BDE: Books, Dating and Everything

Books, Dating & Everything: House Hunting, Spicy Reads, and the “Life Coach Dom” IdeaRachel and Jessica introduce their podcast BDE, sharing their love of spicy books, chaotic dating stories, and deep conversations. They catch up on real life—Jessica is exhausted from staying up reading, and Rachel shares the excitement and stress of buying her first house and moving after 10 years, including decluttering while juggling work, workouts, and basic routines. They discuss motivation, ADHD/neurodivergence, and jokingly brainstorm a “life coach dom/workout dom” concept inspired by romance tropes and Fundamentals of Being a Good Girl by Julie Murphy and Sierra Simone. They review the book’s themes—age-gap professor romance, domination/submission dynamics, body image, healing after a degrading relationship, healthy co-parenting, and feeling safe in love—plus talk about older romance novels like The Windflower. They mention a possible summer podcast break and planning in-person events.00:00 Welcome to BDE00:44 Sleepy Bookish Banter01:36 Buying a First Home03:04 Moving Chaos and Decluttering04:24 Offline Life and Social Media Breaks06:26 Busy Days and Basic Needs08:24 The Life Coach Dom Idea15:04 Soft Dom Preferences16:21 Book Talk Wreck Me17:13 Body Image and Representation18:52 Plot Setup Age Gap Nanny20:26 Dom POV and Healing Themes24:26 Toxic Trauma Bonds25:25 Death by Sarcasm27:18 Healing Through Love28:42 Power in Submission29:38 Letting Him In34:29 Safe Space Breakdown38:00 Books That Heal40:13 Roleplay and Neurodivergence41:44 Secret Romance Era44:01 Mom's Spicy Classic47:43 Mafia Enemies Tease48:11 Summer Break Plans48:36 Reviews and Goodbye

But first let’s be friends: Instagram TikTok Spiders, Online Dating Chaos, and Our Game On (Navea Allen) Book Talk | BDE PodcastRachel and Jessica introduce their podcast BDE, a weekly show about books, dating, and relationships, then spiral into a long, funny conversation about spiders—Rachel claims she can “feel” when one is nearby, recounts finding a huge spider after a bath, and admits she vacuums spiders up and has thrown away multiple vacuums afterward. They shift to online dating, discussing how exhausting apps feel, the difference between quantity and quality of likes, and a recent date that went well, plus ideas for better first dates like activities, laser tag, and group singles events. They also discuss the viral “catching print” concept and then review Navea Allen’s Game On, praising the banter, forced proximity plot, and unexpectedly hot brat-kink dynamic, rating it highly and comparing it to Lights Out and Caught Up.00:00 Welcome to BDE00:44 Hair Talk and Bonnet02:11 Today’s Topics Setup03:14 Spider Whisperer Bath Story06:07 Vacuum Method Chaos08:48 MySpace Spider Trauma13:55 Spider Line and Men14:13 Online Dating Burnout18:22 Roster Talk and Energy23:43 Serial Monogamist to Apps25:47 Wild First Date Ideas27:28 Worst First Date Idea28:10 Activity Dates Win28:31 Peewee Golf Debate29:32 Laser Tag Singles Night30:26 Laser Tag Play Styles32:21 Catching Print Explained36:19 Growing Up Different37:04 Game On Book Review39:52 Brat Kink Breakdown47:44 More Audiobook Recs50:12 Wrap Up and Outro

