After The Fall Show

What happens when two people on opposite sides of the world, with completely different lives and struggles, arrive at many of the same conclusions about healing, self-worth and recovery?In this episode of The After The Fall Show, I sit down with author, hiker, nomad and creator of the Self-Care Savage movement, Scott Tatum of YouCan Outdoors.After a childhood shaped by abuse, decades of self-sabotage, people-pleasing and feeling like he was never enough, Scott reached a point where he had given up on himself. Then he found a trail.What followed was a journey that would see him walk thousands of miles, tackle the Appalachian Trail, build an audience of hundreds of thousands and discover a simple truth:Know Your Worth.Together we explore childhood trauma, self-worth, survival mode, personal responsibility, journaling, nature as therapy, mental health, healing through movement and why so many people feel disconnected from themselves in today's world.For Scott, healing came through trails, forests and mountains becoming Self-Care Savage.For me, it came through movement, mindset and self in Street Therapy.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━🎙️ CHAPTERS00:00 - Introduction00:39 - Meet Scott Tatum & YouCan Outdoors04:28 - From Victim To Healed14:20 - Childhood Trauma & Survival Skills18:41 - Self-Sabotage, Identity & Self-Worth22:45 - The Trail That Changed Everything26:00 - Walking As A Path To Recovery33:58 - The Appalachian Trail Journey41:45 - Advice For Beginners44:51 - Why Journaling Matters50:28 - Fear, People & The Real Dangers We Face55:49 - Know Your Worth58:49 - Why Self-Care Isn't Selfish01:01:04 - "There's No Home Without You"01:05:11 - Final Reflections━━━━━━━━━━━━━━🌲 SCOTT TATUM | YOUCAN OUTDOORSFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/UcanOutdoorsInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/ucanoutdoorsTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@ucanoutdoorsYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@ucanoutdoors━━━━━━━━━━━━━━🔥 ICARUS | STREET THERAPYWebsite:https://www.streettherapy.co.ukThe After The Fall Show:https://www.afterthefallshow.comTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@Icarus_Works_UKInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/icarus.works.ukFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61559594633422If you enjoyed this episode, please like, subscribe and share it with someone who might need to hear it.#AfterTheFallShow #ScottTatum #YouCanOutdoors #SelfCareSavage #MentalHealth #MensMentalHealth #Recovery #SelfWorth #TraumaRecovery #BurnoutRecovery #NatureHeals #Hiking #AppalachianTrail #StreetTherapy #IcarusWorks

The conversation delves into the journey of wellness and fitness, exploring the impact of fitness on mental health, the challenges of navigating the gym environment, and the transition to professional training. It also highlights the holistic approach to fitness and wellness, emphasizing longevity through fitness and the importance of building a community at the gym. The conversation covers the impact of independence on health, the importance of bodyweight exercises, advice on training programs, understanding core muscles and stability, starting fitness at any age, and the benefits of fitness for children and adolescents. It also discusses the differences between group fitness classes and personal training, emphasizing the importance of consistency and the life-changing impact of the kettlebell swing.TakeawaysLongevity through fitnessBuilding a community at the gym Consistency is keyStart with bodyweight exercisesLong-term athlete development model for childrenGroup fitness classes may not be suitable for beginnersKettlebell swing is a life-changing exerciseChapters00:00 The Holistic Approach to Fitness and Wellness30:51 The Impact of Independence on Health39:31 Starting Fitness at Any Age49:31 Fitness for Children and Adolescents55:18 Group Fitness vs. Personal Training

