Accept THEN Achieve

Women's Month & Feminism Standup Comedy Set on my dating experiences as an Asian and Nomad!

Reflections, lessons & tips on healthy, authentic & time-sensitive Relating (InStimacy!) for Feb 2026 in honor of Love Month AND Lunar New Year (shedding Snake Year into the unstoppable Fire Horseeee!!)

Reflections & lessons from 2025 & why the woowoo technique of visualization is backed by neuroscience!!My Substack with more private juicy stories & details!: drtooni.substack.comMy Patreon for art, commission requests, and exclusive behind the scenes pieces: patreon.com/c/drtooniReach out at [email protected] or DrTooni.com/contact

Fellow former MD Dr. Kai and I chat about what it was like to honor our intuition and do healing in our own way (which is more effective than the constraints of depressing Western medicine)!..He's a best-selling author of "Emotionally Immature Parents: A Workbook for Adult Children" and with 500k+ followers on IG & TitTok! Find him at https://www.hicoachkai.com/ or @hidoctorkai.Any questions or if you'd like to apply to be a guest as well, email me at [email protected] or DrTooni.com/contact

JLD, 7-figure entrepreneur & award-winning podcast host of "Entrepreneurs on Fire!" with millions of listeners, shares tips from his keynote speech at the Nomad Basecamp Nepal conference, where we got caught in the political riots and our conference building almost got burned down!!.Find him at EOFIRE.com .Any questions or to apply to be a guest at DrTooni.com/contact.Video version of this ep at: https://youtu.be/vm2-kgtCsKI

On how to make exploring new, scary things fun, reach your goals an in unconventional way, and taking care of yourself if you've overstretched..My standup comedy set (first time eek!!): https://youtu.be/Ockn3qNDXhA.My Substack for more private stories: https://substack.com/@drtooni?utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page

We're co--hosting a women's storytelling retreat in Taiwan this November 2025! More details here: https://stephanietsaikarlik.com/freedom-in-formosa-retreat-2025Any questions email [email protected]

Dr. Errin Weissman and I discuss our journeys of unbecoming hypocrites! How could we be doctors if we weren't taking care of ourselves?! Learning self care and putting yourself first is like putting your oxygen mask on first.Find her at https://www.truthrxs.com/ and her podcast "Doctor Me First"!Any questions or comments email [email protected]

A partial replay (not of the confidential discussions & activities) from our recent Healing Tiger Children workshop (free in honor of AAPI & Mental Health awareness month (May))..Visual replay & slides available at: https://youtu.be/C47txJkmCBs.To get more info or join the Transcend The Tiger community, just email [email protected] , send a message at DrTooni.com/contact or book a chat at bit.ly/drtoonichat.Specific program details (financial aid available): https://DrTooni.com/Tiger .General info: TranscendtheTiger.com.Buddhist principles blog article: https://DrTooni.com/published-in-lotus-magazine

Some perspectives that may help if you've felt stuck in a rut or plateau with your healing journey using Buddhist principles (Transcend The Tiger)..Also many offerings for free in honor of Mental Health Awareness & AAPI Heritage Month!.Healing Tiger Children May 12.Untigering our Romantic Relationships May 28 with Iris Chen, best-selling author & founder of Untigering.Transcend the Tiger annual live group program starting May 31 (https://TranscendtheTiger.com).RSVP or inquire by emailing [email protected] or texting +1-862-904-0933.Related blog article: https//DrTooni.com/published-in-lotus-magazine

All about loving with intention and relationships (Acceptance & Compassion)Lindsay is an RN Nurse turned Relationship Coach (we both trained at the amazing CenterforThrivingRelationships.com !!)Find Lindsay at Instagram.com/loving.with.intention or https://www.youtube.com/@Lovingwithintention

A belated review of 2024, from the highest point of a dream community coming true to the lowest point of almost drowning in Bali, and so much in between..More at https://drtooni.com/2024-highlights-and-lowlights.Want to process or chat about yours? Book a consultation at bit.ly/drtoonichat

