Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting

You’ve been learning to understand your child’s triggers and behavior and hold space for emotions but what happens when your spouse gets triggered? And doesn't respond how you want hime to? In this episode, we’re talking about how to navigate your spouse’s reactions, understand what may be happening beneath them, and respond without creating more conflict in your home.   Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected   The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood Email - [email protected]  

Hard seasons have a way of revealing what's really in our hearts. Whether you're walking through a difficult season of motherhood, feeling discouraged, or simply trying to keep your head above water, this episode is for you. In today's conversation, I'm sharing some of the biggest lessons I've learned walking through hard seasons of motherhood, along with practical strategies, biblical encouragement, and perspective shifts that have helped me move from simply surviving to allowing it to be a time of growth in endurance and capacity for all that motherhood brings.  In this episode, we'll cover: Practical ways to endure hard seasons of motherhood Perspective shifts that bring more peace and hope Scriptures that have anchored me lately Lessons I've learned in difficult days, stages, and seasons of motherhood   Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected   The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood Email - [email protected]    

What if your child's challenging behavior isn't just an opportunity for their growth—but yours too? In this episode, I share why I believe there is a formula for improving behavior, despite what some Christian voices may say. We talk about why understanding child development and behavior doesn't compete with Scripture, it complements it. I also share why blanket encouragement like "you're a good mom" isn't always the message we need, and how to honestly evaluate whether we're growing or simply staying comfortable. Finally, we explore the perspective shift that has changed my own parenting: moving from asking, "God, why won't You change this?" to "God, how are You using this to change me?"   Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected   The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood Email - [email protected]  

My brain naturally wants to lecture when my kids are fighting or when someone misbehaves or disobeys. What I've also learned is that it doesn't work when my kids (or me) are dys-regulated. However, my brain continues to try and push me to do it in the heat of the moment...why? Today, we are talking all about it. There are 5 main reasons I believe we do this and I'm going to shed some light on them. I also walk you through how to start shifting those habits and patterns so you don't stay stuck there - without awareness, there is no action. And without action, there is no change. BONUS pep talk at the end - I know this work is hard and I never want to sugar coat it. But the longer I've been parenting this way, working on my own triggers and regulation, and focusing on intentional connection and conscious responses the easier it has gotten and the more fruit I've seen! And I want that for YOU too!!   Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected   The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood Email - [email protected]  

Do you want to avoid the public tantrum with your child so much so that you give in to more screen time than you'd like? Or rely on threats or bribes to get you through? Do you sometimes avoid going out altogether? Then today is for you!    You will learn the one thing that will help drastically decrease (or remove them pretty much altogether, though I can't make promises) the public tantrums with examples from my own motherhood.   I address some common areas that we often overlook that can help reinforce patterns that we actually don't want and how to make adjustments today!   Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected   Episode on How to Handle Public Tantrums: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000627190955   The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - @calm.and.connected.motherhood Email - [email protected]  

If you've never heard of this "hack" it's spreading around social media like wildfire...the idea is that when your toddler/young child is having a meltdown you start shouting a random name and this distracts your child out of the meltdown. Listen in as I share why I do NOT recommend this. I dive into reason's why that specifically relate to your child's development and emotional processing. I also share what might be happening for you as the parent if you find yourself doing this (or using other distraction methods) and what to do about it.   Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected   The Calm Mom Club Waitlist: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/waitlist   Ep on Why Crying is Important: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Email - [email protected]  

I've shared all of my other kids' birth stories and thought I'd share Lylah's. You can listen to the other ones here: Luella's: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000632069769   Huxton's: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000600263314   Myles': https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000595792704   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Email - [email protected]  

Triggers have deep roots because they are a set of patterns that have been repeatedly enforced throughout your life, but there are a few other things that I think contribute to how frequently we are triggered and how easily frustrated we can become as moms to little kids. Today, I dive into one thing that I think is incredibly important to assess and reflect on that can significantly impact how we are showing up as moms and the level of overstimulation we are feeling. This conversation will also help you to go deeper into the thought processes you may not even know you have. And listen until the very end because I'm going to give you some specific questions to practically help you make some adjustments if needed!   Wanting more support? https://linktr.ee/chaos.to.connected   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Email - [email protected]  