Some people survive bullying.Some people survive hiding who they are.Some people survive both.In this episode of After The Fall Show, I’m joined by Dom — someone I’ve personally worked with — for one of the rawest and most honest conversations we’ve had on the show so far.⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion around suicide attempts, bullying, sexuality, sexual assault, depression, and mental health struggles. Please listen with care. If you are struggling, please reach out to someone you trust or contact a support service such as Samaritans in the UK on 116 123.From being bullied as a child, through confusion around sexuality, isolation, suicide attempts, pressure, identity, and the fear of disappointing the people around him, Dom shares the reality of what it felt like trying to survive while carrying everything alone.This is not a polished conversation.It’s a human one.We talk about growing up feeling different, the emotional weight of hiding parts of yourself, the pressure of expectations, and how silence slowly becomes unbearable when you carry too much for too long.Dom also speaks openly about his suicide attempts, the moment his family finally realised how serious things had become, and how talking — whether to family, friends, strangers, or services like Samaritans — became one of the biggest turning points in his life.But this episode is also about rebuilding.About finding identity, friendship, rugby, community, love, and learning that healing doesn’t happen instantly — it happens gradually, through connection, honesty, and allowing yourself to finally be seen.What we cover:• Growing up bullied from nursery through school• Moving schools and still feeling isolated• Realising he may not be straight• The pressure of family expectations• Using work and business as emotional escape• Suicide attempts and emotional collapse• The fear of speaking honestly to loved ones• Coming out to parents and family• Relationships, self-acceptance, and rebuilding identity• Rugby, friendship, and finding community• Toxic experiences and staying safe• Why strangers sometimes become lifelines• The importance of support services like Samaritans• Why “it’s okay to talk” may save someone’s lifeChapters:00:00 – Introduction00:39 – Dom’s Early Life & Bullying02:00 – Moving Schools & Starting Again03:30 – Sexuality & Family Pressure05:45 – Suicide Attempts & Emotional Collapse07:11 – Relationships & Opening Up09:02 – Coming Out to Family11:30 – Suicidal Thoughts & Coping Mechanisms14:15 – Night Walks & Honest Conversations15:53 – Beginning to Rebuild17:37 – Calling Samaritans18:27 – Self-Acceptance & Identity20:00 – Finding Community Through Rugby21:15 – Toxic Experiences & Staying Safe22:50 – Rejoining West Country Wasps25:20 – Advice for Others Exploring Identity27:24 – The Power of Human Connection30:05 – “It’s Okay to Talk”31:41 – Final ReflectionsGuest:Dom is a rugby player, creative professional, and survivor of bullying, suicidal thoughts, and identity struggles. In this episode, he shares his journey through sexuality, pressure, self-acceptance, and rebuilding his life through honesty, community, and conversation.Final thought:Sometimes the heaviest thing a person carries…is silence.And sometimes the bravest thing they can do…is finally speak.

Not all battles end when you’re told they will.In this episode of After The Fall Show, I’m joined by Terry Tucker — a former police officer, SWAT hostage negotiator, and coach who has spent the last 14 years living with a rare and aggressive form of cancer he was originally told would take his life within two years.This is more than a story of survival.It’s a conversation about mindset, resilience, identity, and what it really takes to keep moving forward when life gives you a timeline you refuse to accept.From high-pressure hostage negotiations to facing his own mortality, Terry shares what he’s learned about fear, purpose, pain, and the power of choosing how you respond — even when everything feels out of your control.We talk about loss, faith, family, and the reality of living through treatments, amputations, and uncertainty — while still finding a reason to keep going.This is raw, honest, and deeply human.What we cover:Life before diagnosis — career, purpose, and pressureWorking as a SWAT hostage negotiatorThe moment of being told “you have two years to live”Facing fear, anger, and acceptanceHow mindset shapes survivalThe role of family and purpose in recoveryLiving through cancer for 14+ yearsAmputation, treatment, and resilienceWhy having something to look forward to mattersThe difference between success and significanceThe truth about pain, growth, and mental strengthChapters:00:00 – IntroductionMeeting Terry and setting the tone01:00 – Early Life and CareerBasketball, Wendy’s, and caring for family03:00 – Becoming a Police Officer & SWAT NegotiatorHigh-pressure environments and helping people in crisis05:30 – Understanding People in CrisisEmpathy, communication, and trust08:00 – Hospital Work and Life LessonsCompassion, purpose, and giving vs taking10:30 – The Mindset ShiftWhy life is about what you give, not what you get12:00 – Cancer DiagnosisThe moment everything changed15:00 – Facing a Death SentenceProcessing fear, anger, and grief18:00 – Choosing to Fight BackTurning a death sentence into a life mission20:30 – The Power of PurposeWhy having something to look forward to matters23:00 – Mental Resilience in ActionSmall steps, big survival26:00 – 14 Years Living with CancerTreatments, setbacks, and survival29:00 – Amputation and RecoveryAdapting to life-changing circumstances32:00 – Breakthrough TreatmentsClinical trials and new hope34:30 – Writing Books and Leaving a LegacySuccess vs significance36:30 – The Four TruthsMindset, pain, purpose, and perseverance38:30 – Final MessageWhat Terry would pass on to the worldGuest:Terry Tucker is a former police officer, SWAT hostage negotiator, coach, and author of Sustainable Excellence and Four Truths and a Lie. After being given just two years to live, he has now spent over 14 years navigating life with a rare form of cancer while helping others find purpose, resilience, and meaning.Final thought:Life will break you.But what you become after that…is up to you.