I'm currently in Nepal at one of Danny's nomads coliving retreats and had the opportunity to interview him on his newest book "Unlimit." He's a best-selling author, nomad & entrepreneur x 15 years helping others live their best lives possible. Check out his book at: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/dandanflood/unlimit-break-the-boundaries-and-become-superhuman?ref=609lm2. And his courses on life hacks: https://schoolofgrowthhacking.com/ Bio: Danny Flood is a bestselling author and global entrepreneur, known for his latest book, Unlimit: Break the Boundaries and Become Superhuman. As the founder of the School of Growth Hacking, he has trained thousands of entrepreneurs and professionals worldwide, sharing cutting-edge strategies in business growth, productivity, and AI. A world nomad, Danny has traveled to over 40 countries and leads high-end retreats such as this one here in Nepal, fostering innovation and connection among digital entrepreneurs. With over 25 years in direct marketing and sales, he has hosted live seminars in dozens of countries, empowering individuals to achieve extraordinary results and new levels of productivity and performance.

Just 1 week into my first Nomads coliving retreat (NomadhausNepal.com) and already feeling at home with community I never thought I could have! +tips on how to authentically connect, relate, and have deep & meaningful friendships especially in this day & age :/ You don't need to change yourself; you can always find your tribe <3

Arguably the best birthday ever!! My "Tame The Tiger" group program clients all conspired to fly me out across the country to meet everybody in person!! From dream to reality... this mental health support & empowerment group went above & beyond what I could have ever imagined. Full story & videos at my blog post: https://DrTooni.com/birthday If you're curious about joining our "Tame The Tiger" community if you also want to heal from perfectionism, people-pleasing & other aftermath of harsh Tiger Parenting, narcissistic abuse, or other upbringings: https://DrTooni.com/Tiger (or memberships at https://Ko-Fi.com/DrTooni/tiers )

A sample chapter reading from my memoir & healing guide "WHY YOU NO DOCTOR ANYMORE?!: Honoring Your Family AND Yourself Too" With lots of practical tips, tools, prompts & questions to help you navigate challenging family dynamics, conflicts & situations with compassion & understanding. Full book (ebook, paperback or audiobook) at: https://www.amazon.com/DOCTOR-ANYMORE-Honoring-Family-Yourself-ebook/dp/B0CVGT25KG/ Live facilitated Book Club: https://DrTooni.com/book-club Facing Family mini-course & Tame The Tiger program at https://DrTooni.com/Tiger Any questions or to discuss if these would be a good fit for you, contact me at DrTooni.com/contact or book a call at bit.ly/drtoonichat

Dr. Leonaura Rhodes shares her journey from the brink of suicide to creating a balanced life as a recovering perfectionist. She is physician turned life coach, corporate trainer, podcast host, author and course creator. She has worked with several thousand people from all walks of life: from movie producers, CEO’s, actors, opera singers, physicians through to stay at home parents and many parents of children with special needs. She is passionate about helping people and businesses thrive. She helps people overcome stress and create the happy, healthy, fulfilling, abundant lives they dream of and deserve. Leonaura was working for Tony Robbins, as one of his highly trained “Results Coaches” and “Business Results Trainers”. She is host of the Influent Network Podcast Mindful Medics launched in 2024 which dives into the lives of medical professionals, exploring the triumphs and trials of their careers, and uncovers stories to inspire and tools to empower them to thrive, both professionally and personally. To learn more about intentionally designing a life you will love, visit: www.DrLeonauraRhodes.com The App: https://peaklifedesign.passion.io/ To get in touch with Dr. Toni or be a guest: https://DrTooni.com/contact

From my journey of desperately codependent to hyper-independent "don't need nobody" to Serenely Solo female nomad x 6 years and 2.5+ years single. I've learned how to enjoy my Sacred Singlehood & choose partners from a healthier, grounded, secure place. And share how you can too! The Self-Love shoes comic referenced: https://DrTooni.com/Self-Love Curious about joining our Nomads' Nest community? Email [email protected] or DrTooni.com/contact! If you ever want to chat 1:1, book a time with me at bit.ly/drtoonichat (I'm here to support you if you're unsure if your relationship is healthy, your picker is "broken," or any other concerns or confusion you may have about dating or relationships!)

