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Don't Let The Old Man In
by Pod O'Sullivan
DLTOMI is a podcast brought to you by Pod O’Sullivan, where he has real and candid conversations with experts, celebrities and ordinary men about navigating midlife. The ups, the downs, the surprises, the opportunities, the secrets and how to do it on your terms, gracefully or even disgracefully!Pod will explore ways to take charge of your health, to divorce well, to reinvigorate your sex life, to find ways to lift your spirit, to join new communities, to make sure you have enough money for retirement, to laugh, to cry if needed, to change perspectives, and most importantly, to ensure your second act is even better than the first.Pod O’Sullivan has been fascinated with transitions and
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Elite Sports Mindset Coach Reveals How High-Achieving Men Avoid Burnout || Andrew May
In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Andrew May (high performance coach to the Wallabies, Australian cricket, and some of the country's biggest CEOs) to understand how our building capacity and better recovery can be the best cure for burnout. Read Andrew May's book: https://performanceintelligence.com/matchfit-book/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/CHAPTERS:00:00 – Intro02:41 – Why we don't have a burnout problem04:22 – The real definition of burnout (and the WHO's updated criteria)07:33 – Vitamin FLPJ: fun, laughter, play, joy09:57 – Organisational burnout vs taking accountability11:36 – The four types of capacity elite CEOs train14:23 – What executives' blood tests reveal: iron, vitamin D, testosterone16:29 – Purpose vs performance: why purpose is hard and most men skip it20:08 – Performance-based identity vs purpose-based identity23:03 – Andrew's own burnout story: walking away from a seven figure exit25:12 – The five metrics that actually measure your capacity27:59 – The "50 to the power of 4" benchmark: heart rate, HRV, VO2 max40:55 – Wearables, cold plunges and the truth about sauna49:25 – The capacity model: green, moderate, high and extreme risk57:05 – Three simple things to do this week1:06:05 – Andrew's final word of wisdom Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why Achievement Feels Empty In Midlife (And How To Feel Fulfilled) w/ Dr Suzy Green
In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we speak with positive psychologist Dr Suzy Green to understand why the drive to achieve fades in midlife, why so many people begin to feel invisible at work, and much more. Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/Follow Don't Let the Old Man In on social media: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmaninCHAPTERS:00:00 Intro03:14 Why Shift Focus from What's Wrong to What's Right07:48 Understanding the Broad Scope of Positive Psychology11:36 Achievement, Meaning, and Developmental Shifts14:02 The Role of Mattering and Anti-Mattering19:21 Proactive Strategies for Life Transitions22:12 William Bridges' Transition Model23:29 Aligning Values and Strengths During Change25:53 Growth After Trauma and Adversity27:17 The Power of Support and Relationships31:01 Preparing for Endings and New Beginnings33:48 The Importance of Social Connections and Mattering37:41 The Concept of Might and Using Strengths38:48 Building Resilience Through Mindfulness and Attentional Control41:02 Practical Daily Practices for Well-Being44:39 The Impact of Gratitude on Mood and Perspective45:55 Mindfulness and Being Present in Daily Life49:20 The Role of Meditation and Attention Training53:03 Encouragement to Explore Positive Psychology Further54:16 Reflecting on the Future and Life Purpose#psychology #midlife #positivity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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How Meditation Filled The Void Addiction Couldn't || Practicing stillness to avoid burnout w/ Tom Cronin
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we speak with ex money broker Tom Cronin, who left his role after a nervous breakdown caused by his lifestyle. Tom went on to found The Stillness Project, aiming to inspire 1 billion people to meditate every day, to help them alleviate the same issues Tom faced in his own life. CHAPTERS:0:00 - Intro4:30 — The reality of life on a trading floor7:38 — Burnout, chronic anxiety & the nervous breakdown8:34 — Why high-performing men suffer in silence10:26 — From broker to meditation teacher (and what his mates said)21:10 — The science behind meditation26:15 — Saunas, sleep & holistic health for stress management30:29 — Tom's personal journey with meditation34:02 — The General vs Soldier analogy38:45 — Tom's full morning routine for peak performance46:10 — Gratitude, journaling & the law of attraction48:17 — How Tom visualised his future 56:20 — How to meditate: a simple technique to start tonight1:05:10 — The three acts of life & finding your purpose1:08:20 — Why joy and fun are non-negotiable in your third act Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Building Resilience In Our Grandkids with Melissa Richardson
In this episode of Don’t Let the Old Man In, we explore the vital role grandparents can play in supporting children’s mental health, confidence, resilience, and sense of belonging.Our guest, Melissa, creator of The Art of Mentoring and author of Will Your Grandkids Be Okay?, explains why grandparents are uniquely positioned to become trusted mentors and steady sources of wisdom in an increasingly uncertain world.We discuss how grandparents can:Build stronger intergenerational relationshipsSupport young people experiencing loneliness or emotional challengesShare family stories that strengthen identity and resilienceAsk questions that encourage curiosity and critical thinkingCreate meaningful rituals and traditionsModel the behaviors they want to pass onOffer guidance without becoming controllingSet healthy boundaries while staying connectedCheck out "Will Your Grandkids Be Ok?" here: https://amzn.asia/d/07DOIZB8Whether you are a grandparent, parent, mentor, or trusted adult, this conversation offers practical ideas for helping young people feel grounded enough to grow and confident enough to face the future. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Reclaim Your Energy || Stopping Burnout Before It Starts w/ Dr Amantha Imber