Not all support looks like what you think it does.In this episode of After The Fall: After Dark, I sit down with Paul Reeve, CEO of Cornwall Mind, for a grounded, honest conversation about what mental health recovery actually looks like — beyond labels, beyond quick fixes, and beyond the idea that someone else can “fix” you.This isn’t theory.This is how it really works.From Paul’s own journey through burnout and rebuilding, to leading one of the most important mental health organisations in the region, we explore what support truly means — and why recovery is something you have to take ownership of, even when you’re being helped.We break down how Mind operates, the difference between national and local services, and the reality behind funding, access, and expectations.More importantly, we talk about people.The human side of support.The misconceptions that stop people reaching out.And the simple truths that actually make a difference.If you’ve ever felt unsure about asking for help — or expected someone else to fix things for you — this episode will shift your perspective and help remove the uncertainty about getting support from this wonderful organisation and those like it.What we cover:What mental health “recovery” really meansWhy support doesn’t mean being fixedThe role of self-agency in getting betterHow organisations like Mind actually operateThe biggest misconceptions about mental health servicesWhy community, connection, and activity matterThe reality of funding and service limitationsWhy early support for children is critical Chapters:00:00 – IntroductionAfter Dark format and meeting Paul Reeve01:00 – Paul’s Personal JourneyFrom struggling himself to entering mental health work03:30 – Frontline Work and BurnoutCompassion fatigue and stepping into leadership05:30 – Understanding “Mind”National vs local Mind and how the system works08:30 – What Recovery Actually MeansWhy mental health isn’t “fixed vs broken”10:30 – Ownership and Self-AgencyWhy no one can do the work for you12:30 – Group-Based SupportWhy activity-led environments work better than expected15:00 – One-to-One SupportCoaching models and building independence17:00 – Misconceptions About ServicesWhy people expect to be “fixed”20:00 – Funding and LimitationsThe reality behind what services can provide21:30 – Meaningful Impact MomentsWhat real success looks like inside the service25:00 – If Funding Was UnlimitedWhy investing in children matters most26:30 – The Reading RoomA safe space for connection, community, and conversation30:30 – Final Message: Be KinderA simple principle that changes everythingGuest:Paul Reeve is the CEO of Cornwall Mind, part of the wider Mind network supporting mental health across the UK. His work focuses on community-based recovery, self-agency, and building support systems that empower people to move forward.

Not all damage is visible.In this episode of After The Fall Show, I’m joined by Jodi Pavlock, who shares her lived experience of surviving narcissistic relationships — and what it really means to lose your identity inside them.From love bombing and control to isolation and emotional erosion, this conversation explores how narcissistic abuse develops, why it’s so hard to see while you’re in it, and what it actually takes to break free.Jodi speaks openly about the reality behind these relationships — the confusion, the self-doubt, the trauma bonding — and the difficult process of rebuilding yourself once you walk away.This isn’t a polished or perfect story. It’s a real one.If you’ve ever questioned yourself in a relationship, felt like you were losing who you are, or struggled to understand why leaving isn’t as simple as it sounds — this conversation will resonate.What we cover:The early signs of narcissistic behaviourLove bombing, control, and identity erosionTrauma bonding and emotional addictionWhy leaving isn’t the “easy fix” people thinkHitting rock bottom and rebuilding from itFinding your value again after losing yourselfChapters:00:00 – IntroductionSetting the scene: narcissism, identity, and survival00:20 – Life Before AwarenessWho Jodi was before recognising something was wrong01:00 – Early Signs of NarcissismLove bombing, control, and subtle criticism03:15 – The “Sniff Test”Key warning signs people often miss early on05:20 – Identity Loss & ControlHow narcissists strip away self-worth06:50 – When It Starts Getting WorseThe shift from charm to consistent devaluation08:30 – Public vs Private AbuseHow behaviour escalates and becomes visible11:20 – Danger & EscalationMoments where things cross into real risk13:00 – The Breaking PointWhen leaving becomes inevitable16:30 – Trauma Bonding ExplainedWhy it feels like addiction, not just love19:10 – Recovery Isn’t InstantThe reality after leaving — rock bottom first22:30 – Rebuilding LifeWriting the book, finding direction again24:00 – Can Narcissists Change?The truth about personality vs hope25:45 – Advice for OthersWhat to watch for and how to protect yourself27:00 – Finding Your Value AgainIdentity, growth, and moving forwardGuest:Jodi Pavlock is the author of Jekyll Can’t Hide, a book based on her lived experience with narcissistic abuse and recovery.Book Link:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Jekyll-Cant-Hyde-Jodi-Pavlock-ebook/dp/B0DQ973ZFQ Final thought:You don’t lose your value.Sometimes it just gets buried under someone else’s control.But it is still your's to own and there is life after survival.