But first let’s be friends! Instagram TikTok Embarrassing Things, Cringey Pet Names & Why Dark Romance Isn’t Shameful | BDE PodcastRachel and Jessica introduce BDE, a podcast about books, dating, and life, then dive into “things that are embarrassing for no reason,” including small talk, paying with cash, nail salon chair massages, bowling walk-backs, parallel parking, checking mail with someone behind you, being ID’d, ordering under pressure, and awkward doctor-gown moments (plus a debate about what to put on first after a massage). They play a pet-name yes/no game (favorites include “good girl” and “baby,” while “baby girl” is a strong no) before discussing dark romance: how they started with Feather So Vicious/Shadow So Cruel, their reactions to Haunting/Hunting Adeline, and why Lights Out works as a funny gateway. They also mention Hitched, Dance with My Demon, God of Malice, and Under Your Scars, and explain dark romance as a controlled space to explore taboo desire, safety, power, and transformation. They end by requesting anonymous “Messy Mondays” dating stories via DM and asking for reviews and follows.00:00 Welcome to BDE00:44 Fake Spring Banter01:42 Today’s Agenda02:58 Embarrassed by Everything04:22 Cash and Germs05:49 Nail Salon Awkwardness08:35 Bowling and Parking Panic12:48 Doctor Gown Dilemmas14:10 Massage Naked Debate19:40 Pet Names in Romance23:26 Yes No Pet Name Game27:31 Cringey Pet Names29:19 Dark Romance Confessions31:20 Feathers and Shadows Deep Dive35:43 Haunting Adeline Reactions39:28 Lights Out Gateway Pick40:55 Hitched and Other Recs43:27 Why Dark Romance Works52:57 No Shame Reading Tastes55:38 Messy Mondays and Wrap

Follow us on our socials Instagram TicTokDr. Thick Thighs & Why Harry Styles Is a Walking Green FlagRachel and Jessica introduce their BDE podcast about books, dating, and real-life relationship talk, then share a chaotic story about Rachel’s first chiropractor visit in 15 years at Jessica’s office, where she arrives sweaty in a sweatsuit with no underwear, gets unexpectedly intense adjustments, and is stunned by the attractive “Dr. Thick Thighs,” but leaves feeling better with improved neck movement and fewer headaches. They pivot to Harry Styles, discussing why he feels like a “walking green flag,” including his confidence, kindness, boundaries, respect for women, and authentic self-expression, then react to his new album, compare how they listen to albums, name favorite tracks, and announce they’re traveling to New York to see him at Madison Square Garden in late September while asking for NYC recommendations.00:00 Welcome to BDE00:59 Today’s Topic Tease02:32 Chiropractor Storytime Begins03:06 Sweatsuit and Spicy Lunch07:19 Meet Dr Thick Thighs11:45 The Adjustment Chaos22:06 Aftermath and Shoutouts22:38 Harry Styles Green Flag Era24:32 ChatGPT Breaks Down Harry26:06 Mysterious Yet Safe26:58 Humble Fan Connection28:54 Masculinity and Expression31:31 Respecting Women in Action34:31 Album Art Shock35:20 Dingleberry Definition Detour37:25 How We Listen to Albums39:40 Favorite Tracks Breakdown41:54 Pop Lyrics Explained43:42 NYC Concert Plans47:03 Joyful Fangirl Energy48:50 New York Tips and Wrap Up49:47 Final Thanks and Reviews

Panic Ordering Pizza, The Grapes Debate, and Our Unfiltered “Weathering Heights” Review (Spoilers!)Rachel and Jessica introduce their BDE podcast, then Rachel shares a night out with coworkers at psychic comedian Peter Antonio’s show, including her panic-ordering and a disastrous sticky chicken-slab pizza that made her realize she “builds” perfect bites and is picky about textures (sparking a debate about saving the best last bite and squeezing grapes before eating them). They then give a spoiler-filled, unfiltered discussion of the new “Weathering Heights” film starring Margot Robbie and Jacob Elordi, praising the acting, cinematography, music, and unsettling sexual tone while calling it a dark, tragic, toxic love story with disturbing scenes, miscommunication, and an unhappy ending. They close by chatting about current reads, including the smut-heavy “For the Fans,” the fantasy “Dawn of the North,” and the nonfiction “Journey of Souls,” and ask listeners to review and follow.00:00 Welcome to BDE00:47 Today’s agenda01:40 Psychic comedian night04:34 Panic ordering chaos07:42 The pizza disaster12:34 Ideal bite debate16:05 Thanksgiving fry trauma20:33 Grape texture showdown24:29 Weathering Heights setup26:18 Saltburn detour27:56 Cinematography and vibes28:42 That opening scene31:06 Shocking Opening Scene31:54 Meet Catherine and Heathcliff36:13 Barn Voyeurism Awakens Desire38:43 Rock Encounter and Obsession40:32 Gothic Aesthetics and Costumes41:46 Marriage Money and Betrayal47:59 Heathcliff Returns and Chaos48:59 Dirty Passion and Jealousy53:44 Tragic Ending and Aftermath55:18 Was It Love or Toxicity59:38 Dark Romance Book Talk01:05:20 Wrap Up and Farewell

