Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

The trauma in Heidi’s marriage didn’t start with a slow fade. It started the day after her wedding, when she answered a phone call from a woman her new husband had been sexually involved with.   For the next 17 years, Heidi lived in the fog of a marriage that looked fine on the outside. But inside, she felt married to a stranger.   Then the facade broke again when she discovered extensive pornography on her husband’s phone, and everything she had buried came rushing to the surface.   Heidi opens up about the “messy middle” of healing—the exhausting vigilance, the high highs and low lows, the daily choice to ask hard questions instead of retreating into silence.   And she shares the deepest truth she has discovered along the way: that God sees her. In the middle of the wreckage, He has been calling her His beloved daughter all along.   If you have spent years silently carrying the weight of a marriage that feels hollow, Heidi’s story will remind you that you are not invisible. You are not forgotten. You are seen by the One who never looks away.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 165. Summer Stories of Hope: Healing From Sexual Betrayal and Relapse, with Suzanne Episode 166. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Extortion and Trickle Truth, with R.D.   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

On paper, R.D. and his wife had a life built on a foundation of faith and family. But in the quiet moments, the immense weight of family life and financial strain left R.D. looking for an escape.   He found it in pornography and online chat rooms—a secret life that kept him isolated from the people he loved most.   When a digital extortionist threatened to expose his hidden life, the secret didn’t just leak—it exploded.   What followed was the agonizing process of “trickle-truth” and the devastating, slow revelation of how deep his betrayal actually went.   R.D.’s story is a raw look at what happens when a marriage is forced to reckon with the absolute wreckage of a life built on lies.   But there is always hope when we surrender our mess to the only One who can redeem it!   Whether you are the husband fighting to kill the shame, or the wife trying to make sense of the deceit, this episode offers a glimpse of the grueling—but necessary—work of recovery.   Listen now to hear how R.D. moved from the darkness of hidden sin into the light of radical honesty.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 164. Summer Stories of Hope: Discovering True Intimacy After Infidelity, with Jacob and Leah Episode 165. Summer Stories of Hope: Healing From Sexual Betrayal and Relapse, with Suzanne   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

They met at a homeschool ski lesson when they were eight. Married young. Kids came fast. On paper, it was a dream.   Behind closed doors, it was falling apart.   Poor communication. Resentment. Faith tension. And in secret, Jacob’s pornography addiction escalated into sexual experiences outside his marriage. They were living entirely separate lives.   Then God showed up at a marriage retreat.   During deliverance prayer, Jacob experienced supernatural freedom from lust. On the drive home, he told Leah everything.   The confession broke them. But it also saved them.   Through family, church leaders, recovery programs, coaching, and even a therapeutic separation while Leah was pregnant, they fought for their marriage.   Today, he is nearly three years free from sexual sin. Real character change. A stronger marriage and faith than they’ve ever had.   If your marriage feels like it’s quietly crumbling, take heart. The God who met two eight-year-olds on a ski hill is the same God who meets us in the valley.   He’s still in the business of rebuilding what sin tried to destroy.   Listen now to hear their full story.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 162. Summer Stories of Hope:- From Isolation to Connection, with Kevin Episode 163. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Porn-Fueled Infidelity, with Felicia   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

For decades, Felicia believed she was in a close, happy marriage—until a quiet afternoon in October 2022 revealed a hidden reality that shattered her world in an instant.     Felicia walks us through the profound shock of discovering her husband’s secret pornography addiction. She shares the painful aftermath: the feelings of isolation, the well-meaning but misguided advice to “just forgive,” and the difficult journey of navigating despair and anger toward God while her entire sense of reality was being dismantled.     This isn’t just a story of betrayal, though; it is a powerful testimony of what happens when a couple commits to radical, transparent recovery.      If you are currently navigating the fallout of infidelity in your marriage, or if you are wondering if intimacy can ever be restored after such a deep betrayal, this episode is for you.     Felicia’s journey is a powerful reminder that recovery is a lifelong commitment, but God’s grace is sufficient for every step of that journey.     We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 161. Summer Stories of Hope: Beyond Infidelity, with Aimee Episode 162. Summer Stories of Hope:- From Isolation to Connection, with Kevin   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

In our current series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are dismantling the myths that keep Christian couples trapped in cycles of secrecy and shame.   Today we’re tackling something that keeps a lot of parents awake at night…   Should we talk to the kids about the betrayal?   And if so, when?   And how?   When hiding the reality of our marriage from our kids, we aren’t just trying to protect them; we are navigating a minefield of our own fears.   We’re going over 8 common fears parents feel when they choose to isolate their children from the truth of their struggle and also give you some answers to the when and how questions.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