Reclaim Your Energy: Insights from Dr. Mantha ImberDiscover practical strategies to boost your energy, prevent burnout, and prioritize your well-being. Dr. Mantha Imber shares her personal journey through exhaustion and her innovative approaches to managing energy better, emphasizing a shift from time management to energy management.In this episode:How energy is the most precious resource and why we often neglect itThe concept of the "getting hit by a bus" fantasy and recognition of burnout signsThe evolution of her "Never Again List" from humbling experiencesThe science behind scent, natural environments, and breathing techniques to boost energyHow to identify your energy "types" (Me Mode vs. Wii Mode; Ambition vs. Anxiety)The importance of protecting your energy with clear boundaries and "To Don't" listsSimple yet powerful "boost" and "rest" strategies, including peppermint scent and cyclic sighingThe benefits of nature immersion, like forest bathing, for mental resetTurning energy management into a gamified process to build sustainable habitsTransitioning into a healthier second act with energy awarenessTimestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Why energy is the ultimate resource00:19 - Personal humbling and the "getting hit by a bus" fantasy02:01 - Recognizing burnout through personal stories03:46 - Lessons learned from public speaking mishaps and creating "Never Again" list04:45 - The impact of alarm clock codependency06:09 - Transition from control to awareness and boundary setting07:36 - How exhaustion affects decision-making and daily routines08:54 - Re-evaluating the role of writing and leadership in energy management10:28 - Why endurance and "pushing through" might be harmful12:04 - Recognizing the limits of pushing and the effects of chronic depletion13:46 - Using humbling experiences to clarify boundaries and priorities15:12 - The role of humility in recognizing what no longer serves you16:07 - The "Never Again List" as a tool for boundaries17:36 - Conscious decision-making with "To Don't" and "To Do" lists19:36 - Society's normalization of exhaustion and its implications20:42 - The importance of running energy experiments with a large group22:03 - The Mi Mode and Wii Mode energy types and their significance23:15 - Navigating between Drive and Anxiety-driven energy states24:54 - Recognizing personal energy patterns and managing anxiety vs. ambition27:37 - How body awareness can guide energy conservation28:19 - Strategies: Fast energy boosts, rest, and protection tactics31:02 - Peppermint scent and other quick resets for energy boost33:52 - The power of gratitude practices and "Three Good Things"36:11 - Breathing exercises like cyclic sighing for instant calm38:25 - Forest bathing and the impact of nature on recovery41:53 - Identifying and avoiding "energy vampires" with the Points Chart44:54 - Practical tools for everyday energy management like cold water immersion and silent walks50:19 - Making energy management a fun, experimental game56:33 - Transitioning into the second-act energy mindset62:16 - Final words: Prioritize your energy above allResources & Links: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions To Lose Weight In Midlife
Earlier this week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with nutritionist Dr Jessica Turton to understand the truth about weight loss during midlife, including how the most popular weight loss trends can have the wrong idea. In this special follow-up Actions episode, host Pod O'Sullivan gives you the best advice from his conversation with Dr Jessica, including 3 things you can do in your own life to achieve your weight loss goals. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Eat More, Weigh Less || Why Your Willpower Isn't The Problem (w/ Dr Jessica Turton)
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, nutritionist and PhD researcher Jessica Turton reveals why low-calorie diets are scientifically designed to fail, how insulin resistance is silently sabotaging fat loss in men, and the counterintuitive approach that's helping people reverse type 2 diabetes, lose weight, and feel free around food again.CHAPTERS:00:00 Introduction and Jessica's background01:48 Jessica's journey from dieting to research05:02 The impact of calorie restriction on metabolism10:03 The Minnesota starvation experiment findings14:57 Insulin, glucose, and fuel prioritization19:53 Understanding insulin resistance and type 2 diabetes25:13 The effects of restrictive diets on mental health29:56 Reversing metabolic suppression with proper nutrition35:04 Practical food choices for insulin resistance40:04 Gender differences in fat storage and metabolism45:09 How to approach dietary change for health50:08 Food freedom and sustainable eating habits55:03 Jessica's final advice for lasting healthSuggest a topic you'd like us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/Follow us on social media: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions To Take Before Making A Career Pivot
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we spoke to two men who led drastically different lives and careers, but who both ended up at the same place: square one. Allan Tillack and Andy Sheats both started from scratch in midlife to pursue purpose and fulfillment. In this follow-up Actions episode, host Pod O'Sullivan gives you the most important parts from our interview with Allan and Andy, including the 3 ways you can implement their wisdom in your own life to make a change. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Starting From Scratch After 50 || How To Pivot Careers with Allan Tillack and Andy Sheats
Allan Tillack and Andy Sheats were both executives at the heights of their careers, having reached the top of the ladder. But then, they walked away and left it all behind to design a life they could be content with. In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, Alan (ex-Country Head, Big Pharma) and Andy (ex-CTO, Silicon Valley) share the real story behind starting over at 50, including the doubts, the breakthroughs, and the blueprint they wish they'd had sooner.CHAPTERS:00:00 Introduction and overview of life transformation stories01:01 The importance of grappling with life's big questions02:23 Career reflections and the desire for meaningful work04:45 Alan and Andy’s career journeys and pivotal moments08:03 Recognizing burnout and the need for change 12:11 The impact of executive coaching on leadership development17:00 The power of feedback and vulnerability in leadership21:48 Designing a purposeful second half of life26:14 The role of reflection and self-awareness in transition31:30 The importance of authentic leadership and clear communication37:19 Strength, vulnerability, and redefining what it means to be strong44:28 Building a second half of life aligned with personal values52:42 Practical advice for starting your life transition01:00:26 The significance of knowing oneself and staying true01:04:42 The importance of relationships and social connection01:06:41 Final words of wisdom and encouragementSubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/Follow us on social media: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions To Fight Burnout In Midlife
Earlier this week, we sat down with psychologist and author Dr Marny Lishman to learn the truth about burnout, including what it feels like, how it shows up in men and the reason we feel more exhausted as we enter midlife. In this follow-up Actions episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down Marny's advice and provides his top three ways to fight burnout from creeping in. These methods tell you all you need to know from Marny's years of experience. Watch the full episode with Dr Marny Lishman here: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmaninSubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why You're Miserable In Your 40s (It's Not Your Fault) with Dr Marny Lishman
What does a psychologist do when she hits her own midlife fog? She writes a book about it.Marny Lishman is a psychologist, author, columnist, and media commentator who has spent years helping people navigate the messy middle of adulthood. Her books Crisis to Contentment and Only You: The Unexpected Gift of Being Alone grew out of her own lived experience — from recognising herself in Ben Affleck's cigarette-and-dead-eyes paparazzi shots, to finding genuine contentment in solitude while the rest of the world rushed to swipe right.In this conversation, Marny brings her signature warmth and directness to some of the big questions of midlife: Why are we statistically most unhappy at 47.2? Why do grumpy men make the best clients? What is burnout actually telling us — and what's the one word she says to everyone who has it? Why can't men make deep friendships? And why is loneliness one of the most useful emotions you can feel?This is a conversation for anyone who's ever stared at the cereal aisle and genuinely could not choose. You're not broken. You just need to stop.00:00 — Welcome01:44 — The grumpy Ben Affleck moment03:12 — The U-curve: you're unhappiest at 47.205:57 — What grumpiness is really hiding09:22 — Crisis to Contentment: the framework11:14 — Burnout: signs, symptoms & just stop20:51 — Why men can't make deep friendships23:47 — Learning the language of emotions29:36 — Only You: the gift of being alone43:08 — Grab a backpack and goYou'll learn:The science behind the U-shaped happiness curve and why midlife is the statistical low pointWhat grumpiness is actually communicating — and why Marny loves a grumpy clientThe four dimensions of burnout (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) and how to recognise it before you hit the wallWhy men struggle with deep friendship and what psychological safety has to do with itHow to talk about your emotions when you don't have the wordsThe case for staying single long enough to actually find yourselfWhy loneliness is a signal, not a sentenceMarny's one piece of wisdom for every middle-aged man: grab a backpack and go📚 Content & People ReferencedBooksCrisis to Contentment — Marny LishmanOnly You: The Unexpected Gift of Being Alone — Marny LishmanResearchThe U-Shaped Happiness Curve — Professor David Blanchflower (Dartmouth College). Research drawn from 500,000+ data points across 132 countries showing life satisfaction follows a U-shape, with the low point around age 47.2. Referenced in Crisis to Contentment.Organisations MentionedMen's Table — CEO David Pointon cited; research shared on how men's participation reduces anger and aggression in the homeMongrels Men — men's community organisation mentioned as part of the broader shift in men's mental health cultureJust One Reason — men's mental health/suicide prevention organisation mentioned Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions To Be Fulfilled In Midlife
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Dan Foster, CEO of The Centre For Men and Families, to unpack the problems men are facing in the transition to midlife and why so many men feel unfulfilled. In this special follow-up episode, host Pod O'Sullivan shares the top things he wants our listeners to take away from Dan Foster's episode, and provides three actions you can do at home to take his wisdom on board. Watch the full episode with Dan Foster: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmaninSubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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What Men Carry (And How To Put It Down) | Why Unprocessed Grief is Costing You More Than You Know with Dan Foster
Dan Foster is the CEO of the Centre for Men and Families, a rites of passage organisation heavily influenced by the work of Richard Rohr. After spending years in ministry and theology, Dan found himself in the middle of his own midlife deconstruction — which is exactly where his work now lives. The Centre runs two programs: one for young men navigating the first half of life, and one for men in midlife and beyond who've ticked all the boxes and still feel the ache.This conversation is for every man who's hit 40, 45, or 50 and quietly wondered — is this all there is? It's also for the man who's been carrying something for decades and hasn't yet found a safe enough place to put it down.Books mentioned:Adam's Return by Richard RohrIron John by Robert BlyFalling Upward by Richard RohrAlso referenced:Poetry of David Whyte and RumiDocumentary: The ManosphereBruce Springsteen on "trying to get home to a home he never had"Other men's work mentioned:Men's Tables — David PontinMen's Circles UK — Pascoe AshtonMongrels Men Sydney — Tim HoustonConnect with Dan Foster & the Centre for Men and Families: [centreformenandfamilies.com]00:00 — Intro & Welcome02:35 — Richard Rohr, Adam's Return, and the 5 Hard Truths07:14 — You're not in control — and why that's actually good news08:27 — Mens Programs - Forged (18–30) and Men's Rite of Passage (30+)15:05 — Why rituals work — the 3 reasons men open up20:25 — Men communicate better side by side — fire, circles, and brotherhood24:44 — What men actually leave with: relief, peace, self-acceptance31:36 — The manosphere, elders, and what young men are really hungry for41:39 — Whatever you don't process, you project Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Small Actions That Will Help You Live Longer
Earlier this week, we sat down with longevity educator and author Professor Scott Fulton to discover the top secrets about improving your healthspan that most people will never know about. In this follow-up episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, host Pod O'Sullivan reflects on the key lessons from Scott's years of expertise, and provides you with the three things you can take with you into your own life. Watch the full interview with Scott Fulton here: https://youtu.be/8MyxAgoS5-gLet us know what topic you'd like us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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One Number That Predicts Your Future with Professor Scott Fulton
Professor Scott Fulton is a research engineer turned functional health span expert, author of the #1 bestselling book Function, and chair of the National Aging and Place Council in the US. After a career troubleshooting complex systems across industries, Scott turned his engineering mind to the one system nobody was looking at properly: the aging human body. His work draws on over 700,000 participants and 10 million person-years of data to answer a question most men don't think to ask until it's too late: what will actually determine how well you function in the second half of your life?This conversation is for every man over 40 who thinks being fit means being healthy. It's also for the man who's never tested his balance, flexibility, or reaction time, and doesn't yet know that one of those is quietly becoming his weak link.Book mentioned: Function by Scott Fulton — available now, currently #1 bestsellerConnect with Scott Fulton: scottfulton.ca00:30 — Why You Should Listen04:28 — Why Runners Can't Walk: The Biomechanics Explained09:34 — The Statistic That Will Change How You Walk Today13:10 — Falls Aren't a Strength Problem — They're a Reaction Time Problem16:39 — The 5 Domains of Functional Health Span21:42 — If You Don't Demand It, You'll Lose It26:12 — The Top 4 Self-Assessments to Do This Week35:28 — Why Disease Is Not Your Biggest Threat — Function Is (2:1)40:04 — Why Men Lose Their Social Network the Day They Retire48:18 — What Your 80-Year-Old Self Is Asking of You Right Now Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions For A Better Marriage During Menopause
Earlier this week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we spoke with menopause educator and researcher Thea O'Connor to discuss what you need to know about menopause, including how this turbulent time can put a strain on your relationship. In this follow-up episode, host Pod O'Sullivan is breaking down the best parts of Thea's interview and distilling the exact ways you can implement her advice. Check out the full interview with Thea O'Connor here: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmaninSubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/Follow us on social media: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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She’s Not Angry At You! What Men NEED to Know About Menopause with Thea O’Connor
Thea O'Connor is a menopause educator, workplace consultant, and researcher who has spent years doing what almost nobody else was doing — talking to men about their experience of menopause. After her own disorienting perimenopause journey derailed what she'd planned as her "power decade," she went public on national radio in 2018 at considerable professional risk. What followed was a body of work that now reaches boardrooms, Senate inquiries, and international standards organisations.This conversation is for every man who has ever felt confused, rejected, helpless, or like he was spending a lot of time in the doghouse without knowing why. It's also for the women in their lives who want them to understand.Resources MentionedAustralasian Menopause Society — directory of menopause-informed doctorsThe Orca Effect — Thea's program for women navigating menopause in the workplaceThea's men and menopause survey — link in show notes and newsletterElizabeth Cady Stanton — American suffragist quoted by Thea: "We shall not be in our prime before 50, and after that we shall be good for 20 years at least."Connect with Thea O'Connor 🌐 Website /survey: https://www.thea.com.au/Timestamped Overview00:26 — Why Every Man Needs to Hear This02:03 — Thea's Own Menopause Derailed Her Power Decade03:12 — Why She Went Public at Professional Risk05:06 — What Menopause Actually Is — The Basics07:27 — The Symptoms Men Miss or Misread09:28 — Dishwasher Rage — And What It Really Means10:30 — How a Man's Attitude Affects Her Symptoms14:39 — What Men Misinterpret as Personal Rejection18:07 — What Men Actually Said in Thea's Interviews19:53 — You're Still Allowed to Set Standards22:47 — Menopause in the Workplace — The Manager's Role29:13 — Orca Whales & Why Menopause Is a Promotion35:16 — Fixing Hormones Won't Fix a Bad Marriage38:34 — How Thea Feels as a Post-Menopausal Woman40:48 — Final Words: Embrace the Change Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions For Better Dating After Divorce
Earlier this week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Kerri Sackville to explore the world of dating in midlife, including all the nuances and common mistakes that men make when jumping back into the dating scene. In this follow-up Actions episode, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down the 3 most valuable lessons form his conversation with Kerri, and tells you exactly how you can make them work for you. Watch the full episode with Kerri Sackville here: https://youtu.be/udlgHdnMiDkListen to us as a podcast: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Your Most Important Relationship Is With Yourself | Dating in midlife with Kerri Sackville
In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Kerri Sackville, author of Out There: A Survival Guide to Dating In Midlife, to unpack the truth about navigating relationships and dating in the next stage of life. We discuss the power of solitude, why people return to dating before they're ready, how to manage your own baggage, and the challenges men in particular face. Suggest a topic for us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/In this episode, we cover:Why dating after divorce demands emotional robustnessThe difference between loneliness and solitude (and why it matters)Why men so often lack emotional support networks post-separationRed flags that reveal themselves on the very first dateHow to build a relationship with yourself before seeking one with someone elseThe honesty test: why it solves 90% of dating problemsWhat midlife dating actually looks like ... without the sugar-coatingCHAPTERS:00:00 Navigating Emotional Needs Post-Separation05:47 The Dynamics of Dating in Midlife11:55 Honesty and Boundaries in Dating17:45 Lessons Learned from the Dating Scene25:18 The Essence of Relationships27:12 The Fear of Solitude30:29 Transformative Alone Time32:30 Self-Discovery Through Solitude36:29 The Impact of Social Media38:10 Understanding Solitude vs. Loneliness39:59 Practical Steps to Embrace Solitude42:11 The Role of Purpose in Life45:01 Navigating Loneliness and Grief48:08 Accepting Aging and Life's Cycles50:27 Finding Meaning in Good MomentsListen to this episode as a podcast: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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4 Actions To Jumpstart Your Next Chapter
Earlier this week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Aneace Haddad to unpack the myth of the midlife crisis, the four stages of adulthood, as well as the newfound "superpowers" that people have access to once they reach midlife. In this special follow-up episode of DLTOMI, host Pod O'Sullivan is sharing the key lessons from his conversation with Aneace and the exact ways you can add these to your daily life. The best parts from this week's episode, all in one short video. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Your Second Adulthood Starts Now || Aneace Haddad on the Myth of the Midlife Crisis
Is the "midlife crisis" really our most powerful transformation yet?Former tech entrepreneur turned executive coach Aneace Haddad joins the show to unpack the 3 stages of adulthood, the winds of change that drive midlife transformation, and the hidden strengths that emerge as you enter your next chapter. If you're a man over 40 feeling the ground shift beneath you, this conversation will change how you see the midlife "crisis". In this episode:Why your brain in midlife is actually becoming more powerful (not less)The "happiness curve" and why 47 is often the lowest point before things get betterHow to let go of old identities without losing yourselfThe "Who will I be at 100?" practice for finding your North StarWhy midlife reinvention isn't about starting over, it's about becoming who you always wereWhether you're navigating a career shift, questioning your purpose, or just feeling the weight of change, this one's for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions To Forge Unbreakable Friendships In Midlife
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with David Pointon, CEO of Men's Table, to hear about the power of vulnerability in finding fulfilling community. In this special Actions episode of the podcast, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down the key wisdoms from David Pointon and tells you exactly what you can do to make a change in your life. Watch the full episode with David Pointon: https://youtu.be/4vv69UddZpISubscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Giving Men The Tools To Talk || CEO of Men's Table on the power of opening up.
