Don't Let The Old Man In

This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Dan Foster, CEO of The Centre For Men and Families, to unpack the problems men are facing in the transition to midlife and why so many men feel unfulfilled. In this special follow-up episode, host Pod O'Sullivan shares the top things he wants our listeners to take away from Dan Foster's episode, and provides three actions you can do at home to take his wisdom on board. Watch the full episode with Dan Foster: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmaninSubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dan Foster is the CEO of the Centre for Men and Families, a rites of passage organisation heavily influenced by the work of Richard Rohr. After spending years in ministry and theology, Dan found himself in the middle of his own midlife deconstruction — which is exactly where his work now lives. The Centre runs two programs: one for young men navigating the first half of life, and one for men in midlife and beyond who've ticked all the boxes and still feel the ache.This conversation is for every man who's hit 40, 45, or 50 and quietly wondered — is this all there is? It's also for the man who's been carrying something for decades and hasn't yet found a safe enough place to put it down.Books mentioned:Adam's Return by Richard RohrIron John by Robert BlyFalling Upward by Richard RohrAlso referenced:Poetry of David Whyte and RumiDocumentary: The ManosphereBruce Springsteen on "trying to get home to a home he never had"Other men's work mentioned:Men's Tables — David PontinMen's Circles UK — Pascoe AshtonMongrels Men Sydney — Tim HoustonConnect with Dan Foster & the Centre for Men and Families: [centreformenandfamilies.com]00:00 — Intro & Welcome02:35 — Richard Rohr, Adam's Return, and the 5 Hard Truths07:14 — You're not in control — and why that's actually good news08:27 — Mens Programs - Forged (18–30) and Men's Rite of Passage (30+)15:05 — Why rituals work — the 3 reasons men open up20:25 — Men communicate better side by side — fire, circles, and brotherhood24:44 — What men actually leave with: relief, peace, self-acceptance31:36 — The manosphere, elders, and what young men are really hungry for41:39 — Whatever you don't process, you project Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Earlier this week, we sat down with longevity educator and author Professor Scott Fulton to discover the top secrets about improving your healthspan that most people will never know about. In this follow-up episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, host Pod O'Sullivan reflects on the key lessons from Scott's years of expertise, and provides you with the three things you can take with you into your own life. Watch the full interview with Scott Fulton here: https://youtu.be/8MyxAgoS5-gLet us know what topic you'd like us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Professor Scott Fulton is a research engineer turned functional health span expert, author of the #1 bestselling book Function, and chair of the National Aging and Place Council in the US. After a career troubleshooting complex systems across industries, Scott turned his engineering mind to the one system nobody was looking at properly: the aging human body. His work draws on over 700,000 participants and 10 million person-years of data to answer a question most men don't think to ask until it's too late: what will actually determine how well you function in the second half of your life?This conversation is for every man over 40 who thinks being fit means being healthy. It's also for the man who's never tested his balance, flexibility, or reaction time, and doesn't yet know that one of those is quietly becoming his weak link.Book mentioned: Function by Scott Fulton — available now, currently #1 bestsellerConnect with Scott Fulton: scottfulton.ca00:30 — Why You Should Listen04:28 — Why Runners Can't Walk: The Biomechanics Explained09:34 — The Statistic That Will Change How You Walk Today13:10 — Falls Aren't a Strength Problem — They're a Reaction Time Problem16:39 — The 5 Domains of Functional Health Span21:42 — If You Don't Demand It, You'll Lose It26:12 — The Top 4 Self-Assessments to Do This Week35:28 — Why Disease Is Not Your Biggest Threat — Function Is (2:1)40:04 — Why Men Lose Their Social Network the Day They Retire48:18 — What Your 80-Year-Old Self Is Asking of You Right Now Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Earlier this week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we spoke with menopause educator and researcher Thea O'Connor to discuss what you need to know about menopause, including how this turbulent time can put a strain on your relationship. In this follow-up episode, host Pod O'Sullivan is breaking down the best parts of Thea's interview and distilling the exact ways you can implement her advice. Check out the full interview with Thea O'Connor here: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmaninSubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/Follow us on social media: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thea O'Connor is a menopause educator, workplace consultant, and researcher who has spent years doing what almost nobody else was doing — talking to men about their experience of menopause. After her own disorienting perimenopause journey derailed what she'd planned as her "power decade," she went public on national radio in 2018 at considerable professional risk. What followed was a body of work that now reaches boardrooms, Senate inquiries, and international standards organisations.This conversation is for every man who has ever felt confused, rejected, helpless, or like he was spending a lot of time in the doghouse without knowing why. It's also for the women in their lives who want them to understand.Resources MentionedAustralasian