I’m so excited to be BACK!!!   Today, I’m sharing why I’m back and how the podcast will be shifting slightly.   If you’ve enjoyed the podcast/previous episodes I would love if you would be willing to scroll to the bottom of the show and submit a rating and review! This will help other moms find the behavior help they are looking for and grow our community 🙂   If you have questions about 1:1 coaching, let’s connect and chat about what that looks like! It is very mom friendly because I know what it’s like to need and want help but also be in a busy season. You CAN have both!   My Background/Story of how I got here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000577082308   Wondering about something related to your child's behaviors, emotions, meltdowns and/or your own triggers? Ask your question(s) here! https://forms.gle/oZfWyhsNGic3G7ht8   Connect with me here: IG - https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Email - [email protected]  

I have been really deeply reflecting on my more challenging parenting days lately and even thinking back to when I was really struggling with my oldest to determine what is one of the main contributing factors to both. And what I've discovered is that in both instances I have had expectations that went unmet.  These expectations weren't inappropriate or unrealistic for my child's age, however, it was unattainable at the place we were currently at.  Today, I share the #1 way you can assess if your expectations are aligning with your child's current skill level/ability and if not, what you can do about it.   Special Time Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000550595812   1:1 coaching options, free resources, and courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Connect with me through email [email protected] or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher  

Podcasts are such a wonderful, free tool to utilize for ourselves as we are trying to learn different skills or information, but it is also a great option for our kids too! Sometimes it can be hard to make sure that the information and words are kids are hearing are appropriate and fruitful so today, I wanted to share some podcasts that my kids LOVE. They enjoy listening to podcasts during quiet time, when they just need some space and/or when they are doing some quieter play like puzzles or playdoh. Here are some of our favorites: 1. Tiny Theologians: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tiny-theologians/id1703635148 2. VeggieTales: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/veggietales-very-veggie-silly-stories/id1624715532 3. Real Cool History for Kids: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-cool-history-for-kids/id1470873097 4. Car Ride Stories for Gigi Kids: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/car-ride-stories-for-gigi-kids-bible-and-christian/id1380554029 5. Nat Theo: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nat-theo-nature-lessons-rooted-in-the-bible/id1679872468 6. Backseat Bible Nuggets: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/backseat-bible-nuggets/id1573752728   If you have any that you and your kids enjoy, I would love if you would share them with me!  email:[email protected] IG: @kaili.zeiher

I've shared my personal and professional recommendation not to use sticker/reward charts on a previous episode, but today I wanted to chat more about rewards. In this episode, we discuss: *bribes vs rewards *why I don't use bribes *how I use rewards (with examples) *how to utilize age/child appropriate expectations to decrease needing to rely on bribery or consequences to get the desired behavior   Ep 59: Have you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help "fix" your child's behavior? 4 reasons why I believe they are unnecessary and ineffective...https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000583017029   1:1 coaching options, free resources, and courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Connect with me through email [email protected] or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher  

Today, I wanted to ask you a simple question to get you thinking about where you are going to for advice and guidance first. Coaches, teachers, podcasts, books, are all great resources, but there's only One who knows exactly what you need and can guide you in the direction that's best for you and your family. I hope this message blesses you!   Connect with me via email: [email protected] or DM me over on IG @kaili.zeiher

I am a part of a few business broadcast channels on IG and I got a message a couple weeks ago talking about the bare minimum or baseline standard for what you would do each day to keep your business moving forward, for establishing a consistent foundation. I thought this was also really pertinent to managing triggers... ‘if you don’t set a baseline standard for what you’ll accept in life, you’ll find it’s easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve." Anthony Robbins Today, I share what a baseline standard for trigger management might look like and give you some examples of how to create your own to help create a stronger foundation for maintaining your control during heated situations.   If you want to get more help with triggers, check out my Regulation Reboot class starting next week: https://stan.store/KJZ112815/p/mommy-management   Connect with me through email [email protected] or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher  

While this way of parenting has been completely transformative for me and my family in SO many ways, that doesn't mean it has always come easy. Sometimes the challenges we face can make us question if this way is really the best way. It can also be discouraging if we aren't seeing the results we are expecting at the rate at which we are expecting them.   Today, I wanted to share 5 pieces of advice I have, after practicing this style of parenting DAILY for 3 years in hopes it can be an encouragement to any mom (dad, caregiver, etc) who is either just starting or who has fallen off and wants to get back into it.   If you have any other things you'd add, I'd love if you'd share! You can share by emailing me [email protected] or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher   Check out the 4 part webinar coming in November to help you identify, manage, and resolve your triggers! Details here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815/p/mommy-management  

