Carlie's Couch

This week, we are off the couch and in the dojo on location at the National Wushu Training Center in Los Angeles with Wushu masters Coach Matt and Kenny Leu. We discuss all things wushu: what it is, the history, why you should do it, and how it can transform your life. Learn more at trainwushu.com or their IG and follow Coach Matt Osborne & the amazing Kenny Leu!Watch this ep on YouTube!

Systems are designed to get results, what results are your life systems designed to get? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we challenge your patterns, ask questions to get to the root, and empower you to own your power and decide your life. The only obstacle is you, the only solution is you.Watch this episode on YouTube!

What do you do when you're feeling blocked, disconnected, or out of alignment? This week, Carlie shares some daily actions you can take to re-ignite your spark and get back into alignment!

This week, we discuss tips to mindset shifts and practical tips to GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY in whatever area you’re struggling with.Watch and subscribe on YouTube!

What if the goal were to to just practice? to enjoy? to try? This week, we explore practice as a way of life, a mindshift that could change the way you approach life.Watch this episode on YouTube!

Wanting to improve yourself and be your ideal self? Amazing. Always feeling like you’re not enough? Not great. This week, we explore some much needed perspective shifts in relation to self-help and how to tell if you’re stuck in the rabbithole.

"Many people are alive but don’t touch the miracle of being alive" ~Thich Nhat Hanh Don't be so busy making a living that you forget to make a life. This week, we learn how to savor the moment, truly celebrate ourselves, and talk tips to help your feet stay grounded in the present.Watch this on YouTube!

Done is better than perfect because perfect never gets done. This week, Carlie explores the importance of actually doing the thing, what it looks like to be consistent, and shares some steps to help you do the thing.

Learning to date yourself is so important, whether you are in a relationship or not. This week, we unpack why solo dates and intentional alone time are key to a fulfilled life and explore solo date adventures, protocol, and ideas!Watch this video on YouTube!

This week we get off the Couch and in the community with Tony Jolly of Ora Cafe and Crenshaw Coffee. In the heart of Leimert Park at a Crenshaw Coffee cart, we have a powerful conversation about walking in purpose, building community, and creating opportunities for others. Follow Tony and the Ora crew at @oraenergy on IG and to learn more and support Tony’s dream of expanding coffee carts for formerly incarcerated people and youth, please visit and donate at the hotandcoolfoundation.org

Don’t be the only thing standing in your way! Protecting your peace is a necessary boundary in life, but are you truly protecting your peace or are you just avoiding growth and discomfort? How do we know the difference? This week, Carlie gives an outline to help you recognize which is taking place in your life. Watch this episode on YouTube!

In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, Carlie sits down with Survivor 49 finalist Kristina Mills for a raw and reflective conversation on grief, mental health, resilience, and legacy - both on and off the island.Kristina shares how solitude was pivotal for her own healing, the importance of mental health, what Survivor taught her about emotional endurance, and how she became unstoppable. Together, Carlie and Kristina explore the inner game: identity, purpose, healing, and the choices that shape the legacy we leave behind. This episode goes beyond reality TV to examine what it means to play for purpose, navigate isolation, and build resilience in real life. Whether you’re a Survivor fan, a mental health advocate, or someone reflecting on purpose and personal growth, this conversation will meet you right where you are.Watch the episode on YouTube here!

Welcome back, welcome back, welcome back! After a brief respite, we byke!!! Well, Carlie is! How do you start over? How do you know when to begin, again? This week, Carlie shares some quick tips and things to think through if you are at this crossroads of starting over, or beginning again, in your life.Watch this episode on YouTube!

This week, we are celebrating 7 years of Carlie’s Couch and a Lexit! Join us to reminisce on how and why we started, to hear the new direction of Carlie’s Couch and Off the Couch with Carlie, and celebrating Lex and her transition off the Bouch. Get your shakers and glasses, and maybe some tissues, ready to celebrate transitions, growth, and moving on with a fresh cocktail or mocktail recipe for you to try + some drink making ASMR. We appreciate and love y’all BIG!Watch this episode on YouTube!

Much of life is split between where we are and where we want to be. It’s easy to live in the future -worrying about goals, timelines or who we think we’re supposed to become. But what happens when that makes it hard to be pre sent, or when you can’t even picture your future self? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we dive into how to balance long-term vision with present-moment living, why we sometimes struggle to see our future clearly, and practical tools to ground ourselves in today

What does your life look like outside of being productive or in service to others? This week, Carlie & Lex sprinkle some magic on your week and discuss actionable ways to bring more whimsy into your life and why you need to be more intentional about your whimsy!Watch us and subscribe on YouTube!

This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore how misogyny affects us all, and discuss several sneaky ways it could be showing up in your life and mindset.

Rushing doesn’t actually make you faster. It clouds your judgment and keeps you disoriented. In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we explore why so many of us feel pressured to hurry, what it reveals about our inner state, and how to slow down so you can move through life with clarity, presence, and peace.Watch this episode on YouTube!

Everybody’s got a story, but are you telling yours in a way that connects? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we talk about the power of storytelling in relationships, building empathy, and even marketing yourself or your work.Watch this episode on YouTube

We all say we want more love, success, peace, etc.; so why do we sometimes block it ourselves? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we unpack how self-sabotage shows up in work, relationships, money, and self-care, and explore the fears hiding underneath it.

We all have parts of ourselves we keep hidden… whether it’s out of fear, shame, or just survival. This week, Carlie & Lex open up about the parts of themselves they’ve tucked away, why we do this, and how bringing those parts to light can actually lead to deeper self-acceptance, connection and peace.

New era, who dis? This week, Carlie and Lex talk about what it means to soft launch a new version of yourself… those quiet shifts in identity, energy or alignment that don’t need a big announcement. From subtle boundaries to switching up your aesthetic, we explore how personal evolution can be lowkey, intentional and totally valid.Watch us on YouTube!

Dating and relationships can bring up a lot, but sometimes it’s hard to tell whether you’re noticing a real red flag or just panicking because something feels unfamiliar or vulnerable. This week, Carlie and Lex break down how to spot the difference between a valid warning sign and your own fears getting in the way.Watch this episode on YouTube!

Don’t save her, he/she/they don’t wanna be saved. What’s the difference between supporting and saving? Enabling vs empowering? This week, Carlie and Lex explore the complexities of supporting without self-sacrificing or enabling, and discuss how to allow individuals to utilize their strengths and resources to figure things out.Watch this on YouTube!

 It’s not always easy to sit in the in-between. Uncertainty can feel scary, but it can also be a powerful space for growth. This week, Carlie & Lex talk about the courage to not have all the answers and the strength it takes to say, “I don’t know yet.”

In a world that constantly tells us to “sell it,” “post it,” and “turn it into a brand,” it can be hard to just enjoy something for the joy of it. This week, Carlie & Lex talk about the pressure to monetize your skills and passions—and why it’s okay to keep some things just for you.Watch this episode on YouTube

Is doing things for the haters or to prove people wrong a bad thing? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore the concept of letting naysayers fuel our dreams, how not to let our motivations be driven by others, and discuss ways to let go of the need to prove ourselves to others.Watch this episode on YouTube

What is discretion; and why do some people seem to have none? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we’re exploring the quiet superpower of discretion: knowing what to share, when to share it, and when to keep things to yourself. Whether it’s online oversharing, messy group chats, or telling too much too soon, a lack of discretion can cost you peace, privacy, and power. We’re unpacking how to practice it, why it matters, and how choosing silence can sometimes be the loudest move you make

Why do certain people get under your skin? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we’re talking about the idea that what triggers you in others might be reflecting something unresolved in yourself. From jealousy to judgement to comparison and discomfort; we unpack how dislike can be a powerful tool for self discovery. Tune in as we explore how to turn irritation into insight and walk through an exercise to better understand what your reactions are trying to show you about youWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/q77UAtJ11Sk

You say you want to be successful, loved, and celebrated, but are you actually allowing yourself to be seen? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we’re unpacking the fear of being perceived, why so many of us hide our true selves, how it keeps us stuck, and what it looks like to finally stop shrinking. If you’ve been playing small, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we ask a big question: do the choices we make every day—what we eat, who we date, how we work—reflect how much we love ourselves? We talk about how self-love shows up (or doesn’t) in every area of life, and how taking stock of our patterns can reveal where we’re thriving and where we might want to choose better. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on aligning your life with deeper self-respect and care.Watch this episode on YouTube

What’s the status of your mental health? How do you know when something is off or different with you? May is Mental Health Awareness month. This week on Carlie’s Couch, we discuss signs to pay attention to when you’re feeling off and our most impactful tools and tips to take care of y-o-u.Watch this episode on Youtube

Kegels aren't enough! Everyone should be paying attention to their pelvic floor. This week we speak with Dr. Josephine Duncan licensed pelvic floor physical therapist and founder of Functionally Flawless Design who merges her clinical expertise with her creative vision to empower others to thrive in both body and space. Follow her on socials, ask questions, and learn more about thriving physically and in your space at  ⁨@functionallyflawless⁩  and @functionallyflawlessdesign on IG.Watch and subscribe to our YouTube!

How do you know when you should take a pause? Life can be stressful, let’s add to our self-regulation toolkit. This week, Carlie & Lex discuss tips to notice when you’re dysregulated, how to build resilience, and breakdown Dr. Dan Siegel’s “flipping your lid” model for emotional regulation to help you get back to equilibrium.

This week on Carlie’s Couch, we’re unpacking the power of exposure, the difference between building courage and overwhelming yourself, and whether action can really quiet anxiety. Tune in for honest stories, surprising insights, and tools for moving from fear to freedom.

We’ve all been there — expecting more from someone who keeps letting us down. In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we unpack why we keep ordering things that aren’t on the menu, what it reveals about our own needs, and how to start managing expectations with more clarity and compassion. Let’s talk about choosing peace over disappointment.Watch this episode on Youtube

It’s not “if” you’re going to fail, but “how” you fail. This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore 5 practical steps to help you reframe your outlook on failure and discuss how we can all fail better.Watch this episode and subscribe on YouTube!

When was the last time you let yourself enjoy the peace of doing nothing? This week on Carlie’s Couch, Carlie & Lex explore the importance of dilly-dallying, the scientific benefits of being present, and ways to be more intentional about rest, mindfulness, and disconnecting.Watch this episode on Youtube

What if you didn’t have to be who you think you are right now? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we explore the Tomorrow Man Theory—the idea that every choice you make today shapes the version of you that wakes up tomorrow. With the Spring Equinox as a fresh start, we’re breaking out of fixed identities and stepping into the power of small shifts that create big transformations. Tune in and start showing up for your Tomorrow Man, todayWatch this episode on YouTube

Does being humble mean shrinking yourself? Can you have humility and still be wildly successful? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we’re unpacking what humility really is (and isn’t), how it impacts success, and why true confidence and humility go hand in hand. If you’ve ever struggled with balancing self-assurance and staying grounded, tune in and learn how humility can help you without downplaying your greatness.

Do you have a strong sense of purpose, or are you still figuring it out? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we dive into what purpose means, why it’s linked to fulfillment and longevity, and whether everyone is meant to have one. We also explore how life experiences, values, and personal strengths shape our purpose—and whether making money from it should be the goal.Watch this episode on Youtube

Fear can either protect you or keep you stuck—but how do you know the difference? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore how fear shows up in our bodies and minds, the key questions to assess whether it’s keeping you safe or just comfortable, and how to push through when it’s holding you back. Tune in to learn how to reframe fear, challenge self-doubt, and take small steps toward growth.Watch this episode on YouTube

Are you really in control of your attention, or is it being spent for you? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we break down the quote “Where you spend your attention is where you spend your life” and take an honest look at whether our focus aligns with our values. Tune in as we explore the attention economy, how to reclaim your time, and simple ways to be more intentional with your most valuable resource—your focus.Watch this episode on YouTube

Why do we sometimes feel stuck in achieving goals or making manifestations work? Could competing beliefs be the silent culprits? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we discuss competing beliefs, how they sabotage progress, and practical steps to resolve them.Watch this episode on YouTube

“I know.” Do you, really? Knowing everything, or having a closed mindset, keeps you from growing and learning. This week, Carlie & Lex explore how being a know-it-all and having a fixed mindset is holding us back and discuss actionable ways to open our minds to curiosity and new possibilities.

“Those who don’t ask for anything deserve everything,” —a quote highlighting the honor and self-sufficiency of someone, or a quote to keep people from asking for more? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore the origin and implications of this quote and the deeper importance of learning to ask for what you want and advocate for yourself.Watch this episode on youtube

What’s your conflict language? In this episode of Carlie's Couch, we explore the five conflict management styles—competing, avoiding, accommodating, compromising, and collaborating—breaking down when and how each one works best. Tune in to discover which “conflict animal” you relate to and how understanding these styles can improve your relationships.

In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we dive into the topic of body image and explore how to reclaim and improve the way we see ourselves. From embracing self-love to learning to appreciate our bodies at every stage, we discuss practical ways to nurture a healthier relationship with our physical selves.Watch this episode on YouTube

If you want to change the world, start with yourself. Let’s start with empathy. This week on Carlie’s Couch, we get a better understanding of empathy, its importance, and share actionable ways to strengthen your empathy muscle. If you’re looking for resources to help or receive support to LA fire victims, please check out this spreadsheet from Mutual Aid LA Network.

What does it mean to live with romance as a way of life? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore how infusing care, beauty, and intention into everyday actions can enhance your relationships, uplift your experiences, and make life feel more fulfilling. Tune in as we discuss why romance isn’t about money, what holds people back, and how to embrace it in your own unique way.Watch this episode on YouTube