Black Girls Bonding

Let's be honest, most of us built our dream life in our heads when we were 12. Good job, big house, the husband, the kids, the whole checklist. But what happens when the life you're actually living doesn't match the one you mapped out before your frontal lobe was even fully developed?In this solo episode, Kianti gets real about the personal evolution that entrepreneurship forced her into and how turning 40 became the turning point where she finally stopped bargaining with old dreams and started asking herself what she actually wants now. The answer? Freedom. Not in a vague, feel-good way, but in a I want to move through this world on my own terms kind of way.Kianti also shares what's been keeping her grounded lately — getting back to her morning pages, walking in the summer heat, cleaning up her sleep (shoutout to perimenopause for absolutely robbing her of rest), and the honest admission that we all tend to abandon our best habits the moment things start going well.She wraps up with a challenge for the community: one that involves a piece of paper, two columns, and a real invitation to dream again. No pressure, no deadline. Just you and your own vision.And of course, she's back with pop culture: Love Island is here, summer is here, and Kianti has thoughts about the very concerning return of the shrinking woman trend and why Megan Thee Stallion showing up in a bikini is exactly the content we needed.In This Episode:Why we stop doing the things that make us feel good the moment life smooths outHow Kianti is resetting her sleep, her mornings, and her self-care this summerThe moment at 40 when she stopped chasing someone else's version of successWhat it really means to want freedom — and why financial freedom is part of that conversationA journaling challenge to help you compare who you were at 18 to who you actually want to be todayLove Island is back and the body image conversation we need to have about itConnect with Kianti: 📧 [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @blackgirlsbondingInstagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode, Kianti gets real about something she almost didn't share — doubt. Not the kind that shows up once and leaves, but the kind that follows you into the gym, into your business, into every moment you try to level up. She talks about why doubt isn't something to wait out, but something to work with and how learning to let it fuel you instead of stop you is a daily, uncomfortable, worthwhile practice.Kianti also gets accountable in real time, sharing a personal goal she's been putting off because it scares her — and why that fear is exactly the reason she's going to do it anyway.In this episode:Why vulnerability hangovers are real and why Kianti keeps showing up anywayThe difference between thinking your way through doubt and doing your way through itWhy confidence isn't something you find it's something you buildThe Eleanor Roosevelt quote that hits different when you apply it to the small stuffWhat Kianti is scared to try next (and why she's doing it anyway)Kianti asks you:What dream do you want to see come to life?How are you holding yourself back?What are you doing to get out of your own way?What Kianti is reading:Kin by Tayari Jones,  a layered, complex read that left her feeling a little changed. No spoilers, but go get it.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

She's back in the dating pool and she's not stressing about it. In this episode, Kianti sits down with her nearest and dearest, Whitney, for a candid conversation about navigating dating after divorce in 2026. Whitney opens up about her marriage, the moment "the mask came off," and how she rebuilt herself on the other side of one of life's hardest chapters.But this episode isn't just about heartbreak — it's about the glow-up that follows. Whitney brings real, practical wisdom on dating smarter, protecting your peace, and shifting your mindset from urgency to ease.In this episode, we get into:How the pandemic fast-tracked Whitney's relationship timeline and what she learned from itWhy character is the only checklist item that actually mattersThe mindset shift from goal-oriented dater to relaxed, self-assured womanWhitney's dating system: outfits ready, questions prepped, filters in placeHer "canned message" strategy for clearing deal-breakers on Hinge — earlyWhy a flower doesn't chase the bees (and a queen protects her castle)The case for virtual dates before real onesWhy dating in big cities vs. small towns is a false debate — "there's pee everywhere"The value of girlfriend time as an antidote to the loneliness epidemicWhat Whitney is watching, reading & listening to:📺 Running Point on Netflix (Season 2 — she watched it too fast and has no regrets)📺 Real Housewives of Beverly Hills🎵 Kehlani + a nostalgic deep dive into old Apple Music playlists📖 Before I Let Go by Kennedy Ryan (a re-read she brought on vacation to the Virgin Islands)Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Black women have been visible for a long time. In culture. In labor. In struggle. In the room. And yet visibility alone has never