Better Loving, by Laura Ellen

I’ll be brief today because it’s assignment season and all of my writing eggs are going into the uni basket.This episode is for anyone who feels like something is missing in their intimacy, who struggles with body image, and wants to form a sexual self-identity that feels… Free.I share some insights on how to cultivate the confidence you need to be yourself in intimate contexts, and connect to the parts of you that feel like they can’t.This will be helpful for you if:* You struggle to speak up during sex* Identify with the people pleaser archetype* Hide your body during sex* Feel disappointed or defeated after sex (even if it was good)As always, take what resonates. Leave the rest.»»»»» Listen on Spotify»»»»» Listen on Apple PodcastsWith love,Laura Ellen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/contactAbout Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/aboutSubscribe to Substack: https://substack.com/@bylauraellen?Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7CQmZy8qRGBKGAaUcBCRXwEpisode Summary:This episode sits alongside a personal reflection on creativity, confidence, and the quiet ways we move away from our own voice within sexual and relational contexts. I speak into the fear of being too expressive, too intuitive, or too unconventional, and how that can soften confidence over time. This is a grounded reflection on returning to creative self-trust, allowing space for imperfection, and reconnecting with a more natural and self-led way of speaking, creating, and being seen.Key Topics: The impact of using AI on creative expression and self-trust The difference between sounding confident and feeling connected to your voice Fear of being perceived as too spiritual, emotional, or unconventional The tension between academic validation and embodied knowing Reconnecting with intuitive expression and creative autonomy Letting go of perfection and allowing more honest, in-process work Building confidence through self-acceptance and lived experienceDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/contactAbout Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/aboutSubscribe to Substack: https://substack.com/@bylauraellen?Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7CQmZy8qRGBKGAaUcBCRXwEpisode Summary:This episode explores the impact of mismatched libido and sexual rejection on our sense of self and erotic vitality. I reflect on what happens when our desire isn’t met by a partner, how repeated experiences of being turned down can quietly erode confidence and the freedom to express sexuality, and how subtle self-silencing can affect our overall sense of aliveness. I focus on understanding what sexual rejection can mean psychologically, how it interacts with our own sense of enoughness, and how to stay connected to pleasure, desire, and sexual self-identity while honoring differences in arousal, history, and rhythm between partners. This episode is about holding space for our own vitality without trying to fix or change the other person.Key Topics Covered:How repeated sexual rejection can impact confidence and erotic vitalityThe ways self-silencing develops when desire isn’t reciprocatedUnderstanding differences in sexual rhythm, history, and arousal between partnersMaintaining connection to your sexual self-identity despite mismatchReflecting on what sexual rejection means psychologically and emotionallyPracticing enoughness and presence with your own desireDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/contactAbout Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/aboutSubscribe to Substack: https://substack.com/@bylauraellen?Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7CQmZy8qRGBKGAaUcBCRXwEpisode Summary:Switching off at the end of a full day and moving into intimacy can feel harder than we admit. In this episode, I explore why sex is not inherently relaxing and how nervous system state, relationship context, and the pace of modern life all shape our capacity for arousal. We unpack the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and how cultural messaging can quietly create pressure on bodies to respond in ways that are not authentic. I speak to the moments of contraction, resistance, or bracing that arise when initiation lands at the wrong time, and how meeting those moments honestly can build deeper confidence and connection. This conversation supports you to honour your arousal system, communicate from integrity, and allow pleasure to arrive at a pace that feels true to your body.Key Topics Covered:Why sex is not automatically relaxing and how nervous system state influences readinessThe impact of stress, unresolved tension, and daily demands on sexual connectionSpontaneous and responsive desire and how each functions in real bodiesCultural expectations shaped by media and how they influence sexual pressureNoticing contraction, bracing, or resistance during initiation and what that meansBuilding confidence through honest communication in moments of discomfortMoving beyond chemistry and newness to cultivate authentic, sustainable intimacySupporting pleasure to unfold organically rather than rushing the experienceDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/contactAbout Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/aboutSubscribe to Substack: https://substack.com/@bylauraellen?Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7CQmZy8qRGBKGAaUcBCRXwEpisode Summary:This episode explores the often unspoken reality of pain, numbness, and pressure in women’s sexual experiences. Drawing on clinical insight and research, including findings from OMGYes that one in four women experience pain during sex, I speak to the layers of shame, bracing, and self-judgement that many women carry behind closed doors. We unpack the psychodynamics and somatics of painful sex, including overwhelm, lack of safety, medical trauma, post-birth changes, heartbreak, and disembodiment. This conversation offers practical and compassionate tools for creating sexual contexts grounded in safety, attunement, and responsive desire. Designed with female bodies in mind, this episode will also support partners who want to better understand the pace and conditions that allow pleasure to unfold organically.Key Topics Covered:The prevalence of pain during sex and the impact on confidence and self-worthShame, bracing, freezing, and fawning in intimate momentsThe nervous system responses that can shape sexual experiencesMedical trauma, post-birth changes, heartbreak, and disembodimentResponsive desire and the importance of attuned, female-centered touchCreating safety as the foundation for genuine pleasurePractical tools for building a sexual context that supports your bodySupporting a partner with patience, attunement, and careDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraAbout LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode, I explore long term love beyond the pressure to perform wellness, growth, or relationship mastery. We look at how modern ideas of conscious partnership can quietly create shame when relationships become ordinary, familiar, or less charged than they once were. I reflect on the emotional and somatic realities of staying with the same person over time, including boredom, irritation, longing, and the softening of passion. Drawing on different relational perspectives, including Esther Perel’s work and more devotion oriented views of intimacy, this conversation invites a gentler, more humane understanding of love as something that deepens through repetition, shared reality, and presence inside everyday life.Key Topics Covered:The pressure to perform emotional and relational maturityHow wellness culture can impact intimacy and self perceptionNormalising triggers, boredom, and repetition in long term relationshipsThe transition from novelty into familiarity and depthDesire, security, and intimacy over timeWorking with autopilot and presence in daily relatingHolding individuality and togetherness in partnershipStaying connected to erotic aliveness within yourselfFinding intimacy inside ordinary lifeDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit bylauraellen.substack.comThis episode is exclusive to monthly and annual subscribers. Join to access all Q&A episodes, monthly experiential workshops, and personal essays here.Links & Resources:Work with LauraAbout LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode, I explore why we often find ourselves drawn to relationships that feel intense, exhausting, or familiar in ways that don’t serve us. Even when we know what we want, have done the work of self-awareness, and see the patterns clearly, our bodies can pull us toward dynamics that feel irresistible but stressful. I discuss how our nervous systems shape our attraction, why calm and safety can feel unfamiliar, and the ongoing practice it takes to reorient toward relationships that actually support ease, connection, and wellbeing. This is a reflection on the interplay between mind, body, and attachment, and an invitation to notice what your nervous system is truly drawn to.Key Topics Covered:How familiar patterns of intensity show up in relationshipsWhy cognitive awareness is not always enough to change choicesThe role of the nervous system in attraction and relationship dynamicsUnderstanding why safety and ease can feel unfamiliar or uncomfortableThe practice of re-orienting toward calmer, more supportive connectionsLearning to feel at ease within a secure baselineInsights into choosing relationships that nurture rather than drainDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved.