Why are so many men emotionally alone, even when surrounded by people? In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with David Pointon, founder of Men's Table, to explore how giving men a space to be heard can change their lives entirely. Suggest a topic you want us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/In this episode, you'll discover:Why most midlife men feel something is missing, even when life looks fine from the outsideThe simple monthly format that creates deeper friendships than 25 years with your golfing buddyWhy "banter" isn't the same as real connection, and what it's costing menThe concept of caring connection and why it's the most powerful antidote to toxic masculinityHow one man's willingness to open up can unlock an entire roomThe ripple effect: how men showing up for themselves transforms their relationships and familiesDavid's own story of marriage, separation, and how men's work helped him reset everything Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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4 Actions To Rekindle Your Love Life In Midlife
This week, we got to sit down with relationship expert and intimacy coach Tanya Koens to dive deep into the biggest issues facing couples as they enter midlife, and how we can work with our partners to get the most satisfaction out of our love lives. Tanya has years of experience and provided several fascinating insights from her career, many of which have really stuck with us ever since. In this special Actions episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we're looking back at our conversation with Tanya to identify the most powerful pieces of wisdom she shared with us, how you can implement it in your own life, and why the science says it works. Listen to our conversation with Tanya Koens: https://linktr.ee/dontllettheoldmanin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Top Sexologist Reveals Best Relationship Advice for Midlife || Tanya Koens
Tanya Koens is a leading sexologist, somatic sex therapist, and self-described "pleasure activist". In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Tanya to explore what sex and intimacy really look like in your 40s, 50s, and 60s. Whether you're navigating mismatched libido, adjusting to an aging body, or stepping back into dating after a long-term relationship, Tanya brings warmth, expertise, and zero judgement to the conversation.Suggest a topic you'd like us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/In this episode, we cover:Why libido after 40 isn't what most people expect (and why that's actually good news)The truth about mismatched libido — and how to talk about it without it turning into a fightSpontaneous vs. responsive desire: what the difference means for your relationshipHow to "schedule" sex in a way that actually keeps the spark aliveNavigating intimacy and dating after 50 — including the new rules around consentThe impact of pornography on sexual expectationsWhy curiosity, kindness, and generosity are the foundation of great sexual health at any age Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Trauma Isn't Destiny | Confronting Your Past In Midlife with James Elliott
Most men that suffer childhood trauma don't disclose it to others for decades of their life, or decide not to disclose it at all. This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, James Elliott shares how his own trauma shaped his toxic work ethic, and how it took him 21 years to look inside and make a change. Plus, we discuss James' recent work with NASA and how his team is shaping the future of medicine. We talk about:How trauma shapes overachievement and perfectionismThe difference between "being a man" and becoming oneChildhood trauma healing — and why disclosure is so hardHis path through EMDR therapy and how it worksWhat his work with NASA reveals about the human body under stressThe African proverb that shifted his entire leadership philosophyWhy community — not achievement — is the foundation of happiness Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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4 Actions Men Can Take To Live Longer
On Don't Let the Old Man In, we often discuss how men can set themselves up to have healthy, sustainable lives as they transition into midlife. Earlier this week, we sat down with longevity specialist Dr Jenifer Luman to discuss just that. This special episode takes the best insights from our conversation with Jenifer and breaks it down for you to get the most out of her experience. We discuss:Getting the blood test your doctor probably hasn't ordered for youHow to properly understand andropauseMeasuring exactly what your body is made ofPlanning for your marginal decades. Listen, learn and share with your community. Visit our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Suggest a topic for us to cover next: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Longevity Expert Explains The Hidden Danger of TRT || Dr Jenifer Luman
In this week's episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with longevity expert Dr Jennifer Luman to unpack healthy aging, the blood test your doctor needs to give you, the importance of safe Testosterone Replacement Therapy, and Jennifer's unique stint as a Nike-sponsored athlete ... plus much more. In this episode, we cover: The Crisis of Reactive HealthcareUnderstanding Longevity and Men's HealthThe Importance of Early InterventionThe Gradual Decline of TestosteroneThe Role of Testosterone in Men's HealthPersonalized Health Testing and BiomarkersOptimizing Health for LongevityThe Future of Personalized HealthcareTestosterone Replacement Therapy: A Double-Edged SwordAndropause: The Silent DeclineThe Journey to Longevity MedicineCelebrating Milestones and Personal GrowthTransitioning to Medicine 3.0The New Age of Preventative HealthcareThe Biohacker Community and Health OptimizationUnderstanding Health Choices and ConsequencesThe Impact of Environment on Health ChoicesFrom Olympic Aspirations to Medical CareerDisaster Recovery and Human ResilienceReflections on Health and Future ChoicesLet us know what topics we should cover next: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/resources/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Actions For Men To Level Up Their Midlife Friendships
Most men in midlife have fewer close friends than they think. Research shows the average man has just 2. Two people he could truly confide in. For many, it's even less than that.In this follow-up episode, we break down the 3 most powerful takeaways from our conversation with Pasco Ashton, founder of Men's Circles and one of the leading voices in men's personal development. 3 simple, actionable steps any man can take this week to level up his relationships and start building the connections that actually matter.In this episode, you'll discover:The Friend Audit — How to take honest stock of how many people you can truly confide in, and why most men are shocked by the answerThe Side-By-Side Method — Why men open up more easily when they're not face-to-face, and how to use everyday activities to spark the real conversationsThe Power of "I Don't Know" — Why admitting uncertainty is one of the most trust-building things a man can say, and how it transforms male friendships overnightThese are three practical moves, grounded in years of Pasco's work with men's circles across the world, that you can start today.Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why Most Men Only Have 2 Close Friends (And How To Fix It) || Pasco Ashton
What if the key to men's mental health isn't therapy, but community? Pasco Ashton, founder of Men's Circle and former journalist for Al Jazeera and Vice, joins us to reveal why men's mental fitness starts with the people around them. With Men's Circles now operating across multiple continents and expanding into the US and Asia, Pasco has trained and supervised hundreds of facilitators, helping thousands of men move from isolation to authentic connection. In this expert conversation, he breaks down exactly why men struggle to open up, what the research says about male friendship, and the proven framework he's developed over years of community leadership.'In this episode, you'll discover:Why men's mental health is a community problem — not an individual oneThe "mental fitness gym" framework that's helping men across the world open upWhy "brave spaces" work better than "safe spaces" for menThe 3-stage Men's Circles model (Awareness → Acceptance → Action) and how to apply itHow intergenerational connection is the missing ingredient in modern masculinityWhy admitting fault is the most powerful thing a man can do in any relationshipThe crucial difference between Men's Circles and the toxic "manosphere"Pasco's journey — from losing close friends to suicide, to becoming one of the leading voices in men's personal development — is as honest and raw as it is inspiring. If you've ever felt like you're carrying life's weight alone, this episode is essential listening.Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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3 Lessons From Merrick Watts Every Man Needs to Hear | Reflections
Earlier this week, we sat down with legendary Australian comedian and former radio host Merrick Watts to unpack his unique story of finding true purpose. Merrick told us everything, from a close call with depression to discovering self-acceptance on the road to SAS Australia, even up to his relationship with legacy and creating something to live on without him. Now, host Pod O'Sullivan is looking back on this profound episode and breaking down the things he found most impactful, giving you the best bang for your buck on what you can do in your own life. He's even got a few experiments for you to try at home. Watch the full episode with Merrick Watts on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/7VME41npDH0?si=lJT-BrMsEUO1R7TKSuggest a question or topic for us at our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Life After 40: Merrick Watts on Identity, SAS Australia & Becoming a Better Man
What happens when a man loses everything he thought defined him, and comes out the other side more himself than ever before? Australian comedian Merrick Watts joins Don't Let the Old Man In for one of the most honest conversations about midlife transformation we've ever had.From identity collapse after leaving radio, to a life-altering experience on SAS Australia, to discovering that his real purpose is "to be, not to do" — Merrick holds nothing back.This one's for every man navigating midlife who's ever asked: who am I outside of what I do?In this episode, we cover:Why the midlife identity crisis hits men harder than they expect — and how to survive itWhat SAS Australia actually does to a person (it's not what you think)The suffering and success connection — why avoiding pain is holding you back"Fame was the actor. Legacy is the director." — shifting from chasing recognition to building something that mattersFatherhood after 40 and why it's the greatest growth accelerator there isHow to find your purpose in midlife when everything you knew has changedThe philosophy of loss: "It's the price we pay for love"Why men's mental health in midlife starts with accepting — not fixing — who you areMerrick's current chapter: combining wine, comedy, and a refusal to slow downAbout Merrick Watts:Merrick Watts is an Australian comedian, radio broadcaster, actor, and SAS Australia participant whose career has spanned decades across some of Australia's most iconic media. Known for his sharp wit and disarming honesty, Merrick has spent the past several years quietly doing the most radical thing a man in midlife can do — growing.About Don't Let the Old Man In:Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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My reflections on my conversation with Naomi Cao | Top Divorce Coach Reveals Biggest Tips
This week, we sat down with Naomi Cao to unpack her learnings about relationships from her role as a divorce coach. Naomi shared her own powerful divorce story, how she came to represent herself in federal court, and her advice for parents beginning the process of separating from their partners. In this special reflections episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, host Pod O'Sullivan looks back on his conversation with Naomi to discuss his biggest learnings from the episode, and provides some experiments for the audience at home to take onboard with them. Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Divorce Coach Reveals Biggest Separation Mistakes | Naomi Cao on rebuilding after divorce
What do you do when your marriage ends and you feel completely lost? Naomi Cao, separation coach and host of the Split Happens podcast, shares her raw, real story of rebuilding after divorce, self-representing in family court, and helping families split with grace.Naomi shares her own powerful healing journey post-divorce, and offers the wisdom she's picked up from helping couples navigate separation when children are involved. This is world-class advice from a professional in the field. If you're in midlife and are facing a separation of your own, you can't miss this episode.In this episode, we discuss:Navigating Relationship FailuresThe Shock of SeparationCoping with Family DynamicsThe Legal Maze of DivorceSelf-Representation in Family CourtTransforming Pain into PurposeThe Importance of CommunicationBuilding Trust in Difficult TimesFinancial Literacy and EmpowermentCreating a Cooperative Co-Parenting EnvironmentManaging Expectations in ParentingThe Importance of Involvement in ParentingNavigating Menopause and RelationshipsBuilding Social Connections Post-DivorceFinding Peace After SeparationA Framework for Moving ForwardPod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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My reflections on my conversation with Peter Reek | why midlife is NOT a crisis.
In this special reflections episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, host Pod O'Sullivan shares his biggest takeaways from our most recent interview with Peter Reek, author of Shift: 7 Mindsets For An Inspired Midlife. Pod explains each of the most meaningful lessons from his conversation with Peter, and breaks down a handful of experiments he'll be trying at home to dive even deeper – and invites you to do the same. Visit our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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You Need To Rewire Your Midlife Mindset | Author Peter Reek On Positive Aging
In this week's episode, we tackle the very concept of the midlife crisis. In conversation with author Peter Reek, we dive deep into the social narratives around aging, how your mindset about getting older affects your lifespan, and unpack Peter's ways to fight back against internalised stigma. This episode explains why high-achieving men often struggle with personal honesty, and explore the crucial impact of our mindset on healthy aging and longevity. This week's interview is a crucial look at getting older, and what it means for men in midlife.In this episode, we explore:Rethinking Midlife: A New PerspectiveThe Power of Mindset in MidlifeNavigating Change: Personal Stories of TransformationUnderstanding Applied Positive PsychologyThe Importance of Self-HonestyShifts for a Fulfilling MidlifeRadical Acceptance: Embracing Your JourneyThe Role of Stillness in Personal GrowthThe Impact of Narrative IdentityThe Science of Aging: Positive vs. Negative PerspectivesThe Irony of Aging and MindsetGrieving Past Chapters vs. Embracing New OnesThe Importance of Connection in MidlifeAdventures and Community BuildingTaking Practical Steps Towards ChangeThe Power of Poetry in ReflectionLessons Learned in Community CreationVisit our website: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/Pod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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My reflections on my conversation with Stephen Keys | midlife mistakes and the lessons they teach us
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we spoke with Stephen Keys to discuss failure, responsibility and consequences that come with finding yourself in midlife. Stephen emphasized the critical need for self reflection and owning one's mistakes for their own personal development. In this special reflections episode, host Pod O'Sullivan reveals what key aspects he took away from his chat with Stephen Keys, and offers a handful of experiments based on Stephen's learnings for the audience at home to try out for themselves. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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From CEO to Soup Kitchen | How Stephen Keys Achieved His Midlife Reinvention.
In this week's episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Stephen Keyes, a former CEO, to discuss the critical importance of owning one's mistakes and confronting life's challenges, especially when pursuing a reinvention. Stephen shares his personal reinvention journey, including the profound impact of his divorce, offering valuable life advice on how to overcome challenges in life. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating personal development and seeking personal growth through difficult times.In this episode we cover:Owning Your Mess: A Journey of Self-DiscoveryThe Pain of Divorce: A Personal PerspectiveNavigating Loneliness and Rebuilding RelationshipsVolunteering: Finding Purpose in ServiceCreating New Connections with ChildrenThe Importance of Community in MidlifeTransitioning from Success to Significance 20:14The Power of Collective ActionLessons from Volunteering: Giving BackRedefining Identity Through Community EngagementThe Power of Dignity in GivingRunning for a Cause: The Journey of an Ultra MarathonerThe Writer's Journey: Finding Voice and PurposeCareer Transitions: From CEO to CSR AdvocateBuilding the IFS Foundation: Community Impact and EducationThe Greatest Gift: Finding Meaning Beyond Career SuccessCreating Community: The Wisdom Vault and Midlife ConversationsIntegrating Life's Parts: A Journey of Self-DiscoveryFacing Complexity: The Hero's Journey in MidlifePod O'Sullivan brings you the weekly midlife learning podcast: from taking charge of your health, to strengthening your relationships, and finding ways to reconnect with what lifts your spirit – Don’t Let the Old Man In is designed to make sure your second act is even better than the first. Where career pivots, relationship evolutions, and personal reinventions meet practical wisdom, genuine brotherhood, and a healthy dose of humor. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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My reflections on my conversation with ex-elite sniper Craig Williams | Choosing Excellence After Failure
In this week's powerful episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we spoke with Craig Williams to explore the concept of mediocrity and the innate desire within human beings to strive for more than an average existence.In this follow up reflections episode, host Pod O'Sullivan offers his most crucial takeaways from their conversation and considers some experiments for our audiences to take Craig's wisdom onboard. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Choosing Excellence In Your Next Chapter | How This Royal Marines Sniper Bounced Back After Prison
What happens when your life crumbles, your career is gone, and your reputation is destroyed? This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Craig Williams, an elite royal marines sniper whose life came crumbling down after being sent to prison. Craig unpacks his natural talent for sharpshooting, the mistakes that led to his arrest, as well as his transformation into an extreme athlete by competing in ultramarathons, which saw him running 230km across the Arctic. This video explores facing complete ruin and the journey of rebuilding, as well as avoiding the trap most men fall into – settling for "mediocre".This episode covers:Craig's Military Service & CombatStruggles With Identity & Mental Health After The MilitaryThe Gunfight That Led To PrisonThe Post-Prison TransformationUltra Running & Life After PrisonCraig's Life Lessons & Philosophy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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My reflections on my conversation with Tim Hewson || building male support systems side-by-side.
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we sat down with Mongrels Men founder Tim Hewson to discuss his struggle with depression, and unpacked how men in midlife struggle to form solid support networks for themselves. Now, our host Pod O'Sullivan is reflecting on this week's episode by giving you his biggest learnings from his conversation with Tim, as well as a handful of experiments to try out at home if you want to take this wisdom even further. If you're a man in midlife who is struggling with mental health or at a crossroads with navigating your social circle, this is the conversation you need to hear. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why Successful Men Are Still Falling Apart || How Tim Hewson Learned That Vulnerability Is Strength
Tim Hewson hid crippling panic attacks for 20 years, suffering in silence every single day. Then a divorce shattered the life he'd built, and everything came crashing down. In this week's episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Tim to have a raw and powerful conversation on men's mental health, Tim's own journey through isolation, and how he turned this dark chapter into a movement by founding the charity Mongrels Men. This episode covers:The "masculinity masks" that men wear. Tim's journey from high functioning depression to self-discovery.How divorce forced Tim to change. Defining self beyond work: the shift in identity.Navigating loneliness: the unique struggles of men.Fighting for fatherhood: balancing work and family.Mongrel Men and building male support networks. How team sports are the key to connectionsThe difference between Brave Spaces and Safe SpacesHis Story: A Platform for Men's Voicesand much more. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Reflections on my conversation with Matt Bunker || SAS Wisdom For Starting Again In Midlife
This week on Don't let the Old Man In, we sat down with one of our most accomplished guests yet. Matt Bunker is an ex-SAS elite soldier who has seen firsthand the extent of human courage. He opened up about overcoming an abusive childhood, transitioning from soldier to ER Nurse, and learning to start from square one again. In this reflection episode, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down his conversation with Matt, listing his biggest takeaways from this week's episode, as well as providing an experiment for you to take home Matt's wisdom. Watch the full episode with Matt Bunker here: https://youtu.be/iB5KEvAg56AFor more Don't Let the Old Man In, visit our website: dontlettheoldmanin.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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SAS Veteran On The Courage To Start Again || How This Midlife Reinvention Gave Him Purpose`
What happens when an elite SAS soldier walks away from the special forces to become an emergency nurse ... at 40? Matt Bunker's story is one of the most powerful conversations about midlife reinvention, men's mental health, and finding purpose we've ever had on this podcast.In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, Matt opens up about his dysfunctional childhood, the brutal reality of SAS selection, a devastating breakdown in 2019, and how he rebuilt his identity from the ground up.This conversation covers:- The reality of SAS selection and what it takes to pass- Why high-achieving men struggle with identity after leaving their career- How childhood trauma shaped his path (and how he broke the cycle)- The moment his wife told him the truth he needed to hear- Why nursing in a chaotic ED is the closest thing to military operations- Practical advice for any man facing a midlife career change- Matt's views on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) and men over 40's health Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Reflections on my conversation with Gillian Coote || A Divorce Lawyer's Own Divorce Story.