been enough to guarantee protection, resources, or rest.In this episode, Kianti gets into it. A recent headline sparked a bigger conversation about what it actually costs Black women to choose themselves, and whether that choice is even equally available to all of us. Spoiler: Kianti had feelings. A lot of them.We're talking about the difference between taking up space and having the infrastructure to do it, the impossible standard Black women are held to no matter what they choose, and why being seen has never automatically meant being supported.This one is personal, a little spicy, and very much a kitchen table conversation.In this episode:The headline that started it all — and what it really stirred upVisibility without protection: a pattern as old as usThe double standard that never seems to go awayWhat "choosing yourself" actually requires  and who gets to do it freelyA real talk about rest, permission, and the price we pay either wayKianti also shared how much she LOVED Kristen Berry's novel, "We Don't Talk About Carol."  Check out the link to purchase here.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this deeply affirming and honest conversation, Kianti sits down with Dr. Nikki,  licensed psychologist, published scholar, and unapologetic advocate for Black women's well-being, to talk about what it really costs high-achieving Black women to keep showing up for everyone but themselves.Dr. Nikki opens up about her own winding path: from university professor to getting tenure at the University of Houston, hitting burnout, navigating an integrity clash at MD Anderson over anti-racism training, and ultimately going full private practice in 2021 at 51. Her story is a masterclass in betting on yourself — even when it's scary.In this episode, we get into:Why high-achieving Black women are often the most disconnected from their own pleasure and how it all starts in childhoodThe link between proximity to white supremacist culture and delayed emotional developmentWhy pleasure (yes, all kinds) is a source of power and reclamation, not indulgenceWhat it actually looks like to advocate for yourself sexually and why most partners want to know but need a roadmapPractical ways to reconnect with your body when masturbation or sex feels off the tablePerimenopause: what nobody told us, what our mamas went through unmedicated, and why we're doing it differentlyWhat "choosing yourself" looks like as a Black woman — and how watching little Black girls be free reminded Dr. Nikki of who she was before the world got to herDr. Nikki is a licensed psychologist currently accepting individual and group therapy clients (high-achieving Black women) virtually in 46 states.📌 Find Dr. Nikki: @DrNikkiKnows on Instagram, Threads, YouTube | DrNikkiKnows.com📖 What Dr. Nikki is reading: Criminal Intentions by Cole McCabe — a queer, diverse crime thriller she describes as an absolute chokehold.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week’s episode was inspired by a podcast episode I heard with poet Ross Gay, who shared how he intentionally looks for small daily delights and writes them down. That idea stuck and sparked a bigger reflection about how easy it is to train our minds to find what’s wrong instead of what’s good.In this solo episode of Black Girls Bonding, we talk about: How our brains can become wired to scan for problems  Why finding joy can feel uncomfortable during chaotic times  The idea that delight might be an antidote to isolation  How community shows up in the simplest, most everyday moments Kianti shares real examples of what has been bringing her joy lately, including: Slow mornings with coffee and quiet thoughts  Reading in an oversized chair with jazz in the background  Cozy reality TV nights with friends  Long catch-up calls that cover everything from life updates to pop culture chaos A surprising realization emerges: most moments of delight are free and rooted in connection.The episode ends with a question for listeners: What delights are you intentionally making space for right now?Next week, a guest joins the show for a conversation you won’t want to miss.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Atlanta is having one of those “fake spring” weeks. Warm sunshine one day, cold temperatures the next. It feels like the weather is faking us out.That idea ended up becoming the perfect metaphor for this season of life.In this episode, I’m reflecting on what it means to sit in the meantime. That period where things are moving, but maybe not as quickly or as smoothly as you hoped.Over the past few months, I’ve had a lot of honest conversations with fellow entrepreneurs, many of them Black women, and we’ve all been saying the same thing. The year isn’t quite popping the way we expected.That realization pushed me to look inward and ask some hard questions.Was I really doing everything I could be doing?Was fear holding me back from taking bigger, bolder steps?What would it look like to trust my track record and move forward anyway?In this episode, I talk about:• The fear that shows up when we try to build something new • Why remembering your “receipts” matters • How Black women are often taught to shrink instead of celebrate ourselves • What it looks like to use slow seasons intentionally • Finding joy, rest, and growth in the meantimeBecause the truth is, life rarely lines up perfectly. There is almost always something unfinished, uncertain, or still unfolding.So the question becomes: what do we do with the time in between?Pop Culture CornerThis week I’m talking about the HBO series Industry and while I loved the show, I hated each one of the characters. It has all of the makings of your fave new show: the ambition, the cutthroat culture, and the characters you love to hate.Let’s just say… I couldn’t root for any of them.