I'm guessing you've heard people talk about and maybe even felt like you've lost yourself in motherhood. And while there can definitely be truth to that, today I want to share the perspective that we actually don't lose ourselves in motherhood. Instead, it can be the exact place where we find who we were created to be.   1:1 Coaching, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to [email protected]. That's it!   Connect with me here: Email - [email protected] IG - @kaili.zeiher

Most of the time we address the behavior we see; it's much easier and honestly, just comes naturally.  However, if we really want to see behavior shifts we need to get to the deeper rooted issue and find out what is really going on at a heart level so we can make consistent change. Today, I wanted to share with you a question framework that will help you do this with your child, no matter the age! Well, they do have to have fairly good communication skills.   https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ (click on the post that says "notice your nervous system start to calm")   1:1 Coaching, Ask Your Question, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to [email protected]. That's it!   Connect with me here: Email - [email protected] IG - @kaili.zeiher

Last weekend in church the pastor was talking about the 5th commandment: Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.   He prompted us as parents to reflect on what we are commanding (or instructing) our kids....is it because the behavior truly needs to be corrected, a heart issue, or is it because we are getting frustrated or annoyed?   1:1 Coaching 50% off in preparation for the holidays!! [October 17th, 2024 - October 21st, 2024!!] DM or email me to take advantage!   1:1 Coaching, Ask Your Question, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Connect with me here: Email - [email protected] IG - @kaili.zeiher

Do you have a child who cries frequently or who will go through days where he/she starts and stops all day long?? Then this is the episode for you!   Tune in as we chat through my favorite listening tool: Stay Listening   1:1 Coaching 50% off in preparation for the holidays!! [October 17th, 2024 - October 21st, 2024!!] DM or email me to take advantage!   Get the free step by step guide to Stay Listening here: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/nyew59ydnf   Episode 20: Are you really ok with the crying? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255 Episode 55: “I don’t want to mess up my kids.” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000581529227   1:1 Coaching, Ask Your Question, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Connect with me here: Email [email protected] IG - @kaili.zeiher

Faith and my spiritual growth has a lot to do with how I am able to consistently incorporate this style of parenting. One of the things that has bothered me most is seeing christian influencers on IG share how this way of parenting is unbiblical. And while they, of course, are entitled to their own opinion, I think most often they don't truly understand what is behind. this way of parenting.    I have had a lot of feedback thanking me for sharing this unpopular opinion because others are feeling it too. I've also worked with several families struggling to know how faith and connected/gentle parenting all work together. So I thought it was time to create a new series on the podcast called Friday Fruit. I am going to share my personal experience with faith and parenting. **Reminder, I am not a theologian and I do not have any biblical degree. I'm just a mom who wants her kids to grow up knowing and loving the Lord all while trying my best to glorify Him in the process.   This week's episode is brought to you by Matthew 7:3 Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?    1:1 Coaching, Ask Your Question, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Connect with me here: Email - [email protected] IG - @kaili.zeiher

Do you ever find yourself struggling with your mood? Like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Or the day started off well but then you got triggered by something your child did or said? You want to shift back into fun, joyful, playful, connection but it just feels hard...maybe even impossible. Today, I share 5 simple ways you can create that shift AND do it with your kids - I don't know about you but I don't often have the opportunity to just have a lengthy break or leave the house on my own - and honestly, it's more fun with your kids included too!   Dance party button: https://30sdp.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAkKqsBhC3ARIsAEEjuJhvVjtdyQh31a8YFx_2J5X3PSAx_Vxfkp6vHHmsd2NlQ-JzmjnXXvwaAvdrEALw_wcB   1:1 Coaching, Ask Your Question, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815   Connect with me here: Email - [email protected] IG - @kaili.zeiher

Today, I thought it would be fun to share with you a little peek into my parenting.    Spoiler alert! No matter how much someone is trained, practices what they teach, knows their stuff, etc, etc they are STILL human and the STILL need to make shifts and adjustments. That is what I want to share with you today. Some of my personal experience with a nagging behavior that has been happening here and the 3 steps I take to make changes when needed.   Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to [email protected]. That's it!   I'd love to hear from you and connect! Email me and let's chat! [email protected]   For more info re: 1:1 coaching options on a budget and other ways to receive support, click here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815.  

Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to [email protected]. That's it!   Do you ever struggle with what you should say to your child? Maybe it's during a meltdown or a difficult situation and you want your child to feel heard and validated.    Have you seen the posts all over IG and FB telling you what to say when...?   Today, I'm here to tell you while it can feel like a good starting point, you don't need any scripts because: 1. You likely won't remember them anyway 2. There won't be a post/script about every situation you encounter.   Tune in to hear how you can use this one simple strategy, conversation, to determine what the "right" thing to say is for whatever situation, scenario, or behavior you encounter!   I'd love to hear from you and connect! Email me and let's chat! [email protected]   For more info re: 1:1 coaching options on a budget and other ways to receive support, click here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815.    

Hey there, I'm so excited to announce that the Chaos to Connected podcast is coming back!!!  I took a break about 6 months ago and had no idea whether I'd be back or not, but I'm making some big pivots and wanted to share them with you today. New episodes will begin airing in September when I re-launch, but in the meantime I would LOVE to hear from you! What questions do you have? What topics do you want to deep dive into? What's your biggest struggle right now? I also wanted to do something fun before episodes resume; if you write a review over on apple podcasts, take a screen shot and send it to me ([email protected]) I am going to send you my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behaviors course for FREE! (currently $197) This course dives into why physical behaviors are actually occurring, gives you a step by step guide on what to actually do about them, and FAQs that families have consistently asked me to help you even more!  And you can, of course, binge past episodes. I'm going to be doing some extra fun things inside of my emails too because I really want to be able to create more community and a place where you feel safe and seen. So if you'd like to subscribe and get weekly insights, encouragement reminders, AND bonus sneak peaks/mini coaching insights and be the first to actually hear the podcasts each week, you can do so here: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/cvuin24b94 For more info re: 1:1 coaching options on a budget and other ways to receive support, click here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815. I can't wait to be back each week walking this motherhood journey with you! XO Kaili

It can be really easy, especially when you are parenting a child who is struggling with behavior or lots of strong emotions, to forget that your child is just a mini version of you. While life experience and higher level executive functioning skills aren't the same, the way the brain processes and responds to hurts is. It can be easy to forget this when you are triggered from behavior so today, I want to share how parents/caregivers are more like their child than not.   Ep on Apologizing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000613660033   Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

One of the most common questions I get asked is what types of deep input activities I would recommend for a child who acts or plays aggressively (hitting, kicking, throwing, etc). Previously, I would go into detail on how to incorporate into a sensory diet, but now, through additional training and experience I recognize that this alone isn't the answer.   Today, I share how sensory processing works and how to bridge the gap effectively AND efficiently between the behaviors you are seeing and improved regulation!   *If you have any questions as to if your child has a true sensory processing disorder, email me or seek out a local OT for assessment.   Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

If you're a mom to more than one child you've probably experienced one child's excitement over a birthday while another child was less than happy about it. Having to wait for all of the attention and presents can be a big challenge for kids and it does matter how you handle it. If you are someone that gets the other child a present too or you wonder if that's the "right" thing to do, I wanted to shed some connection focused perspective light on the situation!   Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63   Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Do you ever feel like the attitudes, the whining, and the fighting sometimes just really over take your entire home? That's how I felt 2 weeks ago. I decided something needed to change and I discovered ONE thing that makes all the difference. We moved from constant sibling fighting, frequent whining, hitting/kicking/pinching to try and solve problems, and me feeling a lot of annoyance, anger, and frequently triggered to so much peace, more self control and regulation, and best of all more fun and enjoyment just being together! Today I dive into what changed and how you can replicate it in your home too!   Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Last week, I asked what was the hardest thing about connection focused parenting; one of the responses I received was that when feeling exhausted it was especially hard to try to respond to behaviors positively or with connection.   I. Hear. That.!!!   Today, I wanted to share what to do if you're finding yourself in this same situation...and you might be surprised by my recommendation!   If this episode, or any episode you've previously listened to you has blessed or helped you, would you be willing to go and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts? I know mommas all over the world are searching for tangible, simple strategies to help improve behavior without using punishments, rewards, and manipulation to achieve it. Your willingness to take a minute to share will help other mommas find this information easier!   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Do your kids struggle to get along? It can be really disheartening, patience testing, and frustrating when your kids just can't seem to figure out how to play together for 5 minutes! But the good news?! You can help! Today, I dive into 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict in a connection focused way that will help model and reinforce this approach for them in future scenarios that involve disagreements!   If you have found this episode, or any episode, helpful, I'd love if you'd be willing to take just 1 minute and go leave a rating or review!   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