Menopause Society — directory of menopause-informed doctorsThe Orca Effect — Thea's program for women navigating menopause in the workplaceThea's men and menopause survey — link in show notes and newsletterElizabeth Cady Stanton — American suffragist quoted by Thea: "We shall not be in our prime before 50, and after that we shall be good for 20 years at least."Connect with Thea O'Connor 🌐 Website /survey: https://www.thea.com.au/Timestamped Overview00:26 — Why Every Man Needs to Hear This02:03 — Thea's Own Menopause Derailed Her Power Decade03:12 — Why She Went Public at Professional Risk05:06 — What Menopause Actually Is — The Basics07:27 — The Symptoms Men Miss or Misread09:28 — Dishwasher Rage — And What It Really Means10:30 — How a Man's Attitude Affects Her Symptoms14:39 — What Men Misinterpret as Personal Rejection18:07 — What Men Actually Said in Thea's Interviews19:53 — You're Still Allowed to Set Standards22:47 — Menopause in the Workplace — The Manager's Role29:13 — Orca Whales & Why Menopause Is a Promotion35:16 — Fixing Hormones Won't Fix a Bad Marriage38:34 — How Thea Feels as a Post-Menopausal Woman40:48 — Final Words: Embrace the Change Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Earlier this week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Kerri Sackville to explore the world of dating in midlife, including all the nuances and common mistakes that men make when jumping back into the dating scene. In this follow-up Actions episode, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down the 3 most valuable lessons form his conversation with Kerri, and tells you exactly how you can make them work for you. Watch the full episode with Kerri Sackville here: https://youtu.be/udlgHdnMiDkListen to us as a podcast: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Kerri Sackville, author of Out There: A Survival Guide to Dating In Midlife, to unpack the truth about navigating relationships and dating in the next stage of life. We discuss the power of solitude, why people return to dating before they're ready, how to manage your own baggage, and the challenges men in particular face. Suggest a topic for us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/In this episode, we cover:Why dating after divorce demands emotional robustnessThe difference between loneliness and solitude (and why it matters)Why men so often lack emotional support networks post-separationRed flags that reveal themselves on the very first dateHow to build a relationship with yourself before seeking one with someone elseThe honesty test: why it solves 90% of dating problemsWhat midlife dating actually looks like ... without the sugar-coatingCHAPTERS:00:00 Navigating Emotional Needs Post-Separation05:47 The Dynamics of Dating in Midlife11:55 Honesty and Boundaries in Dating17:45 Lessons Learned from the Dating Scene25:18 The Essence of Relationships27:12 The Fear of Solitude30:29 Transformative Alone Time32:30 Self-Discovery Through Solitude36:29 The Impact of Social Media38:10 Understanding Solitude vs. Loneliness39:59 Practical Steps to Embrace Solitude42:11 The Role of Purpose in Life45:01 Navigating Loneliness and Grief48:08 Accepting Aging and Life's Cycles50:27 Finding Meaning in Good MomentsListen to this episode as a podcast: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Earlier this week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Aneace Haddad to unpack the myth of the midlife crisis, the four stages of adulthood, as well as the newfound "superpowers" that people have access to once they reach midlife. In this special follow-up episode of DLTOMI, host Pod O'Sullivan is sharing the key lessons from his conversation with Aneace and the exact ways you can add these to your daily life. The best parts from this week's episode, all in one short video. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is the "midlife crisis" really our most powerful transformation yet?Former tech entrepreneur turned executive coach Aneace Haddad joins the show to unpack the 3 stages of adulthood, the winds of change that drive midlife transformation, and the hidden strengths that emerge as you enter your next chapter. If you're a man over 40 feeling the ground shift beneath you, this conversation will change how you see the midlife "crisis". In this episode:Why your brain in midlife is actually becoming more powerful (not less)The "happiness curve" and why 47 is often the lowest point before things get betterHow to let go of old identities without losing yourselfThe "Who will I be at 100?" practice for finding your North StarWhy midlife reinvention isn't about starting over, it's about becoming who you always wereWhether you're navigating a career shift, questioning your purpose, or just feeling the weight of change, this one's for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with David Pointon, CEO of Men's Table, to hear about the power of vulnerability in finding fulfilling community. In this special Actions episode of the podcast, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down the key wisdoms from David Pointon and tells you exactly what you can do to make a change in your life. Watch the full episode with David Pointon: https://youtu.be/4vv69UddZpISubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why are so many men emotionally alone, even when surrounded by people? In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with David Pointon, founder of Men's Table, to explore how giving men a space to be heard can change their lives entirely. Suggest a topic you want us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/In this episode, you'll discover:Why most midlife men feel something is missing, even when life looks fine from the outsideThe simple monthly format that creates deeper friendships than 25 years with your golfing buddyWhy "banter" isn't the same as real connection, and what it's costing menThe concept of caring connection and why it's the most powerful antidote to toxic masculinityHow one man's willingness to open up can unlock an entire roomThe ripple effect: how men showing up for themselves transforms their relationships and familiesDavid's own story of marriage, separation, and how men's work helped him reset everything Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we got to sit down with relationship expert and intimacy coach Tanya Koens to dive deep into the biggest issues facing couples as they enter midlife, and how we can work with our partners to get the most satisfaction out of our love lives. Tanya has years of experience and provided several fascinating insights from her career, many of which have really stuck with us ever since. In this special Actions episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we're looking back at our conversation with Tanya to identify the most powerful pieces of wisdom she shared with us, how you can implement it in your own life, and why the science says it works. Listen to our conversation with Tanya Koens: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tanya Koens is a leading sexologist, somatic sex therapist, and self-described "pleasure activist". In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Tanya to explore what sex and intimacy really look like in your 40s, 50s, and 60s. Whether you're navigating mismatched libido, adjusting to an aging body, or stepping back into dating after a long-term relationship, Tanya brings warmth, expertise, and zero judgement to the conversation.Suggest a topic you'd like us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/In this episode, we cover:Why libido after 40 isn't what most people expect (and why that's actually good news)The truth about mismatched libido — and how to talk about it without it turning into a fightSpontaneous vs. responsive desire: what the difference means for your relationshipHow to "schedule" sex in a way that actually keeps the spark aliveNavigating intimacy and dating after 50 — including the new rules around consentThe impact of pornography on sexual expectationsWhy curiosity, kindness, and generosity are the foundation of great sexual health at any age Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most men that suffer childhood trauma don't disclose it to others for decades of their life, or decide not to disclose it at all. This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, James Elliott shares how his own trauma shaped his toxic work ethic, and how it took him 21 years to look inside and make a change. Plus, we discuss James' recent work with NASA and how his team is shaping the future of medicine. We talk about:How trauma shapes overachievement and perfectionismThe difference between "being a man" and becoming oneChildhood trauma healing — and why disclosure is so hardHis path through EMDR therapy and how it worksWhat his work with NASA reveals about the human body under stressThe African proverb that shifted his entire leadership philosophyWhy community — not achievement — is the foundation of happiness Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On Don't Let the Old Man In, we often discuss how men can set themselves up to have healthy, sustainable lives as they transition into midlife. Earlier this week, we sat down with longevity specialist Dr Jenifer Luman to discuss just that. This special episode takes the best insights from our conversation with Jenifer and breaks it down for you to get the most out of her experience. We discuss:Getting the blood test your doctor probably hasn't ordered for youHow to properly understand andropauseMeasuring exactly what your body is made ofPlanning for your marginal decades. Listen, learn and share with your community. Visit our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Suggest a topic for us to cover next: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with longevity expert Dr Jennifer Luman to unpack healthy aging, the blood test your doctor needs to give you, the importance of safe Testosterone Replacement Therapy, and Jennifer's unique stint as a Nike-sponsored athlete ... plus much more. In this episode, we cover: The Crisis of Reactive HealthcareUnderstanding Longevity and Men's HealthThe Importance of Early InterventionThe Gradual Decline of TestosteroneThe Role of Testosterone in Men's HealthPersonalized Health Testing and BiomarkersOptimizing Health for LongevityThe Future of Personalized HealthcareTestosterone Replacement Therapy: A Double-Edged SwordAndropause: The Silent DeclineThe Journey to Longevity MedicineCelebrating Milestones and Personal GrowthTransitioning to Medicine 3.0The New Age of Preventative HealthcareThe Biohacker Community and Health OptimizationUnderstanding Health Choices and ConsequencesThe Impact of Environment on Health ChoicesFrom Olympic Aspirations to Medical CareerDisaster Recovery and Human ResilienceReflections on Health and Future ChoicesLet us know what topics we should cover next: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/resources/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most men in midlife have fewer close friends than they think. Research shows the average man has just 2. Two people he could truly confide in. For many, it's even less than that.In this follow-up episode, we break down the 3 most powerful takeaways from our conversation with Pasco Ashton, founder of Men's Circles and one of the leading voices in men's personal development. 