies of the world. Schizophrenia affects men and women alike and sufferers come from all walks of life and social backgrounds.It is not multiple personality disorder. That is known as dissociative disorder.  (let’s do quick definitions here for both)Onset:  It tends to strike most often in late teens and early twenties, slightly earlier in men than in women, although late onset illness can occur as late as the 70s. Schizophrenia before puberty is very rare.The word schizophrenia literally means a “fragmented mind”.It is caused by an abnormality in the brain cell of dopamine.This hormone is responsible for thought processes and an excess or shortage can cause thinking to become disturbed.What the evidence shows us is that people with schizophrenia are at considerably higher risk of death by suicide than the general population and are also more at risk of violent behavior and sexually disinhibited behavior. However provided that adequate psychiatric care is provided and good supervision of those in crisis is carried out these risks can be reduced to levels no higher than the general population.The cause of schizophrenia is often times thought to be genetic predisposition and potential complications a childbirth.Schizophrenia is a severe condition in which the sufferer may completely lose touch with reality, become socially withdrawn, be unable to work or study and stop looking after themselves. Their behavior may become bizarre or sometimes dangerous.Other symptoms include delusions (a false) and hallucinations (perception of something not there)(National Institute of Health)  Religious Delusions: People with schizophrenia often experience hallucinations or false beliefs with religious content, such as believing they are God, a saint, or being punished by demons. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session - The Sandwich Generation & Caring For Aging Parents1 Timothy 5:4: Encourages children to "repay" parents by caring for them.Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—  “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.What is the sandwich generation?The "sandwich generation"—typically adults aged 30–50—faces  immense, often overwhelming burdens, balancing care for children and aging parents.The sandwich generation often times struggles with financial strain, emotional exhaustion, and severe time constraints.Almost one-third of caregivers are in this position.According to Mental Health America, 95% of the sandwich generation reports significant impacts on their lives, including reduced personal time, career conflicts, and, for many, jeopardized retirement savings.  Key Aspects of the Caregiver BurdenFinancial Strain: Sandwich generation caregivers frequently face high out-of-pocket expenses (averaging approximately $10,000 annually) for care, in addition to supporting their own children, which can severely impact long-term financial stability.Time Constraints: These caregivers often spend around 30 hours per week on caregiving tasks, leading to a constant, high-pressure feeling of having insufficient time.Emotional & Physical Toll: The dual responsibility often leads to burnout, high stress, anxiety, and guilt. Women often bear a higher intensity of this burden.Impact on Work: Many, particularly women, struggle to balance careers with caregiving responsibilities.Role Reversal: According to Mental Health America Individuals must navigate the emotional, difficult shift of taking on parental roles for their own parents.  Christian support for the sandwich generation focuses on finding strength through faith, prayer, and community to balance caring for aging parents and children. Key approaches include embracing self-care as stewardship rather than selfishness, setting realistic boundaries, and reframing caregiving as a God-ordained opportunity to serve.Scott Question: Can we define what some of those realistic boundaries might be? (Focus on the Family.) A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Teen Depression - Part 21 Peter 5:6-7, “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” Definition from Bellevue Christian Counseling:Christian teen depression is a serious, treatable clinical condition, not just a spiritual failure or phase. Biblical support emphasizes that depression is a journey, not a permanent identity, offering hope alongside professional clinical counseling. Emotional changesBe alert for emotional changes, such as:Feelings of sadness, which can include crying spells for no apparent reasonFrustration or feelings of anger, even over small mattersFeeling hopeless or emptyIrritable or annoyed moodLoss of interest or pleasure in usual activitiesLoss of interest in, or conflict with, family and friendsLow self-esteemFeelings of worthlessness or guiltFixation on past failures or exaggerated self-blame or self-criticismExtreme sensitivity to rejection or failure, and the need for excessive reassuranceTrouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering thingsOngoing sense that life and the future are grim and bleakFrequent thoughts of death, dying or suicideBehavioral Changes from Mayo Clinic - Watch for changes in behavior, such as:Tiredness and loss of energyInsomnia or sleeping too muchChanges in appetite — decreased appetite and weight loss, or increased cravings for food and weight gainUse of alcohol or drugsAgitation Slowed thinking, speaking or body movementsFrequent complaints of unexplained body aches and headaches, which may include frequent visits to the school nurseSocial isolationPoor school performance or frequent absences from schoolLess attention to personal hygiene or appearanceAngry outbursts, disruptive or risky behavior, or other acting-out behaviorsSelf-harm — for example, cutting or burningMaking a suicide plan or a suicide attempt Teen Depression Treatment, from Pax Renewal CenterTeens who receive counseling that integrates both their emotional needs and their spiritual development show remarkable resilience that goes far beyond what traditional therapy alone can provide.Christian Treatment Helps Teens Realize What They Are Putting Ahead Of GodPeer Priority (This sounds familiar….)Academic Success Romantic Relationships Teen Social Media CultureExamples Of Helpful Scripture For Depression “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39"Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die. Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you." Psalm 143:7-8"Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—  my Savior and my God!" Psalm 42:11A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Teen Depression1 Peter 5:6-7, “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.” Definition from Bellevue Christian Counseling:Christian teen depression is a serious, treatable clinical condition, not just a spiritual failure or phase. Biblical support emphasizes that depression is a journey, not a permanent identity, offering hope alongside professional clinical counseling. Emotional changesBe alert for emotional changes, such as:Feelings of sadness, which can include crying spells for no apparent reasonFrustration or feelings of anger, even over small mattersFeeling hopeless or emptyIrritable or annoyed moodLoss of interest or pleasure in usual activitiesLoss of interest in, or conflict with, family and friendsLow self-esteemFeelings of worthlessness or guiltFixation on past failures or exaggerated self-blame or self-criticismExtreme sensitivity to rejection or failure, and the need for excessive reassuranceTrouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering thingsOngoing sense that life and the future are grim and bleakFrequent thoughts of death, dying or suicideBehavioral Changes from Mayo Clinic - Watch for changes in behavior, such as:Tiredness and loss of energyInsomnia or sleeping too muchChanges in appetite — decreased appetite and weight loss, or increased cravings for food and weight gainUse of alcohol or drugsAgitation Slowed thinking, speaking or body movementsFrequent complaints of unexplained body aches and headaches, which may include frequent visits to the school nurseSocial isolationPoor school performance or frequent absences from schoolLess attention to personal hygiene or appearanceAngry outbursts, disruptive or risky behavior, or other acting-out behaviorsSelf-harm — for example, cutting or burningMaking a suicide plan or a suicide attempt Teen Depression Treatment, from Pax Renewal CenterTeens who receive counseling that integrates both their emotional needs and their spiritual development show remarkable resilience that goes far beyond what traditional therapy alone can provide.Christian Treatment Helps Teens Realize What They Are Putting Ahead Of GodPeer Priority (This sounds familiar….)Academic Success Romantic Relationships Teen Social Media CultureExamples Of Helpful Scripture For Depression “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39"Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die. Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you." Psalm 143:7-8"Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again—  my Savior and my God!" Psalm 42:11A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: When Your Spouse is Unfaithful - Part 2Psalm 51:10-12, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”After The Affair - 10 Steps Toward Healing, from Leslie Vernick1. Does the spouse who committed adultery take ownership and repent for his or her choice without blaming? 2. Is there a willingness on the part of the adulterer to do the work of self-examination to understand better what happened and look at the deep heart issues?3. Is there genuine sorrow for the pain he/she has caused the spouse? 4. Is the adulterous spouse willing to sit with his/her spouse and really listen to the hurt and heartache over this and show compassion, empathy and care no matter how long it takes?5. Is the injured spouse willing to forgive even if right now he/she doesn’t know how to do that?6. Is the injured spouse willing to take a hard look at ways he/she may have contributed to neglect in the marriage or other unresolved problems that created emotional distancing to develop?7. Is the injured spouse willing to be honest with her feelings of sadness, hurt, anger and do the hard work to work through them and move past them?8. Is the injured spouse willing to acknowledge the positive changes his/her spouse is making toward rebuilding trust and healing the marriage?9. Is the couple able to tolerate that the healing process goes in fits and starts; it isn’t a smooth ride?10. Is the spouse who committed adultery willing to be patient with the process as his/her spouse struggles to let it go, gets retriggered with old memories or current reminders, or can’t immediately feel trust or warm feelings for his/her spouse? Hope Restored Focus on the FamilyA devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: When Your Spouse is UnfaithfulPsalm 51:10-12, “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”Forgive with intelligenceYour spouse cheated. Your trust for them has nearly diminished and there's good reason for that. So, you must act accordingly.The reason why you're looking for ways to forgive your spouse is because your mind isn't allowing you to.It's playing scenarios in your head of them doing it again and it pains you.Does investigating your spouse make you a bad person?If your spouse gave you reasons to be weary of them? No. They broke your trust. All bets are off.If they lied and betrayed you, why should they get the privilege of being trusted immediately? They committed the ultimate love crime.  