This week on Don't Let the Old Man In, we tackled the tough topic of marriage ending. Gillian Coote, one of Australia's most respected family law attorneys, offers invaluable divorce advice for men, helping them understand the challenges and navigate the path forward. She shares her personal divorce story, describing it as a devastating process, emphasizing how it can feel like having one's future and power taken away, leaving a broken heart in its wake. This special reflections episode includes Pod's thoughts on his conversation with Gillian, as well ways to incorporate her teachings into your own life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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How To Divorce Well || Family Lawyer Opens Up About Men's Biggest Mistakes
Divorce advice for men from a family lawyer who truly understands the male perspective. In this episode, family lawyer Gillian Coote explains why men rush divorce settlements, how to handle divorce grief, and the #1 mistake that can cost you your kids, your house, and your future.If you’re a man facing separation or divorce, this conversation will help you slow down, protect yourself, and make smarter decisions. Jill combines decades of 66 family law experience with her own divorce story to give honest, practical 58 divorce advice for men in midlife.What you’ll learn in this episode:• Why so many men just want to “get it over with” • The grieving process of divorce• How jumping straight into a new relationship can backfire legally and emotionally• Why “50/50” isn’t always fair – and what you’re actually entitled to financially• How to protect your kids emotionally during separation and avoid parental alienation• The one rule Gillian has for every dad • Rebuilding your identity when your role as husband and father suddenly changes• Practical steps to stay calm, think clearly, and avoid decisions you’ll regret Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Reflections on my conversation with Matthew Lumsden || Why He Exchanged Status for Satisfaction
Is walking away from a high-status career brave, or is it reckless? People talk a lot about success, but they rarely talk about the cost of success on the health of our relationships and ourselves. In this follow-up from our interview with Matthew Lumsden, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down the biggest insights from their conversation and what they actually mean for men in midlife. He also provides an experiment for our audience to test at home; a powerful tool to take Matthew's advice into their day-to-day lives. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Surviving Corporate Burnout || Vanguard executive on his COVID wake-up call
Is your career success costing you your peace of mind? If you’ve ever felt trapped by the corporate grind or wondered if you're going through a midlife crisis, this conversation is the wake-up call you need.In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Matthew Lumsden, a former high-level executive at Vanguard who did the unthinkable: he walked away from the status and salary to save his sanity. Matthew opens up about the reality of corporate burnout, the toll it takes on men’s mental health, and how the COVID pandemic forced him to re-evaluate what wealth actually means.In this episode, we cover: Why a high salary, a big title, and corporate success can mask a deep, silent burnoutThe COVID "Fork in the Road": How the pandemic forced a choice between returning to a "normal" that wasn't working or blowing up the blueprint to start over.The reality of who you become when you hand back the title that defined you for 20 years.Why leaving a job feels like a death in the familyFinancial Freedom vs. Life Freedom: Practical insights on how to financially plan an "escape".Japanese Wisdom for Midlife Men: Shibui (Elegant Simplicity)Manzoku (Deep Satisfaction): Why chasing "happiness" is a young man's game, and why "satisfaction" is the superior goal for men in their 40s and 50s. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Reflections on my conversation with Dr Andy Tay: How To Reduce Cancer Risk
Did you know 70% of cancer risk is linked to lifestyle, not just genetics? In this reflection episode, host Pod O'Sullivan breaks down his biggest takeaways from his conversation with Dr. Andy Tay on cancer prevention, immunotherapy, and the science of healthy aging.We often think of health and longevity as things out of our control, but the data suggests otherwise. Pod shares the critical insights he gained from Andy Tay's experience, from the potential of immunotherapy to the daily habits that actually move the needle. If you're a man in midlife that is shifting focus to staying healthy, this video covers the practical know-how to do so. IN THIS VIDEO:- The 70/30 Rule: Why lifestyle choices matter more than your DNA.- Immunotherapy Explained: The promising future of cancer treatment.- Stress & Health: How managing stress is a physical necessity, not just a mental one.- Actionable Longevity: Simple changes to your diet and routine for long-term well-being. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Cancer Mortality Rates Are Dropping. Here's Why || Dr Andy Tay on Modern Immunotherapy Research
Cancer. The word alone makes many of us shudder. We all know someone who has battled it, perhaps lost to it. Yet here's the paradox that should give us hope: whilst cancer rates are rising as we live longer, mortality rates are falling dramatically.Dr Andy Tay is a Presidential Young Professor at the National University of Singapore, running a laboratory that literally turns our immune cells into warriors against cancer and infectious diseases. In this compelling conversation recorded in Singapore, Andy takes us on a journey from the fundamentals of cancer to the frontiers of treatment.In this episode, we cover:What cancer actually isWhy cancer rates are rising but mortality rates are fallingHow immunotherapy transforms your own immune cells into cancer-fighting machinesThe surprising connection between stress and cancer growth through the nervous systemWhy 70% of cancer risk is lifestyle-associatedHow artificial intelligence is accelerating drug development and personalising treatmentWhy "balance" is the ultimate health strategy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
DLTOMI is a podcast brought to you by Pod O’Sullivan, where he has real and candid conversations with experts, celebrities and ordinary men about navigating midlife. The ups, the downs, the surprises, the opportunities, the secrets and how to do it on your terms, gracefully or even disgracefully!Pod will explore ways to take charge of your health, to divorce well, to reinvigorate your sex life, to find ways to lift your spirit, to join new communities, to make sure you have enough money for retirement, to laugh, to cry if needed, to change perspectives, and most importantly, to ensure your second act is even better than the first.Pod O’Sullivan has been fascinated with transitions and
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