Links & Resources:Work with LauraAbout LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:Starting to date again can feel exciting and unsettling at the same time. In this episode, I explore the subtle tension your body might feel when stepping into the dating world, whether fresh out of a relationship, enjoying single life, or seeking something more meaningful. I discuss why self-trust is the foundation for choosing well, and how to cultivate the ability to say no, walk away from what doesn’t feel right, and enjoy connection without guilt or compromise. Drawing on clinical insights, personal experience, and what I’ve learned from working with clients, I offer practical tools to help you feel embodied safety, clarity, and confidence as you navigate relationships.Key Topics Covered:Recognising the body’s subtle signals of caution and readiness in datingHow cultural pressures, apps, and past disappointments shape nervous system responsesWhy self-trust is essential for dating wellStrategies to build walk-away power and make choices that feel right in your bodyEnjoying connection without guilt or compromiseCreating safety, clarity, and confidence as you navigate relationshipsDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected]© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:- Work with Laura- About Laura- Subscribe to the Better Loving Substack- Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode of Better Loving, Laura Ellen explores the shift from performative sexuality—shaped by validation, approval, and desirability—to mature sexual power rooted in self-connection, presence, and authenticity. Laura unpacks how performative patterns show up in subtle ways, including faking enjoyment, over-accommodating, or shaping desire around external response, and reflects on how these dynamics impact intimacy and self-worth. Through personal insight, reflection questions, and micro-practices, this episode invites listeners to relate to their sexuality as a source of inner authority and embodied confidence rather than something to prove or exchange.Key Topics:- Sexual maturity and inner authority- Desire rooted in presence, not performance- Sexual identity beyond validation- Pleasure without agenda or outcome- Erotic self-connection and dignity- Authentic intimacy and mutuality- Self-worth beyond desirability- Non-transactional sexual relating- Embodied confidence and relational clarity- Healthy boundaries and conscious sexualityChapters & Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction: The Power of Sexuality00:40 Performative Sexuality vs. Mature Sexual Power01:36 Understanding Performative Traps08:20 Reflection Questions and Practices11:46 Embracing Erotic Integrity19:36 Final Thoughts and InvitationDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:About LauraWork with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:Starting again isn’t triumphant for me, it’s tender, resistant, and quietly/very confronting. In this episode, I reflect on what it’s been like to return to public creation after three years of choosing privacy, growth, and a life lived largely off the internet. Responding to your AMA questions, I share why I stepped away, what I had to let go of, and how I’m learning to hold creativity, visibility, and integrity without self-abandonment. This is a conversation about shame, courage, and allowing ourselves to be seen again.Key Topics:- Resistance, fear, and desire when starting again- Life beyond internet attention and external validation- Why I stepped away — and what that time made possible- Integrating growth through action, not just insight- Holding both visibility and integrity as a therapist- Reclaiming creativity without shame- The courage it takes to be seenDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:Cue that moment when you realise you might actually be the common denominator in your relationships. This episode dives into why we lose our power when we stay stuck in victim mentality, drama cycles, and blame, and how embracing radical self-responsibility and self-ownership can transform the way you relate to others. I explore the importance of healthy boundaries, secure attachment, and releasing anger and resentment, offering insights into how owning your 50% can unlock more empowered, authentic relationships across friends, family, money, and lovers.Key Topics:Victim mentality and its impact on personal powerRecognising drama cycles in relationshipsRadical self-responsibility and self-ownershipHealthy relationships and secure attachmentReleasing anger and resentmentSetting and maintaining boundariesEnding blame and reclaiming your powerDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:Sexual energy is more than something to discharge or “get over with.” In this episode, Laura explores sexual energy as a vital life force—one that can either deplete us or actively nourish our creativity, confidence, and capacity to take meaningful action. Drawing from embodied wisdom and reflective inquiry, this conversation invites listeners to become more conscious of how they relate to arousal, desire, and pleasure, and how that energy can be intentionally directed toward connection, self-trust, creative expression, and personal power. This episode is an invitation to relate to sexuality with greater awareness, agency, and depth.Key Topics Covered:Depletive sex versus nourishing sexSexual energy as a creative and life-enhancing forceMindfully choosing where and how you invest your sexual energySexuality beyond performance or releaseCultivating power, vitality, and embodied confidenceUsing arousal as fuel for creativity, clarity, and bold actionDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode, we explore the question many people quietly live inside of: Should I stay, or should I go? Rather than offering a definitive answer, this conversation invites deeper self-responsibility around indecision, ambivalence, and commitment in intimate relationships. We look at how lack of clarity erodes connection, how toxic dynamics are co-created, and what it actually takes to relate from a secure, conscious place. This episode supports listeners to slow down, ask better questions, and discern whether they are choosing from fear, habit, or genuine devotion—before making life-altering relationship decisions.Key Topics Covered:Conscious relating and secure attachmentIndecision, ambivalence, and the cost of not choosingToxic relationship dynamics and shared responsibilityDevotional love, commitment, and emotional maturityConflict, blame, and drama cyclesTrying to change your partner vs accepting realityCompromise vs self-abandonmentConsenting vs accommodatingKnowing when to stay, when to leave, and how to tell the differenceBreakup realities and relational discernmentBetter questions to ask yourself before ending (or deepening) a relationshipDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:This episode explores what it really takes to move beyond performative sexuality and into a sex life—and sense of self—that feels authentic, embodied, and fulfilling. We look at how body confidence, anxious attachment, shame, and inherited sexual narratives can quietly shape how we show up in intimacy, often keeping us disconnected from our power and desire. Through honest reflection and practical insight, this conversation invites listeners to reclaim their sexuality as a place of agency, self-trust, and self-discovery—where sex works for you, not against you, and where being fully yourself is no longer negotiable.Key Topics Covered:Body confidence and sexual self-trustAnxious attachment and how it shows up in intimacyReleasing shame-based sexual conditioningMoving out of fear and into personal powerAuthentic self-expression in relationships and sexIntentional, pleasure-led sexualityAccessing deeper, instinctual (primal) states safelyCourage, rejection, and self-ownershipSexual fulfillment beyond external validationDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode of the Better Loving podcast, Laura Ellen