But first! Let’s be friends!InstagramTikTokGentle Parenting vs Permissive Parenting, a Wild Mom Storytime + Fantasy & Spicy Book UpdatesRachel and Jessica return to their podcast BDE (books, dating, and everything in between) after a break and announce they’ll be releasing episodes every other week to make the schedule more sustainable. They share a parenting story where Rachel, overstimulated during a school-night routine, argues with her 10-year-old son Brooks, who laughs, gets startled, and calls her a profane name. Rachel describes choosing a gentle-parenting approach: taking a moment to regulate, apologizing for not listening, setting a clear boundary about name-calling, discussing what an apology includes, and following through with a consequence by not allowing him to use her phone that night despite his apology. They discuss the distinction between gentle parenting (high warmth, high boundaries), permissive parenting (low boundaries), and authoritarian parenting (high boundaries, low warmth), and connect emotional regulation and connection to broader issues like the male loneliness epidemic. They also discuss another example of connection-based consequences: Jessica describes having her son help make dinner for a month after he lied about secretly emailing a girl, referencing a podcast idea that “the opposite of addiction is connection.” In reading updates, Rachel talks about loving Sarah Cate’s Good Brothers series and wanting to do a deeper dive later, while Jessica shares being in a fantasy phase, including Carissa Broadbent’s vampire series (starting with The Serpent and the Wings of Night) and another fantasy release, Roots of Darkness. Jessica also recounts a two-hour intuitive/Akashic records reading at a bookshop in El Dorado Hills where the reader, without knowing her background, mentioned a future grandchild soul contract and said “fortune favors the bold,” which matches Jessica’s Irish Quinn family crest. The episode closes with them setting intentions for the Chinese New Year (Year of the Horse) and reflecting on fear and bravery during life transitions.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating & Chaos Energy00:48 Quick Life Update: Switching to Every-Other-Week Episodes02:14 Story Time Begins: Parenting, Overstimulation & Bedtime Pressure08:02 The Blow-Up Moment: ‘You’re Being a…’ (and What Happened Next)12:38 Repair & Regulation: The Calm Talk, Apology, and Boundaries17:24 Gentle vs Permissive Parenting (and Why Boundaries Matter)21:41 Lessons Learned + A Hilarious Age Mix-Up in the Salon23:46 Noah’s ‘Kindle Email’ Lie: Consequences vs Connection25:15 Turning Consequences Into Connection: Cooking Together26:01 Raising an Independent Kid (and Reframing “Disrespect”)28:29 Repair After Rupture: Unconditional Love in Action29:01 What We’ve Been Reading: The Good Brothers Series Obsession31:42 Fantasy Kick: Sexy Vampires, Brutal Gods & 5-Star Worlds35:18 Intuitive & Medium Readings: From Skepticism to Curiosity41:25 Akashic Records Session: Soul Contracts, Grandma Energy & a Family Crest Sign43:25 Fortune Favors the Bold: Using the Reading for Direction48:16 Year of the Horse Intentions + Choosing Bravery Anyway50:42 Wrap-Up, Love Yous, and How to Support the Podcast

But first! Let’s be friends: InstagramTikTokExploring 'Promise Me' with Author Sarah Kate | BDE PodcastJoin hosts Rachel and Jessica on BDE as they dive into an engaging conversation with their favorite author, Sarah Kate. They discuss her upcoming book 'Promise Me,' set to release on February 10th, featuring beloved characters Declan and Colin. The trio shares their excitement about the book's unique elements, such as dual timelines and emotional depth. Sarah talks about her journey as an author, the inspiration behind her writing, and the impact of exploring kink in romance. Don't miss this fun and insightful episode, filled with laughter, deep convos, and a glimpse into Sarah Kate's creative process. Make sure to hit follow, grab your favorite drink, and tune in!00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:47 Special Guest: Sarah Kate01:17 Discussing 'Promise Me': Characters and Themes02:57 Writing Techniques: POV and Timelines05:19 Friends to Lovers: The Pool Scene06:48 The Impact of Queer Romance07:34 Exploring Kinks and Self-Discovery13:45 The Journey of Writing Romance17:00 Imagination and Literature19:32 Research and Inspiration19:56 Creative Process and Inspiration20:30 Writing Challenges and New Ideas21:34 Fast-Paced Indie Writing22:27 Emotional Depth in Characters23:58 Favorite Characters and Scenes28:26 Excitement for New Releases32:56 Connecting with Readers34:00 Conclusion and Farewell