3 simple, actionable steps any man can take this week to level up his relationships and start building the connections that actually matter.In this episode, you'll discover:The Friend Audit — How to take honest stock of how many people you can truly confide in, and why most men are shocked by the answerThe Side-By-Side Method — Why men open up more easily when they're not face-to-face, and how to use everyday activities to spark the real conversationsThe Power of "I Don't Know" — Why admitting uncertainty is one of the most trust-building things a man can say, and how it transforms male friendships overnightThese are three practical moves, grounded in years of Pasco's work with men's circles across the world, that you can start today.Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the key to men's mental health isn't therapy, but community? Pasco Ashton, founder of Men's Circle and former journalist for Al Jazeera and Vice, joins us to reveal why men's mental fitness starts with the people around them. With Men's Circles now operating across multiple continents and expanding into the US and Asia, Pasco has trained and supervised hundreds of facilitators, helping thousands of men move from isolation to authentic connection. In this expert conversation, he breaks down exactly why men struggle to open up, what the research says about male friendship, and the proven framework he's developed over years of community leadership.'In this episode, you'll discover:Why men's mental health is a community problem — not an individual oneThe "mental fitness gym" framework that's helping men across the world open upWhy "brave spaces" work better than "safe spaces" for menThe 3-stage Men's Circles model (Awareness → Acceptance → Action) and how to apply itHow intergenerational connection is the missing ingredient in modern masculinityWhy admitting fault is the most powerful thing a man can do in any relationshipThe crucial difference between Men's Circles and the toxic "manosphere"Pasco's journey — from losing close friends to suicide, to becoming one of the leading voices in men's personal development — is as honest and raw as it is inspiring. If you've ever felt like you're carrying life's weight alone, this episode is essential listening.Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Earlier this week, we sat down with legendary Australian comedian and former radio host Merrick Watts to unpack his unique story of finding true purpose. Merrick told us everything, from a close call with depression to discovering self-acceptance on the road to SAS Australia, even up to his relationship with legacy and creating something to live on without him. Now, host Pod O'Sullivan is looking back on this profound episode and breaking down the things he found most impactful, giving you the best bang for your buck on what you can do in your own life. He's even got a few experiments for you to try at home. Watch the full episode with Merrick Watts on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/7VME41npDH0?si=lJT-BrMsEUO1R7TKSuggest a question or topic for us at our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when a man loses everything he thought defined him, and comes out the other side more himself than ever before? Australian comedian Merrick Watts joins Don't Let the Old Man In for one of the most honest conversations about midlife transformation we've ever had.From identity collapse after leaving radio, to a life-altering experience on SAS Australia, to discovering that his real purpose is "to be, not to do" — Merrick holds nothing back.This one's for every man navigating midlife who's ever asked: who am I outside of what I do?In this episode, we cover:Why the midlife identity crisis hits men harder than they expect — and how to survive itWhat SAS Australia actually does to a person (it's not what you think)The suffering and success connection — why avoiding pain is holding you back"Fame was the actor. Legacy is the director." — shifting from chasing recognition to building something that mattersFatherhood after 40 and why it's the greatest growth accelerator there isHow to find your purpose in midlife when everything you knew has changedThe philosophy of loss: "It's the price we pay for love"Why men's mental health in midlife starts with accepting — not fixing — who you areMerrick's current chapter: combining wine, comedy, and a refusal to slow downAbout Merrick Watts:Merrick Watts is an Australian comedian, radio broadcaster, actor, and SAS Australia participant whose career has spanned decades across some of Australia's most iconic media. Known for his sharp wit and disarming honesty, Merrick has spent the past several years quietly doing the most radical thing a man in midlife can do — growing.About Don't Let the Old Man In:Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we sat down with Naomi Cao to unpack her learnings about relationships from her role as a divorce coach. Naomi shared her own powerful divorce story, how she came to represent herself in federal court, and her advice for parents beginning the process of separating from their partners. In this special reflections episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, host Pod O'Sullivan looks back on his conversation with Naomi to discuss his biggest learnings from the episode, and provides some experiments for the audience at home to take onboard with them. Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you do when your marriage ends and you feel completely lost? Naomi Cao, separation coach and host of the Split Happens podcast, shares her raw, real story of rebuilding after divorce, self-representing in family court, and helping families split with grace.Naomi shares her own powerful healing journey post-divorce, and offers the wisdom she's picked up from helping couples navigate separation when children are involved. This is world-class advice from a professional in the field. If you're in midlife and are facing a separation of your own, you can't miss this episode.In this episode, we discuss:Navigating Relationship FailuresThe Shock of SeparationCoping with Family DynamicsThe Legal Maze of DivorceSelf-Representation in Family CourtTransforming Pain into PurposeThe Importance of CommunicationBuilding Trust in Difficult TimesFinancial Literacy and EmpowermentCreating a Cooperative Co-Parenting EnvironmentManaging Expectations in ParentingThe Importance of Involvement in ParentingNavigating Menopause and RelationshipsBuilding Social Connections Post-DivorceFinding Peace After SeparationA Framework for Moving ForwardPod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special reflections episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, host Pod O'Sullivan shares his biggest takeaways from our most recent interview with Peter Reek, author of Shift: 7 Mindsets For An Inspired Midlife. Pod explains each of the most meaningful lessons from his conversation with Peter, and breaks down a handful of experiments he'll be trying at home to dive even deeper – and invites you to do the same. Visit our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's episode, we tackle the very concept of the midlife crisis. In conversation with author Peter Reek, we dive deep into the social narratives around aging, how your mindset about getting older affects your lifespan, and unpack Peter's ways to fight back against internalised stigma. This episode explains why high-achieving men often struggle with personal honesty, and explore the crucial impact of our mindset on healthy aging and longevity. This week's interview is a crucial look at getting older, and what it means for men in midlife.In this episode, we explore:Rethinking Midlife: A New PerspectiveThe Power of Mindset in MidlifeNavigating Change: Personal Stories of TransformationUnderstanding Applied Positive PsychologyThe Importance of Self-HonestyShifts for a Fulfilling MidlifeRadical Acceptance: Embracing Your JourneyThe Role of Stillness in Personal GrowthThe Impact of Narrative IdentityThe Science of Aging: Positive vs. Negative PerspectivesThe Irony of Aging and MindsetGrieving Past Chapters vs. Embracing New OnesThe Importance of Connection in MidlifeAdventures and Community BuildingTaking Practical Steps Towards ChangeThe Power of Poetry in ReflectionLessons Learned in Community CreationVisit our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we spoke with Stephen Keys to discuss failure, responsibility and consequences that come with finding yourself in midlife. Stephen emphasized the critical need for self reflection and owning one's mistakes for their own personal development. In this special reflections episode, host Pod O'Sullivan reveals what key aspects he took away from his chat with Stephen Keys, and offers a handful of experiments based on Stephen's learnings for the audience at home to try out for themselves. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Stephen Keyes, a former CEO, to discuss the critical importance of owning one's mistakes and confronting life's challenges, especially when pursuing a reinvention. Stephen shares his personal reinvention journey, including the profound impact of his divorce, offering valuable life advice on how to overcome challenges in life. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating personal development and seeking personal growth through difficult times.In this episode we cover:Owning Your Mess: A Journey of Self-DiscoveryThe Pain of Divorce: A Personal PerspectiveNavigating Loneliness and Rebuilding RelationshipsVolunteering: Finding Purpose in ServiceCreating New Connections with ChildrenThe Importance of Community in MidlifeTransitioning from Success to Significance 20:14The Power of Collective ActionLessons from Volunteering: Giving BackRedefining Identity Through Community EngagementThe Power of Dignity in GivingRunning for a Cause: The Journey of an Ultra MarathonerThe Writer's Journey: Finding Voice and PurposeCareer Transitions: From CEO to CSR AdvocateBuilding the IFS Foundation: Community Impact and EducationThe Greatest Gift: Finding Meaning Beyond Career SuccessCreating Community: The Wisdom Vault and Midlife ConversationsIntegrating Life's Parts: A Journey of Self-DiscoveryFacing Complexity: The Hero's Journey in MidlifePod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's powerful episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we spoke with Craig Williams to explore the concept of mediocrity and the innate desire within human beings to strive for more than an average existence.In this follow up reflections episode, host Pod O'Sullivan offers his most crucial takeaways from their conversation and considers some experiments for our audiences to take Craig's wisdom onboard. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when your life crumbles, your career is gone, and your reputation is destroyed? This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Craig Williams, an elite royal marines sniper whose life came crumbling down after being sent to prison. Craig unpacks his natural talent for sharpshooting, the mistakes that led to his arrest, as well as his transformation into an extreme athlete by competing in ultramarathons, which saw him running 230km across the Arctic. This video explores facing complete ruin and the journey of rebuilding, as well as avoiding the trap most men fall into – settling for "mediocre".This episode covers:Craig's Military Service & CombatStruggles With Identity & Mental Health After The MilitaryThe Gunfight That Led To PrisonThe Post-Prison TransformationUltra Running & Life After PrisonCraig's Life Lessons & Philosophy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Mongrels Men founder Tim Hewson to discuss his struggle with depression, and unpacked how men in midlife struggle to form solid support networks for themselves. Now, our host Pod O'Sullivan is reflecting on this week's episode by giving you his biggest learnings from his conversation with Tim, as well as a handful of experiments to try out at home if you want to take this wisdom even further. If you're a man in midlife who is struggling with mental health or at a crossroads with navigating your social circle, this is the conversation you need to hear. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tim Hewson hid crippling panic attacks for 20 years, suffering in silence every single day. Then a divorce shattered the life he'd built, and everything came crashing down. In this week's episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Tim to have a raw and powerful conversation on men's mental health, Tim's own journey through isolation, and how he turned this dark chapter into a movement by founding the charity Mongrels Men. This episode covers:The "masculinity masks" that men wear. Tim's journey from high functioning depression to self-discovery.How divorce forced Tim to change. Defining self beyond work: the shift in identity.Navigating loneliness: the unique struggles of men.Fighting for fatherhood: balancing work and family.Mongrel Men and building male support networks. How team sports are the key to connectionsThe difference between Brave Spaces and Safe SpacesHis Story: A Platform for Men's Voicesand much more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Don't let the Old Man In, we sat down with one of our most accomplished guests yet. Matt Bunker is an ex-SAS elite soldier who has seen firsthand the extent of human courage. He opened up about overcoming an abusive childhood, transitioning from soldier to ER Nurse, and learning to start from square one again. In this reflection episode, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down his conversation with Matt, listing his biggest takeaways from this week's episode, as well as providing an experiment for you to take home Matt's wisdom. Watch the full episode with Matt Bunker here: https://youtu.be/iB5KEvAg56AFor more Don't Let the Old Man In, visit our website: dontlettheoldmanin.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when an elite SAS soldier walks away from the special forces to become an emergency nurse ... at 40? Matt Bunker's story is one of the most powerful conversations about midlife reinvention, men's mental health, and finding purpose we've ever had on this podcast.In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, Matt opens up about his dysfunctional childhood, the brutal reality of SAS selection, a devastating breakdown in 2019, and how he rebuilt his identity from the ground up.This conversation covers:- The reality of SAS selection and what it takes to pass- Why high-achieving men struggle with identity after leaving their career- How childhood trauma shaped his path (and how he broke the cycle)- The moment his wife told him the truth he needed to hear- Why nursing in a chaotic ED is the closest thing to military operations- Practical advice for any man facing a midlife career change- Matt's views on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) and men over 40's health Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we tackled the tough topic of marriage ending. Gillian Coote, one of Australia's most respected family law attorneys, offers invaluable divorce advice for men, helping them understand the challenges and navigate the path forward. She shares her personal divorce story, describing it as a devastating process, emphasizing how it can feel like having one's future and power taken away, leaving a broken heart in its wake. This special reflections episode includes Pod's thoughts on his conversation with Gillian, as well ways to incorporate her teachings into your own life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Divorce advice for men from a family lawyer who truly understands the male perspective. In this episode, family lawyer Gillian Coote explains why men rush divorce settlements, how to handle divorce grief, and the #1 mistake that can cost you your kids, your house, and your future.If you’re a man facing separation or divorce, this conversation will help you slow down, protect yourself, and make smarter decisions. Jill combines decades of 66 family law experience with her own divorce story to give honest, practical 58 divorce advice for men in midlife.What you’ll learn in this episode:• Why so many men just want to “get it over with” • The grieving process of divorce• How jumping straight into a new relationship can backfire legally and emotionally• Why “50/50” isn’t always fair – and what you’re actually entitled to financially• How to protect your kids emotionally during separation and avoid parental alienation• The one rule Gillian has for every dad • Rebuilding your identity when your role as husband and father suddenly changes• Practical steps to stay calm, think clearly, and avoid decisions you’ll regret Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is walking away from a high-status career brave, or is it reckless? People talk a lot about success, but they rarely talk about the cost of success on the health of our relationships and ourselves. In this follow-up from our interview with Matthew Lumsden, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down the biggest insights from their conversation and what they actually mean for men in midlife. He also provides an experiment for our audience to test at home; a powerful tool to take Matthew's advice into their day-to-day lives. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is your career success costing you your peace of mind? If you’ve ever felt trapped by the corporate grind or wondered if you're going through a midlife crisis, this conversation is the wake-up call you need.In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Matthew Lumsden, a former high-level executive at Vanguard who did the unthinkable: he walked away from the status and salary to save his sanity. Matthew opens up about the reality of corporate burnout, the toll it takes on men’s mental health, and how the COVID pandemic forced him to re-evaluate what wealth actually means.In this episode, we cover: Why a high salary, a big title, and corporate success can mask a deep, silent burnoutThe COVID "Fork in the Road": How the pandemic forced a choice between returning to a "normal" that wasn't working or blowing up the blueprint to start over.The reality of who you become when you hand back the title that defined you for 20 years.Why leaving a job feels like a death in the familyFinancial Freedom vs. Life Freedom: Practical insights on how to financially plan an "escape".Japanese Wisdom for Midlife Men: Shibui (Elegant Simplicity)Manzoku (Deep Satisfaction): Why chasing "happiness" is a young man's game, and why "satisfaction" is the superior goal for men in their 40s and 50s. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know 70% of cancer risk is linked to lifestyle, not just genetics? In this reflection episode, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down his biggest takeaways from his conversation with Dr. Andy Tay on cancer prevention, immunotherapy, and the science of healthy aging.We often think of health and longevity as things out of our control, but the data suggests otherwise. Pod shares the critical insights he gained from Andy Tay's experience, from the potential of immunotherapy to the daily habits that actually move the needle. If you're a man in midlife that is shifting focus to staying healthy, this video covers the practical know-how to do so. IN THIS VIDEO:- The 70/30 Rule: Why lifestyle choices matter more than your DNA.- Immunotherapy Explained: The promising future of cancer treatment.- Stress & Health: How managing stress is a physical necessity, not just a mental one.- Actionable Longevity: Simple changes to your diet and routine for long-term well-being. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cancer. The word alone makes many of us shudder. We all know someone who has battled it, perhaps lost to it. Yet here's the paradox that should give us hope: whilst cancer rates are rising as we live longer, mortality rates are falling dramatically.Dr Andy Tay is a Presidential Young Professor at the National University of Singapore, running a laboratory that literally turns our immune cells into warriors against cancer and infectious diseases. In this compelling conversation recorded in Singapore, Andy takes us on a journey from the fundamentals of cancer to the frontiers of treatment.In this episode, we cover:What cancer actually isWhy cancer rates are rising but mortality rates are fallingHow immunotherapy transforms your own immune cells into cancer-fighting machinesThe surprising connection between stress and cancer growth through the nervous systemWhy 70% of cancer risk is lifestyle-associatedHow artificial intelligence is accelerating drug development and personalising treatmentWhy "balance" is the ultimate health strategy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your genes aren't what determines how you'll age: it's something else entirely. This week on Don't Let The Old Man In, we sat down with longevity expert Professor Andrea Maier to talk all things healthy aging, precision medicine and the world of biohacking to find out how we can live better as we age. After taking time to reflect on his conversation with Andrea, host Pod O'Sullivan unpacks his thoughts on the episode, including what he'll take with him into his own life, as well as a free experiment for you all at home to use. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it possible to slow down time? In this interview with longevity specialist Prof. Andrea Maier, we break down the critical difference between healthspan vs lifespan and reveal why your biological age matters far more than the number of candles on your birthday cake. If you are interested in reverse aging and preventative healthcare, this is the data you need.In this episode, we discuss:The critical distinction between lifespan and healthspan — and why one matters far moreWhat the 12 hallmarks of aging reveal about why our bodies change decade by decadeHow digital biomarkers and precision medicine transform longevity into personalised actionThe key ages of 40 and 60Why the absence of disease is more important than the presence of longevity genesWhat Silicon Valley is getting wrong about longevietyWhat 100 year old’s really thinkWhy biological age versus chronological age matters for men in midlifeThe role of longevity clinics in democratising preventative healthcareCutting through supplement hype: what science actually supports and what doesn't Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when the life you've built comes crumbling down to reveal an empty core?Aldo Grech lived what most would call the dream. Senior IT executive, trophy partner, Lake Como lifestyle. At 50, when his wife left and his career imploded, Aldo discovered something terrifying: there was no authentic self to fall back on. Just a wounded child and an exhausted avatar who'd been performing for 40 years.Now approaching 70, Aldo has transformed from vacant achiever to authentic contributor. His journey through love addiction, corporate burnout, cancer, financial ruin and intensive therapy offers a brutally honest roadmap for men willing to do the hardest work of their lives. In this conversation, we dig into:Why workaholism, love addiction, and achievement obsession are celebrated rather than treatedThe difference between being successful and being wholeHow physical symptoms signal spiritual dysfunctionHow childhood wounds create protective personasWhy "boys don't cry" creates vacant menThe paradox of surrender vs. giving upTen years alone: building electric cars and authentic friendshipsThe mother conversation that changes everything Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For many of us in midlife, there comes a moment when the identity we've built starts to feel insufficient. We wake up asking: "Now what? What's next? Is this it?"Bill Ang and Richard Bleasdale aren't just theorising about life's next transition, they're living it. Both are part of the inaugural cohort of the Distinguished Singapore Fellowship at the National University of Singapore, the first programme of its kind in Asia focused specifically on thriving in midlife and beyond.They're not waiting for permission or the perfect plan. They're showing up, learning, building, and trying new things—exactly what many of us struggle to do when facing uncertainty about what comes next.In this conversation, we explore:Why storytelling matters more than ever: Bill's framework for why the person who tells the best story almost always wins—and what that means for the rest of our livesThe Four Freedoms: Bill's musical metaphor for composing a meaningful life: financial freedom (the baseline), physical freedom (the rhythm), social freedom (the melody), and purpose freedom (the lyrics)The freedom we neglect most: Why relationships and community are often sacrificed when building careers—and why we can't afford to wait any longerLife has no shortcuts: Why the modern obsession with life hacks and AI shortcuts is causing us to skip the struggle, the learning, and the actual livingThe power of intergenerational collaboration: How breaking down walls between generations can transform workplaces and communitiesThe Distinguished Singapore Fellowship: What it's like to be part of Asia's first programme focused on the third transition of life, including their transformative week at Smiling Gecko in Cambodia Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s still possible in the second half of life? And who gets to decide the limits, is it your body, your age, or the stories you tell yourself?In this episode of Don’t Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Ross Youngman, a man who quietly dismantles many of the assumptions we hold about aging, ambition and reinvention. At an age when many people are thinking about slowing down, Ross chose to lean in and challenge himself physically, intellectually and purposefully.In this episode, we explore:Why marathon swimming is 75% psychological and only 25% physicalHow social connection, not willpower, sustains long-term fitnessThe power of starting small and building confidence through graduated challengesWhat swimming taught Ross about focus, endurance and staying in the water when it gets uncomfortableHis transition from a high-pressure global finance career into purpose-driven philanthropyWhy he returned to university in midlife to study coaching psychologyHow optimism can be a conscious, disciplined practice — not blind positivityWhat it really means to “not let the old man in”Along the way, Ross shares hard-earned insights about parenting, timing, patience and resisting the internal voices that quietly talk us out of possibility. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special deep dive episode of Don't Let The Old Man In, clinical psychologist Ben Larke joins Pod O’Sullivan to unpack shame (versus guilt), as well as the mindset to remain competent through struggle. If you’re a man navigating midlife and wanting real talk, practical wisdom, and a community that gets it, you’ll find this one hits home.Listen, learn, take something with you, and keep moving forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special deep dive episode of Don't Let The Old Man In, Professor Virginia Cha joins Pod O’Sullivan to unpack Singapore's new "blue zone" status and the benefits of growing old. If you’re a man navigating midlife and wanting real talk, practical wisdom, and a community that gets it, you’ll find this one hits home.Watch, learn, take something with you, and keep moving forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special deep dive episode of Don't Let The Old Man In, Dr Merran Cooper joins Pod O'Sullivan to shed light on what it means to suffer loss at a young age, the power of advanced care planning and how families can navigate end-of-life decisions.Perfect for the busy holiday season when time is short but the need for reflection runs deep.If you’re a man navigating midlife and wanting real talk, practical wisdom, and a community that gets it, you’ll find this one hits home. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special deep dive episode of Don't Let The Old Man In, Dr Gordon Spence joins Pod O’Sullivan to unpack midlife transitions, fitness and good habits.If you’re a man navigating midlife and wanting real talk, practical wisdom, and a community that gets it, you’ll find this one hits home.Watch, learn, take something with you, and keep moving forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special deep dive episode of Don't Let The Old Man In, Dr Angela Kwong joins Pod O’Sullivan to unpack GLP-1s, also known as fat jabs. If you’re a man navigating midlife and wanting real talk, practical wisdom, and a community that gets it, you’ll find this one hits home.Watch, learn, take something with you, and keep moving forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Note: this episode contains discussion of depression and suicide. Today, Stuart O'Neill from Just One Reason joins Pod O'Sullivan to discuss suicide prevention, as well as Australia's very first mental health pub. If you’re a man navigating midlife and wanting real talk, practical wisdom, and a community that gets it, you’ll find this one hits home.Watch, learn, take something with you, and keep moving forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.