is joined by Rebecca Bee Gunson for a grounded and honest conversation about the heart as a central pathway to intimacy, integrity, and embodied aliveness. Together, they explore how social conditioning, relational harm, and the misuse of sexuality can lead to emotional shutdown—and what it takes to gently restore trust, pleasure, and connection within the body. This episode speaks to the courage required to remain open-hearted, to feel and hold love without collapsing or over-functioning, and to cultivate intimacy that is rooted in respect, agency, and emotional maturity.Key Topics Explored:Healing the heart after relational and cultural woundingHeart de-armouring and its role in intimacy and embodimentThe relationship between emotional openness and sexual vitalityIntegrity, consent, and responsibility in intimate relationshipsThe courage and resilience of the feminine heartSocial and cultural factors that contribute to emotional shutdownDeveloping the capacity to feel and hold love in the bodyPower dynamics, manipulation, and the misuse of sexualityDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode of The Better Loving Podcast, I explore how self-pleasure can be a transformative practice beyond simply achieving orgasm. We dive into intentional ways to cultivate sexual energy, heal and resource your pelvis, and reclaim sovereignty over your pleasure. I discuss how nurturing your sexual energy can enhance your creativity, radiance, and overall capacity to thrive in your body, relationships, and life. This episode is for anyone curious about harnessing self-pleasure as a tool for feminine thriving, energetic vitality, and attracting sexually compatible partners, all while fostering deeper self-love and emotional connection.Key Topics Covered:Self-pleasure beyond orgasm: intentional practices for transformation and healingCultivating sexual energy as vitality and creative powerAwareness and healing of the base and sacral energiesUnpacking shame, pain, and conditioning in the pelvisMechanics of intentional self-pleasure and radical energetic practicesUsing sexual energy to cultivate radiance, love, and connectionStrong self-pleasure as a foundation for high sexual standardsMaintaining sovereignty over your pleasure and sexual energyDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode, I explore the lingering effects of sexual shame and the cultural messages that have long tried to define and confine women. I share my own journey of confronting uncomfortable and painful experiences with sexuality, unpack where sexual shame comes from, how it shows up in our bodies and relationships, and ways to reclaim confidence and pleasure. This episode is for women ready to break free from cultural stigma, step into their authentic sensuality, and live more fully and fearlessly.Key Topics Covered:Personal experiences with sexual shame and discomfortOrigins of sexual shame in culture and historyHow sexual shame manifests in the body and mindThe impact of shame on relationships and self-expressionPractical ways to release shame and reconnect with authentic sexualityDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode, I dive into the energetics of dating and how to stay aligned with your values while attracting what you truly want. We explore the challenges and strategies of online dating, how to get clear on your desires, navigating situationships, avoiding settling, and recognizing when someone isn’t that into you. I also cover insecurities, imposter syndrome, and the subtle pressures of modern dating culture, offering practical insights to help you date with integrity, confidence, and clarity. Full access to this content is available exclusively to paying members of my Substack.Key Topics Covered:Online dating strategies and profile setupGaining clarity on values and desiresAvoiding settling and navigating situationshipsChoosing consciously, not being chosenRecognizing when someone isn’t genuinely interestedDating culture, pacing, and pressureManaging insecurities and imposter syndrome in datingDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Podcast, I dive into why so many of us struggle to ask for what we want in the bedroom—and how to move past patterns of shrinking, freezing, or over-controlling. I share practical tools to build confidence, communicate desires with clarity, and create a culture of feedback in your intimate life, alongside techniques for self-soothing, self-pleasure, and connecting with partners in new, empowered ways.Key Topics Covered:Understanding how expressing desire is connected to how we receive others’ needsReceiving feedback with ease and graceCreating a feedback-positive culture in intimacyCommunication techniques beyond the bedroomMy “Loves, Loathes, Lusts” sharing practice for couples and loversExamining personal assertive patternsSignature process for in-the-moment self-soothingSelf-pleasure practices and embodiment exercisesDisclaimer:This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: Subscribe to Substack: Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: Episode Summary:How do we relate to sexual desire with honesty, responsibility, and care in a post #MeToo world?In this episode, I explore sexual authenticity through a grounded, relational lens. One that acknowledges our instinctive, embodied nature while holding clear ethical and emotional boundaries. This conversation looks at how shame, suppression, and subtle social conditioning can quietly distort our relationship with desire, pleasure, and intimacy.We explore what it means to express sexual interest in ways that are respectful, attuned, and appropriate for modern relational contexts. I reflect on how cultural narratives around sex, gender, and power shape behaviour on both conscious and unconscious levels, and how greater self-awareness can support safer, more connected experiences of intimacy.This episode is an invitation to consider how sexual expression can be both alive and accountable, rooted in presence rather than performance, and guided by mutual respect rather than fear or shutdown.Key Topics:Sexual authenticity and ethical expression in a post #MeToo contextThe impact of shame and suppression on desire and connectionNavigating attraction, consent, and responsibility in everyday interactionsAsking people out in real life with clarity and respectCreating a desire-positive culture without entitlement or pressureGendered shame and its impact on relational dynamicsSubtle forms of shaming and belittling that often go unnoticedSupporting intimacy that feels safe, embodied, and mutually attunedDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: www.laura-ellen.com/contactSubscribe to Substack: Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: Episode Summary:In this episode, I explore desire as a vital psychological and somatic force, not just something linked to sex, but something that shapes our motivation, choices, and sense of aliveness. Drawing from tantric philosophy, embodiment practices, and lived experience, I reflect on how desire can be clarified, listened to, and worked with in a grounded and ethical way. We look at what happens when desire is distorted by conditioning, unconscious patterns, or external expectations, and how reconnecting with authentic desire can support clearer decision making, sustainable action, and personal agency. This is an invitational conversation about learning to relate to desire with curiosity and responsibility, rather than urgency or self judgment.Key Topics Covered:Expanding desire beyond a sex focused framework into a whole of life experienceA tantric perspective on desire and life force energyIdentifying authentic desire versus conditioned wantingThe role of the subconscious in shaping what we pursue and avoidDesire as a source of empowerment rather than pressureWhat manifestation requires beyond intention and positive thinkingTranslating desire into grounded action and clear strategyDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraAbout LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen hereEpisode Summary:In this episode I explore the practice of full-body pleasure in a Yin Full Body O Workshop, reflecting on how yin energy, vulnerability, and sensation intersect in sexual experience. I discuss how pleasure can be deeply healing, the ways we can redefine orgasm beyond expectation, and how techniques can be adapted to honor individual bodies. I share what the experience of a full-body orgasm can feel like, and the importance of aftercare and retaining sexual energy. This is a grounded, clinical, and invitational conversation about connecting to the body, embracing sensation, and exploring intimacy in a conscious way.Key Topics Covered:The healing potential of yin pleasureUnderstanding vulnerability in sexual experienceExpanding the definition of orgasmExploring yin style sex and full-body pleasureTechniques and adaptations for different bodiesExperiencing the sensations of a full-body orgasmAftercare and sexual energy retentionDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with LauraAbout LauraSubscribe to SubstackMusic by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.Episode Summary:In this episode, I explore emotional shutdown during sex and how to move through it with ease, presence, and pleasure. I share tools and practices to help you stay embodied, navigate your inner landscape, and create a sexual culture that feels nourishing and authentic. We discuss understanding the mind as a coping mechanism, identifying safety needs, cultivating intimacy through authenticity, and using self-pleasure as a form of care and healing. This episode offers practical guidance for creating connection, pleasure, and freedom in your sexual experiences.Key Topics Covered:Recognising why sex can feel like an emotional landmine and how to move through itBecoming aware of your inner landscape during sex and self-pleasureUnderstanding the mind as a coping tool in the bedroom and in lifeNavigating sexual healing with care and safetyIdentifying your safety needs including accelerators, brakes, and maintenance requirementsDeconditioning limiting patterns around sexCultivating intimacy as authenticity in connectionUsing self-pleasure as an expression of care and healingCreating a sexual culture that is nourishing, fulfilling, and pleasurableTitrating towards orgasm and staying present through the experienceDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/contactAbout Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/aboutSubscribe to Substack: https://substack.com/@bylauraellen?Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7CQmZy8qRGBKGAaUcBCRXwEpisode Summary:In this episode, I sit down with Meg O'Neil to explore what it means to fully step into your authentic self as a woman. We talk about how shame and societal expectations shape the way we show up, and share tools for expressing your full spectrum in everyday life and in the bedroom. Meg brings warmth, playfulness, and high energy to the conversation as we discuss how to reclaim pleasure, move through emotional blocks, and live in alignment with your true self. This episode is an invitation to embrace your authenticity and explore expansive ways of being without compromise.Key Topics Covered:How to recognize and move beyond the ways shame and cultural expectations limit self-expressionTools for embracing your full spectrum as a woman in work, love, and intimacyEmotional alchemy and how to work with feelings rather than suppress themHow pleasure-based living can support freedom and authenticityBreaking free from patterns of feminine and sexual oppressionPractical strategies to feel grounded while showing up as your most authentic selfDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/contactAbout Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/aboutSubscribe to Substack: https://substack.com/@bylauraellen?Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7CQmZy8qRGBKGAaUcBCRXwEpisode Summary:In this shame free and judgement free episode, I explore vibrators, clitoral stimulation, and how self pleasure can become a more connected, embodied, and nourishing experience. Rather than focusing on performance or outcomes, this conversation invites a broader understanding of pleasure as something that can be trained, expanded, and integrated into the whole body. I speak to the physiology of stimulation, the nervous system, and how habitual patterns can shape what we feel and expect from pleasure. This episode is an invitation to approach self pleasure with curiosity, intention, and care, supporting not only more satisfying orgasmic experiences, but greater wellbeing, self awareness, and choice.Key Topics Covered:How vibrators and stimulation interact with the nervous systemUnderstanding desensitisation, numbing, and pleasure toleranceTraining the body for a wider range of pleasurable experiencesClitoral care, sensitivity, and conscious touchSharing pleasure and learning from pleasure based practicesUsing breath to support expanded orgasmic statesMoving toward holistic self pleasure rather than goal focused releaseCreating intentional self pleasure sessionsThe relationship between pleasure, regulation, and overall wellbeingDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Links & Resources:Work with Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/contactAbout Laura: https://laura-ellen.com/aboutSubscribe to Substack: https://substack.com/@bylauraellen?Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7CQmZy8qRGBKGAaUcBCRXwEpisode Summary:In this episode, I explore why we settle in our sexual and intimate lives and what keeps us stuck in sex slumps. I discuss the energetics of settling, how trauma, attachment patterns, and social conditioning shape our choices, and how we can reconnect with our authentic desires. We talk about the power of erotic intelligence, the ways pleasure and safety intersect, and how learning to assert your needs can transform not just your sex life but your relationships and sense of self. This conversation is for anyone wanting to move beyond the status quo and cultivate sex and intimacy that is nourishing, energizing, and fully aligned with who they are.Key Topics Covered:What settling looks like in sex and relationships and how it can become harmfulUnderstanding why sex slumps happen and what keeps us in themThe role of education, self-exploration, and expansion in sexual fulfillmentAttachment, trauma, and the impact on our intimacy and desireHow tantric practices and erotic intelligence can deepen connection and self-awarenessLearning to assert needs and boundaries across all areas of lifeIdentifying your unique pleasure triggers and safety needsUsing sexuality as a pathway to transformation, self-actualization, and trance statesDisclaimerThis podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

HOW YUM. Basically, this episode is going to define the difference between basic bitch sx and a sxuality that actually thrives & gives you radiant energy!In this episode I cover:What is sexual energyWhat stops us from engaging with sexual energySex as medicineThe difference between head-based practice vs embodiment practice.Orgasm as energy.Sexual energy for radiance, vitality, & magnetism.What is a kundalini awakening?How to approach this style of practice safelyHow sexual energy manifests what it looks like to move it through your body.The agelessness of sexual energy.Why letting go = embracing energy (you'll love this!)And so much more =)Love, as always xxxJoin Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexRadiant Replay: www.laura-ellen.com/radiant-replayWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

