Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves
by Lisa Tarves
Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind is where you come when your brain won’t stop. Hosted by Lisa Tarves, this podcast blends real-life conversations, emotional insight, and a touch of humor to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. From overthinking and anxiety to relationships and self-doubt, each episode is honest, relatable, and grounding. Some will make you laugh, some will go deeper—but all are here to remind you you’re not alone.
Episodes
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When Grief Feels Too Heavy | 10 Minutes of Real Talk
Coping with grief can make even an ordinary day feel heavy. Sometimes, finding strength means taking life one breath at a time. In this week’s 10 Minutes of Real Talk, I’m sharing an excerpt from my Sunday conversation with author and podcast host Jodie Howard about grief, difficult seasons, and...
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When Life Isn’t What You Expected | Real Talk with Jodie Howard S2E23
What happens when life doesn’t turn out the way you imagined? How do we navigate unexpected changes, relationships, challenges, and all those moments that make us question where we’re headed? In this special episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves welcomes her very first…
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My Mind Says Yes, My Body Says Nope! Adapting as We Age
Your mind has plans. Your body would like a word. 😂 Getting older can catch us off guard—especially when we still feel like the same person inside. Suddenly, something we’ve always done without thinking requires a little more care, a different approach, or some help. In this episode of 10…
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I’m Not as Young as I Used to Be: Learning to Adapt and Stay Safe as We Age
Do you still feel young inside, even when your body reminds you that things have changed? In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores what it feels like to realize, “I’m not as young as I used to be”—and how we can adapt, stay safe, and keep enjoying our lives....
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10 Minutes of Real Talk - Do You Still Know Me?
A little perspective can change the way you carry your day. Join author and host Lisa Tarves for 10 Minutes of Real Talk—honest conversations about overthinking, relationships, self-worth, grief, and the changes life brings. Each episode offers relatable reflections and practical encouragement to...
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I’ve Changed… Can Our Relationship Change With Me?
You still love them—but you don’t want all the same things anymore. Does that mean you’re growing apart, or is it time for your relationship to grow with you? Tonight on Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores what happens when one partner wants more connection, adventure, or...
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You’ve Been Everything to Everyone… But Who Are YOU Now?
If nobody needed anything from you for the next two hours, would you know what you wanted to do? When you’ve spent years taking care of everyone else, that question can be surprisingly difficult to answer. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, I’m talking about finding yourself...
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When You Can’t Tell Your Partner How You Really Feel
Do you rehearse conversations in your head, then stay quiet because you’re afraid of your partner’s reaction? Lisa Tarves explores why speaking up can feel so difficult, how to express your needs and set boundaries, and why your emotional and physical safety must come first. Real Talk for Your...
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Feeling Invisible as You Get Older? You Still Matter
Do you ever feel like the older you get, the less people see you? Like everyone still needs something from you—but fewer people stop to ask how you’re doing? In Season 2, Episode 18 of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves opens up a conversation about aging, feeling overlooked, and...
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Is Comfortable Love Enough? How Relationships Change as We Get Older
Can love be comfortable and still feel fulfilling? As we get older, relationships change. The excitement may look different, routines settle in, and sometimes we wonder whether what we have is enough. In Season 2, Episode 17 of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves opens up a...
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Why Every Fight Feels Like the End: Anxiety, Conflict, and Overthinking
One disagreement, and suddenly your mind is asking: Is this the fight that ends everything? In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about why relationship conflict can feel so frightening, especially when anxiety turns a tense conversation into a prediction…
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When Do You Keep Trying and When Do You Walk Away
When do you keep trying, and when is it time to walk away? In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about one of the hardest questions we face in relationships, goals, friendships, family situations, and even seasons of life. How do you know whether you are…
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Fighting Fair: How to Argue Without Destroying the Relationship | Real Talk S2E14
Conflict is part of every real relationship, but the way we fight can either bring us closer or slowly tear things apart. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about what it really means to “fight fair”: how to disagree without attacking, how to speak honestly...
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Grieving Your Younger Self: The Grief We Don’t Talk About as We Get Older | S2E13
Have you ever looked back at your younger self and felt a kind of grief you couldn’t quite name? We often associate grief with losing someone we love. But as we get older, we may also grieve who we once were—the energy we had, the possibilities ahead of us, our younger bodies, our innocence, lost...
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Why Your Brain Won’t Let That Conversation Go - S2E12
In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves breaks down the real reasons we replay conversations over and over — including anxiety, uncertainty, embarrassment, fear of rejection, and the brain’s need to make sense of what happened. We’ll also talk about practical ways to...
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Are You Anxiously Attached — Or Just With the Wrong Person?
What if they leave? For someone with anxious attachment, that question can become the background noise of an entire relationship. You notice changes in their tone. You reread texts. You worry when they need space. You wonder whether you said too much, needed too much, asked for too much—or…
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Are You Functioning on the Outside, but Anxious on the Inside?
Do you look calm, capable, and successful on the outside while feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or exhausted on the inside? High-functioning anxiety often hides behind productivity, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the constant pressure to keep going. Others may see confidence, but they don’t see...
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Who Takes Care of the Strong One? When Everyone Depends on You
You’re the one everyone calls. When there’s a crisis, a problem, a family conflict, or someone who needs support, you’re the person who steps in. You hold everything together, keep everyone calm, find the answers, and make sure everyone else is okay. But who takes care of you? In this episode of...