In our ongoing series, Behind the Wall of Isolation, we are stripping away the myths that keep Christian couples stuck in cycles of secrecy and shame.   Building on our conversations about why “keeping it in-house” never protects a marriage, today’s episode walks through eight fears that stop many wives from sharing their story with others.   Join us as we address these obstacles head-on and discuss how to find the courage to step out of the shadows.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Have you encountered one of the most dangerous traps in the entire recovery process?   Today we’re talking to husbands, who have been unfaithful to their wives, about the myth of “Managing the Reputation” which can trap men, and marriages, in isolation.   Husband’s, you may be terrified of what people will think if they see the reality behind the mask you wear. You’re holding onto the “honorable” version of yourself while also holding onto the secret of your sin that nullifies your honor.   The truth is that your reputation is a house of cards. If it’s built on a hollow foundation of secret sin, it’s already gone.   You aren’t protecting a reputation; you’re protecting your pride, and your pride becomes one of the biggest obstacles to your wife’s healing and your true reconciliation with God. You cannot be a man of integrity while living a life of duplicity.   Join us as we outline 8 common fears that keep husbands behind the wall of isolation and give hope for moving beyond isolation into freedom.     We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 154. Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Isolation is the secret weapon of betrayal. When a husband is hiding a life of porn or stepping outside the marriage for sex, he’s essentially building a wall. He’s living a double life, and that wall keeps his wife on the outside holding her breath, while he’s off in his own dark, private world.   It kills intimacy, it kills trust, and honestly, it turns marriage into a performance.   The goal is to dismantle the wall of secrecy so that the atmosphere of the home can move from the shadows of betrayal to the light of genuine, albeit painful, restoration.   Recovery isn’t just about stopping the sin; it is about regaining what was lost, stolen, or given away and building a new marriage that is actually intimate - because it is honest.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

In this episode, we explore the destructive cycle of objectification, which is the act of stripping away a person’s humanity to turn them into a mere object for our own selfish purposes.   Whether performed mentally through imagination, emotionally to soothe personal discomfort, verbally, or physically, this objectification mindset can be a gateway to sin.   When we begin to view others as parts rather than as individuals with souls, we desensitize ourselves, making the unthinkable possible.   If you are struggling to maintain purity in your marriage or seeking freedom from long-term porn addiction, this conversation is for you. We break down the mechanics of how we strip humanity from others and, more importantly, how to stop the cycle.   We pray this blesses you!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful? Episode 126. Forgiving Yourself After Betraying Your Wife   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Hello Man of God,   Have you been stuck in a seemingly unending cycle of persistent sexual integrity issues - be it pornography, one-night stands, sex workers, or long-term sexual relationships, only to find yourself in prayer, at the "alter" or at the "foot of the cross" asking God to remove this sin from your life?   Did God answer you??   Did God remove your desire for pornography??   For many of us the answer was no. For some, the answer was not what we thought it would be.   What if God's plan to save you was to expose you and lay you out bare for all to see?   What if God loved you so much that he exposed you; doing for you what you could not or would not do for yourself?   Today we will spend some time talking about when God's plan to help us, is through exposing us. Johnny will share his personal story of when God was giving him the way out – the way to freedom.   You will not want to miss this impactful conversation, so find a quiet spot to listen for what God may be telling you.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

In this episode, we reflect on the sacred weight of Passion Week, and invite you to pause and turn your eyes toward the transformative final days of Jesus’s earthly life.   From the triumphant shouts of Palm Sunday to the agonizing solitude of Gethsemane and the ultimate sacrifice at the Cross, this week is a reminder that the path to redemption always requires a death.   We reflect on the gravity of what Jesus endured for us, acknowledging that without the shadow of Good Friday, there could be no glorious dawn of Easter Sunday.   In this episode, we explore how the powerful truth of the resurrection offers a path forward for those navigating the pain of sexual betrayal in their marriages.   Much like the disciples at the empty tomb, you are invited to stop looking for life among the dead remnants of the past.   By letting go of what once was, you create space for Christ’s resurrection power to breathe new life into your relationship.   Join us as we walk through these final days of our Lord, finding deep, abiding hope in the victory of the empty tomb and the promise of renewal for your marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33.The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 79. Redeeming What Was Lost, Stolen, or Given Away Through Adultery   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

As Christ followers, we absolutely want to use the scriptures as our primary guide for living our lives. Afterall, as it says in 2 Tim. 3:16-17, all scripture is God breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training, in righteousness so that the servant of God may be equipped for every good work.   We love God’s Word, but sometimes we can use scripture as a weapon.   On today’s show, we’ll talk about what it means to weaponize scripture against our spouse while we are healing and recovering from the effects of a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal.   We’ll define what weaponizing the Bible is, show you some examples of what it looks like, and offer solutions for using scripture to promote peace and healing while recovering from the effects of infidelity in your marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 69. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #5 Spiritual Leadership Episode 132.12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 10, 11, and 12)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