And let's face it, some cheaters just get better at hiding it once they've been caught. Worriedlovers.comBefore proceeding, you should look for evidence of genuine “godly sorrow” (2 Corinthians 7:10) as opposed to the “worldly sorrow” which simply says, “I’m sorry I got caught.” A key indicator of a godly sorrow would include a willingness on the part of your spouse to talk with a marriage counselor who can assess his vulnerabilities, as well as the weaknesses of your relationship.Confront HonestlyThat’s because you need to meet this challenge from a position of strength and self-assurance.When you’re ready, arrange a time to sit down and talk with your spouse. Choose a private meeting place where you know you won’t be interrupted. Approach the subject honestly and straightforwardly. The crisis in your marriage is emotionally charged but stay calm and cool. To achieve this, most people need to write out what they are going to say.Often it is necessary to do a more formal intervention, where several people show up to confront the offending spouse at a designated time without his or her foreknowledge. This formal intervention should not be confused with that of individual people confronting your spouse over time.Prayerfully consider who these people might be and meet with them together ahead of time so that you can explain your situation and provide them with the important facts.A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: The Impact of Sleep on Our Mental HealthMatthew 11:28-30 – “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”Sleep, Body and BrainWe spend approximately a third of our lives asleep.Sleep is an essential and involuntary process, without which we cannot function effectively. The body’s fuel is sleep. Without proper sleep, our minds begin to slow, unable to operate at their full potential. This happens until the mind becomes so deprived of the rest it needs, it breaks down. And without the commander-in-chief acting accordingly, the rest of the body pays the price.It is as essential to our bodies as eating, drinking and breathing.Sleeping helps to repair and restore our brains, not just our bodies. During sleep we can process information, consolidate memories, and undergo a number of maintenance processes that help us to function during the daytime.Poor sleep over a sustained period leads to a number of problems which are immediately recognizable, including fatigue, sleepiness, poor concentration, lapses in memory, and irritability.There is no universal answer to the question of how much sleep a person needs. This varies from person to person. What is important is that people respect themselves enough to find out how much sleep they need and ensure that they achieve it.The amygdala is in charge of our emotional responses. But to do its job correctly it needs us to sleep, because that’s the time it’s allocated to process emotion.The prefrontal cortex, does as well. The prefrontal cortex does a lot of impressive things. One of which is being “the voice of reason” to our emotions (aka putting the brakes on our amygdala when it’s being a diva). The prefrontal cortex helps control our impulses, attention, inhibition, emotion, and complex learning. HelpsSleep should get as much attention as depression and anxiety prevention gets.People with insomnia are 10 and 17 times more likely than those without insomnia to experience clinically significant levels of depression and anxiety, respectively. (National Library of Medicine)Helpful Sleep Strategies from Mayo Clinic Manage WorriesTry to resolve your worries or concerns before bedtime. Jot down what's on your mind and then set it aside for tomorrow.Stress Management might help. Start with the basics, such as getting organized, setting priorities and delegating tasks. Meditation also can ease anxiety.Sleep killer 1: Anxiety - Compounding the problem is the fact that a lack of sleep can also worsen any anxiety you may be experiencing. (Gale.com)It shows the importance of managing and working on your anxiety very important.The Grateful Exercise Progressive Muscle StrategyWriting Down The Important things You Will Try To Remember Through The NightStick to a sleep scheduleSet aside no more than eight hours for sleep. The recommended amount of sleep for a healthy adult is at least seven hours. Most people don't need more than eight hours in bed to be well rested.Go to bed and get up at the same time every day, including weekends. Being consistent reinforces your body's sleep-wake cycle.If you don't fall asleep within about 20 minutes of going to bed, leave your bedroom and do something relaxing. Read or listen to sootA devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Important Marriage TipsColossians 3:13-14 "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”From Focus on the Family, these tips:Do Make Jesus The Center of Your Marriage.Don’t Embrace UnGodly TrendsEphesians 5:22 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."Ephesians 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."Ephesians 5:33 "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."Be Quick to Listen, Not Quick to Get AngryJames 1:19  "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."The Communication Highway is vital here.Do Use Your Words to Encourage, Don’t Use them to Harm or Manipulate James 3:8 "But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison."Celebrate Each otherDo Be Willing to Forgive, Don’t Hold Grudges I Corinthians 13:5 "It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."“The Best Marriage Advice I have Ever Heard”, From Cara JoinerIn Scripture we find that forgiveness is an action made in the midst of negative feelings, making it a beautiful expression of love.Stay Emotionally ConnectedRomans 12:15 "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."I Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."Forgiveness. Healing, Prayer and Scripture Fuel Emotional Connection Physical intimacy ( Bedroom Olympics 😀)It is an essential aspect of a passionate marriage. In Song of Solomon 1:2, the Bible celebrates the physical union of husband and wife: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth – for your love is more delightful than wine.” Investing Time And Effort Maintaining physical intimacy – from caring hugs to satisfying sex – helps keep the passion alive in your marriage. Make physical affection a regular part of your daily routine. Hold hands, hug, kiss, and cuddle.Gottman’s Marriage TipsTurn Toward Instead of Away: Respond positively to small bids for connection (e.g., a glance, a touch, a question) rather than ignoring them.Nurture Fondness and Admiration: Regularly express appreciation and respect to build a positive, supportive environment.The Magic Six Hours: Dedicate 6 hours per week to your relationship, including parting, reunions, admiration, affection, and weekly dates. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Important Marriage TipsColossians 3:13-14 "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”From Focus on the Family, these tips:Do Make Jesus The Center of Your Marriage.Don’t Embrace UnGodly TrendsEphesians 5:22 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."Ephesians 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."Ephesians 5:33 "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."Be Quick to Listen, Not Quick to Get AngryJames 1:19  "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."The Communication Highway is vital here.Do Use Your Words to Encourage, Don’t Use them to Harm or Manipulate James 3:8 "But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison."Celebrate Each otherDo Be Willing to Forgive, Don’t Hold Grudges I Corinthians 13:5 "It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."“The Best Marriage Advice I have Ever Heard”, From Cara JoinerIn Scripture we find that forgiveness is an action made in the midst of negative feelings, making it a beautiful expression of love.Stay Emotionally ConnectedRomans 12:15 "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."I Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."Forgiveness. Healing, Prayer and Scripture Fuel Emotional Connection Physical intimacy ( Bedroom Olympics 😀)It is an essential aspect of a passionate marriage. In Song of Solomon 1:2, the Bible celebrates the physical union of husband and wife: “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth – for your love is more delightful than wine.” Investing Time And Effort Maintaining physical intimacy – from caring hugs to satisfying sex – helps keep the passion alive in your marriage. Make physical affection a regular part of your daily routine. Hold hands, hug, kiss, and cuddle.Gottman’s Marriage TipsTurn Toward Instead of Away: Respond positively to small bids for connection (e.g., a glance, a touch, a question) rather than ignoring them.Nurture Fondness and Admiration: Regularly express appreciation and respect to build a positive, supportive environment.The Magic Six Hours: Dedicate 6 hours per week to your relationship, including parting, reunions, admiration, affection, and weekly dates. To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: It’s not normal!Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."Every February, Tom & Scott celebrate “Love Month”. Mostly because Valentine’s Day is also Tom’s Anniversary (celebrating 51 years this year!). We also this to celebrate God’s gift of marriage, and to encourage you in your marriage.Not much in the notes this time, just 7 “It’s not normal” thoughts from marriage coaches Tommy and Dianne McCollister:It’s not normal to not have intimacy for weeks It’s not normal to neglect emotional connection It’s not normal to consistently feel unhappy in your marriage It’s not normal to always prioritize parenting over your partner It’s not normal to avoid spending quality time together It’s not normal to prefer work over your home It’s not normal to have nothing to talk about with your spouse Here’s the link to the YouTube video Tom and I talked through on these 2 episodes:https://youtube.com/shorts/ufVHSRSx32E?si=f9IVAjRwW_bz5WkK If your marriage is full of these “It’s not normals”, get the normal back in your marriage by contacting Tom today. Thanks for listening! A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: It’s not normal!Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."Every February, Tom & Scott celebrate “Love Month”. Mostly because Valentine’s Day is also Tom’s Anniversary (celebrating 51 years this year!). We also this to celebrate God’s gift of marriage, and to encourage you in your marriage.Not much in the notes this time, just 7 “It’s not normal” thoughts from marriage coaches Tommy and Dianne McCollister:It’s not normal to not have intimacy for weeks It’s not normal to neglect emotional connection It’s not normal to consistently feel unhappy in your marriage It’s not normal to always prioritize parenting over your partner It’s not normal to avoid spending quality time together It’s not normal to prefer work over your home It’s not normal to have nothing to talk about with your spouse Here’s the link to the YouTube video Tom and I talked through on these 2 episodes:https://youtube.com/shorts/ufVHSRSx32E?si=f9IVAjRwW_bz5WkK If your marriage is full of these “It’s not normals”, get the normal back in your marriage by contacting Tom today. Thanks for listening! To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Marriage Habits of Millennials, Gen X and Gen ZPsalm 145:1-5I will exalt you, my God the King; I will praise your name for ever and ever. Every day I will praise you and extol your name for ever and ever.Great is the Lord and most worthy of praise; his greatness no one can fathom. One generation commends your works to another; they tell of your mighty acts. They speak of the glorious splendor of your majesty—and I will meditate on your wonderful works.Ages:Baby Boomers: Born 1946–1964 (Ages ~60-79)Generation X (Gen X): Born 1965–1980 (Ages ~45-59)Millennials (Gen Y): Born 1981–1996 (Ages ~29-44)Generation Z (Gen Z): Born 1997–2012 (Ages ~13- University of Southern CaliforniaKey Differences in Summary: Baby Boomers: Optimistic, tradition-focused, post-war prosperity. Gen X: Independent, pragmatic, cynical, bridging eras. Gen Z: Digitally fluent, diverse, experience-driven, socially conscious.Purdue UniversityThe Encouraging Data PointsYouth Engagement: Younger generations (Gen Z, Millennials) are showing increased commitment to Jesus, Bible reading, and church attendance, particularly younger men.Spiritual Curiosity: There's a noted rise in spiritual openness and interest not seen in past years.Global Growth: Christianity continues rapid growth in Africa and globally, with fewer atheists worldwide.  Barna GroupBaby Boomers (1946-1964)Marriage as Norm: Grew up with strong societal pressure to marry, resulting in the highest marriage rates.High Divorce Rates: Their era normalized divorce, leading to the highest divorce rates among generations, with rates rising with age. (Scott finds this interesting)Interracial marriage wasn't legal nationwide until 1967.Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.High Satisfaction: Studies suggest Gen X couples report the highest marital satisfaction. Millennials (1981-1996)Delayed Marriage: Married later and less frequently than prior generations, with lower overall marriage rates.Cohabitation & Trial Runs: Increased cohabitation before marriage, viewing it as a practical step.Diversity: More open to interracial and interfaith marriages. Generation Z (1997-2010)Continued Delay: Following Millennial trends, they are postponing marriage and other milestones.Lower Marriage Projections: Expected to have even lower marriage rates than Millennials.Authenticity: Value authenticity and are open to diverse relationships (interfaith/interracial).  