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Angel Numbers - Why They Keep Appearing...and What They May Be Trying to Tell You
Tonight’s episode is a deeply personal conversation about angel numbers—why they seem to appear at exactly the right moments, what they may be trying to tell us, and why certain number patterns can feel impossible to ignore. I also share a few personal stories from my own life and explain why I…
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Gaslighting: How It Happens, Why It Works, and How to Stop It | Real Talk with Lisa Tarves
Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering if you’re the problem… even though you were sure of what happened just moments before? That’s how gaslighting works. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explains what gaslighting really is, why it can be so...
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🚩 Why We Ignore Red Flags in Relationships - S2E5
Have you ever ignored a red flag because you wanted the relationship to work? Not because you didn’t see it—but because you hoped things would change. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, I explore why intelligent, caring people sometimes overlook warning signs, how hope can...
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There’s Love in Letting Go | Why Some Goodbyes Are the Greatest Act of Love
Sometimes the greatest act of love isn’t holding on—it’s having the courage to let go. In this heartfelt episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores one of life’s most difficult emotional experiences: letting go. Whether you’re grieving someone who has died, healing…
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Why Do Narcissists Ignore You but Charm Everyone Else? | Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind
Have you ever gone out with your spouse, partner, friend, or family member and watched them become the life of the party—laughing, smiling, telling stories, making everyone else feel important—while acting as if you weren’t even there? It’s one of the most confusing and painful experiences for...
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What If You're Not Burned Out. What If You've Just Been Strong For Too Long
Have you ever looked around and thought, "Why am I so exhausted? I haven't done anything different." Maybe you tell yourself you're just burned out. But what if that's not the whole story? What if you've simply been the strong one for too long? In this episode, we're talking about the emotional...
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Your Life Looks Fine...So Why Aren't You Happy S2E1
Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves Life can be complicated, overwhelming, and sometimes downright exhausting. If you spend too much time in your head, carry the weight of being the strong one, struggle with anxiety, grief, self-doubt, or simply wonder why life feels so hard...
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THE GRIEF NOBODY RECOGNIZES - The Loss That Comes With Aging
Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt a strange sense of loss—not because of vanity, but because life is changing? Aging brings wisdom, experience, and perspective. But it can also bring grief. Not the kind of grief we usually talk about, but the quiet grief of realizing time has passed.…
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REAL TALK for Your Overthinking Mind, with Lisa Tarves. #10 - My First Live Experience
REAL TALK for Your Overthinking Mind Podcast #10 I Thought More People Would Show Up… | My First Live Experience - (BACKSTAGE BEFORE AND AFTER INCLUDED!!!) Tonight I’m talking honestly about doing my very first live… and the overthinking spiral that came afterward. I went into it excited…
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“The Loneliness Nobody Talks About | Feeling Alone Even When You’re Not Alone | Episode 9”
You can be surrounded by people… and still feel deeply alone. In this episode of "Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, with Lisa Tarves", we talk about the kind of loneliness people rarely explain out loud — emotional loneliness. The kind that happens when you’re needed, depended on, caregiving,...
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Aging, Memory....Wait...What Were We Talking About
Have you ever walked into a room and completely forgotten why you’re there? Forgotten someone’s name two seconds after hearing it? Started telling a story and somehow ended up talking about soup? Same. In this episode, we’re talking about getting older, memory changes, brain overload, mental...
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Mother’s Day Isn’t Easy for Everyone
Mother’s Day can bring up a lot more than love and celebration. For some people, it brings grief. Distance. Guilt. Anger. Loneliness. Pressure. Or the painful reminder of the relationship they wish they had. In this episode, I’m talking honestly about the complicated emotions that can surface...
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Why Do I Feel Drained After Being Around PEOPLE?
Episode 6: Why You Feel Drained After Being Around People Have you ever left a conversation, family gathering, workplace, or even a simple outing feeling completely exhausted… even when nothing “bad” happened? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional, mental, and energetic reasons why...
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Why You Overthink What People Think of You!
If you constantly replay conversations in your head… worry that people are upset with you… or feel exhausted trying to make everyone like you, this episode is for you. In Episode 5 of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about why your brain becomes so focused on other people’s...
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Nothing is Wrong...So Why Can't You Relax
If you’ve ever had a moment where everything is technically fine…but your body still feels tense, restless, or on edge—this episode is for you. In this episode, I’m talking about why you can’t relax even when nothing is actually wrong. This isn’t about you being “too sensitive” or “overthinking…
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Why You Replay Conversations in Your Head
Ever replay a conversation over and over, wondering what you should’ve said or how it came across? You’re not alone. In this episode, I explain why your brain keeps going back to those moments, what it’s actually trying to protect you from, and why it can feel so hard to let it go. When you...
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You’re Not Overthinking — You’re Trying to Feel Safe
If you feel like you’re constantly overthinking everything… there’s a reason for that—and it’s not because something is wrong with you. In this episode, I explain what’s actually happening underneath overthinking, why your mind keeps going even when you want it to stop, and how it’s connected to...
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Why Your Brain Won’t Shut Off at Night (And What’s Really Going On)
If your brain won’t shut off at night and you find yourself replaying everything… you’re not alone. In this episode, I walk you through what’s actually happening when your mind won’t stop, why it tends to hit hardest at night, and why trying to “force” it to stop usually makes it worse. More...
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Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind is where you come when your brain won’t stop. Hosted by Lisa Tarves, this podcast blends real-life conversations, emotional insight, and a touch of humor to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. From overthinking and anxiety to relationships and self-doubt, each episode is honest, relatable, and grounding. Some will make you laugh, some will go deeper—but all are here to remind you you’re not alone.
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