But first! Let’s be friends! InstagramTikTokHair Confessions: Awkward Salon Stories, Transformation Haircuts, and Personal GrowthJoin Rachel and Jessica in a lively episode of 'BDE: Books, Dating & Everything' where they dive into all things hair! From awkward salon stories and transformation haircuts to deep conversations about self-expression and personal growth, this episode is packed with laughter and heartfelt moments. Tune in to hear about Rachel's childhood haircut disaster, Jessica's hair struggles and triumphs, and the wild encounters they’ve had in their two-decade-long hairdressing careers. Perfect for anyone who loves spicy reads, chaotic dating tales, and deep convos about love and life.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:50 Haircut Excitement and Childhood Hair Stories01:29 Hair Struggles and Styling Disasters16:16 The Emotional Impact of Haircuts17:39 Societal Expectations and Personal Style21:34 Client Stories and Hair Perceptions25:18 Daily Style Choices25:46 Hair Decisions and Regrets27:14 Eyebrow and Teeth Trends30:00 Salon Stories: Embarrassing Moments36:29 Client Confessions and Awkward Situations46:54 The Joys and Challenges of Being a Hairstylist48:10 Concluding Thoughts and Farewell

But first, let’s be friends! InstagramTikTokListening to Your Body: Why Self-Care MattersIn this episode of BDE, Rachel and Jessica talk about the importance of listening to your body and understanding when it's time to rest. They share their own experiences with burnout, self-care strategies, and the pressures of societal expectations. From spontaneous mall outings to the power of a good scream, Rachel and Jessica discuss different forms of rest and why it's crucial to give yourself permission to take a break. Tune in for a heartfelt conversation that encourages you to be kind to yourself and prioritize your well-being.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between01:12 A Rough Week: Embracing the Need to Pause02:23 Mall Therapy: Finding Joy in Simple Pleasures03:24 The Power of Connection and Authenticity03:57 Unexpected Delights: Bacon and Bonding11:21 The Importance of Different Types of Rest14:09 Listening to Yourself: A Journey of Self-Discovery16:31 Finding What You Need Right Now17:11 Permission to Do Nothing17:55 Listening to Your Body19:36 Sitting Down to Eat21:34 Multitasking Madness24:26 The Importance of Self-Care27:31 Expressing Anger Healthily30:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

But first! Let’s be friends! Follow us on our socials InstagramTikTokFrom Spicy Reads to Self-Pleasure: Exploring Books, Dating, & Everything in BetweenJoin Rachel and Jessica on BDE where they discuss everything from their love for spicy books and chaotic dating stories to deeper conversations about love and relationships. In this week's episode, they cover a variety of topics, including an emotional recount of a powerful movie about sexual assault, personal stories of anger and self-pleasure, and the evolution of sex toys. Along the way, they provide laughter and real talk, creating a space for candid and important discussions.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:53 Chaotic Dating Stories and Spicy Reads01:43 The Good Hand Massage Fiasco07:02 Understanding Anger and Boundaries08:12 A Deep Dive into a Powerful Movie11:39 The Aftermath of Trauma27:29 Taking Back Power and Self-Pleasure27:56 Exploring the World of Porn28:26 Discovering Unexpected Content29:03 Opinions on Pornography31:36 The Male Gaze and Female Preferences35:45 Historical Perspectives on Female Pleasure38:26 Evolution of Vibrators40:56 Personal Experiences with Sex Toys49:10 The Importance of Sharing and Community51:11 Conclusion and Farewell