We’ve walked the hard road of betrayal and addiction, and we know that half-measures simply don’t cut it when you are fighting for the heart of your marriage. True healing isn’t about just stopping the bad behavior—it’s about actively pursuing the life God intended for your covenant, even when the path is difficult.   Today, we’re talking about what it really takes to go the extra mile. We’re discussing why settling for the bare minimum keeps so many couples stuck, and how leaning into the uncomfortable work is exactly what separates those who survive from those who truly thrive in restoration.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 140. How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

In our coaching practice, we see patterns emerge in different areas that tell a bigger story about what is going on in the minds husbands who have betrayed, and their traumatized wives.   Today we are going to talk about the scenario of a husband making suggestions for the recovery and healing of his wife. This is tricky ground. The husband’s motivation can come from a place of genuine concern or from something more self-serving. Is either one of these approaches helpful?     We’ll unpack this quandary, and give you some hope for working out this issue in a way that pleases God and gives him the glory.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 87. Can’t We Just Get Back to Normal? Shortest Path to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Today, we want to talk about an extremely painful question betrayed wives ask their unfaithful husbands.   It’s a question that torments a wife when looking at the history of her marriage through the lens of infidelity.   Those memories of special times spent together - vacations, family events, wedding anniversaries - are tainted by the new knowledge that she wasn’t his one and only love.   She can’t wrap her mind around what his sexual betrayal means for their relationship and it’s devastating to imagine him engaging in sexual or emotional attachments with anyone else, whether on a screen or in person.   This question is, “Did you ever really love me?”   We have a raw conversation over this question from our own experience; finding some answers and also finding hope in Jesus Christ’s unfailing love for us!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 136. Stuck in a Rut: 6 Traps that Hinder Recovery for an Unfaithful Husband   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Today, we’re tackling Triggers and Trauma Responses, post-betrayal alarms that test our commitment after infidelity is discovered in the marriage.   We talked over this topic in our last Unseen Beauty wives care group gathering and it’s something that all betrayed wives experience. Several of the women gave examples of recent triggers and some were able to give wonderful insights on how to handle them.   Today we’ll share what triggers are, the emotions behind them, and some biblical tools for managing them, like taking thoughts captive.   Plus, we have created a PAUSE acronym to help wives move through triggers in a healthy way. You can find the link to this resource below.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) P.A.U.S.E for Triggers download   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity Episode 95. Weddings and Pirates and Triggers. Oh, my!   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Sometimes recovery isn’t just killing one addiction—it can be like a game of Whack-a-Mole. Kill the sex addiction, and others pop up.   Picture this...you’re in an arcade, inexplicably drawn to the game called Whack-a-Mole. The idea of the game is when a mole pops up you whack it with a padded mallet, and as you strike it, it goes down into its hole.   But another one pops up in another area.   Now your attention is drawn to the one that just popped up. You repeat the process until the timer runs out. You never really win the game, but you may score more points than others based on the speed and accuracy of your ability to whack the moles.   This can have a very similar effect when we are trying to rid our lives of addiction, or simply compulsive behaviors.   We usually start with the one that is bringing the most destruction to our lives and marriages. We may feel we have victory over our primary compulsion, yet another can emerge to take its place.   Why is this?   In our show today we will cover the pitfalls of what we are calling addiction Whack-a-Mole, what it is, how to spot it, and how to actually exterminate all the moles of addiction in your life.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Addiction Whack-A-Mole Worksheet Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Imagine this: You’ve survived the gut-wrenching reality of Full Disclosure. The truth is out—presumably there are no more secrets.   After a long healing journey, you’re starting to breathe again.   Then… bam. A new revelation drops.   Is it a devastating setback… or the breakthrough you’ve been praying for?   Today, we share a real story and the benefits that can turn pain into progress—stick around!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Today, we’re diving into one of the rawest pains a marriage can face: infidelity.   Specifically, that pivotal moment when the unfaithful spouse – often the husband – finally comes clean. He unloads decades of secrets, and suddenly his prison of guilt and shame cracks open. Freedom hits him like a wave of hope.   But for the wife? Those same words shatter her world. She’s left carrying the weight he shed, and now she’s trapped in her own prison of grief, betrayal, and isolation. One heart soars; the other plummets.   So what now? How do you navigate this as a couple committed to Christ?   Join us for this raw and candid conversation about our experience with this unfair paradox.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 124. From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Is honesty just as simple as telling the truth, or is there more to it?   We are going to unpack that question to reveal some nuances of truth telling that some may not have considered before.   But isn’t truth, truth?   Yes, truth is always truth, but what we’ve discovered through our own healing journey is that inside of the practice of telling the truth, there are layers that are not necessarily obvious.   Today’s topic is not exclusive to the step-by-step process of Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but it is an important foundation for all marriages working to recover from sexual betrayal.   Join us today to learn how to level up your honesty.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 124. 124 | From Hurt to Hope Through Rigorous Honesty Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

