Perspective Perry

We’re often told to trust our gut, listen to our heart or follow what feels right.But what happens when you do that and it doesn’t turn out like you’d hoped?In this episode I reflect on decision making, intuition, relationships, timing, and why some choices can feel wrong in the short term but meaningful later on. We don’t have to have perfect instincts. All we can do is the best we can with the information we have at the time, and learn how to go easier on ourselves when things don’t unfold as expected.If you’ve ever made a decision that didn’t immediately feel like the right one, hopefully this helps put some perspective around that.If you’re in the UK and could benefit from a safe place to talk, Andy’s Man Club offers free confidential peer support every Monday evening across the country.AndysManClub.co.uk

The world used to feel more colourful, didn't it? Not just in films, but actual everyday life...In this video I explore that feeling through nostalgia, physical media, 80s and 90s aesthetics, the power of optimism and the strange sense that modern life has become more clinical, corporate and monochrome than we'd like. Then watch as I geek out over one of my favourite hobbies, LaserDisc - a physical format that still feels like a direct time capsule from a more radical era.This one's about noticing what feels like it's missing in the modern world, then finding practical ways to bring a little more colour back into our lives.If you're into physical media, movie collecting, LaserDisc, VHS, DVD or Blu ray, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.And if you're in the UK and want a free place to talk, Andy’s Man Club offers confidential peer support every Monday evening across the country at 7pm. Visit the website now to find your nearest venueAndysManClub.co.uk

At the start of a new year many of us are trying something new. A new job, a new skill, a new habit or a new direction entirely.What we don’t often talk about is how common setbacks can be when we do that. How easy it is to feel like we’ve failed when something doesn’t go to plan, even when we’re genuinely trying our best. But that might do us better than never stumbling at all...In this episode I reflect on the idea of fixed and growth mindsets, the value of learning through difficulty and why setbacks are not always the negative signs we automatically think they are. Sometimes they’re the exact thing that helps us move further forward than early success ever could.If you’re working towards something that matters to you and it hasn’t gone smoothly so far, hopefully this helps put some things into perspective.If you’re in the UK and could benefit from a safe place to talk, Andy’s Man Club offers free confidential peer support every Monday evening across the country.AndysManClub.co.uk

Today we're revisiting the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, and focusing on anxious attachment and why it can feel like panic when you really like someone.We'll briefly recap those three attachment styles, then talk through what Anxious Attachment can look like, and the positive, helpful things can actually help it.

January can feel heavy, even when everything looks fine from the outside.In this video I talk about checking in with friends and family in a way that goes beyond the automatic “Yeah, I’m fine” exchange. Not to fix anyone, and not to turn it into therapy, just to remind the people we see them, we care about them and they’re not on their own.This is about listening and presence, not having the right answers.I'm also sharing a simple, powerful message you can send that might kick-restart a stalled friendship that's been on your mind, without any drama, blame, or awkwardness.If you’re in the UK and you could use a safe space to talk, Andy’s Man Club offers free peer-support every Monday at 7pm (except Bank Holidays).Visit their website to see where your local group meets up:AndysManClub.co.uk

This episode wasn’t planned.I sat down to record something else, then something else again, and neither felt right. So instead, I decided to talk honestly about what I’ve actually been doing lately and why.Over the past couple of weeks I’ve been keeping a simple gratitude journal. Nothing strict. Nothing structured, no targets, no optimisation. Just writing down ten things each day that I’m grateful for and noticing what that does to my headspace.This isn’t advice and it isn’t a system. It’s just a reflection on a small habit that’s been quietly helping me feel more grounded at the start of a new year, especially after that exhausting December we all made it through.If you’re feeling flat, overwhelmed or a little unsteady right now, this episode might resonate.Also, if you’re in the UK and could use a place to talk, Andy’s Man Club offers free, confidential peer support every Monday evening across the country at 7pm (except Bank Holidays). You can find your nearest group at AndysManClub.co.uk

A reflective look at a small but often overlooked social signal that can quietly shape the conversations we have with the people we might randomly meet.This isn’t about tactics, it's not about flirting techniques or reading people like puzzles. It’s about awareness, presence and noticing moments of genuine connection as they unfold.If social situations sometimes leave you second-guessing yourself, or you tend to miss subtle signs because you’re already pulling away, this episode explores that space gently and without any judgement.

A gentle check-in for anyone finding the festive season heavier than expected.Here's a short, calm message about pressure, expectations, comparison and the quiet strain that can easily build at this time of year, no matter how patient we are. Not everyone feels joyful, social or celebratory in December, and there's nothing wrong with that.If you’re navigating family dynamics, loneliness, exhaustion or the sense that you should be feeling something you’re not, this episode offers a bit of breathing room and permission to go easy on yourself.

A quiet reflection on The Secret Life of Walter Mitty and why it resonates so deeply with people who feel restless, stuck, or quietly hungry for something more in life.We're not talking reckless escape or abandoning responsibility. Just about the pull toward aliveness, curiosity and the feeling that life might be happening just beyond the edges of routine.If you’ve ever felt torn between comfort and possibility, or wondered why certain films give you that feeling to get up, get out and make a change in the routine, this episode is a chance for us to sit and explore some of thoughts together.

A reflective dive into the opening pages of the bestseller 'Attached', exploring anxious, avoidant and secure attachment styles, how modern dating can overwhelm our natural instincts and how even the healthiest forms of independence can sometimes become an invisible shield that blocks the connection we might be looking for.If you've ever noticed yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships, or why closeness can still feel strangely difficult even with the right person, this episode's for you.And if you're a man in the UK, a zero-pressure, zero-judgement, zero-cost space to talk is available near you every Monday night at 7pm (except Bank Holidays)Visit AndysManClub.co.uk to find your nearest group.Book'Attached' by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Learning to start again after a humbling setback brings a strange mix of fear and pride. Sometimes we step away from a passion because something shakes our confidence. Other times life simply gets in the way.This is a story about the long road back to something I loved and the hard fall that forced me to rethink what endurance really feels like.What's something you have thought about returning to?Maybe something you once loved or something that you lost touch with after a rough experience.Whatever it is I hope this story gives you a little comfort and encouragement for the week ahead.

Whether you're single, coupled up or married, this is usually the time of year when we can all get a bit reflective about the patterns we have with our partners, or the relationships we maybe wish we had. This is a quick look about a book that helped me to understand my own attachment patterns in all kinds of relationships, and why certain connections in life ultimately felt the way they did. I'm not a coach or an expert, but this book comes up so often in conversations that I wanted to share a few thoughts about something that genuinely helped me during some difficult chapters. And if it helps someone else today, it was worth a few minutes of filming.'Attached' by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.