SENSUAL S-X GIVEAWAY BAYBEH! 100 episodes on #TheSexualWellnessPodcast later… Holy wow. 175.5k downloads! So many reviews, Dm’s, transformations, special guests, episodes being shared.My. Whole. Heart.So to celebrate, I’ma do an EPIC GIVEAWAY, and the prize is no joke; Lifetime access ticket to Sensual Sex (valued at $1,555).To enter, follow these steps:1: Follow my Instagram2: Comment on the episode post on Instagram (see link below) with a reflection on what the podcast has given you, any key insights, and wins - I want to celebrate you! 3: Tag three friends in the comments of this post who you feel would benefit too.4: Go to Apple Podcasts, rate the podcast + post your review (You can use the same reflection that you shared in the comments of the episode post. See link below).The winner will be drawn on Tuesday 22cnd March.I cannot wait to witness you all in your expansion in this comment thread! SS full access is one high-value prize my loves and I’m going to ensure that it goes to the person who is deeply invested in their path to sxy liberation. It’s an energy, I’ll know it when I feel it.Oh damn, I’m excited! This round of Sensual Sx is a leap UP my honies. My heart is literally fizzing with joy to share all the new wisdom pouring through me. Relishing in all of this bliss & magic with you is my life’s dream - and it’s happening.As for this podcast episode… It’s a BANGER!Topics Include:Open energy, baby, what is it & how to get it.Cultivating your sexual energy (Radiant).Meeting your love blocks with love.HAVE FUN - he might not be your husband but he can still be worth it.Zero tolerance policy (exercise your worth muscles).Put yourself out there, online and IRL.A somatic approach to dating.Writing the list - wishy-washy goals = wishy-washy results.Attachment styles in dating.Rejection is redirection, navigating disappointment with ease & grace.How to love their boundaries (which attracts someone who will respect yours).How to notice self-abandonment patterns (this will deter king energy).Flirting with the space between contact.Love your longing (lack vs abundance longing).Enjoy. Share. Enter the giveaway here: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoveryRegister for Radiant: www.laura-ellen.com/radiantWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

I made this episode in celebration of my new offering R A D I A N T - a free webinar designed to help you reignite your libido + feel sexy & lit from within.So why do so many of us feel shut down, depleted & completely out of lust?Find out on this recent episode where I talk about these important factors that have a drastic effect on our bodies & overall sexual vitality. Topics include:SleepDietAlcoholMindsetCommunityStressed & too busyBodily shut down & defensivenessService sex & boredomSexual deprioritizationChaotic relationshipsSexual CompatibilityAnd so much more!Search for The Sexual Wellness Podcast on your favorite podcasting app or head to the link in my bio to listen.Register for RADIANT: https://laura-ellen.com/radiantBook a connection Call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoveryThe Erotic Blueprint Quiz: https://missjaiya.com/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Kara-Leah is a transformational leader and teacher primarily influenced by the teachings of Classical Tantra (more on that in the episode). She is a prolific communicator and content creator, with a background in journalism and public service. In the last few decades she has published three books, written thousands of articles, produced hundreds of videos, and taught hundreds of retreats, trainings, workshops, classes, and programs.I started working with Kara-Leah last year on one of her Direct realization training's and she continues to be a teacher & mentor to me today.In this episode Kara-Leah shares (a lot) her incredible insight & teachings on Direct Realization Tantra and the path to liberation through awakening. Topics we discuss include;- Defining classical & Neo Tantra.- Tantra beyond the bedroom.- Seeing Desire through a Tantric Lens.- The path of liberation (this is everything).- Living the life of a Tantrika.- Building capacity in your body.- Teachers, mentors & where to start.- Pleasure & awareness (and how they enhance each other).- Relationship to presence and how to build this into your daily life.And so much more!Connect with Kara-Leah;Website: https://karaleah.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karaleahgrant/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karaleahgrant/Join the Tantrikas Toolbox: https://tantrikas-toolbox.karaleah.com/bundles/membershipWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Are you ready to be the facilitator of sparks-flying, whole-body-tingling, transcendental kissing experiences?You’re in luck honey because this episode is short, sweet, and all about kissin'.Here I give my top tips on how to be an unforgettable kisser, topics include;Oral hygiene - this is #1 for a reasonKissing styles and what to do if there's a clashDon't yuk someone's yumThe universal nos' (these are hilarious)How to kiss like a sex goddess:Full body presenceHow to allure your partner into relaxation & connectionThe nervous system & co-regulation through kissingWhat to do if you feel disappointed.How to soften & receive love& so much more...Listen via your favorite podcasting app or via the link in my bio xxxWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Today I bring to you Shakti Tantra teacher (and dear friend of mine) Jessica Fawn onto the show to discuss her journey into sacred sexuality, how it's changed her life, and what it means to live a tantric life.Jess has dedicated her academic life to studying the phenomenon of women finding power in spirituality. She studied witchcraft, sex magic, and tantra and how these all see traditions women as sacred. She, her body, her bodily functions, are all manifestations of the divine.Jess now embodies this wisdom of the divine so gracefully and her transmission is heaven-sent. Topics we cover are:- Life pre & post tantra.- What tantra *actually* is.- Sacred sexuality and how you can get started.- Living life from a tantric perspective. - Pleasure, power & the goddess.And so much more...Enjoy this episode as we dive into the journey of self-discovery through sexuality & sacred feminine arts.Connect With Jessica: https://www.jessica-fawn.com/Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicafawn_/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Another banger poddy episode. Get ready for some tough (yet loving) loving’.Do you find you’re always too busy for pleasure, or a pleasure practice?Do you feel like the whole house needs to be clean & everything is in order before you can enjoy intimacy or sx?Do you experience a wave of guilt after setting boundaries with people (particularly when putting yourself first over others' needs & requests)?.Do you feel like self-pleasure, sensuality, sexuality, or sx, in general, is just too indulgent & luxurious?Do you find it hard to find the balance between feeling good and getting things done?If you answered of any or all of these then oh baby, I have got you COVERED.In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Podcast, I dive into all these topics and share a range of tough love mindset tools as well as some “bottom-up” embodiment practices to help you rewire old patterns stored deep in the subconscious mind.Mmhmm.Is good.As always please share with anyone who you feel could benefit from it the most and message me any key insights or takeaways!Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Female orgasm 101, baby!In this episode, I share some invaluable tips on how to set yourself up for the most exquisite pleasure in the bedroom covering topics like;Pre foreplay, ForeplayWhat stops women from orgasmingCreating ritual space (and why it’s important)How to practice feeling rather than thinkingHow to prepare your pussy powersCelebrating the opposite to orgasmWhat to do if you feel rushed by your partnerAnd so much more.Get ready sister, this episode is practice rich and your body is going to feel absolutely delish when you're done with it.YUM.As always, I love to hear your top takes aways. Wright into my DMs with all your ah-ha moments and how incredible your sex life is becoming.  If you loved this episode pleasure share it on your socials or privately with someone who you think would benefit from it the most.Enjoy xxxJoin Sensual Sex: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexBook a Free Consultation Call: https://laura-ellen.com/sex-relationship-coachingFollow Laura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