In our previous episode, we were focusing on questions some husbands and wives have about the need for a Full Therapeutic Disclosure as well as some of the reasons couples hesitate to engage in this process.    We have seen some amazing restoration of marriages through this process and today we’re going to talk about disclosure, not just what happens inside of a Full Therapeutic Disclosure, but also what happens after as couples continue to dig down deep together to become fully known.   Trying to build a new marriage on a cracked slab is disaster waiting to happen. We must completely remove all traces of rubble and brokenness to rebuild on a new solid foundation. We have found that this can be accomplished through transparency, vulnerability, and rigorous honesty.   Pop in your ear buds and spend some time with us!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1) Episode 140. How Well Do You Really Know Your Spouse When Infidelity Becomes Your Reality   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Today we’re going to talk about something that strikes fear into the heart of every husband who has been unfaithful - Full Therapeutic Disclosure.   It’s a topic that sounds scary, but it is one of the best tools for recovery that we have discovered and implemented into our coaching practice.   Not only for husbands who have been unfaithful, but also for their betrayed wives.   We have seen God do some amazing things through this process and today we’re going to have a conversation about why some couples hesitate to engage with this recovery tool.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

How is it already 2026? The start of a new year is an opportunity to look back and reflect on the experiences we've been through and what they've taught us.   But the new year isn’t just about looking back; it's also a chance to look forward and spend some time imagining what could be.   It’s easy to feel stuck in the present and think that things might never change or improve.   It's like trudging down a bumpy street, head down, wary of every crack and pothole, constantly focused on avoiding obstacles. While it’s wise to be cautious, sometimes we focus so much on the rough patches that we forget to lift our eyes and appreciate the beauty around us.   As we welcome this new year, we invite you to take a moment to look up from the challenges of your life and marriage. Let yourself imagine what kind of life you want to live and the spouse you want to become. Think about the possibilities waiting for you on the other side of grief, loss, pain, and struggle.   Today we’re taking a quick look back at our 2025 with you, and sharing some exciting things we have planned for this year.   Happy New Year!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free!   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

We hope you were able to find some special moments this Christmas even if you are walking through the pain of sexual betrayal. You may be really glad that this year is ending, but not sure next year will be any better.   We’re just dropping in for a quick message of encouragement today and give you some hope and direction for this coming year.   We are sharing an inspiring and meaningful message from Sarah Young the author of Jesus Calling. It was impactful to us, and we hope it will be for you as well.   Happy New Year!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 34. New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual Betrayal Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

As a wife, you may be reeling from the news of sexual betrayal and you are in shock, grieving, and lost.   Or as a husband, your infidelity may have recently been discovered and the shame is suffocating and you feel like you are going to lose your wife and everyone who truly matters to you.   And you may be saying to yourself, “I am alone and I have no hope”.   Our mission here at Beyond Broken Vows is to tell our story of how sexual sin destroyed our marriage, but that through the power of Jesus Christ, we have been redeemed. He has healed us and has given us a brand-new marriage full of hope, peace, joy, and love. Because of what he has done for us, we can assure you that you are not alone and there absolutely is hope.   We are going to take you on a trip through scripture today and show you how great God’s love is for you. He knew what was coming into your life and he made a way for you, and all of us, on this journey from brokenness to wholeness. Because of the arrival of Christ Jesus into our world, we truly are not alone and there is hope.   Merry Christmas!   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 33. The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for Redemption Episode 85. A Christmas Message of Hope for Couples After Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

True healing from sexual sin and betrayal is a journey that goes beyond just stopping certain behaviors; it demands a fundamental transformation of the heart.   For husbands, the journey to rebuild trust and find healing can be challenging, filled with obstacles that can slow down progress and unintentionally cause more conflict. Often we can get in our own way without realizing it.   In this episode, we'll identify six spiritual and emotional traps—common for husbands trying to recover from sexual integrity issues and help their wives heal. We’ll confront these patterns with biblical truth and provide a clear path toward genuine repentance, accountability, and lasting freedom.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 135. Stuck in the Wound: 4 Traps Wives Often Fall Into That Hinder Healing From Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

When a wife discovers her husband’s sexual betrayal, her world shatters. The path to healing is difficult enough without unknowingly creating additional roadblocks.   In this episode, we explore 4 common but counterproductive patterns that keep Christian wives stuck in their pain.   We’ll identify these self-sabotaging behaviors, uncover the biblical truths that dismantle them, and provide practical steps to help you start moving forward on your healing journey, regardless of your husband’s choices.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 61. Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal? Episode 116. From Shattered Vows to Sacred Surrender: The Counterintuitive Path to Healing   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

