046: harry baker, heated rivalry, & loving so much it hurts

This week, Arns unpacks “Sunflowers” by Harry Baker and spirals through grief, funerals, and the terrifying urgency of being alive right now.Meanwhile, Nins dives headfirst into Heated Rivalry, the wildly beloved hockey romance series full of yearning, emotional repression, devastating tension, and men gazing heavily at each other instead of going to therapy.Basically: two stories about loving people so much it hurts.In this episode:Harry Baker’s poetry and performance work“Sunflowers,” Wonderful, and TenderWhy grief makes ordinary moments feel sacredHeated Rivalry and the rise of hockey romanceEmotional repression in sports storiesThe agony of yearningWhy being alive is both beautiful and horrifyingChapters:0:00 - Preview0:33 - Intro5:13 - Arns: "Sunflowers" by Harry Baker32:05 - Nins: Heated Rivalry1:08:56 - Sob story: Justin from Chicago1:11:22 - OutroReferenced in this episode:Harry Baker performing "59" on TEDx TalksSomething Borrowed podcast hosted by Harry Baker on Spotify and Apple PodcastsHarry Baker performing "crying over spilt milk"Harry Baker performing "Wonderful"Harry Baker performing "Sunflowers"Wonderful, a collection of poems by Harry BakerTender, a collection of poems by Harry BakerHeated Rivalry“Hockey romance novels are in the news. Here’s why they’re so popular” by Rachel Kurzius for The Washington Post"Week-to-Week: The MM Hockey Romance Revolution will be Televised (in Canada)" by Myles McNutt for Episodic MediumJoin the brb crying community—a heartfelt, cozy comedy podcast about friendship, vulnerability, emotional storytelling, and all the movies, books, music, and life experiences that leave us in tears.Follow us:» Instagram: @brbcrying.podcast» TikTok: @brbcrying.podcast» YouTube: @brbcrying.podcastWant episode recaps, behind-the-scenes/community updates, and occasional emotional damage delivered straight to your inbox? Sign up for our newsletter at brbcryingpodcast.com.Have a sob story or cry recommendation that absolutely wrecked you? We'd love to be wrecked, too. Submit your story at brbcryingpodcast.com or email us at [email protected] crying—hosted by longtime best friends Nins & Arns—is a podcast where we explore the songs, books, TV shows, films, pop culture moments, and personal stories that help us laugh, cry, heal, and feel a little less alone. Crying is our superpower, and by sharing what makes us cry in a way that makes us laugh, we show how crying helps us connect with ourselves and each other.