022: a phone call from my dad + dan da dan: self-worth, parents, & feeling enough

This week, Nins reflects on a simple phone call from her dad that unexpectedly unraveled everything she thought she understood about growing up, immigrant parents, adulthood, and the quiet ways love is expressed. Arns dives into one of the most emotional storylines from the hit anime Dan Da Dan, exploring a heartbreaking mother-daughter relationship, self-worth, inadequacy, and the universal desire to know that our lives mattered to someone. Together, these stories spark a conversation about Filipino families, parent-child relationships, generational differences, being witnessed, feeling needed, unconditional love, and learning that we are enough. Whether you're navigating adulthood, processing your relationship with your parents, or questioning your own worth, this episode is a reminder that love is often much simpler—and much deeper—than we realize. Content warning: grief, death, parental loss, childhood trauma, emotional neglect, family conflict, violence. 0:00 - Intro 7:56 - Nins: call from Dad 25:03 - Arns: Dan Da Dan 46:20 - Outro Referenced in this episode: Dan Da Dan season 1, episode 7: "To A Kinder World" (Netflix) The Gentle Tarot deck by Mari in the Sky (clarification: she is Indigenous from Mexico based in Alaska, not an Alaska Native!) Join the brb crying community—a heartfelt, cozy comedy podcast about friendship, vulnerability, emotional storytelling, and all the movies, books, music, and life experiences that leave us in tears. Follow us: » Instagram: @brbcrying.podcast » TikTok: @brbcrying.podcast » YouTube: @brbcrying.podcast Want episode recaps, behind-the-scenes/community updates, and occasional emotional damage delivered straight to your inbox? Sign up for our newsletter at brbcryingpodcast.com. Have a sob story or cry recommendation that absolutely wrecked you? We'd love to be wrecked, too. Submit your story at brbcryingpodcast.com or email us at [email protected]. brb crying—hosted by longtime best friends Nins & Arns—is a podcast where we explore the songs, books, TV shows, films, pop culture moments, and personal stories that help us laugh, cry, heal, and feel a little less alone. Crying is our superpower, and by sharing what makes us cry in a way that makes us laugh, we show how crying helps us connect with ourselves and each other.