There is so much out there when it comes to how you "should" respond to your child's behavior or the "right" thing to say for xyz situation. But who can remember all of that?   Plus, what if said account or expert never told you what to do for the specific situation you are dealing with? Let the panic set in!   No, don't do that.   Instead, listen in today as I share one piece of advice that will transcend all behaviors and situations to help you figure out what it is that feels aligned with how YOU want to manage whatever attitude or button pushing behavior comes your way! No scripts needed!   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

One of the biggest challenges I continue to hear over and over from moms is that the behavior can be a struggle, yes, but overall it's figuring out how to stay calm through that behavior that poses the biggest obstacle.   Today, I wanted to share some insights with you! If you are aware of what your triggers are but haven't yet processed them, or even know how to do that, I am walking you through the 4 things I have done (and still occasionally do) to help me come with more love, empathy, and understanding to those challenging and button pushing behaviors.   I was reading a book recently and the author talked about ruts and trenches. The ruts being our automatic responses; your reaction to your child (one you likely feel guilty or upset about later but can't seem to change). The trenches being your conscious choice to do something different. A rut is something you get stuck in but a trench is something you dig. Let's start digging those trenches!!   And if you want some help and encouragement along the way, join my monthly membership The Motherhood CONNECTION: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66   Affiliate link (25% off) for oil + capsule: https://doterra.me/H1ZS3U   Magnesium: https://www.pureencapsulationspro.com/magnesium-glycinate.html?size=90%20capsules   XO Kaili

I hosted a challenge last weekend called 3 Building Blocks to Better Behavior and it was so much fun! If you weren't able to join and you want to get the replays + resources, send me an email or DM me over on IG. Only available through January 21st!   Today, I wanted to share one of those trainings with you because I think it's a key factor in your child's ability to learn to self-regulate (well, they all are, but this one I think is very misunderstood).    Tune in as I walk you through the progression of a child learning to regulate and how you can actually, successfully begin the process of teaching your child how to adjust his/her regulation based on state of arousal and taking into consideration his/her unique sensory preferences.   The Motherhood CONNECTION: a monthly membership for moms who want to break generational patterning, parent from connection, and have the support of other moms in the trenches. (first 10 receive a FREE behavior strategy call; $50 off through January 31st!) https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Happy New Year!    Even though everyone is talking about goals and resolutions for the new year I do think it's a great natural time to evaluate a few things in motherhood...   *how do you feel like you're managing your triggers? *are you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, and/or struggling regularly with more frustration than enjoyment in motherhood? *is your child struggling with behavior or attitude? *do you feel like you are connecting regularly with your child? or is it lacking because your schedule is really busy? *does your home feel chaotic? *do you feel like you have good rhythms in place? *are you regularly practicing soul care vs only selfcare?   Tune in today as I chat what we are going to be focusing on this year!   Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Do you ever feel like sometimes you'd just rather not go and do the things because you know the behavior that will happen afterwards?  Or do you ever struggle to know what to do when your child has a tantrum in the middle of the holiday gathering? Or do you find it really challenging to manage your child's behaviors and your responses to them when you are also overwhelmed or overtired? Today, I talk through 3 strategies, tips, and perspective shifts you can rely on during these times of heightened excitement and stimulation to combat that holiday behavior hangover. If you enjoyed this episode or found it helpful, I'd love if you would take a minute to leave a rating and review!    3 Ways You Might Be Unintentionally Stopping Your Child From Releasing Big Feelings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255   Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t   Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com   Schedule a behavior strategy call here: https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Today, my chat with Maureen from Yes Peas Nutrition continues!   We cover: -strategies to make meal planning and meal prep less overwhelming -tips to encourage your child to eat a wider variety of food during your meal planning and prep -holiday food -navigating sugar with your child(ren) during the holidays **and MORE!   Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/ Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1 Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/  ______________________ Free 3 Day Behavior Challenge: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/v2dcr5625t   Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com   Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Do you ever struggle with a child who refuses to eat what you've made for supper?  Have you tried the..."eat x amount of bites before you can..." either have more of something already finished or something else entirely? Today, I chat with Maureen, a mom and nutritionist who breaks down mealtimes for us in a way that perfectly parallels the way in which I encourage you to respond to behaviors...with safety and connection. Tune in as she talks about the normal "picky eating" phase of development, tips and strategies to implement, and how to navigate it all while helping your child create a healthy relationship with food!   Find her at: @yespeasnutrition over on IG or her website: https://www.yespeasnutrition.com/ Grab her free resource - 5 Tips for Busy Parents: Decrease Stress and Increase Family Connection When Making Meals From Home here: https://pages.maureenclilly.com/guide-1 Join her facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1088016261913914/  ______________________ Chaos to Calm mini course: A Step by Step Guide to Aggressive/Physical Behaviors https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com   Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Have you heard of Elf on the Shelf??  What am I saying? Of course you have!  Are you currently doing it? Or Shepherd on the Search? Last year, my thoughts were completely different so today I wanted to dive into the topic a little further. Tune in as I share 2 things you should stay away from if you are going to participate! As well as modifications if you are needing something extra simple this year!   Are you using Santa to manipulate behavior? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000589024177   Google doc with ideas: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1aytCkf_KlB0i7L9RxuSfYpS_X-MiDPeI0QvOInfgAOg/edit?usp=sharing   Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com   Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or [email protected].   XO Kaili

If you're like me, you are in a current season of motherhood overwhelm; whether it's due to behaviors or life circumstances there are a few strategies I've been working on implementing that I hope will bless you too!   Do you have any other recommendations? Share them here: [email protected]   Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com   Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/    XO Kaili

Timeouts are such a common practice when parents are trying to get their kids to listen; I would even venture to guess it's a recommendation from professionals and something regularly talked about as a helpful behavior strategy on the internet.   But, did you know that sending your child off to a timeout is creating more disconnection. When there is disconnection, your child's "thinking" brain is inaccessible. This creates MORE of the unwanted behavior.   Instead, get CONNECTED! Connection = better behavior.   Tune in today as I share your child's perspective on timeouts and 2 strategies you can utilize instead that creates connection.   Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com   Stay Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011   Are you really okay with crying episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255   Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

If you need a step by step guide to (nearly) eliminating your child's aggressive/physical behaviors, check the show notes. If you're not ready to jump all in or you don't feel like you can maintain your cool, try the strategy I share about in today's episode. It may push you outside of your comfort zone or the societal norm for managing this kind of behavior, but I guarantee you'll get results AND it's fun! It builds connection, helps process emotions/big feelings and improves behavior!   Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist! Add your email here: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk   Flip the Switch Ideas: file:///Users/kailizeiher/Downloads/FLIPTHESWITCH%20(1).pdf   Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili    

Do you struggle to bring your child out in public because he/she runs from you?  Do you get frustrated and try to utilize manipulation strategies (consequences/threats, bribes) to get the behavior you want and find it doesn't work? Or not consistently anyway? Have you or have you thought about buying a "leash" for your child because you just need to be sure your child is safe while you are out in a parking lot or public space? If you said yes to any of these, then be sure to tune in to today's episode; I walk you through a step by step process of what to do if you have a runner.  Plus, you will get 2 BONUS tips that will help your child develop impulse control and safety awareness.   Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist! Add your email here: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk   Want to schedule an info call and see if 1:1 coaching is right for you?? https://calendly.com/kjzeiher/behavior-call   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Tune in today as I answer your questions!   We chat about: *when the calming strategies don't seem to be helping *how to support a child through big feelings when you have other children around *what to do when a child is melting down everyday after daycare *aggressive behaviors *a child who is overly attached to one parent over the other   If you have a question you'd like answered, email it to me at [email protected]   Aggression Mini Course waitlist -- join waitlist and you will have the opportunity for a FREE week of voxer following purchase of the course! only available to those on the waitlist! Add your email here: https://lively-acorn-593.myflodesk.com/izgtp1vnyk   Calming strategies episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000569255920   Calming spaces episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000569655067   Stay listening episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011   Aggression episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000562812304   Special time episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000550595812   XO Kaili