Whether introvert, extrovert, ambivert or somewhere in between, becoming more conscious of our social batteries and normalizing taking breaks or changing plans can be SO good for our health. Also discussed: masks, being "on," and overly caretaking for others' feelings & comfort. To connect further with Dr. Toni or request future topics: https://DrToni.com/contact

Guest Jen Randall MD shares her journey of leaving clinical medicine to paint and pass on the baton to med students.

How to use the power of community to hack & recover from people-pleasing, improve your health, and feel more aligned and rooted into your values. . Plus practical tips on meeting new people especially if you're re-locating or nomading and needing to start over! . If you feel alone or isolated, you are welcome to reach out to me (DrTooni.com/contact) and I can put you in touch with people who may be aligned or can become friends. . Or join my loving Acceptsians: Self-Acceptance community for recovering Over-Achievers ( DrTooni.com/Acceptsians) or The Healthy Sensitive community for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) (https://the-healthy-sensitive.mn.co/share/5MPaRtJwiVHtp05g?utm_source=manual ) (thehealthysensitive.com )

Sen is a lifelong immigrant and traveller who found solace after discovering the term “The Third Culture”. She started her journey on this planet in Daqing, China. As a result of the political unrest following the 1989 Tiananmen Square Massacres, her family sought to make a new home in Canada. Since then, her path has led to her living in Calgary, Montreal, Wuhan, and Berlin. Sen is a storyteller who believes that when we tell our histories, we find the lost threads that lead us back to ourselves. By retracing our memories, we draw the throughlines of meaning that lead from the past to the present and draw us forward to the future. Her work in podcasting is her way to re-approach her past, aided by the bravery and wisdom of her diverse guests, who carry their Third Culture Asian stories with ownership and pride.

An enlightening conversation with Chris Cheung ( www.atoolkitforlife.com ) busting some myths about mindfulness. AToolkitForLife (ATKFL) provides life changing perspectives through mindfulness-based experiences (programmes, events, content) aimed at a wide cross-section of populations, which are scientifically backed and delivered in the most clear and engaging way possible. The aim for each experience is for the participants to take away concrete life tools which they can apply confidently in their lives.

My presentation I've given in 5+ countries on how to detox from over-achieving for the sake of your mental health. You'll learn: -a fresh perspective on success -how to feel better & finally good enough NOW without needing to change anything in your external world -tips for filtering out what YOU authentically want for your life -tips for honoring your family AND yourself too, finding middle ground & having more peaceful relations Video version of this webinar here: https://youtu.be/EWYoORfgx-M?si=1-O3b9bxWlj6WX54 Tame the Tiger Program: https://DrTooni.com/Tiger

On the myths of productivity, laziness, rest, and worth. May is Mental Health Awareness & AAPI Heritage month. In its honor, I've birthed my Tame the Tiger program and will be starting a group cohort on May 28. SIGN UP HERE! Program preview in my memoir & healing guide HERE. Join my e-mail newsletter for more personal updates & customized resources: bit.ly/DrTooniList

Dina is a public speaking & voice coach: Certified Etiquette Consultant at www.queencityetiquette.com513-294-8188

I almost drowned today while swimming in the ocean waves in Bali. Some thoughts that came to mind during and after, and the gratitude of still being alive. Contact me: DrTooni.com/contact "Tame the Tiger" Program: DrTooni.com/tiger "Strip Off Shame" Program: DrTooni.com/sex-ed-course

