Let’s Appreciate Good Men

Key OutcomesThe session recorded on June 16, 2025 focused on Men's Mental Health Awareness Month (June), exploring why men's mental health goes undiscussed, the systemic and social pressures men face in relationships, and how both men and women must hold themselves accountable to break destructive cycles. Biblical scripture was used to ground the discussion in themes of weakness, humility, and purposeful living.Decisions MadeMen's mental health is under-acknowledged: Despite June being Men's Mental Health Awareness Month, virtually no men LaCole spoke with — over a dozen — had raised or discussed it.Negative narratives dominate: Toxic relationship stories and "deadbeat" narratives get disproportionate social media traction; healthy relationships and good men are largely invisible online.Accountability is mutual: Women must also call out destructive female behavior (e.g., using children as weapons, initiating violence) — not only hold men accountable.False media messaging is harmful: Content framed as empowerment often deepens relational destruction; consumers must critically filter what they absorb.Key Discussion PointsWhy men don't seek mental health help: Men are socially conditioned to suppress emotions; excuses rooted in upbringing persist even when resources are widely available and visible.Relationship dynamics: LaCole's relative's situation illustrated how dismissal, lack of validation, and pressure around marriage push men away from commitment — especially when communication is broken.Legal/financial fears around marriage: Men, particularly Black men, fear divorce laws in community-property states that could strip decades of individual financial work.Co-parenting weaponization: Some mothers restrict father access and use children as leverage, yet publicly frame themselves as solo parents — a dynamic that rarely gets scrutinized.Men and grace: A father's advice shared by LaCole's boyfriend — "If she cannot offer grace, she is not someone you want to marry" — was highlighted as rare but valuable relational wisdom.Scripture References2 Corinthians 12:5–10 — Power is made perfect in weakness; leaning on Christ through hardship rather than self-reliance.2 Peter 2:1–3 — Warning against false teachers who spread destructive messages under the guise of empowerment.Hebrews 12:28–29 — Prioritize pleasing God over seeking human validation and approval.Philippians 1:6 — God completes the good work He begins; men should focus on their God-given purpose.Resources Shared • Urban League program (West Florissant, St. Louis): Men's program offering suits, interview coaching, and life navigation support — not limited to formerly incarcerated men.You can always improve yourself and your situation. Walk in faith and move in purpose with love.Be sure to like, comment, subscribe, and share for more content!Let's connect!Quick Bio:https://lacolepurlzpurley.link