Books, Dating, and Everything in Between: 2026 Kickoff with Rachel & JessicaLet’s be friends! Follow us on our socials!InstagramTikTokIn this episode of BDE (Books, Dating, and Everything in Between), hosts Rachel and Jessica welcome listeners to the new year, 2026. They dive into various discussions ranging from their chaotic but endearing morning prep routines to indulgent holiday reflections and New Year resolutions. As they navigate through the episode, they offer hilarious dating stories, book recommendations, and candid talks about self-love and acceptance. The duo also reviews recent movies based on popular books, such as 'Regretting You' by Colleen Hoover and others. They particularly highlight the popular MM (male on male) romance 'Heated Rivalry,' and discuss its impact on representation in media. Rachel and Jessica express their excitement for the trending queer love stories, celebrating their positive ripple effects. The episode wraps up with more laughter, love, and plans for future episodes.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:44 New Year, New Beginnings: Embracing Change06:46 Movie Reviews: From Books to Big Screen09:47 Exploring Love and Relationships in Film12:40 Avatar and Other Cinematic Adventures18:19 Heated Rivalry: A Deep Dive into the Series25:49 Sweet Muffins and Tough Love27:17 Shane's Struggle with Identity30:04 Ilia's Confidence and Family Struggles30:58 Tender Moments and Banter32:29 The Big Reveal37:17 Exploring MM Romance41:50 Book Recommendations and Personal Reflections50:10 Concluding Thoughts and Community Engagement

But first! Follow us on our socials! Instagram TikTokMemories & Mishaps: Hilarious Trip Stories and New Year ReflectionsJoin us in this hilarious and heartwarming episode as we recount our favorite memories and mishaps of the past year. From unforgettable trips and spontaneous tattoos to explosive drinks and awkward encounters, we dive into the essence of true friendship and the joy of shared experiences. Plus, get a sneak peek into our plans for the new year, including potential dating events, a unique book club, and more exciting adventures. Laugh, cry, and reminisce with us as we celebrate the journey and look forward to what's next!00:00 Introduction and Struggles00:14 New Year Recap and Inside Jokes01:36 Memorable Trip to Bend04:22 Unexpected Restaurant Experiences05:40 Tattoo Adventure07:31 Annoying Encounters and Karaoke Fun16:34 Reflecting on Friendship and Healing18:53 Countdown of Memorable Moments21:48 Hilarious Drink Disaster23:00 Embarrassing Moments at Nordstrom24:38 Forcing Dates and Awkward Situations25:57 Exciting Launch and Bedazzling Party26:25 Teddy Hamilton Cameo Surprise31:02 Meeting Author Sarah Kate36:10 Voice Notes and Fan Interactions39:52 Future Plans and Exciting Events42:16 Conclusion and Appreciation

Follow us on our socials! InstagramTikTokIn this episode of ‘BDE,’ best friends Rachel and Jessica dive deep into the chaotic world of dating mishaps and book recs. Get ready for a wild ride as Rachel recounts a disastrous date filled with car wreck near-misses and endless monologues about Houdini. The duo then transitions into compiling their ‘Naughty and Nice’ book lists of the year, juxtaposing steamy tales with feel-good reads. Whether you’re into spicy romance or gripping fantasy, there's a recommendation for you. Tune in for honest chatter, hearty laughs, and some second-hand embarrassment.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:56 Catching Up: Meltdowns and Morning Crashes01:12 Today's Topic: Books Over Disappointing Men01:48 Story Time: A Date Update02:26 The Date: From Start to Finish20:02 The Awkward Goodbye23:29 Naughty and Nice Book List29:02 Extra Presents and Pucking Around29:10 Book Reviews: The Longest Book Ever29:50 The STAR Rating System31:25 Pucking Around: A Mixed Review32:31 Nice List vs Naughty List33:09 Fantasy Series Highlights34:50 Romance Series Reviews36:53 Dark Romance and Naughty Reads47:55 The Hellfire Series and More50:25 Year-End Reflections and Farewell

Follow us on our socials! InstagramTikTok In this episode of BDE, Rachel and Jessica uncover a series of chaotic and hilarious dating experiences that range from a man revealing his wife left him for another woman on a first date to an impromptu toe-show. They also delve deep into the emotional rollercoaster of modern dating and the confusion around post-date texting etiquette. The duo wraps up the episode with insightful tarot readings that offer a glimpse into future love, new beginnings, and life changes. Join us for a candid conversation that’s equal parts laughter and profound reflection.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:53 Diving Into Embarrassing Dating Stories04:49 The Sweat Date: A Hilarious Disaster10:49 Gross Dating Experiences: Meat in My Mouth17:04 Awkward Double Dates and Red Flags22:28 The Hobo Lifestyle: A Dating Dilemma27:10 Unexpected Encounter with a Tinder Match30:42 The Date and a Shocking Comment30:55 Discussing Online Dating Frustrations39:46 Tarot Reading for Love and Future41:30 Personal Tarot Readings and Reflections57:31 Concluding Thoughts and Future Plans