Hey folks, meet Faye Lawand – she's not your average expert, she's the go-to guru for smashing internal conflicts and finding your chill. Imagine having three burnouts and turning that chaos into a powerhouse of healing wisdom – that's Faye's story. Hailing from the Middle East and having called 13 countries home, Faye's been around the block, and burnout knows no boundaries in her world. Picture this: her first burnout hits on a Caribbean island – you know, the place people go to escape stress, not find it. Then, the Israeli Invasion of Lebanon in 2006 becomes a turning point, sparking Faye's deep dive into the world of internal conflicts. Now, she's not just any old coach. Faye's a Trauma-Informed Clinical Hypnotherapist, Stress Response Regulation Expert, and Nervous System Specialist – yeah, she's got the fancy titles and the skills to back them up. No meds, no endless meditation, and definitely no hours of talk therapy – Faye's all about evidence-based methods to kick exhaustion and pain to the curb. But here's the cool part – Faye's not just about healing individuals; she's on a mission to make the world a kinder and happier place, one person at a time. Her 3-step Mental Health Blueprint™ is the roadmap to inner peace, confidence, and control. So, if you're tired of feeling like a stress ball and ready to reclaim your mojo, join Faye on her podcast. Let's conquer that inner turmoil together and get you back to feeling awesome – naturally. It's time to take control, heal up, and be your kick-ass self again! Email Faye at [email protected]://www.facebook.com/flawand https://www.linkedin.com/in/fayelawand-internalconflictresolutionexpert/ https://www.instagram.com/faye_lawand/?hl=en Link to the free 30-day nervous system wellbeing calendar - https://offers.fayelawand.com/30daywellnesscalendar Submit questions or apply to be a guest speaker to Dr. Toni at https://DrTooni.com/contact

How to distinguish between real vs. fake guilt and take up your own space & unique shape rather than simply filling in the cracks leftover from others who had "first dibs.". . Inspired by this podcast ep on how to lose half your guilt: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1shueFyjf2wfx2mZFnypJx . My "Tame the Tiger" program (3 tiers of support for full accessibility): https://DrTooni.com/tiger . My book "WHY YOU NO DOCTOR ANYMORE?! Honoring Your Family AND Yourself Too": https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CVNCHT35

Isabel is a somatic sexuality, women’s empowerment, relationships and leadership coach, and the host of the CLAIMED podcast. Isabel is a passionate entrepreneur, with her background in somatic psychotherapy, tantra, coaching, she offers a deep embodied expertise on pleasure and eroticism as a way of creating a more fulfilled life, with ourselves and in our relationships. She guides individuals and couples to embrace their natural magnetism and to feel safe to open up the body to experience more love, pleasure and abundance. Isabel is known for giving effortless permission to people to access their pleasure and ignite their erotic aliveness, and for the ripple effect that it has in all areas of their life.

I've been procrastinating harddd on my memoir idea of 4 years ("WHY YOU NO DOCTOR ANYMORE?! Honoring Your Family AND Yourself Too", available here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CVNCHT35 ), until I finally hit a self-imposed deadline of Lunar New Year 2024 for Dragon Year (since I'm a Dragon in the Chinese Zodiac), a deeply meaningful date for me. Tips on how to beat procrastination on your dream projects, activities, & yearnings too! Would love to hear what exciting thing(s) you plan to do in 2024! Message them to me at DrTooni.com/contact

Jeanne Teleia thinks play and fun are essential to life. Indeed, she says that F.U.N. is a Fundamental Universal Need and this has been supported by research for many years. . While in private practice as a licensed psychotherapist, addiction specialist, play therapist and a holistic wellness, life and family coach, she thinks her most important work is to help others (re)claim their best health and joy through PLAY. . Her work with wild dolphin and whale assisted healing throughout the last 30 years has inspired her to live like a wild Cetacean—with play and joy, and challenged her to bring the healing and inspirational power of play to others. . Now, she takes people on transformational retreats with wild dolphins and whales. . Recently, she’s been developing her inherent animal communication skills and is cxcited to bring that new learning to others since it’s a been a life-changing and healing experience for her. . Jeanne and the Cetaceans help people reclaim their inherent joy, as well as their peaceful and playful nature. When you know and follow your own true essence, you create a life designed by choice, not by circumstances--past or present. . Nothing brings us into alignment with our true essence faster than peak experiences in nature—connecting with something larger than ourselves, with majesty and magnificence—how could anything be more FUN!? . www.YourLifeWellLived.net . . Questions? Comments? Want to be a guest speaker too? Message Dr. Toni at https://DrTooni.com/contact