Key TakeawaysShift from Institution to Partnership: Marriage is increasingly seen less as a societal requirement (Boomers) and more as a personal choice for fulfillment (Millennials/Gen Z).Financial & Practical Focus: Gen X prioritized affordability, while Millennials and Gen Z focus on experience and value, even in weddings.Evolving Definitions: Acceptance of cohabitation, interracial, and interfaith marriages has grown significantly from Boomers to Gen Z. Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Marriage Habits of Millennials, Gen X and Gen ZPsalm 145:1-5I will exalt you, my God the King; I will praise your name for ever and ever. Every day I will praise you and extol your name for ever and ever.Great is the Lord and most worthy of praise; his greatness no one can fathom. One generation commends your works to another; they tell of your mighty acts. They speak of the glorious splendor of your majesty—and I will meditate on your wonderful works.Ages:Baby Boomers: Born 1946–1964 (Ages ~60-79)Generation X (Gen X): Born 1965–1980 (Ages ~45-59)Millennials (Gen Y): Born 1981–1996 (Ages ~29-44)Generation Z (Gen Z): Born 1997–2012 (Ages ~13- University of Southern CaliforniaKey Differences in Summary: Baby Boomers: Optimistic, tradition-focused, post-war prosperity. Gen X: Independent, pragmatic, cynical, bridging eras. Gen Z: Digitally fluent, diverse, experience-driven, socially conscious.Purdue UniversityThe Encouraging Data PointsYouth Engagement: Younger generations (Gen Z, Millennials) are showing increased commitment to Jesus, Bible reading, and church attendance, particularly younger men.Spiritual Curiosity: There's a noted rise in spiritual openness and interest not seen in past years.Global Growth: Christianity continues rapid growth in Africa and globally, with fewer atheists worldwide.  Barna GroupBaby Boomers (1946-1964)Marriage as Norm: Grew up with strong societal pressure to marry, resulting in the highest marriage rates.High Divorce Rates: Their era normalized divorce, leading to the highest divorce rates among generations, with rates rising with age. (Scott finds this interesting)Interracial marriage wasn't legal nationwide until 1967.Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.High Satisfaction: Studies suggest Gen X couples report the highest marital satisfaction. Millennials (1981-1996)Delayed Marriage: Married later and less frequently than prior generations, with lower overall marriage rates.Cohabitation & Trial Runs: Increased cohabitation before marriage, viewing it as a practical step.Diversity: More open to interracial and interfaith marriages. Generation Z (1997-2010)Continued Delay: Following Millennial trends, they are postponing marriage and other milestones.Lower Marriage Projections: Expected to have even lower marriage rates than Millennials.Authenticity: Value authenticity and are open to diverse relationships (interfaith/interracial).  Key TakeawaysShift from Institution to Partnership: Marriage is increasingly seen less as a societal requirement (Boomers) and more as a personal choice for fulfillment (Millennials/Gen Z).Financial & Practical Focus: Gen X prioritized affordability, while Millennials and Gen Z focus on experience and value, even in weddings.Evolving Definitions: Acceptance of cohabitation, interracial, and interfaith marriages has grown significantly from Boomers to Gen Z. Generation X (1965-1980)Practical Approach: Bridged traditional and modern views, valuing financial stability and practicality in weddings.Cohabitation: Many supported cohabiting before marriage as a way to prevent divorce.A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: The Psychology of Eating                 Cliffnotes.com   Why, When, and How Much Humans EatDo you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (I Corinthians 6:19-20)The psychology of eating is a multidisciplinary field that explores the complex biological, psychological, social, and cultural factors influencing why, when, and how much humans eat. The psychology of eating goes beyond simple hunger to address learned behaviors, emotional triggers, and environmental cues that shape our relationship with food. Environmental cues happen when people are more likely to eat in the presence of an environmental cue that others did too. Also, participants were more likely to choose a snack that was consistent with the choice of others.Examples include having a snack because someone else in the house is having one. The power of suggestion.Key Factors in the Psychology of EatingEmotional Eating: Many people use food—often high-fat, high-sugar "comfort foods"—to cope with emotions such as depression, stress, sadness, boredom, anger, or loneliness. This provides temporary relief but can lead to cycles of guilt and overeating.Mindless Eating: This occurs when individuals eat without paying attention to their body's hunger and fullness signals, often while distracted by activities like watching TV or working.An example; I always eat pizza while watching footballSocial and Environmental Influence: Eating behaviors are heavily influenced by social settings, cultural norms, and marketing. People often eat more in the company of others or are influenced by the eating habits of romantic partners.Food Preferences and Conditioning: Personal history, childhood experiences, and learned associations (e.g., associating specific foods with celebrations or comfort) significantly shape what we choose to eat. Biological and Neurological Factors: Hormones like leptin and ghrelin regulate physical hunger and satiety, while the brain's reward system can drive cravings for calorie-dense foods.Mood and Nutrition: The relationship between food and mood is a two-way street. A nutritious diet, rich in fruits, vegetables, omega-3 fatty acids, and essential vitamins, can improve mood and mental health, while poor dietary choices can exacerbate feelings of stress and depression. Why You EatUnderstanding why you eat produces the potential to manage your weight and mental health better. •Some people eat because they enjoy fixing themselves a snack and looking forward to eating it.•Some people like eating because it makes it gives them an adrenaline high while preparing it. When We EatPoor Choices: People eating late often choose higher-calorie, less nutritious foods, and emotional eating increases when tired, adding excess calories.Increased Calorie Intake: Late-night eaters often consume hundreds more calories daily, which drives weight gain. Portion SizeThe National Library of Medicine suggests that it can increase weight gain. However other factors are related.Family GeneticsSize A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: ShopaholicsI Corinthians 10:13 "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."The psychology of shopaholism is rooted in the temporary relief and emotional highs that shopping provides, which can be a coping mechanism for stress, low self-esteem, or feelings of powerlessness. It's a behavioral addiction.Psychological driversEmotional regulation: Shopping can be a way to soothe negative feelings like stress, anxiety, sadness, or anger.Sense of control: For those who feel a lack of control in other areas of their life, shopping can provide a sense of power and autonomy.Highs and lows: The release of endorphins and dopamine during a purchase creates a temporary "high" or sense of gratification. However, this is often followed by feelings of shame, disappointment, or guilt, which leads to a cycle of seeking the rush again.Self-esteem and validation: Compulsive buying can be a way to seek validation or improve one's self-image and sense of importance through material possessions.Perfectionism: Some individuals may shop compulsively to achieve an imagined sense of perfection, believing that certain items will make them more complete. Comorbidity Other disorders could be happening at the same time.Behavioral patternsPreoccupation: Individuals become preoccupied with shopping and making purchases, sometimes to an obsessive degree.Impulse control issues: A key feature is difficulty resisting the impulse to buy, even when they know it's a bad idea.Secrecy and guilt: They may hide their purchases from friends and family and feel a significant amount of shame and guilt after shopping sprees.Escalation: The behavior can escalate into financial, emotional, and relational problems.To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

You start 2026 as an engaged person.  First, congratulations!  But now there's lots of things to start doing.  We talk through that on this episode of The Session.  Please forgive me (Scott), the notes from the episode have vanished into the ether world of my laptop, and I can't find them anywhere.  So listen close!  ;) A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

Sorry, no show notes here. Just Tom and his kids talking about what it was like to grow up a Russell, and the Christmas/family traditions that shaped them.To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

Sorry, no show notes here. Just Tom and his kids talking about what it was like to grow up a Russell, and the Christmas/family traditions that shaped them.To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Favorite Christmas Story Characters and Favorite Christmas MovieAbove all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. 1 Peter 4:8Favorite Characters in Christmas story Heather - I love the shepherds—to think that they were out in a field at night and a host of angels appeared above them—they had to be shaking in their sandals!! And then how they responded is so inspiring—if only we all could go running towards Jesus with their enthusiasm!! 😊Alyx - As someone with an adopted Father, I have always been very fond of Joseph, especially in the story of Jesus’ birth. We aren’t told a ton about him aside from the main deal that he had faith, married Mary instead of allowing her to be shamed, and raised Jesus as his own. I like to imagine him a lot like my very faithful and selfless father who married my mother and raised me as his own. My biological father was in my life when I was a child and my dad always took a back seat, gave my bio dad every privilege and never once complained. But my dad was the one who showed up to every concert, soccer game, bought my favorite ice cream when I cried over a boy and later adopted me as an adult. I always say he is the clearest picture of Christ’s sacrificial love that I could ever ask for and its easy for me to understand how God loves us more because of him! I see his love for me in Christ and in Joseph so that’s why Joseph is my favorite!Amanda - I love the Shepherds in the Christmas story. They were not high status; they were just regular people like us. God chose them to be the first to hear the news. They represent just pure joy and excitement. It's also cool that Shepherds are used as a symbol throughout the entire bible. They forecasted what was to come. Suzannah – the donkey (A woman after Scott’s heart)Kayti – MaryMy Erin – MaryAlysha – MaryAmy - I think the shepherds because they would've never imagined they would be included in such an event. Favorite Christmas MovieEloise at Christmastime. Shocking that an eccentric, nosey little girl obsessed with pink always finds her way to the top of my lists lol.White Christmas x 2It’s a Wonderful LifeRudolph the Red Nosed ReindeerThe Santa ClausMiracle on 34th Street - the originalA devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: What Christmas Means for Vulnerable Children, from an article by Helen Richardson, Focus on the Family.What Christmas Means for Vulnerable Children - Focus on the FamilyPsalm 103:8 – “The LORD is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.”Ways to make Christmas special for vulnerable childrenBe intentional and proactive. This includes putting time and energy into it.Gifts purchased or made with the vulnerable child in mind has an incredible impactBeing proactive and intentional includes connecting with ministries that are providing Christmas for vulnerable childrenThe extra little bit of time and effort put in makes a huge difference in helping the child feel loved, as well.Meaningful gifts like a child’s Bible or a magazine, put out by a ministry that speaks to children like BrioAsk them what would be a special Christmas present?Facilitate them providing a Christmas for someone who is less often than they areGive them as much ownership of what happens enduring Christmas as possibleHelp displaced, vulnerable children feel more comfortable in a new environmentHelp them see Jesus was also displaced Luke 2:7 and she gave birth to her first child, a son. She wrapped him in a blanket and laid him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the village inn.It’s hard to remember that Jesus was a baby and a child as well as a teenager😊😂Be intentional and proactive about their bedroom The vulnerable child will feel more empowered when the child gets to fix up their room the way he or she wants it for ChristmasTom’s Thoughts There is a theme throughout Helen’s article on acceptance and approval. Make sure they receive presents that are given with them in mind, it be even more special.We were designed to be accepted and improved by God There are core values that we have that can only truly be filled by the presence of the Holy Spirit in us Jeremiah 31:3:  The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying; “I have loved you with an everlasting, love; You with my unfailing kindness!” Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.” A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: The Spending habits of Gen X, Millennials, Gen Z.Genesis 22:17, “I will surely bless you and make your descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and as the sand on the seashore.” This verse reminds us that God’s promises are not just for us, but for the generations that follow us, ensuring a legacy that reflects His faithfulness. Ages of the different generations.The Age of Gen X.It is for the people born between the 1960s and 1980s AGES 65 - 85The Age of Millennials.It is for the people born between 1981 and 1996 AGES 29 - 44 The Age of Gen ZIt is for people born between 1997 and 2012 AGES 13 - 28The spending habits of Gen XA Gen X Christian's spending would therefore reflect a blend of generational financial habits and faith-based values. are often characterized by cautious, practical spending habits shaped by major economic shifts they experienced including the 2008 financial crisis.They balance taking care of both their own children and their aging parents They are careful buyers that are brand loyal and very eager to research what they are going to buy They prioritize their spending based on mortgages, health care and retirement They are more likely to research what they buy and are comfortable either online or in a store buying it Gen X spending includes travel, health and beauty products, and household items like pet care and home and garden supplies. They are also high spenders on "recreation durables," such as musical instruments and gaming consoles.  The spending habits of millennialsStudies show that Christian millennials donate significantly more than their non-Christian peers. One study found that Christian millennials give not quite 3 times as much as non-Christian millennials For many Christian millennials, financial responsibility is directly tied to their faith.Many are driven by "others-focused" financial goals, such as providing for family, charitable giving, or serving God with their money.other millennials may be more motivated by "self-focused" goals, such as supporting their desired lifestyle.Focus on intentional spending. • 59% intentionally try to buy from companies that operate in ways they believe honor Christ.48% believe they have a responsibility to spend money with companies owned or operated by Christians.Millennials are more likely to give their donations to grassroots start up ministries and social justice issues rather than tithing to the churchThe spending habits of Gen ZChristian Gen Z show a strong interest in "purpose-driven" purchases that align with their values. While they are price-conscious, they will prioritize spending with brands that demonstrate social responsibilityChristian youth tend to spend their money on experiences rather than tangible itemsExamples include dining out, going to concerts, traveling and other entertainmentGen Z rely on social media for product information and prefer to order onlineThey have had very little experience, going to shopping malls in various department stores to find things. They have been born and raised on the Internet and its capabilities.They are motivated to give 10% however it is often times to an online presence versus the institutional churchMany Gen Z people tend to believe in being a good steward of what they have been given. Christian Gen Z are actively taught to resist materialism and A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

With the Thanksgiving holiday here, we thought it would be appropriate to discuss gratitude....in our own, quirky way.  The article we used as a basis for our discussion is "7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude That Will Motivate You to Give Thanks Year Round", by Amy Morin.  Here's the link to the full article:7 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Gratitude That Will Motivate You To Give Thanks Year-RoundHow can you express gratitude to God and to others this Thanksgiving?To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: 5 Ways Your Blended Family Can Find Peace Over the HolidaysMatthew 5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted" As God's chosen, holy, and beloved people, you should clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Verse 13: Be patient with each other, and if you have a complaint against someone, forgive them as the Lord has forgiven you. Verse 14: And above all these virtues, put on love, which binds all of them together in perfect1. Remember the reason for the season. Keeping peace on earth starts with you. As Christians, it’s our responsibility to model Christ to our stepchildren and ex-spouses, especially those who are not walking with the Lord. Romans 14:19 says, “Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification” (NIV).These special days are a celebration of our Lord Jesus Christ, the one who has brought salvation, grace, love, and joy. Are we demonstrating the love of God in our stepfamily? Are we expressing the joy of the Lord? Remember to center your holidays on the right celebration. 2. Honor traditions that your step kids bring and consider new ones. We learned that a new family means doing things a new way. That involves flexibility and open minds. It’s okay to keep some old traditions, but it may be time to create some new ones, too. We asked each of our kids to suggest something they’d like to create as a new tradition. As long as it was legal and not immoral, we agreed.One new tradition sounds pretty simple, but had a lot of impact. We bought matching ornaments for the kids each year and added their names and the year. As each has married, we have carefully packed up their ornaments and presented to them for their first Christmas tree. There are lots of great memories attached to those ornaments.As the kids have gotten older, we have added a new tradition of Thanksgiving Day golf. The boys (since we have more of them) leave the house with my husband, Gil, by 8 a.m. Living in the Northwest, you never know what kind of weather will greet you on that morning. Last year, it was more like ice golfing. We came back with a video of 28-year-old Kyle ice skating in the sand trap as he tried to maneuver his way out. Feet sliding under him, his feeble attempt to escape the trap made us all laugh! As we reminisce around the dinner table each year, that tradition is always brought up.3. Reduce pressure of holiday schedules. So much strife is created by the timing of family get-togethers, but if you look at things a little differently, you can stretch your holiday time and even enjoy it. (As we always say, “Remember, blessed are the flexible, for they won’t snap.”)Consider that your celebration doesn’t need to be on the day of the holiday. Instead, reserve another date close to the holiday for your holiday festivities. Having an “open house” day may work best.4. Don’t hold grudges. Many families trade off each year where kids will be for the major holidays, which can disappoint and hurt feelings. But don’t spend your energy on holding grudges over scheduling chaos. Instead, put your energy into loving them, and enjoy the time you have with them.If emotions run crazy, chances are they are just trying to make all of their parents happy by showing up when asked. The more understanding you have, the more pleasant the holiday will be and the more your kids will look forward to spending time in your home. 5. Don’t forget about your marriage. Take time to check in with your spouse. Sometimes my husband and I wiA devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: The First Christmas (and other holidays) Without A Loved OneMatthew 5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted"Highlights And Reactions To The First Christmas Without A Loved One from Tom and Scott.It Is Important To Prioritize Your Needs.  Take Time To:WalkNapHave important conversations Take time to have your space.Crying and hugs are to be expected and enjoyed Find new family traditions that help after experiencing lossNew traditions could include cruisesRent a house in a vacation spot for the familyContinue with routine that helps normalize lifeHave your regular coffee time?Continue watching your favorite shows or news on TVPrayingSeeking God And His WordEat healthyConnect with a friend you haven’t talked to in a long time3 Suggestions from the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association 1.    Look to the past. God gave you and your spouse many years together; have you ever stopped to thank Him for this? In other words, don’t let the loneliness of the present crowd out the happiness of the past. iMovies, photo albums2.    Look to the present. All around you are people who are lonely or grieving or discouraged. Ask God to help you reach out and be a friend to them this Christmas. It may be someone you already know—in your church or among your circle of friends. Invite them to dinner; take them to a Christmas program at your church; in small ways let them know you care. They need you—and you need them.3.    Third, look to the future. Jesus came into the world for one reason: to make it possible for us to be with Him in Heaven forever. The more we focus on eternity, the lighter our burdens become. In Christ we have hope, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all” (2 Corinthians 4:17).A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session - The Christian Response to AI The Golden Calf (Exodus 32): While Moses was on Mount Sinai receiving the Ten Commandments, the Israelites created a golden calf to worship, a blatant act of idolatry that angered God.Exodus 20: 3-5 You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the LORD your God am a jealous God.The Setup from Scott: We did some training and orientation to A.I. in the office. Some of us were a little uneasy with it. Including me. My position has been that I would prefer to use the A.I. God gave me…my brain.  Advantages to AITranslating scripture into different languages CBNWhen creative with ethic Christian values, it can be helpfulAI and promote God’s values like compassion and justice, encourage andPromote God’s sovereigntyAI DangersBelieving anything that would distort God’s plan or will in this worldAvoiding any form of worship or unmerited importance that would be more important than our GodUnhealthy dependence on AIAI becomes an unhealthy control over society A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

Sorry, no show notes for this one.  This is the conclusion of a two-episode conversation I had with my daughter, Erin about her daughter, Allison.  My hope is that our conversation raises awareness about just how truly beautiful and special kids with exceptionalities are, and that they have a role in our world today.A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