What happens when a child is told they are broken before life has even properly begun?In this episode of After The Fall Show, I sit down with Ellen Busch for a powerful conversation about dyslexia, bullying, low self-worth, trauma, healing, and what it means to rebuild a life after being written off by the systems meant to support you.Ellen shares how her dyslexic journey began in childhood, how the education system underestimated her, and how those early messages shaped her confidence, identity, and sense of worth for years to come. We talk about being treated as less than, surviving school while carrying labels that were never truly yours, and the long shadow those experiences can cast across adult life. But this episode is not just about dyslexia in school.It is also about what happens later, when low self-esteem becomes a doorway for harmful people, toxic relationships, and deeper emotional damage. Ellen opens up about stalkers, narcissistic abuse, reaching a breaking point, and the surrender moment that began her journey back to herself. We also explore healing, self-discovery, the five-mountain approach to growth, and how recovery can move beyond survival into something stronger — a life of confidence, purpose, and thriving. In this episode we explore:- dyslexia and childhood school experiences- bullying, shame, and being written off early- low self-worth and long-term emotional impact- predators, narcissistic abuse, and survival- surrender, recovery, and rebuilding confidence- self-discovery, healing, and thriving after trauma- why dyslexia can also be a strengthIf you’ve ever felt misunderstood, underestimated, or made to believe you were less than you really are, this episode will speak to you.Follow After The Fall Show for more raw conversations about falling apart, rebuilding, and rising again.If you have a powerful story and feel it could help someone else, visit www.AfterTheFallShow.com to find out more about becoming a guest.To learn more about Icarus, his personal journey, and the Street Therapy approach to recovery, resilience, and personal change, visit www.streettherapy.co.ukFor daily content, reflection, and motivation, follow Icarus on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@Icarus_Works_UKTo follow Ellen why not visit her website www.ellenbusch.com and her book is available at all major book resellers.00:00 Introduction00:48 Ellen’s early dyslexia journey01:21 Diagnosed young and written off by school03:33 Intelligence ignored and confidence damaged04:41 Dyslexia in schools then and now07:02 What dyslexia felt like inside08:20 Bullying, shame, and being treated as less than10:34 Separate classrooms and being marked as different11:16 The moment life had to change12:15 Low self-worth, predators, and narcissistic abuse13:18 Reaching surrender point15:54 What people get wrong about recovery16:36 Surrender, survival, and refusing to quit19:10 Why healing cannot be done alone20:56 The five-mountain healing journey23:53 Healing the whole self25:55 Writing the book and sharing the message28:29 Striving, reviving, and thriving29:25 The feather question30:33 Where to find Ellen and her book32:11 Closing reflections on dyslexia as a strength

What happens when a broken childhood, parenthood, and the search for meaning all collide?In this episode of The After The Fall Show, I sit down with Rob from Adeptus Psychonautica for a raw and thought-provoking conversation about childhood trauma, resilience, psychedelics, DMT, ayahuasca, mythology, spirituality, healing, and the search for a guiding star.Rob shares how growing up in a deeply chaotic and abusive environment shaped his view of life, identity, and survival. We talk about the moment parenthood forced him to reflect on the kind of man he had become, and how that led him to revisit psychedelics not as escape, but as a tool for self-discovery and deeper introspection.This episode explores profound experiences with DMT, the spiritual and philosophical impact of ayahuasca, the power of mythology, the meaning crisis in modern life, and why healing is not the same as simply having the experience. Rob also speaks honestly about the darker side of psychedelic work, the brutal nature of some healing journeys, and the importance of having a North Star so you do not lose your way.If you have ever wrestled with trauma, identity, spirituality, meaning, or the question of what really changes a person, this conversation will stay with you.In this episode we explore:• childhood trauma and resilience• becoming a parent and choosing change• psychedelics as introspection, not escape• profound DMT experiences• ayahuasca, healing and difficult journeys• mythology, spirituality and modern life• healing versus simply having the experience• why a guiding star mattersFind Rob on YouTube: Adeptus PsychonauticaFollow The After The Fall Show for more conversations about collapse, reinvention, recovery, identity and rebuilding after the fall.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the episode00:30 Rob’s early life and broken upbringing03:53 Finding normality in chaos07:31 Becoming a parent and the need to change10:37 Revisiting psychedelics with purpose14:11 DMT and the profound spiritual experience19:04 Meaning, mythology and the nature of reality27:31 Love, connection and the maternal experience29:08 Ayahuasca and deeper spiritual exploration30:58 The difficult side of healing33:56 Ayahuasca, purging and recovery37:42 How the journey changed Rob as a parent39:21 Self-discovery, healing and the work afterwards41:07 Psychedelics, recovery and what people miss43:46 Spiritual experience and human connection47:04 The spiritual hole in modern society51:59 Finding your North Star57:40 Where to find Rob