Real talk life update + tips for Managing your Energy as an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) & Introvert... from my experience overloading myself in my 2.5 brief weeks in Chiang Mai, Thailand ^^; Chat with me further about any of these topics at DrTooni.com/contact or Facebook.com/groups/Acceptsians

Interview with spiritual healer Richelle Vawter.

Unfiltered, unedited real talk & reflections from my recent visit with family over the holidays 2023 including a brief history of my complex, painful relationship with my Tiger mother. . If you are also an abuse survivor of complex PTSD, parental narcissism, you are welcome to join my free support community "Acceptsians: Self-Acceptance": facebook.com/groups/Acceptsians . To pre-order or sign up to be a beta reader for my upcoming memoir "Why You No Doctor Anymore?!: Honoring Your Family AND Yourself Too," send a message at https://DrTooni.com/contact (or email [email protected] or message me on social media @DrTooni)

Catherine shares her incredible story of her miraculous recovery from years of chronic pain and severe disease. Catherine is a purpose business and nervous system coach, author, founder of LifeDesign and the “Inspired Soul” podcast… but most of all she is a total freedom lover. After overcoming chronic illness and narcissistic childhood abuse, she now helps other sensitive multipassionate high achievers to transform trauma patterns like procrastination, anxiety, perfectionism, self-doubt, fatigue, burnout and overwhelm into total freedom in their business… freedom of time and money, but also the emotional freedom to thrive and be who you are! LINKS Is your nervous system killing your business (and health)? Take the test:  https://catherinelifedesign.com/nervous-system-test Read my healing journey:  https://catherinelifedesign.com/healing-journey/ CONNECT: IG: https://www.instagram.com/catherinelifedesign/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/catherinelifedesign/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/catherinelifedesign/ (Web: https://catherinelifedesign.com ) (Email: [email protected] )

Tips + tools from my talks & workshops (email me for the full replays/slides) for the stressful holiday season, navigating difficult conversations, invasive questions, judgy remarks, well-meaning reminders of "milestones," and more. How to protect your peace, privacy and presence so you can actually enjoy visits more than dread them. Join us for our Community Campfire 2024 Kickoff + optional Vision Boarding! Jan 1 at 6 pm PST/9 pm EST (If you don't have Facebook, email [email protected] for the direct link to join) References: The Grey Rock Method An animal completing the Stress Response Cycle by Shaking! The Science Behind Vision Boards

A delightful conversation with guest Rosie Yeung of Changing Lenses on Un-Executive coaching, social justice & advocacy for Asian women. Rosie Yeung is a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, Certified HR Leader, and Chartered Professional Accountant, with over 20 years of leadership experience. She coaches at the intersection of social justice, mental health, and career growth, a unique methodology she calls Un-Executive Coaching™. Rosie supports equity and inclusion by providing culturally relevant, trauma-informed coaching based on neuroscience, somatics, and psychology. She accepts clients from all backgrounds and identities, and specializes in helping Asian and racialized women break free from false perceptions and systemic limitations. As a Chinese-Canadian, immigrant, cis-het woman living with mental illness and recovering from trauma, Rosie wears intersecting lenses of trauma care, decolonization, anti-racism, and anti-oppression. She leverages ALL her skills and lived experiences to help you Change Your Lens, See Your Worth, and Be Your Self! You’re welcome to contact her on LinkedIn, Instagram or her website: www.changinglenses.ca. Connect with host Dr. Toni at DrTooni.com