After the discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal in a marriage, couples who choose to stay married and embrace the healing and recovery journey, will eventually need to address their sexuality again.   This will look different for every couple, but the ultimate goal is to have a healthier sexual intimacy than before the destruction of porn-fueled infidelity came to light.   We have been working on this part of our marriage relationship for almost 7 years now and almost one year ago Emily gave me what I call the Golden Ticket. This was her declaration that she would be sexually available to me whenever I initiated it.   That scared me to death and helped me to realize that this was a huge responsibility and that I needed to approach it with care. This helped me to create the 4 steps to healthy sexuality for husbands that we are covering today.   Join us for a very candid conversation about sexuality after porn-fueled infidelity today.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES:  Episode 48. Closing the Gap - 3 Steps to Sexual Intimacy Episode 94. From “Oh, Hell No!” to "The Golden Ticket" - 4 Phases of Sexuality in Recovery from Adultery   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

We understand you may be in the middle of the fall-out from sexual betrayal in your marriage. Maybe you just found out, or you have been found out. Maybe you’ve been walking this path for a while and still feel like you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.   As the holiday season approaches, this unwanted and extremely painful circumstance can destroy all the anticipation of spending special time with family and friends. This week we will celebrate Thanksgiving Day, but it can seem like there is nothing to be thankful for in this dark winter of our souls.   We want to encourage you with this, while we aren’t grateful for the betrayal itself, we can be grateful that God doesn’t waste our suffering. The pain of infidelity can become the very thing that drives us deeper into dependency on Christ.   Grab a comforting beverage and listen in for some hope in this challenging time as we give you 6 reasons to be thankful, even while on this messy journey of recovery from infidelity.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES:  Episode 28. Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through Gratitude  Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

The aftermath of sexual betrayal is a complete upheaval of a marriage’s foundation. It doesn’t just damage trust—it systematically dismantles it, leaving a wife questioning her entire reality. The world she knew is gone, replaced by a landscape of pain, confusion, and profound uncertainty.   For husbands who have broken our marriage vows, this new reality teaches us a critical truth: trust is not a default setting. It's more like a delicate structure that must be painstakingly rebuilt, day by day, through deliberate and verifiable action. By committing to clear and honest actions, we can begin to mend our own broken integrity.   More importantly, it lays down a new, solid groundwork, giving our wives something tangible to base  or even contemplate trusting us again.   We are finishing up our series today, so if you haven't listened to the previous episodes, we recommend going back to the beginning of this series with episode 127 to get the full context.   Today we’re going to unpack the last three markers that can give a recovering husband actionable steps toward trustworthiness and give his wife a clearer picture of what a trustworthy man looks like.   A trustworthy husband is a man of integrity A trustworthy husband has and works a recovery plan A trustworthy husband is a servant leader   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES:  Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity  Episode 130. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Today we honor our veterans who defended our land, people, and way of life—a commitment reflecting a biblical understanding of nationhood. The military is a God-ordained institution for maintaining order (Romans 13), and honoring veterans acknowledges this divine role.   Their sacrifice secured our religious freedom, allowing us to worship and spread the Gospel. A strong national defense protects our Christian civilization, as strength preserves peace for faith to flourish. The military upholds crucial biblical virtues like courage and duty, which are essential for national survival.   We remember veterans’ moral courage under fire and their steadfast faith. We must pray for and support those suffering from wounds, both visible and invisible, fulfilling the church’s duty to minister to these modern-day centurions. They embody Christ’s ultimate teaching: “Greater love has no one than this, to lay down one’s life for his friends.”   Johnny is a veteran and he recounts some highlights from his navel service and the emotional wounds he received as he served.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 129. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 4, 5, and 6) Episode 130. 12 Markers of a Trustworthy Husband (Markers 7, 8, and 9)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

The devastation of sexual betrayal leaves no part of a marriage untouched. It obliterates the very trust the relationship was built upon.   For the spouse who discovers the lies and hidden double life, it’s as if the floor has vanished beneath their feet. Their entire understanding of reality is fractured in an instant, leaving them disoriented and questioning everything they thought was true.   And husbands who have been unfaithful are learning a difficult lesson: trust cannot be assumed; it must be actively built. We are realizing that we must be transparent in very practical and visible ways in order to be seen as trustworthy. Our commitment to daily trustworthiness does more than just rebuild our own damaged integrity. It creates a new, stable foundation, offering our wives a genuine reason to consider the possibility of trusting again.   Today we are going to go over the next three markers for becoming a trustworthy husband:   7. A trustworthy husband protects all devices 8. A trustworthy husband makes all devices accessible to his wife 9. A trustworthy husband shares location and travel plans   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Sexual betrayal destroys all trust in a marriage. When the lies and double life of an unfaithful husband (or wife) come to light, the betrayed spouse has no solid ground to stand on. What was real is instantly shattered and nothing is clear anymore.   It can leave an unfaithful spouse struggling for a way to regain the trust that was selfishly tossed aside. Trust is earned - not expected just by virtue of staying married.   But when trust is lost, trustworthiness displayed daily will not only help to restore personal integrity, but it can also pave the way for a betrayed spouse to consider trusting again.     Last week, we did a deep dive into the first three of twelve markers of a trustworthy husband; he is transparent, vulnerable, and rigorously honest, has no secrets from his wife, and initiates difficult conversations. There was a lot packed into that episode so if you missed it we encourage you to go back and listen to episode 128.   Today we are going to unpack the next three markers of a trustworthy husband:   A trustworthy husband listens to understand. A trustworthy husband apologizes to help his wife heal. A trustworthy husband prioritizes his wife above all other people.   Grab a pumpkin spiced something and tuck in for a revealing look into our recovery process as we discovered how a track record of trustworthiness helped ear back trust in our marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 66. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #2 Prioritize Her   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