What happens when your body starts failing, your identity begins to crack, and the life you built no longer fits who you really are?In this episode of The After The Fall Show, I sit down with Zorosa for a raw conversation about identity, self-sabotage, failing health, dialysis, organ donation, faith, healing, and purpose.Zorosa opens up about the cost of trying to fit in, the damage of living out of alignment with who you truly are, and what it feels like when your health rapidly declines and life changes overnight. We talk about the emotional weight of illness, the recovery journey, human resilience, and how faith became a powerful part of her healing.This episode is about far more than sickness. It is about the moment life strips everything back and asks: who are you really when the mask falls off?If you’ve ever battled self-sabotage, felt disconnected from your identity, struggled through illness, or tried to rebuild your life after collapse, this conversation will hit home.In this episode we explore:• identity and self-sabotage• the pressure to fit in• failing health and dialysis• organ donation and recovery• faith, healing and purpose• resilience in the middle of suffering• the true value of the recovery journeyFollow Zorosa on TikTok: @ZorosaclineMore from Street Therapy: www.StreetTherapy.co.ukCheck Zorosa’s TikTok profile link for her YouTube channelChapters:00:00 Introduction01:00 Meeting Zorosa02:10 Identity, image and trying to fit in04:20 Self-sabotage and the damage it causes06:45 When health starts to fail09:30 Dialysis, survival and reality hitting hard12:15 The emotional toll of illness14:50 Organ donation and the road through recovery17:40 Faith, healing and a new sense of purpose21:10 Embracing identity as a Christian24:20 Why the recovery journey matters27:00 Human resilience and rebuilding29:10 Final thoughts30:00 Where to find ZorosaFollow The After The Fall Show for more raw conversations about collapse, resilience, reinvention and rebuilding after the fall.

In this "After Dark" - Bonus Episode : Icarus discusses the concept of 'badges' and the impact they have on our lives, emphasizing the need to take a step back and focus on oneself in times of overwhelming stress and anxiety. He provides practical advice on managing the demands of various roles and responsibilities, advocating for a mindful and step-by-step approach to breaking the cycle of anxiety and trauma.TakeawaysThe concept of 'badges' represents the various roles and responsibilities we carry, which can become overwhelming and stressful.Taking a step back, focusing on oneself, and prioritizing tasks mindfully can help break the cycle of anxiety and trauma.Chapters00:00 The Concept of 'Badges'07:27 Breaking the Cycle of Anxiety and Trauma

After Dark the "After The Fall Show" after show. This a platform for reflection, knowledge sharing, and learning without a story. It aims to share street therapy, knowledge, wisdom, and learnings, while exploring the universal and individual aspects of life. The show also features specialists who provide support, guidance, and wisdom without being the person with the arc.TakeawaysReflection and learning without a storySharing street therapy, knowledge, and wisdomWhat we think by reaction isn't always the truth of what is happeningWe always have a choice in life to react in different ways. Not just the one our impulse and habits tell us to doLife often hide's behind the story we see and there is more than one lesson in any situation.Chapters00:00 Introduction to After Dark05:27 Generational Consequences12:43 Emotional Intelligence and Acceptance

The conversation delves into the personal journey of Moses, exploring the impact of childhood experiences, trauma, addiction, and recovery. It highlights the importance of seeking help, recognizing the need for change, and finding self-worth and healing through love and connection.TakeawaysAlcoholism and addiction can have deep roots in childhood experiences and family dynamics.Recovery and change require a shift in perspective and a willingness to seek help and support from others.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Topic06:20 The Impact of Trauma and Loss11:28 Reaching the Lowest Point18:31 The Turning Point and Recovery26:07 The Journey to Self-Worth and Healing32:19 The Power of Love and ConnectionIf you have a compelling story that will help the world contact us on our www.AfterTheFallShow.com page.And if you wish to know more about Icarus and the "Street Therapy" mindset please check out our main site www.StreetTherapy.co.uk Also check out our Daily TikTok posts @Icarus_Works_uk and Moses at : @graceful_moses