If you like birth stories, tune in today as I share our 3rd child (and first girl), Luella's brith story!   In case you missed them, here are the birth stories of my boys: Myles' Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000595792704   Huxton's Birth Story: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000600263314   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

When your child's behavior feels like a lot or you are feeling really chaotic and possibly even triggered, I think the natural inclination is to exert your authority in ways you might not normally because you are in need of more control.   When you want to gain more control over your child's meltdowns that often comes in the form of more talking. But, that's usually not going to get you anywhere...am I right?!   When your child is dysregulated - whether because they have done something you would deem disobedient, wrong, etc OR because they are just really struggling with big feelings it is a natural response to try and help them by spouting out a solution, ways to problem solve, or even trying to distract them and move on to something else.   Well, when a child is already overwhelmed, that is actually just adding to it. He/she can't take in the information you are sharing, even if it's calm, because the "thinking" brain is inaccessible. What they need in those moments is more listening and less talking.   Tune in today as I share 2 times when I think this is incredibly important and how you can be on the lookout for how you tend to respond and strategies to adjust if needed.   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

When I was struggling with my child's intense behavior, I was looking for all of the ways to "fix" it. As I was searching, I came to find that a lot of my patterning and conditioning impacted SO much of my parenting and how I came to my child's behavior.   So many moms have told me they struggle more with managing their own triggers than dealing with the behavior. If this sounds like you, join me as I chat with Michelle from the Calm Mom podcast today!   Michelle is a certified trauma- informed master life coach, attorney, professor, wife and mom. With everything she had going on in her life, she realized she was on a fast track to burnout and knew she needed to adjust. Now she uses her knowledge to help other moms in the trenches learn how to regulate their nervous systems, set boundaries, see their worthiness, understand true self care, and equips them with tools, tips, and strategies to create a life designed by faith over fear.   Tune in to hear all of the amazing tips and strategies she shares to regulate your nervous system first so you can come to any and all of your roles with more intention.   Connect more with her here:   https://michellegrosser.com/quiz   https://michellegrosser.com/regulate   Checkout her podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-calm-mom-mindset-nervous-system-self-care-burnout/id1621946084   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Laura is a wife and mama to 10 amazing people. She is the founder of Mama Systems, a coaching business that helps mamas bring peace to their homes through systems so they can be intentional with their people and show up as the best mama possible.    Ways to Connect with Laura: www.mamasystems.net www.instagram.com/mamasystems www.facebook.com/mamasystems.net https://www.mamasystems.net/advocate-like-a-mama https://www.mamasystems.net/chaostoconnected   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

The morning of the day I recorded this episode was just one of those days...do you know what I'm talking about? When every time you turn your back your kids are fighting or a meltdown starts...   Well let's just say I didn't handle it as well as I usually do. I was majorly triggered. And despite knowing I was doing things, like yelling, that I hate doing and didn't want to do, I just couldn't help myself.   Despite practicing connection strategies DAILY for years, this still happens to me occasionally. And it's NORMAL. We are humans for goodness sake.   But, although it is normal because emotions can get the best of us and patterning can overcome us and triggers can take the driver's seat, it doesn't mean we sit back and do nothing.   When this occurs, it is vital that you take steps to repair the connection with your child so you aren't repeating generational patterning and so you can re-establish connection which will produce better results in keeping challenging or intense behaviors at bay.   Tune in as I share 5 steps in the repairing connection process!   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Has your child ever had a public, in the middle of the aisle tantrum? Did you feel judged? Embarrassed? Unsure of what to do?  Today I share 3 ways to respond when this happens; the responses are based on where you're at on this connection focused parent journey as well as where you're at on the being triggered spectrum.   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili  

Is your child back in school or daycare? Or heading back to school or daycare soon? Maybe you are starting a year of homeschool? With a big transition like this, children often have an uptick in behavior.  Today, I dive into 4 tips that will help make this transition as smooth as possible and with less behavior challenges. Even if you aren't heading into a school year because your littles aren't school age yet, there are still some great tips that are applicable to other situations you will inevitably encounter.   Episode on Separation Anxiety: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000577431491   Episode on Stay Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011   Episode on Special Time: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b44-06dd-3cc2-8415-ef33cf170549   Want more info on my customized 1:1 coaching? Check out this page for all of the details: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62e3ebe99833d236a3da4120   Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or if you'd prefer email at [email protected].   XO Kaili