I missed this so much! The podcast is by far one of the greatest joys in my professional life. Getting to riff on all things sex, love & relationships is kind of my dream. Thank you for being a part of it.⁠⁠ARE YOU READY TO HAVE THE BEST SX OF YOUR LIFE?⁠⁠Thought so ;).⁠⁠In this episode I cover (A LOT, get ready, she's 45 mins long);⁠⁠- The there styles of sex (and how to tell which one you're having)⁠- What stops you from having great sex & how to work on changing your environment.⁠- Libido, service sx, and how to expand your sxual capacity without feeling like you're broken.⁠- Building sxual awareness⁠- Working with a coach or signing up for a program (and which one would be the best fit for you)⁠- Why your new sx life will cost you your old one.⁠- Setting pleasure goals for 2022.⁠- Why great sex is holistic.⁠- Recreating your relationship to pleasure.⁠- Redefine your definition of sex.⁠- Taking a sex break & why this is so powerful.⁠- Getting clear on your highest sexual self & how to embody her.⁠⁠And my love I have a request! If you enjoy this episode of TSWP I invite you to share it with a friend or something who you think would benefit from it most - They'll love you for it.⁠⁠Love always xx⁠Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Website: www.laura-ellen.com1:1 Coaching: https://laura-ellen.com/sex-relationship-coachingSensual Sex: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to this gentle, nurturing episode for those preparing for birth, those who have ever given birth, and care providers who support birthing and postnatal bodies.Claire Eccleston is a midwife, and craniosacral therapist working within the STREAM philosophy of internal pelvic work and scar tissue remediation post-birth. And together we discuss some important topics within the realms of birthing, motherhood initiations, and gentle postpartum tools to support healing after birth.Other topics we cover are:What is STREAM philosophy.How to connect with your body, vagina/vulva pre-birth, & how this helps with healing.The healing process after birth & scar tissue remedies.Adjusting to your new body as an individual & as a family.Some common mistakes women are making post-birth that don’t support their healing process.How women can best prepare themselves for a postpartum that honoring of their bodies.The common hurdles that couples face post-partum.Recommendations on re-approaching love-making and pleasure after birth?How couples can stay connected during and after post partum, with the stressors of family life.How new mums can stay connected to themselves & their pleasure after birth.And so much more!Something Claire really lands in this episode is the importance of conversation and having dialogue around the transitions experienced throughout this transformative time. Our intention for this episode is to inform & empower women & couples to have the birthing & postpartum experience that serves their body's wisdom & hearts.Visit Claire's Website: https://learn.claireecclestonmidwife.com/Sign Up For Holy Grail: https://learn.claireecclestonmidwife.com/p/holy-groundFollow Claire on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clairehomebirth/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Is this time of year a source of stress & overwhelm for you?  As December ascends upon us and the silly season festivities draw near, I noticed myself (almost) falling into old patterns around being too "busy" for pleasure.So I thought what better idea than to call upon my fellow pleasure-queen & friend... Michelle Kasey @_michellekasey_ to discuss some killer tips on how to stay allll pleasured-up this Christmas.December can be an iffy month for many; family triggers, unfulfilled new years resolutions, jam-packed schedules etc. What if you could hit unsubscribe to all of that and create a season that feels good?Well, we're here to help you make that happen, sis!In this episode Michelle & I riff on;The definition of "staying in pleasure" (you're going to breathe a sigh of fresh air when you hear Michelle speak on this).Sensual movement, what it is, and how you can start to connect to your own intuitive flow.How to "pillow" your scheduleStaying in authenticity around family & communityNavigating triggers & opposing views (v. useful at the moment!)How to maintain a relationship of presence when life gets fullA handful of simple yet profound practices that you can start doing today!This episode is so permission-giving, with a raw & real perspective on pleasure in modern-day life. I'd love to know... What's one thing you're committed to doing this season to stay in your pleasure-fuelled lane?Follow Michelle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_michellekasey_/Check out Michelle's Website: https://www.michellekasey.com/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

It's common for my clients to speak about feeling a sense of "disconnect" during lovemaking. This can be due to a slew of reasons, and there are no one-size-fits-all solutions, although, there are some common misconceptions around performance anxiety that I address in this episode.If you desire to feel embodied, confident, and effortlessly oozing with pleasure in your sxual experiences then this episode is for you!I cover various topics explaining why "disconnect" is normal, but not necessarily including;Demystifying "headiness"/Shoulder's up livingUnderstanding your triggers & why you dissociateThe four trauma responsesAnxiety habits & how this creates disembodimentSelf-soothing vs self-care (and how to create your unique (self-soothing sequence)When it’s actually not safe to be in the body & why trusting your coping mechanisms is the key to success.I also share a range of tips that you can implement today on;Effective Meditation techniquesHow to notice when you’re disconnecting in the day-t-dayBecoming aware of feelings (And what to do with them)Breathe medicineHow to own what’s happening with confidenceRequesting space to reconnectAnd of course... My fabulous new offering Shadow Seductress and how it will assist you in embodiment & confidence.Enjoy my loves!Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

A quickie & a goodie...The busyness of the silly season is upon us, not to mention a landslide of tense global events & and an air uncertainty.  I did a poll recently asking if you were feeling burnt out and over 70% of you said yes - WOW.Burnout is normal... But not necessary.In this episode, I cover some radical tips on how to shift away from burnout culture and step into a life of freedom, spaciousness & joy.Topics include;Radical self-responsibilityThe art of decidingAssuring changeMastering shadow work for true liberationBravery, courage & going all the wayFood, alcohol, coffee, lifestyleHow to actually ***Make the time***No excuses K. Link is in my bio xxxJoin Shadow Seductress here: https://laura-ellen.com/shadow-seductressFollow my Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Visit the Website: https://laura-ellen.com/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Is it spiritual to have casual sx? Is it OK to date multiple people at once? What if I'm not ready for a romantic relationship but still want physical intimacy?  These are questions I get asked all the time! So I've brought you today answering these hot Qs and so many more.There are phases in life where romantic relationships are off the table and time to just have fun! This episode is designed to help you navigate casual sx relationships in a safe, expansive way where you are rooted in high self-worth and oozing with pleasure. Mmhmm.Topics include:True Sexual EmpowermentHow to check in with yourselfYou’re always manifesting something...Dating; the self-worth playgroundCasual Sx; the boundaries gymCasual sex & self-abandonment (how to have standards)Sexual Sovereignty & why self-pleasure is importantUpfront honesty, transparency & consent (this is so important!)Communication scripts for epic lover relaionshipsHow to know where you stand in other peoples heartsWhy casual sex doesn’t equal a lack of care for the other personAftercare & boundariesPracticing safe sx & how to communicate with a loverExploration, testing, discovering what works and having FUN.As always, reach out if you have any feedback, I'd love to hear from you!Join Sensual Sex: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexVisit my Website: https://laura-ellen.com/Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