What happens when grief does not just break your heart, but quietly changes your identity, your body and the way you move through life?In this episode of The After The Fall Show, I sit down with Sarah, a holistic grief and trauma coach and the heart behind Embrace, for a raw conversation about grief, trauma, loss, burnout, healing and rebuilding after bereavement.Sarah shares the story of losing her brother after years of illness, including MS and then cancer, and how that loss changed everything. We talk about anticipatory grief, the kind of pain that starts before a person is even gone, and what happens when trauma sits in the body long after life expects you to have “moved on”.This conversation explores the hidden reality of grief: the years of survival mode, the hollow Groundhog Day feeling, the weight of burnout, and the slow process of rebuilding through boundaries, movement, self-care, nervous system healing and purpose.If you have ever lost someone, felt stuck in grief, struggled with trauma, or wondered whether healing is really possible, this episode is for you.In this episode we explore:• grief after losing a sibling• anticipatory grief and identity loss• trauma in the body• burnout after bereavement• nervous system healing and grounding• self-care and small recovery steps• boundaries, toxic people and change• moving forward and finding releaseChapters:00:00 Introduction00:19 Meet Sarah00:59 When grief began before the loss01:49 Cancer, shock and losing her brother03:52 Survival mode and five years of drifting06:00 Burnout, work stress and the turning point06:48 Turning pain into purpose09:37 What rebuilding actually looked like11:17 Small wins, self-care and recovery12:05 Boundaries and cutting out toxic people14:43 Training as a grief and trauma coach15:25 Trauma in the body and the nervous system16:55 Breathing, grounding and healing tools19:20 Why many people seek grief help years later20:14 Different forms of grief and hidden pain22:32 Sarah’s message to anyone struggling23:52 Where to find Sarah24:21 Final reflections on healing and hopeIf you want to know more about Sarah and her services, check out her profile:https://linktr.ee/Embrace_urjourneyIf you have a journey to share, contact us at:www.AfterTheFallShow.comTo learn more about the Street Therapy framework created by Icarus through his own recovery journey, visit:www.StreetTherapy.co.uk

What happens when childhood trauma, abuse, grief and years of masking finally catch up with you?In this episode of The After The Fall Show, I sit down with Natalie for a raw conversation about autism, ADHD, school trauma, self-harm, domestic abuse, grief, healing and the long road back to yourself.Natalie shares how growing up undiagnosed left her anxious, overwhelmed and masking heavily from a young age. She opens up about depression in childhood, self-harm as a release, PTSD, fibromyalgia linked to trauma, and the pain of losing her dad after a rapid battle with cancer.We also talk about the moment everything had to change — reaching a point of complete despair, finding the strength to leave an abusive relationship, and slowly rebuilding through support, self-work, boundaries and learning to trust again.This is an episode about what happens when life strips everything back and asks you to choose yourself.If you have ever lived through abuse, loss, trauma, masking, burnout or the feeling that you have lost who you are, this conversation will speak to you.In this episode we explore:• late diagnosis of autism and ADHD• school trauma and masking• depression and self-harm• PTSD, trauma and chronic pain• losing a parent and deep grief• domestic abuse and leaving• suicidal crisis and reaching out• healing, support and rebuilding trust• letting go of the old version of yourselfChapters:00:00 Introduction00:31 Natalie before the fall02:22 What was happening behind the mask03:40 Masking, self-harm and hidden pain04:28 PTSD, trauma and fibromyalgia06:35 Losing her dad07:47 Numbness, grief and shock09:30 The breaking point10:33 Leaving abuse and choosing life12:41 What rebuilding actually looked like14:46 Reaching out and accepting support16:55 What people get wrong about change17:28 Letting go of the old version of yourself18:15 Healing, trust and building a new support network21:09 There is no time limit on healing22:28 Natalie’s message to anyone struggling25:44 The whirlpool metaphor for healing26:31 Closing reflections on abuse, power and survivalFollow The After The Fall Show for more raw conversations about collapse, trauma, recovery, identity and rebuilding after the fall. Also check out our main site www.StreetTherapy.co.uk