When trust has been shattered after marital infidelity is revealed through either discovery or confession, what hope does a repentant husband have for regaining his wife’s trust? Will she ever be able to trust him again?   These are common questions many couples ask as they sift through the rubble of what was once considered to be a happy, loving, and committed marriage.   Fortunately, there is an answer to this difficult question because when unfaithful husbands destroy trust in their marriage, there is a hope of restoring this broken part of the relationship by showing up daily as "trustworthy".   On last week’s episode, we introduced the 12 markers for becoming a trustworthy husband.   On today's show we will dive deeper into the first three markers of a trustworthy husband. A trustworthy husband is transparent, vulnerable, and rigorously honest. A trustworthy husband has no secrets from his wife. A trustworthy husband initiates difficult conversations.   Join us for a candid conversation about our experience with broken trust and trustworthiness displayed after infidelity was discovered in our marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 92. Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual Betrayal Episode 111. 111 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

When infidelity shatters the reality of a perceived happy marriage and reveals a foundation crumbling under the weight of lies and deception, one of the most difficult losses is the trust that was instinctively given when exchanging vows to love, honor, and cherish one another.  This loss of trust can be more painful than betrayal itself. It can leave a wife on unsteady ground with little hope that any trust for her husband can be regained. In today’s show, we’ll discuss what the loss of trust feels like from a betrayed wife's perspective and also explore the hope an unfaithful husband has for re-gaining the precious trust that was once so lovingly shared at the beginning of their journey together.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 64. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series) Episode 65. 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #1 See Her Pain   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Have you ever thought about how the toughest barriers holding you back might not be out there in the world, but instead created in the hidden corners of your own mind?   For the man battling sex addiction, the compulsive behavior is often just the symptom of a deeper problem: a faulty belief system built on a foundation of shame, self-loathing, and the unshakable conviction that you are, at your core, unforgivable. This is the silent war that can rage long after the acting out stops.   In this episode, we’re going to take a deeper look at the mental traps—the negative I Am statement we tell ourselves and the isolating shame—that keep you trapped in a cycle of self-punishment.   We’ll talk about how this internal battle doesn’t just sabotage your inner peace, but systematically undermines your marriage and every good thing in your life. Join us as Johnny opens up about his personal journey, sharing how he began to forgive himself and embrace the powerful truth that he is truly forgiven—by God, by Emily, and himself.   This conversation promises to be enlightening and supportive as we explore the path to healing together!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 11. Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual Betrayal Episode 35. Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you Decide   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Navigating the aftermath of a husband’s sexual betrayal is a complex and deeply painful journey for a wife.   While a natural desire to support his recovery may exist, it often clashes with powerful, protective emotions born from the trauma itself.   The act of showing compassion can feel fraught with risk, not as a sign of a lack of love, but as a defense mechanism against further pain and a means of preserving her own fractured sense of safety and self-worth.   This hesitation is not a character flaw but a rational response to profound injury. The wife’s fears are typically rooted in a need to validate her own experience, guard her heart from additional harm, and ensure that her husband’s path to recovery is built on genuine accountability rather than easy forgiveness.   Understanding these fears is a crucial step in healing for both spouses. Join us as Emily tells the story of her journey from a lack of compassion to showing compassion to Johnny after his sexual betrayal in our marriage.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 114. "I Know the Plans I Have for You" After Sexual Betrayal Shatters Your Marriage   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

When you hear the word “honesty,” what comes to mind? Is it a simple binary—you either tell the truth or you don’t?   Or do you see it on a sliding scale, where a “little white lie” is a 2 and a deliberate, premeditated deception is a 10?   If your marriage has been shattered by porn-fueled infidelity, you know the brutal truth: the lies and deception surrounding the acting out are often more destructive to trust than the acts themselves.   In this powerful second part of our conversation, We recap the five ways we lie from last week—commission, omission, deflection, justifying, and gaslighting—and dive deep into how embracing rigorous honesty can pave the way for trust and healing.   Join us as we unpack what this kind of honesty looks like, how to attain it, and how it impacted our recovery process.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 109. Healing Through Honesty: A View Into a Marriage Transformed by Truth (with Sathiya Sam) Episode 123. The One Thing Worse Than Infidelity in Marriage   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