Sorry, no show notes for this one.  This is the first of a two-episode conversation I had with my daughter, Erin about her daughter, Allison.  My hope is that our conversation raises awareness about just how truly beautiful and special kids with exceptionalities are, and that they have a role in our world today.A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session:  Helping the Pastor’s SpouseLord of peace, may You give our pastor(s) and their families peace at all times and in every way (2 Thess. 3:16). Support your spouse without beingthe assistant pastor.1.   Be a loving, supportive spouse2.   Do not neglect the training of your children.3.   Take care of your home.The Unique Challenges·  Living under constant scrutiny·  Unrealistic expectations·  Perfect social behavior·  Thorough knowledge of the Bible·  Attendance at all meetings·  Ready entertainer·  Spiritual giantThe Unique Circumstances·  Limited finances·  The demands of church members·  Loneliness·  Absent Spouse How to Succeed As a Pastor’s Spouse·  Love and accept yourself.·  Concentrate on being the best you can be.·  Have realistic expectations of yourself.·  Build your own spiritual life.·  Work on self-improvement.·  Love and accept your spouse.·  Try to understand your spouse’s ministry.·  Decide on what you are comfortable doing in your church. A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Celebrating the Success of your Pastor 1 Timothy 5:17 (NIV): “The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honor, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching.”Celebration suggestionsWrite a letter. Handwritten is best! For example:  We are grateful for your leadership and the love you show through your service. May God continue to bless you and your ministry. Your dedication to the Lord's work touches our hearts. Thank you for being our shepherd and always guiding us towards God's love.It would be very important to celebrate your pastors, preaching style and the enthusiasm and love that they present God’s word in.Another example, if your pastor helped you or someone else you know:Thanks for your help with [specific action or situation]. I really appreciate all of your hard work. You've been so helpful with [specific action or situation]. Thanks Have a church potluck in their honorPossibly have people lined up ahead of time to honor the Pastor after the mealIt is possible to have no cards at each table setting that would say one thing I appreciate about the Pastor is…Start a prayer chain of having people sign up to pray for the pastor(s) for a week. Start an email chain of celebrating the pastor all month. Maybe talk to the church office manager about sending out emails to the church.Other Ideas:Through the years of ministry, the pastor suffers from the spiritual attacks by the enemy on their emotions and well-being. It is important to encourage them in their life outside of leading the church. We should encourage them to take care of themselves and acknowledge the success of their family and their life.Let them know what a great job they’ve done in their marriageEqually important is to let them know how great they have been as a parentFind something that is special in them to acknowledge and celebrate. As an example. Your pastor may have a great way of greeting you that is heartwarming. Take time to acknowledge that.Let them know that they do a great job of leadership of the staff and church membersIt might sound odd, but celebrate them by sending them on a sabbatical?A devotional podcast for parents on the go! Encouragement, Scripture, & prayer in just 7 minutes. Join the journey!To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: A Pastor’s Struggles Part 2“7 Struggles of Ministry That Aren’t Talked About Enough” by Stephan CoteYou Have Doubts About GodDoubting Thomas wanted evidence for his beliefs. He was known for I won’t believe it unless I see the Neal ones in his hands and put my fingers into them and place my hand into the wound in his side. (John 20:25) Sarah didn’t believe she could get pregnant, Mary, mother of Jesus, doubted an angel (Luke 1:34)Confusing devotion in vocation you allow your job is a pastor take over your personal devotional life. Your time in the Bible is more for a Bible study or sermon than it is your own charging of your battery.Pastoral Stress Levels Are Off The Charts 75% of Pastor’s report being extremely stressed or highly stressedTight finances, emotional turmoil, and long hours are all stress factors for the Pastor.  Carrying a stressful load that was not yours in the first place.Pastors Find It hard to deal with the 3’ G’s:  Girls, Gold and Glory 57% of pastors and 64% youth pastors report porn use. Affairs, both physical and emotional, Accountability partners, and computer filters are very important.Feeling AloneEasy pray for the enemy when you find yourself low and in a dry spirit to stay.  Support groups or counselor or mentor or a coach can be very helpful. To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: A Pastor’s Struggles Part 1Psalm 119:130 “The unfolding of your words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple.”“A third of pastors who leave ministry cite burnout, conflict with church”: Study from Christianpost.comReasons Pastors, Leave The MinistryAround one-third of pastors who leave the ministry cite burnout or conflict with the church as the reasons, according to a study by Lifeway Research. 18% in 2021 cited conflict for their reason to leave the church. Look at how four years has made an incredible increase in leaving the ministry40% of respondents cited change in calling as the cause of their departureOf those who reported conflict as a reason for leaving 45% of respondents reported experiencing significant conflict during the final year they served as pastor. Among former pastors, 87% faced “conflict at some point in their last congregation,” with 56% experiencing it over proposed changes and almost half (49%) saying they experienced a “significant personal attack” as a result.Lifeway also reported that, despite leaving the position of pastor, 53% of respondents said that they continue to work in ministry, though in a different capacity.To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

Excerpts from: What does the Bible teach us about bullying?  From Neal Hardin Genesis 1:27 So God created mankind in his own image,  in the image of God he created them;  male and female he created them. Bullying happens more frequently than you might think. According to the American Medical Association, by the time students finish school, nearly half of students have been bullied at one point or another. What is Bullying? Researchers who study bullying cite three common characteristics of what makes an act bullying:·  Bullying is intentional and tries to cause harm or distress to the victim.·  Bullying occurs between two students who have different degrees of power.·  Bullying happens repeatedly over a period of time. There are three types of bullying that occur:1.    Physical: Hitting, kicking, spitting, tripping, pushing, breaking someone’s things, rude gestures2.    Verbal: Teasing, name-calling, threats, inappropriate sexual comments, taunting3.    Social: Leaving someone out of a group on purpose, telling others not to be friends with them, publicly embarrassing them, spreading gossip or rumors about someone. How should Christians respond to bullying?How does God call us to respond if we are being bullied or we see someone else being bullied?1. If you see something, say something.Reporting bullying to the proper authorities is one of the most important strategies we can use to prevent further bullying. Twenty-eight percent of students grades 6-12 say that they have been bullied at school. Yet only 20-30 percent of those who are bullied actually report when they are bullied.[5] As How should Christians respond to bullying?How does God call us to respond if we are being bullied or we see someone else being bullied?1. If you see something, say something. 1.    Reporting bullying to the proper authorities is one of the most important strategies we can use to prevent further bullying.2.    Twenty-eight percent of students grades 6-12 say that have been bullied at school. Yet only 20-30 percent of those who are bullied actually report when they are bullied. ** Something extremely important to remember is that it isn’t tattling to report bullying. Understand who you are in Christ You need to know that you are special to God and created in his image withimmeasurable worth and value. (Psalm 139:13-18) it’s okay to stick up for yourself if you are bullied.Sticking up for yourself may be difficult to do, but if you are able to stay calm and respond in a loving manner, then you have every right as an image-bearer of God to defend yourself and speak the truth. You are worth being defended. Reach out to those being bulliedLastly, we need to reach out to those being bullied. One of the best ways we can do this is to befriend them and invite them to hang out with us. Not only will this make them feel loved, accepted, and less alone, it also acts as a deterrent to bullying. Bullies are much less likely to pick on someone if they are in a group of friends than if they are alone.To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: 7 Essentials For Grandparenting Your Grandchildren, from Focus On The Family1. Understand Your Impact PotentialGrandpa or grandma, you are second only to parents in your potential to influence your grandkids spiritually.If you haven’t thought about your impact potential before, you’re not alone. Many Christian grandparents are missing important opportunities because they haven’t seen the possibility—nor the responsibility—that grandchildren bring. We rightly see parents as first both in responsibility and potential to impact the spiritual growth of children.2. Clarify Your RoleWhether we are one of six or by ourselves in this spiritual‐impact role, the mandate is clear: passing on faith to our grandkids is our duty before God! He commands us to teach two generations, not just one.3. Model a Life of GoodnessIf we have been obedient followers of Christ, it only makes sense that in the grandparent years, we are more like Him than we have ever been. Rather than becoming more cynical and cranky, we ought to become more gracious and godly. Doing so is vital: our children and grandchildren will largely base their impression of Jesus upon what we show Him to be through our daily lives. Don’t ever underestimate the fact that how you live your life will impact your grandkids. (Phil’s funeral)4. Create Great Relationships With the ParentsParents are the doorkeepers of the relationships with the grandkids, as they should be. But that relationship door sometimes slams in the face of grandparents. Divorce slams it. Political differences slam it. So do different spiritual paths. It’s slammed by wrong decisions, unkind words said in anger, or overreactions—sometimes by the parent, sometimes by the grandparent.5. Balance Grace and TruthWe best represent Jesus to our families when we balance grace and truth. John 1:14 describes Him as “full of grace and truth.” It really means “full of grace and full of truth;” He was the complete embodiment of both. 6. Adapt to Your Grandkid’s World (This should sound familiar)Last week when she came to visit, I told her, ‘if you can’t put your phone down, I’m taking you home!’ And a few minutes later, I caught her playing again—so I took her home.”That grandma thought she was doing a good thing by being strict with her granddaughter, but I’m pretty certain she injured the relationship instead. You see, she wanted the little girl to enter “grandma world”—sit at the kitchen table, and talk over tea. What if she would have said instead, “Help me learn about this game that you like to play so much on your phone, and then afterward, let’s sit at the table and just talk?” The granddaughter would have felt honored, the relationship preserved, and the two of them would have enjoyed tea together There is no greater focus for the second half of life than that!7. Find Your Greatest Life PurposeThere is no greater focus for the second half of life than that! Life’s greatest purpose is simple: to see our descendants in heaven. To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: When Our Adult Children Walk Away From The FaithBy Pamela Henkelman of FamilyChristian.comParent Feelings When Their Children Turn From the FaithGriefConfusion FearRelational Depression Parents Should Prioritize:LoveEmpathy Open Communication Continue to be an ExampleShame and Failure: Don't let shame paralyze you. It's important to address these feelings and remember that your child's choices are ultimately their own. Fear and Anxiety: It's natural to worry about your child's future and well-being, but try to channel that worry into prayer rather than letting it control you. Parents Should Focus on Maintaining a Healthy Relationship:Pray for Your Child: Continue to pray for your child's spiritual journey, seeking God's guidance for both of you. Deepen Your Faith: Use this as an opportunity to deepen your own relationship with God and strengthen your faith. Seek Support: Connect with other parents who have experienced similar situations. Sharing experiences and finding support can be incredibly helpful. Live Your Faith: Continue to live your life according to your beliefs, demonstrating the love and grace of Christ.  