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Most of us have been told that growth requires discomfort. Intellectually, we get that. We nod along. We agree. Emotionally? It hits different.In this episode, I share a moment that stopped me in my tracks while I was on my treadmill, huffing through an incline workout. When my instructor said, “If you’re comfortable, increase your speed,” it felt like she was talking about more than fitness.I’ve been clear about wanting a soft and lucrative life. Slow mornings. Coffee. Journaling. Movement. Rest. But what I had to confront is this: softness does not eliminate discomfort. It simply means you choose where and how you stretch yourself.In this episode, I talk about:Why comfort won’t produce the results we say we wantHow softness and ambition can coexistThe areas in my life where I am choosing to turn up the heatWhat it really takes to build the business, body, and life you envisionThere is no point of arrival. There is only evolution.If you’re feeling stuck, craving growth, or wondering how to balance ease with effort, this one is for you.And yes, I give my quick take on Selling Sunset because I am late and obsessed.DM me or email me and tell me: where are you willing to get uncomfortable?Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode, host Kianti sits down with her homegirl, Carline Hooker, the "saleswoman extraordinaire" and founder of NetworkIt.Carline brings 14 years of marriage experience (and 17 years of partnership) to the table for a conversation that moves past the "Instagrammable" version of relationships and into the "real deal Holyfield" truth. Whether you are single, dating, or decades into a marriage, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it actually takes to build a life with someone else.Inside This Episode:Moving Beyond "Communication": Carline explains why she "hates" the standard advice that communication is the key to marriage and offers actionable alternatives.The Power of Service: A deep dive into the definition of love as "taking actions to help another person win".Different by Design: Understanding the fundamental biological and psychological differences between partners to remove barriers of tension.Prioritizing Values: How to recognize when your personal priorities, like efficiency, might be inadvertently "poo-pooing" on your partner's strengths.Safe Spaces for Honesty: Identifying safe spaces to discuss challenges and obstacles as they arise in marriage.About the Guest:Carline Hooker is the founder and owner of NetworkIt, a community focused on connecting people for the sake of genuine connection rather than just business revenue. You can find her at networkitcoach.com or on Instagram at @NetworkItCoach or @carline_hkr.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

It’s been a minute, but I’m back and easing into the year with intention.In this episode, I’m talking about why I’m rejecting “strong starts” and choosing a softer beginning to the year instead. I reflect on last year as my first full year in business, what it meant to simply be profitable, cared for, and steady, and why that deserves celebration.We talk about seasonal energy, rest, and why winter is not the time to force growth. I share how I’m aligning more intentionally with natural cycles, including the 13 moon calendar, and why I’m giving myself permission to nurture what already exists instead of rushing into what’s next.I also reflect on different life paths, motherhood, and a powerful reminder that there are many peak human moments worth celebrating. Becoming a mother is one of them. It is not the only one.And, of course, I wrap with quick takes on what I watched over the break.If you’re craving ease, rest, and affirmation that you’re not behind, this one’s for you.Mentioned in this episode: Link to source on the 13 moon calendarWatch list quick takes:Knives OutOne Battle After AnotherPluribusReal Housewives of Salt Lake City If this episode resonated, share it with a friend, rate the show, and be sure to subscribe wherever you listen.