In marriages wounded by sexual betrayal, the deepest injury isn't the act itself, but the web of lies that concealed it.   It’s a staggering reality that the concept of honesty is not as straightforward as many would like to believe.   Lies can come in various forms, from outright falsehoods to subtle omissions and misleading statements, all of which can have profound effects on trust in relationships.   What is the key to complete honesty, and how can we foster openness and transparency in our relationships? We are celebrating our 38th anniversary over the next week so we are sharing with you one of our most listened to podcast episodes.   The topic is LYING.   We will discuss five different ways we lie, specifically relating to broken covenant in marriage through porn-fueled infidelity. You will hear some intimate details from our painful journey to freedom and healing as we navigated the deception uncovered in our marriage.   Our victorious story serves as a testament to the fact that breaking the cycle of dishonesty is not only possible but essential for building a solid foundation for safety and trust leading to true intimacy.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 07. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1) Episode 08. 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

What comes to mind when someone brings up 12-Step recovery?   Maybe you think of Alcoholics Anonymous?   Or perhaps group meetings?   Do you also wonder if 12-Step programs are only for those who don’t see Jesus as Savior and Lord of all?   Should followers of Christ consider participating, even if Jesus isn't the central focus?   There are certainly some common misconceptions about where the original twelve steps come from and how they are meant to be used.   Today, we’ll look at a few of the most prevalent misunderstandings surrounding this simple yet effective program for addiction recovery and discover if these twelve steps are a clear path to God.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25.Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?  Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Today we wrap up our series, I Need You Where I AM. In the first episode of our series, we focused on a statement that many betrayed wives relate to, "My Husband Just Doesn’t 'Get It'.”   And what is the “it” he’s not getting? Not understanding the magnitude of what his actions through infidelity have done to her.    In the second episode in our series, we covered some of the ways betrayed wives are affected by their husband’s infidelity. Not the least of which is grief. But in an everyday way, it can look like experiencing new health issues, being triggered by movies, TV shows, music, and even reading the Bible.   Today we are giving husbands hope for addressing his wife’s needs in a practical way. To help Johnny see past himself to how Emily was being affected by his sexual betrayal, he created a process to handle her big emotions based on an internal statement, My wife feels this way because…   Join us for the rest of the statement plus 4 important things it does to help both spouses heal.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or help, please leave us a little tip to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 119. I Need You Where I Am: Why Unfaithful Husbands Just Don’t Get It (Series 1 of 3) Episode 120. I Need You Where I Am: Infidelity's Surprising Effects for Her (Series 2 of 3)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Today in the second installment of our series, I Need You Where I Am, we turn the spotlight fully onto the wreckage inside a wife’s body and soul after sexual betrayal.   The physical, emotional, and spiritual effects of betrayal trauma are real and profound. A wife experiencing these effects may think she is going crazy. She is not. It just feels that way.   As we talked about last week, a husband who “gets it” understands the magnitude of the effects of his betrayal on his wife. This man can show compassion and empathy by looking past his own situation to see his wife’s pain.   In this episode, we will share our experience with the effects of betrayal trauma as well as hope for the future where the trauma is healed and life becomes new.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 22. How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual Betrayal Episode 119. I Need You Where I Am: Why Unfaithful Husbands Just Don’t Get It (Series 1 of 3)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Today we want to speak to both spouses who are bravely navigating the deep and challenging waters following a discovery and disclosure of sexual betrayal.   We understand that this emotional journey can feel overwhelming and may be difficult to sort out on your own.   Today we’re excited to present a relatable word-picture that aims to make the experience of a husband’s infidelity a little easier to understand for both partners.   This episode marks the beginning of a 3-part series designed specifically for betrayed wives, focusing on what they wish their unfaithful husbands could grasp after their world has been shattered by the revelation of infidelity.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 52. What Is His Response To Her BIG Emotions After Porn-Fueled Infidelity? Episode 64. 64 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs From Her Recovering Husband (Series)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Recovery work is hard! It is not something that either spouse ever wanted and sometimes it can feel like it takes over everything else in life. Is it okay to take breaks from the difficult conversations and the grieving process?   Yes! We all need to take a break from the struggle occasionally and recharge so we can get back in and do the next right thing.   We have a shorter show today, but lots of encouragement! Please take a moment to receive a blessing as we share a beautiful passage of scripture that quiets our souls and helps us to rest in the Lord.   We are praying for you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe     RESOURCES:      Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 100. Getting Real Help for Your Marriage: 10 Obstacles to Counseling and Coaching Episode 113. No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

In this episode we are excited to have John-Michael Bout share his powerful testimony of struggling with pornography addiction since the age of eight and how he overcame it through God's grace, supportive friendships, and accountability.   John-Michael also introduces his ministry, Into the Light, which offers various free resources including documentaries, video series, and workbooks to help individuals and families combat pornography and better understand biblical sexuality.   He shares with us the importance of confessing sins, addressing the accessibility of pornography through technology, and integrating these conversations and resources into church communities for broader support and impact.   Pop in your earbuds and listen in for some real help!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR If this episode brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   CONNECT WITH JOHN-MICHAEL: Website: intothelightministries.ca Socials:@intothelight_ministries Into The Light Podcast   RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