Focus on Your Own Spiritual Growth:Pray for Your Child: Continue to pray for your child's spiritual journey, seeking God's guidance for both of you. Deepen Your Faith: Use this as an opportunity to deepen your own relationship with God and strengthen your faith. Seek Support: Connect with other parents who have experienced similar situations. Sharing experiences and finding support can be incredibly helpful. Live Your Faith: Continue to live your life according to your beliefs, demonstrating the love and grace of Christ. Trust in God's Plan:God's Sovereignty: Remember that God is sovereign and has a plan for your child's life, even if it's not what you expected. Patience and Perseverance: Be patient and persistent in your prayers and love for your child. Trust that God is working. Focus on the Future: Don't dwell on the past or allow bitterness to take root. Focus on the present and trust that God will guide you both. To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Tips for Parenting TwinsScripture: Genesis 25:22-26The babies jostled each other within her, and she said, “Why is this happening to me?” So she went to inquire of the Lord.  The Lord said to her, “Two nations are in your womb, and two peoples from within you will be separated; one people will be stronger than the other, and the older will serve the younger.”  When the time came for her to give birth, there were twin boys in her womb. Ohio has a special connection with twins.  It’s the Twins Day Festival at Twinsburg, OH the first weekend of Aug.  This year was the 50th Twins Day.  Twins & multiples come from all over the world.  It’s estimated that over 2000 twins and multiples came this year.  So I thought it would be fun….Facebook CommentsJULIEMake sure each person's their own person. You have to share so much. I had my first birthday party alone at 21. First time I felt like my own person. I don't know what it is like to have older or younger siblings. Find something unique for each twin that you can celebrate them in. Also understand not all twins are super close. There are a lot of twins who don't have that super close bind.   (Julie & her twin are not close.  She said they had totally different personalities)CHELSEY & NICOLE (SCOTT’S COUSINS)Being twins definitely came with some unique dynamics. Growing up, there were times we were treated as a “set,” which could be fun but also made it important to carve out our own identities and space. As we got older, we naturally grew into our own personalities and interests, but still had that built-in support system of always having someone who understood. For parents of twins, we’d say: try to encourage individuality early on—different activities, different friends if they want, even just little things like letting them choose their own clothes. At the same time, don’t stress if they want to stick together—there’s a comfort in that bond too. And patience is huge, because raising two kids the same age is busy, but the upside is they always have each other.Parenting Tips:Routines and Schedules: Establish consistent routines for feeding, sleeping, and playtime to help manage the demands of two babies.  Parenting TwinsParenting twins can be challenging but incredibly rewarding. Focus on developing routines, seeking support, and treating each child as an individual. Prioritize individual attention, encourage their unique interests, and communicate openly about their individual needs and development. Practical Tips for Parenting Twins: Routines and Schedules: Establish consistent routines for feeding, sleeping, and playtime to help manage the demands of two babies. Individual Attention: Make an effort to spend quality one-on-one time with each child to foster their unique bond and sense of self. Children want fairness! More to come!Encourage Individuality: Recognize that each twin is unique, and support their individual interests and friendships. Get into their worldSeek Support: Don't hesitate to ask for help from family, friends, or support groups. Connecting with other parents of twins can provide valuable insights and emotional support. Communication and Open Dialogue: Encourage open communication with your twins about their feelings, development, and any comparisons they may be making with each other. NO COMPARISONFairness vs. Equality: Understand that fairness doesn't always mean treating twins exactly the same. Focus on meeting their individual needs, even if it requires different approaches. Stay away from matching outfitsCelebrate Their Bond: Acknowledge the special To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Grandparents Parenting Their Grandchildren - Parenting for FaithProverbs 22:6Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.Scott and Tom’s memories of their grandparents3 Truths That Every Grandparent Should Know1. You are influential – whether you know it or notThink back to your childhood. Can you remember your grandparents? What is it about them that still influences you today? Although I have never seen them play, my grandad’s passion for Sheffield United means that they are still ‘my’ team. I feel attached to Camberwell in South London because my grandma lived there. And I still believe that roast lamb is the right dinner to serve for a family get together because my other grandma told me so! Children are shaped by their families, as they watch and learn, pick up some things and discard others.Karl Pillemer, of Cornell University, reported that ‘as many as 9 out of 10 adult grandchildren feel their grandparents influenced their values and behaviors’. And the influence of grandparents isn’t just limited to value and behaviors. Other researchers have shown that grandparents are good for their grandchildren’s mental and emotional health, and help to improve resilience and encourage pro-social behavior and better peer relationships. It seems that simply by existing and being known, who you are and what you do influences your grandchildren.2. Connection is key (relationship building )Grandparents and grandchildren seem to be set up to connect well: there’s an expectation of love and interest from children which means that even if they regard every other grey-haired person on the planet as irrelevant, they do crave connection with their grey-haired grandparents. Grandparents will often talk about how overwhelming their love is for their grandchildren; how special they are and how they love them unconditionally.Being in a close relationship with someone who loves you enables all sorts of good things: not just the pure enjoyment of each other’s company, but the freedom to be vulnerable, the courage to trust, and the willingness to learn from each other. We are ready to be influenced by people we trust and love and open to learn from their experiences and wisdom. So the closer you are to your grandchildren, the better positioned you will be to share all the good things you have with your grandchildren, including and meeting and knowing the God you love.3. No-one said it would be easy – but God is able to work through every circumstanceNo-one said it would be easy – and it rarely is! But God’s involved in all of it. His design has always been that grandparents are part of his design for helping grandchildren meet and know God – and that doesn’t change because your situation is less than ideal. He also knows what you can manage, and he won’t demand more of you than you are capable of – and he does have a plan. Be encouraged. Whatever it looks like on the outside, God’s not finished with your family yet.  As you pray for your grandchildren and their families, keep asking God for your next step. He’s on the case! To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: 5 People to Surround Yourself With By Dan Orlovsky, on All Pro Dads.comProverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” 1. People Who Will Challenge YouWe all spend time with like-minded people. It’s easy. It’s where we find comfort. Small groups are a boost in confidenceIt can be very helpful to hear another perspective on what you are thinking. It presents you with opportunities to analyze what you believe and why.2. Someone Just Ahead of You in LifeIt is vitally important to have someone more experienced than you are in your life. The value of this is priceless because you can go to them when life throws you a curve ball.Being coachable is a very important part of having someone coach or mentor you in life.3. Someone Just Behind You in LifeFinding someone to mentor and reaching out to them is very important for our growth.4. An EncouragerWe all have bad days, and maybe even bad seasons. That’s why we all need someone in our life to lift us up when things get hard. For me, that’s primarily my wife. But I also have great friends.Paul writes about the gift of encouragement in Romans 12:8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.5. A DreamerSurround yourself with people who dreams of what could be. They’re inspiring and motivational.Jeremiah 29:11“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Words We Shouldn’t Use, from Tom’s daily devotionals on Facebook The words we say are very powerful. It’s amazing what happens when someone says a blessing over you. It is capable of lifting your spirits or encouraging you when you’re feeling down.The words we use are also very reflective of what is going on in a person’s heart. Matthew 15:11 teaches, “It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.” Paul also mentions it in Ephesians 4:29“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”Later in Ephesians 5:4 Paul not only talks about no filthiness or foolishness coming out of our mouths, but that we should speak words of thanksgiving.He writes, “Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.”Proverbs also encourages us to bless others. In Proverbs 11:25 we read,“Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.”Later Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”Although there are more words we shouldn’t use, here is a short list of some very important ones.“Liar” is a good example of a word that should not be used in family relationships, and specifically in parent- child relationships. Being called a liar can be hurtful and impact a loved one’s reputation. A better way to process what a child might have said is to say, “This doesn’t make sense to me”, or “That doesn’t sound accurate.” Using the term “lazy" can be very derogatory, expressing a low opinion of someone. What appears as “laziness” might actually be influenced by factors such as mental health, burnout, or simply not finding a task sufficiently compelling. This would make it even more hurtful if you use the term lazy with an individual struggling with mental health or burnout conditions. Calling someone “stupid” is a very condescending and insulting way to speak to someone, as if they were ignorant. Condescension is rude and patronizing. Treating someone with condescension is the opposite of treating them with respect.Action Point:What is the condition of your heart? How are you speaking to others?To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session:  7 habits of men who have quietly lost their joy in life, according to psychology        by Isabella Chase | May 22, 2025  Posted on Global English Editing.com There’s a subtle distinction between being content and truly joyful.This divide often goes unnoticed, especially by those who’ve slowly, but surely, lost their zest for life. These men might seem fine on the surface, but beneath that veneer, their joy has faded into a mere memory.Psychology gives us insights into these quiet transformations. And it’s crucial to identify them, not only in others but also in our own lives.Understanding these seven habits can help us spot the signs and bring back the happiness that may have slipped away unnoticed.In this article, we’ll explore the 7 habits of men who have quietly lost their joy in life, according to psychology. Get ready to dive deep into the human psyche and perhaps, find a path that leads back to joy. 1) The joyless routineLife is full of routines. We get up, get ready, go to work, come home, and do it all over again. But when joy has begun to fade, these routines can become chains that bind men to a joyless existence.These men often find themselves stuck in a cycle of repetition, where every day seems to blur into the next. They’re just going through the motions, without finding any real pleasure or satisfaction in what they do.For men who have lost their joy in life, the present moment is often a place they’d rather escape from.Recognizing this habit is the first step towards regaining the lost joy. Breaking free from monotonous routines and finding new and engaging activities can reignite the spark that once made life enjoyable. 2) Social withdrawalI remember when my friend John started withdrawing from our social circle.He was always the life of the party, but suddenly, he began declining invitations and spending more time alone. It was a slow change, hardly noticeable at first, but it eventually became a habit.Social withdrawal is a common sign of decreased joy in life. This isolation can be self-imposed as an attempt to avoid feelings of discomfort or dissatisfaction.But as Carl Jung once said, “Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself.”In John’s case, he had lost the ability to share his feelings and connect with others on a deeper level. His joy had faded, replaced by a sense of detached loneliness.If you notice this habit in yourself or in someone you care about, remember that reaching out and creating connections can be a powerful antidote to this isolation. Rekindling old friendships, starting new ones, or even seeking professional help can make a world of difference. 3) Disinterest in previously enjoyed activitiesHave you ever found yourself losing interest in activities that once brought you immense joy? It’s a disconcerting feeling, one that creeps up on you without notice.This is a common habit among men who have lost their joy in life. Activities that used to spark excitement now feel dull and uninteresting. The hobbies they used to love somehow lose their appeal.For those experiencing this disinterest, it’s tough to see the beauty in the struggle when even their passions feel like chores.If you fiTo reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Important Priorities in Christian Marriage, with highlights From Tommy McCallister and OthersColossians 3:18-21It is Important to:Prioritize the emotional needs of the marriagePrioritize the marriage over the children more than we doPrioritize going out of our way to do things that make our spouse feel happy and lovedPrioritize our spouses love language. Taking an evening to ask what would love language would you want me to speak right nowPrioritize home life over workPrioritize putting your favorite drink and getting comfortable and talking about any and everythingPrioritize praying together. Couples who do have a divorce rate at 1 in every 1,152 marriages.Prioritizing flirting with your spousePrioritizing valuing your spousePrioritizing celebrating your spouse To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session:  How to Keep Dating Your Spouse-Even After KidsGenesis 2:24 - Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Proverbs 18:22 - He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. ·         Be proactive and intentional in your marriage. Ask Jesus for help to be a successful marriage partner ·         Rev up the five cylinder intimacy engine. ·         Speak your spouse’s love language Prioritize revving up your bedroom Olympics ·         Change your pattern of initiating sex (Opening Ceremonies) Hold hands more often ·         Author Dr. Kory Floyd, wrote holding hands, hugging, and touching can release oxytocin causing a calming sensation. Studies show it’s also released during sexual orgasm. Additionally, physical affection reduces stress hormones – lowering daily levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Allow tension to build ·         Our brains experience more pleasure when the anticipation of the reward goes on for some time before we receive it. So take your time during foreplay, share fantasies, change locations, and make sex more romantic. Separate sexual intimacy from routine ·         Plan intimacy time and avoid talking about relationship problems and household chores in the bedroom. Sexual arousal plummets when we’re distracted and stressed. Focus on affectionate touch ·         This could be foot rubs, and back, rubs their express love Maintain a sense of curiosity about sexual intimacy ·         This can happen by breaking up the routine and try new things as sexual needs change To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Fundamentals of Christian Marriage Matthew 19:4-6  He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”A Biblical Definition of MarriageThe Bible defines marriage as a sacred union between one man and one woman, established by God (Matthew 19:4-6). This relationship is a lifelong commitment, rooted in faithfulness and mutual love. Christian marriage is more than a legal agreement; it’s a covenant.Love and Sacrifice: The Example of ChristAt the heart of a Christian marriage is love, modeled after the sacrificial love of Christ. Ephesians 5:25 calls on husbands to love their wives “as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” This kind of love goes beyond emotions—it’s a daily choice to put the needs of your spouse above your own. Love in marriage is rooted in sacrifice, service, and grace, reflecting Christ’s selflessness. Both partners are called to give of themselves and serve one another in humility, displaying a marriage that thrives on mutual care and devotion.Communication and Unity in MarriageEffective communication is vital in building unity and understanding in marriage. Ephesians 4:29 encourages us to speak in ways that build each other up. Open and honest communication, rooted in kindness and respect, fosters deeper intimacy and trust between spouses. Unity is displayed when couples count the needs of one another as more significant than their own. Praying together, studying God’s Word, and building one another up in word and deed, allows couples to grow spiritually as one, strengthening their bond. Faithfulness and Trust: Building a Secure RelationshipFaithfulness in marriage mirrors God’s unwavering faithfulness to His people. Trust is essential for creating a secure relationship where both partners feel safe and valued.  Proverbs 3:3 says, "Let love and faithfulness never leave you."Faithfulness and Trust: Building a Secure RelationshipFaithfulness in marriage mirrors God’s unwavering faithfulness to His people. Trust is essential for creating a secure relationship where both partners feel safe and valued.Proverbs 3:3 says, "Let love and faithfulness never leave you." To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: 5 Marks of a Biblical MarriageTherefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” ~ Genesis 2:241) SelflessnessA mark of a Godly Christian is their willingness to humble themselves and be selfless towards other. This is true especially in marriage, where we are called to be selfless to each other and put our spouses needs first. This is an effective way towards a happier marriage.“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” ~ Philippians 2:3-8The practice of selflessness, putting each other’s needs before your own, is very difficult, because by nature we are selfish beings. However, practically speaking, many benefits arise from both husband and wife mutually prioritizing the other’s needs. When both parties make an effort to please one another by putting their needs/wants/desires first, a magical thing happens: both husband and wife are getting there needs met.2) Good CommunicationCommunication within marriage can be very difficult! Wires get crossed and simple words and sentences are taken far out of context, and strife (anger intense fellowship) starts to build. We say things rashly and without thinking to our spouses, and we leave them feeling hurt and we act selfishly towards them. But God calls us to a higher standard. We are to guard our mouths (Psalm 141:3), speak wisdom (Matthew 12:36-37), be slow to speak( Ecclesiastes 5:2) {especially angry words (James 1:19)}, and learn to communicate well with our spouse. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” ~Proverbs 15:1 Communication is critical to any relationship, and doubly so in a marriage. Having good communication with friends and family is beneficial, sure, but how much more imperative is it that you have quality communication with the person that you are one with?3) Spiritual Emphasis (together and separately)Our highest calling as Christians is to know God and to glorify Him.We cannot do this effectively if we are not seeking the Lord individually and as a couple. It is so vital for the life of the believer to come before God alone and study His word and worship Him (2 Timothy 3:14-17). And it is also important to come before the Lord as a couple.If our biggest priority in life should be Christ, and our second should be our husband and family, then how can we effectively worship the Lord if we don’t worship with our family? God designed the Christian life to be lived out in community and not in solitude. God’s community is the church and this first begins at home! Strong families can make up a strong church of believers. Likewise, weak and inconsistent families will make up a weak and inconsistent congregation.Pray together every night before bedListen to sermons togetherDiscuss sermons you listen together and Sunday morning sermonsRead books together to grow in your knowledge and worship of GodContinually ask how you can pTo reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: 4 Lessons We Can Learn about Biblical manhood from Joseph https://www.lcbcchurch.com/articles/4-lessons-we-can-learn-from-josephs-story Open with the Matthew account of Joseph, in Matt.1:18-241. Acknowledge the truthJoseph acknowledged the truth. When we’re stuck at the bad end of someone else’s decisions, it’s all too easy to point the finger and place blame. We tend to take it a step further and cast judgement on an entire group of people when, in reality, we were only wronged by one person. If you were bullied by popular kids in middle school, for example, did you grow up seeing “all popular kids” as a threat? While these are understandable self-preservation instincts, are they actually true? Joseph was treated unfairly by so many people – enough that he could’ve made enemies out of the whole world! Instead, we see Joseph zero in on the individuals who specifically caused him pain. He doesn’t gloss over what was done, but he has enough wisdom to look at only the situation right in front of him without painting with broad strokes. Acknowledging the truth provided Joseph with clarity, and it can do the same for us. When we focus on what’s immediately in front of us, we can gain clarity that will help us treat our pain at the source. By recognizing the true source of our pain, we can begin the process of healing and transformation. 2. “But God” When we’re dealing with pain – and especially when this pain is caused by someone else’s actions – it's easy for us to become angry about what we feel we don’t deserve. We become so fixated on what’s right in front of us that we don’t easily see the bigger picture. In the midst of his trials, Joseph chose to embrace a powerful perspective shift. He turned his gaze away from his pain and toward God, saying, "But God intended it all for good." Joseph chooses to surrender and trust in a higher plan.  While it may be difficult to comprehend the purpose behind our suffering, choosing to adopt a "But God" perspective allows us to step back and acknowledge that our story is not solely defined by the hurt we've experienced. By handing our pain over to God, we open ourselves to the possibility of growth, transformation, and redemption. 3. Trust God's planJoseph's story shows us what it looks like to trust in God's overarching plan. While he couldn't foresee the specifics of how his pain would lead to a greater purpose, Joseph held onto the belief that God was working behind the scenes.  This step requires faith and vulnerability, as we release the need for immediate answers and outcomes. Trusting in a divine plan invites us to relinquish our desire for control and instead lean into the belief that our pain can be woven into a greater narrative that brings about good. 4. Rely on GodJoseph relied on God. If you feel like you’re about to crumble under the weight of your circumstances, know that you don’t have to keep carrying it alone. When we can’t understand what’s happening or see the bigger picture in our pain, God is ready to carry us. Only God can bring you to the place of hope and healing you’re desperately searching for. Joseph’s story shows us that when we fix our gaze on God and choose to rely on him, even the heaviest situations can be made lighter. Remember that “God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love him” (Romans 8:28). Additional LessonsDon't expose your spouse in public ·  When Joseph learned that his fiancée was pregnant, he decided to break the engagement without exposing his wife to the public (Matthew 1:19). He did not want to disgrace her and opTo reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session-Help For Boomerang Parents-Potential Benefits From Being a Boomerang Child, from Focus On The Family, FaithFI and othersI knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb.  Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5.In July 2020, 52% of young adults in the US resided with one or both of their parents, according to a Pew Research Center analysis – the highest percentage the United States has seen since the end of the Great Depression.National Longitudinal Study Of Youth 1997Found: The evidence that mental health and economic characteristics were related to home leaving and returning. Emotional distress was associated with earlier exits from, and returns to, the parental home; alcohol problems were associated with earlier returns to the parental home. The findings regarding economic resources were unexpectedly mixed. Greater economic resources were linked to delayed exits from, and earlier returns to, the parental home. The implications of these findings for young adults are discussed.Key aspects of Christian help for boomerang parents: Prayer and Spiritual Warfare: Praying for the child's well-being, direction, and maturity, and seeking God's wisdom in navigating the situation. This includes praying for the parent's patience, grace, and ability to discern God's will. Biblical Principles: Applying biblical principles regarding family dynamics, obedience, respect, and financial responsibility. This may include encouraging the child to work towards financial independence and setting boundaries within the household. Open Communication and Setting Expectations: Having open and honest conversations about expectations, roles, and responsibilities within the household. This may involve discussing financial contributions, chores, and rules for the home. Fostering Independence: Encouraging the child to pursue their own goals, whether it's career advancement or personal development. This may involve supporting their efforts to find employment, complete education, or seek financial independence. Seeking God's Guidance: Recognizing that God's ways are often higher than our own and trusting in His timing and plan. This includes surrendering the situation to God and trusting in His love and provision. Turning to God's Word: Seeking wisdom and guidance from God's word (the Bible) for navigating the unique challenges of a boomerang situation. This can help parents find comfort and reassurance. Family Counseling: Consider seeking guidance from a Christian counselor or mentor who can provide support and equip the family to navigate the situation. Community Support: Connecting with other parents who have experienced similar situations through support groups or online communities can provide encouragement and practical advice. Practical Steps for Boomerang Parents: 1. Establish Clear Boundaries: Set expectations for the child's role in the household, including chores, financial contributions, and responsibilities. 2. Encourage Financial Responsibility: Help the child develop a budget, find employment, and work towards financial independence. 3. Communicate Openly and Respectfully: Have regular check-ins with the child to discuss progress, address concerns, and build understanding. 4. Pray Regularly: Pray for the child's well-being, direction, and maturity, and for the family's ability to navigate the situation with grace and patience. 5. Seek God's Wisdom: Turn to God's Word for guidance and strength, and trust in His timing and plan for the situation. Potential Benefits From Being a Boomerang Child, from Jenna AbTo reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session - Helping The Family Survive An Election; from KSBY.comJames 1:19My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.Respectful Communication respectful communication helps both sides gain perspectiveLook at the big picture. Elections will come and go, but family remains.Focus on shared valuesEmpathize with your family membersAgree to disagreeAsk clarifying questions Finding Common Ground: Identify shared values or goals, even if you disagree on specific policies. Frame discussions around finding solutions to problems rather than solely focusing on blame or criticizing the other side. Election Season Stress from vcuhealth.org   from Joan ToppounceIn their article on Election Season Stress, Peyton Lassiter, who specializes in family counseling, states that he believes our mental health depends on our relationships with our loved ones. That's why it's important to avoid stress and strife in those relationships.Political views can cause friction in relationships because they are intertwined with our values about what is right or wrong, healthy or unhealthy, reasonable or unreasonable, good or bad.Political views also expose the different worldviews between the younger generation and their parents. Separate the sin from the sinner, the behavior or belief from the person. Discuss the issue without attacking the person.Avoiding conversations that appear to be headed toward a political charge is very important. That includes removing yourself from the room that is about to explode over a political issue.Boundaries help us stay in relationships. It is boundaries that keep it safe to discuss sensitive topics.Boundaries should focus on my needs and what I will or won’t permit, not what others need to do. Keep your marriage full of putting your spouse firstTo start, make his and her lists. Later, bring the two together and create a master list that blends the best from both. Don’t be afraid to try new adventures. The main point is to make plans that both of you can anticipate together. Get that? Fun. Together. Repeat. Often. Focus on the family learning to communicate in a relationship-an exampleBetsy is wondering about that. She’s hurt that her husband, Carl, seems to have lost interest in her. She interprets his lack of communication as evidence that he doesn’t love her. This puts her in a panic; she becomes needy and controlling, trying to force Carl to “talk about the problem.” This creates more pressure for Carl, who retreats further.Carl is overwhelmed by Betsy’s need for conversation. It feels like a void that could never be filled. This is decreasing his desire to be intimate with her; he’s finding excuses to avoid even spending time together. He’d rather hang out with friends who are less demanding.To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: Living the Empty Nest Life to the Fullest, from Michelle Howe, Focus on the FamilyJeremiah 29:11For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.Rev Up Your MarriageThis could be a marriage retreatIt could also mean planning more 24-72 hour getawaysIt may also include going on a cruiseKeep TalkingTry to connect with the person that you originally fell in love with and talk about memoriesYou could attempt to make it a romantic evening over a nice dinner for two.Make a list of things that you would want to see happen or do with your remaining yearsJeremiah 29:11 tells us to focus on the plans, hope and the future that God has for the remainder of your married life.You and your spouse should be open to trying new things in the empty nest. That may mean joining a local gym or taking up a sport. It could be a dance group or a book club.Don’t Let the Past Predict and/or Ruin the FutureIt is important that we keep short accounts of anger. If one of you or your spouse are carrying a past hurt, it is important to bring it before the Lord and lay it at Jesus feet and let go of it.Actively Strengthen Relationships, and Prioritize Self-CareThis could mean focusing on a relationship that is important to both of you that may have been neglected over time. Encourage getting together for a meal or some kind of outing.As mentioned earlier, joining a gym can help a couple enhance their self-care. Regular workouts will help maintain the body longer.TravelIt is very doable to check online for a day trip in your state that you live in. This is an example of something you may not have had time to do when you were in the heat of yourTo reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.

The Session: The Need For Rest, from Amanda Idleman, Crosswalk.comBy the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work (Genesis 2:2)3 Reasons Why it Is Crucial That We Rest The inability to rest affects every part of our lives. It’s a lie from the enemy of our souls that we can do it all, that we can ignore our own… 1. God Commands Us to Rest: Hebrews 4:9-11 says, “So then, there remains a Sabbath rest for the people of God, for whoever has entered God's rest has also rested from his works as God did from his. Let us therefore strive to enter that rest, so that no one may fall by the same sort of disobedience.” 2. Rest Empowers Us to Live Righteously: Galatians 6:9 urges us to not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, we will reap a harvest if we don’t give up. How is it that we avoid weariness? Through making sure we get adequate rest. 3. Rest Improves Our Productivity: When we give him our minds, bodies, schedules, and other needs, he empowers us to do more with less! 6 Helps For Better Sleep from the Mayo Clinic1. Stick to a sleep scheduleSet aside no more than eight hours for sleep. The recommended amount of sleep for a healthy adult is at least seven hours. Most people don't need more than eight hours in bed to be well rested.Go to bed and get up at the same time every day, including weekends. Being consistent reinforces your body's sleep-wake cycle.If you don't fall asleep within about 20 minutes of going to bed, leave your bedroom and do something relaxing. Read or listen to soothing music. Go back to bed when you're tired. Repeat as needed but continue to maintain your sleep schedule and wake-up time.2. Pay attention to what you eat and drinkDon't go to bed hungry or stuffed. In particular, avoid heavy or large meals within a couple of hours of bedtime. Discomfort might keep you up.Nicotine, caffeine and alcohol deserve caution, too. The stimulating effects of nicotine and caffeine take hours to wear off and can interfere with sleep. And even though alcohol might make you feel sleepy at first, it can disrupt sleep later in the night.3. Create a restful environmentKeep your room cool, dark and quiet. Exposure to light in the evenings might make it more challenging to fall asleep. Avoid prolonged use of light-emitting screens just before bedtime. Consider using room-darkening shades, earplugs, a fan or other devices to create an environment that suits your needs.Doing calming activities before bedtime, such as taking a bath or using relaxation techniques, might promote better sleep. 4. Limit daytime naps (BUT I LIKE MY NAPEE!)Long daytime naps can interfere with nighttime sleep. Limit naps to no more than one hour and avoid napping late in the day.However, if you work nights, you might need to nap late in the day before work to help make up your sleep debt.5. Include physical activity in your daily routineRegular physical activity can promote better sleep. However, avoid being active too close to bedtime.Spending time outside every day might be helpful, too.6. Manage worriesTry to resolve your worries or concerns before bedtime. Jot down what's on your mind and then set it aside for tomorrow.Stress management might help. Start with the basics, such as getting organized, setting priorities and delegating tasks. Meditation also can ease anxiety. Know when to contact your health care providerNearly everyone has an occasional sleepless night. However, if you often have trouble sleeping, contact your health care provider. Identifying and treating any underlying causes can help you get the better sleep you deserve.Mayo Clinic MiTo reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.