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this the last episode of 2025 and as we roll into the end of the year, I want to offer something different. No “end the year strong.” No “grind ‘til the last minute.” I’m over it, and I know a lot of y’all are too.In this freestyle episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to close the year softly with intention, gentleness, and care. I share the three things I’m doing to wrap 2025 in a way that actually nourishes me instead of draining me:1. Ending my workday early. I’m committed to shutting things down by 3 p.m. when I can, giving myself back time, space, and ease.2. Reconnecting with my people. Spending time with the community I’ve built in Atlanta, meeting up more in person, and supplementing those meet-ups with FaceTimes and phone calls to the folks who aren’t close by.3. Resting + reconnecting with myself. Doing what makes my spirit light. Dancing until I sweat. Hitting a dance floor and losing myself in joy. Choosing softness as a practice.If you’re tired, stretched thin, or over the pressure to “push through,” this one’s for you. Let’s end the year in softness, not stress.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this week’s episode of Black Girls Bonding, I’m talking about something I never expected to record an episode on: what it means to reparent yourself, to care for the little girl you once were.I share a very personal part of my story, including my journey through infertility, the deep grief that followed, and how I slowly found my way back to myself with the support of therapy and a whole lot of honesty. When my therapist first introduced the idea of “parenting myself,” I wanted no parts of it. It felt too raw, too painful, and honestly… I didn’t understand it.But as I leaned into the practice, I discovered the parts of me, specifically my six-year-old self, who needed gentleness, curiosity, and care. In this episode, I talk about how I began reconnecting with what made me joyful, safe, and seen, and how tending to those needs has become one of my most meaningful self-care practices.Whether you're in a season of healing, rediscovery, or just craving softness, I hope this conversation helps you think about the younger version of yourself. What she loved, what she needed, and how you might show up for her now.I’d love to hear from you: What does it look like to you to care for the little girl within?Also, as promised, here's a link to buy The Trial of Mrs. RhinelanderInstagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode, Kianti talks about the importance of holding on to hope, especially when the world feels unpredictable. Inspired by the recent Democratic wins across the country, she reflects on what it means to celebrate progress without bracing for the next blow.As someone who’s used to waiting for the other shoe to drop, Kianti shares her journey of learning to rewire her brain to stay present, savor joy, and let herself feel the win—because anticipating what’s next only robs us of the moment we’re in.Tune in for a reminder that hope isn’t naïve. It’s necessary.Listen if you’re:Feeling anxious even when good things happenLearning to practice presence and gratitudeCraving a little emotional reset and hopeInstagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Some fights are worth it. Others? They’re invitations to let go.In this week’s episode of Black Girls Bonding, I’m reflecting on one of life’s hardest lessons: learning when to push and when to surrender. After weeks of wrestling with QuickBooks, the IRS, and my own stubbornness, I hit a wall and finally heard that quiet voice telling me: let it go.This episode is about that moment. The one where faith, frustration, and acceptance collide. I talk about: ✨ What it means to “fight first, release later” ✨ How surrendering doesn’t mean giving up ✨ The peace (and power) that comes from letting goIf you’ve been fighting a battle that feels like it’s going nowhere — whether it’s with work, relationships, or life itself — this one’s for you.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Things are heavy right now.In this short and heartfelt episode, I’m talking about what it feels like to live in a world that’s constantly demanding our attention, energy, and empathy — and what we can do to protect our peace in the midst of it.I share three simple, powerful practices that always help me find my footing again: 💛 Find community – you’re not meant to carry it all alone. 🖤 Unplug – doom scrolling won’t save us. 💛 Find your joy – big or small, joy is a survival skill.This one’s an invitation to slow down, breathe, and do something — anything — that makes you feel alive again.Plus, I couldn’t resist a quick Morning Show recap (because Mia Jordan? Phenomenal).And, as promised, here's the link to The Log Off Newsletter - "a daily newsletter that helps you stay informed about the Trump administration without letting political news take over your life."Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week on Black Girls Bonding, I’m asking a simple but heavy question: Are we okay?Lately, I’ve noticed so much vitriol online. Yes, the internet has always had its share of negativity, but lately it feels sharper—especially toward Black women. From journalists like Karen Attiah being punished for telling the truth, to Jemele Hill being publicly attacked, to hundreds of thousands of Black women facing unemployment despite being the most educated demographic in the country—the attacks feel relentless.But what’s hitting me hardest is how much of that harshness we’re turning on each other. From the reaction to Crissle’s opinion on The Read to Tabitha Brown’s heartfelt encouragement, I’ve seen us pile on one another with judgment and cruelty instead of grace.So in this episode, I unpack: ✨ Why it feels like we’re hurting more than ever right now ✨ How Malcolm X’s words about Black women still ring true ✨ Why we need to show up as safe spaces for each other ✨ A call to action to pour into Black women—through organizations, community, and kindnessAs LaTosha Brown recently reminded me on a Win with Black Women call: we’re all activists now. We don’t have a choice. Let’s make sure our activism includes care, grace, and support for one another.Plus, a quick Huntin Wives recap to lighten things up.🔗 Learn more about Win with Black Women: https://www.winwithblackwomen.org/Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week, I’m talking about those moments when life feels heavy: grief, overwhelm, and the urge to retreat into isolation. I share how a conversation with my best friend shifted my perspective: maybe the Universe isn’t working against me, but actually working for me.In this episode, I get into: ✨ Why isolating when you’re down can be harmful (yes, the science backs this up) ✨ How community, even when we don’t want it, can be medicine ✨ The importance of doing the things we don’t feel like doing, from workouts to cookouts ✨ How cultivating connection is really an act of self-careAnd yes, I close with a little TV talk — Big Brother has me in a full-on love/hate spiral this season.If you’ve been feeling low or tempted to pull away, this one’s for you.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week, we’re breaking down the Love Island Reunion, and whew… there was mess. From Amaya laughing through cheating rumors to Chris standing on biz, to Olandria serving tea and Huda proving (again) that she’s the clout-chasing villain of the season — I have thoughts.We’ll talk fake apologies, mean-girl alliances, why America really hates to see Black women loved out loud, and how Huda’s “all lives matter” energy exposed her for exactly what she is. Plus: the Nic + Olandria dynamic, Jeremiah’s pancake saga, Austin looking like he was on something, and why Ace will always be that guy (for better or worse).It’s a lot. Grab your tea and let’s get into it.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

What do you do when your big, beautiful plan doesn’t go the way you hoped? When the version of success you dreamed up gets delayed, detoured, or dismantled altogether?In this episode, I’m reflecting on the hard, human moments when life doesn’t cooperate and how I’m learning to make room for what’s still unfolding. It’s not a neat lesson at all. It’s a lived experience. This one is for anyone who's had to pivot, pause, or pick themselves up after a plot twist.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week on Black Girls Bonding, we’re flipping the script on the stories our minds love to run with. Kianti dives into how our negative-leaning thoughts—those quiet “what ifs”—can quietly sabotage our joy, confidence, and even our chances at Beyoncé floor seats.We talk about:The sneaky ways perfectionism and fear keep us stuckHow a simple shift in thinking can open major doorsWhy we talk ourselves out of opportunities before anyone else gets the chanceAnd how to start practicing new, possibility-centered mantras (even if they feel silly at first)This is your reminder to stop saying no to yourself. Because what if it does work out?Kianti talked a lot (and butchered David Oyelowo's name) about Government Cheese.  Check it out! It's just sooooo good!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Once upon a time, the cookout was more than just a meal. It was a ritual, a reunion, a refuge. But somewhere along the way, the vibe shifted. In this episode, we talk about the quiet disappearance of Black cookouts and what that says about where we are right now as a community.Is it perfectionism? A little too much self-care? That one cousin you don’t mess with anymore? Maybe all of the above.Let’s get into the obstacles keeping us from connecting, and why it’s time to stop waiting for perfect conditions and just bring back the cookout. Call to action: Host something. Anything. A potluck, a porch sit, a game night. Just don’t let the gathering die.In this episode:Why the cookout mattersThe impact of hyper-curation and isolationHow perfectionism is blocking connectionWhat self-care can’t replaceA loving nudge to pull up againInstagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week on Black Girls Bonding, we’re getting into the gritty but liberating truth: sometimes the call is coming from inside the house. 😅Kianti opens up about a moment of real-time accountability after feeling left out by her friend group—only to realize, with a little nudge from her husband, that maybe she had a role in the dynamic too.In this episode, we explore:Why it’s easier to feel like the victim than to investigate our partThe subtle ways we sabotage connection (and how to shift)Reclaiming your power by owning your behaviorAnd a lil pop culture joy via Beyoncé’s Homecoming and choosing pleasure nowThis one’s tender, a little funny, and deeply empowering. Because when we stop blaming and start looking inward, we find the one thing we really needed: our power.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we’re naming something that so many of us have quietly carried: the belief that we were the problem when we just didn’t fit. Kianti shares a powerful reflection on belonging, alignment, and what it feels like to finally feel like yourself, on purpose.From a friend’s newfound confidence in entrepreneurship to a timely message from Essence CEO Caroline Wanga, this conversation is a soft but firm reminder that sometimes, the issue isn’t you. It’s the space.You’ll hear:Why some rooms were never meant to hold youWhat happens when you curate your life and work around your valuesHow choosing misaligned clients can quietly chip away at your confidenceThe bold, tender truth about walking away—even when it’s scary✨ If you’ve ever shrunk yourself or questioned your worth to “make it work,” this one’s for you. You don’t have to twist yourself to belong.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this week’s episode, we’re joined by the incredible Elandria Jackson Charles—a joy coach, speaker, and unapologetic hype woman for Black women everywhere.Together, we dive deep into what it looks like to pursue joy with intention, let go of hustle culture, and embrace a life rooted in ease and abundance. Elandria reminds us that joy is not a reward—it’s a birthright, and living fully starts with giving yourself permission to thrive.We talk about:Elandria's path to becoming a coach and hype woman for Black womenWhy ease isn’t laziness—it’s liberationThe connection between joy, intention, and abundanceThe power of choosing yourself, dailyTools and affirmations for calling in the life you wantWhether you’re feeling stuck or simply need a reminder of your magic, this episode will speak to your spirit.Connect with Elandria:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elandriajacksoncharles/Website: https://www.ayokapartners.com/Newsletter: https://joysparks.myflodesk.com/What Elandria is Reading:Rest is Sacred by Octavia RaheemResting in the Sovereignty of God by Earnest EasleyWhat Elandria is Watching:White Lotus on MaxWhat Kianti is Listening To:Bone Valley PodcastWhat Kianti is Reading:Sky Full of Elephants by Cebo Campbell✨ Rate, review, and share this episode with a sister who needs a little more joy in her week.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we explore what it means to stay in motion, even when it feels like nothing is working. Whether you're building something from scratch, navigating uncertainty, or simply trying to stay afloat, there are moments when everything feels stuck. But movement, no matter how small, can be a powerful act of resistance, clarity, and momentum.I share my personal reflections on why staying focused and moving forward, especially when it feels like you're failing, is often the most important thing we can do. It might not always yield immediate results, but it builds resilience, deepens trust in yourself, and sets the foundation for breakthroughs.Tune in for a gentle reminder that staying in motion is not about hustle—it's about hope.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week’s episode is tender. I share a little bit about my grandma’s, Dee Dee, recent passing and the quiet grief that’s been sitting with me. Before she passed, she asked me to bake her some cookies—and I forgot.I’m not sitting in regret, but I am sitting in reflection.This episode is about how we hold space for loss, how we forgive ourselves for being human, and how we try—bit by bit—to love better, more presently, more intentionally.Because life moves fast, and sometimes, we miss the small things. But the beauty is, we can always begin again.In this episode, I share:A personal reflection on losing my grandmotherThe lesson in a forgotten batch of cookiesHow I’m choosing to be more intentional with the people I loveGrief isn’t always loud. Sometimes, it’s a whisper. And sometimes, it’s a batch of cookies we never made.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

We love a polished success story, but what about the messy middle? In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we talk about the power of “showing our ugly” – being open about the challenges, doubts, and struggles as we navigate our journeys. I get real about my own experience as a new entrepreneur, sharing the raw realities of building a business from the ground up.Because truthfully? It’s hard. And Black women deserve spaces where we don’t have to pretend we have it all together. We deserve community, honesty, and support as we figure things out.In this episode, I share:Why sharing your process is an act of courage and connectionThe behind-the-scenes struggles of starting my businessHow embracing imperfection can help us build stronger, more authentic relationshipsJoin the conversation and let’s normalize not having all the answers.