When you hear the word surrender, what comes to mind?   Does it feel like defeat, like giving up?   We often see surrender as weakness. And for those who like to control everything, surrender seems counterintuitive.   Our instinct is to protect ourselves. Both spouses often resist and hide from the painful path to healing.   In a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal, the fear is that giving up control means being taken advantage of or losing importance in the relationship.   But surrendering your marriage to God is not about giving up. It’s about loosening your grip and trusting in someone greater.   When the infidelity bomb blew up our marriage, we were scared and confused, putting up shields to protect ourselves from each other’s pain.   Until, we chose to surrender—not to each other’s flaws, but to God’s plan for us.   When we stopped striving for our own desired outcomes and handed it over to God, everything changed.   Now, God did not erase the pain, but He guided us through it—revealing truths, healing wounds, and rebuilding trust step by step.   In today's episode, we go deep into what it looks like to surrender and how God used this step of faith in our marriage to create something beautiful.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 81. Giving Thanks In The Aftermath of Porn-Fueled Infidelity Episode 72. Praising God While in the Storm of Sexual Betrayal and Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Today we tackle the hardest skill in any marriage - especially after the devastation of sexual betrayal - honest, open communication.   We frame true intimacy as a three-legged stool built on transparency, vulnerability and rigorous honesty, then soften the seat with a cushion of humility so the whole thing doesn’t collapse under the weight of pain and suspicion.   Our goal is to move from theory to practice, from talking about intimacy to living it out daily. That shift requires the right tools. Enter the FANOS Check-In, by Debra Laaser. The acronym FANOS stands for:   Feelings Affirmations Needs Ownership Struggles/Sobriety.   In this episode, we’ll walk you through how two bruised spouses can sit down, share a safe space on that 3-legged stool, and walk away with clearer hearts, sharper boundaries, and a rebuilt connection.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Emotions Wheel FANOS CHECK-IN Request the Healing Apology worksheet, [email protected] Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology Episode 80. 7 Caveats for an Effective Healing Apology Episode 106. From Furious to Curious: How the ‘Emotions Wheel’ Unlocks Deeper Conversations   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].

Whether you have just recently discovered your spouse’s infidelity or have been working through the recovery process for a while, you are going to want to tune in to today’s episode.   It’s hard to imagine a future where there is honesty, connection, and true intimacy after the marriage vows have been shattered into dust.   But God…   Today we’re exploring what could be possible for your marriage when both partners are fully surrendered to Jesus and do the hard work of recovery.   We are sharing some of the incredible things the Lord did with our marriage in the first two years of recovery to give you some encouragement and hope for yours.   If God can do it for us, he can do it for you. And he wants to! He has a plan... (Jerimiah 29:11)   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 58. Purpose from Pain: Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage? Episode 61. 61 | Is Joy Possible After Sexual Betrayal?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

Sexual sin—especially porn-fueled infidelity—doesn’t just wound a marriage; it buries it under shame, secrecy, and shattered trust. But just as Jesus called Lazarus out of the grave, He can resurrect even the most broken relationships.   Your marriage may feel like a tomb right now, but Christ specializes in resurrecting dead things.   Today in this hope-filled, and sometimes emotional conversation, we’ll talk about why sexual betrayal feels like a “death” in a marriage—and how Christ offers resurrection from the tomb of our sin. How God uses others to help us move from where we are to where he wants us to be.   Also, Johnny tells the amazing story of the vision God gave him 6 years prior that has been fulfilled his new, StoneRollers Men’s Recovery Group.  Brotherhood is God’s lifeline for struggling men. You don’t have to face recovery alone!   If this episode hits home, you don’t have to go it alone. Join this brotherhood of men committed to rolling away the stones in their lives and stepping into life and victory. Write us at [email protected] to get your signup links!   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work? Episode 43. Our 12-Step Series Wrap Up: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Program Is the Best?   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].  

The disclosure is done. The secrets are out. Now what?   If you’ve been through Full Therapeutic Disclosure—or if you’re still mustering the courage to start—you know this isn’t the end. It’s the real beginning. Because truth doesn’t just expose the brokenness… it reveals the path forward.   This is the second half of our FTD episode—where we walk you through the final 3 steps of the disclosure process.   The Impact Letter: Her Voice Finally Heard The Restitution Letter: His Roadmap to Integrity The Slip & Relapse Plan: Trust Isn’t Blind   FTD doesn’t guarantee your marriage will survive. But it does guarantee this: No more living in the dark.   For the betrayed, it means the power to choose your next step with clarity.   For the betrayer, it means the chance to finally live in truth—even if it costs you everything.   Truth isn’t just where healing starts—it’s where you start living again.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)   RELATED EPISODES: Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].