You heard me...The long-requested episode is HERE! In this episode, I share my favorite tips & techniques on how to increase sensitivity and expand your orgasmic capacity for vaginal O's!The episode is broken down into two core pillars; Stimulation Specifics & Self-training. Topics include:Why thrusting can interrupt pleasure.Femme Pleasure positive techniques such as Stilling, Riding, Waving & circling.Pleasure sharing (you'll love this!)G pleasure is a region, not a spot.Shallowing & mindful penetrationThe difference between male & female arousalEngorgement and waiting for that Y E S.Expanding your capacity for sensitivity & pleasure.Self-pleasure using hands/yoni eggs/dildos.Working through pain, tenderness & numbness (yoni de armoring etc).The difference between internal vs clit0ral pleasure.Practice makes better!And so much more...Enjoy my loves.Join Sensual Sex here: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexFollow my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

I've taken a slightly more vulnerable approach to this episode. As I launch my signature pleasure program, Sensual Sx, which promotes pleasure, vitality, feminine expression, and having really, really incredible sx... But I'm mindful of the harm that this can cause to women who simply aren't there right now.We live in a sex-crazed society. One that celebrates the DTF  energy that expects up to be instantly wet & constantly horny. But what about when we just don't want to have sx? What about those periods throughout our life when life gets in the way, our hearts feel heavy and desire is completely out the window?I'm here to offer a refreshing perspective on healthy sexuality, one that relieves us all of the unrealistic expectations of sx, and gives full permission for our bodies to thrive in their own way, & at their own pace.Topics include:- Stress, hardship, pain, and how it affects female desire.- Getting real about what your motivators are for this (this is a crunchy one!).- Why low libido is not a valid diagnosis.- Why it’s OK to not want sx all the time. - Is it desire, or are you boared? (Also a crunchy one!).- The four Sexual seasons & why we need to normalize them.- Why trust is the biggest aphrodisiac.- How to say FU to shit that makes you feel contracted.As well as some insights into my personal experience with desire, or lack thereof.Enjoy xxxListen to my episode with Rachel Garbary: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3RIK2TCdY9rQ7kz2vvaL3P?si=86d61e86498c49deJoin Sensual Sex: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

It's a learnable skill, babe ;) And I know you got it.Like, enough of the nice girl BS.The good girl, the perfect girl, the well-put-together girl, the girl who follows all the rules, the people-pleasing girl… She’s great n’ all.But there’s more to you than that.You’re deeper than that.You’re more alive than that.You’re more turned-on than that.You’re more powerful than that.There’s a part of you that’s been calling, begging, longing to be expressed…And now you’re ready to let her roar out of you.YUP... This episode is for you.Also... THE DOORS TO SENSUAL SX ARE WIIIIDE OPEN LADIES!! And for 48 hours I've created the most irresistible offer... You're NOT going to want to say no to this.So to celebrate I've broken down 8 core pillars on how to unleash the innate sensual sx goddess within you. Topics include:Mindset: because great sex starts between the ears.Embodiment: Authentic pleasure that caters to your nervous system.Pussy Positivity: Completely revolutionize your relationship with your yoni.Beyond Self Pleasure: Becoming the lover of hottest, wildest, wettest dreamsEmbodied Consent: Feeling a true yes through the body’s signalsAnatomy of Arousal: Expanding Your Orgasmic CapacityBTCE: AKA Big Throat Chakra EnergySeduction & Lust: Becoming The Boss of Your SexualityJoin Sensual Sex Here: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexFollow my Instagram Here: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

This week on #TheSexualWellnessPodcast I dive into effective foreplay strategies for the feminine soul and how to create that honeymooned style L U S T in any relationship (married or one-nighter).True foreplay goes far beyond the bedroom and in this episode, I cover the holistic nature of female libido & desire including:What puts the brakes or accelerator on female arousal.How to establish your safety needs for epic sx.How to cultivate mystery & desire (without being avoidant or self sabotaging relationships).Holistic libido careEnvironmental/ sensual factors for successful surrenderBreast massage & heart openingBreath, sound & movement techniques for expanded org-smic experiences.Toy + vibrators as arousal accessories.And more…Check out this episode via the link in my bio or search for The Sexual Wellness Podcast on your fave podcasting app.How To Fuck A Goddess: https://laura-ellen.com/how-to-fuck-a-goddess-1Heart Space: https://laura-ellen.com/heartspaceSensual Sex Pre-party List: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sex-coverWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Here on popular demand! And such an important topic to cover in the realm of feminine wellbeing. Harnessing your hormones & knowing your cycle is the ultimate harnessing of your feminine superpowers, and today I bring to you an incredible guest to educate us on all things menstrual cycle awareness.Rachel Garbary is the founder of Inner Seasons - a heartfully curated range of organic herbal teas to support you during each inner season of your menstrual cycle. She is also a menstrual cycle educator & coach on a mission to inspire cyclical connection and body literacy. AND... She's a total babe and bestie of mine.But I didn't bring her on the show just because she's a sister... Rachel's pure, heart-centered passion for women's welling and hormonal understanding is so authentic and genuine that it simply oozes effortlessly into everything she does. Her teas are a gift to my body in every phase of my cycle and her ability to educate women about their body's natural cycles with so much loving compassion inspires me. I highly recommend you follow her for all your daily cyclical living tips and inspiration to live in tune with your feminine body.Topics we discuss in this episode are;What is cyclical connection and why its important.The biggest issues women are facing when it comes to menstrual wellbeing.How women using hormonal contraception can connect to & tune into their inner seasons.Tips on how to support women transitioning off hormonal contraception.A deep dive into our inner seasons as women and how to optimize our lifestyle in each phase.Insights into libido needs, optimal diet options, and appropriate exercise throughout your cycle.How to bring a sense of sacredness to your menstrual self-care through ritual.Resources on how to become a cycle awareness superwoman.And so much more...As always, I love to hear your feedback so pop over to Itunes to write a review or connect with me with any questions you may.ENJOY my loves xxxFollow Rachel here:https://www.instagram.com/innerseasons_nz/Work With Rachel:https://www.innerseasons.nz/pages/about-meInner Seasons Teas:https://www.innerseasons.nz/Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Recently I did a questionnaire asking women what really turned them on. Not just in a kinda wet way… IN an