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this compelling episode of Black Girls Bonding, we dive deep into the often-overlooked yet vital topic of joy, particularly for Black women navigating the complexities of today's world. As we face a seemingly endless stream of challenges—from social injustices to personal struggles—it's easy to feel overwhelmed by negativity and despair.Join us as we explore the transformative power of joy and its significance in our lives. We’ll discuss:The Importance of Joy: Why cultivating joy is essential for mental health and resilience, especially for Black women who often bear the weight of societal pressures and expectations.Practical Strategies: Hear from guests and experts who share actionable tips on how to find and embrace joy, even in the most trying times. From mindfulness practices to creative outlets, discover ways to uplift your spirit.Community and Connection: Explore the significance of communal joy and how connecting with others can amplify our happiness, fostering a stronger support system.Whether you're seeking a moment of upliftment or ways to integrate joy into your daily routine, this episode is a powerful reminder that joy is not just a fleeting emotion—it's a revolutionary act of self-care. Tune in to find inspiration and reclaim your joy amidst the chaos of the world around us.Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with fellow Black women in your life who could use a little extra joy today!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, Kianti explores the concept of Big Hairy Audacious Goals (BHAGs) and how we can approach them without the pressure of strict deadlines.Join us as we delve into the idea that setting ambitious goals doesn't have to come with a rigid timeline. In a society that often prioritizes hustle culture, it's crucial to acknowledge the freedom that comes with allowing ourselves to pivot and reevaluate our paths.Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by your ambitions or looking for ways to redefine success on your terms, this episode encourages you to celebrate your journey and live authentically.Tune in now and let’s explore the beautiful balance between dreams and the reality of life!Resources:Plan Your Year Like a Millionaire by Rachel RodgersWe Should All Be Millionaires by Rachel RodgersInstagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we sit down with Leslie Quigless to explore the importance of rest and recovery in our lives as Black women. We delve into the concept of life as a paradox, discussing how taking chances on ourselves can lead to profound growth and self-discovery. Join us as we challenge societal norms and embrace the complexities of our journeys, encouraging each other to prioritize self-care and resilience.Leslie's Website: whoisleslie.com Leslie's Substack: https://substack.com/@lesliequigless1Leslie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegospelofpleasure/#Leslie also recommended a biography on Zora Neale Hurston.  Wrapped in Rainbows by Valerie Boyd: https://bookshop.org/p/books/wrapped-in-rainbows-the-life-of-zora-neale-hurston-valerie-boyd/951815?ean=9780743253291&next=t&next=tInstagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we celebrate the strength and resilience within us as we embrace the new year. Join us as we reflect on our journey, reaffirm our power, and discuss the importance of not relinquishing our worth to others. Let’s inspire each other to step boldly into the future, recognizing the incredible beings we are!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Life is full of contrasts—strength and vulnerability, joy and pain, roots and wings. In this episode, we explore how these dualities shape our experiences as Black women.Tune in as we discuss:•How to hold space for opposing truths in your life.•Balancing individuality and community.•Practical tips for navigating life’s complexities with grace.Let’s embrace the “both/and” of life—together.Have a story to share? Reach out to me on Instagram or email me at [email protected]#BlackGirlsBonding #LifeIsADichotomyInstagram @BlackGirlsBonding

The holidays are not always a joyful season for folks.  In this week's episode, Kianti acknowledges the difficult emotions that this season can bring up and shares some strategies that may help get you through.  Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This is a very short episode to remind us and ground us in the fact that we will be ok.  The election results have been devastating (to say the very least) so now is the time to hold our community close.  We are all we got!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Today, Kianti digs into our fears around failure and how we have to do the work to embrace that failure is a key component of growth!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode, we talk about the many ways scarcity can show up in our lives and what we can do to expand and move towards abundance.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week, Kianti has a chance to sit down with Joyce Senior, Nutritionist extraordinaire, about simple ways that we can adjust our diets to achieve maximal health benefits.  