Follow us on our socials! Instagram TikTokJoin Jess and Rachel for an entertaining and candid chat as they reveal personal stories, including a hilarious bug incident and an intriguing 'scientific anomaly' tale. They share random facts about themselves, discuss past jobs, and explore their hobbies like ice skating and tarot reading. Dive into their favorite book recommendations and enjoy their amusing attempt at summarizing them in a game. This episode is packed with laughter, surprises, and heartfelt moments you won't want to miss!00:00 Unexpected Bug Encounter01:28 Random Facts About Us01:44 Book Talk: Quick Fire Round02:46 Embarrassing Stories and Hidden Talents11:16 Jobs and Life Experiences20:52 Tarot Readings and Intuition23:22 Scientific Anomaly Story24:08 Medical Fears and Pregnancy Challenges25:36 The Shocking Discovery27:58 Labor and Delivery Ordeal29:39 Post-Delivery Revelations33:28 Book Game: 10-Word Descriptions35:21 Book Recommendations and Reviews45:30 Final Thoughts and Future Plans

Follow us on our socials! InstagramTikTokYoutubeIn this episode, Rachel and Jessica discuss two intriguing books, 'Soul Searching' and 'Pen Pal,' both featuring paranormal elements. They delve into the captivating storylines and the spicy romance, sharing their thoughts and favorite moments from the books. Transitioning from book talk to ghost stories, they share their own eerie experiences with the supernatural. From haunted salons to spectral encounters in childhood homes, this episode is packed with spine-chilling tales. They also discuss their fascination with ghost hunting shows and even ponder the idea of organizing a ghost hunt. Tune in for an episode filled with laughter, chills, and captivating stories.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:44 The Beard Dilemma01:15 Paranormal Book Reviews01:45 Soul Searching: A Small Town Romance10:15 Pen Pal: A Spicy Psychological Thriller16:58 Personal Ghost Stories25:57 Neighborhood Ghost Stories27:16 The Cold Room Encounter31:44 A Terrifying Bathroom Experience38:46 Haunted Salon Tales45:58 Ghost Hunting Plans48:46 Podcast Recommendations and Wrap-Up

Join Rachel and Jessica in this episode of BDE as they delve into their personal journeys of healing, growth, and evolving together. They discuss the importance of acknowledging one's past, the power of self-help tools like the Enneagram, and how important it is to go beyond talk therapy. They share insights about moving from victim mentality to becoming the empowered creators of their own lives, utilizing resources like The Power of TED and engaging in transformative practices such as breath work and EMDR. Emphasizing connection over isolation, they reflect on the power of deeply seeing and being seen, recommending practices like 'soul gazing.' It's a heartfelt dialogue about embracing one's full self, using social media wisely, and fostering connections that support true personal growth.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:49 Our Journey of Healing and Growth03:24 The Struggles of Overachieving05:19 Understanding Fawning and Survival Techniques07:30 The Power of the Enneagram12:57 Victim Mentality vs. Empowerment Dynamic21:21 The Importance of Breathwork and Connection26:45 The Power of Vulnerability in Connection27:47 Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs31:20 Understanding and Embracing Your Shadow Self36:14 The Mirror Effect: Recognizing Your Triggers41:32 Social Media: A Tool for Healing or Harm?45:21 Self-Compassion and the Journey of Healing49:03 Exploring the Enneagram for Self-Discovery49:54 Conclusion and Community Engagement

Join Rachel and Jessica in this heartfelt episode of BDE where they dive deep into the complex issues of body image, dieting, and the journey towards radical self-acceptance. They share personal stories about growing up with body insecurities, experiences with various diets, and the impact of societal expectations on their self-worth. The conversation also covers how the media and social environments influence our views on body image and the transformative power of focusing on health rather than appearance. If you've ever struggled with body image or just want some real talk and laughs, this episode is for you!00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:45 The Struggles of Being Seen: Exposure Therapy02:33 Body Image and Self-Perception05:57 Early Experiences with Dieting and Body Awareness09:37 The Impact of Diet Culture and Disordered Eating23:18 Hormones, Health, and Body Changes25:48 Understanding Body's Survival Mechanism26:07 Reteaching Eating Habits26:22 School Influences and SlimFast26:46 Personal Struggles with Eating Disorders28:30 A Mother's Reaction29:51 Therapy and Recovery30:28 Shift Towards Body Positivity32:24 Embracing Body Functionality34:47 Reflecting on Body Image43:20 Fun with Fitness Gadgets44:52 Final Thoughts and Farewell

Story Time Chaos: First Shaves, Awkward Kisses, and Wardrobe MalfunctionsJoin Rachel and Jessica on this hilarious and relatable episode of BDE (Books, Dating, and Everything) as they dive into some light-hearted story time. Listen as they share uproarious tales from their past, including their first experiences with shaving, memorable kisses, period mishaps, run-ins with the law, embarrassing wardrobe malfunctions, and even a few vomit stories in public. It's a fun, laughter-filled episode that you won't want to miss, perfect for anyone who loves real talk and a good ugly cry laugh.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:48 Story Time with Rachel and Jess01:58 Hilarious First Shaving Experiences08:13 First Period Stories: Embarrassment and Trauma16:46 Musical Memories: From Christian Tunes to TLC26:08 First Kisses: Awkward and Unforgettable28:50 First Date Memories32:46 Wardrobe Malfunctions33:06 Embarrassing Gym Incident39:52 Throwing Up Stories46:49 Pulled Over by the Police55:09 Conclusion and Farewell

In this episode of BDE (Books, Dating, and Everything), Rachel and Jessica dive into the complex and alarming world of the 'Red Pill' and 'Manosphere' ideologies proliferating online. They discuss the male loneliness epidemic, toxic masculinity, and the dangerous narratives that blame women for men's issues. The conversation moves through personal experiences, expert insights, and reflections on how to raise emotionally healthy boys in today's world. They also highlight the qualities that women find truly attractive in men, citing popular social media influencers and their impact on modern dating culture. Join Rachel and Jessica for a deep, eye-opening discussion on relationships, gender dynamics, and emotional intelligence.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:49 Unpacking the Red Pill and Manosphere02:17 The Male Loneliness Epidemic03:04 Incel Culture and Misconceptions06:14 What Women Really Want11:49 The Importance of Self-Reflection19:13 Confidence vs. Cockiness26:42 Desirable Traits in Men30:13 Examples of Alpha Behavior30:17 Admiring Andrew Ski: A Gem of a Human Being34:47 The Appeal of Good Trouble: Intensity and Advocacy37:20 Cheez Chuck: Political Passion and Advocacy44:49 Raising Boys: Confidence and Compassion47:40 Parenting with Compassion: Leading by Example53:37 Teaching Kids to Trust Themselves57:12 Concluding Thoughts: Teaching the Next Generation

In this episode, Jessica talks about her decision to join Tinder after spending two years exclusively on Hinge. They explore the differences between the two apps, share humorous anecdotes, and examine profiles together while navigating the confusing aspects of Tinder. Rachel also shares her personal dating experiences and advice, including questions she asked herself before committing to her now-husband. Towards the end, they briefly touch upon their current book obsession, 'Bitter Burn,' and its impact on them. The episode wraps up with laughter and a promise for updates on Jessica’s dating journey.

Rachel and Jessica introduce their podcast BDE (Books, Dating, and Everything). They discuss their love for Taylor Swift, how they became fans, and the profound emotional connections fans have to her music. The conversation shifts to Taylor Swift-themed events and a powerful collective experience where women shared personal traumas by writing names on a white dress, symbolizing release and healing from abusive relationships. They reflect on domestic violence, the importance of seeking support, and moving from a victim mindset to empowerment. The podcast ends with Rachel and Jessica sharing their current book reads and contemplating the best symbolic act to release the negative energy tied to the dress.

In this episode Rachel and Jess passionately review Sarah Kate's latest book, 'The Good Girl Effect,' sharing their love for the author's writing style and the deep connection they feel with her characters. The hosts recount their serendipitous encounter with Sarah Kate during a fun-filled day in Sacramento, discussing their experience of meeting her and the humorous, awkward moments that ensued. They explore the themes of grief, love, and healing in 'The Good Girl Effect,' highlighting the emotional depth and spicy elements of the book, particularly focusing on the practice of Shibari and the significance of aftercare in BDSM. The hosts express excitement for upcoming book releases and hint at future discussions on dating and more book reviews.

Books, Dating and Everything: Am I the asshole? Story time with Rachel and Jess Rachel and Jessica kick off their podcast 'BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything' with humorous introductions and a lively discussion about an unexpected beach conflict during a family outing. This episode also explores the toil women endure to prepare for dates and a hilariously painful first sugaring experience. The hosts delve into the ethics and personal comfort of audiobooks with personalized romantic narrations, and review spicy reads like Sierra Simone's 'Salt Kiss' and 'Honeycutt.' They tease a future episode dedicated to Sarah Kate’s latest book and reflect on their experience meeting the author.00:00 Welcome to BDE: Books, Dating, and Everything In Between00:48 Toe Sponges and Free Toes: A Hilarious Start01:47 Am I the Asshole? River Storytime09:04 The Waxing Chronicles: A Painful Truth14:17 The Painful Beauty Ritual15:58 The Struggles of Dating Preparation17:16 The Cost of Dating18:16 Exploring Quinn: Personalized Audiobooks19:01 Debating the Appropriateness of Quinn23:34 Book Recommendations and Reviews27:58 Wrapping Up and FarewellFollow us on our socials: TikTok Instagram

In this episode Rachel and Jessica are talking all things audiobooks! They explore whether listening to audiobooks is the same as reading. They share personal anecdotes, their favorite narrators like Jacob Morgan and Teddy Hamilton, and opinions on various audiobook formats, including duet styles and dramatized versions. The discussion also touches on the practicality and enjoyment of audiobooks in busy lives. Additionally, Jessica shares a recent dating experience, emphasizing the importance of clear communication and mutual interest. The hosts encourage listeners to try audiobooks and engage with their community on social media.Follow us on our socials: TikTok Instagram

In this episode Hosts Rachel and Jessica discuss They talk about their journey through Sara Cate 'The Salacious Players Club' series, which explores various kinks and relationship dynamics. Each book in the series introduces a different kink: age gaps, dom-sub relationships, voyeurism, throuples, and more. They share personal anecdotes and insights into how these themes opened their minds to new aspects of sexuality and communication within relationships. They emphasize the importance of safety, mutual respect, and enthusiastic consent in exploring sexual desires.Follow us on our socials: TikTokInstagram

In this episode of 'BDE - Books, Dating, and Everything,' hosts Rachel and Jessica delve into their love for books, particularly those with spicy and romantic themes, and discuss how these reads have shaped their perspectives on relationships and empowerment. They emphasize the importance of curiosity, non-judgment, and open communication in partnerships. The hosts share their disdain for criticism aimed at romantic literature and rebut claims that these books set unrealistic expectations. They draw parallels between fictional relationships and real-life dynamics, advocating for men to be more engaged and supportive. The episode concludes with a preview of the next episode, which promises to explore more in-depth book recommendations and personal empowerment through intimate relationships.

In this episode of BDE (Books, Dating, and Everything), hosts Rachel and Jessica delve into their personal experiences and insights on modern dating. They discuss the overwhelming nature of dating apps, the importance of understanding attachment styles, and the significance of clear communication in relationships. The conversation veers into humorous yet insightful discussions about typical dating app profiles, red flags, and the 'Are We Dating the Same Guy?' Facebook group, which serves as a tool for women to share experiences and warnings about potential dates. The episode culminates with advice on embracing the dating process, keeping multiple options, and recognizing when to move on from unhealthy relationships.

Welcome to our first ever episode of Books, Dating and Everything! We are Rachel and Jessica and in this episode we dive into what you can expect from this podcast including spicy book recs, wild dating stories and everything in-between. So grab your favorite bevvy and come with us as we talk about Books, Dating and Everything ❤️