OMG-fk-me-now way. There were certain themes that were overwhelmingly repeated.Wanna see? ;)These are the mains themes I saw that made a woman feel wet, open & in looove.Pressure-less Pleasure - Many women reported being more turned-on & open when they were able to engage in touch & intimacy without sx-pectations.Heart-Opening Communication - Honest, vulnerable (and sexy) communication about needs & desires makes the feminine feel safe and free to relax into pleasure.Embodied consent -  There’s verbal consent as well as embodied consent which is related to the felt sense. Women reported heightened desire for lovers who were present with and responsive to their bodies yes & no's.Attunement - An extension of embodied consent but different. This is about the lover's ability to deeply feel and attune to one another through presence & awareness of body cues.Mindful penetration - Mindful penetration is about building sexual tension, connection & erotic energy by waiting at the entrance of a woman for a period of time.Mhmmm. It's a goodie. Enjoy!Enroll in How To Fuck a Goddess Here:https://laura-ellen.com/how-to-fuck-a-goddess-1Follow my Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Check out my website:www.laura-ellen.comWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

This one is for the men! Or the curious couples... Or the ladies who are just passionate about all things love, sex & living a turned-on life...As a sex & relationship coach, I’ve listened to countless singles and couples explain what’s working… and what’s not working. The unfortunate truth that we face today as adults is that sex education is, well… a sham basically. What we think great sex should look, be, and feel like is actually far, far away from the truth. So we are literally fumbling around in the dark trying to figure out what that thing is.Up until this point in my career, I have been working exclusively with women to demystify female pleasure, break down taboos, and unveil the joys of living a life that is full of authentic, meaningful… and fucking downright incredible sex.And now I’m giving all this gold to you.Because it takes two to tango, right ; ).The best lovers I’ve ever had all embodied these certain qualities that took our sex to ecstatic heights. In this episode I break down a couple of these qualities including;PresenceEmbodimentFreedomRe-writing emasculation & man-shaming culture.Untapped raw masculine power (roooooar!).It's a goodie.Any questions?Hit me --->Enroll in How To Fuck a Goddess Here:https://laura-ellen.com/how-to-fuck-a-goddess-1Follow my Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/Check out my website:www.laura-ellen.comWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Mhmmm. In this diverse and potent episode, I talk about being a (sexless) well-fucked woman no matter what your relationship status or life phase. I often ask couples & singles what makes sex "great" for them? How do they feel when they're having great sex & how this affects their everyday life? Their answers may surprise you as all of these qualities people suggest are not dependant on the physical, frictional experience of sex itself.All of this data has contributed to the making of this episode where I've distilled down the key components to feeling alive, lit-up & turned-on (no matter where your at) while still honoring your values & needs at the time. I've broken this episode down into three different sections:- How to be W-F'd When you're in an intentional celibacy space (perhaps after a breakup or a significant life-changing event).- How to be W-F'd When you're in your sexual winter (in or outside of a relationship).- How to be W-F'd While You're dating.All categories are unique and have specific guidance including;-My personal definition of modern celibacy and what to do when you want to keep your energy to yourself.- How to keep your sexual energy ON and OPEN while remaining boundaried.- Flirting with life & how to keep your sensual flame alight.- What to do when you're in a sexual winter (low-no sex drive)- How to create more a sex-positive and arousal conducive environment in all aspects of your life.- How to identify what is creating contraction in your day-to-day to bring more balance, harmony & sensual aliveness.- What to do when you're not sure what turns you on anymore.- Holistic feminine arousal and looking at your entire environment to see if it is conducive to safety, expansion & sensuality or discomfort, contraction and shut down.- How to be ooze with sexual sovereignty while dating.- Self-pleasure artistry.- Orgasmic energy = magnetic energy- How to take the neediness energy out of dating & turns it into grounded, secure "I like you but I'm ok either way" energy.Tune in, drop-in, & enjoy!Thanks my loves.Work with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Oh heeey,In this week's episode, I indulge you in my top ten tips on how to create truly nourishing (and deeply ecstatic!) sexual experiences.- Why you don't have to try hard to experience ecstatic pleasure- Why starfish is the best sex position and how to treat sex like Savasana.- Simplicity & the art of spaciousness- How to orient your body to pleasure through intentional masturbation- How to develop the felt sense through feminine embodiment - The bliss (and importance) of shadow work & how to get started- Nervous system support and alignment (trauma & asserting needs)- How to receive pleasure in the body and delight in your life.- Why self-trust is the key to epic orgasms.And more - of course!Join Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/sensual-sexJoin Heart Space: www.laura-ellen.com/heartspaceJoin Juicy  Meditation Bundle: www.laura-ellen.com/juicyFollow Laura Ellen on Instagram: www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

Herpes... A sexual death sentence or an invitation for sexual liberation?Annette & I vote for the latter, and in this conversation, we go all-in on the how & why.Shaking that herpes stigma and owning your story is a bold and courageous move. So to celebrate Annette coming out of the herpes closet, we decided to share this hugely powerful, intimately insightful, and downright liberating convo on all things sex after herpes.In this interview we discuss:- Herpes, what it is & what it is not.- OCD "clean culture" & why it's toxic to humanity.- Why you should never Google "Herpes"- Shame & its effects on the body.- How to release shame & end shame cycles.- The energetics of shame & why you won't attract the right person until you deal with it.- Reframing herpes and ending the blame game.- How to be responsible & have vulnerable conversations.- How to be supportive of yourself & others with herpes.- Ending the stigma and contributing to a shame-free culture (this is so important!).A worthy watch regardless of your herpes status. It's on all of us to change the way we view and respond to the diagnosis of either ourselves and/or our loved ones.If you resonate with this interview I encourage you to share it with any friends & family who may need it too. This topic is SO important and the more people's ears we can get it in the better.Now, listen away my love, and comment with a !! if you're ready to say BYEEEE to the herpes straight jacket and start living a wildly free & abundant sex life - shamelessly.Visit Annette's Website: https://www.annettemuller.love/Follow Annette on Instagram: www.instagram.com/annettemullerMWA xxWork with Laura Ellen:Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discoverySELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourcedSensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-listLingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-lovingYUM RETREAT:Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.www.laura-ellen.com/yumDiscover DIY Online Courses:Website: www.laura-ellen.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellenDonate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation. Never necessary, always appreciated. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe