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it's not just you
by Soph and Rach
join us for honest conversation as we address ‘the things everyone feels but no one really speaks about’. we’re soph and rach, two girls who met at uni six years ago and have been inseparable ever since. whether it’s navigating your 20s, embracing the single life or having tricky conversations with friends, we’ve probably chatted about it and we want to bring YOU in on our chats. sometimes you need to know it’s not just you! potentially *too much* vulnerability and plenty of lols also included. get an extra episode a week here: patreon.com/itsnotjustyoupodcast
Episodes
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what if we're toxic friends?
are we all secretly mean girls?! 👀 gossip happens ALL the time but when does a bit of tea turn into something more harmful? this week, we're asking ourselves some uncomfortable questions about why we gossip, what it says about us, and whether we actually have anything to talk about besides other...
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what if i'm not loving freshers?
everyone tells you freshers is going to be the best time ever, but no one really talks about what happens when it isn’t 🥺 today we’re chatting friendships, nights out, homesickness, feeling like everyone else has found their people and everything we wish we’d known before starting uni.…
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'she's my bestie but i'm not hers'
have you ever realised that someone is your best friend… but you’re not theirs? maybe you’re always the one reaching out, you feel like you’re putting more into the friendship, or you’ve realised they have someone else they’d choose first. and even if no one has done anything wrong, it can still...
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why guy friends get complicated when you're single
can guys and girls really just be friends? this week we're talking about the messy grey areas of male-female friendships. how do you have healthy boundaries? when is a friendship is getting a little too close? what about navigating guy friendships when you’re in a relationship?! you asked, so we...
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stop waiting for your life to begin
it can be so easy to feel like we’re waiting for the next thing to happen before life can really begin. a relationship, a career takeoff, a friendship group, a house BUT what if the life you’ve longed for is actually hidden in the life you have?! today we're talking about how to be content. rach...
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what no one tells you about your first relationship
all the things we wish we'd known before getting into your first relationship 😳 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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is catch-up culture killing our friendships?
friendship in your 20s can feel exhausting. your time is stretched, everyone's busy and having an hour coffee catch-up with a friend can actually just end up feeling draining. how do we do friendship well when we're no longer at school or uni living in proximity to our friends?! how do we balance...
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how will i know when i'm ACTUALLY in love?
how do you actually know when you’re in love? is it butterflies, peace, missing them when they’re gone, sparks flying? this week, we’re asking one of the biggest questions of life: what does it feel like when you've ACTUALLY met the one 🤷♀️ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...
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if you're noticing THIS in your friendship... don't ignore it
you know when your friend says “no it’s fine” but you know it’s absolutely not fine lol. this week we’re chatting all things passive aggression in friendship. from the subtle digs to saying nothing when you’re actually very annoyed — why do we do it, and what’s the healthier way to handle…
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i keep clashing with my best mate
what do you do when you're type a, and your best mate is type b and you see the world SO differently!? worry not, we're here to say it's not just you! 'why are they always late?' , 'why are they so stressy?'... it can be so easy to get frustrated with our friends! here's what we've learnt over…
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things every girl can relate to on their period
oh the life of a woman! having a period is a privilege (and not something we take for granted) but it can also be LONG. today we're discussing the highs & lows of our cycles in the hope of providing some *relatable content* for the girlies. disclaimer: this is NOT a scientific unpacking, just two...
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if you're single look out for these green flags
get your flags out ladies – this weeks pod is a bit of fun for us all. we’re running through your biggest green flags in a guy to see which ones get the 'it's not just you' stamp of approval. from the sweet and thoughtful to the slightly rogue... we're sharing our opinions, debating your...
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'i really struggle with body confidence in summer'
summer is to be ENJOYED..not to be spent worrying about the way our bodies look in swimwear! how can we be confident queens on holiday? why is life about so much more than our cellulite or rolls!? confidence is a journey, but today we want to encourage you to stop analysing photos of yourself and...
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if you're a single girl in your late 20s, this episode is for you
if you're single and wondering, "how do I actually meet someone?" this one's for you. we're chatting honestly about dating, meeting people in real life and how that can feel really hard after a long time of doing life on your own. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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i have no idea what i wanna do when i graduate
if you've ever felt like you have no idea what you're doing with your life then we're here to say: it's not just you! in this episode we reminisce on that weird time post-uni where you have to work out who you are, a career to pursue, whether to take a break from studies or do a gap year! how do...
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'i want more money'
today we're talking money, money, money. we've never actually spoken about this topic on the pod before! what do we do when finances our consuming our minds!? how we can be satisfied with what we have and not always be striving for more? we're no experts so have grace as we share some thoughts!...
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help! he's living in my head rent free
if you’re struggling to work out whether the guy you like is actually giving you vibes back (whilst he’s living in your head rent-free) then this is the episode for you. we know this feeling all too well. but today, we’re also here to bring a little reality check: it's hard but maybe he’s just…
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my insecurity is killing my friendships
todays episode is a vulnerable one as we chat about how our insecurity could be sabotaging and costing us our friendships without even knowing it. we discuss the hidden ways that comparison, insecure thinking and self doubt can create tension and distance with the ones we love most 💔 just to say...
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why does being a good friend feel like a full time job
we all say we want community. we want deep friendships and people who show up for us. but what happens when those same friendships start asking more of us than feels comfortable? in this episode we’re talking about the inconvenience of community. why do our friends' needs sometimes feel...
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i'm too busy for a relationship
can someone please explain how we're supposed to work a 9-5, exercise, see friends & fam, sleep well AND find quality time to spend with our boyfs??? today we're talking about our relationships and the battle for quality time. what does it look like to prioritise your partner when there's so many...
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should i argue with my bf in front of my friends?
it's not just you who feels like interacting with your partner in front of other people isn't talked about enough! are we gonna be affectionate? are we gonna argue when we're with our mates? what are we gonna do if one of us says something the other completely disagrees with!? 👀 it can sometimes...
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the full wedding debrief (rach is now a wifey) !!!
guys rach is now officially a wifey!!! 💍✨ so of course we’ve gotta debrief the wedding day with you!! in this episode we answer all your wedding-related- from how it felt walking down the aisle, to how it feels to be a wife, to what rach would do differently about the day, to trying to save…
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thoughts every single girl in her late 20's has had
“i’m not attractive enough”, “maybe my standards are too high”, “what if i’ve missed my chance to meet someone?”. if you’re a single girl in your late 20s, chances are you’ve had at least one of these thoughts before – because we definitely have too. in this episode, we’re having an honest...
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i'm attracted to him but he's not my type
girlssss, grab a cuppa and a sweet treat, this weeks pod episode is a juicy one. today we’re asking the question...should you date someone who’s not your type? can chemistry grow? is having a “type on paper” actually holding us back from potential romantic prospects? join us for honest chats and...
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why does maintaining my adult friendships feel so hard?
in this episode we reminisce on the 'good old days' and reflect about how friendships (and specifically friendship groups) change so much as life moves forward and the responsibilities of adult life take over. how do you 'do life' with your friends when you're in a 9-5 or when different groups…
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how to have the best hen do
it's time for a big fat hen do debrief!!! in this episode we're telling you everything that happened at rach's hen. how did soph pull the weekend together?! what did we get up to? what are our biggest hen do top tips?! listen along for all the girly vibes as we prepare to get our rach married!...
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will i ever get married?
if you're in your 20s and surrounded by friends in long-term relationships or getting married, this episode is for you. we’re talking about the rollercoaster of emotions this comes with: joy, comparison, pressure. what do you do when you feel out of sync with the people around you? if you’ve ever...
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i don't know how to comfort my friends
comforting a friend isn’t always easy, rightttt! so in this weeks episode, we dive into what it really means to show up for the people we care about.we talk about being the kind of friend who stays through the highs and the lows – being the one who listens without trying to fix everything, who…
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getting into a relationship after being single for so long
getting into your first relationship after being single for so long can feel exciting.. & also a little overwhelming at times! in this episode we talk about going from being single to in a relationship and everything that comes with that change. how do you let someone love you when you're used to...
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i wish i could tell my younger self this
today we’re getting nostalgic thinking back to our younger years and the things we wish we had known sooner! we’re chatting about everything - from the deep, to the light hearted life lessons we wish we had a big sis to guide us through. what would you back and tell your younger self!? Hosted on...
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i'm in my twenties and i'm worried my friendships aren't going to last
it's not just you that wants to have friendships that go the distance. but lets be real guys, sometimes friendships can be haaaaard work 😅 but they are so so worth it, right 🥹 so how do we have friendships that withstand the test of time? the ups and downs, the awkward miscommunications and...
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i've been rejected and i feel awful about it
rejection hurts. whether it’s the guy you like, the dream job you hoped for, or friends leaving you out, hearing 'I don’t want you' can sting. in this episode, we talk about how to face rejection without spiralling. how do we process it in a healthy way and move forward with confidence? rejection...
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life's too short to not take risks
at the start of 2026 we took a HUGE risk and quit our 9-5 jobs to pursue this podcast, eeeeek! it's been a wild journey so far & today we're asking YOU: what are the little thoughts, passions or ‘what ifs’ lingering in the back of your head? maybe you want to learn to dance, to run a race, to…
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how do i learn to like my unedited appearance?
is natural beauty even natural anymore? in this episode, we’re talking about the way subtle 'micro' treatments, invisible filler, and “undetectable” tweaks have created a beauty standard that just feels unattainable. if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and wondered why you don’t look as…
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am i where i should be at 27?
we have a birthday to celebrate. yes our very own soph has turned 27!!! in this week’s episode, we have an honest, unfiltered chat about how soph is really feeling as she approaches her late 20's. the excitement, the pressure, the comparison, the quiet “am i behind?” thoughts that seem to get...
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how do i know if he's the one?
how do you know that the person you're with is the right person for you?! today we're hearing rach's story: how did she know she her fiancé was 'the one'? is there even such thing as 'the one'?! we're getting real and questioning whether 'romanticised' ways of thinking are always helpful or not....
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our unfiltered opinions on going to the gym
let’s be honest, social media can often give us unrealistic expectations of what going to the gym looks like. from influencer lies, gym anxiety and the pressure to look like you know exactly what you’re doing, we’re sharing our completely unfiltered opinions on gym culture. if you’ve ever felt...
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how to survive a medium-distance relationship
as you may know, soph just got into her first relationship at 26..and her and her boyfriend live in different cities. so come along for the ride as we chat about the realities of medium-distance dating: the hard bits, and the unexpected positives. because honestly… it’s not all bad. welcome to...
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would you rather: best friend edition
to wrap up season 4 we play a good old game of 'would you rather'. we chat about having access to each other's camera rolls or messages, boyfriends who are bad at gifts or bad at compliments, turning up overdressed or underdressed for an event and more. stay tuned for a *big life update* at the…
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getting into my first relationship at 26 years old
yep. you read correctly. our very own soph is no longer a single queen!!!! 26 and getting into a relationship for the FIRST time. HOW did this happen?!? what's it like to start dating when you're 26?! listen a long for a good old story time! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more...
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the truth about university freshers
we relay our university fresher experiences: the good, the bad and the ugly. freshers gets hyped up a lot, but the reality doesn’t always match the expectations. for some, it’s the best week ever, for others it’s not so much. whatever your university experience, we're here to remind you: it's not...
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living through non-stop change in my 20s
at the ripe old age of 26 we feel like we’ve learnt a couple of things about being in your twenties. does the change ever stop? what do you when new opportunities come your way but you still feel like you’re 15 years old? how are you supposed to juggle staying fit, having a social life…
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rach is engaged !!!
she’s a fianceeeeee !!!!! guys, todays ep is a little bit of a different one because our very own rach is gonna be a wife 🤯 we’re giving you a full debrief on the whole engagement story, start to finish - from both perspectives! so buckle up, get comfy, grab a cup of tea and lock in for the next...
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my best mates started dating each other
it's always weird when two of your friends decide they suddenly fancy each other. one day you're a trio, the next you're a third wheel & in this episode we discuss the shift that happens when your friends start dating each other. what do you do when you miss how things used to be? how do you deal...
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i’m single and all my friends are getting engaged
whether you're single or dating, people getting engaged can bring up weird feelings. sometimes jealousy, sometimes sadness at the idea of change, sometimes annoyance that you weren't involved in the proposal! feeling these things is pretty normal, it's how you push through these feelings and show...
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no one told us we'd miss uni this much
there was a time when your best mates lived five steps away, plans were made in the kitchen at 11pm, and your wardrobe was basically communal. now... everyone’s busy, plans need two weeks’ notice, and borrowing a top isn’t just casual anymore – it actually requires asking. in this episode, we’re...
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would you do these things with your best mate?
it’s time to chat about amber flags in friendships. would you share your mates toothbrush? pants? hold their hand? is having your friends on ‘find my friends’ normal or weird? this episode is a laugh as we contemplate the things people do with their friends that either feel normal or slightly...
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i'm 26 and i've never had a boyfriend
we're back with a fan favourite, a follow up from an old episode 'i'm 24 and I've never had a boyfriend' – two years later and she's still living the single life 🤯 soph discusses why she's never been in a relationship and we conclude it's really not that strange. it's not just you who's wondered...
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i can't stop comparing myself to my best friend
we know comparison is the thief of joy but what happens when you can’t stop comparing yourself to your best friend? in this episode soph opens up about a difficult season of our friendship where she felt like every aspect of her life was falling short next to rach’s. from relationships, to...
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i have big dreams and i feel stuck
ever struggled to feel content in the season you’re in? or felt like you have big dreams but have no idea how to pursue them? you’re not alone! today we’re joined by our visionary of a friend, connie. she shares her story, including the way she went from being made redundant to moving to london…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
join us for honest conversation as we address ‘the things everyone feels but no one really speaks about’. we’re soph and rach, two girls who met at uni six years ago and have been inseparable ever since. whether it’s navigating your 20s, embracing the single life or having tricky conversations with friends, we’ve probably chatted about it and we want to bring YOU in on our chats. sometimes you need to know it’s not just you! potentially *too much* vulnerability and plenty of lols also included. get an extra episode a week here: patreon.com/itsnotjustyoupodcast
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