You've probably heard of the 4 F's, but what are the 4 P's? Tune in to find out and how to fight them! Connect with Dr. Tooni by blog, email or Acceptsians Facebook community. References: About Intergenerational Trauma NIH Psychiatry Article on Intergenerational Trauma The Spotlight Effect: People are watching you less than you think A Brilliant Speech by a Man with No Arms or Legs (it's OK to need more time to find yourself than average fully-abled people, able-bodied & able-minded)

After discovering more of who you are from Ep 3, you might notice some things are out of alignment with your values, but it feels impossibly scary to change! Fear is a huge block to our authentic self-expression and acceptance. What would it be like to have a healthier relationship with it? And how could we know when to heed it vs. not let it hold us back? This ep has an accompanying PDF workbook Fear-Kicking Feb (part of Dr. Toni's Monthly Challenges) Study on the Remarkable Resilience of Happiness (Lottery Winners & Accident Survivors)

Ep 3: Who Are You, Really? How to Find Out Building on your answers from Ep 1 and 2, this is a jam-packed episode with 30+ questions to discover who you truly are. This understanding of your core, the 90% invisible part of the iceberg, is key to self-acceptance. 23 Free Personality Tests Article on how the Gut actually has nerve cells! Eudaimonic vs. Hedonic Happiness

Ep 2: Where did we come from? Escaping the Matrix Where did your answers to episode 1’s questions come from? (What do you think you need to be, do or have in order to be “acceptable”?) Tidbits and fun facts about conditionings. And how to start separating what YOU truly want from what OTHER people want or taught/told you you should want. Share your thoughts or responses with Dr. Toni at DrTooni.com or her Acceptsians community.  References: If you suspect you may have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect, take Dr. Jonice Webb's free quiz HERE! Bredehoft PhD’s experiment Subliminal messages/priming Body Image Dissatisfaction Stats

Dr. Toni’s journey & story behind the birth of this podcast, from overweight awkward nerdy people-pleaser under strict Tiger Parent pressures to the thriving, quirky soul she is now after hitting Rock Bottom burnout.  Why does the order matter between accepting and achieving? Why did she throw all her medical training away to follow her heart and childhood dreams of being a cartoonist & nomadic world wanderer? And how you can start honoring your heart too. Blog at DrTooni.com [00:57] - Traditional Asian Tiger Parenting upbringing [04:44] - Overweight body shame [05:50] - End of innate childhood lovability [08:08] - About Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) [10:16] - Hitting Rock Bottom [12:02] - Issues with the broken medical system [14:00] - Skydiving as an “Escape” [16:55] - The birth of this podcast [17:41] - Why the order matters between Accepting + Achieving [19:45] - The root of a lot of mental health issues [20:27] - Backlash + criticisms from family [21:30] - Verbal + emotional abuse [23:55] - How Self-Acceptance completely changed my life [25:14] - Summary + 2 Action items

This show helps High Achievers, who dream of following their hearts but are tied down by self-doubt, practicalities, family or society’s pressures, create an authentic life of natural, joyful excelling from their fullest expression.  Join Dr. Toni, ex-doctor now cartoonist, nomad & advocate for Asian Mental Health, as she shares tips, tools & tales of authentic achievement AFTER self-acceptance.  Asian Tiger Parent & other high-pressure cultures demand that we conform & achieve in order to finally feel worthy, "good enough" & acceptable. But they have it backwards; achieving through pushing & shaming yourself wrecks your mental health and can only get you so far. You are okay and worthy, just as you are. You BELONG already, and you don’t need to perform, people-please, prove, or be perfect to deserve unconditional love & acceptance.  Who you are is MORE than okay and MORE than enough. You belong, unconditionally. And you can actually achieve MORE if you accept first. Subscribe and connect with Dr. Toni at DrTooni.com/contact or join her Acceptsians Self-Acceptance community.