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Is It Me?
by Linda Barnes
The first of a series aiming to demystify the subject of Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissistic abuse, giving insight from the victim/survivor/thriver perspective, based upon some of the most commonly asked questions posed in best selling Author, Debbie Mirza's international support group, Healing After Experiencing Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissism.The Group Admin, Linda Barnes, herself a survivor of long-term CPAN abuse, is interviewed by the series host, Linda Jones.
Episodes
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How Can I Help/Support a Victim of CPAN Abuse?
Victims and Survivors of CPAN Abuse struggle to find support and be understood. Members of our support group have been seeking information they can share with loved ones who want to help, but who have little to no real understanding of the issues faced. Here, we have produced a podcast that...
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The Chaos and Devastation Following The Death of A CPAN
The ripple effect of the negativity, chaos and confusion in the aftermath of a CPAN's death is further discussed in the third part of the mini-series focussing on issues from the diagnosis of a serious illness, through to death and beyond. The actions, control and manipulations of an emotionally...
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The Terminal Illness and Death of A CPAN
Part 2 of our mini-series dealing with a CPAN falling seriously ill, through to death and beyond. How manipulation and control can take shape and continue throughout this time, together with the impact on the already bereaved in terms of endless dilemmas, extremely damaging false narratives and...
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When A CPAN Falls Seriously Ill
One of the most difficult situations we will ever face is dealing with a situation where the CPAN becomes seriously/terminally ill, particularly when this involves an elderly relative or intimate partner that we may be considering leaving, or even have already left. The first in a 3 part series...
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CPAN Red Flag Warnings-What You Really Need To Know!
Red Flag warnings that might indicate narcissistic or CPAN behaviour can very easily become an obsession when we're trying to protect ourselves from future abusive relationships. We can worry that we either can't ever see those red flags OR we see them everywhere, neither of which is helpful when...
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Important Considerations When Planning To Leave A CPAN Relationship
Leaving any relationship with a person with narcissistic traits is never easy, and is like no other. We find any meaningful communication with them almost impossible and often begin to truly realise for the first time just how disagreeable, obstructive and unreasonable they are. All previous…
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Early Warning Signs of Narcissistic Collapse/Decompensation
Essential Insight into the possible extent of a negative reaction to loss of supply and control by a CPAN. Just how far can it go? What is Narcissistic Collapse/Decompensation? How do we identify it? Early red flag indicators of potential collapses/decompensation that you may already be seeing…
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Why Are CPANs So Disagreeable & Sometimes Vindictive?!
Why are CPANs so difficult to deal with in day to day life? Why do they react so badly to seemingly very little? My CPAN is always 'offended'...why? Once a relationship is coming to an end, why are some so focussed on causing upset, grief and pain? Why must they always feel they need to be seen…
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What's Love Got To Do With It? (In a CPAN relationship)
One of the most difficult and most heart-breaking questions we are left with at the end of a relationship with a CPAN is, 'Did they ever really love me?' Here we discuss some of the issues affecting us, and the problems we have in finding appropriate resources and information that might help shed...
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Signs of a CPAN's False Narrative at Play
How do CPAN's create and maintain their False Narratives? What factors need to be considered by them when selecting potential Flying Monkeys? What makes Flying Monkeys become actively involved against you on behalf of the CPAN? What are some of the biggest tell-tale signs to look out for that…
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Leaving a CPAN-What Can I Expect From Them?
Have you left the CPAN in your life and are now finding them impossible to deal with? Is the most simple of tasks impossible to achieve with them? Are you wondering why it's all so difficult and how to best deal with seemingly endless delays and unnecessary frustrations? Here, Linda discusses how...
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Through Hell to Healing - A Message of Hope
In a departure from the usual format, Linda shares some of her own story as she marks 10 years of her own healing and recovery journey. Revealing several of her most challenging and darkest moments, she describes how even through the most difficult and seemingly hopeless moments, changes and...
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Closure in a CPAN relationship
One of the biggest single issues that serve to prevent people moving on is the absence of closure from a CPAN. We discuss here what closure might look like for us, AND how the CPAN might view it! Are CPANs capable of ever providing closure? Do they intentionally withhold closure...if so, why? Can...
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Couples Therapy With A CPAN. Does it Ever Work?
My partner is suddenly wanting me to attend couples counselling after years of dismissing our problems. Are they even a narcissist? They say therapy never works for narcissists, why not? If they're now so determined to try, surely it must be worth a try? Why did I come away from Couples…
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Dealing with the Holidays
Why the Holiday Season is so difficult for victims/survivors of CPAN abuse The issues around deciding what to do over the Holiday season Should I stay or should I go? Survival strategies Turning a potentially negative situation to our advantage going forward
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The Trouble with Forgiveness
Are you confused about forgiveness? Should we always be able to forgive? Forgiveness and unconditional love? Do your friends and relatives say you're only harming yourself by not forgiving? Do memes about forgiveness and bitterness/resentment etc make you doubt yourself? How does forgiveness fit…
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Giving No Contact The Best Chance Of Success
What does 'no contact' really mean? Why do we need to do it? The need to understand ourselves, the consequences, and the reasons No Contact is so necessary Being 'No Contact' ready. Making sure we have prepared ourselves sufficiently. Putting plans and safeguards in place beforehand. No Contact…
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Thinking, Overthinking & Rumination
Do you find yourself consumed by your thinking? Are you accused or overthinking or over analysing petty situations? Do you second guess your decisions and doubt your reactions and interpretations of situations? Can you never resolve situations of importance to you, or even be heard when trying to...
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The Two Magic Words To Transformation
Do you find yourself presented with endless conundrums and dilemmas? Despite always trying to 'do the right thing,' are you always criticised & deemed to be wrong, flawed or somehow misguided no matter how hard you try? Do you ruminate for hours going round in circles, ultimately unable to settle...
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The Importance of The Narrative
How is it that the CPAN's false narrative is so convincing? How can people who know me believe such a false narrative? How long will it take to Heal? Why do I go with their reality rather than my own? Personal revelations and realisations by the Creator during a long-term healing and recovery...
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Boundaries - A Deep Dive
Boundaries are so often taken for granted. Most people after all assume that they have good boundaries in place, and yet so many of us through messages and teachings as we develop, unknowingly carry a skewed and 'imprinted' idea of our own self-worth and sense of 'self' that fundamentally...
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'I see them everywhere!'
A discussion around our identifying Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissists (CPANs), and how we so often come to a realisation that there are so many people in our lives that display those traits beyond the initial relationship that brought it to our attention. How we deal with the destabilising...
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Subtle Signs of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
A series of podcasts discussing issues raised in Debbie mirza's support group, Healing After Experiencing Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissism. Discussing some early potential indicators of narcissistic behaviour including issues around privacy, boundaries, control and manipulation, treating…
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Future Faking & Toxic Hope
Continuing the 'Is It Me?' Podcast Series, we discuss another popular issue raised within Debbie Mirza's Support Group, Healing After Experiencing Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissism, with the Group's Administrator, Linda Barnes. Future Faking and Toxic Hope are the main topics. Explaining how…
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The Smear Campaign & Flying Monkeys
A discussion around the Smear Campaign and how and why it comes about, together with Flying Monkeys and the role(s) they play. Impacting on all relationship types, Family of Origin, friendships, in the workplace and, of course, Intimate Relationships, these situations can be incredibly damaging…
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Cognitive Dissonance and The Trauma Bond-Part Two
The second part of a two part podcast discussing the issues victims and survivors experience around both Cognitive Dissonance and the Trauma Bond, This part focusses more on the trauma bond and how so many of the issues around our abuse are linked
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Cognitive Dissonance and The Trauma Bond-Part One
Podcast 3 in the 'Is It Me?' Podcast series is a two-part episode in which we take a deeper look into the issues experienced from the victim/survivor's perspective after experiencing Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissistic Abuse, taken from frequently asked questions from Debbie Mirza's online...
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The Healing Journey-Avoiding the Pitfalls
Discovering that you have been in a Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissistic abusive relationship of any kind is something that undermines a person's very understanding of who they themselves are and, their own perceptions and worldview. It makes people question everything about their lives up to...
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Is It Me?
Sharing advice, support and explanations in respect of Narcissistic abuse, in particular, Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissistic abuse to bring clarity to victims, survivors and the Professions who really need to know how to navigate their way through the recovery process through better knowledge...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
The first of a series aiming to demystify the subject of Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissistic abuse, giving insight from the victim/survivor/thriver perspective, based upon some of the most commonly asked questions posed in best selling Author, Debbie Mirza's international support group, Healing After Experiencing Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissism.The Group Admin, Linda Barnes, herself a survivor of long-term CPAN abuse, is interviewed by the series host, Linda Jones.
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The first of a series aiming to demystify the subject of Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissistic abuse, giving insight from the victim/survivor/thriver perspective, based upon some of the most commonly asked questions posed in best selling Author, Debbie Mirza's international support group, Healing...
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