LinkedIn profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joyce-senior-phd-pmp/Consulting website: https://drjseniorconsulting.com/Nonprofit website: https://myhairmyhealthpdx.org/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjsenior84/Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Have you experienced a moment in your life where you knew you couldn't stay where you were but were terrified of what was ahead?  In this episode, Kianti discusses some upcoming changes in her life.  She's coming to you right in the middle of the transition so that she can be as real as possible(read: vulnerable and transparent), so you know that you are never alone.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Envy and comparison are common but not productive.  Take a listen to Kianti as she discusses her journey and some of the tactics she uses to navigate the green-eyed monster.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This week, Kianti talks about all the excitement and joy that Kamala Harris and Simone Biles have brought her.  And as promised, she gives a review of Apple TV+'s Presumed Innocent.  Spoiler Alert: if you haven't yet watched the series and you plan to check it out, you may want to wait to listen to this episode.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode, Kianti discusses how pain is just as critical as joy in our lives.  It informs perspective, deepens gratitude, and adds "color" to our lives - if we let it!Also, check out Presumed Innocent on Apple TV! Thank her later :)Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this week's episode, Kianti sits down to talk to Denise Marsh about the importance of self care.  We are not talking bubble baths and massages but the deep work that women need to invest in themselves in order to truly heal.Resources:What Denise is Watching: Love is BlindWhat Denise is Reading: Financial Feminist How to find out more about DeniseWebsite: www.denisemarsh.netFacebook: @DeniseMarshInstagram: @DeniseMarsh_Book - Do It for Your SelfiePodcast - Get R.A.W with Denise Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Y'all, life is lifin!  People are going through things and it all feels like too much to handle.  In this episode, Kianti encourages you to keep going by tapping into your tribe and celebrating all the wins - big and small!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this episode, Kianti discusses why it may be so difficult for us to not care what others think of us.  Often, we don't want the criticism from others but gladly accept the praise.  In order to truly live a life free from being impacted by the opinions of others, you have to give up both.  Listen to hear more!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

On this episode, Kianti welcomes Rashida Powell to the show.  The die-hard ceative, writer, and gratitude guru, talks with us about how life be lifin' and how gratitude has really helped her change her perspective on life and bring her back to herself.  This episode is a must-listen for those who have struggled to accept and embrace where they are on this journey called life.You can follow here here:Twitter: @GratitudeSpot IG: GratitudeSpot Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In this week's episode, Kianti gets very transparent about her own challenges with Mother's Day and how complicated it can be to observe this holiday.  She also encourages all of us to tune in to and take care of ourselves when heavy emotions come up.  Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

Today, Kianti sits down with Analiza Wolf,  executive coach for women of color to talk about unleashing the bad ass woman that lives inside of all of us!  She talks about some of the themes she sees in her work with women and how her work is helping to heal some of her own wounds. You can find out more about Analiza and follow her on social media using the links below:analizawolf.com www.linkedin.com/in/analizawolf/ www.linkedin.com/company/bossmamas www.facebook.com/womenofcolorrise www.facebook.com/analizaqwolf/ www.instagram.com/analizawolf/ www.linkedin.com/company/bossmamas www.youtube.com/analizawolf/Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This episode is one of Kianti's most transparent - she talks about her own struggles with feeling like she is not enough or that she's just not good enough.  While there is no real "fix" to these feelings, she gets real about her battle with these sometimes dark times and how they impact her.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

In today's episode, Kianti talks about the power of changing your mind and how you should do it a lot more often than you do!Also, check out, Apples Never Fall on Peacock.  You won't regret it!Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding

This episode is all about Love Is Blind and Kianti gives her take on the season.  One note: she calls Jimmy Johnny almost exclusively.  Sorry to that man.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding